See, when I got my first real therapist in 2016, she wanted me to jump onto meds so fast and basically told me that I had all my answers, that I was too lazy to pursue those answers. Jump to last year, I met a wonderful therapist who had gotten me out of a dark place, and we found a balance of meds and talking. I absolutely adore my current therapist and I am doing so much better now versus before. Don't be afraid to take meds, they do help sometimes. It's hard finding the right med and dosage, but once you get there it helps a ton. Keep cruising along guys, gaps and non binary pals!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I am one of those people who did all the "right" things. Tried out a couple types of therapists (am still working with a fabulous one), changed my lifestyle and diet, and am managing my chronic illnesses as best as I am able. I was still drowning. I've been on several antidepressants and adhd meds. Some of them worked, but made me too sick. Some didn't work and even made things worse. I landed on a single medication and it has completely changed my life. My depression isn't cured, but it's so much more manageable. Funnily enough, my friend who deals with similar issues had a terrible experience with the exact same medicine that has given me my life back. It's really amazing just how unique a person's experiences are, even when dealing with same general problems.
When I started with my therapist, I was worried she was dismissing me because she didn't wanna talk about my ADHD. She seemed to keep asking about other things. The second appointment, she asked more about my childhood. It was on the third appointment she started asking about my ADHD and I realized she wanted to get to know me all around and not only one thing. I had been rejected and dismissed for 40 years and made the assumption she was doing it, too. I am so glad I have stayed with her because she lets me be me and my husband has noticed such a change. Sometimes past pain can cloud our vision of the person helping us. Not always but sometimes. I was so ready to dismiss my therapist but I am glad I didn't. She is a God send!
I had been on anti depressants since I was 15, and I still couldn't shake the anxiety, depression and panic attacks every 6 months. Did this till my mid 30s when I just couldn't switch meds anymore, and started working through stuff with my therapist, and made some mindset/lifestyle changes, and holy macaroni did that work wonders. Mind you, the process of getting off the meds and doing the healing work felt like hot garbage at times, I'm in a much better place than I have been for the last 30 years. I'm still a big "if you need meds, take your meds, cause you've tried the other and you're like, 'it still sucks over here 🫥". It's just nice knowing that the therapy with mindset and lifestyle changes is another option for those in a similar position. Thank you for the video! ✌🏻
What's even better is when you start with a new therapist and explain to them how you've been down the medication route and are not willing to do that again. But they push back and tell you about new classes of drugs that I haven't tried. It wasn't the only reason I fired her, but it was one of them.
I was really lucky. I was put onto antidepressants (again, after a few years off them) and while they changed my mood quickly, they killed ALL the moods and I felt nothing about anything. I was anorgasmic and absolutely numb, which was strangely worse than feeling everything too much. Fortunately, when I when to the dr., they realised that I was underprescribed and needed a higher dose, not a lower. Felt like the sky had cleared within two days of the higher dose. It just made it easier to for me to deal with everything and feel like life could be worth living. I was never closer to death than when I felt nothing.
I cracked up because I saw the title and immediately thought of the Emmy winning song “Antidepressants Are So Not A Big Deal” from the musical comedy show “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend.” Speaking of which, have you checked that out? It seems to be something that would check a lot of boxes for you. Four seasons of a musical exploring mental health and wellness? Every song a verified gem? I’ll just sit here, waiting for your analysis!
I love the way my seminary teacher who’s also a therapist explained it, that it’s supposed to get rid of the “peaks” of extreme emotion to make it easier and it’s not really meant to be the whole solution
I was asleep for 18hrs/day on the first 2 they gave me (SSRI) , then I didn't sleep at all anymore on the 3rd try (SNRI), then they halved the dose and it worked. But I did feel like I was living in a fishbowl so I stopped after 15 months, but it did really reset my anxiety baseline to a lot lower so it really helped me longterm.
