You don't even understand how much this has helped me. It is good to hear something that will make me happy. This girl just slipped away from me and I have no chance of getting her back and I tried this and I don't even think about it. Thank you, Ian
I get that. Many people go through that at some stage. Don't you ever make yourself wrong for anything. All that is for a greater purpose and you'll discover your greatness soon! Just be strong!
I love comments like yours - people sharing their lives generously and that feels like a real conversation. Big thanks and hope to hear from you about how it went.
@MyPetsRockOutLoud Hi. Two things. First, the fact that he's leaving does not mean that he'll be missing. If he's your best friend, you know him well enough to have a conversation with him in your head. Also, instead of focusing on what's missing, focus on all those great moments you shared together and how much are are grateful for that. Once you start feeling real gratitude, you'll be able to connect your heart with his (literally - you will feel it) and it will feel as if he is with you. K.
@TheChryslers I'm sorry to hear that. What I see is that there's no need to protect him - he needs to wake up and stop making the whole world wrong including himself. Grieving should not last longer than a day. We need to celebrate people's lives, not cry over them. You need to be brave and tell him. Would his mother want him to grieve or be happy and proud of her? You're such a big stand for this man - you need to take all the necessary steps - do not take pity - empower him!
Hello, Mr kamil I recently lost a friend he ended his life by himself and from then on I had a strange feeling within me and also created a sense of fear within me. I tried to tackle this situation but when I looked for help on the net but my fear kept on compounding rather than reducing. My mind started to judge all those thoughts related to suicide and kept on engaging with it. Like the thing which you told not to do in your video. As you said we must not engage with our thoughts. I was desperate for a solution until UA-cam helped me to find you. Thanks a lot. From India.
I can see you are your biggest critic. I would recommend you stop listening to all that criticism and find what is great about you and focus on that. What are you passionate about? Don't let others inject their values into your life. You're unique! Be true to yourself. And be strong! No one else can live your life for you, but YOU!!!
this is a really radical idea! I haven't tried it yet, but I feel that the method is logical and seems to make sense. other sites always say things like, do more sports, talk to your friends...etc, which are things I already know. I'm so glad you uploaded this video!
today it helped me. for 2 years I've been trying to understand and learn this from different mentors. This was the bst, easy to understand explanation. thnk u.
you sir are a great soul, i totaly understand what your talking about. I always used to tell myself that the feelings i'm having were bad and i hated myslef for that. but your totaly right. my spirit was telling me i needed to just stop relax and think about the situation in my life, not just say " OH it's bad bad bad i hate my self.." Thanks man i feel soo much better after watching this video. -Alex
Hi Uncle. Very happy to be contributing to you and others. I appreciate the greetings from Long Beach. My plan is to visit Long Beach some time. Hopefully we can meet there!
Hello kamil. I'm so glad I found you. I'm currently going through a very hard time health wise which in turn is causing me great anxiety. I'm dizzy everyday. You helped my headache vanish last night with your mind focus exercise. I lean towards Buddhism in belief and recently took up meditation, which, in some ways, you are pressing on in this video. Calming the mind and doing yoga really helps me and I'm very interested in visualisation to bring better luck ones way. I really think you are very talented and if it hasn't happened already, you will be picked up by an agent to release a book of your knowledge. I have so many self help books but none of them really get you engaged. You possess the ability to engage people with your personality and words. You are brilliant and I can feel a change within me from watching your videos. Being positive is the key. Hard in dark times. But we must keep going. Thank you. Please post more. Maybe a talk on health and sufferings would help us and how to overcome and accept where we are and detach from mind crippling thoughts...which I believe keep us in our suffering for longer. Illness gives you a lot of thinking time which helps you learn about what id going on inside yourself but it can also be obsessive too. Thanks again.
+Charlotte Howe Hey, Charlotte. What an incredible comment. I really thank you for this. I acknowledge you for being strong and going on in spite of all the challenges. I acknowledge you also for being a beacon of hope and inspiration. I will think of a video you are suggesting. I really appreciate your kind words. Let me know if I can help in any way. Lots of hugs.
Thank you for replying Kamil. And for your kind words and offer of help. Life throws so many challenges at you sometimes. It's hard not to be sorry for yourself as you can remember a time when life wasn't so hard and long for that back. There must be a way to minimise negative thoughts and live in the moment rather than torturing yourself with 'what ifs'. I'll stay tuned and look forward to any future videos you do. Have a good day! Ps. If you haven't read it, I'm starting 'The mystic path to cosmic power!' My husband swears by this book which helped him through a very bad time.
+Charlotte Howe Thanks for the tip. The book that helped me a lot is amzn.to/23Y8IyV - brilliant. Also, to help you go through life, watch this: ua-cam.com/video/dXQPL9GooyI/v-deo.html
Hey man , i viewed this video 2 weeks ago , i was suicidal and hated life , i decided to take your steps and well they worked ! :D i have no feeling of suicide or feeling depressed anymore , thank you so much ! you have made me enjoy life again , i really dont know how to thank you :) take care of yourself buddy ! - Kai
It usually take a long time of observing the internal processes of the body and mind, before you come to enlightenment. And regarding feelings, it does not matter why. Focus on what is instead of on why.
@TheEthanater I can see that you actually have everything under control - just a bit overwhelmed. Don't worry, your sadness will pass. Just do what I suggested in the video, find support (friends, family, professionals) and remember that there is a blessing in every curse if you keep looking for it. Be strong and soon the sun will shine for you too. Fight for it - it won't come by itself. Take care Kamil
ok wow, if i found this 8 years ago, i would've gotten a decade back... but yeah, i run, i run away from fear physically, i run away by being actively avoiding the thing. But this is amazing, because instead of running away, you are telling me to step back, jump out of the box, and look at these feelings from an objective point of view, put the feelings, put the fear in a box, and observe it from a distance. You are right, these feelings are FEEDBACK for our Emotional body. You know a bruise or physical pain is feedback to tell you physically not to damage your body. If you study too long and you get tired, that is feedback to tell you that your mind is slipping away. Fear makes you uneasy, fear is like AIDS it attacks the very system that is used to analyze what fear is,, but like all feedback, you understand it and fear becomes a feedback for your Emotional body.
