Vulnerable conversation with TobyMac about grief and loss.

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  • Опубліковано 9 січ 2022
  • What does it feel like to lose someone close to you? TobyMac shares his experience in this vulnerable video.
    If you are dealing with grief or loss, there is help and hope available at joyfmonline.org/healing.
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  • @muhammaddaf2400
    @muhammaddaf2400 2 роки тому +2471

    I'm ex muslim. Even though my family left and hate me because i receive Jesus as my Lord and Savior. I believe God's word is my strenght. My heart full of peace

    • @MamaGenn
      @MamaGenn 2 роки тому +26

      Good job Mohammed!!

    • @whistlep4494
      @whistlep4494 2 роки тому +45

      God Bless you, Sir.
      Jesus Loves you so…..much!

    • @joyjeffcoat8711
      @joyjeffcoat8711 2 роки тому +46

      Keep praying for your family

    • @fouroaksfreedom1429
      @fouroaksfreedom1429 2 роки тому +55

      Dear Mohammad, I am so thankful to see you here, I’m so thankful to the Lords hand on you. I will keep you in my prayers. God bless and hold you, all in Jesus name...

    • @alivera8361
      @alivera8361 2 роки тому +19

      Sorry about that,proud of you.

  • @Snjones777
    @Snjones777 2 роки тому +643

    Hello Toby.
    After hearing about the passing of your son,
    Got me prepared.
    I lost my twin son Caleb age 26 as a passenger in a car accident June 21 2020.... he knew the Lord. I found his Bible as I was cleaning Caleb's room after his death and on the inside of the Bible cover, Caleb wrote his dedication of his life to Christ Jesus....Caleb gave his life to Christ Jesus!
    To God be the Glory.....Conformation from the Lord is a real thing...
    Thank you Jesus...
    Thank you Toby...

    • @lilyw9324
      @lilyw9324 2 роки тому +3

      ❤❤❤❤

    • @beatriz7064
      @beatriz7064 2 роки тому +9

      Amen Glory to God! Love this. God is so good, that he gave you that confirmation and comfort. May God keep giving you strength and his Peace .❤

    • @smokybearthebird8642
      @smokybearthebird8642 2 роки тому +4

      Keep that chin up

    • @jrob00
      @jrob00 2 роки тому +9

      I just prayed for you. May God bless you and keep you. Thank you Jesus for shepherding Caleb into your flock before he left this earth.

    • @terem6822
      @terem6822 2 роки тому +2

  • @donmcc6573
    @donmcc6573 9 місяців тому +5

    Never think it can't happen to your child. That's what I thought, until I lost my son. Talk to your kids about the danger of drugs!

    • @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722
      @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722 27 днів тому

      I'm so sorry for your loss ❤ I'm glad that you're a great person and you keep going, and the same goes for anyone else in this situation ❤

  • @semaman879
    @semaman879 2 роки тому +444

    “The pain you’ve been feeling cannot compere to the joy that is coming” Romans 8:18

  • @monikasimmonsrealestate
    @monikasimmonsrealestate 2 роки тому +1035

    I also lost my daughter to overdose at age 20. She left behind a baby boy, my first grandson who was almost 2 years old. I raise him now in my home. Toby you spoke the words of my heart also. I have clung onto God's promises ever since like a life preserver in a stormy sea of grief. I don't think I will ever be the same again but one thing that hasn't changed is God's promises and love for us. He is a promise maker and a promise keeper. I have been praying for your family. God comfort your hearts and give you strength like only He can give.

    • @sandramartinez8105
      @sandramartinez8105 2 роки тому +19

      Sending you a huge hug 🤗🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️

    • @brianr1165
      @brianr1165 2 роки тому +15

      ♥️

    • @heathercloete7450
      @heathercloete7450 2 роки тому +14

      Monika, sending ❤️ you will never be the same again. It's ok. You have a new normal now. A different way of thinking.

    • @bahranghebrekidan1541
      @bahranghebrekidan1541 2 роки тому +7

      True and amen sister Monika

    • @JC-du6sn
      @JC-du6sn 2 роки тому +6

      Look up Andrew Wommack's A Better Way To Pray and Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

  • @LoBrookeMusic
    @LoBrookeMusic 2 роки тому +121

    To anyone reading this: you are extremely loved, keep holding on ❤

  • @bobjoy33
    @bobjoy33 2 роки тому +299

    "Leaving this earth early isn't necessarily a rip off"
    Truth!

    • @erinwoempner1228
      @erinwoempner1228 2 роки тому +14

      Only in the Lord’s time. God bless you.

    • @JESUSELCAMINOALPADRE
      @JESUSELCAMINOALPADRE Рік тому +1

      I loved that line too.

    • @ronaldrogers3566
      @ronaldrogers3566 11 місяців тому +4

      This earthly life is but a speck of time compared to eternity..it's our only opportunity to either receive God or reject him which will ultimately determine where we spend eternity.

    • @stephtimms1776
      @stephtimms1776 6 місяців тому +1

      💖

    • @lavenderandgold8588
      @lavenderandgold8588 Місяць тому

      That’s one thing I’ve been realizing in my own grief. I’ll get sad thinking about my sister no longer being here but then I remember where she is. And I get a little envious of her 😂 I can’t imagine how amazing it is to marvel at God and Heaven where there’s no more sadness or pain. She’s living it up right now.

  • @msprisfigueiredo
    @msprisfigueiredo 2 роки тому +86

    “I don’t know if I’ll ever smile deeply again”.
    I feel the same

    • @mistyn380
      @mistyn380 2 роки тому

      Same

    • @lynndavist
      @lynndavist Рік тому +2

      I'm wondering the same thing after losing my 37 year old son ( of 3) 7/12/2021.

    • @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722
      @sebastianblackandwhitewatc2722 27 днів тому

      I'm so sorry ❤I hope everything to get better for you and the other persons in this situation ❤️ never give up!

  • @brandireed9406
    @brandireed9406 2 роки тому +574

    My husband and I lost our 3 children in a car accident 23yrs ago. It hurts every day but God is my comfort. Knowing they are with Him and they are experiencing joy I can’t even understand helps me every day. They were 5and 6yrs old. I still don’t understand but God doesn’t promise we will just that He will be there even when we don’t.

    • @ThesoundofSilenceshh
      @ThesoundofSilenceshh 2 роки тому +31

      Wow, thank you for sharing. I can't imagine. I hope to meet you and see you rejoined to them in heaven

    • @nohaste4me
      @nohaste4me 2 роки тому +5

    • @brandireed9406
      @brandireed9406 2 роки тому +9

      This should say two children not three. I thank you for your kind words.

    • @lancemaliksi
      @lancemaliksi 2 роки тому +5

      I'm so sorry

    • @MB-sg8dx
      @MB-sg8dx 2 роки тому +16

      You have my deepest sympathy. I cant even imagine your grief.. even as my own family is deeply broken over the recent loss of my sister’s son to c19 at age 41. He was a very admirable Christian man - a major in the army and the worship leader at their church. He leaves behind a wife and two young sons, 12 and 9. Today is the 4 month anniversary of his passing and ive been crying on and off all day. That said, a loss as devastating as yours is a reminder that Gods grace is sufficient through the deepest valleys imaginable. God bless.

  • @joanmckeehan9735
    @joanmckeehan9735 2 роки тому +126

    I lost my 21-year-old son to suicide in 2020, and I am grateful to this man for sharing his grief so openly with the public. We will see our boys again!! ❤🙏

    • @jodiwitt-bailey1791
      @jodiwitt-bailey1791 2 роки тому +9

      God Father surround Joan and her family with YOUR peace.

    • @nickbjones8833
      @nickbjones8833 Рік тому +9

      @@jodiwitt-bailey1791 amen..sad to hear what happened to joan..her son must have been in a lot pain..i say this sadly cause i stupidly tried to take myself out in oct last year...but the lord got me through it...stay strong all.

    • @tathanbailey6225
      @tathanbailey6225 Рік тому +4

      @@nickbjones8833 I'm here if you need any help brother.

    • @nickbjones8833
      @nickbjones8833 Рік тому +4

      @Tathan Bailey thanks for your kind words. Got a lot going on but I know that the lord will get me through it

    • @shellylewis6663
      @shellylewis6663 10 місяців тому +5

      I too lost my 21 year old son to suicide in 2021. My only child. Very painful. I hope to see him again some day, but maybe they are with us spiritually and I am learning to live with being ok with my loss or change in faith. I wish you the very best and so very sorry for your loss.

  • @micheletjarks7380
    @micheletjarks7380 2 роки тому +54

    I lost my 21 year old son unexpectedly in 2015. Fairly early on in my grieving process God reminded me of Psalms 34:18: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." From that moment on I knew that God was by my side. Like you said, God doesn't save you from the cold, he is in the cold with you. It is somehow comforting to know that you have held on to the same promise that I have. Thank you for sharing! God bless you!

    • @Bigglesworth9
      @Bigglesworth9 Рік тому +2

      Thank you for sharing this. I needed to hear this today.

