Overcoming A Phobia Of Choking I The Speakmans & All On The Board
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- Опубліковано 24 сер 2024
- Ian Redpath, the co-creator of All On The Board, has been secretly suffering with severe phagophobia, also known as a fear of swallowing. After publicly sharing his phobia on social media for the first time, Nik & Eva head to meet Ian, whose fear is so bad, that he says he is always hungry and suffers with bad acid reflux. Can Nik & Eva help Ian to achieve his Mount Everest and eat a bacon sandwich?
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For everyone suffering from this, ITS ANXIETY, you are too anxious when eating. You cannot choke if you chew your food properly. Try to relax your arms, yourself and eat peacefully. Overcome your fears.
It's whenever you start to feel full inside near the end of the meal, is when the anxiety starts for me, because when you feel the food starting to pile up in your oesaughegus, you feel like it's not going anywhere.
Guys im having this right know. I will face my fears. But still, its anoying. Any help? Been two weeks on liquids, meds dont work (valium)
@@alvaropeneda6992 drink some alcohol maybe
@@alvaropeneda6992did you over come it?
Thanks man, a few months ago i had a fever and my throat was tickling a lot and i thought i was choking, and to this day, i still have the fear of choking now
I just recently been unblessed with this phobia. A month ago I choked and I didn’t actually realize the impact it would have on me. I was fine for a couple of days but slowly started to realize how much attention I paid on just swallowing my food. It is definitely making it worse for me
I’m sorry to hear that it really does suck I’ve been dealing with my phobia for 2-3 years now and still haven’t gotten help I would definitely recommend getting professional help I’m planning to soon because this phobia has ruined my daily life I can’t eat in front of my family or anyone I can’t even eat in public places & it really does feel horrible because your body craves stuff but you neglect it because of fear of choking best of luck & if it gets worst please don’t wait long like I did it ruined my teenage high school experience & it still disturbs my daily life now.
@@LeloRC2003 have you ever tried hypnosis? I’m thinking about doing it. I can see how bad this effects my family, which is weird for me because I am the one to scared to eat but they hate it
@@jamierua3891 Sorry about that just seen your replay but I haven’t tried it yet but going into a program soon where I think there gonna teach me to eat again & how to control my fear of chocking but I’ll definitely add that to my list thank you
@@LeloRC2003 Hello Have been suffering from this for 3 years so far We can keep in touch and try to find a way out actually
This happened to me also, it’s been 3 weeks and I can eat some foods, but overall it is annoying as you said and I definitely need help.
To anyone having this for solid food, (I only eat yogurts, soups and mashed potatoes) It takes time but, YOULL overcome it. Its ironic how Im telling you this while I have the same problem, but we all now this is in our head, just stress.
The human body, as well as animals bodies too, are made to eat, and for this.
So to anyone that has this for liquids, know that you cant choke and die of your saliva, and dont worry for water neither !!
I was only eeating yogurts (and do like its a mouth wash, it will become as liquid as water !!) since it had no bumps in it, 4month ago (when the phobia started, 2 days after eating nothing).
Then I slowly added sugar. Was scared of the bumps but... when I thought about it, sugar melts ! So I knew that I couldnt choke or die.
Then tried soup. Real liquid/no bumps,
then progressively went for thicker soups ! Then tried thin mashed potatoes! I used to filter the little smallest bits of the powder that I used for to cook the mashed potatoes, then started to avoid filtering it!
Also making it a thicker consistency,
Now Im at a point where I add raw whole eggs in the mashed potatoes whilte I stir its preparation, and wait for it to cook the smallest pieces of the egg... Do not wait fully but enough to have small parts of egg cooked.
I know I have not yet fully recovered,
But as I was writting this I saw the progress I made. We will all overcome this because we, as small babies, used to eat like it was nothing LOL! its just our mind thinking we cant.
Chew properly, Distract yourself/watch videos while eating if it helps !
Don't hesitate on sharing your journey by replying to my comment,
and remember,
we will overcome it, we will do this.
Love your positivity. Reading your comment made me feel better! Hope you are improving!
@@p.c.21 Thank you so much !! And yes I improved so much, I can eat much more food now (except chewy meat lol), but I'm not scared anymore !! Hope you'll overcome this too, I'm sure you will 🤞
I developed this after accidentally eating too high a dose of a cannabis edible. It’s awful.
@@jeannestuff I developed this after accidentally eating too high a dose of a cannabis edible. It’s awful.
I have the same phobia. Im petrified of choking and others around me choking aswell. My throat feels like it swells shut when I try to swallow. Meat is the worst for me, particularly steak 😔
Do you recall an origin? An event that occurred that created a hyper awareness in regards choking? This is usually the most effective way to start working through your fear x
@@nikandevaspeakman Yes, I witnessed someone choke, almost to death. I had to perform cpr. Then after others were telling me about their near choking experiences too. Its triggered a huge phobia for me.
Sorry to jump in on your comment but I just wanted to say that I know how your feeling, my situation is very similar, I was working in a restaurant and cpr was given due to choking (not by myself). It wasn't until a month or so later that I had the same difficulty, feeling like my throat closes up each time I eat.
@@nikandevaspeakman I already know my origin story but I am still having this problem. What are the next steps after you identify the origin?
