My Adoption Story: Being Adopted at an older age

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  • @jules3826
    @jules3826 4 роки тому +129

    When you said at the age of 15 you really just wanted to be adopted...my heart just broke. I am so glad you finally found your family! ❤️

  • @urkabrah
    @urkabrah 6 років тому +360

    You have really encouraged me to look into adopting an older child. My husband and I just got our license last week and we’re unsure of someone older! Thanks for using your voice to encourage us!

    • @trixiesalodes3561
      @trixiesalodes3561 5 років тому +2

      Hi

    • @MizSazz
      @MizSazz 5 років тому +5

      Erica Vargas hows the process going?

    • @alainbongjoh98
      @alainbongjoh98 5 років тому +6

      Erica Vargas please adopt me

    • @Ayitiana
      @Ayitiana 5 років тому +4

      Erica Vargas adopt older please!

    • @vtae5753
      @vtae5753 5 років тому +6

      Adopt me pls😭💔

  • @bburney06
    @bburney06 4 роки тому +73

    My parents adopted my brother when he was 15. I was 29. They set out to adopt a teenager knowing that they wouldn't have the energy to run after a little kid and that teens are much less likely to be adopted. I'm so glad they adopted him. I'm closer with him now than I am with my biological brother.

    • @keepitsimpleydb6151
      @keepitsimpleydb6151 4 роки тому +4

      That is awesome!!!!

    • @JasonGafar
      @JasonGafar 4 роки тому +4

      Hahaha. I hope your biological brother didn't read this. Lol.

    • @bburney06
      @bburney06 4 роки тому +7

      @@JasonGafar lol oops. I totally didn't mean that the way it sounded. I hope if he does he realizes what I meant. My adopted brother lives a six hour drive away and in the same town as my parents so we see each other several times a year. My biological brother lives a two day drive away so sometimes several years go by between visits.

  • @jeffwilson8702
    @jeffwilson8702 5 років тому +123

    Hi Chris. I recently adopted an older teen. We went to court 3 days before he turned 18.... My new son is a pure joy to have in my life. I see him blossoming now that he has a committed home. I was watching your video in preparation for an interview by my adoption agency for a blog article on older teen adoption. I'm really grateful for you sharing your story, and hopefully my interview will also help to get the word out.

    • @vtae5753
      @vtae5753 5 років тому +3

      Can you adopt me too 😭💔

    • @eagillum
      @eagillum 4 роки тому +1

      Do you have the blog article?

    • @jeffwilson8702
      @jeffwilson8702 4 роки тому +2

      @@eagillum I decided to off on the interview until the kid gets settled into his new home.

  • @andreag490
    @andreag490 6 років тому +211

    I really believe the Lord brought me to this video at the most perfect time. We are in the process of getting our foster-adopt license and originally my heart was set on fostering with the possibility of adopting but on a whim I decided to look at a few waiting children lists and found a 12 year old boy who has captured my attention and a piece of my heart. I can't seem to stop thinking about him but I wasn't sure how adopting an older child would be. My husband and I have no children of our own and like most couples who struggle with infertility, we were looking at having younger children in our home. However, we have been strongly considering adopting him. It's just so crazy that like you, he lives in Texas. We live in the Pacific Northwest so we would have to do the whole ICPC paperwork which adds additional time but I think this video has cemented my decision in adopting him. I really feel like to the Lord led me to his profile and to your video. I can't wait to show my husband this video when he gets off work! Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video and share your story.❤️

    • @hollydenouden1144
      @hollydenouden1144 5 років тому +11

      Andrea, I love hearing your story on here. Can I ask what ended up happening? We have had a similar situation happen, and we are in the process of adopting the same kiddo from the photo we saw. God truly knows and can totally show us our kiddos in a moment like that. Hope that God brings you the exact child(ren) which He has planned for your family.

    • @jessicarada503
      @jessicarada503 5 років тому +4

      Any updates from either of you?

    • @lichi1244eva
      @lichi1244eva 4 роки тому +3

      I would love an update! We are in the process of getting our license too

    • @emmaauty2922
      @emmaauty2922 4 роки тому +1

      How did it go?

