Deciding to Transition: Being True to Yourself, Not Others

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  • Опубліковано 28 гру 2024

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  • @hazel4696
    @hazel4696 24 дні тому +57

    its mf ridiculous how much I have to pick up my inner little girl and be her best friend, help remind her of all the little good things while we navigate these systems and link up our diaspora. the bay is beautiful, even in the world that punished me into hating and hiding myself

  • @augiejohannes
    @augiejohannes 24 дні тому +34

    I spent the past 15 or so years of my life avoiding mirrors or obsessing in front of them, and now I just get so excited to look and see what my body is up to. It’s all about euphoria now

  • @tris_makes_music
    @tris_makes_music 23 дні тому +13

    "SPONGEBOB IS A SPONGE !" loved this rant, well said ! ☆

  • @waffle._.bubbles
    @waffle._.bubbles 23 дні тому +31

    I really needed this video today. I started testosterone today. I’ve been completely alone in the process because my parents made it clear they don’t support physical transition. I don’t know how I’m going to have that conversation with them, but it’s reassuring to know that even if they react badly, there are still people out there that realize I’m making the best choice I can for myself.

  • @renevalice3056
    @renevalice3056 23 дні тому +17

    I’m more aligned with the David Bowie style myself; the stardust glamour and male beauty is what I ponder about, in expression. Gotta have signature spice 🌸🕺💃

  • @sabbie9731
    @sabbie9731 23 дні тому +21

    The ocean is beautiful. You know, i think im finally accepting that i might be transmasc. I struggled a lot with even talking to myself about it but its crazy how community can bring you out. I had a crazy thought the other night about being a man. I realized, i couldnh envision a life where i was trans or masc because i couldnt even imagine or dream that i could "be a man". I couldn't envision myself happy and masculine. I've only had difficult experiences with masculinity, queer or not. I think im finally ready to start talking to myself, like really having deep conversations about who i am right now in the moment. You are so right Paris, you can die at any moment and it wont matter 100 years later. So do what you want, be who you are, and dream bigger than you ever could imagine. Thank you for sharing your music (YOU got me into cavetown lol your cover was amazing) and thank you for sharing your thoughts. May you have a peaceful day 💛

  • @dragonlovelachlan957
    @dragonlovelachlan957 23 дні тому +12

    The ocean truly is beautiful. Thank you for this message! I am a transwoman fairly early in transition, I needed this perspective. You are a beautiful soul.

  • @madsstokes
    @madsstokes 24 дні тому +22

    We're in this together, but the journey is still your own. Being true to yourself is vital to finding who you are and what makes you feel happy and fulfilled. ♡

  • @haz454
    @haz454 21 день тому +8

    so i knew i was queer from a young age and tried to embrace my transition, but didn’t have the support & self-belief to follow through, so i went through every label and expression under the sun. hyper-femme, hyper-masc, gay, bi, pan. it was only once i started testosterone that i was able to fully realise what i knew as a child. that i am enough AS I AM, no labels! i am visibly trans and get people assuming all sorts, but whether they think i’m man or woman or whatever i really don’t care because i am me, and i have built that resilience and confidence to know that’s all i need to be. my body is the transsexual tea i’ve always dreamed of, my family & friends are all behind me now because they see me thriving & happy. you have to live, for our ancestors, for our community, to honour your unique and glorious self.

  • @dontmindme2044
    @dontmindme2044 13 днів тому +3

    OMG YES MARCELINE!!!!! She inspired me in so many ways, like, through her I started processing my own queernes, and I too wanted to dress like her (I'm transmasc). Hell, I even started playing the bass because of her. I mean she really was so much to me, and such a big part of my self discovery!

  • @corps3punk
    @corps3punk 7 днів тому +1

    Hey imma black transmasculine person and bruh, the way I used to watch drag race and love makeup and this and all that and idk I’m in a place where, although binding helps me be perceived more as a guy, I’m actually not happy with it. Like sure I feel less dysphoric cause I’m getting he/him’ed n shit but I miss makeup and painting my nails. Ion even think I wanna be flat-flat when I get surgery, so yea I say all that to say I love this video and I thank you for making em!