    • @NancyIsha
      @NancyIsha 8 місяців тому +2

      God's Love is real. He strengthens the broken hearts with His Love and care. We have eternal life with God.

  • @jillsmith423
    @jillsmith423 2 роки тому +5

    I'm truly sorry for your loss. Remember he is in heaven sitting with Jesus Christ a beautiful Angel Blessings😇🙏✝️👼🙌

  • @RC-pf2qi
    @RC-pf2qi 2 роки тому +410

    I can totally relate, had a 6 month old son that died many years ago. Then, my husband died of ALS in 2015, my Mom who was my best friend died in 2017 and my Dad died in 2018. The only thing that got me through was reading the Bible and prayer.

    • @JC-du6sn
      @JC-du6sn 2 роки тому +7

      Look up Andrew Wommack's A Better Way To Pray and Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

    • @mbwilson8592
      @mbwilson8592 2 роки тому +15

      Wow. My goodness you have endured so much. I'm so sorry for all of your pain. What a testiment of your faith- pushing in and clinging to the word of God. Hang in there ❤

    • @troyjhinkle
      @troyjhinkle 2 роки тому +5

      Sending prayers and love your way. So sorry to hear of the many losses you have experienced. Praying God sends you a little more joy today.

    • @virojansarvendran2541
      @virojansarvendran2541 2 роки тому +1

      Amen!

    • @brittdriver4453
      @brittdriver4453 2 роки тому +1

      God Bless and Be with you!❤

  • @vivianstidham9596
    @vivianstidham9596 2 роки тому +523

    What is so reassuring as a Christian is, It's not goodbye, it's see you later. Praying for you and your family. From Texas.

    • @Snjones777
      @Snjones777 2 роки тому +1

      Amen 🙏

    • @angeleyes3396
      @angeleyes3396 2 роки тому

      💞

    • @hellohappyvegan
      @hellohappyvegan 2 роки тому +3

      That’s what my grandpa always said and today’s his birthday!! He left us for heaven a few years ago. Thank you. 🙏🏼❤️

    • @jspyrogram
      @jspyrogram 2 роки тому +8

      Well, let’s pray they see each other again. Not EVERYbody chooses the narrow path. Some will hear ‘depart from me. I never knew you, you workers of lawlessness.’

    • @kiki7507
      @kiki7507 2 роки тому +1

      @@jspyrogram yes this! It’s comforting if you lost a close Christian friend, but even harder when if your friend didn’t choose Jesus

  • @johnnyschmidt6945
    @johnnyschmidt6945 2 роки тому +239

    Grief 😔....lost brother suicide
    Lost sister cancer ♋️
    Lost daddy cancer
    Lost my wife divorce
    Be strong in the Lord

  • @TommyHendersonRealtor
    @TommyHendersonRealtor 20 днів тому

    My sweet baby boy Nick went to Heaven last year on October 21, 2023. This video is saved to my "Remembering Nick" Playlist. It's so true, good, beautiful. God Bless Toby Mac!😊

  • @lindawulf6021
    @lindawulf6021 2 роки тому +224

    36 years ago my oldest child, Katie, died unexpectedly from a ruptured cerebral aneurysm. She had celebrated her 13th birthday just six weeks before she died. Two weeks before she died, she developed her personal shield as a Social Studies assignment. The shield had to contain a personal motto. She Drew a banner flying from the top of her shield with three words on it.
    NEVER GIVE UP.
    Katie's motto has become our family motto. Never Give Up on God's mercy, love, and compassion. Never Give Up on family and friends. Never Give Up on yourself. Never Give Up on life.
    My oldest grandson son surprised all of us the day of his college graduation when processing in with his fellow graduates, wearing his cap and gown, he had ironed on to the top of his mortar board, NEVER GIVE UP - Katie Wulf.
    I cried through the whole ceremony. Not tears of grief but tears of love. NEVER GIVE UP.
    The hole in your heart will never go away, but you can learn to live with it. You will be able to laugh, really laugh and enjoy life again because the love we share never dies, it transcends and transforms. It NEVER GIVES UP.

    • @salinger5902
      @salinger5902 2 роки тому +6

      God shows us through loss how precious love is. It hurts but I thank Him everyday for the time. your story of your daughter and grandson is beautiful. What matters more than this

    • @JC-du6sn
      @JC-du6sn 2 роки тому +3

      Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

    • @heidibey274
      @heidibey274 2 роки тому +2

      Hugs

    • @MrHighriser123
      @MrHighriser123 2 роки тому

      Oh wow!!! How powerful (full of power). Thank you for being vulnerable, it brings glory to God and tears to me relating to suffering about death, "but God" and to "never give up" on that

    • @shadowprovesunshine
      @shadowprovesunshine 2 роки тому

      Beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I needed to hear that.

  • @stephanielabrier6226
    @stephanielabrier6226 2 роки тому +325

    Toby...I am so sorry for your loss. I too am navigating the waters of grief for two of my loves...my husband Paul July 23 2019, and son Taylor Aug 5th 2021. Paul had many health issues and was also a stroke survivor. Taylor was killed by a drunk driver while attending Tech School for the Air Force in Mississippi. Without the Lord in my life, I could not do it. I am so thankful that both of my guys are enjoying the wonders of Heaven with their Heavenly Father and those who have gone on before them. May God's grace and peace be abundant for us both.💕

    • @kimalonzo3363
      @kimalonzo3363 2 роки тому +17

      Drunk driving is outrageous. I am so sorry you have suffered both of these losses of men you love ❤.

    • @stephanielabrier6226
      @stephanielabrier6226 2 роки тому +13

      @@kimalonzo3363 thank you so much. Yes, driving under the influence is totally preventable. This man destroyed two lives and devastated many. 😔

    • @numero1Jesusfreak
      @numero1Jesusfreak 2 роки тому +14

      How 💔! May you be comforted, healed, blessed & provided for in every way, Stephanie🙏

    • @melodysledgister2468
      @melodysledgister2468 2 роки тому +9

      @@stephanielabrier6226 I am so sorry, and I am praying, Stephanie.😢🙏

    • @rixygutierrez9832
      @rixygutierrez9832 2 роки тому +5

      @@kimalonzo3363 wow you’re one strong mama, my heart goes out to you 😭❤️

  • @katiecaldwell6457
    @katiecaldwell6457 3 місяці тому +1

    I go to church with a lady who lost her son about 8 months ago and she is so devastated. She can't speak of him without crying. I truly cannot imagine the pain of losing a child. It has to be unlike any other loss you could imagine. Prayers for peace for Toby Mac and his wife.

  • @kswensen2481
    @kswensen2481 Рік тому +1

    The sadness of losing a child is insurmountable grief. Soul crushing. Parents should never outlive their children. I know, I have.

  • @musicjazzvez
    @musicjazzvez 2 роки тому +55

    “God promised us never leave us or forsakes us…”♥️

  • @minnettewalker2623
    @minnettewalker2623 2 роки тому +336

    The grief that you feel now can never touch the joy that you will feel when you reunite with your son in our father’s home.

    • @renaebrown8897
      @renaebrown8897 2 роки тому +28

      This person is not dismissing grief by any means. It sounds to me like they are saying that once he reunites with his son, there will be so much joy, and the grief at that time will be gone. The bible does say that there will be no sorrow or grief in heaven. As Toby says here, everyone goes through grief differently. So to someone, what this person said, it might help them through their grief. Please don't put others down. Try to lift them up. I have gone through and am still going through a lot of grief. Grief doesn't have to be just the death of someone you loved or knew, which I have had my fair share, but it can also be for other things. I pray that you are able to get through your grief as well as you can and that you lean not on your own understanding of things, but lean on God's! Love Always, Renae.

    • @minnettewalker2623
      @minnettewalker2623 2 роки тому +7

      @@renaebrown8897 that is exactly what I'm saying. I lost the 2 closet people in my life within a year each other. By trusting and believing what the Lord says got me through and I am looking forward to reuniting with them.

    • @angeleyes3396
      @angeleyes3396 2 роки тому

      @@minnettewalker2623 💞

    • @israel4971
      @israel4971 2 роки тому

      How this thing all works is well said. I agree. There is a master plan Help me God

    • @NeotericNative
      @NeotericNative 2 роки тому +1

      @tahoe twilight please don’t make a loss of a loved one, make your heart bitter towards others. That’s not what your husband would have wanted from you.

  • @leighannlove9671
    @leighannlove9671 Місяць тому

    My son was ran over 10/7/18he fought for his 4 boys and our family for 11 months before infection took him to heaven. He is whole and healed since 9/6/19. Grief is so hard. Thank you for sharing TonyMac.

  • @audreygreen1973
    @audreygreen1973 2 роки тому +53

    I needed this, my husband and I lost our 6 month old baby boy on 4/24/22 which is also my husband’s birthday. Today makes two weeks since he went back to heaven, I’m devastated and don’t understand why God didn’t physically heal our baby boy. Lord I need your peace, I need the strength to keep going to see you get the glory out of my broken heart.