Ive got major depression where I felt very suicidal, and though Ive overcome that terrible, pointless stage through rational and logical thought, Im still very negative cynical and generally unhappy. I do stop to think about why Im unhappy, and I I do realise when Ive crashed low, and that helps. The thing is, though self-analys is certainly helpful, it usuallyy doesnt bring me out of the depressive state of mind for too long, and It comes back sometimes back. It doesnt go away, I just cope.
Numbness might be a result of resignation or prolonged depression - a defence mechanism. Start digging into this numbness and things will start to come up. Once they are on the surface, you can have a look at them and face them.
Well, first of all trying is not enough - you really need to do it. Second of all, the pain is the consequence of what you are telling yourself about the situation. Start telling yourself other things like "It's for the better, I'll be stronger, I'll find a better person, God has something exciting for me" etc.
@clip012 I'm glad I made you laughed. Of course I would be different in real life interaction. I can see you are clear on what you want - great. In that case you just need to accept that it will take a lot of time and effort to get what you want, and stop complaining about that - you have chosen that. Be powerful and make that happen. Lots of love and hugs Kamil
Hi Kamil Helpful advice , no one can feel how it looks like until trying it. You are right , run away never a solution, in some point you we have to face our problem. Thanks Kamil
@Beastfromtheeast17 Comforting or reassuring won't help as depression is simply unbalanced look at life and misinterpretation of bodily reactions. The best thing you can do is simply to be with her. That means stay with her, don't talk, don't force a smile (don't smile at all even), and connect with her, so you can feel what she feels, and she can feel that you feel. Don't make the depression wrong - it's not. It very good, useful. Stay with it until you can see through it - it will take time.
hi Kamil i have a fear that i may develope a headache when i m travelling for a long time and i break down with a headache . i will do the right things from now and be no longer afraid of it . thank you buddy u r ☆☆☆☆☆ man
@Businessman1988 I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, life is a cycle and stress and fear will come back every now and then. Again, the stress is not a bad thing. It just shows you where there is a lack of balance in your life. If you have identified your ex girlfriend as the surface cause of the issue, inquire within about the real cause. Also, go out and look for help from others. It's very challenging to find out the truth by yourself. There are not short cuts. I hope that helps.
I am going through some emotional feelings right now and I mainly brought it on myself. I have never really faced being alone and feeling lonely. I always find myself calling someone or having to watch degrading things to feel somewhat better but it doesnt help after the long run.
I did what you said and came to the conclusion what was causing my panic and stress was a medication, I stopped it and I feel better now, I had thought I had forgotten this video but apparently I did what you told me in this video subconsciously days ago
@clip012 I understand. You have spent lots of time building it and would not make sense to waste that. I'm not saying that it is like that, but consider that all the things you have done so far were done to a different end than being with him. Maybe it was so that you could grow or develop yourself emotionally, etc. Simply speak with your guy and ask what he thinks about that. Get complete with all the people involved, and let go of all the past: it does not matter what has happened, but what
After I watched your first video of how to remove a headache half of my headache was gone it was the part on the surface.I kept watching your videos and stumbled upon this one.I sat with myself a half an hour analyzing and listing my fears and anxiety and realized this thick black cloud of emotioons covering brain that is the fear and there is alot,as I listed these fears and worried my headache started decreasing I feel a bit more alive but there are still alot of unanswered questions with myself I dont know how to find.Anyways I am a new subscriber and wanted to thankyou for your being and your beautiful mind and intention of sharing your knowledge I love you already as you love others,Thankyou
Vidia Israel Dear, Vidia. You are a beautiful soul committed to expanding your life and being all that you can be, and I'm privileged to have you as a viewer. Well done for taking yourself on. Don't worry about unanswered questions - there will always be some. Happiness lies not in answering them, but in finding peace with yourself. Keep inquiring internally and it will all be clearer and clearer. Watch my other videos on similar topics. Have a blessed day!
I will most certainly watch your videos.I am so happy I found them I do not know you personally but you are now a part of my daily routine.Thankyou Kamil!
@bulet101 Hi. Stress is like pain - it tells us that there's something that requires our attention. You have two options - take a pain killer and pretend that everything is ok, or you can have a look, find the problem and fix it. In your car, you can go and change the oil or you can pretend that everything is ok and wait until the engine ceases. Now good and bad are very relative terms - the more you examine it, the more you'll see how good is often bad, and bad is often good. Does it help?
Im out of work now and even going through a divorce. I have been drinking a lot and brought to financial ruin. Staying away from the alcohol because I see how it destroys everything around you. Im going to try what you explained and see if it helps. Thanks!
@Kamilsview thanks for ur reply. yes, there is no joy. i am hurting. but if u know me and u know how bad the situation that we hv been thru, u wld not suggest that i break up with him cuz it is not worth it. it is not as easy as "he is a bad guy, not good enaf for u, u deserve better, leave him"..i am already constantly living in an environment that everybody trying to talk sense on me to leave him and find a local guy..we fought thru everything to be together...
Great video. Actually what you're doing is that you becoming present and witnessing the sensation of anxiety or depression. So those kind of questions about the sensations is a very smart tool to develop more awareness over those sensations. By the time you witness it and you do not judge it, eventually you do not fuel it. Nice one.
I believe it will be the same, it will just take a bit longer. You will also need support of other people around you, and possibly some pills, but you need to be careful with those as they often escalate the problem.
I just had a layoff and the same day the light came on to change the oil in my car... which makes this was so timely that it's spooky lol. Very nice message. Thanks
@hunterhagood Ok, great that you identified that. Now stay with it for as long as you can and keep looking at it. Go into the biggest pain. Once you break through the pain and fear, you will find relief. It really works, but you must stick with it. If you give up, go back to it again and keep going till you cross the pain and fear barrier. There no other way (at least I don't know any other way).
