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Bring dr.shadee el masry guys!!
A big Issue facing Muslim leading to feminism is BIDA! It divides umma, & sufi batinis hide evidence & hence teach ext. taqlid, they justify with imam extremism leading to shirk & grave worship (Q 9 :31). Tawhid ties to safety (Q 24:55) It leads to colonies, division & nisa targeted by fatwas divide further, haram, society reunites after the bida on secularism, when they should of been united on Sunnah which would bring justice and optimization - so how do we not reject Bid'a for Sunnah? Sadly alot of imams don't teach Islam correctly to manipulate Muslims to get quick donations off of them just like those who pray to graves and ask for haram grave treasure buildings when sunnah is to lower the graves.
A lack of gheerah to din, lead to lack of ghirah in other affairs!
The 4 mathhabs many Batini ext. Soophey imams misquote to push bid'a, they themselves said refer our statements to Quran and Sunnah!
Clear Sunni unity over blind bida'a division to halt liberalism on inside -
1) Abu Hanifah : "It is prohibited (23) for someone who does not know my evidence to give verdicts (24) on the basis of my words."
2) Imam Malik : look into my opinions: all that agrees with the Book & Sunna, accept it; and all that does not agree with the Book and the Sunnah, ignore it."
3) Imam Shafi : "Muslims are unanimously agreed if a sunna is made clear to someone, it is not permitted (33) for him to leave it for the saying of anyone."
4) Imam Ahmad : "The opinion of Awzaa'i, Maalik, of Abu Haneefah: all of it is equal in my eyes. However, the proof is in the narrations (in the sunnah)."
This is from the beautiful work of Sheikh Albani's Prophet prayer...
When we say Muhammadur Rasulalah it means our isnad ends with Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him whenever able!
The best interpretors of the Quran and Sunnah are the Sahabas, see Quran 9 :100!
Quran 4 : 32 -
And wish not for the things in which Allah has made some of you to excel others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and) for nisa there is reward for what they have earned, and ask Allah of His Bounty. Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knower of everything.
feminism is after tech revolt & before c. banks to switch profit from farm to debt slaves, of color to all ppl, parting families w/ Xena (Qoem Loot) & leaving kids, & creating a lobby yeahood class & inflate same $ struggled for removing liberty. Its why Islam is answer, forbids unequal lending, balances etc. They oppose men who are the structured thinkers. Be real.
The womb at a subcon suggests vulnerability tying to pregnancy, makes Nisa in conflicts go to fight or flight mode earlier and overgeneralize with less info, this is why men are leaders to balance & prioritize with manhaj sunna, while Nisa are their detail oriented emotional helpers...
Sad because each side (the male side and the female side) are taught to blame/hate each other and see themselves as victims but in reality the only one to blame is Shaytaan. He wants us to fight each other when Allah wants us to be at peace with each other and go Jannah together. May Allah help and protect us.
No we should blame ourselves too for being ignorant about our own deen and not taking responsibility as a servant of allah!
With the way I saw magic being taught and promoted on Facebook 11 years ago, I’m not surprised. It’s a gender war, while in the west, the LGBTQ is promoted like they’re living their best lives. Make it make sense!
No it’s not, it’s literally just women who are taught to hate men lmao
@@JamesBond-wv9xz No your speech is the speech that perpetuates this cycle. Many males have been raised to devalue and violate woman also. To only see what they profit from dealing with her and a complete disregard for her desires or needs. Its a 2 way street lets be honest. Woman play with mens minds and hearts and Men do the same with woman. If that wasn't the case why is there a such thing as Pimps. If that wasn't the case why do women set men they are dealing with up and get them killed. The horror stories are plenty from both sides.
@@somebody2310 nice point.
"Your value to a husband is somehow indicative of your value as a person - that is not true, because every single one of us has intrinsic value as a human being and to Allah swt " N.B.Robert
Mashallah I really love this quote 💯💯🔥🔥🔥
Thanks for bringing this sister to the show. I think you guys should have more Muslim women guests to bring a diversity of opinion. We often don't get to hear women's side of the story when it comes to gender issues which makes it hard to fully understand the problem. I think it would be interesting if you debated with an actual modern Muslimah feminist to help them see the error of their thought process.
