Harrison James EP1: I was being sexually abused by my stepmother at 13, then she had my baby.

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  • @catm2454
    @catm2454 29 днів тому +36

    Congrats to both men for talking about this so well….no victim blaming etc

  • @Jdjustsaying
    @Jdjustsaying Місяць тому +42

    As a woman, I find it unbelievable that women behave like this 😢
    I’m so sad that some women are so depraved.
    It is so hideous and long jail sentences should be mandatory for anyone who dares to abuse a child.

    • @lisakemp7352
      @lisakemp7352 26 днів тому

      Sadly these kind of sickos are in both sexes

  • @chellerowe9390
    @chellerowe9390 Місяць тому +39

    I'm so sorry this happened to you. Me too by my father. My mother was also complicit in this. She knew and did nothing. It was myself my 3 sisters and 2 of my nieces. It happened over a 30 year period. You are brave. We were too, but he committed suicide before court. No one knows the impact except those who have experienced it. The detective on our case said it was one of the worst cases he had ever seen. He was brought to tears at times. Keep being brave but also be kind to yourself ❤️

    • @sheribrougham4863
      @sheribrougham4863 29 днів тому +2

      I hope you got the therapy you needed, to know that none of it was your fault and that you are not damaged. These people are sick predators who destroy lives. Don't let him do that to you. He may have been your dad, but he was never your father. You have the good parts of your dad, not his bad parts.

    • @smintedinc2482
      @smintedinc2482 27 днів тому +1

      :( x

    • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
      @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 26 днів тому +1

      @@chellerowe9390
      Very sad Chelle your father was a sick disturbed individual and I’ve always been of the belief that a mother knows if her children are being interfered with, it almost makes her worse. I hope you’ve found peace 🫶🏻❤️

    • @leesatrigger9824
      @leesatrigger9824 8 днів тому

      You are brave. I am sorry

  • @Pp-ix5in
    @Pp-ix5in Місяць тому +29

    My heart goes out to you😢yr a very strong young man for Talking about your abuse

  • @tessajowett6973
    @tessajowett6973 Місяць тому +17

    Shocking beyond words. Very brave of you to go public. Hope life treats you well.

  • @river2510
    @river2510 Місяць тому +37

    There are so many crimes against children. These rock spiders need to be stopped. It's changes who you were meant to be. Super proud Harrison you're a super star ✨👏👏👏✨

  • @lynnetteturner
    @lynnetteturner 6 днів тому +4

    Harrison, you are so intelligent, so articulate, so brave. Thank you for sharing your story with us and I hope talking about it helps with your healing journey. Warm hugs to you xo

  • @lizzi7128
    @lizzi7128 28 днів тому +18

    What a twisted woman.

  • @ButterflyWings1900
    @ButterflyWings1900 14 днів тому +5

    Oh Harrison 😢 you are unbelievably wise and mature for your age. Sending you love, Peace & healing ❤️

  • @Feline-philosopher
    @Feline-philosopher 11 днів тому +3

    This crime undermines the most precious capability we have as human beings, the ability to trust others and life itself.

  • @lindabown7810
    @lindabown7810 Місяць тому +6

    Thank you for everything you do

  • @neilmugridge3168
    @neilmugridge3168 Місяць тому +19

    It's so good to hear a story like this because it doesn't get near enough publicity of how women abuse young kids just like the amazing amount domestic violence where the woman abuses the man,i have personally been abused by a half sized wife, worst thing friends family nobody ever believed

    • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
      @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 15 днів тому

      ❤🙏🏻

    • @dmalka336
      @dmalka336 15 днів тому +1

      I am soooooooo sorry you went through that, and that you weren't believed. Horrific.

  • @pattisonpattison3639
    @pattisonpattison3639 18 днів тому +11

    I was sexually assaulted by my mother, before my teens.