I used to have a big mess in my head and sometimes it got really bad to the point where I considered getting a profesional help because I couldn't bring myself to function normally... But then I found your channel + Cinema therapy channel and I started listening to your videos while working... You made me ask myself questions trying to find the answer... And I actually managed to figure out what was wrong. It's not 100% yet but I am getting somewhere. Thank you so so much for this amazing content
Thank you for this video, haven't seen a therapist or psychiatrist since my 20s, I am now in my 40s, lots of trust issues, I was on several medications as a teenager in the 90s, had horrible side effects, Dr.s always acted like it was the first time they had heard any of it, I would get brain zaps when I would get off them, they didn't believe me. Many of the medications I was on , I see on TV now with warnings saying they're not suitable for teens... anyways started seeing a psychiatrist in my 20s told him my fear of medication, he mocked me saying " here's you, I need help but don't want medicine"...he was head of department by the way, another psychiatrist told me he was doing me a favor talking to me, it wasn't technically his job, finally saw a good therapist but but the appointments were so far apart we spent most of the session just reminding him why I was there.. haven't seen anyone since. Sorry for the ramble, just wanted to get it out to others who have been through it, my family never understood, and thanks for this channel and of course cinema therapy, it's really validating , comforting and helpful to me 😊
This makes me think of the part in Next to Normal when Dianna says, "I don't feel like myself. I mean... I don't feel *anything*." And her psychiatrist goes, "Hm! Patient stable."
Are there any specific meds that cause the numbing sensation on positive emotions? I have taken a variety of antidepressants (on and off) and never felt that. Moreover, with the right combo I started feeling actually happy for the first time in my life in my 30's. What did very much wake my libido up was stopping birth control. That shit messed me up
Thank you so much for this video. Especially Jono's point that there may be some people who need to be on medication for life. I am one of this small minority who will likely need some sort of medication for life due to my illnesses. This was hard to accept at first, but I'm grateful for medication because it makes me feel like myself. Thank you for all the advocacy work you both do!
I think another really big thing with side effects is how debilitating they can be when combined with the additional effects of severe depression. Most people don't respond to the first medication they try and that waiting period between starting an SSRI/SNRI and feeling the side effects, while also holding out for a potential response (usually 4-6 weeks) can be frustrating and have a huge impact on your life. When you spend months dealing with side effects over and over again, only to see no response with the meds, it can be really disheartening. Not to mention withdrawal side effects too when you have to stop the meds before starting a different new one. As someone who is currently a medical student and trying to find which med is right for me, it can be really difficult trying to plan care around my extremely busy schedule. Just my two cents. :) Also, really appreciate the bit at the end about seeing clinicians as human. The further I go into this field, the more I see the extreme limits of emotion and humanity doctors have to reach while taking care of their patients. Sometimes, you've just heard a patient you cared for for years has passed away, and it's pretty hard to put your best perfect foot forward for the next patient after that.
I don't see a future in which my choices in life will ever matter. I don't have the finances to change the future I want to see, and I don't believe that person to person changes are enough to affect the change I believe that society and the government requires to be in a state I want to live in. How do I reconcile that in the face of such societal and political discourse regardless of what personal changes I could possibly make?
Your life choices will matter to the people around you. We have to focus on that. Believe me, I know how hard that is to do. Everything else I leave to God to handle when I ask Him to take justice for the poor and to do the things I cannot. I struggle with the same issue you're talking about, so I feel that existential dread, too. I also think part of my struggles are exacerbated by being lonely and lacking time with positive people and friends. I'm in a life stage where it's incredibly difficult to spend time with friends since everyone is either busy working to put bread on the table, dating, or raising young kids (which require a lot more parental time than teenagers for example). Years ago, I tried to focus on making the serenity prayer a type of mantra, and I sense I need to go back to that prayer to help myself.
I talked to persons who feel so much better with Anti-Depressants, a Veil being lifted. Combined with Talk Therapy and your own personal spiritual journey I think it is the best we have for a world-wide symptom of workingplace and relationship abuse.
I had a psychiatrist who was more interested in talking about Ilf and Petrov's writing (they are famous humorists) with my father during my appointments than with me about my symptoms. I changes psychiatrists, then changed them again but couldn't find one that would help me.