I just want to say you’re not alone. Mines ruining my life. I suffer from TMJ as well and it’s so bad because I chew my food to mush and a small meal takes me over a hour to eat. I too will not eat steak period.
But you’re not alone.
I relate to him :( it's been 5 years now and I haven't overcome this fear yet. I'm in my twenties and I only weight 36kg which is horrible.. I really hope to overcome this fear one day 🙏🏻
Sorry to hear that, do you find it hard to swallow like working with swallowing normal? I have the same problem it feels like my body can’t swallow when I want to?
me too, for 5 years! i still remember the day and time😞
@@zt544 Me in 2019 to this day 😢
@@wadaahal-rifai8165 we can get thru this… we much eventually
Do u aspirante sometimes
i have suffered from this phobia for about 20 years now. anti-anxiety meds have helped me deal with it but when it first started back around 2001-2002, i was on a liquid diet for FOUR MONTHS and lost 85lbs. then i was introduced to Xanax, which helps a little bit but that fear is still always there. after my mother passed away last month, it felt like it was gone for a couple of weeks. probably my brain was distracted with the severe grief that the eating issue was put off. i started a new job and thought i was heading in the right direction but now it is back and with a vengeance. my throat muscles literally freeze up the split second that your natural swallowing takes place, causing me to "retry" and then i end up either drinking (gulping fizzy drink puts my throat into "rhythm") or if i really freak out i just spit out the food into the trash. i have been trying to get help for this but to no avail so i just gave up and lived with it for half of my life. this is the worst type of fear to have...
Thank you for sharing your story. I'd like to talk to you more about it for I am dealing with the same issue for about 4-5 years now. Do you have a Facebook?
20 years?! I thought I had it bad for 8-9 years! Still dealing with it, but this year I decided to get some help. Got diagnosed with OCD/Anxiety, and prescribed Paxil and CBT (talk therapy); I have been doing CBT therapy with very, very slow progress, if any - and never started Paxil, as I don't want to be reliant on any drug for the rest of my life.
I have to wash down my food with water/drink every time, and definitely avoid very chewy food!
Hoping we all get through this soon.
I choked on a mozzarella stick when I was 10, and couldn’t eat for almost a year. I was able to suddenly eat normal again, I guess from hunger. Recently I gagged on a tomato skin from chicken fajitas in 2020, and I’m still trying to get over it. I’m so frustrated and mad at myself for not getting better. I’m hungry but too anxious to eat what I want. I hope I can get over it soon
That’s why I eat my veggies boiled and no skin because I was recently eating an orange and I almost choked on the skin it wasn’t fun and I’m still traumatized
i have had this for 2 years i lost 10 kg , i had to relearn how to swollen again by taking smaller bites and always sipping on a liquid with EVERY bite and little by little i gained back a bit of weight so i’m healthier now but it is always there popping up when i’m really anxious or stressed about something or when i have dinner after 6pm when it gets dark it tends to trigger it for some reason , so i always make sure to eat as much as u can at lunch
I’m going through exactly the same only been happening for 2 month now no I’ve lost nearly 3 stone is it possible to contact you about it all thank you
I’ve had this for years it’s so bad I’d do anything to get rid of it
How do you deal or live with it? Is yours real bad? It’s been 8 months for me and I wonder how much more I can take.
@@kaylarae89 I’ve had it awhile so overtime I’ve learnt to live with it, don’t be wrong it still is really debilitating sometimes and some days I get so frustrated.
If anything my tips that I use would be when eating always preoccupy yourself never eat in silence and always be watching a video taking notes or just doing something it helps take my mind of it also let your family and friends know it’s daunting but it helped me. My family knows I won’t eat in front of them and they are understanding.
Always have a drink with you and just keep trying to get through it.
Another thing I do is I avoid “fear” foods like meat or anything really chewy.
@@maddywilliams9040 Have u tried therapy for this?
@@kaylarae89how are you now?😢
I have been struggling with this since I was 10 - I’m 32 now. I have NEVER talked to anyone who experiences this and I have honestly felt humiliated and ashamed and completely alone in this debilitating fear. Plus the phobia is so profound I find it terrifying to even talk about or say out loud. Reading comments about others’ similar experiences honestly made me weep.
Pleased don't be ashamed, I went through this In December last year and the anxiety that came with it was really nasty! I was terrified of eating meals for weeks, but just today I had an appointment to do a barium swallow test and my results came back fine. I don't have anything wrong, it's just all in the head but the anxiety is a separate issue of course and takes time to ease.
You are not alone.
My son choked on a peanut when he was 9 and he couldn't eat solid food for over a year. Even blended food had to be completely liquified without any texture at all. He had to take therapy but it didn't seem to help, he finally had to start taking medication and finally he started gradually trying to eat unleaded food. If anyone is having problems with a child having a choking phobia I'm willing to talk to you and give you some advice on how we survived it. It was a terrible experience.
@@pcbexplorer6870 Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am 33 now, but I had essentially the same experience as your son when I was about his age, except with a grape. I could not eat solid foods as well and essentially lived off of meal replacement drinks my parents bought me when I started dropping a ton of weight. If I did attempt solid foods it took me hours because I struggled so much with chewing and swallowing. I did go to therapy as well, but realize now I probably had some kind of PTSD and was never treated for that. Swallowing is still something I struggle with and I have flares sometimes where my whole swallowing reflex gets glitched and it takes me a while to normalize it again. I also continue to be afraid of my loved ones choking when we are eating together. Can I ask what meds your son takes?