  • @briannab6833
    @briannab6833 7 днів тому +2

    Never less of a man Harry… never! You are creating pathways for other men as other men have done too… you are so strong for speaking up! All SA survivors deserve peace, love and healing ❤

  • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
    @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 28 днів тому +11

    What a sick mental case that woman is.

  • @lilylyhuynh
    @lilylyhuynh 3 дні тому

    Thank you Harrison for speaking out to help young children to understand sexually abused is not acceptable

  • @missruth26
    @missruth26 29 днів тому +7

    Heart breaking for him 😢

  • @angelaa8285
    @angelaa8285 29 днів тому +7

    Oh my gosh, this poor guy

  • @neilmugridge3168
    @neilmugridge3168 12 днів тому +2

    Thank you so much for just considering my pain,I could have tried to stop this physically but I was brought up to never touch a female, again your thoughts mean alot

  • @kellyrosin8114
    @kellyrosin8114 18 днів тому +3

    He wasn't laughing. He doesn't condone this behaviour at all.

  • @rockybeachwa
    @rockybeachwa Місяць тому +2

    Your so right Harrison
    It is about a trophy
    You were her trophy
    She was your trophy
    And Garys friend was his teachers trophy
    Two contrasting stories
    One of psychological manipulation where it was pleasing
    The other where there was physical pain that most people think is pleasure
    X thank you for sharing these stories 💗🤗

  • @TraceyWebber-n4d
    @TraceyWebber-n4d Місяць тому +7

    We have all been groomed on a whole... we speak out now in the name of jesus 🙏❤

  • @celticwarrior777
    @celticwarrior777 День тому +1

    Wow.its unnusual to hear of this a stepmother SA abuser. She was Filipino. What age was she when he was 13?
    im so sorry he went through that she betrayed her trust. To get pregnant to a child is shocking too. Its no less repugnant because its a male child

  • @MRTonyt8868
    @MRTonyt8868 Місяць тому +3

    What a sad story that you have been through

  • @miradamevska5887
    @miradamevska5887 Місяць тому +3

    it is exactly that we victims have moments of joy 😓

  • @KimQueensuv
    @KimQueensuv 10 днів тому +3

    This is gross.

  • @suzanneelliott5196
    @suzanneelliott5196 28 днів тому +4

    O my gosh I am so sorry for you

  • @ladyfreedom5771
    @ladyfreedom5771 День тому

    Fully understand the meaning of the weight of the past and all the betrayals of the little me flashbacks never go!

  • @lameas66
    @lameas66 Місяць тому +3

    That's sad

  • @maggieryan6988
    @maggieryan6988 20 днів тому +2

    So sad.

  • @mojobartle817
    @mojobartle817 15 днів тому +3

    Is there a part two to this?? Did the step mum go to jail. And does his daughter now know that he is actually her father?

  • @gracienewhouse2033
    @gracienewhouse2033 8 днів тому

    His dad never thought this could be his sons daughter? He caught them so right there is enough to plant a seed.

  • @Argocity2006
    @Argocity2006 3 дні тому +1

    Did they lock her up? The stepmother?

  • @lizzysimner7715
    @lizzysimner7715 День тому

    How could a woman do this we are as a species suppose to protect babies and all children I cease to understand this😢😢

  • @Meena-io2us
    @Meena-io2us Місяць тому +12

    Gary's constant laughing is so inappropriate. 'We are not laughing " No Gary was. The man's anguish is palpable and your response was wholly inadequate.

    • @lisakemp7352
      @lisakemp7352 26 днів тому +12

      Some people’s reactions to uncomfortable situations is to laugh . It’s not because they think it’s funny

    • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
      @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 26 днів тому +6

      @@Meena-io2us
      He probably finds this confronting even embarrassed because generally men aren’t so open to talk about this abuse.