I can’t take serotonin (ssri’s, lyrica). Literally unsafe. Had two therapists and a cmh psychiatrist all bully me about it. Thankfully my current therapist and pcp took my concerns seriously. I’m on one medication to deal with the excessive adrenaline, and another to increase my dopamine because, y’know, I have cptsd and adhd. THIS finally seems to be working to deal with my anxiety/depression symptoms and fatigue (tho I’m still unable to focus well with my adhd…or rather, now that I can actually feel Happiness/Pleasure and not be so utterly swamped by anxiety/depression and chronic illness fatigue/pain…I’m having more hyperfixations on Everything But What I Need To Do (That I Don’t Like) since…I apparently don’t feel halfdead anymore. It’s like my brain&body’s playing Catchup for everything I missed out on like a dog let off a leash that just wants to sniff every single plant until idk…things settle.)
I was a little worry about what you position about the theme. Like I write before, if you can, take time to "enterview" your psychologist and, now, psychiatrist. See if they listen and explain to you things like side effects or how many weeks antidepressants needs to "activate", why you could need another type or less medication... And know that psychiatry is different from psychology, because they study medicine first and psychology study from the humanity side. So, maybe you need a psychologist and psychiatrist.
After having lost six children over the course of ten years, we went to therapy to help with the intense grief. The therapist decided we needed sex therapy (neither of us could figure out why), and refused to talk about anything else. I'd told her for the umteenth time we were not going there, and she said very forcefully, "So that's how you control him!" She'd gotten more and more aggressive about it to the point she was sitting with her knees apart and her hands on her knees while we were turned away from her and from each other by crossing our legs and wrapping an arm around our bodies. I took note of our body language and said, "We're done here," and stormed out slamming every open door I saw on the way out. (It was a rather large office with several therapists.) The receptionist gave me an alarmed look as I glared at her on my way out. The best lesson I got from it was when I punched the button for the elevator, and the door calmly and slowly opened as usual. Same when I punched the button for the floor I needed. By the time I got to the street level, I learned a great lesson from the elevator: no matter how hard people push your buttons, don't react in kind, just calmly respond from a place of strength and self-confidence. I'd been a bit proud of myself for finally standing up to someone who was treating me badly. Turned out I was ready for the next lesson on how to do that without being driven by anger. The elevator taught me well, I'm happy to say! Much better than that therapist. (We managed to figure out the grief thing on our own, though it took longer than it might have with the right help.)
Fairness is transaction cost and benefit giving and receiving . Goodness id subjective and oftern bad to distract away from fairness exploit people. Just accountability is weaponized
I’m on Antidepressants myself because I’m a high functioning depressive , I recently had my dose upped high from 50mg to 100mg , I have noticed side effects on the higher dose , my emotions are greatly suppressed more to the point where I feel I’m underwater mentally , and they make me sleepy , but I can’t take them on a regular basis as they effect my heart function so for me there not ideal to take on a full time basis for me sadly , Therapists won’t deal with me because of how complex my condition is Therapist said I take up to much of there time and it’s more than the curriculum can handle ….. so that made me feel guilty and bad 😢
I suffer with anxiety disorder and my mother and I agree that I could use a therapist for it but after hearing about people’s horror stories of going to therapists that have a license but are awful and insensitive and give the worst advice I’m quite scared of where to look
I resist medications, though I'm not opposed to taking them when necessary. Because my mental health is mostly tied to the traumatic brain injury I sustained at age 15, homeopathic remedies, DBT, or counseling are all only partially effective, and Zoloft is only partially effective, though if I do several or all of them together I can manage fairly well most of the time. I recently learned about TMS (trans-cranial magnetic stimulation for the uninitiated), and it sounds quite promising, only I;m in insurance limbo at the moment so that will have to wait. but that doesn't mean I'll stop taking my Zoloft (works better than any other antidepressant I've tried over the last 3 decades) or drinking my teas or taking my supplements, only that I hope TMS is an effective support when I'm able to get it covered.
Hey Doc! New subscriber here! I was wondering if you could react to some Doctor Who scenes! I feel like the show really deals with a lot of grief and loss in ways other shows don't, or can't!
Went back to therapy in 2020 before covid got really bad. Thought the therapy was good, but my anxiety got pushed to outer space over the next few months because most sesions she talked to me about ho vaccinations would lead to everyone getting chipped.... at some point I just stepped going...