HI. Thanks for the comment. The colour is one of the options. The point is to take your mind away from judging and focus on what it is. Once you stop judging you can look at it objectively and find the source of stress and face the fears head on. Stress is usually the result of our thinking/opinion on the world around us. Is has nothing to do with reality. Cheers Kamil
you are going to do now. Choose a different future if it will serve you or other people better. Make a very powerful choice with no regrets and certainty. And there's no need to suffer. Just change your perspective on things. Life has no meaning in the end except the meaning we give it. Just sing a happy song about your future and feel good - you'll attract the right solution if you become happy about the current situation. Take care and have fun :-)
@TheFreedomxFighter I think that the time has come to decide to leave the depression and start living. What do you say? You need to find a specialist to help you. and as much support as you can get (friends, family, etc). No one will do that for you. You need to do it. So it's either you'll be strong, or another 5 years depressed. What do you choose?
Maybe the answer is not coming, because you're not in peace with your depression. Accept it as your friend and just be with it. The answer will come, however not in the form that you expect, so don't expect anything. Just be with it.
@clip012 I understand - it's a very difficult situation. What I hear in what you are saying that this relationship does not work for you. If that's the case, you might want to consider moving on. There's no point holding on to something you don't like and then using various techniques to convince yourself that you like it. I can't imagine having a girlfriend and not seeing her for a month. I would get the money or means to see her. Do you want to hold on to that relationship? Where's the joy?
Dear friend, Thank you for your comment. I agree with you that everybody is different. My point is that running away from the pain or any other feelings is not a solution - it makes things worse as the stress comes back over and over again. However, going into the feeling and accepting it without judging brings a permanent relief. I'm sorry if that does not work for you, but it works for me and many other people that use that method. Can you share what works for you? Regards Kamil
i live for my children. i feel i owe it to them to see them grow and fulfill their dreams. but i dont like being alive anymore to be honest. i'm too afraid to end my own life though so i feel trapped.
i have all of these fear,stress even depression. the only things keeping me sane is mlp and my friends and it doesn't help when my dad say's i have no life and is always criticizing me. and you wanna know the worst thing about it... he's right.
@xxTaylorizHOTxx I have a feeling you are worrying about "what if" instead of taking action. Why do you need to know why? It's not necessary. We all have millions of questions without answer, so just give up the need to know why, give up the worry of what if, and take action and enjoy what you have. I trust that helps.
Thanks Kamil, I love your video so much that I will try some of your suggestions. I used to suffer from really bad panic attacks but now it seems like I have a bit of depersonalization and derealization and it pretty hard to cope with this disorder
Kamil has a great way of looking at this. But you know, in my oppinion, some of that sadness is insecurity and uncertainty. You might be so in love with her that you have a hard time seeing why you are good enough for her. And this makes you feel uncertain - does she return the feelings, will it ruin our friendship, etc. etc. ... Try telling her her that you feel a certain way, and things work between you two anyhow, which is fine, but that you are really in love with her because she's great :)
So I think I am going to give this method a try and see what happens. I never really had to do anything like this before, meaning-- bring these feelings to attention and focusing on how to conquer these feelings and emotions!!! SO, Starting when I wake up I am going to give it a try. Thanks in advance for what I am going to experience along with these emotions and feelings!!
@MariRariGari Thank you for your reply. I know we forget about others when we suffer our selves. Don't want to be selfish. I will laugh at all the pain I think is real and move on hopefully happy. More people like you and videos on this page should be in the world!
@1998kid1 Hey. It's great that you're not afraid of sharing that with others. You need to be strong. I cannot help you much without talking to you. Consider that whatever you worry about that causes you depression, does not have any meaning really and it's only your interpretation of the world. Others do not worry about what you worry. Somehow you think that it's important, so you worry about that . Ask yourself why? What are you afraid of? I hope that helps - I'm only guessing. Good luck!
Hey man I viewed this and I feel like i've been dealing with situational depression. I have talked to my school councilor about it and also my parents. I care too much about what people think. Because in the past ive always been bullied thats why my face is naturally sad and people look at me funny even when I try to smile...
@skillzdatkillz900 I can see. Consider this:1. A good friend will never spread such info about you. 2. You don't know what your parents will think - all parents love their children. 3. You would rather be depressed then looking funny and ridiculous? I assume you are depressed, because you think that someone thinks you're ridiculous. This has nothing to do with reality - it's just the way you see the world. And it will not change, unless you challenge this. Go for it - fear is just an illusion
@rollingbubbles6 Hi. That's the way life is meant to be - the more joyous moments in life, the more sad ones. The feeling in your chest is nothing more than a feeling in your chest - look at it for half an hour and you'll see it yourself. When you start crying, ask yourself what are you really afraid of, what's really underneath that. Then focus on something good in that situation (there is always something good in every situation) and start enjoying the moment, even if you cry. Take care ;-)
@skelitalmisfit12 Hi. I'm very sorry to hear that. This is a bit complicated case and you need to look for specialist's support. 1. Life sometimes puts us in situations like that, so we can learn how great, strong or loving we are. How can you show your greatness, strength and love to all people involved, including her ex? 2. What do you think you can or need to do? No one will do it for you. Maybe you need to go with her and talk to all people there and share yourself authentically. Be Strong
@ooplesbononos Hi. There are times in our lives when we feel lost with no sense or meaning. You need to create meaning for yourself. Find things that inspire you, bring you joy, make you come alive and start doing more of them. The more of them you do, the sooner you'll get the answer. Remember, there's nothing wrong with anything. Under every curse there is a blessing. Just keep looking and never give up. No need for pills - this is life and that's the way it's supposed to be. Find joy!
@Zalzyn Hey, very good comment. Colour is just an example. You can attribute anything you want to that feeling. It's just an excercise to show you that feelings are more than we usually think. It also helps you to look at feelings in a different way, and see them for what they are. I made another video about it :-)
@aGxpredator That is truly incredible. I have not realized that it might make such a difference. Please, share that video with others - we don't know who else might need it. I'm so glad that I made such a difference in your life. Together we can create an awesome world! Many thanks and have fun with your new life!!! :-) Kamil
@pinkalicious251 Wow. This is probably the best feedback ever! I will make more videos soon, once I'm done with a few projects on my hands. Many thanks Kamil
@BAEnErGYzZ What exactly do you fear will happen? You do realize that if your life is not in danger, your fear is simply "inauthentic". Simply observe that fear, go into it until you reach pain barrier, and then you'll be free of it. Also, simply go to school to face the fear and find out that it's only in your mind. There is no danger there - you just made it up. You need to be strong. You can't be fearful - the choice is yours: life in fear or life in glory - which one do you pick?