Error? Why do you hate women who think for themselves?
@@rabikhan1393 They don’t, they let the media and today’s society tell them how to think.
Thank you sister Na’ima for opening my eyes even though i have been simplify my Expectations and I have not been married before still in my early 20s i am honestly have been blessed in recent times as Allah is keep on teachings me what i need to do before Marriage and what I should be careful and aware of one it of is please SISTER stop fantasying your marriage or only being blinded by the glam of it.
Sister Na.ima is the realest out here. May Allah increase her in her position so we have more sisters out there with her mindset for brothers looking for wives and for the next generation of young Muslim women. Allahu Alim.
Welcome back to the realest podcast in this Dunya… lol that phrase doesn’t get old
mA
Great podcast from the3muslims, with one of my favourite author! Alhumdulillah
Alhamdolilah for the blessing of being Muslim. Alhamdolilah for being a Muslim woman. Alhamdolilah that Allah guided me to it. Imagine throwing away the amazing blessing of being a woman and what it comes with! Such a shame.
Islam balances us to grow, the non Muslims liek qayraish sold out the religion and said do tawaf naked, now adays the feminists are no different, tell you to take off clothes, tis freedom while only serving the elite and breaking up families! So yea Alhamdulilah for Islam, If it wasn't for Islam wouldn't value my Islamic brotherhood 0r virtuous Muslim women though my fitrah always made me know Islam and Muslims are different then others.
Can I ask you a question sister? What country are u from?
@@Trilliman707 why? 😐
@@Trilliman707 sorry, don’t mean to be rude brother😅
I was born in Afghanistan but raised in North America🙂
@@Tislyfe ah never mind than I have no need to ask u anything sister sorry just heard some racists things about certain region and how so called how they are misogynistic and mistreat snd oppress women I just heard that Bron arab man especially south Asian hate and abuse women which hurt my feelings and been bothering me
This concept of 'having it all' is soo over used these days. The toxic pressure for women to having it all- being a mother, with a career and cut all the nine yards - makes women believe that what they already have (either of the options mentioned) and probably content with isnt enough, because its not the standard of "All of it".
Defs a concept that needs to be monitored...
What a wonderfully honest conversation. Allah bless you.
Love Naima. Glad to see her here ❤ jazakumullahu kheiran
So appreciated to have find this sister. Will definitely subscribe to her channel
Jazakum Allahu Khiran! This was a really beneficial converstion. #BringsisNaimaback
Shukran for this amazing talk show. May Allah Bless each and every one of you abundantly.
This conversation was really needed.
I think in this episode is genuinely a inner conscious/voice without emotion talking , which is facts whether it stings or burns!
What a wholesome and refreshing talk MashaAllah TabarakaAllah. May Allah swt bless sister Naima. As a sister i absolutely agree with her.
Mashaa Allah Tabarak Allah. Epic and very beneficial talk. Much love, khayr and respect to my 3 brothers and sister Naima. Brothers let's get our womenfolk to follow her. May Allah bless you all and I get to be honored to be your neighbors in Jannat Firdaws. Aameen. Keep it coming and looking forward to part 2 in shaa Allah.
MashaAllah what a splendid conversation. She spoke the TRUTH, the hard truth
High value man = strong deen, good character, good income and understand your responsibility in looking after your spouse/family i.e financially, physically and emotionally. ...
High value women = strong deen , good character and have the ability to look after your home well
So glad podcasts and sisters like this exist. Through fitrah I have never fully agreed with feminism but listening to women like her really saved me from falling into the trap.
Now this was definitely needed.
Great episode
Sister Na'ima thank you! I agree with anghel that I didn't know I needed this!
No matter how old you are you can’t judge a woman on why she hasn’t been able to find someone in her earlier days. Also who said the older you get you can’t ask for him to have a decent stable job, has to have the basic Islamic knowledge, pray 5 time, has to be somewhat good looking which you find attractive, height etc. It’s not always about compromising for a woman when do men ever compromise when looking for a spouse. Marriage is a lifetime thing, there’s no point getting married if you’re getting married for the sake of age, when there’s nothing you like about him and you only married cuz you’re getting old.