My psychiatrist said I needed autism and adhd diagnoses and antidepressants (she put me on St. John's wort because I live alone and SSRI side effects would have been too much of a risk, but the St. John's wort didn't work). Now I'm in inpatient trying to get those diagnoses... but the test psychologist won't diagnose ADHD while I still have depression. My new psychiatrist in inpatient won't prescribe anything until she has read the autism report but she keeps mentioning low-dose antipsychotics and I have said multiple times that I will not take antipsychotics
That's such BS. People with ADHD *frequently* also struggle with depression and anxiety; one should not be a deterrent to diagnosing the other! I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.
@@jillianhelding Thank you so much! Yeah, all my adhd friends are pointing out how ridiculous it is... I feel trapped in this catch-22 and am somehow just lucky that I'm not considering the euphemistic "emergency exit" that strongly right now.
I'm glad that Tom Cruise has chilled in recent years, but MAN, I hated him in the 2000s. He may still believe all that crap about meds and he's still wrong.
Omigosh, I was a zombie for a minute there…not helpful. Also, that duck floaty will hold a kid upside down in the water just the same as it will hold them upright and isn’t super safe, but very cute!
I really appreciate how you walked through the "Let's try X,Y, and Z, before trying meds" approach to mental wellness. There's no One Right Way for Everyone™ and we all need to respect that! *I'd like to share something that works really well for me, and that's Recovery International.* It's free, the meetings are available in-person, online and by phone, and it really helps! That is my "how I learned to swim," to continue that metaphor. *Happy Passover, and Happy Lesbian Visibility Week, for those for whom they apply!*
See, when I got my first real therapist in 2016, she wanted me to jump onto meds so fast and basically told me that I had all my answers, that I was too lazy to pursue those answers. Jump to last year, I met a wonderful therapist who had gotten me out of a dark place, and we found a balance of meds and talking. I absolutely adore my current therapist and I am doing so much better now versus before. Don't be afraid to take meds, they do help sometimes. It's hard finding the right med and dosage, but once you get there it helps a ton. Keep cruising along guys, gaps and non binary pals!
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porassss
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
I am one of those people who did all the "right" things. Tried out a couple types of therapists (am still working with a fabulous one), changed my lifestyle and diet, and am managing my chronic illnesses as best as I am able. I was still drowning. I've been on several antidepressants and adhd meds. Some of them worked, but made me too sick. Some didn't work and even made things worse. I landed on a single medication and it has completely changed my life. My depression isn't cured, but it's so much more manageable. Funnily enough, my friend who deals with similar issues had a terrible experience with the exact same medicine that has given me my life back. It's really amazing just how unique a person's experiences are, even when dealing with same general problems.
When I started with my therapist, I was worried she was dismissing me because she didn't wanna talk about my ADHD. She seemed to keep asking about other things.
The second appointment, she asked more about my childhood. It was on the third appointment she started asking about my ADHD and I realized she wanted to get to know me all around and not only one thing.
I had been rejected and dismissed for 40 years and made the assumption she was doing it, too. I am so glad I have stayed with her because she lets me be me and my husband has noticed such a change.
Sometimes past pain can cloud our vision of the person helping us. Not always but sometimes. I was so ready to dismiss my therapist but I am glad I didn't. She is a God send!
I had been on anti depressants since I was 15, and I still couldn't shake the anxiety, depression and panic attacks every 6 months. Did this till my mid 30s when I just couldn't switch meds anymore, and started working through stuff with my therapist, and made some mindset/lifestyle changes, and holy macaroni did that work wonders. Mind you, the process of getting off the meds and doing the healing work felt like hot garbage at times, I'm in a much better place than I have been for the last 30 years.
I'm still a big "if you need meds, take your meds, cause you've tried the other and you're like, 'it still sucks over here 🫥". It's just nice knowing that the therapy with mindset and lifestyle changes is another option for those in a similar position.
Thank you for the video! ✌🏻
I'm here for the Tom Cruise burn! Calling psychology pseudoscience while parading around Scientology 😂
Watching Taylor’s analogy was great, and definitely relatable
What's even better is when you start with a new therapist and explain to them how you've been down the medication route and are not willing to do that again. But they push back and tell you about new classes of drugs that I haven't tried. It wasn't the only reason I fired her, but it was one of them.