@funorbnation In that situation I would recommend being honest with yourself and others. Ask yourself where you have put blame on others irrespectively whether you had a good reason or not. Also, share with your mum how you feel/felt and ask her for help - involve her. If she puts up with you, I'm sure she wants to help. Next step is difficult - you need to share with your ex-husband how you feel without making him wrong or guilty. It works!!! Just do it. I hope that helps. Kamil
@left4fate Hey. If I understand you correctly you care about people, but you are afraid of what they think. In any case, you have no influence on what they think, and most of the time they don't think what you think they do. Also, no matter what they think, you can still be a loving, caring, happy and self expressed human being. Don't let your story about other people stop you from being happy!
@ARDUNNO There's no other way. You need to face it. At first don't think about them - just observe until you see it for what it is. Once you accept it, then think about them - very important. It might take you 4-6 hours of observing. Go to a park, forest, somewhere with no distractions. Just don't give up. Don't run away. Keep looking. Let me know how it goes.
@thesuperitch Hi. Writing a poem is well known to help with depression. Any activity that puts you in a different state of mind and makes you focus on positives of the situation will help. However, if the issues comes back regularly you need to get to the bottom of it. I believe my way is pretty universal. Thank you for lovely comment. Kamil
I'm not sure why, but about atleast twice a day my mood just drops and i get a horrible sad feeling in the middle of my chest. Normally, I must say that I am a verry cheery and jolly person but suddenly this feeling comes upon me. I'm not sure if it's normal... mostly because of my age, I'm 14 and to me that seems young to be having such sad and depressed feelings. Sometimes even the smallest and simplest of things can set me off and i cry for a long time, but about something else that idk...
@FengZeXiao Hi. The whole idea is not to stay away from them. You need to become friends with them, so they don't bother you any-more. You need to see them for what they are - it can't be explained - it needs to be experienced. Remember, whatever you fear, you will ether attract, create or become.
@SPANNERDETH I can see that your situation is more serious than mine, therefore you need to take bigger and more steps to deal with it. I regularly look for support from friends and various coaches, books, videos etc. We need other people to show us things that we can't see. If one method does not work for you, find and use another. And by all means, get as much support as you can from professionals. You need to be brave and strong. Now, go and fight for your happiness. ;-)
thanx im 13 and i realized i had depression wen i was about 8 years old.i thought i must have been just a strange person,but later realized that something in my brain snaps.id be crying in random situations.and then knew it was best to tell people.iv also had thoughts of suicide since i was 10.whats the best view of things like that?
@TheCookiemonster1313 You will regain power to deal with it when you realize that all the people involved are other human beings, who make mistakes, struggle with their anger and emotions, etc. Forgive them and forgive your self, and start looking for solutions with no anger, but with sympathy and compassion. Be strong. If not friends, get family members, teachers, social service and whoever you can on board - you will not go far alone. Ask for help and be strong! Never give up! Never!
@mitch9822 I'm going to tell you something that might sound radical. Consider that you saying "I'm lost" or "I don't get it" you are avoiding taking responsibility for something like your life, health, money etc. Drop that story and have a look: what do you NOT have to do when you say those things?
@koolaidman Hi. I'm sorry to hear that. Since those things repeat so often, I would say that the problem is with you - you keep attracting who show you that you are not worth it. It's not true - you're a very valuable person, but you probably have low self esteem, which causes others to leave you. Find a way to increase your self confidence, and your life will turn arround. Regards Kamil
@WireBurnerEnt Hey. How many hours have you been observing your feelings? Minimum 5 is required, and in your case it might be 10 or 20. And you need to do it in long batches, not just 3 minutes in one go.
@dying2l Hi. Thanks again for your comments. When you say "the best video", do you refer to my video? (if yes, then I'm flattered). Also, can you explain what you mean by "dealing with chemical'? Cheers Kamil
@dying2l Indeed you need to change your life style. What I suggest is simply a way of approaching it. It worked for me and for many other people I know, and obviously it will not work for a number of people. There are many ways - choose the best one for you. Thanks for the comment. Cheers Kamil
Will try this today. Monday is already Here along with which my fear and depression carried. Will try the sleep count down technique now and leave u with the real result of the process tomorrow. Hope it helps. Aameen.
Judging is when you put a value on it like "ugly" "horrible" etc. Stop doing that and just acknowledge what is one by one. I have a series of videos on how to deal with depression - have a look on my channel - it will help you.
You don't even understand how much this has helped me. It is good to hear something that will make me happy. This girl just slipped away from me and I have no chance of getting her back and I tried this and I don't even think about it.
Thank you,
Ian
I get that. Many people go through that at some stage. Don't you ever make yourself wrong for anything. All that is for a greater purpose and you'll discover your greatness soon! Just be strong!
Absolutely. Impatience is just another state of mind. Get in peace with that and you'll make huge progress.
I love comments like yours - people sharing their lives generously and that feels like a real conversation. Big thanks and hope to hear from you about how it went.
@MyPetsRockOutLoud
Hi. Two things. First, the fact that he's leaving does not mean that he'll be missing. If he's your best friend, you know him well enough to have a conversation with him in your head. Also, instead of focusing on what's missing, focus on all those great moments you shared together and how much are are grateful for that. Once you start feeling real gratitude, you'll be able to connect your heart with his (literally - you will feel it) and it will feel as if he is with you. K.
@TheChryslers
I'm sorry to hear that. What I see is that there's no need to protect him - he needs to wake up and stop making the whole world wrong including himself. Grieving should not last longer than a day. We need to celebrate people's lives, not cry over them. You need to be brave and tell him. Would his mother want him to grieve or be happy and proud of her? You're such a big stand for this man - you need to take all the necessary steps - do not take pity - empower him!