    • @DeborahBellemore
      @DeborahBellemore Рік тому +5

      Oh Aubrey, I am so sorry for your loss-I can’t even imagine… May Gods spirit bring comfort in the way only he can 💕

    • @MariaLopez-mi4ol
      @MariaLopez-mi4ol Рік тому +1

      I don't know the lose of a child but I can tell you that death of my Mom 79 n Sister 59 n Brother 57 all in 2 weeks from "covid" pnemonia is grief off the charts. I get through it all with prayer and supplication and GOSPEL music and ALOT OF HEALING TEARS and NO .....time will not heal my heart either.

    • @audreygreen1973
      @audreygreen1973 Рік тому +2

      @@KashaBrielle Thank you for such encouraging words. The Holy Spirit truly is a comforter as he spoke through you at a time when I needed him most. What would have been my son Israel's 1st birthday is approaching on 10/17 and these past couple of weeks the grief has hit me like an avalanche. If I could use one word to describe how I've been feeling it would be disappointed. After being in this world for only 2 days my baby boy Izzy contracted Necrotizing Enterocolitis (NEC). He fought for 189 days in the NICU until he went back to heaven. I fasted, prayed, and gave God back his word and he didn't come through in the way I THOUGHT he would or should. When reading your post I felt a sense of comfort because I know everything the Holy Spirit inspired you to say is true. I've known these things about our Wonderful and Sovereign God all along, I just needed to be reminded of them. Our ways are not his ways. I needed to be reminded that if it was the Fathers will, Izzy would have been healed. We are not to give thanks for all things, but IN all things and so I praise God for the time I was allowed with Izzy. I praise God because ALL things work together for the Good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Yes, Izzy and your sweet Maverick are in their glorified bodies. They are in the arms of Jesus where there is no more pain, no more suffering. The Lord is faithful to see us through and we will see them again soon. You are in my prayers.

    • @janblackman6204
      @janblackman6204 10 місяців тому

      Be careful of the anger. After I lost my daughter I became so angry. Still have some but I don’t want to be angry anymore

  • @janicedubose3055
    @janicedubose3055 2 роки тому +260

    My oldest son William died on July 11th 5old of cancer,he was 35 year's old, and as Tony said the grief comes in waves,my son accepted Jesus over the phone,my last conversation with him.

    • @JC-du6sn
      @JC-du6sn 2 роки тому +2

      Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

    • @Lizjemej
      @Lizjemej 2 роки тому +19

      what a wonderful comfort that he was born again. The worst pain would be losing a loved one who was not a follower of Christ.

  • @miriamLbuckley
    @miriamLbuckley 2 роки тому +148

    When my son was dying, you were kind enough to speak to him on the phone and he put it on UA-cam 11/2011 conversation with Toby Mac and Mikie B. Thank You!

    • @ifyouloveChristyouwillobeyhim
      @ifyouloveChristyouwillobeyhim 2 роки тому +11

      Jesus thank you for what you did for M B and for their son and for Toby Mac and please help these broken hearts please help them Jesus we pray, have mercy and help. . .

    • @desireea.thomas2419
      @desireea.thomas2419 2 роки тому +2

      What a Huge surprise & Blessing to your son I bet. Big time hugs sending your way sweet child of God your🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

    • @levernis5753
      @levernis5753 2 роки тому +2

      Could you link it?

    • @david443
      @david443 2 роки тому

      @@levernis5753 ua-cam.com/video/LQdnS1ozv90/v-deo.html

    • @thedangerousbeauty
      @thedangerousbeauty 2 роки тому +1

  • @corriewalker6843
    @corriewalker6843 2 роки тому +112

    I also lost my son. He was 27. He was beautiful. Reading all of these comments and seeing how many other parents out there went through what I did is heartbreaking. We will all rejoice in the Day we see them again. What a day that will be. I think about it all the time.

    • @mjmh7050
      @mjmh7050 2 роки тому +6

      I lost my brother when he was 27..I was 25. It is so hard...4 years have gone by but my heart longs to see him. As life goes on, heaven is more appealing so I can be there with him! Yet I am still young and it's hard to be so joyful in being a mom while missing him.

    • @mmommo-hx4dx
      @mmommo-hx4dx 2 роки тому +2

      you will see them whole again!

    • @ellsmere58
      @ellsmere58 2 роки тому +4

      My daughter was 37, it will be 2 years this august. I think of her always but have difficulty talking about her, I avoid it, I don’t want to face it. I miss her, I miss me, heartbreak can be all consuming at times.

  • @praiseYAHalways
    @praiseYAHalways 2 роки тому +318

    We just lost our son on Dec 24th, he was 20. There is no pain like this...

    • @kimalonzo3363
      @kimalonzo3363 2 роки тому +19

      Oh no. That is awful. He was so young. Christmas Eve will never be the same for you but that goes for every day now. I am so sorry you lost your son. ❤

    • @iamhis5580
      @iamhis5580 2 роки тому +30

      December 13, 2019 we lost our 25 year old son. It seems like yesterday on one hand and forever since I hugged him on the other. It’s terrible. There are no words
      Just hold onto Jesus
      This life is short. He is coming soon. I’m so so sorry that you are going through this. Jesus is our only hope. Our hearts will never be healed this side of heaven 💔🙏🏻

    • @praiseYAHalways
      @praiseYAHalways 2 роки тому +16

      @@iamhis5580 Thank you...you're right on all points, on every single one. as your name says....I am His too. I am so sorry you have to go through this too. Some days it seems unbearable for me and my wife will be my help then it seems we switch. This is so very hard.

    • @amberrhoads4892
      @amberrhoads4892 2 роки тому +29

      Hi Chris! I am so sorry to hear about your son. I too lost my son, Dusty (18yrs old), on November 8, 2019 in a horrific car crash. That pain, that very unique pain of losing a child that is beyond any human description, is something that nobody should ever have to endure. You could lose your spouse, parents, siblings, best friends and every other member of your family, but the pain that comes with losing a child is just unfathomable until you actually have lost a child yourself. There is NO comparison! I do not believe there is any darker, agonizing pain than this apart from losing multiple children. (Please nobody think I am saying one pain matters more than the other! I am just trying to help Chris understand how different this pain is compared to anything ever felt before) With that being said, i remember so many good intentioned comments about how painful and life ending it was were very discouraging for me. It made me feel like there was no hope! So I just want to take a minute to say, yes, this is the worst pain that exists. No, it does not ever go away. BUT, it will not be as "agonizing" one day. That feeling of "I just do not want to live anymore" believe it or not (as hard as it is to believe right now for you) eventually falls to the background. It is a very long, slow process. But it does happen...as long as you ALLOW it to happen. There are those that refuse to allow themselves to be happy ever again. There are some that refuse to search with all they have for even just a glimpse of light. If you are one of those, then the pain will rule you forever and you will never truly be happy again. However, if you search and search until you feel like there is no hope, and then keep searching some more & more. You will find that one day you aren't getting "beat up too bad" as Toby said. Then you will have another day that you aren't beat up that bad. Then another one later on. Then another one and another one. Until you start to feel a little relief. That is when you start learning that as painful as it is, there is a way to live again after such agony. I am still not "healed" from losing my boy! I never truly will be, I know that. But I am learning how to be happy again slowly but surely. Everyday is new and different. Not one day goes by that I do not miss and think about my boy. But I think the same exact thing about my son that Toby said he thinks about his son... "Mom, if you only knew! You have no idea what everything is all about. Don't be sad for me! I am better than I would have ever been before. You just wait until you see what I see!" One day we will all see the same thing and look back and say "if we only knew!" Stay strong and know that you can be happy again one day. It is going to feel like eternity, but it will happen. Prayers for you!

    • @praiseYAHalways
      @praiseYAHalways 2 роки тому +11

      @@amberrhoads4892 Thank you Amber, I will share this with my wife and children. Thank you

  • @heatherm1385
    @heatherm1385 2 роки тому +35

    Toby thank you for recording this video. My family has been grieving since 5-23-20. Our son passed away while serving in the Marine Corps. He was raised a Christian. Loved America. He told us God wanted him to be a Marine. It was the safest place he could be because of it. He went to Christian school from 3-18yrs old. Enlisted and became a Marine. The first year he went through Reconnaissance training that was 5-6 months long. He made it to the last month. He was removed from the platoon. He never told us the whole story. He kept moving forward. Tried to do infantry. But it wasn't enough for him. He made sniper training team (only two men out of his group made the cut). He had just made it through the first phase. It was May of 2020 and we were planning to see him for 4th of July. He was going to Kuwait on deployment in Oct. We received a call May 23 (Memorial Day weekend) that our son died of a fetanyl overdose. Shocked with unbelief we could not breathe. His fiance (wedding date 9-18-21), her father, myself and my youngest waited until we could gather the rest of our family to break the news to them. Our lives have never been the same. One thing I do ask God to help me through is reaching the 4 men and 1 woman that are indicted for the crime of distributing to him (a case that has went on for 20 months). I want to give them the hope of salvation that Jesus wants us all to have. I want to let them know that whatever their past looks like they can have much better future IN HIM. He has been helping me pray but I want to meet them and give them that message. I pray that we see our sons very soon. I have the hope of our savior returning for us and I can't help but look forward to the catching up first of those that went before us. Receiving their glorious bodies. Then the church still residing on this earth to meet up with them and getting our glorified bodies. Heaven is my home. I just stay here listening to who God wants me to talk to about His love. It's the best kind of love. You have put into words what was in my heart. I could not get that out. You have really made it clear. There is no promise going on in life without anything tragic or challenging happening. But we do have a promise that He is right here with us through every single thing. Holding us. Love you and your family.