I dont understand the obsession with marriage. Why do muslims not talk about single independent women taking care of themselves and being happy being single. More and more women are noe happy being single. Why aren't women allowed to have a passion? Provided they don't enagage in anything haram...bcoz all these wife roles and duties don't make all women happy. Can't they be single...why is marriage the only way of living?
Respect men's preference as well
@@friyaivy3818 well we have an obsession with marriage because it’s a blessed Sunnah of the prophet ﷺ. He strongly advised us all to get married and islamically it’s seen as the fabric of society that holds it together. I guess a lot of Muslims nowadays see marriage as something in danger due to feminism becoming more popular-And in my opinion this an exaggeration, there are some real nutcase Muslim sisters out there who genuinely believe that men shouldn’t have any say in anything, marriage is bad changing Islam etc. But this is a small amount of people and there’s too much focus on them imo.
@@unknownukhti2418 why do think you deserve somebody ? We don't deserve anything in the world. If a man or woman choose to be with someone, that is really based on their mercy.
Why would a man provide for a divorced women ?
@@unknownukhti2418 your entitlement is so visible in your words!!!!of couse, if he marries, what if he does not want to marry a divorced women ?
I think you have problem when men don't marry divorced women
Amongst the wisest and most well spoken people that have been featured on the podcast imo, may Allah increase her in knowledge and sincerity
Sister Naima is so knowledgeable ma shaa Allah
"the people have been fooled into making their nafs their GUIDE." - DEEEEP!!
All the doors of evil opened on us, when we abandoned the instructions of Allah.
I used to immaturely fantasize about being in a polygynous dynamic and now I realise how much more of a commonly necessary mature responsibility it might soon find itself in many more cases, even in places like the UK. Allah SWT knows best . iA.
So many thruths have been said in this episode by sister naima.👌
Islamic knowledge and understanding of each of the two poeple involved will bring happiness in the marriage/ friendship
maa sha Allah I think you brothers got a very much needed affirmation and validation from this wonderful classy strong sister. Alhamdulillah. Lets get healthy :)
This was a great show ❤️
Islam hates. Women. Blacks. and children
Peaceful. suicide bombers 😫
Repolsive cult.
Ephesians 5-25love your. Wives
David Wilkinson Seek God's Face UA-cam 🔥😇
AllahummaBaarik! Suggestion: Drop the 'coming up' section of the video or cut it down by at least 75%. I find myself having to skip through that, also thinking to not get any spoilers. The real ones are gonna watch regardless. 💙🔥
may Allah bless you all and grant to you jannat alfirdous. i just found your channel yesterday at night when i stumbled on one of your videos with sq man about psychedelics . since then im binge watching your content !!! . and i thank you again for changing my beliefs when it comes to marriage , i would definitely say i was affected by the feminist mindset without actually putting Allah in the equation . i will continue watching your other videos . wallah its prefect time because it's summer vacation ,and one month is left till the school starts. so i got a lot of time to educate myself in terms of deen plus im someone who has insomnia so i wont be bored in my free time :)
I disagree that the women with bad experiences are more likely to be vocal. I talk anonymously here about my experience, but if someone asks me IRL, I only say alhamdulillah. Abused women stay quiet about it until they can’t anymore.
Why don't you seek for help? Is there anybody who can help?
Big respect my bros, game changer for the ummah, carry on doing what your doing. May Allah bless you all. Sister Na'ima amazing as usual SubhanAllah
AM LATE BUT WOW AM GLAD I GOT TO FOUND NAIMA 'S PODCASTS MANSHALLAH AM IMPRESSED AND GLAD MAY ALLAH BLESS Y'ALL
Really liked the comment Allah knows who deserves who. Saw many mismatch couples but never thought about this but in the end Allaah SWT decides
I really liked sister Naimas comments and lectures!
بارك الله فيكم
PREACH
Loved this video
Beautiful,Mashaa Allah ,full of gems
May Allah reward all of you
Bruh this sister is spittin 🔥
Beautiful,Mashaa Allah full moon of gems
You have pointed rightly.
Wise woman. Barakallahu feekum!
big shout out to Rami looking like Prince
@MIKAAL Hey bro you still blocked on MAhdis channel?
@MIKAAL Maybe Im the only one who got blocked, people were telling him not to block me not sure what happened.
