You can hear in her voice and very clearly see in her face that, of course, understandably, NOTHING IS FINE ABOUT A MISSING FATHER OR MOTHER. But we all need to make the best of our situations. Let's return to traditional family. Amen!
Absent parent makes u sad but a bad presence parent can leave you traumatized physically, mentally, emotionally. There's no need to argue about which is better
That’s EXACTLY why I don’t talk to my mom. She can do no wrong so after a point I had to decide that I’d rather have her absence than a violent presence. Beautifully said.
Me sitting in the back crying because my biological dad left me and than my mom remarried with a toxic guy and I hate my mom for staying with him for so long 😭I know it’s selfish to hate my mom for it but she was the one who stood there while this guy absolutely used me and destroyed my self esteem completely
Whatever you are feeling you are totally justified because parents are supposed to be there for their kids and protect their kids. The key to peace is to find that thing inside of you that wants to heal and begin to move in that direction. I wish you the best…
My biological father left when i was born, then my mom dated someone who was very controlling over my mom and i and insisted that i called him dad. My mom broke up with him and married my step dad who adopted me as a gift for my birthday. It worked out in the end, but I dealt with a lot of self-hatred and abandonment issues because of my bio dad
That was so sad to reflect upon as it reminded me of my own experience growing up. My dad would alternate between absence, as he often worked abroad, and (sometimes) violent presence. It was both extremes, and it wasn't predictable.
My parents had a huge fight in front of me when I was 6, so she is extremely right. Be grateful for what you have but if they straight up treat you like 💩 then don’t be.
I wish my dad cared a little bit more. He just sits around playing video games and doesn't feed me and my brother healthy. I sometimes fight with my mom... she's divorced from my dad and they have split custody. But at least she feeds us well and takes care of us better. I'm depressed and I'm only realizing how my dad is until a few months ago.
My bio father was living with me, my mom and brother, but he was never really there? He didn't take care of me when I was a kid it was either on my mom or my grandparents. He was either sleeping, playing computer games or heck do know where. For sure not at work cause he never provide for us since my mom got off maternity leave. He was distant emotionally my entire live, even if he was really close physically. And when he actually talk to me, he most of the time wasn't sobber or was just ruining my self esteem. So yea at some point I just realized I would much rather have my parents divorce, than still have to live with him. But It wasn't my choice to make
I got both absence and violent presence by having my biological dad leave when i was 2 and my mom choosing to marry again when i was 6 with a toxic guy oh and yeah, last year they divorced, i have gone through it all!😄😁🙂😌😕🙁😞
I know my dads name and ive seen one pic.im 53,dont know if hes dead or alive.if i found out he lived 3 streets away and had 3 weeks to live,i would not be running round there.oh i can find out where he is anytime,just not a priority.
My dad was in my life then he sent me to live with my mom and i never saw him ever again...5 years ago i learned he died after he was buried. Im so angry i feel like im going to kill someone
Everything about this Post showed that you were fed lies, many lies about your father. How do you know, if he wasn't in your life, that he was violent and toxic? You have no personal firsthand information, except what you were convinced of..... Shouldn't you get to know this person, to have your own personal opinion, rather than live your whole entire life, based on the opinion of another?
@@tannisarkar8334 Men don't abandoned their children. Men abandon the toxicity of the women they have kids with. Women use their children as pawns to manipulate fathers. It takes a lot for a man to separate himself from his children. If only you know the heart of the man who has kids, it changes them, but they cannot and do not know how to express themselves and their emotional/ psychological connection with their children to a toxic, manipulating female who bears his kids.....this is from years of experience counseling divorce and divorcing fathers
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You can hear in her voice and very clearly see in her face that, of course, understandably, NOTHING IS FINE ABOUT A MISSING FATHER OR MOTHER.
But we all need to make the best of our situations. Let's return to traditional family. Amen!
Absent parent makes u sad but a bad presence parent can leave you traumatized physically, mentally, emotionally. There's no need to argue about which is better
Exactly!!!
We’re not comparing who’s more fucked up so stop this
Imagine doesnt have present father but in the other side have an abusive and violent step
You got lucky your mother shows emotion. My dad left before i was born and my mom is kind of cold.
That’s EXACTLY why I don’t talk to my mom. She can do no wrong so after a point I had to decide that I’d rather have her absence than a violent presence. Beautifully said.
I had a father who passed away but even when he was alive it was like he was dead. He was basically like a ghost in our lives.