Some people just don’t want to do meds, she shouldn’t have tried to push back at all
@@foolishlyfoolhardy6004you read it right, she was not a psychiatrist, she was just a therapist, no prescription writing privileges.
I was really lucky. I was put onto antidepressants (again, after a few years off them) and while they changed my mood quickly, they killed ALL the moods and I felt nothing about anything. I was anorgasmic and absolutely numb, which was strangely worse than feeling everything too much. Fortunately, when I when to the dr., they realised that I was underprescribed and needed a higher dose, not a lower. Felt like the sky had cleared within two days of the higher dose. It just made it easier to for me to deal with everything and feel like life could be worth living. I was never closer to death than when I felt nothing.
I cracked up because I saw the title and immediately thought of the Emmy winning song “Antidepressants Are So Not A Big Deal” from the musical comedy show “Crazy Ex-Girlfriend.” Speaking of which, have you checked that out? It seems to be something that would check a lot of boxes for you. Four seasons of a musical exploring mental health and wellness? Every song a verified gem? I’ll just sit here, waiting for your analysis!
I love the way my seminary teacher who’s also a therapist explained it, that it’s supposed to get rid of the “peaks” of extreme emotion to make it easier and it’s not really meant to be the whole solution
I was asleep for 18hrs/day on the first 2 they gave me (SSRI) , then I didn't sleep at all anymore on the 3rd try (SNRI), then they halved the dose and it worked. But I did feel like I was living in a fishbowl so I stopped after 15 months, but it did really reset my anxiety baseline to a lot lower so it really helped me longterm.
I used to have a big mess in my head and sometimes it got really bad to the point where I considered getting a profesional help because I couldn't bring myself to function normally... But then I found your channel + Cinema therapy channel and I started listening to your videos while working... You made me ask myself questions trying to find the answer... And I actually managed to figure out what was wrong. It's not 100% yet but I am getting somewhere. Thank you so so much for this amazing content
Thank you for this video, haven't seen a therapist or psychiatrist since my 20s, I am now in my 40s, lots of trust issues, I was on several medications as a teenager in the 90s, had horrible side effects, Dr.s always acted like it was the first time they had heard any of it, I would get brain zaps when I would get off them, they didn't believe me. Many of the medications I was on , I see on TV now with warnings saying they're not suitable for teens... anyways started seeing a psychiatrist in my 20s told him my fear of medication, he mocked me saying " here's you, I need help but don't want medicine"...he was head of department by the way, another psychiatrist told me he was doing me a favor talking to me, it wasn't technically his job, finally saw a good therapist but but the appointments were so far apart we spent most of the session just reminding him why I was there.. haven't seen anyone since. Sorry for the ramble, just wanted to get it out to others who have been through it, my family never understood, and thanks for this channel and of course cinema therapy, it's really validating , comforting and helpful to me 😊
dont see a psychiatrist. their job is to prescribe medicine you need a regular therapist or councilor:)
This makes me think of the part in Next to Normal when Dianna says, "I don't feel like myself. I mean... I don't feel *anything*." And her psychiatrist goes, "Hm! Patient stable."
Are there any specific meds that cause the numbing sensation on positive emotions? I have taken a variety of antidepressants (on and off) and never felt that. Moreover, with the right combo I started feeling actually happy for the first time in my life in my 30's.
What did very much wake my libido up was stopping birth control. That shit messed me up
Thank you so much for this video. Especially Jono's point that there may be some people who need to be on medication for life. I am one of this small minority who will likely need some sort of medication for life due to my illnesses. This was hard to accept at first, but I'm grateful for medication because it makes me feel like myself. Thank you for all the advocacy work you both do!
You keep looking at him, all the time, in every video!