@@whichonespink7 they tried 3 different medications, Prozac, zolof both caused him to stay awake all night and be super hyper but then finally they tried mirtazapine and after about a month and a half he started eating eggs, then they increased his dosage from 15mg to 22.5 MG and he started eating hamburgers pizza ,chips, he still won't eat foods that have a bone or steak.
This made me cry so inspirational i am so happy and i thank God for making me overcome this horror
how?💔
how if I may ask?
@@Samah-lh1eq i said to myself that i couldnt live that way i was so pissed at myself
I’m really glad to know that there are people out there who thinks like me.
I don’t know what’s wrong with me I keep panicking even if I swallowed the food I would let myself believe that there is a small part that was stuck to my throat and that it will go to my wind pipe. I’m just devastated. I know this may seem stupid but this year I had my first panick attack after that everything changed for me.
It's not stupid I suffer from the same thing
I have the same thing right now!
omg this made me cry bc i can relate 😥
The scariest thing in my life literally just happened yesterday when I choked on a breadstick that I didn’t chew all the way.
The way my throat felt clogged made me lightheaded. I was anxious for hours, staring in the mirror down my throat, thinking a piece might still be in there….
It was terrifying and my parents just made it so trivial saying “just swallow it” or “push it down you’re being ridiculous” like I wish it was that simple, but clearly they don’t understand the fear of choking and how damaging that is to someone who experienced it. If your a parent or going to be, please comfort your children, no matter what age or gender, when they feel scared and stressed. The rest of the world is already cruel enough. The least a loved ones can do is listen and reassure you.
I just never want to feel that terror again. The mind can think of some truly awful things.
how are you now?
@@Samah-lh1eqhow are you doing now?
I’ve been suffering from this for just over a year now. I managed to find a way of eating little bits to survive, but lately I’ve gone back to struggling outright again. I’m just so tired of this fight. It shouldn’t be like this. It’s 2am and I’m crying typing on UA-cam. Just, why?
Hi. I am suffering from this too. almoost 3 months for me now. I am so tierd and Sad.
I’m suffering too. It’s been a month. I’m scared to eat anything. Losing weight, my body hurts. I’m crying frequently. Don’t feel like I can survive.
@@bekb293 sorry to hear that! You are not alone. Did you have a chocking accident?
@@idamerete4152how are you now?
@@bekb293how are you now?
I have this thing but not hard as others. It usually gets worse when I think big about it, but generally okey. Also, drinking is like a cure. Whenever I drink alcohol, even 1 glass of beer, it helps me a lot and I start eating like a monster. After I get sober, I question how I was able to eat all of those :D
how are you now?
I have this phobia also. It started when I had my first panic attack right after taking my vitamins. What to do? It affected my life. I could not enjoy my foods during meals.
Don’t be ashamed or feel bad I used to love food I used to joke about me getting my money’s worth at a buffet and believe me I did and then at 17 years old I choked on pizza crust I freaked out I never had anxiety before and it grew then I stopped eating I refused to eat I used to be 293Lbs I am now 19 going on 20 and I still have not eating I have developed a phobia of choking/eating I know people will laugh at this and now at 19 almost 20 I am 146Lbs and am struggling to keep weight on my body the doctors don’t believe me and won’t help me because at this point I look like a drug addict trying to get anything I can get my hands on at this point most people would give up but I have a wonderful fiancé that has stuck by my side for 1 year and 3 months and I want to put weight on my body and get help and like I said most people would have given up but I refuse to I have so many things I would like to do in life so many ideas I don’t know if anyone stuggles with the extent of my problems but I am open to tips and motivation so I can get to the point where I used to be I cook for my fiancé non stop and take my little sister out to eat and I encourage her to order more,she asks why and I tell her that it breaks my heart not being able to eat food is a comfort thing for me and used to be the only thing I loved/enjoyed now it’s the thing I am scared of
Try at first,consuming soft foods that you can't choke on but not a liquid diet. Yogurt, bananas, mashed potatoes whatever suits you.The transition from liquids to soft foods will sustain your brain & body,while it prepare you for solid foods and you will get your chewing/swalloing routine back.Also,always have a cup of water byside so you don't feel an anxiety that sth has stuck in your throat.
I have the same problem last days. I try ro defeat it. I feel very confident now with soft foods,but I am anxious with solid food yet.Yesterday,I ordered large a sandwich with meat,sauce,french fries and I ate 4/5 of it. Sometmes,I leave lunch eating half a portion or something like that.
@larrymcdonald8084 hey bro did you got many saliva when you eat? Im corius bcs im dealing with this now and i didnt eat much 😢 im really dont know what to do bcs when i eat i feel like many saliva on my throat i always clear it but im fine with liquids like skimmed milk but not on solid
@@shadows3001If im not mistaken, it is normal that your mouth creates saliva while you eat (chew) !! its to help lubricate your food, so you'll swallow it with no problem! the chewing process
I thought I was the only one
@@Samah-lh1eqhow are you?