  • @rickelijah4270
    @rickelijah4270 23 дні тому +5

    To be, what you want to be. To be an servant to your ideal self. ....... Getting out of you're own hell can give you new energy that now can be spend on others. Overcoming your own hell can give insight that could help others. Overcome and concour yourselves, so you gain energy and knowledge to serve others, as you yourself wants or wanted to be loved. Choosing for yourself can also be an way to help others. Like sleeping and eating. To reclaim energy or gain energy. Is to gain power to perform your will, a will for THE Good, THE Great, for us all, to not fall, to stand, against, those who oppress us all. Against those in power, who rather kill THE Good, then share any power.
    -*owlovo*

  • @notgoodwithnames78
    @notgoodwithnames78 22 дні тому +4

    this is such a refreshing thing to see. i’ve never watched your channel before, but i followed you immediately. i’ve known that i’m transmasc for the past 4 years, and i’ve been completely unable to transition. i’ll still likely be unable to transition for another 4 years. before, it was for social reasons - transphobic family and whatnot. now, it’s a mix of that and medical reasons. won’t get into why, but for a couple different medical reasons, i can’t bind. alternate methods don’t work. all that would work is surgery that i don’t have access to. now i’m currently struggling with whether i come out to people as trans despite visibly, unavoidably looking like a cis woman, or whether i hide myself away completely for these next few years. i think i’ll do the latter just for the sake of my own safety, but it’s still hard. now, i’m just trying to keep going, trying to envision who i want to be, who i will be, with time. little things like this - signs from my community that everything will be alright - help. the ocean is beautiful. thank you for this.

  • @moonbeam-isabel
    @moonbeam-isabel 24 дні тому +7

    Your videos one way or the other inspire me to be better, grow a community and accept and love myself, the ocean is beautiful 💕

  • @Veryvoidlove
    @Veryvoidlove 22 дні тому +3

    Sometimes im dysphoric about whether or not i pass and then i remember people like you exsit and then i feel better bc it reminds me i am real and whole as myself and its beautiful to be my kind of trans.

  • @cmgvillager
    @cmgvillager 24 дні тому +10

    The ocean is beautiful, I can listen to you talk for hrs, I do have a question on how do you find community tho in person? I can only do so online rn and it’s getting hard to actually being in a space where I can be myself.

  • @coryand3r
    @coryand3r 24 дні тому +4

    I love this video so much

  • @TeeTeeloveee
    @TeeTeeloveee 21 день тому +1

    Much gratitude ✨🤍

  • @MrPikminmaster
    @MrPikminmaster 23 дні тому +3

    7:41 is real as hell. it's such a life changer. I used to be so avoidant attachment all over the place on the apps cuz i was insecure about my body. Now I love my features way more and understand that my chest makes me feel weird for gender reasons rather than me being weird looking.

  • @alpha_c.
    @alpha_c. 24 дні тому +5

    pls tell this to my parents 🙏

  • @susanjoyce4244
    @susanjoyce4244 22 дні тому +1

    The ocean is BEAUTIFUL 🙏🗣️🗣️🗣️

  • @jenjenesis
    @jenjenesis 22 дні тому +3

    I'm so glad UA-cam recommended this video cuz hearing you spit facts like that , it's really amazing and inspiring. These days I'm watching more videos from the Trans community, especially Black Trans people. I feel like I'm starting to realise how I really am, I'm only 23 rn but I know that I want to transition. Hope you have a great day/night Paris 😊

  • @MoonlightMothMedia
    @MoonlightMothMedia 23 дні тому +3

    Ocean is so beautiful!!

  • @chillsgaming1900
    @chillsgaming1900 19 днів тому +1

    The ocean is beautiful!

  • @SLIM3GOD
    @SLIM3GOD 21 день тому +2

    this is what i needed rn and i love that beautiful ocean

  • @jackiefloyd5411
    @jackiefloyd5411 21 день тому +2

    Thank you for this video i needed this, i have been struggling for a few months now. But i just need to be me and push away the haters. Much love and hope you stay healthy