@@strictlyyoutube6881 why was he going to be blocked?
@@MAhmed-zs2vp He blocked me, claimed I was a troll.
@@strictlyyoutube6881 did you compliment him on his appearance?
MashAllah May Allah(SWT) bless you reward you help you and protect you sister Ameen
Barakallahu feekum
Assalamu Alaykum my fellow Sister Naima,thank you for all those topic in your youtube channel a really appreciated that ALLAH blessed your family and ur kids in prosperity in life...As MUSLIMAH my sister Naima,HARDSHIP AND HARD journey I have experienced now with my spouse all this I pray to ALLAH🤲everyone that's not understand me but I know ALLAH understands me..And ALLAH knows the TRUTH I embrace and understanding,everything going on in my life right now for the sake 0f ALLAH...A believe ALLAH has plan and the reason why he brought my spouse and me together in this way because ALLAH has a plan for two 0f us for our future..INSHA ALLAH🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲💖💖💖💖🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
It’s so refreshing to hear sister Na’ima overall. I agreed with everything she said basically on the aspect of what is actually happening in reality.
I can’t seem to understand how some sisters are finding her offensive lol as a divorcee in her early 30s, I thought she was spot on (it is what it is but Allah knows our hearts and based on that he provides, guides and aides SubhanAllah)
I know this channel is dedicated to Muslim men and masculinity which is amazing and needs to happen all day everyday! But it was lovely to hear a very real sister, I totally relate to her lol loved it! MashaAllah
thumbs up 👍🏼 to you sister. Jazakallahu khairan. By the way you have proved women can really talk a lot. ☺️ but yours were beneficial
MashaAllaah my sister is telling us the truth about our situations. We should listen to her. 👏👏👏👏 Jazakhallaahu khair Na'ima.
Mashallah this sister speaks gold
Woah, this woman has some serious inputs nd tips, she is the second best after The Scottish revert sister, Subhan Allah
really enjoyed this! jazaakAllahukhair sis Naima for getting straight and vulnerable. agree with alot of it.. though I think some issues can be conflated with ageism in the west - so yes older women have a smaller "pool" but only because ageism has been normalized. but yes so humbling about teaching our daughters about femininity when we have not practiced it :( not by choice
I am soooo ready to be a good wife. Finally. At 44 I finally found my willingness to totally submit to a good brother.
I am reliant as a educated woman and have found but want nothing more than to stay at home and raise my 2 children as wife and mother.
I can cook, clean, stay home with the kids, raise a family, fulfill my husband’s rights, and use my talents for good in the marketplace. Insha’Allah, for the right brother.
May Allah Reward you with a great companion
43:30 May الله سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى bless the sister for raising this.
My tears at this being recognised speaks loud enough. It’s painful but الله سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى will reward us for being resilient and trusting things will be better in the Akhira (آمين يا رب العالمين)
you talking to me sis n i love it
Subhana Allah I have to agree 100% with you sister, and to all my Muslim sisters please be careful because shaytan plays with us due to our soft hearts and desires, therefore before you follow what society claims to be right, if you love your deen, ask yourself if Allah will bless you in it.
Masha'Allah
Woman: I don’t want to marry a short, fat, bald man who is broke
Man: I don’t want to marry women passed a certain age
Woman: That’s Illegal!
That is what really happening
What a Dumb comment to create war between two genders…how about we just focus on what’s important to elevate ourselves as a servant of Allah? Next time, please write a beneficial comment to read
@@hazel_mvedits9082 how is that dumb comment ?
@@Mark-go7qm If you are a good human being with a functional brain, you know this types of comment will just add more fire to the fuel to make a war between two genders instead focusing on the serious matter to improve our ummah
@@hazel_mvedits9082 Your comment sound dumb for having an emotional reaction over a joke. You should focus on improving your adab instead of being in those discussion. This is not for you.
MashaAllah tabarakAllah. I feel like Anghals our little brother of the Ummah mashaAllah.
There’s just something I can’t quite put my finger on but there’s a certain elements of realness that comes through.