    • @nikstar1313
      @nikstar1313 8 днів тому

      @@lisakemp7352it’s inappropriate and it’s why we don’t speak up

  • @vaughanscott7308
    @vaughanscott7308 25 днів тому +1

    Reminds me of the south Park episode when the cops say the only crime here is she isn't doing it to me

    • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
      @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 15 днів тому +1

      How demented, glad we never watched the program and exposed our child to such a sick take on that subject.

  • @mmtravel9726
    @mmtravel9726 Місяць тому +10

    This is true crime just as much as any other story … just a far cry from the usual lost bikie, loser locked up, bank robber turned counsellor stuff were used too. This should be interesting as for once it’s an innocent victim were taking too and not some crook who got caught

  • @backtobasicscounselling
    @backtobasicscounselling 5 днів тому

    Great awareness Harrison. Bring the light.

  • @angelazaccaria3733
    @angelazaccaria3733 29 днів тому +4

    I catch killers?
    How about another name for your podcast.
    This poor guy!

  • @freecountry3544
    @freecountry3544 2 дні тому

    Great.

  • @lindamckeown3198
    @lindamckeown3198 28 днів тому +4

    Australia was built on SA/SRA..

    • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
      @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 26 днів тому +1

      @@lindamckeown3198
      I’m not of Australian Indigenous heritage.

    • @lindamckeown3198
      @lindamckeown3198 15 днів тому

      ​@@UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8mdand?? Sorry, what has that got to do with my comment? Serious question

    • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
      @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 15 днів тому

      @@lindamckeown3198
      Explain what sa/sra is.

    • @lindamckeown3198
      @lindamckeown3198 15 днів тому

      @@UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8mdthats what Google is for! We dont spell it out on social media 😉

  • @smintedinc2482
    @smintedinc2482 27 днів тому +1

    (Maybe ditch the headphones?)

  • @angelasmith2439
    @angelasmith2439 27 днів тому +1

    How old was the stepmother?

    • @lisakemp7352
      @lisakemp7352 26 днів тому +5

      She was an adult he was a child

    • @danr919
      @danr919 25 днів тому +1

      Early 20’s

  • @pmast3742
    @pmast3742 29 днів тому

    It just gets better 15 years old

  • @warialdasue
    @warialdasue Місяць тому +4

    What was the stepmothers age ?

    • @missruth26
      @missruth26 29 днів тому +7

      She was an adult. Why would you ask this ??????

    • @reneedavis3133
      @reneedavis3133 24 дні тому

      ​@@missruth26wierdo to comment that hey

    • @danr919
      @danr919 23 дні тому

      Early twenties

  • @mirasololmedo1831
    @mirasololmedo1831 29 днів тому +1

    😭

  • @AlisonMorris-e6v
    @AlisonMorris-e6v 2 дні тому

  • @georgiaamanatides4207
    @georgiaamanatides4207 27 днів тому +2

    Why go on the internet, though?

    • @lisakemp7352
      @lisakemp7352 26 днів тому +10

      To let other victims know they are not alone

    • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
      @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 26 днів тому +6

      @@georgiaamanatides4207
      Yikes you’re not too sharp.

    • @gailcross3052
      @gailcross3052 16 днів тому +1

      It needs to be talked about.

    • @bernadettecrawford3656
      @bernadettecrawford3656 16 днів тому +1

      Young victims with no one to turn to, so this helps young ones get their heads around it. Maybe get help as they've been groomed...

  • @beesadefridamayastudio8267
    @beesadefridamayastudio8267 18 днів тому

    🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

  • @danr919
    @danr919 25 днів тому +4

    This does happen to boys like it happens to girls which doesn’t get recognised the same. I’ve heard of his story before and too many unexplained choices. I believe it happened but the way it happened or was responsible etc is a mystery. There’s always 2 sides to a story

  • @sheribrougham4863
    @sheribrougham4863 29 днів тому +9

    So he was in love with his abuser and he was going to run away with her when he turned 18. He only felt guilty when he thought he was having an affair with his dads wife. These are very different than what a sexually abused girl feels when its her father.