    • @lorettamckey4481
      @lorettamckey4481 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. People do not understand that God's ultimate victory is to rise above a situation, by His grace and strength and for that other guilty party to be saved and the victory and glory to go to God for His mercy to all of us! None of us "deserve" Heaven or God's mercy, but He chooses to give it because of His unconditional love! God bless you for being wise enough to recognize this and go on forgiving and loving in spite of your loss!

  • @ricksolomon9166
    @ricksolomon9166 Рік тому +1

    While watching this I was overwhelmed with a voice that reminded me that our Lord grieves with us.

  • @fowlkeskm
    @fowlkeskm 10 місяців тому +3

    I lost my youngest daughter on July 21. I wouldn’t wish this pain on anyone.

  • @a.clifton220
    @a.clifton220 2 роки тому +335

    His last statement, "I didn't know God stayed close during those times," is so meaningful to me. When I was diagnosed with cancer in 2008, I remember wondering if God would stay close to me, a very imperfect follower of Christ. Of course, He did and I now have wonderful memories of that difficult time.

    • @lilyw9324
      @lilyw9324 2 роки тому +2

      ❤❤❤

    • @calledtobeadaughterofzion892
      @calledtobeadaughterofzion892 2 роки тому +2

      Shalom sister, He is Faithful. God Bless you!!!

    • @Johnrider1234
      @Johnrider1234 2 роки тому +1

      You dont have to be perfect. And you don’t follow him. You believe in him and his word. UA-cam pastor Richard Jordan. And stick with him for a couple years. UA-cam message of grace. Same pastor. Just believe

    • @natefaust7790
      @natefaust7790 2 роки тому +6

      I got a phone call from the VA informing me that I had tested positive for cancer. My 1st thought was they were wrong or kidding. I wanted them to be wrong so badly, but they weren’t wrong. I HAD cancer, the big “C” word. My 2nd thought was, OK God, how are WE going to get through this together? I put my faith in God to get me through everything. Not only did I survive cancer. But a blood bacteria and a stroke too. God was with me through everything.

    • @a.clifton220
      @a.clifton220 2 роки тому +3

      @@natefaust7790 I am so happy for you! As the world gets more insane and depraved each day, it's wonderful to know we can trust God to help us through whatever we may face. I'm fully expecting persecution if Jesus doesn't take us out of here soon.

  • @deborahaustin3258
    @deborahaustin3258 2 роки тому +245

    I’ve lost my only child at sweet 16 to childhood cancer. Your words were a blessing to me and I’m sharing, knowing it may help others. God bless you always.

    • @iamhis5580
      @iamhis5580 2 роки тому +5

      I’m so very sorry💔

    • @pennylan6466
      @pennylan6466 2 роки тому

      You made me cry

    • @brianr1165
      @brianr1165 2 роки тому

      ♥️

    • @JC-du6sn
      @JC-du6sn 2 роки тому

      Look up Andrew Wommack's A Better Way To Pray and Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇 You will see where she is.

    • @bruceowens7213
      @bruceowens7213 2 роки тому +3

      Hi Deborah I lost my only child at 8 years old from cancer in 2010. She would be going on 20 years old how time flies . I'll probably never be the same person I was , but I can laugh and smile again . It is the worst feeling that I have ever had to go through. Only the ones that have witnessed this pain can honestly know how it feels. I couldn't get through this on my own. I had to beg God to help me get through this , and he did . He let me be able to talk and share with other people my loss and offer to help them by talking if they choose too. God and time is how I'm making it through this life . One day , one month , one year etc. Is the only way . Stay strong

  • @aprilc7039
    @aprilc7039 2 роки тому +23

    I resonate with the “I don’t know if I’ll ever laugh as deeply”.. I struggle with finding the same laughter I had before loss and grief.

    • @davidpete5652
      @davidpete5652 Рік тому

      That’s great

    • @teresamiller7263
      @teresamiller7263 Рік тому +3

      I dont know that I will ever laugh as deeply. My grief raw, 11 days ago my son passed at 32 years old. It is a raging storm of pain, thank you for sharing your story. Noone should have to endure this.

  • @gretchenguichard1623
    @gretchenguichard1623 День тому

    I love how GOD USE YOU Toby. I lost my son 2yrs ago May 19th, week of my birthday. I am so glad that I brought my kids to Christ, that's what gets me through. I miss Lyle soooo much as I know you miss your son too. Thank you for your testimony and your songs cause they make me happy, get up and dance and they speak to me and all of us out there!!!!!
    Every time I think of your son..... I think of him singing on your songs and hearing his little voice when you tell him your gonna pay him with a " Mac Donald's Happy Meal"
    lol. His little voice stuck in my head❤. GOD Bless you. Keep writing Toby, Keep singing!!!!!😊 GI GI

  • @rcradney
    @rcradney 2 роки тому +73

    We lost our sweet son in Iraq - it’s taken a very very long time to find pure joy again- but it does happen 💓

    • @HelloHowAreYou480
      @HelloHowAreYou480 2 роки тому +4

      I’m sorry for your loss and thank you for his service

    • @StaceyBeryl
      @StaceyBeryl 2 роки тому +2

      I am so sorry for your loss. I am forever grateful for the ultimate sacrifice your son made and I do not take my freedom for granted. Truly our nations finest and most courageous.

    • @realpocahontas1776
      @realpocahontas1776 2 роки тому +2

      I am so sorry for your loss and I am sincerely thankful for his service. God bless you hun 🇺🇸❤️

    • @jeffalessi6317
      @jeffalessi6317 2 роки тому

      🙏❤️

    • @chrissparks3254
      @chrissparks3254 Рік тому

      @@realpocahontas1776 Amen 🙏

  • @Nrbrelic
    @Nrbrelic 2 роки тому +5

    Lost my Matthew April 9 2021.... I too no longer laugh deeper... breath deeper... care much about everyday things.... I miss him so much.....💔💔💔💔 I crave the Lord but don’t feel him....

    • @jmoss55ish
      @jmoss55ish 2 роки тому +2

      After our daughter died, I found comfort in the Book of Job. I cried EVERY.SINGLE.DAY for months. I loved Jesus, but I could not pray. What I found I could do, was to find something each day, that I could tell Him thank you. I found a book titled, “Just Enough Light For The Step I’m On” by Stormy Omartian. It’s an excellent read. My husband and I have probably given out 50 of them over the years. It takes time so don’t be hard on yourself. Oh, and GOD, He has you and He can handle your anger. This place? Is not our home.

    • @larrywalter6476
      @larrywalter6476 2 роки тому

      Hello NRB how are you doing?

    • @Nrbrelic
      @Nrbrelic 2 роки тому +1

      @@larrywalter6476 continuing to seek the Lord...and missing my son....caring for my husband who had open heart at Christmas...and being there for my daughter......praying to draw closer to the Lord...putting one foot in front of the other...

    • @larrywalter6476
      @larrywalter6476 2 роки тому

      @@Nrbrelic Okay that’s good. God is so wonderful. Where are you chatting from?

    • @larrywalter6476
      @larrywalter6476 2 роки тому

      @@Nrbrelic Hi where do you live?

  • @lifewithjackandnicole
    @lifewithjackandnicole 2 роки тому +26

    I lost my wife and best friend since high school in late 2019. Like you, I thought I understood grief and loss until it happened to me. I've come to the realization I will always be in love with my wife Pam, but now it's a long distance relationship with her in heaven and me here on earth. It's nowhere close to satisfying but until God calls me home I'll keep putting one foot in front of the other and where I can, help others thru their grief journey.

  • @dorajimenez8722
    @dorajimenez8722 5 днів тому

    Mr Mac, I'm sincerely sorry for the loss of your son. I lost my middle son at age 34, in 2017 leaving my only grandson. Then again lost my eldest son at age 39 in 2022. I'm super heart broken, tho my Jesus loves me so I know I am blessed. My heart is hurting but it have to keep moving forward. I have my only b grandson from my son that passed in 2017, he is now 13yrs. He's such a blessing.

  • @birgitdombrowski7119
    @birgitdombrowski7119 2 роки тому +102

    You are such an encouragement TobyMac. I lost my only son Aaron (24) just last year on April 29, 2021. I prayed for him daily. I prayed for the Prodigal to come home. …God heard my prayers. Your song 21 years. In the light means a lot. Aaron actually means “One of Light”Thank you!

    • @JC-du6sn
      @JC-du6sn 2 роки тому +4

      Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

    • @SheResellsSeashells
      @SheResellsSeashells 2 роки тому +8

      I prayed for my boy too...and God did the ultimate healing and took him home. His ways are not our ways. As hard as it is, I know that God loves my son more than I ever could. We will be reunited one day.