He’s not faking just on this path moving forward at his own pace mashaAllah. May الله سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى protect you all and keep your hearts firm on His سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى religion. آمين يا رب العالمين
Allahuma barik sister Na'ima you've opened my eyes to new things. And you speaking factsss!!😂😂 My dear sisters please check within yourself if most of the things she said triggered you negatively
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53:05 on gender roles
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Jazakallah kheiran for these so needed conversations. Sister Naïma Robert is definetly the aunty we all need . May Allah grant her Jannah for her work and all of you doing great for the Ummah . Ameen
Hopefully, from these conversations, we are able to change our community values that are not based on Islamic values , but cultural values. Marriage shouldn’t be the end goal of every conversation. True in order to avoid haram, people try to find compatible spouses. No one is 100% perfect. But we can strive for 70% compatibility. Sometimes people have same interests like hiking, reading books, reading newspapers, painting, volunteering together. We in our community have made these activities for rich people only. In truth , I remember my uncles even though they were married had different activities. One of my uncle was interested in birds , other one had fish aquarium, some used to collect stamps, gardening. Some like to play cricket, badminton. My aunt used to make cushion covers, and other liked to travel. These types of hobbies are good for emotional and physical health . This is a me time for men and women. Also, this also helps people to be busy in other stuff then shopping . And it makes your personality more interesting. And children also learn new skills.Then religion should also be an important part of life in a way that people don’t run away from it. Inspite of all religious forums and classes , our youth don’t know how to communicate. Now everyone is busy on phones. Grandparents, parents , children of all ages. No more communication. Before grandparents used to talk about their childhood , taught children quran and how to wadu. Do you find that anymore? Children and neither parents have patience. It is true that we as muslims and parents have developed a market place for marriage . And muslims immediately come to what we should look in women first. Her beauty, her wealth , her family . Her religious values. But nobody talks about what we should look in men?
Ma Sha Allah..may Allah bless you
This is so refreshing to actually hear. The expectations placed upon a relationship by sisters who have watched too many tiktoks and insta feeds of how things SHOULD ve and no vids of how to work TOWARDS something SIGNIFICANT they want them false realities NOW just like they order something online and want it ASAP...definitely treating the scene like a market place,nail on the head there.
Mash Allah 👏
Thanks, Naima for opening women's eyes
This sister is a G making the rounds on all the major podcasts right now. SHE will be the savior of the sisters iA
ETA: OMG 45:00, Sr Na’imah killed it over here!!! This is so true and why “dating” at a later age is so difficult. Sadly, many of them (not all) sleep around a lot by the time they get to you.
Brothers, don’t be the guys that gets settled for.
don't idolize people
“Damaged goods” wow, you should be ashamed of yourself.
@DHIKR📿VALLEY I changed it up a bit, so it should be better now. Accountability should be on both sides.
@@sarahkh9927 I edited the comment because it came across as a tad bit aggressive.
@@tarek399 not idolizing, that’s haraam
MashaAllah!!
I was talking to a sister and her family about marriage. We are both Doctors in the United States. She said she is not financially responsible for any household expenses islamically. She also stated additional expenses: vacations, dining out, nanny care, etc are all my responsibility. She wanted a minimum 3 carat diamond ring. The family wanted $100,000 US dollars for mahr.
lol yikes...im studying to be a doctor, but my plan will be to be able to open up a clinic and work only a few days a week in sha Allah, preferrably i can set up the clinic in my house so i can be home all the time 🤲
If it's as you say, how do they realistic think that it is possible for one man to do all that? Like his responsibility isn't just towards his wife it's also towards parents, sisters. Who has 100,000 in their savings when they are studying? Are people that much disconnected with reality? With the crisis of the cost of living, how would that have been possible....
I know a lot of Muslim women who actually have it all; PhD graduates and raising 3 and 4 kids.
Brother mentioned anthropology like its a joke science of study. Ibn Khaldun was an anthropologist and had major contributions to our deen. This whole dogging down of the liberal arts in education comes from right wing oil loving middle Americans that think the only way you can make bread is be an engineer, digging and drilling for oil and minerals. Aaron clarey likes dogging down liberal Arts but he is a UA-camr, if being a UA-camr isn't liberal arts 101 then I don't know what is.