    • @ghostlobster6631
      @ghostlobster6631 4 роки тому +1

      Please give us an update :)

  • @thejenhardy
    @thejenhardy Рік тому +1

    Thank you for being so open & honest. You’re giving hope to other kids & potential adoptive parents 🥰

  • @nooncactus
    @nooncactus 7 років тому +135

    Congratulations for being adopted as an older child. Your adoptive parents saw something special in you. You said that you’re about to graduate from college, which takes drive and motivation to accomplish. You can do anything, Chris, and I wish you the best on your life’s journey.

    • @ChrisGray1graytheone
      @ChrisGray1graytheone  7 років тому +28

      Thank you so much! it truly is a blessing the whole situation I'm very thankful to be apart of the family that God already had planned for me to be with!

    • @joannabusinessaccount7293
      @joannabusinessaccount7293 4 роки тому +8

      @@ChrisGray1graytheone It is God who creates family, biological, step, foster, biological, and otherwise. In God’s infinite design, God has found a son for a family, and a family for a son. God has used you as a testimony and ambassador to spread this message. How wonderful, and glorious. Bless you, fine young man, and your family!

  • @rogeh5687
    @rogeh5687 4 роки тому +15

    It breaks my heart that people look at kids in need of adoption as catalogue items. Wrong colour, wrong age, wrong image. Every child no matter how old is deserving of love. I’m a 34 year old bachelor who never wanted kids but something makes me want to help. I have the means and the love in my heart to do it.

  • @sherricasey4939
    @sherricasey4939 4 роки тому +18

    I have been trying to adopt an older teen for almost 3 years. The teens break my heart because so many of them feel very similar to what you did when you were still in care. It's hard being matched because they feel so hurt and shut down that so many have given up and most states allow youth the option of being adopted or not at too young of an age. It just so happens that last week, I got the call. A social worker called me and said there is a 15 year old that is looking to be adopted and it seems that he will match my family. I was lost for words. We spoke for quite awhile. I can only imagine how he is feeling right now. Of course, I said yes. I haven't met him just yet, but I am looking forward to it. It stories like yours that keep me motivated and not losing hope. Thank you for sharing. I wish you the very best.

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

    • @sherricasey4939
      @sherricasey4939 2 роки тому

      @@folkfolk281 yes there is plenty of help. Can you message me privately?

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      @@sherricasey4939 yea
      may i know if you are on any other platform?

    • @sherricasey4939
      @sherricasey4939 2 роки тому

      @@folkfolk281 hint #1: most kids are not on Facebook hint #2: most abused kids don't leave a public reply about what's going on hint #3: your profile hint#4 your vocabulary
      Conclusion: your not 13 years old nor are you being abused. In the wild chance I'm wrong, call the cops, they will do their job. God Bless

  • @DieUrsula
    @DieUrsula 4 роки тому +94

    this picnic sounds so stressful, like a job interview. to present yourself in a good way in order to get adopted. this is horrible for a teenager to have to go through.

    • @ralucaioana2026
      @ralucaioana2026 4 роки тому +6

      It sounds more like a big family gathering, get to know the people without pressure. But maybe thats just me thinking that the system and the process itself scares them enough. And to have to meet your "new family" in an office for the first time + make a good impression seems like a lot of pressure ; I would clearly be shocked - freezed.
      At the picnic you can run anytime :)))

    • @mrs.garcia6978
      @mrs.garcia6978 4 роки тому +2

      They choose to go

    • @PonytailRuth
      @PonytailRuth 4 роки тому +3

      It certainly worked brilliantly for the young man in question.

    • @amapparatistkwabena
      @amapparatistkwabena 4 роки тому +1

      Have you seen this documentary below? I agree with you on so many levels---even though it can lead to great placements. Something about it just doesn't settle well with me... I'm happy some kids receive great families though, so...
      ua-cam.com/video/ZfHVZe0mQIc/v-deo.html

    • @JasonGafar
      @JasonGafar 4 роки тому +1

      I know! They also have no idea what they're getting into. There's no going back.

  • @ingridtyree3284
    @ingridtyree3284 6 років тому +39

    You are an incredible young man. Your family is so blessed to have you as a part of their life. I know.... We've adopted five kids (infant -12 yrs.) . They are my greatest treasures in this world. May God continue to bless you and show you much favor.