  • @sirissacnewton7193
    @sirissacnewton7193 2 роки тому +15

    I lost my son to suicide 2/14/2019. The most terrible thing a parent can face is losing a child. The grief does come in waves. At work the other day a co-worker who does not even have kids told me that I’m stuck in grief and I have to let him go. It really made me angry because she’s got no idea of what it feels like. She didn’t know me before I lost my son, or when I lost him to see how far I’ve come since. She just wouldn’t shut up about it. Thank God the phone rang so the conversation would end. People who haven’t gone through this have no right to tell someone how to grieve and when to stop. I will never stop grieving for my child.

    • @crazycrissy77
      @crazycrissy77 10 місяців тому +2

      I lost my daughter to suicide on 6/30/2022, just over a yr ago. And I feel every way you said. My grief comes in waves and has hit me like an avalanche the 3 months leading up to the 1 yr anniversary. Not to mention Mother's day just a couple months ago. I am now seeing a counselor because I finally realized I need someone outside my friends and family to talk to. They can't help me anymore thru this. I try to turn it over to God, but it is really harder than it sounds. It's almost like I've been keeping my grief all to myself like it's my little baby or something, I don't know. But, I am finally trying now to reach out beyond myself to get through this, as much as I can. Ik I am changed forever and will never go back to the person I once was. The journey of grief lasts forever when you've lost a part of yourself, your child. I hope we both can get to a place where we can find peace again in our "new normal" that we must live in now...

    • @Reggypeacenotwar
      @Reggypeacenotwar 7 місяців тому +2

      Don't engage with to these insensitive people.

    • @gingerbee6719
      @gingerbee6719 4 місяці тому

      How abhorrent of her to say that to you. I lost my Beloved son Erek 28 yr. I understand sadly & carry the same horrific Grief of losing my son. My sweet Erek I miss u..
      Sending u light....🕯🕯

    • @sirissacnewton7193
      @sirissacnewton7193 4 місяці тому

      @@gingerbee6719I am so sorry 😢. Nothing takes the pain away of losing a child.

  • @annatackett7341
    @annatackett7341 2 роки тому

    My son passed away 5 years ago...my life changed immediately. Praise God he was a Christian! It was sudden and unexpected. I felt like the earth opened up and swallowed me. I clung to God's promise of being reunited with our loved ones in Heaven. Along with my Savior I will see Ash again.

  • @sharoncasados510
    @sharoncasados510 9 місяців тому +6

    I always think of the virgin Mary who lost her son, three days later, she was singing praises, because she knew he was still alive..and that's where your son is, with our savior, and that's where we all want to be.

  • @mtrac9786
    @mtrac9786 Рік тому +4

    I have been lost for over three months now after the unexpectant passing of my 33 year old daughter. The grief and pain is overwhelming. I have been searching for answers, searching for an understanding, a perspective that I did not know or to validate what I now think and believe. This search has brought me here to listen to TobyMac's loss. I wept when I heard the words "God promised us that he would never leave us or forsake us." I truly believe that as I feel the strength given to me to overcome the grief when I pray and ask for strength. My thoughts are now cemented ... the Lord came to my daughter while she was peacefully asleep, smiled and filled her heart with overwhelming love. The Lord put his hand out and said "come with me" whereby she willingly took his hand and went with the Lord to Heaven. The only comfort I have is that I know she is there with the Lord and I will see her when my time comes...... Thank you TobyMac for sharing it meant a lot to hear what you had to say. Also, to all that have shared your loss, may you find peace through prayer.

  • @RenewalCreations
    @RenewalCreations 2 роки тому +12

    God promised us that if we mourn, we will be comforted, and that weeping may last for the night, but joy will come in the morning.

  • @carmentaylor3706
    @carmentaylor3706 2 роки тому

    Toby, God doesn’t just stay with you through your hard times, he carries you through them. Praying for you and your family.

  • @paulawoods7402
    @paulawoods7402 10 місяців тому +2

    I also lost a child, my daughter Billie-Jo she passed over at the tender age of 8 months.
    I saw the angels come for her that morning. I grieved rawly for 12 years crying every day.
    Until I eventually as the Lord back into my heart.
    I haven't cried any tears for 2years now ❤❤❤ praise the Lord..He fixed my broken heart..I will see my little girl again someday but until then I'll serve the Lord whatever way he needs me 🙏

  • @ctgeorgia
    @ctgeorgia 2 роки тому +67

    As a dad to two girls...
    There is hardly a day that goes by when my heart doesn't skip a beat when crazy random thoughts fly through my head about something happening to one of them. It takes my breath away and I immediately pick up the phone and call them...and if they don't answer immediately I almost have a panic attack....but then when they pick up the phone and say, "Hey, Daddy"...I almost cry from relief. I guess being a parent means you'll always worry and love your children...even when they're grown.
    I'm so sorry for your loss. No parent should ever bury his/her child.

    • @Ephesians-yn8ux
      @Ephesians-yn8ux Рік тому +3

      This right here. The fear of being a parent and not being able to imagine life without them is my greatest fear.
      God bless

    • @Go2God
      @Go2God 6 місяців тому +1

      I used to feel the same.. That is why 3 months ago when I got the call. They didn't have to say much for me to slam the phone down and try not to listen because ........ I actually got the call. It was a stranger on the other line saying that they had what remained of my son.. It was a car accident. Twenty six years old. Search a beautiful young man.💦.. My baby. My baby boy . . God's timing. He☝️ will see me thru.🙏💥

    • @ctgeorgia
      @ctgeorgia 6 місяців тому +1

      @@Go2God My heart sinks reading this. I cannot fathom. Truly I can't. Takes my breath away. Even think of it. In fact, my mom just entered hospice and it's been horrible. This week. The thought of losing my child would potentially be too much for me. I know that God says he would never give us any more than we can handle though. I'll never understand the meaning behind things like this, but I know that God feels pain, too. After all, he allowed his only child to be treated inhumanely, tortured, and eventually murdered. He is all powerful and he could have stopped it with only a whisper. However, he allowed it to happen. I could never allow my child to go through anything terrible. It just goes to show how much God loves us. I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you.

  • @fellinloveinmaui
    @fellinloveinmaui 2 роки тому +164

    Losing my little brother has been the hardest trial of my life but seeing our Dad hurting so deeply even as a Christian hurts me the most. Mom has Dementia and hasn't been told but some how she knows one of her children has passed away and how. We all say to one another, how do non believers get through this? 💔

    • @rachellharlan2435
      @rachellharlan2435 2 роки тому +12

      I'm so sorry. Please remember that Jesus loves you! And I love you too! One day Jesus will wipe all the tears from your eyes. I promise you!
      💛🫂💛

    • @JC-du6sn
      @JC-du6sn 2 роки тому +3

      Look up Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

    • @samanthafrancis8159
      @samanthafrancis8159 2 роки тому +5

      So sorry for your loss. God only knows! If I didn’t know that God was beside my family and I, we wouldn’t be able to cope with the passing of my brother. I just wish my parents would pull close to Jesus the way that I have. Some use other vices like alcohol or food. When people struggle with memory issues, such as myself, I wholeheartedly believe they cope in their own way, without their families knowledge.
      I have short-term memory loss as one of the aftermaths of a stroke after brain surgery.
      I know it’s not the same circumstance, but whether or not you’re aware, you’re brother is an Angel watching over you and your family! God Bless!

    • @fellinloveinmaui
      @fellinloveinmaui 2 роки тому +6

      @@samanthafrancis8159 So sorry for your loss! The day after I got home I woke up and looked out the sliding doors and saw an Angel plain as day in the sky right in front of my eyes with a fish tail. We called our littlest brother Fishy Kev. I wish I could show you the picture. For me that was God telling me Kevin made it to Heaven and he is always with us. So many signs since then have been presented. God is so good! May you be blessed in every way possible. 🙏❤🥰

    • @fellinloveinmaui
      @fellinloveinmaui 2 роки тому +3

      @@rachellharlan2435 Thank you so much! God bless! ❤️

  • @amyobrien8076
    @amyobrien8076 11 днів тому

    My 12 year old daughter took her life April 13, 2024. Thank you for sharing your story. I know God is with us in this pain.

  • @karlynhorneck4087
    @karlynhorneck4087 2 роки тому

    Hugs to you Toby, my 21 yr old Son passed in my husband's arms at work. He was electrocuted. He brought him back 3 times. Then he stopped Breathing 2 times at the hospital. He chose to be an organ donor. We honored his wishes. I have learned to trust God, and find the good in every bad situation. God orchestrated something beautiful.. He used my Son Draven to save 4 people. A 56 yr old woman received His heart, A 57 yr old man his liver, a 34 yr old woman his kidney and a 26 yr old female his other kidney. Wonderful stories of life and love through Christ. I'm so honored to be Dravens Mom.

  • @kelbearmama
    @kelbearmama 2 роки тому +19

    To have The Lord give you a dream of your child hugging you and allowing you to know he’s so happy is such a gift!! It doesn’t take grief away, but helps!!