Hello, Mr kamil I recently lost a friend he ended his life by himself and from then on I had a strange feeling within me and also created a sense of fear within me. I tried to tackle this situation but when I looked for help on the net but my fear kept on compounding rather than reducing. My mind started to judge all those thoughts related to suicide and kept on engaging with it. Like the thing which you told not to do in your video. As you said we must not engage with our thoughts. I was desperate for a solution until UA-cam helped me to find you.
Thanks a lot.
From India.
Cheers, man. I was knee-deep in depression and you taught me to face it. Great job, great video. Thanks a lot!
I can see you are your biggest critic. I would recommend you stop listening to all that criticism and find what is great about you and focus on that. What are you passionate about? Don't let others inject their values into your life. You're unique! Be true to yourself. And be strong! No one else can live your life for you, but YOU!!!
this is a really radical idea! I haven't tried it yet, but I feel that the method is logical and seems to make sense. other sites always say things like, do more sports, talk to your friends...etc, which are things I already know. I'm so glad you uploaded this video!
today it helped me. for 2 years I've been trying to understand and learn this from different mentors. This was the bst, easy to understand explanation. thnk u.
you sir are a great soul, i totaly understand what your talking about. I always used to tell myself that the feelings i'm having were bad and i hated myslef for that. but your totaly right. my spirit was telling me i needed to just stop relax and think about the situation in my life, not just say " OH it's bad bad bad i hate my self.." Thanks man i feel soo much better after watching this video.
-Alex
Hi Uncle. Very happy to be contributing to you and others. I appreciate the greetings from Long Beach. My plan is to visit Long Beach some time. Hopefully we can meet there!
Hello kamil. I'm so glad I found you. I'm currently going through a very hard time health wise which in turn is causing me great anxiety. I'm dizzy everyday. You helped my headache vanish last night with your mind focus exercise. I lean towards Buddhism in belief and recently took up meditation, which, in some ways, you are pressing on in this video. Calming the mind and doing yoga really helps me and I'm very interested in visualisation to bring better luck ones way. I really think you are very talented and if it hasn't happened already, you will be picked up by an agent to release a book of your knowledge. I have so many self help books but none of them really get you engaged. You possess the ability to engage people with your personality and words. You are brilliant and I can feel a change within me from watching your videos. Being positive is the key. Hard in dark times. But we must keep going. Thank you. Please post more. Maybe a talk on health and sufferings would help us and how to overcome and accept where we are and detach from mind crippling thoughts...which I believe keep us in our suffering for longer. Illness gives you a lot of thinking time which helps you learn about what id going on inside yourself but it can also be obsessive too. Thanks again.
+Charlotte Howe Hey, Charlotte. What an incredible comment. I really thank you for this. I acknowledge you for being strong and going on in spite of all the challenges. I acknowledge you also for being a beacon of hope and inspiration.
I will think of a video you are suggesting. I really appreciate your kind words. Let me know if I can help in any way. Lots of hugs.
Thank you for replying Kamil. And for your kind words and offer of help. Life throws so many challenges at you sometimes. It's hard not to be sorry for yourself as you can remember a time when life wasn't so hard and long for that back. There must be a way to minimise negative thoughts and live in the moment rather than torturing yourself with 'what ifs'. I'll stay tuned and look forward to any future videos you do. Have a good day! Ps. If you haven't read it, I'm starting 'The mystic path to cosmic power!' My husband swears by this book which helped him through a very bad time.
+Charlotte Howe Thanks for the tip. The book that helped me a lot is amzn.to/23Y8IyV - brilliant. Also, to help you go through life, watch this: ua-cam.com/video/dXQPL9GooyI/v-deo.html
Hey man , i viewed this video 2 weeks ago , i was suicidal and hated life , i decided to take your steps and well they worked ! :D i have no feeling of suicide or feeling depressed anymore , thank you so much ! you have made me enjoy life again , i really dont know how to thank you :)
take care of yourself buddy !
- Kai
Focus on the feeling in your stomach - do not fight it. Observe it!!! Watch it until it goes away. Do not force it away - wait for it to go by itself.
I just discovered your videos and have to say thank you I have found your advice concerning depression and insomnia all very helpful - thanks Kamil -
I'm very glad I could help. The pleasure is always mine.
It usually take a long time of observing the internal processes of the body and mind, before you come to enlightenment. And regarding feelings, it does not matter why. Focus on what is instead of on why.
At the route of my stress and other things, is emotion. Turning off emotions will lead to a better, more logical, and unfettered life.
@TheEthanater
I can see that you actually have everything under control - just a bit overwhelmed. Don't worry, your sadness will pass. Just do what I suggested in the video, find support (friends, family, professionals) and remember that there is a blessing in every curse if you keep looking for it. Be strong and soon the sun will shine for you too. Fight for it - it won't come by itself.
Take care
Kamil
ok wow, if i found this 8 years ago, i would've gotten a decade back... but yeah, i run, i run away from fear physically, i run away by being actively avoiding the thing. But this is amazing, because instead of running away, you are telling me to step back, jump out of the box, and look at these feelings from an objective point of view, put the feelings, put the fear in a box, and observe it from a distance.
You are right, these feelings are FEEDBACK for our Emotional body. You know a bruise or physical pain is feedback to tell you physically not to damage your body. If you study too long and you get tired, that is feedback to tell you that your mind is slipping away. Fear makes you uneasy, fear is like AIDS it attacks the very system that is used to analyze what fear is,, but like all feedback, you understand it and fear becomes a feedback for your Emotional body.
+water foker Absolutely. Never let fear overtake you. Fight it with all you have!
Ive got major depression where I felt very suicidal, and though Ive overcome that terrible, pointless stage through rational and logical thought, Im still very negative cynical and generally unhappy. I do stop to think about why Im unhappy, and I I do realise when Ive crashed low, and that helps. The thing is, though self-analys is certainly helpful, it usuallyy doesnt bring me out of the depressive state of mind for too long, and It comes back sometimes back. It doesnt go away, I just cope.
I'll try. I've already told quite a few people about your video on how to wake up early. Great stuff
Numbness might be a result of resignation or prolonged depression - a defence mechanism. Start digging into this numbness and things will start to come up. Once they are on the surface, you can have a look at them and face them.