@@jeannestuff I feel better ,thank you for asking🤍
I'm going through this at the moment. I first had it over 10 years ago and it's been off and on since then but it hasn't been this bad for a long time. I get it with both food and liquids and I feel so hungry all the time. My jaws ache because I chew and chew and chew until there's barely anything to swallow but then I still struggle. I sip the tiniest bit of liquid then hold it in my mouth before doing one of two swallows to get it down. It's as if I've forgotten how much food or liquid a person can safely swallow and it's also as if my throat doesn't work properly anymore. I try and describe it to people like if you've got a big tablet and water in your mouth but feel like you daren't swallow it. I do suffer with anxiety anyway and it's been really bad over the last year but now this has started I feel even worse! I was just getting a bit better with my going out but now I feel weak and anxious so it's making me not want to go anywhere incase my blood sugar is too low or something...It's exhausting 😔
You’ve literally described exactly how this feels for me. I feel like I could cry to see someone describe it because I never can and when I try, I feel stupid for saying, “its like I don’t know how to swallow”. I’ve started hypnotherapy in the hopes it’s going to help in some way. But just know you’re not alone in whats happening to you. I hope it gets better, for us both!
Ive had this since the age of 7 or 8 im 36 now. I go through stages of it getting worse and better. I always find copping mechanisms. Alcohol has been a tonic to reduce the anxiety. Not the best idea but helps at dinners out.
I need help too! It’s been 3 months now. Lost so much weight! It’s been taking a toll on my mental health and my family. I’ll do anything to overcome this. It’s horrible.
We do have tips here on our channel to help with this phobia so do take a look. You must speak with your doctor too to arrange some therapy.
You may be suffering from severe anxiety disorder. It can be overcome ,you just have to re wired your Brain and sooner or later you will recover from it. You can have water or soda next to u to swallow your food
@kayla rea, how are you doing now if you don’t mind me asking.
@@MsStunna332 did you through this also? I can’t believe I’m going through this, I didn’t think it was a thing to fear and I don’t wish it upon anyone.
@@neckshot8594 I’m the same. Sometimes I wonder how long I can deal with this for.
After an choking accident i became to suffer of phagophobia ,i ate 1 soup per day for 2 years, even that one was a struggle ,my grandma was angry cause i dont eat her food anymore , i lost weight from 68 kg to 57 ,im 180cm tall now even if i eat better my kgs are 57 max ,i never feel hungry ,sometimes i even forget to eat because its not something i enjoy , i hate spending money on public food when i know i cant eat it .
My fear is swallowing liquids after choking on water while having a Covid coughing fit. It’s destroying my life.
how are you now?
Does anyone else just feel like your muscles doesn’t work and it’s to weak to get the food down and it gets stuck?
Yes😢 i feel so weak
@@bekb293 I’ve had every test done it’s mental at this point what’s going on with you swollowing exercises and being a good mood when eatting has helped me know what you can get down also and change your diet I’ve been dealing with this sense 2020 if you need to talk to anyone
how are you now?
@@Samah-lh1eq same shit
@@user-db5zc1gp6tI wish you the best 🤍
I choked on my own saliva, so for some odd reason it triggered my brain so bad that for about 3 weeks after I was suffering with 6 panic attacks a day. And major anxiety. I felt like something was wrong with my throat. I stopped drinking water and eating. I was tracking every saliva swallow, and every time I swallowed my saliva it was in fear, so I end up having an endoscopy 4 weeks later and they tell me my throat is fine. So that weight got lifted off my shoulders and I was able to eat a little more. But drinking water and swallowing my saliva still gives me fear. I think it’s because ever since I was little I have choked on liquids. I say I have anxiety that just sits in my throat. Because I feel so much tension in my throat. I was told to learn to relax when that happens to me, Dr. Said your throat is a muscle when it relaxes the liquid will go down and you will be able to breath. She said I promise you are not going to die from it.
have u gotten any better? any tips? i’ve been struggling with this for 4 months now when i choked on my tea, i fear swallowing my saliva and struggle the most with drinks
@@cyyn.vhow are you now 🥹
I have a narrow throat and I coke and I thought I was going to die and after that I am still nervous that Im having to go to urgent care just to be safe
I recently experienced this after being discharged from the hospital from iron deficiency anemia. Due to my anxiety of not getting enough oxygen in my body, my throat would tighten up. Spicy and fatty foods are my worst triggers because now feel unpleasant going down my throat.
You need to make peace with food. If you cut your finger on a sharp knife you are more cautious with the sharp knife next time, not the blood. The blood is a symptom of the cut, and your swallowing was a symptom of anxiety due to anaemia. When you fully accept that food was not the issue, but anaemia anxiety was, you will be able to swallow effortlessly once more.
@@nikandevaspeakman Thank you! I really needed to hear this. It took me about a month to figure out that my traumatic experience was causing my severe anxiety and panic attacks. Doing about 10 minutes of mindfulness helped me to recognize when I'm ruminating about negative past events My throat tense up a lot, which feels like I'm either choke, or losing air again. These thoughts and behaviors are always followed up with a coughing fit from my acid reflux. I'm just happy to know that I have control over it. What has helped me was using positive self while eating and playing gentle instrumental music to not raise my adrenaline.
Yes low iron can cause some anxiety, and the anxiety can give you the “ lump” feeling in your throat. On top of acid reflux making it worse! I know the feeling. Take care of your low iron, eat the right foods that wont cause indigestion and relax. You got this🙌🏽🙏🏽
I have a mild form of this. I can each pretty much everything, thats not a problem, it just takes me a long ass time. Its very annoying.
guys try eating while walking around in the house, it could help, tell me if it did
omg I waw thinking about this... When I was young I used to do this in the morning cuz I didnt have time to sit / was thinking about me being late...