  • @Bigglesworth9
    @Bigglesworth9 Рік тому +4

    This shredded me… but in a healing way. I just lost my daughter. Thanks so much for this, thank you Toby for sharing your journey

    • @melissac6774
      @melissac6774 3 місяці тому

      Sending you the biggest virtual hugs! I lost my son Sept 2019, so I understand your pain. Just keep hanging on to Jesus, read your Bible, especially Job and Psalms. 🙏🏻

  • @susanpfeiffer2185
    @susanpfeiffer2185 8 місяців тому +2

    Let me start by saying that I am so sorry for your loss. My daughter passed away a little over a year ago due to an overdose. I was so broken. But I knew, then ... and I know now ... that she loves Jesus. After a few months of praying every single day for some sign that she is with Jesus, He showed me. He took me out of my body for a short time ... I died. I saw colors of God's promise, the rainbow and I saw her face ... not her human face, but I recognized her ... and I felt peace, peace beyond all understanding. She wore a smile bigger than I've ever seen on her face in her life here. I knew, I know ... she is home. Faith ... belief ... prayer ... God's Word - The Bible ... Worship ... draw closer to Him and He will give you the desires of your heart.

  • @annetteveil8674
    @annetteveil8674 Місяць тому

    God doesn't take away all our pain but walks thru it with us. I am so sorry for your loss!

  • @NJW2913
    @NJW2913 Рік тому +24

    We lost my little brother Isaac. He was 25 to an over dose like Toby’s son. I miss him everyday. It’s been 9 months I cry daily still. He was a bright light full of life and love but also struggles with addiction. Knowing he’s in heaven healed from his bondage is the only peace I have.

  • @tatermonkey74
    @tatermonkey74 2 роки тому +52

    I lost my daughter in 2015 she was 22. Our family has always loved Toby and rocked his music especially my kids. We turned to his music to help cling on to God. When Truett passed away, and Toby released 21 years, it all made sense! Not that any parent wishes this on someone. Seeing Toby and Amanda’s journey and walking along side of them and seeing even their tough days of believing, it really helped to know God gives people struggles to help others who need it. 21 years is a song I listen to a lot, to be reminded that though grief there is a bigger picture and Gods ultimate promise of never forsaken us.
    Toby I just want to say thank you for sharing your journey. Seeing the vulnerability and knowing your not alone has been a life saver for many. 🤙🏻🙏🏻❤️

    • @kimalonzo3363
      @kimalonzo3363 2 роки тому +2

      So sorry. She was very young.

    • @birgitdombrowski7119
      @birgitdombrowski7119 2 роки тому +1

      God has you, Amanda, in Heaven
      But I have you in my heart ❤️

    • @JC-du6sn
      @JC-du6sn 2 роки тому +1

      Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

  • @danettedennis4852
    @danettedennis4852 Місяць тому

    😢 ❤ 🙏 🕊 prayers to every single one of you who have lost a child or children 🙏 ❤ 💙 😢 the stories 🙏 are abundant and he knows every single one of their names 🙌

  • @patmcdaniel6379
    @patmcdaniel6379 2 роки тому +27

    Dec.3,1995 I received the words every mother Hope's she will never here, your children are gone. Brandon, 7 and Christy, 5 were taken from me in a murder suicide by their father. It is only by the grace of God that I am still here going on 27 years later. I always believed there was a Heaven but, when my kids passed away, Heaven became real in a way I never expected. I hold on to the promise God gave me, Proverbs 3:5&6. Psalms 46:1.I know I will see Brandon and Christy again and that's a day I look forward to EVERY day!!🙌🏻❤❤🙌🏻

  • @kissed_by_sunshine_10
    @kissed_by_sunshine_10 26 днів тому +1

    Grief will never end. The loss of a loved one is so painful and there is nothing that anyone can ever say or do that will lessen that pain. Eventually the human comes out of it with the idea that life must go on but we never forget and we never stop grieving.

  • @hiswayservicesblog9288
    @hiswayservicesblog9288 2 роки тому +118

    Our cousin, as close as a sister, lost her husband to Covid this morning. He left behind a sweet wife, and three young children. I can't believe it happened to them, ater all they've already been through. She's clinging to God, but it hurts.

    • @beekeeper6778
      @beekeeper6778 2 роки тому +3

      Praying hard for all of you ❤ Just remember He always has a plan.

    • @rebeccaconn389
      @rebeccaconn389 2 роки тому +5

      I lost my husband to Covid in aug (2021) … just over 4 months ago … the pain is tough, but Gods grace is so present. I ask God everyday to take my pain and give me happy memories and strength. He does ❤️. Life will never be the same. But it can still be good. 🙏🏻

    • @hiswayservicesblog9288
      @hiswayservicesblog9288 2 роки тому +1

      @@beekeeper6778 Right. Thank you

    • @hiswayservicesblog9288
      @hiswayservicesblog9288 2 роки тому

      @@rebeccaconn389 With His help, yes.

    • @JC-du6sn
      @JC-du6sn 2 роки тому +1

      Get a copy of Within Heaven's Gates by Rebecca Springer 😇

  • @laurachilongo3995
    @laurachilongo3995 2 роки тому +12

    Prayers to all you parents who have lost a child at any age. We lost our four year old son Israel September 19th 2020. It's been the worst pain and with God's help we are able to keep going for our other three kids. Each day brings so much pain. Biggest Hugs to all you parent's 🫂

  • @ShannonAdams-sg6ev
    @ShannonAdams-sg6ev 10 місяців тому +3

    I fully understand the situation of a lose I was a drug addict for 25 years got clean 9 years ago and covid struck and swolled my daughter and she passed away I am still sober that's how I keep it with my daughter God is awesome because he showed me the way of soberness my daughter you to ask me was I ever going to get sober I am so thankful that she got to see me beat the addiction and stay sober and now she sees me still being sober and clean. I Miss you DeAna N Adams 03/20/98 09/11/21❤

  • @shaly642
    @shaly642 Рік тому

    Toby came to sing in my city and our people showed him so much love. We appreciate how vulnerable he was with us. God is good and is still working with him and his heart. God is near the broken hearted and I believe that fully.

  • @Hillside-Hive
    @Hillside-Hive 2 роки тому +165

    The never laughing as hard or smiling as big as before... that got me. Sweet Sam has been gone 5 years, 3 months and 2 days. Haven't been the same. I know where my son is and with his loss I lost the innocent part of myself that didn't "know" grief. I know it now. One day we'll reunite but until then, I'm a changed person.
    Thank you Toby, raised my kids on you (12 kids) and still to this day.

    • @71nettie
      @71nettie 2 роки тому +5

      Truly sad..he is a wonderful performer..but on the other hand..grief is hard..I hope he can laugh really hard again someday..amen

    • @irenedeleon1614
      @irenedeleon1614 2 роки тому +6

      I lost my grandchild his parents divorced n then my husband I show this video to my recently widower friend. yes! it's true he said we will never smile nor laugh fully again. My heart go to u Toby I'm very sorry. ur not alone can't stop my tears

    • @Ronday30
      @Ronday30 2 роки тому +7

      Woah!! 12 beautiful children! That’s a huge blessing. God bless you ma’am and may the rest of your days be strong in the Lord regardless what happens in life ❤️🙏🏾

    • @aikensrus
      @aikensrus 2 роки тому +4

      God bless you. Either your smile and laughter will return in glory, bigger and more joyful and more pure than in your "lost innocent" days; or it will be replaced by something even greater and more glorious. No eye has seen, no ear has heard, ...

    • @elizabethl3323
      @elizabethl3323 2 роки тому +3

      It changes you forever ❤

  • @danielgo9456
    @danielgo9456 Рік тому +11

    This weekend was the first anniversary of my my 20 year old son’s death from fentanyl poisoning. A close friend send me your song “21” to listen with my 16 yr old son.
    I’m overwhelmed and softened by your story, and stories of countless others in the comment section. Thank you for opening doors that afford me permission to feel and patiently heal. You are so courageous possessing the ability to talk and sing without choking up.

  • @ebonythomas7489
    @ebonythomas7489 11 місяців тому +1

    Someone sent me here, I lost my 18 year old son last week to gun violence he was a innocent bystander trying to stop a fight & got killed, I can’t say wrong place wrong time cause he was at my moms visiting her so he actually got killed in front my mama house by a 15 year old kid & Lord I’m hurting he was truly a good kid & full time dad to a 2 year little girl trying to work & take care of her, I’m taking care of now & I can’t get pass the hurt & pain that he wasn’t doing anything wrong but this video helped me a lot but I am heart broken…thank you for this

  • @williamramsey2719
    @williamramsey2719 2 роки тому

    I lost my Son 02/11/2020 and I'm thankful and Grateful that God has walked with me everyday. My boy had given his heart to Jesus and is walking with Jesus as well and I can't wait to see him again. Praying for you and your family as we walk this road together at a distance.