I think another really big thing with side effects is how debilitating they can be when combined with the additional effects of severe depression. Most people don't respond to the first medication they try and that waiting period between starting an SSRI/SNRI and feeling the side effects, while also holding out for a potential response (usually 4-6 weeks) can be frustrating and have a huge impact on your life. When you spend months dealing with side effects over and over again, only to see no response with the meds, it can be really disheartening. Not to mention withdrawal side effects too when you have to stop the meds before starting a different new one. As someone who is currently a medical student and trying to find which med is right for me, it can be really difficult trying to plan care around my extremely busy schedule. Just my two cents. :)
Also, really appreciate the bit at the end about seeing clinicians as human. The further I go into this field, the more I see the extreme limits of emotion and humanity doctors have to reach while taking care of their patients. Sometimes, you've just heard a patient you cared for for years has passed away, and it's pretty hard to put your best perfect foot forward for the next patient after that.
I don't see a future in which my choices in life will ever matter. I don't have the finances to change the future I want to see, and I don't believe that person to person changes are enough to affect the change I believe that society and the government requires to be in a state I want to live in. How do I reconcile that in the face of such societal and political discourse regardless of what personal changes I could possibly make?
Your life choices will matter to the people around you. We have to focus on that. Believe me, I know how hard that is to do. Everything else I leave to God to handle when I ask Him to take justice for the poor and to do the things I cannot. I struggle with the same issue you're talking about, so I feel that existential dread, too. I also think part of my struggles are exacerbated by being lonely and lacking time with positive people and friends. I'm in a life stage where it's incredibly difficult to spend time with friends since everyone is either busy working to put bread on the table, dating, or raising young kids (which require a lot more parental time than teenagers for example). Years ago, I tried to focus on making the serenity prayer a type of mantra, and I sense I need to go back to that prayer to help myself.
I talked to persons who feel so much better with Anti-Depressants, a Veil being lifted. Combined with Talk Therapy and your own personal spiritual journey I think it is the best we have for a world-wide symptom of workingplace and relationship abuse.
I had a psychiatrist who was more interested in talking about Ilf and Petrov's writing (they are famous humorists) with my father during my appointments than with me about my symptoms. I changes psychiatrists, then changed them again but couldn't find one that would help me.
I can’t take serotonin (ssri’s, lyrica). Literally unsafe. Had two therapists and a cmh psychiatrist all bully me about it. Thankfully my current therapist and pcp took my concerns seriously. I’m on one medication to deal with the excessive adrenaline, and another to increase my dopamine because, y’know, I have cptsd and adhd. THIS finally seems to be working to deal with my anxiety/depression symptoms and fatigue (tho I’m still unable to focus well with my adhd…or rather, now that I can actually feel Happiness/Pleasure and not be so utterly swamped by anxiety/depression and chronic illness fatigue/pain…I’m having more hyperfixations on Everything But What I Need To Do (That I Don’t Like) since…I apparently don’t feel halfdead anymore. It’s like my brain&body’s playing Catchup for everything I missed out on like a dog let off a leash that just wants to sniff every single plant until idk…things settle.)
Taylor Tomlinson’s comedy is amazing, and also probably life saving for some people. She’s amazing
I was a little worry about what you position about the theme. Like I write before, if you can, take time to "enterview" your psychologist and, now, psychiatrist. See if they listen and explain to you things like side effects or how many weeks antidepressants needs to "activate", why you could need another type or less medication...
And know that psychiatry is different from psychology, because they study medicine first and psychology study from the humanity side. So, maybe you need a psychologist and psychiatrist.
After having lost six children over the course of ten years, we went to therapy to help with the intense grief. The therapist decided we needed sex therapy (neither of us could figure out why), and refused to talk about anything else. I'd told her for the umteenth time we were not going there, and she said very forcefully, "So that's how you control him!" She'd gotten more and more aggressive about it to the point she was sitting with her knees apart and her hands on her knees while we were turned away from her and from each other by crossing our legs and wrapping an arm around our bodies. I took note of our body language and said, "We're done here," and stormed out slamming every open door I saw on the way out. (It was a rather large office with several therapists.) The receptionist gave me an alarmed look as I glared at her on my way out. The best lesson I got from it was when I punched the button for the elevator, and the door calmly and slowly opened as usual. Same when I punched the button for the floor I needed. By the time I got to the street level, I learned a great lesson from the elevator: no matter how hard people push your buttons, don't react in kind, just calmly respond from a place of strength and self-confidence. I'd been a bit proud of myself for finally standing up to someone who was treating me badly. Turned out I was ready for the next lesson on how to do that without being driven by anger. The elevator taught me well, I'm happy to say! Much better than that therapist. (We managed to figure out the grief thing on our own, though it took longer than it might have with the right help.)