Having an educated wife is important if you want to raise educated children. If mother doesn't know how to pick up a book, she doesn't have good grammar, has no intellectual insight and the IQ in the double digits, then don't hold your breath on your children. My wife is educated in Political sciences and she taught me a hell of a lot, so I would always recommend for a man to marry someone who is cut from the same cloth as you.
Don't fall for this Andrew Tate nonsense of getting with a Bimbo because she looks hot. Before I became Muslim I was on that bandwagon and I can tell you it was nothing to write home about.
STEM or go home. Liberal arts isn't going to the cut the mustard.
End up like all the liberal arts majors, asking customers whether they 'would like fries with that'. Liberal arts is a complete joke.
@@vost2916 Bro you are commenting on a youtube video with people being paid to do UA-cam. on Mahdi tidjani channel there is a frequent viewer there who makes over £10k per month through UA-cam revenue and the kid is 21. At one point I held your position, then I realised that most of the guys spinning off this crap make most of their money off of UA-cam.
hit like button, comment and subscribe, holla back atchya boy!
If the our sisters thinks and brothers thinks their partners like angles that can’t do any sin that is not correct but you have to know your partner is human being but what we need is patient we do mistakes we have to accept advices
I got a brain aneurysm reading 👁
@@The3Muslims 😂💔
@@The3Muslims this was such an unnecesary comment. ESPECIALLY since it is coming from under the channel's name! Subxannallah, have you asked yourself that this persons english ability could be very low? they could have some type of learning challenge? or even a disability? All it takes is just a little effort from yours and ours side to comprehend the message in their comment. Insha Allah please be more mindful next time, i'm not saying you had a malicious intend or anything but it's as a reminder for you, MYSELF and others that see these types of comments. Jazaka'llahu kheyr.
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Nobody can have it all. Not even men!
the rich women would have their own servants so there would never be a question of if she can cook or clean but being a good role model for his children would be paramount,I don't know if this is true? this is only my view
It is sufficient for people to know that they should not rely on anyone else other then Allah, not even their spouses. The moment you only rely on Allah to heal your heart and provide for you what you thought would be impossible to receive then you will find Allah’s guidance, and what’s better then Allah’s guidance?
Everyone has the right to choose what is right for them , if I man cannot handle a woman with a past then that’s his choice and it’s good that he won’t put a divorced woman through bouts of his insecurities. We need to stop looking at this as a reflection of our divorced self and look at it as their insecurity or something they cannot handle . I think it’s very mature actually for a man to know what he can handle before he marries a woman he’s being honest with himself and her and thus preventing a disaster and another divorce in the end .
Actually some men can openly tell women what to wear, like Macron but when he does it, its called democracy!
Alhamdulillah sister your speech is soo true...sistwr from Finnland are absolut in same page whit you😇🥰😇
Jazakum Allahu khairan, but to take it in a funnier way from a woman's opinion, what's the point of having a long discussion to be heard and learn from by a woman who is multi-tasking as women ussually do, if I have to close an Add every couple of minutes? May Allah grant us all the needed provisions in this life and hereafter!
I remember talking to a coworker at a place I used to work at (I'm a baker). She asked me what my life goal was. I said, "To get married and have a family." She immediately shook her head and said, "Nooo, you need to aim higher! You need MORE!"
I just looked at her in disbelief
Since I was a kid, marriage and family was all I desired. My parents seperated when I was young but growing up with my brothers, our dad always reminded and emphasized the value of family. My dad comes from a big family - my grandparents had like 13 kids together. So I grew up looking at my grandparents, seeing how jovial they were - I wanted something like that
Hearing so many women now talk about achieving degrees, high positions in career and being independent, I felt sad and sometimes wondered if wanting marriage and family was a fantasy I needed to let go of.
Wanting a good marriage with a good man & raising good children together is a noble life goal. I personally think its the life goal that invites most happiness & peace in comparison to lets say being a successful career-woman alone.
I was brought up in a community where the higher the education & work/career background of a woman have, the higher her 'value'. So like most women I chase after these career options & fantasy of being a successful career woman.
But sadly, now im 29 soon to be 30, i found out chasing after careers alone doesnt make me happy. I just recently realized that i want to get married, i want a good man, i want a family, a home. A whole family unit.
But i can be considered a spinster now, im losing my youth & my beauty. So i feel sad having this realization so late in life.