  • @teviswest
    @teviswest 2 роки тому +63

    My wife and I have lost two of our children. The most recent was with our 19 year old son. He battled with an aggressive cancer (Ewing Sarcoma) for almost a year and he just recently passed away on Dec. 30th 2021. It still hurts so bad and is the hardest thing to go through. Several people ask us how we're doing and now the only thing I can think of in response is just like what Toby mentioned, it comes in waves. One moment you feel like things are going okay and then all of a sudden a flood of painful emotions knock you down. But I am so thankful for the hope and strength in the Lord that helps us through those waves and to help pick us back up each time. I am encouraged to know and reminded that He is always with me and cares how I feel.
    Psalm 34:18

    • @mmich59_
      @mmich59_ 2 роки тому +1

      Tevis, may our God comfort you and your wife in ways you never thought imagined in Jesus Name. God bless you, brother.

    • @janethagen3385
      @janethagen3385 2 роки тому +1

      I am touched by the depth of your broken heart. I understand. My family suffered the loss of our 20 yr old son/brother in an accident 36 yrs. ago!! I remember feeling like a giant black hole swallowed up my family in grief. I don’t know how God put us back together, but He did. He will do the same for you. God bless

    • @monicablanco-cervantes402
      @monicablanco-cervantes402 2 роки тому +1

      I'm so very sorry that you have to go through this. I lost my only son 4 months ago. He had just turn 29 the month before he passed. This is the WORST EXCRUCIATING pain of my life. God help us just to breath and function for the rest of our lives.

    • @thisisme3238
      @thisisme3238 2 роки тому

      @@monicablanco-cervantes402 Sorry for your loss 🙏 Toby explained it very well when he said, " it goes in waves," how very true that statement really is...just remember this, "....For with God, all things are possible." Matthew 19:26 KJV 🙏🛐✝️❣️🇺🇲

  • @traciesandoval2882
    @traciesandoval2882 2 роки тому +30

    I lost my oldest son on his 25th birthday June 20,2020. A woman drove drunk on the wrong side of the road hitting my son's car killing him instantly. I never knew pain and heartache like that. I've lost both my parents, my late husband of 18yrs, but losing my son was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. My new husband, my other 2 son's, some family and few friends helped me through it as best they could. I was so angry at that woman but I'm learning to forgive and trust God. It was so hard for me, I miss my son's smile, his laughter, etc. I have moments where I feel so alone and all I can do is cry. But I'm learning to try to smile and try to live again.

    • @cristinaxo
      @cristinaxo 2 роки тому +4

      I am so incredibly sorry for you loss Tracie. Sending healing prayers your way and may the comfort of God be with you. 🙏

    • @traciesandoval2882
      @traciesandoval2882 2 роки тому +2

      Thank you so much.

    • @ThesoundofSilenceshh
      @ThesoundofSilenceshh 2 роки тому +3

      Thank you for sharing. You have my empathy. Sending comfort as only the Holy Spirit can comfort!!

    • @yobabybubba
      @yobabybubba 2 роки тому +3

      Oh my goodness I'm so sorry for your loss, especially your son. Praying for the peace that surpasses on the standing.

    • @traciesandoval2882
      @traciesandoval2882 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you, all the prayers and thoughts are much appreciated.

  • @paulwilson6261
    @paulwilson6261 8 місяців тому +1

    I lost my 24 year old Son Garrett in 2013 in a car accident. His absence is forever present. The pain may get a little gentler but it is always there. I miss him SO much each day. I lost his future. He has a little girl who was 2 at the time. Watching her have to grow up without him is so hard.

  • @amarilysdelanuez2597
    @amarilysdelanuez2597 Рік тому

    Wow I give God all the honor and all the glory and praise. He will see us thru all. My son was diagnosed with cancer. I freaked out I kept asking why him Lord. But he is now a cancer survivor. I'm a breast cancer survivor for 21 years.

  • @beckyc811
    @beckyc811 2 роки тому +13

    We lost our beautiful son, Michael, at the age of 14. That was 18 years ago. If it had not been for our relationship with Jesus Christ my husband and I never would have survived. Our church family was there for us. Our work families were there for us. I thank God for them. There are still days that my heart and my arms ache to hold my boy again. But I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that I will see him again. I look forward to that day. We love you Toby Mac! You and your family are in our prayers.

  • @jeffalessi6317
    @jeffalessi6317 2 роки тому +3

    Keep your head up, to anyone reading this remember your have a strength you cannot imagine. In the hardest of times that strength comes out and he’s your lord and savior. 🙏❤️

    • @WarrenScandrick-qh2ry
      @WarrenScandrick-qh2ry 10 місяців тому

      Extremely well said. God bless you for sharing this sentiment with so many of us who need comforting.

  • @patmeyers693
    @patmeyers693 2 роки тому

    Toby, my (almost 11 yo) grandson has connected to your music in a special way. We have had custody of him for 3+ yrs and he is a gift. He is old enough now that he talks openly about his parents drug addiction and is growing his faith, thru his questioning. When he empties the dishwasher he tells Alexa to "play Toby Mac". He is rocking out, holding a spatula as a mike, and really gets into it. I thank you for your music. This child needs it, and he is embracing it. You are a blessing to all of us. I am so sorry for your loss of your son. Thank you for talking about your grief.

  • @heidibey274
    @heidibey274 2 роки тому +59

    I can't listen to this song without crying. I lost my son in 2007 there weeks before his nineteenth birthday. He passed after being hit by a car. He was my best friend my gift from God. Anyway, love you, your family all that ya'all stand for. God is good, we will see our boys again. Thank you, peace brother.❤️🙏👍

  • @jonathanmontalvo100
    @jonathanmontalvo100 2 роки тому +125

    Prayers for Toby and his family. I can't imagine the pain :(

    • @cheriewells8786
      @cheriewells8786 2 роки тому +6

      I am living this pain lost my 26 yr old daughter in 2015 car accident i will not say time will heal all wounds that would be telling a lie but what i will say God will heal all wounds in time. Still to this day i am still hurting and cry memories is all we have to hold onto my heart goes out to you 🖤We have joined a club we never signed up for The Club Of Grieving Parents🖤

    • @melodysledgister2468
      @melodysledgister2468 2 роки тому +2

      @@cheriewells8786The Club of grieving parents, yep. God be with you, Cherie. I'm sorry, and I'm praying.

    • @kaylamarsh2319
      @kaylamarsh2319 2 роки тому

      Amen

  • @janemitchell8003
    @janemitchell8003 2 роки тому +3

    Jesus gathered my 37 year old son Stephen into HIS MIGHTY Arms 3 weeks ago.
    I am getting up the courage to listen to this.
    Stephen had mental and physical challenges.
    He is FREE but my heart is broken💔

  • @blancacanales5981
    @blancacanales5981 2 роки тому

    In life’s trials will laugh and smile deeply because God’s with us in every storm. He’s with us in everything that happens to us and will never leave us or forsake us. We serve an awesome God!!!

  • @user-or2hl3vo4b
    @user-or2hl3vo4b 10 місяців тому +2

    Like TobyMac I had never known grief before as I know it now. I have known the profound sadness that comes with losing a loved one, but to become acquainted with the grief that comes with losing a child is something completely incomprehensible. Our community, our precious bubble is what has kept us breathing, kept our heads above water. The waves that he mentions come without warning. They are chaotic. They are catastrophic and they hurt. Physically hurt. Our special people have stood in the gap. They have guarded our hearts, protected us from those who are curious and have prayed for us because, as the Lord knows, we are finding it hard right now to do that. I only have one prayer and that can never be answered. Six months down this treacherous road the shock that kept us numb is wearing off and the pain is intensifying even more. This is something I didn’t expect. Grief is a fickle process, a horrible necessity and it can be very, very cruel.

  • @Jasminegonzlz
    @Jasminegonzlz 2 роки тому +49

    Parents shouldn’t have to bury their children. 😭
    Can’t stop crying.

    • @americasamericas5782
      @americasamericas5782 2 роки тому +4

      It's not promised

    • @samanthafrancis8159
      @samanthafrancis8159 2 роки тому +2

      My mom said the same thing when my youngest brother passed at 32 in 2020. My bro lost his battle with addiction and left behind two beautiful daughters.
      Grief comes in waves Toby. We’re continuing to pray for you and your family!

    • @bruceowens7213
      @bruceowens7213 2 роки тому +5

      No we shouldn't have to jasmine . I never thought I would ever even imagine something like this , and one day the phone rang . That was the beginning of a long confusing process that I still wonder WHY ? . . . This was happening to me . One day at a time .

    • @lovesilk1
      @lovesilk1 2 роки тому

      @@bruceowens7213 Tears reading your comment. Gentle hug to you Bruce

    • @Lyndsay-jh2um
      @Lyndsay-jh2um 2 роки тому +1

      @@bruceowens7213 I will never understand, ever. The heart ache you face can never be completely healed. My son was a baby and passed in 2008. Having to go through a photo book and pick out a two foot coffin is gut wrenching (I did not know they were even made this small until I was faced with no other choice but to find out). I hope time helps you with your loss, but after this many years I still have days where it feels the band aid was just torn off without the wound being healed 😭

  • @dorisjecminek9278
    @dorisjecminek9278 Рік тому +3

    It is painful. Everyone’s pain is their pain. I lost my daughter 5 years ago. I am so grateful I have Jesus in my life and He has carried me through several deaths in my family. Blessings and comfort to all who travel this journey.