    • @simonealbion5772
      @simonealbion5772 29 днів тому +15

      He was a child. You're completely wrong in what you are saying. What you are implying are the exact stereotypes and myths that we as a society need to dismantle and debunk.

    • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
      @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 28 днів тому +8

      Victim blaming, how demented seek help.

    • @paulaoppedisano6460
      @paulaoppedisano6460 28 днів тому +4

      He was a kid! If a stranger treated him this way or his father for Gods sake they’d be toast. For the love of God when does the perversity ever end?

    • @lisakemp7352
      @lisakemp7352 26 днів тому +4

      It’s called a trauma bond ! Not uncommon it situations like this

    • @Kimi_Adventures
      @Kimi_Adventures 6 днів тому

      I don’t see him comparing the two

  • @pmast3742
    @pmast3742 29 днів тому

    What you were 13 before the penny started dropping and you guys make it seem was happening everyday and night cmon champ

  • @jaronwalker8112
    @jaronwalker8112 28 днів тому

    Have a sip of that water brother 😂

  • @deniseorourke7235
    @deniseorourke7235 18 днів тому +5

    I’m sorry this happened to you but at 13 years your not an idiot you know how to speak up

    • @mymai5859
      @mymai5859 16 днів тому +7

      He was groomed & psychologically manipulated. A giant amount of fear & coercion was placed on him. He was NOT fully physically developed & neither was his brain! Never blame a CHILD victim!
      Even adults in domestic violence relationships or even cults never speak up because they fear so much & are brainwashed. As a child, he had no one he felt he could trust enough to share what a nightmare of a life he was going through at the hands of an adult!

    • @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md
      @UnderTheMilkyWay-mc8md 15 днів тому +2

      Wow! I never would have thought a female would victim blame on what was going on here. I hope tf you aren’t a parent.

    • @nixonreid8661
      @nixonreid8661 9 днів тому +2

      How dare you!

    • @HM-rw4tu
      @HM-rw4tu 2 дні тому +1

      Did you even watch the video? She convinced him it was an affair, he didn't know he was being molested, he thought it was a consensual love affair. She preyed on a child who didn't know the complexities of the real world

  •  Місяць тому +3

    Can we swap mom's?

    • @polaramondi5305
      @polaramondi5305 Місяць тому +6

      Yuck

    • @wholefoodplantbasedmama5398
      @wholefoodplantbasedmama5398 Місяць тому

      Two week old channel, this is clearly a troll. Revolting comment mate but just want to ask you something. Why choose such a pathetic job? You sitting in your parents basement living on takeaway, no friends and contemplating your life choices?? Hmm
      Get a real job mate.

    • @pmast3742
      @pmast3742 29 днів тому

      That's what I was thinking mad hey on tap 24/7

    • @lisakemp7352
      @lisakemp7352 26 днів тому

      You’re just as sick as what she is

    • @Mathilda5xp
      @Mathilda5xp 5 днів тому +1

      What a sick woman. She should be locked up.

  • @justinlambert5829
    @justinlambert5829 Місяць тому +25

    Australian women have a lot to answer for . 61 fathers suicide a week going through family law court each week and over 3100 a year . These suicides are directly related , linked and correlated to women / mothers alienating the children . 3 choices , wait until you see your children - the back logs 3-4 years , retaliate and snap back DV or suicide . Get serious - don’t BS around . The flip side is the toll on society with DV . When will there be a real discussion on the treatment of fathers , the consequences & where does it end ?

    • @Jdjustsaying
      @Jdjustsaying Місяць тому

      Also, your statistics are false.
      Do some basic research.

    • @KimQueensuv
      @KimQueensuv 10 днів тому

      Narcissist and predatory persons have a lot to answer for. This step thing is from the Philippines.
      Mothers also have their children withheld from them by partners . It is maybe helpful to take gender out and see it as a personality type who does this rather than male or female ?