  • @jobbathan2
    @jobbathan2 23 дні тому +2

    I appreciate ur videos, thank you for spreading your word

  • @Lynxiro
    @Lynxiro 24 дні тому +3

    Ramble dump:
    I'm still kicking myself how did not take the a binary trans diagnosis (F64.0, ICD10 classification) from the underage gender clinic 'till 2018, bcs I could not get a NB one there thanks to bureaucracy. I just wanted something that would fit me better and be true to myself. I would be much further along, if I just took the less fitting one... Where I live we do not have a third option for juridical gender (only real legal recognition I can get is the F64.8 paperwork).
    The latest complaint I wrote to our Population Data Services got an answer from a Senior Specialist, which had the word "official" in quotes when talking about gender (I never used the word official in the complaint I send). I guess there is progress being done somewhere, now that e.g. goverment funded research centers etc recognizes gender minorities already, so the only one lacking behind is the legal system.
    I am supposedly getting a prescription for hormones this month, but I have do the whole travel 8h in total via train to the bloody clinic.
    I do feel a lot closer to my true self nowdays. I used to feel pressure of "passing" all of that fitting into the mold what was expected. I guess I just had internalized transphobia, which just made me focus on how other view me and not how I actually would be happy. Also I did not feel "trans enough".
    I'm just tired and annoyed at our trans healthcare system and at our legal system.
    Be your true self and not what other people expect you to be, even from the trans community. The fear of not "passing" is just going to make you hate your current sitsuation even more and it kills your self confidence. Now that I feel like I carry myself better the worst comment I have heard being talked about me was "I would not have the balls.".
    Thanks for reading my drawn out rambling. You are valid.

  • @wokewitch
    @wokewitch 24 дні тому +4

    The ocean is beautiful! (The bay is beautiful? !)

  • @Raddiebaddie
    @Raddiebaddie 12 днів тому

    Love the combo of silly and serious... ❤

  • @HeccingHydra
    @HeccingHydra 17 днів тому

    I appreciate your words and everything you do

  • @urbanisationofm3349
    @urbanisationofm3349 22 дні тому

    The ocean is beautiful

  • @hmm983
    @hmm983 12 днів тому

    it’s kinda chilling how your saying everything single thing i’ve been thinking but I thought know one else would understand… I feel so blessed coming across your channel 😩fawk

  • @hmm983
    @hmm983 12 днів тому

    the ocean is beautifulll

  • @marz.420
    @marz.420 24 дні тому +2

    This video is so important, thank u

  • @chrissygibssy
    @chrissygibssy 23 дні тому +2

    Powerful truth 💜 took me a long time to find it
    Inspiring views 💜 your soul is an ocean, timeless

  • @NoelleHoliday-w5r
    @NoelleHoliday-w5r 2 дні тому

    You're so fucking cool and wise bro when i grow up im tryna get like you

  • @Fraaanzes
    @Fraaanzes 12 днів тому

    bro is majestic

  • @PirateZ1
    @PirateZ1 23 дні тому +1

    A ramble but a great ramble made me reflect A LOT

  • @glitchin2547
    @glitchin2547 14 днів тому

    Idk how to say this without it sounding sarcastic but you lowkey the realest dude I've ever heard lmao, been binge watching your vids, ngl took me like 2-3 to even clock you were trans lmao my slow ass
    Anyway just wanted to say appreciate what you do, keep speaking your truth, you helping cis, trans, nb, etc people every day, love your energy man, keep doing what you do ❤

  • @wizfizz93
    @wizfizz93 24 дні тому +2

    subcribed! love these videos so much. its so nice to see a new video from u pop up on my recommended every day and every time its on a subject i also devote a lot of time thinking about. parasocial i know, but its like checking in with a friend.

  • @matthewmacias8995
    @matthewmacias8995 12 днів тому

    Please keep making videos

  • @cloudthief8918
    @cloudthief8918 23 дні тому +2

    my yt recommendations rlly calling me out recently 😅

  • @sobers8105
    @sobers8105 18 днів тому

    “And if I’m flying solo, at least flying free”.
    Be free my trans people. And then we’ll find each other xoxo

  • @tanner3806
    @tanner3806 15 днів тому

    The ocean is beautiful 💖 though its been crazy difficult to find a community, im currently in college and ive been going club to club. I try to speak during class and reach out to others, but it feels so disconnected. I also realize im holding back alot, I often go into my shell and get real uncomfortable being visible, or i just straightup assume im a bother so I just quit reaching out to others. I have a history of avoidant anxious attached doormat

  • @KatarinaBartholomew
    @KatarinaBartholomew 23 дні тому +5

    Absolute facts. I love you Paris 🫶🏻.
    This whole video is so facts. It took me detransitioning to figure this out. figure out who I am 🩵

  • @NadiaDelcatty-pg6fs
    @NadiaDelcatty-pg6fs 19 днів тому

    The ocean is beautiful