  • @angelawold103
    @angelawold103 7 місяців тому +2

    I lost my son exactly the same way that you did. Man this is so hard but I too am relying on God for all my remaining days here without my boy.

  • @lavenderandgold8588
    @lavenderandgold8588 Місяць тому

    I remember I stumbled upon this video not long after it was posted. And now I’m back here after the death of my sister. There’s no preparing you for this kind of pain but if you let Him, God will come and comfort you.

  • @angiethompson9549
    @angiethompson9549 2 роки тому +100

    The day after Preston passed, my husband was awaken around 2am by my son and a Angel. He told my husband “this place is beautiful, I see fish and my dog and it’s just awesome Dad!!” Then he was gone.

    • @mjmh7050
      @mjmh7050 2 роки тому +9

      Wow, reading that gives me a lot of hope.

    • @lispan3768
      @lispan3768 2 роки тому +5

      That is so beautiful

    • @acpfeiffer6057
      @acpfeiffer6057 2 роки тому +7

      I am praying that the God of all comfort will give you strength to continue in faith. I understand that in the loss of a child, the pain never truly goes away. But I caution you to test visions. Not all of them are of God. (1 Jn 4:1-3) I'm concerned because in your husband's there is no mention of the best thing about heaven: God's full, indescribable glory. I have watched family members abandon Christ himself to chase visions and dreams. Please be careful.

    • @mmommo-hx4dx
      @mmommo-hx4dx 2 роки тому +3

      wow that's awesome thanks for encouragement

    • @mytruthslays1303
      @mytruthslays1303 2 роки тому +7

      I had the exact same dream a week after my sister died. It was just as real as speaking to someone in person. It changed my life and my perspective of the afterlife from that moment.

  • @dianac.9143
    @dianac.9143 2 роки тому +29

    just finding out about Tobys loss. i loss my only child my 16yr old son, no warning from illness. hospital wouldnt give em treatment due to money 1st. his body shut down then cardiac arrest. its been awhile but ill never get over it. you just go numb. it still hurts ,i still feel the anger. i know God is with me. he will bring me to my son when its my time to go.

  • @EVIESECOND
    @EVIESECOND 2 роки тому

    Oh, blessed Redeemer, what a joyful day when we see our loved ones again! Grief for my daughter makes me draw closer to our Savior and Lord Jesus Christ.

  • @sondragonzalez6764
    @sondragonzalez6764 10 місяців тому +1

    I never knew grief until I lost my mama. Grief was the hardest emotion I have ever felt. Two years of waves. I would wright poetry that wouldn’t make sense to someone who hadn’t experienced it.
    Grief rocked my soul. I’m truly sorry for the loss of your son. May God give you His strength to see the humble grace grief brings. ❤💔💔

  • @paulettelawrence6680
    @paulettelawrence6680 2 роки тому +15

    Toby you’ve been given so much wisdom…you are so RIGHT! To leave this earth early is not a negative…. It’s a gift…those that leave here DO NOT WANT TO COME BACK… it’s so beautiful there and you are free of the weightiness of life…..you will see your son again one day…and no more tears …God holds every tear we cry to turn them into joy for our eternity…God bless you and your family! ❤️🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤️

  • @thewheeldealstradingjournal
    @thewheeldealstradingjournal 2 роки тому +133

    My daughter committed suicide on September 5, 2019. It still hurts a lot, but God and time heals all wounds:) Let Go and Let God!

    • @americasamericas5782
      @americasamericas5782 2 роки тому +1

      Amen.

    • @victorjohnson5766
      @victorjohnson5766 2 роки тому +16

      I understand the pain. My Son committed Suicide, January 7th 2022. He left a wife and 3 Children. GOD is seeing us through.

    • @yobabybubba
      @yobabybubba 2 роки тому +4

      @@victorjohnson5766 so so sorry. God-bless you. So sorry for both of you.

    • @susanmcguire4664
      @susanmcguire4664 2 роки тому +1

      I am very sorry for your loss. No parent should feel this devastation and pain xoxo

    • @susanmcguire4664
      @susanmcguire4664 2 роки тому +1

      @@victorjohnson5766 I am very sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you xoxo

  • @scarletday9497
    @scarletday9497 10 місяців тому

    I lost my husband suddenly 227 days ago. I watch videos at night about heaven to help me sleep. I don't feel like I'll ever be happy again. Your music helps me.

  • @endtimeslastdays7777
    @endtimeslastdays7777 2 роки тому

    Prayers for Toby and His wife and family and all who have lost someone.
    We lost our son in December 2012, he had brain cancer, he was 24 years old, I still shed tears and I miss him so very much.
    But God has helped us and still helping us through it all

  • @conniedean3787
    @conniedean3787 2 роки тому +4

    Thank-you for sharing this, it will help all of us who have lost a child, I lost my son Michael at the age of 28 in 2013 (I donated a kidney) and my daughter at the age of 18 had a drug overdose and had a cardiac arrest - she did not get enough oxygen to the brain in time at the age of 18 in 1997 and could not talk, walk, was blind and on a feeding tube in a wheelchair for 20 years and died at the age of 38 in 2017, I visited her every day and took her home for visits, I spent 30 years in and out of hospitals, for the past 8 years I have been traveling now, I feel like it is a miracle from God and my children sent me to London, Paris, Switzerland, Italy, Ireland and Portugal and Israel the Holy Land, I did not go there to have fun IT WAS A HEALING experience, - that is what helps me. I have another son who is 40 now and misses his brother and sister.

  • @angelashrope5782
    @angelashrope5782 2 роки тому +4

    Thank TobyMac for staying real in pain and humble in public. You are an example of a Christian I long to be.

  • @trinigal215
    @trinigal215 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your grief journey! I loss my daughter unexpectedly 11/4/22. My heart is broken in many pieces!💔 My faith was shaken but I know God is the only one I can put my trust in to bring me through this dark valley!😭💔

  • @magdasaurer6017
    @magdasaurer6017 9 місяців тому +1

    I always pray for all of us going through the loss of a child! Nothing compares to losing my son, I have been reading and searching the word of God more, and I believe we will see them again. I am sorry that you can't smile, I do, at all times because, like you said, it comes on waves and different feelings, but in the same moments I get reminded that Jesus was, is and he will be in control until we get to hug again ❤️. I don't think a soul can deal with so much sorrow if it wasn't by the love of God. I'll be praying that God will bring joy to your heart by knowing that you will be united with him after the journey of life on earth. 6:51

  • @emmaplatford4849
    @emmaplatford4849 2 роки тому +6

    I lost my only son October 13th, 2020. I never knew grief before this. I know my boy is home, but the pain that crushes me and leaves me hemorrhaging every single day is only survivable through the grace of God and my depth of belief that one day soon I will join my boy and that is eternal. My boy told me his last night that Jesus was his best friend and that in and of itself does give me peace, but the pain is always there. I thank you for sharing your story. God bless you and your loved ones.

  • @qqq1q1qqqqqqq
    @qqq1q1qqqqqqq 2 роки тому +5

    Praise God, I've never lost a child. My cousin just lost her 26 year old son a week ago. I can see the unbelievable grief on her face and in her eyes. I can't imagine the grief a parent goes through losing their child. No matter the age. I lost my husband less than four months ago. As a mother seeing her children lose their father, that was tough. The aftermath -- a son trying to learn to be a father to his new son, without his father around...that's tough. This is a wonderful video. I just shared it with my son. He is struggling and needs something to hold on to. He is 36 but losing his dad is devastating to him. Especially only eight days after his newborn son came into the world. He never got to see his Grandpa. My husband never got to hold his only grandson. The pain, the grief, it isn't for just a day or a week. I love what he said about the grief coming in waves. Makes so much sense to me right now. I had a wave last night. So glad God showed me this today. It was definitely needed. Sorry if I'm all over the place. This rattled me a little. But what he said about community coming around you in your darkest hour is true. I saw that with my cousins this last week. They were totally surrounded by love and compassion. Sadly, my family did not do that for us when my husband passed away. We were left on our own. It has cost us relationships with those who should have been closest to us. That, I think, has been harder than losing my husband was. A friend and a couple of work family members stepped into fill that gap. They were solid when the blood family wasn't. It can make all the difference. Even if you don't know what to say, just be there. It helps more than you know!!!

  • @karolinaciucias664
    @karolinaciucias664 2 місяці тому

    'Leaving this earth early isn't necessarily a rip-off.' Toby, this is profound. Having this revealed to you sustains me as well. Your song 'faithufully' truly is a gift to Christians. I pray for strength for you and your family, and that you will experience God's peace in amazing ways.

  • @Sandy-tr4dq
    @Sandy-tr4dq 2 роки тому +1

    Thank You Brother for being Transparent, Real & for sharing God’s Perspective 👍♥️✝️🩸😇🙏