Well, first of all trying is not enough - you really need to do it. Second of all, the pain is the consequence of what you are telling yourself about the situation. Start telling yourself other things like "It's for the better, I'll be stronger, I'll find a better person, God has something exciting for me" etc.
@clip012
I'm glad I made you laughed. Of course I would be different in real life interaction. I can see you are clear on what you want - great. In that case you just need to accept that it will take a lot of time and effort to get what you want, and stop complaining about that - you have chosen that. Be powerful and make that happen.
Lots of love and hugs
Kamil
Hi Kamil
Helpful advice , no one can feel how it looks like until trying it. You are right , run away never a solution, in some point you we have to face our problem. Thanks Kamil
@Beastfromtheeast17
Comforting or reassuring won't help as depression is simply unbalanced look at life and misinterpretation of bodily reactions. The best thing you can do is simply to be with her. That means stay with her, don't talk, don't force a smile (don't smile at all even), and connect with her, so you can feel what she feels, and she can feel that you feel. Don't make the depression wrong - it's not. It very good, useful. Stay with it until you can see through it - it will take time.
hi Kamil i have a fear that i may develope a headache when i m travelling for a long time and i break down with a headache . i will do the right things from now and be no longer afraid of it . thank you buddy u r ☆☆☆☆☆ man
+Ashield Gurlhosur Any time, mate.
@Businessman1988
I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, life is a cycle and stress and fear will come back every now and then. Again, the stress is not a bad thing. It just shows you where there is a lack of balance in your life. If you have identified your ex girlfriend as the surface cause of the issue, inquire within about the real cause. Also, go out and look for help from others. It's very challenging to find out the truth by yourself. There are not short cuts. I hope that helps.
I am going through some emotional feelings right now and I mainly brought it on myself. I have never really faced being alone and feeling lonely. I always find myself calling someone or having to watch degrading things to feel somewhat better but it doesnt help after the long run.
I did what you said and came to the conclusion what was causing my panic and stress was a medication, I stopped it and I feel better now, I had thought I had forgotten this video but apparently I did what you told me in this video subconsciously days ago
@clip012
I understand. You have spent lots of time building it and would not make sense to waste that. I'm not saying that it is like that, but consider that all the things you have done so far were done to a different end than being with him. Maybe it was so that you could grow or develop yourself emotionally, etc. Simply speak with your guy and ask what he thinks about that. Get complete with all the people involved, and let go of all the past: it does not matter what has happened, but what
Of course health needs to be looked at holistically. You can't be healthy without a healthy diet and enough sleep. Thanks for the link.
Cheers
After I watched your first video of how to remove a headache half of my headache was gone it was the part on the surface.I kept watching your videos and stumbled upon this one.I sat with myself a half an hour analyzing and listing my fears and anxiety and realized this thick black cloud of emotioons covering brain that is the fear and there is alot,as I listed these fears and worried my headache started decreasing I feel a bit more alive but there are still alot of unanswered questions with myself I dont know how to find.Anyways I am a new subscriber and wanted to thankyou for your being and your beautiful mind and intention of sharing your knowledge I love you already as you love others,Thankyou
Vidia Israel Dear, Vidia. You are a beautiful soul committed to expanding your life and being all that you can be, and I'm privileged to have you as a viewer. Well done for taking yourself on. Don't worry about unanswered questions - there will always be some. Happiness lies not in answering them, but in finding peace with yourself. Keep inquiring internally and it will all be clearer and clearer. Watch my other videos on similar topics. Have a blessed day!
I will most certainly watch your videos.I am so happy I found them I do not know you personally but you are now a part of my daily routine.Thankyou Kamil!
@bulet101
Hi. Stress is like pain - it tells us that there's something that requires our attention. You have two options - take a pain killer and pretend that everything is ok, or you can have a look, find the problem and fix it. In your car, you can go and change the oil or you can pretend that everything is ok and wait until the engine ceases.
Now good and bad are very relative terms - the more you examine it, the more you'll see how good is often bad, and bad is often good. Does it help?
Im out of work now and even going through a divorce. I have been drinking a lot and brought to financial ruin. Staying away from the alcohol because I see how it destroys everything around you. Im going to try what you explained and see if it helps.
Thanks!
@Kamilsview thanks for ur reply. yes, there is no joy. i am hurting. but if u know me and u know how bad the situation that we hv been thru, u wld not suggest that i break up with him cuz it is not worth it. it is not as easy as "he is a bad guy, not good enaf for u, u deserve better, leave him"..i am already constantly living in an environment that everybody trying to talk sense on me to leave him and find a local guy..we fought thru everything to be together...
Why not? It's ok to be in denial as long as you know about that. Once the truth sinks in, you can stop it and face the truth and embrace it.
Great video. Actually what you're doing is that you becoming present and witnessing the sensation of anxiety or depression. So those kind of questions about the sensations is a very smart tool to develop more awareness over those sensations. By the time you witness it and you do not judge it, eventually you do not fuel it.
Nice one.
KARAB1NAS Thanks. I can see you are already good at it. Yes, by observing you make it disappear.
Thanks Bro,ur tips of playing with mind has really changed my life thanx once again love u
Thank you very much for your comments. I'm glad that people find it helpful.
Regards
Kamil
This is great and helpful. It's feels good to know how to handle stress and other negative vibes from your environment. Keep it up.
I believe it will be the same, it will just take a bit longer. You will also need support of other people around you, and possibly some pills, but you need to be careful with those as they often escalate the problem.
I just had a layoff and the same day the light came on to change the oil in my car... which makes this was so timely that it's spooky lol. Very nice message. Thanks
@hunterhagood
Ok, great that you identified that. Now stay with it for as long as you can and keep looking at it. Go into the biggest pain. Once you break through the pain and fear, you will find relief. It really works, but you must stick with it. If you give up, go back to it again and keep going till you cross the pain and fear barrier. There no other way (at least I don't know any other way).
HI. Thanks for the comment. The colour is one of the options. The point is to take your mind away from judging and focus on what it is. Once you stop judging you can look at it objectively and find the source of stress and face the fears head on. Stress is usually the result of our thinking/opinion on the world around us. Is has nothing to do with reality.
