What Happens When You Stop This Toxic Habit? (feat. Nell O'Leary)
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- Опубліковано 25 бер 2024
- Should you spill the tea? Is it really that bad to share a little piece of gossip once in a while?
Today Nell O'Leary, wife and mother, challenges us to look at our lives and see if the toxic behavior and spiritual vice of gossip is overshadowing all the beautiful ways God reveals his love for you.
The taste of gossip or having an inside scoop can be delicious in our mouths, but this behavior is often a secret cry for validation. Whether you’re sharing a grievance or a judgment, passing along someone’s story that isn’t yours to share takes away from the opportunity to share genuinely what God is doing in your own story.
Practicing keeping your heart open to goodness and putting an end to the tendency for negativity makes for a more joyful and fulfilling life.
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Thank you for focusing on gossip as a major vice. Often, within the Christian context, we speak of other sins with some regularity. All the focus is on transgressions like sex outside of marriage, violence, idolatry, malice, selfishness, lacking faith, but little time is spent on a wrongdoing that probably happens far more often than any of these moral failings - our tendency to gossip. I like the way Nell O'Leary explains that our penchant for gossip really does stem from our fear of truly addressing the person behind our grievance. Gossip, in many ways, is a very damaging avoidance strategy.
I relate. I am often too scared to confront others about my grievances. I fear being dismissed or turning it into an argument. Depending on the person you are dealing with, they may dismiss your grievances or start arguing with you to deflect. This is not an excuse to gossip, but perhaps you may have to find a different way to address the issue at hand.
@@IONov990Ditto
I struggle with this and I have been praying about it. This video was sent at the perfect time. I often think “Is this my story to tell?” Some days are easier than others.
A lesson im trying to learn. Im only speaking about myself from now on and not mentioning others unless they are there. Its not normal for me! Im trying.
Thank you for speaking on this topic of gossiping
Such a life ruiner because they build lies and lies after someone like a habit
It's like making a shrine for someone to hate
This made me cry 😢! Touched my heart deeply. Thank you.
Thank you sooo much. I needed this because the struggle is real...
Bullet right between the eyes! This is EXACTLY how I feel, it isn’t about others, it’s about me not feeling enough or seen. Thank you for sharing🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
yep, a major struggle for me, especially gossip at work, thanks for the video
"Our Lord is" Amen
Thanks for being so honest. It can be addictive and self-satisfying to focus on what is wrong with others and the world around us rather than looking at our own transgressions.
How can you tell if you're gossiping or not ? I find it very hard to discern when I've entered the wrong territory vs just sharing something from my own life.
My go-to question is, “Is this my information to share?” If I need to verbally process something with a close friend that involves another person, I REALLY try to be as gracious to the other person involved as I can. And if I catch myself sliding into gossip, I usually ask myself, “Is there something about my reaction to this news that I need to process by myself?” I’m not perfect at it, but Mary’s example helps to remind me of the good of interior silence, keeping all things in my heart (and bringing them to the Lord).
@@kmbehrens14 very grateful 🤍
I ask myself this a lot too! I think for me gossip is anything doesn’t help anyone by sharing or that’s very personal/private to the person. A lot of things you can talk to people and ask advice about you can also just use generic terms like “my friend” or “my coworker.”
yes, i think intention matters. why am i sharing this information and to who? am i being genuine or am i looking for reason to criticize, but most importantly have i brought my concerns up to God? this is of course easier said than done and the line of gossip and genuine information seeking seem to be blurred around topics such as politics and celebrities. the way headlines are formed and knowing that journalist are willing to slander those they disagree with certainly puts us at a sin of occasion if we aren’t careful.
You can search for “Ascension Presents gossip”. They have a few videos on that.
Thank you for your witness. God Bless!
I really appreciate this. I struggle with this as well.
I am Catholic and Love The #13 GOD!
That was a very good testimonial, and very timely. Thank you.
This video was specifically for me 😬 lol
Same here! lol
Love this video. Overall agree, gossip reveals an internal nastiness and should be avoided. But oftentimes I find it very useful to parse out other people’s poor behaviour with others, without being judgemental of the person but of their actions. Sometimes this works by the other person telling me I’m unreasonable and gives me an alternative perspective, or I realise my own contribution to this person’s behaviour, or I can use their behaviour as a teaching point for others and myself of how not to behave.