  • @Nikki-ks6wi
    @Nikki-ks6wi 6 років тому +95

    I am only 27 years old now but i look so forward to adopting an older child when I get into my 40's

    • @missadebihemaakingdomroyal6226
      @missadebihemaakingdomroyal6226 4 роки тому +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @kaonelekgotla7467
      @kaonelekgotla7467 4 роки тому +4

      I am 28 years and i want to adopt teen daughter when i turn 35 years

    • @beccabaker7636
      @beccabaker7636 4 роки тому +6

      Why not now? Why wait they need folks now.

    • @77DSeven
      @77DSeven 4 роки тому

      I'm 25 and If God allows I would not mind adoption a teen or two right now. Even though I would look like the sister I have a lot of love to go around and I love communicating with children. I would most definitely consider siblings because I would love to make sure they could be raised together in a happy home.

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

  • @lauramiller2603
    @lauramiller2603 6 років тому +89

    I just fell in love with your personality! I have 2 grown children and have been considering adopting an older child. I am going to attend the next class. Thank you Chris you touched my heart. x

    • @ChrisGray1graytheone
      @ChrisGray1graytheone  6 років тому +19

      Thank you so much I am truly grateful for the chance to get my story out there and let people know that adopting is a great thing!

    • @vtae5753
      @vtae5753 5 років тому +2

      Can you adopt me 😭💔

  • @taviscarnegie1827
    @taviscarnegie1827 3 роки тому +2

    I can’t believe how many points you were able to address in such a short video. So glad that you’re speaking out for the other kids man. 31 and adopted myself man and currently adopting can’t tell how many times in this 15 minute video I just wanted to jump through the screen and high five the points you were making I wonder how many people shifted older just due to your video I’m sure this video got a few teens adopted man

  • @marythoj205
    @marythoj205 6 років тому +62

    Wow such an educated young man. I'm glad you found a family who gave you a chance because obviously you have so much potential! God bless you and your family!

    • @ChrisGray1graytheone
      @ChrisGray1graytheone  6 років тому +12

      Thank you so much I greatly appreciate you taking the time to hear my story.

  • @ChrisGray1graytheone
    @ChrisGray1graytheone  6 років тому +36

    Hey guys if you have any questions towards me or what adopting is like please reply or comment on this I’ll be putting a Q&A out soon!

    • @llddau
      @llddau 4 роки тому +1

      Chris Gray1 I think your family is lucky to have you, you’re mature, smart, caring, sensitive and a bit adorable too! I bet they’re very proud. Your story makes me both happy and sad, sad you had a hard time, elated to hear you became part of a family, and sad that I can’t adopt too. I would like to so much, and have always wanted to adopt a teenager as I know they are less likely to be chosen than a baby. How did you/do you feel about being separated from your brothers? Where are they, do you see them, are they together?

  • @ButterflyRhomance
    @ButterflyRhomance 6 років тому +36

    Thank you so much for sharing. I plan to adopt an older child from the foster care system.

    • @vtae5753
      @vtae5753 5 років тому +1

      Can you adopt me pls😭💔

  • @markdiloreto9042
    @markdiloreto9042 5 років тому +14

    you are mature beyond your years with incredible awareness... you are already a success in life!!

  • @hollydenouden1144
    @hollydenouden1144 5 років тому +13

    Thank you for sharing your story! We are in the process of adopting a 15 year old girl at the moment. We are over the moon and can't wait to bring her home.

  • @CaptchaNeon
    @CaptchaNeon 4 роки тому +17

    I feel like so many people weren’t right for you and you kept being led down a path that had your meant to be family at the end of that path. It’s incredible!

  • @PollyPatriot
    @PollyPatriot 4 роки тому +12

    I’m so happy for you. I hope you are able to see your biological siblings. We are raising our grand daughter. She had several siblings. ( Same mom with 2 of them and same dad with two. Two adults, one teen and one preschool age). We work hard to make sure she stays connected with them. You are an incredible young man. I pray it continues to go well for you.

  • @cheyenneomans4995
    @cheyenneomans4995 4 роки тому +5

    Thank you for sharing your story!
    My husband and I (he is 27 and I'm 25) started the foster paperwork almost a year ago, but never finished. We thought we would get littles because we are so young, but God put it on our hearts to adopt older kids. We're moving into a house this summer (I don't know how sharing a single bathroom with a teenager would play out haha) and we are so excited because that means we're closer to growing our family.