Now that I have this phobia with solid food, I was eating my yogurt while walking around some days ago and realised that I was not thinking about the food! (I realised this at the end of my yogurt and was like... If I could do that with solid food maybe it would help? but Im scared to even try D:
Thank you for sharing this !! I'll try to try 😅
@@jeannestuffhow did it go?
Since I was like 11 I’ve had choking issues and honestly I was never really scared of it. I chocked rarely but it still happened but very short like 1 second. Now I’m 19 and realized I develop phobias easily. And this has become my newest phobia just a couple days ago like 4 days ago. I was eating cereal (cinnamon toast crunch) while watching Tik toks and kinda laughed I think. I’m kinda used to chocking but it only lasts 1 or 2 seconds usually but this time it lasted like 4 seconds but it felt kinda long lol.. honestly I was just panicking. Bc I panic easily. Then it finally went down and I was shaking and got too scared to finish my cereal afterwards 😭And idk now my throat feels tight and sore now. When I eat I have to take small bites and chew a lot and I put my hand on my neck. And I make this noise. I’m mostly just scared bc my throat isn’t normal. If it were I wouldn’t be scared of choking. And I’m so scared to eat alone now. But I’m working on myself and it’s all just anxiety. I struggle with anxiety a lot. I hope one day I can laugh at this and eat normal again. I believe in myself and don’t feel hopeless.
I choked on a cheese stick and it burned my throat when I was 9 I’m on 19 and it hasn’t gone away I understand your pain
@@BetterBehindTheSenses I just recently developed this like 10 days ago. I can’t imagine having it for years. So your always afraid to eat ? Or what’s it like ?? I’m expecting to only deal with this for like a month or 2 then I can get back to normal. I’m also going to the doctor finally . To see if I actually have something wrong with my throat. If there’s nothing wrong. I’ll be very relieved and know it’s all in my head. And work on myself.
@@BetterBehindTheSenses also don’t worry you can do this. It’s not the end of the world. It’s all just fear. In reality you are less likely to choke. I hope you also overcome this soon. Bc I’m trying my best to get over this.
@@danaevsehow are you now?
@@Samah-lh1eq hello also I’m okay now : ) it got better. Of course I don’t eat as mindlessly as I used to. Like I used to eat fast and chew fast without thinking (which is not good) but now I eat well. I chew well and just improved in eating. I don’t struggle eating anymore like I did when I wrote that comment. it took me a couple months like 7 months but I got there : )
I think I’ve had this fear for a while without realizing until reading the comments today. To think I’m not alone in this feels relieving. It sounds funny but about a year ago, during the summer of 2022, i choked on a drink from chick fil a and ever since then, I’ve been having an extreme fear of swallowing liquids and choking on it. Up until now, the chances of me choking on it were literally 2 out of 100. I don’t know why I suddenly developed it but sometimes it’d get easier to swallow where I’d be able to swallow with a good amount of water in my mouth but some days, it get to the point where I can’t even swallow a teaspoon of water alone and it would take me over 30 seconds to swallow it. I want to savor the liquids I drink but I can’t. I cant chug anything like I used to it really sucks. I’m 16 and i don’t know what to do. I saw a comment that said to try to do hypnosis of some sort but other than that I’m not sure, I may need to get professional help because it genuinely feels embarrassing trying to explain why i haven’t gotten my drink down to at least 3/4 🤦🏽♀️
I feel i might stop breathing while eating and choke and this fear made me focus continuously on breathing while eating which is so scary and i tend to avoid eating
Please help I have the same thing. Can’t even swallow water. This is taking over my life. Help please
how are you now my friend? as someone that has this but not for liquid/soft food, I can tell you that choking on water (when it happens rarely) will not kill you !! I think I already had this when young with juice, and it came out from the nose, and one other time i just kind of instantly spit it out ?