I'm 17 years old and I've always wanted to "aim higher".I'm not saying I don't want a family, in fact I believe wealth is best to have when you have someone to share it with, I do have passions and goals outside of being a mother and wife. I see that traditionally this is considered bad and that a woman having ambitions outside of marriage and family is not good. Like for example, working, accomplishing things, etc. Is this bad? I've seen in many videos where they advocate to go back to the traditional ways, say that this is bad which is why I'm asking.
@@suadshasmeen it is not bad to have a job, a career, to be an accomplished woman. But of course there will be sacrifices. If your main goal is to have a succesful career, you might have to sacrifice your time, your youth, & your beauty & age for that. If you want a successful married life, youll have to somehow sacrifice the career you could have if youre not married.
But, there are cases for strong, educated + traditional women out there who can be successful in both. But they're mentally tough, & they have great support either from their own family or their husband. You can pray to Allah for both & try your best for both, its not totally hopeless. But its not gonna be that easy either.
Because the nature of this world, it is not a settlement or jannah for the believers. In one way or another, you will have to sacrifice something, you couldnt have it all. Unless you're among the very privileged exceptions.
Being a career woman vs married woman doesnt have to be bad if only one of them is achievable. Be grateful in whatever position you choose, & try to be smart about it (in choosing the right career or the right husband).
InshaAllah, dont lose hope in Allah's plan for you, for He is the best of planners.
@@ellem.o.6641 I think this is probably the nicest and most healthiest responses I've read in awhile. Thank you for the advice.
@@suadshasmeen Salam. :)
There's nothing wrong with having aspirations, wanting to work or to be wealthy, especially when you want to provide for those that may depend on you for support. Our deen doesn't prevent us from working. It won't be easy, though -- balancing work and family. There's only so much time in a day and only so much the human body can take.
Most who work 60-70+ hours a week find themselves too tired when they come home to do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and other household responsibilities -- and on top of that, take care of the children and their needs. Then, there is the concern of who to entrust your children to when neither parent is available.
That being said, our deen is about balance and everyone's situation will be different.
In today's age, it's difficult for many families to survive on one income as the cost of living goes up. But Allah is pleased when we strive to provide for our families, including working hard to keep ourselves from becoming beggars. Having wealth allows us to also help others who are in need through charity.
When we look at the women from the sahaba, we can find many Muslimah who can inspire us from their example. We all know Khadija (ra), another inspirational Muslimah for me is Nusaybah bint Ka'ab (ra) -- she was a wife, a mother, and a fierce warrior. :)
Mashallah she have good knowledge than rational Muslim. Allah subhanau taala give us HIDAYAT and give us best paradise..amin.
Guys whats your opinion on sadghuru? I listen to him a lot for mental health i do want to try his yoga alongside praying to allah too
Watch our entire jinn series and stay away from yoga and sadhguru
@@The3Muslims damn I'll watch it i have so many questions about that. I been battling against OCD intrusive thoughts constantly ruminating eversince this pandemic nasty disorder.
Stretching for fitness is fine, yoga is not. Also, there are many other experts you can consult for mental health who do not use an alternative religious belief to explain things like Dr Andrew Huberman who has a great youtube channel. Sadhguru may speak many good gems but the issue is he sometimes adds Hindu ideas to his message which we cannot endorse as Muslims, so it is best for you to avoid if you cannot distinguish between the good info and bad info
No Yoga!!!!!
Sister Naima is the feminine reviver. Mash Allah
1:04:15 There's a real case here for a Muslim census on marriage to collect accurate data on attitudes and outcomes.
Yo she hit em with the yung Kevin Samuels
But Naima! I think many women start being forced to do it all as men dont wanna do what they suposed to do,
I am in love with sister Na’ima and as a woman I agree with her
When you want to get married You don’t need a list Subxanallah.
But I have question to all muslim women, why is that we women have to cave in everytime and never ask men to be better.
الست دي مصرية 😂 منورة يا كبيرة ♥️ فولو
Our sisters needs some advice if your widow or divorce don’t say I am not marry but if you get someone responsible marry him if look the Sahaba you getting one lady married soo many times married don’t reject the person who looking wife’s
I got another brain aneurysm reading 👁
@@The3Muslims bro 😂