Fairness is transaction cost and benefit giving and receiving . Goodness id subjective and oftern bad to distract away from fairness exploit people. Just accountability is weaponized
I love all of this!
So good! ❤ Thanks for sharing
great video. thanks
I’m on Antidepressants myself because I’m a high functioning depressive , I recently had my dose upped high from 50mg to 100mg , I have noticed side effects on the higher dose , my emotions are greatly suppressed more to the point where I feel I’m underwater mentally , and they make me sleepy , but I can’t take them on a regular basis as they effect my heart function so for me there not ideal to take on a full time basis for me sadly , Therapists won’t deal with me because of how complex my condition is Therapist said I take up to much of there time and it’s more than the curriculum can handle ….. so that made me feel guilty and bad 😢
14:25 it's hard to be supportive for myself, but for others it's easy for me.
I suffer with anxiety disorder and my mother and I agree that I could use a therapist for it but after hearing about people’s horror stories of going to therapists that have a license but are awful and insensitive and give the worst advice I’m quite scared of where to look
I resist medications, though I'm not opposed to taking them when necessary. Because my mental health is mostly tied to the traumatic brain injury I sustained at age 15, homeopathic remedies, DBT, or counseling are all only partially effective, and Zoloft is only partially effective, though if I do several or all of them together I can manage fairly well most of the time. I recently learned about TMS (trans-cranial magnetic stimulation for the uninitiated), and it sounds quite promising, only I;m in insurance limbo at the moment so that will have to wait. but that doesn't mean I'll stop taking my Zoloft (works better than any other antidepressant I've tried over the last 3 decades) or drinking my teas or taking my supplements, only that I hope TMS is an effective support when I'm able to get it covered.
Hey Doc! New subscriber here! I was wondering if you could react to some Doctor Who scenes! I feel like the show really deals with a lot of grief and loss in ways other shows don't, or can't!
That would be fantastic! 💙💙
Went back to therapy in 2020 before covid got really bad. Thought the therapy was good, but my anxiety got pushed to outer space over the next few months because most sesions she talked to me about ho vaccinations would lead to everyone getting chipped.... at some point I just stepped going...
How about your take on why Big did that yoyo stuff to Carrie (Sex and the city)
My psychiatrist said I needed autism and adhd diagnoses and antidepressants (she put me on St. John's wort because I live alone and SSRI side effects would have been too much of a risk, but the St. John's wort didn't work). Now I'm in inpatient trying to get those diagnoses... but the test psychologist won't diagnose ADHD while I still have depression. My new psychiatrist in inpatient won't prescribe anything until she has read the autism report but she keeps mentioning low-dose antipsychotics and I have said multiple times that I will not take antipsychotics
That's such BS. People with ADHD *frequently* also struggle with depression and anxiety; one should not be a deterrent to diagnosing the other! I'm so sorry you're dealing with this.
@@jillianhelding Thank you so much! Yeah, all my adhd friends are pointing out how ridiculous it is... I feel trapped in this catch-22 and am somehow just lucky that I'm not considering the euphemistic "emergency exit" that strongly right now.
Some of the older models aren't cutting it. Lol.
I'm glad that Tom Cruise has chilled in recent years, but MAN, I hated him in the 2000s. He may still believe all that crap about meds and he's still wrong.
Omigosh, I was a zombie for a minute there…not helpful.
Also, that duck floaty will hold a kid upside down in the water just the same as it will hold them upright and isn’t super safe, but very cute!
I really appreciate how you walked through the "Let's try X,Y, and Z, before trying meds" approach to mental wellness. There's no One Right Way for Everyone™ and we all need to respect that!
*I'd like to share something that works really well for me, and that's Recovery International.* It's free, the meetings are available in-person, online and by phone, and it really helps! That is my "how I learned to swim," to continue that metaphor.
*Happy Passover, and Happy Lesbian Visibility Week, for those for whom they apply!*