liquid wont ever kill you
I have this exact issue had tests with gastro and speach and language therapy still struggling i wish i could get through this i havent eaten anything in 3 years i live on shakes (prescribed by dietitian)
i don’t suffer from this fear/phobia, but my child’s father does. He has had this fear for as long as I’ve known him but it’s progressed over the years, as has his anxiety as well. anxiety disorder and phobias seems to have a correlation, the anxiety absolutely intensifies it. john (my childs father) was told a story of someone choking on their food and being fine then later on passing in their sleep from the food still being present in their esophagus, im not positive that this story was true or was told to instill more fear into him, which the person should be ashamed of. John rarely eats but has a few select “comfort foods” that he KNOWS that he can reasonably tolerate but those are slowly becoming “trigger foods” as well. he went from an overwhelming fear of the unknown after dying (extreme panic attacks in the middle of the night/day) to being overly fearful of choking. I’ve never brushed it off, I’ve never made him to feel bad about this but there’s only so much that I can do to help him get through this. I’ve suggested meal replacement shakes for the time being, so he can get actual nutrients into his body. He cannot take pills/vitamins (they’re always in liquid form) and pretty much anything new, any food that he has never eaten is an absolute NO! the mind is a powerful thing, telling yourself that you’re choking and the constant lingering thought of it amplifies everything and from what it seems, the mind almost tricks the body. The mind tells the throat, I’m choking or I know I’m going to choke so then your adrenaline starts, your throat begins to tighten, your palms get clammy and it’s pretty much over from there, your entire body believes that you in fact are about to choke on your food or that you already are choking. when john is struggling throughout his meal (we don’t sit down as a family to eat, our son has had a few fits where he “thinks” he’s choking but it’s just a learned behavior) I try not to pay too much attention to it, I don’t want to amplify his thoughts by speaking about it or even saying the word “choking.” so, I tell him to close his right nostril and breathe through his left until he feels a yawn or sigh coming. this is almost a “reset” button for your sympathetic nervous system, it helps calm you down and relieves a bit of anxiety. it doesn’t always work (i think it doesn’t always work because the fear of choking is a constant thought, even if he isn’t coherently thinking it, his subconscious is). i know this is a very long comment but I haven’t seen anyone ask, how do I help my loved one that is struggling through this, what can I do to facilitate them overcoming this fear? it’s an awful thing to live with, it’s an unhealthy thing to move with. your body is being starved of vital minerals and nutrients. i really do feel though, that anxiety is the root to all of this (for him at least) or there is a traumatic event that took place and your brain goes back to that event, every single time you put a piece of food into your mouth. John went vegan and it seemed to put the fear/phobia at bay for awhile but it comes back VERY strongly every few months, it never goes away, ever, but it does seem to not affect him so severely at times. he sent me this video, specifically to read the comments. He’s felt so alone and so isolated in this fear, that no one around him can relate or understand what he’s going through. I appreciate anyone that has taken the time to read this, I know it’s a lot but I’ve run out of ways to help, to facilitate a healthy eating environment and I do not want my child to learn this fear or to absorb it from his father.
I have phagophobia 45day today,it's hell😭
I now is anxiety disorder,i have a lot of no resolved problems in my life, childhood troma,highly sensitive person (HSP),hig potential HP, painful scoliosis,military neck,swollen knees,high inflammation in blood tests.
i have four lovely kids how i fight for.
and the best thing i'm from algeria,the worst medical system in the world🤕
@@zerdizerdi2876how are you now?😓
I have fear to and my doctor said that i have acid reflux i cant even sleep properly
Yes me too
I have this, it's been 5 years now, and still be my worst phobia
@@stan_Jesus_for_live_longer I still have it, but I eat better. I eat slowly and prefer to soft foods that easily to digest
@@stan_Jesus_for_live_longer trust me, I've been there. But, thank god, I'm better now. Have you tried porridge? I live in Indonesia, in here we called "Bubur Sumsum", it's a very soft sweet porridge made from flour. Google it: Bubur Sumsu m. Try make it yourself
I have this for years and still can't eat i eat one meal a day my weight is 59kg and going down more and more i was 75kg
I Hope youre okay now!! if I may ask you were eating solid food?
I've always struggled with choking anxiety on and off
I have same from problem from 8days because I faced problem of chocking as I was going to be die due to choking . I was eating grapes. But I do not know what happened with me. Now I have fear to eat anything. I am not eating food I am just taking juice. How can solve to this choking fear.😢
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Everyone always say to take small bites… but taking small bites get me so tired. My mom makes my food, and she gives me small portions because if I see it’s a lot, I will get tired really fast. Plus small bites give me such a hard times because it’s even harder to swallow since it’s not that much.
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I am fighting this for 7 years I don’t believe there’s people like me I’m so shocked 😢 I was diagnosed with esophageal reflux but it is not getting better with medications. I think it is anxiety because I started having this fear after I had an x-ray with the dye and it got stuck for a few seconds in my throat and I panicked. I don’t know if this is PTSD? Knowing that I suffer from anemia, I noticed that this fear appears when I am exhausted. Who can overcome this fear? Please help me.
I also experience the same anxiety, but I want to ask here, can small food if it enters the respiratory tract cause death?
Or is it just large food that can cause death if it enters the respiratory tract??
Please help those who can answer, hopefully it will be good for those who answer, thank you
Only large foods can fully blocks your respiratory tract, small food will make you caugh but you'll be fine after some caughing since you can still breathe through it. One thing to note though is that if you choke do not drink water to make it ease rather you should just keep on caughing.
I have the same problem last last week I got choked when I drinking a water and after that everytime I try to drink or to eat I'm scared to swallow I feel I'm gonna Choked again 😭 I don't know what to do please send help
When you put food in your dont dont let it go just through yet just keep chewing until you made small pieces of food and them let it go through after
Had this phobia now for 3 yrs watched my partners grandma choke & no one noticed except me.. she then vomited all over the table bless her heart & the staff thought we were trying to get out of paying. Seeing all this & being the only one to notice & tell the staff to screw off… it was all too much I think & now I swear I only order soup when I’m out at him I’m perfectly fine.
This happened to me with saliva. I was driving, and swallowed saliva and went straight into the wind pipe which was pretty scary. Since then I’ve been anxious/afraid to swallow while driving and over think it, but when not driving doing normal activities I can swallow just fine, even with liquid and food.