Cheers
Kamil
you are going to do now. Choose a different future if it will serve you or other people better. Make a very powerful choice with no regrets and certainty. And there's no need to suffer. Just change your perspective on things. Life has no meaning in the end except the meaning we give it.
Just sing a happy song about your future and feel good - you'll attract the right solution if you become happy about the current situation.
Take care and have fun :-)
i agree. you have to stop resisting and just accept the feelings, then they actually go away, imo.
Choose not to be. It is a matter of choice. Once you have meditate on it for a while you will realize that.
@TheFreedomxFighter
I think that the time has come to decide to leave the depression and start living. What do you say? You need to find a specialist to help you. and as much support as you can get (friends, family, etc). No one will do that for you. You need to do it. So it's either you'll be strong, or another 5 years depressed. What do you choose?
Maybe the answer is not coming, because you're not in peace with your depression. Accept it as your friend and just be with it. The answer will come, however not in the form that you expect, so don't expect anything. Just be with it.
I am always very happy to help.
@clip012
I understand - it's a very difficult situation. What I hear in what you are saying that this relationship does not work for you. If that's the case, you might want to consider moving on. There's no point holding on to something you don't like and then using various techniques to convince yourself that you like it. I can't imagine having a girlfriend and not seeing her for a month. I would get the money or means to see her. Do you want to hold on to that relationship? Where's the joy?
The meaning is not important. What counts is creating a meaning that will help you through life.
Dear friend,
Thank you for your comment. I agree with you that everybody is different. My point is that running away from the pain or any other feelings is not a solution - it makes things worse as the stress comes back over and over again.
However, going into the feeling and accepting it without judging brings a permanent relief. I'm sorry if that does not work for you, but it works for me and many other people that use that method. Can you share what works for you?
Regards
Kamil
i live for my children. i feel i owe it to them to see them grow and fulfill their dreams. but i dont like being alive anymore to be honest. i'm too afraid to end my own life though so i feel trapped.
i have all of these fear,stress even depression. the only things keeping me sane is mlp and my friends and it doesn't help when my dad say's i have no life and is always criticizing me. and you wanna know the worst thing about it... he's right.
@xxTaylorizHOTxx
I have a feeling you are worrying about "what if" instead of taking action. Why do you need to know why? It's not necessary. We all have millions of questions without answer, so just give up the need to know why, give up the worry of what if, and take action and enjoy what you have. I trust that helps.
Thanks Kamil, I love your video so much that I will try some of your suggestions. I used to suffer from really bad panic attacks but now it seems like I have a bit of depersonalization and derealization and it pretty hard to cope with this disorder
Kamil has a great way of looking at this. But you know, in my oppinion, some of that sadness is insecurity and uncertainty. You might be so in love with her that you have a hard time seeing why you are good enough for her. And this makes you feel uncertain - does she return the feelings, will it ruin our friendship, etc. etc.
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Try telling her her that you feel a certain way, and things work between you two anyhow, which is fine, but that you are really in love with her because she's great :)
So I think I am going to give this method a try and see what happens. I never really had to do anything like this before, meaning-- bring these feelings to attention and focusing on how to conquer these feelings and emotions!!! SO, Starting when I wake up I am going to give it a try. Thanks in advance for what I am going to experience along with these emotions and feelings!!
@MariRariGari Thank you for your reply. I know we forget about others when we suffer our selves. Don't want to be selfish. I will laugh at all the pain I think is real and move on hopefully happy. More people like you and videos on this page should be in the world!
@1998kid1
Hey. It's great that you're not afraid of sharing that with others. You need to be strong. I cannot help you much without talking to you. Consider that whatever you worry about that causes you depression, does not have any meaning really and it's only your interpretation of the world. Others do not worry about what you worry. Somehow you think that it's important, so you worry about that . Ask yourself why? What are you afraid of? I hope that helps - I'm only guessing. Good luck!
Hey man I viewed this and I feel like i've been dealing with situational depression. I have talked to my school councilor about it and also my parents. I care too much about what people think. Because in the past ive always been bullied thats why my face is naturally sad and people look at me funny even when I try to smile...
it actually makes me feel better to see that im not alone judging by the fact that this video has 14,000 veiws :)
Hey kamil thanks I feel a little better bro now I could see things different and on positive side
Estefani Carrizales Great. Just keep doing it and also use Faster EFT.
@skillzdatkillz900
I can see. Consider this:1. A good friend will never spread such info about you. 2. You don't know what your parents will think - all parents love their children. 3. You would rather be depressed then looking funny and ridiculous?
I assume you are depressed, because you think that someone thinks you're ridiculous. This has nothing to do with reality - it's just the way you see the world. And it will not change, unless you challenge this.
Go for it - fear is just an illusion
@rollingbubbles6
Hi. That's the way life is meant to be - the more joyous moments in life, the more sad ones. The feeling in your chest is nothing more than a feeling in your chest - look at it for half an hour and you'll see it yourself. When you start crying, ask yourself what are you really afraid of, what's really underneath that. Then focus on something good in that situation (there is always something good in every situation) and start enjoying the moment, even if you cry. Take care ;-)
@skelitalmisfit12
Hi. I'm very sorry to hear that. This is a bit complicated case and you need to look for specialist's support.
1. Life sometimes puts us in situations like that, so we can learn how great, strong or loving we are. How can you show your greatness, strength and love to all people involved, including her ex?
2. What do you think you can or need to do? No one will do it for you. Maybe you need to go with her and talk to all people there and share yourself authentically.
Be Strong
your are great person sir.
The best advice I have ever heard. I thank you.
@ooplesbononos
Hi. There are times in our lives when we feel lost with no sense or meaning. You need to create meaning for yourself. Find things that inspire you, bring you joy, make you come alive and start doing more of them. The more of them you do, the sooner you'll get the answer. Remember, there's nothing wrong with anything. Under every curse there is a blessing. Just keep looking and never give up. No need for pills - this is life and that's the way it's supposed to be. Find joy!