Me sitting in the back crying because my biological dad left me and than my mom remarried with a toxic guy and I hate my mom for staying with him for so long 😭I know it’s selfish to hate my mom for it but she was the one who stood there while this guy absolutely used me and destroyed my self esteem completely
I'm late but sorry that happened to u. You've got this mate, stay strong. God bless
Whatever you are feeling you are totally justified because parents are supposed to be there for their kids and protect their kids. The key to peace is to find that thing inside of you that wants to heal and begin to move in that direction. I wish you the best…
My biological father left when i was born, then my mom dated someone who was very controlling over my mom and i and insisted that i called him dad. My mom broke up with him and married my step dad who adopted me as a gift for my birthday. It worked out in the end, but I dealt with a lot of self-hatred and abandonment issues because of my bio dad
I also have 3 half brothers, my dads side... he is absent. Emotionally neglectful. My mother is a alcoholic/addict. I am 24 still healing of course.
That last line was very true.
That was so sad to reflect upon as it reminded me of my own experience growing up. My dad would alternate between absence, as he often worked abroad, and (sometimes) violent presence. It was both extremes, and it wasn't predictable.
Okay woah my biological father is from Kentucky too and he’s an absent father too that hit home quick af
I have an absent father. I fucking miss him man.
Crazy how easy it is for some people in the comments to still blame her and her mother and not the man who abandoned his family
My parents had a huge fight in front of me when I was 6, so she is extremely right. Be grateful for what you have but if they straight up treat you like 💩 then don’t be.
I mean there are more options than absence and violent presence
I wish my dad cared a little bit more. He just sits around playing video games and doesn't feed me and my brother healthy. I sometimes fight with my mom... she's divorced from my dad and they have split custody. But at least she feeds us well and takes care of us better. I'm depressed and I'm only realizing how my dad is until a few months ago.
If I can get to this level of oh well, I’ll be okay 😂
My bio father was living with me, my mom and brother, but he was never really there? He didn't take care of me when I was a kid it was either on my mom or my grandparents. He was either sleeping, playing computer games or heck do know where. For sure not at work cause he never provide for us since my mom got off maternity leave. He was distant emotionally my entire live, even if he was really close physically. And when he actually talk to me, he most of the time wasn't sobber or was just ruining my self esteem. So yea at some point I just realized I would much rather have my parents divorce, than still have to live with him. But It wasn't my choice to make
I can relate with you.
I got both absence and violent presence by having my biological dad leave when i was 2 and my mom choosing to marry again when i was 6 with a toxic guy oh and yeah, last year they divorced, i have gone through it all!😄😁🙂😌😕🙁😞
Absence is also highly traumatic and causes developmental issues
My daughters father is like this. I needed to hear this. Oddly enough.
Just say your baby daddy
I know my dads name and ive seen one pic.im 53,dont know if hes dead or alive.if i found out he lived 3 streets away and had 3 weeks to live,i would not be running round there.oh i can find out where he is anytime,just not a priority.
i volunteer for new daddy
Absent father + dealt with divorce growing up
My dad was in my life then he sent me to live with my mom and i never saw him ever again...5 years ago i learned he died after he was buried. Im so angry i feel like im going to kill someone
Fatherless behaviour 😂
She doesn't understand
Still anger towards the father
Because she was fed lies and does not him or his behaviour, personally.
Hey, sorry about your dad, but there isn't anything wrong with Kentucky.
Not directly no, but the south's track record on sex education and teen pregnancy is probably what she's leaning into there.
Your mother is single but your dad has 3 new children. Maybe also a happy life. Do the maths.
I rather be single with my kids then have a violent man in the house
Now father is bad because hed mother said so
Everything about this Post showed that you were fed lies, many lies about your father. How do you know, if he wasn't in your life, that he was violent and toxic? You have no personal firsthand information, except what you were convinced of..... Shouldn't you get to know this person, to have your own personal opinion, rather than live your whole entire life, based on the opinion of another?
you wont understand cause you didn't experience what she did. also it's not like she can change the past. she's actually being grateful and positive.
@@tannisarkar8334 Men don't abandoned their children. Men abandon the toxicity of the women they have kids with. Women use their children as pawns to manipulate fathers. It takes a lot for a man to separate himself from his children. If only you know the heart of the man who has kids, it changes them, but they cannot and do not know how to express themselves and their emotional/ psychological connection with their children to a toxic, manipulating female who bears his kids.....this is from years of experience counseling divorce and divorcing fathers
Never date women without a father
Sounds like her mother is the one who’s not great at taking responsibility.
??? Sounds like she's an emotionally supportive and available single mother.