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I’ve suffered from this for who knows how long. I accidentally swallowed a grape whole when I was 9 at my primary school and I was fine for a while, just had to carry a water bottle around with me everywhere. But then years later, before I went into Year 9 at secondary school, I choked on a bit of pasta and ever since then I have developed this issue of only eating mash potato and blending other foods like chicken and peas. I eat the same things everyday and it’s really upsetting to not be able to eat normally. I’m now 17 and have had to do online studying as I wasn’t eating anything for lunch when I was at school but I am still stuck on only eating about 5 different things. If anyone has any suggestions please help, I’ve been seeing a hypnotherapist but it’s not really helping and it’s taking forever for me to get an appointment with a speech and language therapist.
Hi I can say that I have experienced this problem myself. I have had therapy but I still have the same belief, where I experience tightness in my throat. Have you got any tips please?
Thank you very much
Why would UA-cam's algorithm suggest a video detailing what happens when you drown looking up videos like this 😭😭
Thank you for this video, I have had this issue for about 2 years spitting out far more food than I eat and after receiving cognitive behavioural therapy unfortunatly it is not improving. It pretty much started overnight haven't been the same since, it's amazing to see that this can be overcome, any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.
Goodness you poor thing. Sorry to hear CBT didn’t work, but it’s worth trying this again as each therapist delivers the therapy differently. Also we do have a film here on our channel abut this topic with tips to help.
@@nikandevaspeakman thank you I have had two separate treatments of cbt and unfortunatly it hasn't improved. Thank you for your reply, I will look on your site.
Don’t be ashamed or feel bad I used to love food I used to joke about me getting my money’s worth at a buffet and believe me I did and then at 17 years old I choked on pizza crust I freaked out I never had anxiety before and it grew then I stopped eating I refused to eat I used to be 293Lbs I am now 19 going on 20 and I still have not eating I have developed a phobia of choking/eating I know people will laugh at this and now at 19 almost 20 I am 146Lbs and am struggling to keep weight on my body the doctors don’t believe me and won’t help me because at this point I look like a drug addict trying to get anything I can get my hands on at this point most people would give up but I have a wonderful fiancé that has stuck by my side for 1 year and 3 months and I want to put weight on my body and get help and like I said most people would have given up but I refuse to I have so many things I would like to do in life so many ideas I don’t know if anyone stuggles with the extent of my problems but I am open to tips and motivation so I can get to the point where I used to be I cook for my fiancé non stop and take my little sister out to eat and I encourage her to order more,she asks why and I tell her that it breaks my heart not being able to eat food is a comfort thing for me and used to be the only thing I loved/enjoyed now it’s the thing I am scared of
@@nikandevaspeakman hi pls how can I contact you? My 10 year old needs your help
Please seek Jesus guys. I had this phobia at one time and it caused me to not eat solid food for years. After coming to Christ and reading the Bible, I learned that it was possibly a spirit of fear causing this problem. I had my mom fast and pray for me and right the next day I was chowing on meat and other foods. Everyone was shocked as they had not seen me eat in 3-4yrs. I hope this helps someone ❤
I have the same thing I believe. I chew my food like 100 times until I can swallow it or eat with water otherwise I won't eat if I don't have a glass of water near me. It's even wors with pills, last year I was diagnosed with cancer, I had surgery, chemo and now I need to take 4 pills daily for 2 years and I just can't, that really makes me feel like a failure.
little tip for pills, it has truly made it easier for me and hope it will for you too, in order to take your pills fill you mouth with water then bring your chin downward in order for the pill to get to the top of the water then you just swallow in that position, it just makes it impossible for you to choke since the pill is on the opposite side of your respiration tract.
@anthalist7572 thank you, I'll try that and see how it goes. 😊
I choked on pizze back in August, about 3 weeks to a month later I started having trouble swallowing. I know it's all in my head and anxiety driven. Now whenever I eat my throat feels full and tight. I feel like I can't swallow or breath. It's gradually gotten worse, but then will go away for a while. Has anyone had success with this?
I just got this a few weeks ago. How are you holding up?
@@sauceinnasaucer42 it's been a roller coaster. I'll have periods where I'm fine and can make it through a meal with minimal discomfort, and other times it takes me forever to eat. Ill pace around trying to find the courage to swallow. Eating out is very hard. But I did watch some videos that have helped. Yourself? How are you ?
@@tinylivingdude honestly wasn’t able to eat most things but now I’m slowly starting to be able to eat bread and things like chicken. I’m scared of salads rn or any type of vegetable since the texture is hard and makes me think a lot while chewing it. I’ve noticed that realizing it’s all in my head has helped alot but I’m still in progress. We will get through this!
@@sauceinnasaucer42 it's such a mental battle. It's all mental, but the physical impact is unreal. Just goes to show the mind body connection. Thank-you for commenting. It's nice to know I'm not alone. I'm also forcing myself to work through these fears and take once step at a time. It's been helping. All the best my friend
@@jerometremb2392how are you now?
Someone please help.. i have stopped attending get togethers due to this phobia
I’ve 34 I’ve been hiding this from the world since I was 19
hi friend! is it okay now? how are you dealing with it/ and do you eat solid food?
yes i can eat solid food fine now, but the phobia of just sitting around sucks , because it constantly feels like i'll choke on my salvia .. i'll get there though!
I've recently developed this phobia too, in the past I have had times where I'm eating something and when I try to wash it down with a drink, the drink itself fails and comes back up again then I start coughing and gasping for air. I don't know if this is the same as choking though, but I've convinced myself that I have something wrong with my throat and can't swallow properly.