@Zalzyn
Hey, very good comment. Colour is just an example. You can attribute anything you want to that feeling. It's just an excercise to show you that feelings are more than we usually think. It also helps you to look at feelings in a different way, and see them for what they are. I made another video about it :-)
@aGxpredator
That is truly incredible. I have not realized that it might make such a difference. Please, share that video with others - we don't know who else might need it.
I'm so glad that I made such a difference in your life. Together we can create an awesome world!
Many thanks and have fun with your new life!!!
:-)
Kamil
this video made me happier, thank you you're so sweet
@pinkalicious251 Wow. This is probably the best feedback ever! I will make more videos soon, once I'm done with a few projects on my hands.
Many thanks
Kamil
@BAEnErGYzZ
What exactly do you fear will happen? You do realize that if your life is not in danger, your fear is simply "inauthentic". Simply observe that fear, go into it until you reach pain barrier, and then you'll be free of it. Also, simply go to school to face the fear and find out that it's only in your mind. There is no danger there - you just made it up. You need to be strong. You can't be fearful - the choice is yours: life in fear or life in glory - which one do you pick?
thanks for your advices - will try and share my views
@funorbnation
In that situation I would recommend being honest with yourself and others. Ask yourself where you have put blame on others irrespectively whether you had a good reason or not. Also, share with your mum how you feel/felt and ask her for help - involve her. If she puts up with you, I'm sure she wants to help.
Next step is difficult - you need to share with your ex-husband how you feel without making him wrong or guilty. It works!!! Just do it.
I hope that helps.
Kamil
@left4fate
Hey. If I understand you correctly you care about people, but you are afraid of what they think. In any case, you have no influence on what they think, and most of the time they don't think what you think they do. Also, no matter what they think, you can still be a loving, caring, happy and self expressed human being. Don't let your story about other people stop you from being happy!
@ARDUNNO
There's no other way. You need to face it. At first don't think about them - just observe until you see it for what it is. Once you accept it, then think about them - very important. It might take you 4-6 hours of observing. Go to a park, forest, somewhere with no distractions. Just don't give up. Don't run away. Keep looking.
Let me know how it goes.
@thesuperitch
Hi. Writing a poem is well known to help with depression. Any activity that puts you in a different state of mind and makes you focus on positives of the situation will help. However, if the issues comes back regularly you need to get to the bottom of it. I believe my way is pretty universal.
Thank you for lovely comment.
Kamil
Man, love is all there is!
I'm not sure why, but about atleast twice a day my mood just drops and i get a horrible sad feeling in the middle of my chest. Normally, I must say that I am a verry cheery and jolly person but suddenly this feeling comes upon me. I'm not sure if it's normal... mostly because of my age, I'm 14 and to me that seems young to be having such sad and depressed feelings. Sometimes even the smallest and simplest of things can set me off and i cry for a long time, but about something else that idk...
@FengZeXiao
Hi. The whole idea is not to stay away from them. You need to become friends with them, so they don't bother you any-more. You need to see them for what they are - it can't be explained - it needs to be experienced. Remember, whatever you fear, you will ether attract, create or become.
@PeterRoeder31
Yeah, many people don't get it, but I actually like looking at the colours :-)
@SPANNERDETH
I can see that your situation is more serious than mine, therefore you need to take bigger and more steps to deal with it. I regularly look for support from friends and various coaches, books, videos etc. We need other people to show us things that we can't see. If one method does not work for you, find and use another. And by all means, get as much support as you can from professionals. You need to be brave and strong. Now, go and fight for your happiness.
;-)
thanx im 13 and i realized i had depression wen i was about 8 years old.i thought i must have been just a strange person,but later realized that something in my brain snaps.id be crying in random situations.and then knew it was best to tell people.iv also had thoughts of suicide since i was 10.whats the best view of things like that?
@TheCookiemonster1313
You will regain power to deal with it when you realize that all the people involved are other human beings, who make mistakes, struggle with their anger and emotions, etc. Forgive them and forgive your self, and start looking for solutions with no anger, but with sympathy and compassion. Be strong. If not friends, get family members, teachers, social service and whoever you can on board - you will not go far alone. Ask for help and be strong! Never give up! Never!
@mitch9822
I'm going to tell you something that might sound radical. Consider that you saying "I'm lost" or "I don't get it" you are avoiding taking responsibility for something like your life, health, money etc. Drop that story and have a look: what do you NOT have to do when you say those things?
thank you. after seeing about 7 other videos this one really helped. the others not so much. thanks.
@koolaidman
Hi. I'm sorry to hear that. Since those things repeat so often, I would say that the problem is with you - you keep attracting who show you that you are not worth it. It's not true - you're a very valuable person, but you probably have low self esteem, which causes others to leave you. Find a way to increase your self confidence, and your life will turn arround.
Regards
Kamil
@WireBurnerEnt
Hey. How many hours have you been observing your feelings? Minimum 5 is required, and in your case it might be 10 or 20. And you need to do it in long batches, not just 3 minutes in one go.
@dying2l
Hi. Thanks again for your comments. When you say "the best video", do you refer to my video? (if yes, then I'm flattered). Also, can you explain what you mean by "dealing with chemical'?
Cheers
Kamil
@dying2l
Indeed you need to change your life style. What I suggest is simply a way of approaching it. It worked for me and for many other people I know, and obviously it will not work for a number of people. There are many ways - choose the best one for you.
Thanks for the comment.
Cheers
Kamil
Will try this today. Monday is already Here along with which my fear and depression carried. Will try the sleep count down technique now and leave u with the real result of the process tomorrow. Hope it helps. Aameen.
Ok, looking forward to your update.
I have two words for your Kamil. Just make that four.
It worked!! Thank you!! :)
In fact things are easy now. But I get depressed from time to time. This video did help me and your videos are really helpful that's y i subscribed.
javzzzy That is good news. I knew you would succeed. Thanks for the update :-)
Thank you. I'll do the steps you gave.
Thank you for your wise advice Kamil :)
Judging is when you put a value on it like "ugly" "horrible" etc. Stop doing that and just acknowledge what is one by one. I have a series of videos on how to deal with depression - have a look on my channel - it will help you.