Thank you, Nell. You really spoke to my heart.
A garden full of basil
Delicacies of loyalty and goodness
Golden birds nest there🥰⚘️✨️💕
Thank you!
Same here because I’m a coward.
WOW! That went straight to where it belongs. Thank you!
Oh wow - this was amazing! Thank you so much.
For me gossip is like caring about the personal life of another person that is like famous but I don't care at all or something between being famous or another person you don't know.
Not politics, history, religion, etc.
Beautiful. What I needed.
WOW!!!!!! Thank you ....
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I really thank you for sharing this 🙏
Thank you 🙏🏻🩵🤍♥️
Beautiful and enlightening. Thank you!!!
Had a colleague keep dragging me into the pit of gossip
In the end had to leave and ignore her to save myself
Then she left the job
She knew what she was doing
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ST. JOHN CHRYSOSTOM: “Respect that Table in which we all participate. After participating in such a Table, and communing such Food, why take up arms against one another? Not only arrows and javelins cause wounds. Certain words can inflict more profound wounds. A word pronounced against your brother is poison shot from your mouth. If your neighbor harmed you, ask God to show mercy to him. He is your brother, a member of Christ’s body. He is called to one and the same Table with you.”
Great video. Thank you! Also, when i think about gossiping, i ask myself, is what I'm about to say (or said) about the other person true? This especially works when i heard something about another person. How can i talk about something when i wasn't even there and i just heard it from someone else?
Texting makes it sooo easy.
Oh…. Heck. Excellent point! Gossiping isn’t just face to face!
Also called Libel
Thaank God for hearing this and making this video❤
How do you know if God approves of your decisions?
LORD have mercy o us akk si ners now and forever and always for all of eternity in JESUS mighty and precious name AMEN🙏🏽❤️🩹✝️
So like “let’s talk about gossip”? Ha ha (pardon the pun, couldn’t resist). Silent St Joseph, pray for us! 🙏💪👍 💚 #Josephology
Good morning how's it going ❤
Gossip is a sin.
I wonder if she is a sign language interpreter because she uses her hands a lot when talking.
What is the point of discussing strangers' lives...especially the 'celebrity gossip' is the most annoying thing ever. Pushed on us and people unfortunately gobble it all up
i hate it, yet i have been guilty of wanting to know about their lives, especially to know what went wrong or why they have changed so drastically. i am also interested in knowing any prominent figures that struggle with their faith and those who converted or reverted. i don’t know if this a situation where i should just mind my business or if i am genuinely trying to connect from afar?
I struggle with gossiping or sharing something with someone else. I think if you are hurting someone by talking about them, then it is gossip, but if you share something about someone else, that doesn't hurt that person, then you are sharing. I get confused about this subject and think I gossip more than share. Thank you for speaking on this subject.
@@vanessabernal8339It's human nature to be curious about others. Don't feel bad about it. Why else are there libraries, social media platforms, restaurants, schools of learning , movies , podcasts..We all have a desire to understand one another because by doing so we understand ourselves. Gossip is harmful yes, but having an interest and a need to connect with others is normal.
@@vanessabernal8339 i guess gossip is when someone brings somebody's life up with some intent of making fun of them or trying to imply that they are better somehow. Same with celebrity gossip, they usually publish embarrassing things
@@ms-tg8ee thank you, when it comes to socialization i am a bit of an odd ball probably because i am on the spectrum. and i do tend to info dump and research extensively on topics and people in order to know how to better connect with them. i know i can simply ask questions directly but i am very carefully of what i ask due to my own experiences and never want to accidentally ask something that can be trigger for another person or make an extremely revealing poignant insight about a person’s behavior unless they have given me the okay. even among my close relatives i just don’t know how to get them to open up in a way where i can talk about our faith. i really want to connect with those who are lukewarm and haven fallen away. it has been my observation that we tend to be more depressed and lack stability in our life when we sense that our faith community failed us and then we attribute this to our perception of God, which further adds to us not being able to fully grasp what human dignity entails. not to mention how easy it is to fall into moral relativism when we don’t have our catholic faith anchoring our objective beliefs.