It’s always best to first speak to your doctor to check your throat which is most likely absolutely fine as what you are describing is fairly standard symptoms of a swallowing phobia. Once you have the all clear from your doctor you can seek therapy or follow the techniques and tips we share here on our channel to overcome this. In essence you have likely had an event that has given you a heightened awareness to swallowing which causes anxiety. Anxiety consequently triggers the choking sensation,
@@nikandevaspeakmanSir, I want to ask, the average choking event that causes death in adults is choking on an object of what size? I hope your answer can relieve my anxiety?
A talk of one or two hours make the person with 7 years bearing this problem, to swallow the sandwich? well tell me your fucvking secret, because I face my food all days and I have this problem 15 years and no improvement!!! even when i am completely relaxed and with 0 anxiety. Facing it over and over again and still not being able to swallow, to push that ball of food down, without diluting it first with water or my tongue. It is very deceiving how easily they put an end to his phobia, and quite upsetting.
Omg this is me to a T I’m terrified to eat all the time because fear of choking. My brother choked on a sonic mint when I was babysitting him years ago I was 18 and I’m 38 now and still deal with this. I just want to be normal.
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How do we get the help
Thanks for replying to my other comment. Listen, I know you probably get loads of comments every single day but I'm really struggling with this choking phobia of mine, I literally dread meal times whereas I used to love food and I never thought twice about chewing it then swallowing it. But when I'm sitting at the dinner table, I now take about 45 minutes to eat the meal whereas I used to eat it in about 10 minutes, sometimes I can't finish it because I'm chewing it so much until it's liquid then I swallow it and even then I still feel like I'm going to choke.
It's like my body is preparing for the worst every time I swallow the food and it's a total nightmare. This is honestly the worst type of anxiety I've ever had in my entire life (I'm 30 now) I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I think what makes this phobia worse than other phobias is the fact that you have to eat, whereas if you're afraid of spiders, all you have to do is walk away from it but I have to eat meals or I'll just lose weight and possibly die.
I should mention that I can eat softer foods and small snacks without any problem, so I'm pretty sure this is just an anxiety thing but it's so debilitating, because if I'm eating a spaghetti bolognaise for example, I can sit and eat that without even thinking about the possibility of choking and I don't have the panicy symptoms over it, but obviously I don't want to be eating spaghetti bolognaise for the rest of my life. I want to be able to enjoy the other foods that I used to love eating.
Lastly, I was at the hospital on the 7th December because I had another incident where a piece of meat got stuck on it's way down my throat (I don't think I chewed it properly) and when I tried drinking, the drink couldn't get by and came up again. Eventually it did go down but it took over 20 minutes. When I saw the doctor that night, he just said that he didn't think there was anything wrong with my throat, (again I didn't actually choke, it was just the food sticking at the back of my throat and wouldn't go down quick enough) So I guess I'm in the clear and it is just an anxiety thing but it's just so scary when it happens.
Sorry to hear about it dude. At least you’re doing better than I am. Wish I can eat a meal within an hour or so. It’s so bad that I just don’t eat and drink meal replacements. Always hungry. Been to the doctor they just send me away wish I can get some help at least. I almost choked a burger well not choke my mind thinks that, but I was still able to breathe it was just stuck at the back and I had to cough it up. And some days like today I haven’t eaten anything just been drinking my meal replacements. Hoping for better days, for us and everyone. I’m 30 too.
By any chance do you have acid reflux? I do. And what tips can you spare me? Thanks
@@neckshot8594 Thanks for your reply, I don't know if I have acid reflux, it's possible that I do but any time where food has got stuck on it's way down, it's either because I didn't take regular drinks while eating the meal so the food kind of piles up, or I didn't chew the piece properly. But it's so scary when you can't wash it down, the drink just gargles in the food pipe and it either pauses for a second then flushes it down, or it just comes straight back up again.
I think the main thing to remember is that it's not the same as choking (I'm not sure what you call it. Is there a name for that symptom?) choking is when the piece of food blocks your air pipe and you can't breathe, cough or speak and you have to get someone to dislodge it. I don't even want to imagine what that feels like.
@@James-4812 my food gets stuck at the back of my throat sometimes, and that scares me enough. Sure I can breathe but still, I am scared to eat. I hate it dude. And hmm, way down you say, shouldn’t way down be already in your stomach?
@@neckshot8594 Yeah it's awful because your mind just plays tricks on you, when you swallow food, you feel it in your throat but for some reason you can't feel it go down, but it has. I think our brains just focus on the throat.
@@James-4812 exactly how I feel. When I have a little tiny bit of food in my mouth and when it’s time for me to swallow my mind just fks with me and makes it tight at the back of my throat and yeah kind of gets stuck
God Please Help us 🙏🏻🙏🏻
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With God's grace my fear of swallowing food is gone
@@gurneetkaur8824did you have anything like therapy/distracted yourself when you were eating/or new habits that made you able to eat normally?
@@jeannestuff In order to get rid of fear of swallowing I used to eat food with my family members and also I tried watching series while eating and after 5-6 days my fear gone completely.
@@gurneetkaur8824 thank you so much!
i have this phobia or torture, 12 years, please help me
Help me :( I cannot enjoy my food anymore
Xanax if NOT HELPING. I’m still too terrified to eat.