    • @lienbijs1205
      @lienbijs1205 4 роки тому

      There is a minimum and maximum age gap between adoptive parents and child, not in America?

    • @cheyenneomans4995
      @cheyenneomans4995 4 роки тому

      @@lienbijs1205 From what I read, each state has its own age requirements, and Texas doesn't have any specified

  • @hmslovesmonkeys1403
    @hmslovesmonkeys1403 6 років тому +41

    i'm filling out paper work to start fostering so i'm glad to see it from a foster kids point of view so thank u i went to foster to adopt

  • @MrClassichi
    @MrClassichi 5 років тому +42

    So proud of you, Chris! It’s brave testimonials like this that recently reaffirmed my decision to adopt a teenager. Wish me luck and Happy Holidays!

    • @resianemaculate.
      @resianemaculate. 4 роки тому

      Pete Oros,
      Would you kindly adopt my two kids?
      They are 11 (girl)and boy (8).

  • @grlamont
    @grlamont 4 роки тому +1

    Hey I’m from Kerrville and I was born in Corpus Christi! OMG! We have been contemplating adoption with teenagers here in Seattle area and I truly believe that this video came up on my with a purpose to complete the license and get our future kids living in a loving, faith filled home! Thanks for posting! God bless!

  • @littleweirdgirl19
    @littleweirdgirl19 6 років тому +22

    Thank you so much, Im in tears watching this. I have always been pulled to adoption and was wanting an older child so this has help me see how beautiful it can be.

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

  • @tiffanymatsumoto6494
    @tiffanymatsumoto6494 6 років тому +25

    I'm so glad you dared to hope that your dream of having a family would come true even though you were "older". Thank you for sharing your story!

  • @muckersfarm
    @muckersfarm 4 роки тому +1

    I want to thank you for your video. My husband and I are wanting to adopt an older child but didn't know how an older child would feel about joint a family. Your video has had a great impact and confirmation that this is what we want. Thank you from the bottom of my heart

    • @kabin6245
      @kabin6245 4 роки тому

      i am 17 years old boy can you want to adopt me please?💔😢😢😭😭😭

  • @lfrost6718
    @lfrost6718 2 місяці тому

    My closest friend---closer even than my brothers---aged out of foster care and did his best to get a job, apartment and be ready for his brother who'd age out of foster care. In MN you could leave foster care at 16 then those two waited for their brother to age out at 16. Those brothers did there very best to care for each other. They we light and love even after all the hell they went through. I so wished they had found a family like you did as it was so very, very hard for them even together. God bless you and your life and family.

  • @jen1963
    @jen1963 2 роки тому +1

    You have moved my heart to adopt a teen. Please pray my husband will be moved to be on board. We are starting the process to foster to adopt but originally planned on adopting an infant. Thank you for this beautiful testimony. God bless you!

    • @ChrisGray1graytheone
      @ChrisGray1graytheone  2 роки тому

      Hi Jen! Thank you for the encouragement! That is so exciting to hear! I will definitely be praying for you guys and your journey. I'm putting out a Q&A video soon so if you have any questions I'll try to add them to my list. Blessing to you and your family!

  • @keepitsimpleydb6151
    @keepitsimpleydb6151 4 роки тому +3

    I been watching alot of UA-cam on older children getting adopted. Your story is so moving. May God continue to bless you in life.....so very proud of you.

  • @victoriav.3661
    @victoriav.3661 5 років тому +10

    I'm sure you make your parents proud! You are well-spoken and make me interested in adopting an older child.

  • @findsmiles9282
    @findsmiles9282 6 років тому +9

    You touched me! My husband and I are starting our introduction class to adopt on Monday and we’ve been pulled to adopt older children and not separate siblings. Your parents are blessed and if we are fortunate enough to have a child with 1/10 of your heart we will be truly blessed! Love to you!

    • @trixiesalodes3561
      @trixiesalodes3561 5 років тому

      Hi

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

  • @alindon4513
    @alindon4513 6 років тому +15

    Thank you for being brave and sharing your story. Your voice is important.

  • @daffyduck9753
    @daffyduck9753 4 роки тому +4

    What a wonderful young man you have become. Your positive attitude will serve you well. I am so sorry about your earlier heartaches, but am SO glad you found the love you so richly deserve.
    Wishing you a happy and joy - filled life...

  • @hwg3575
    @hwg3575 5 місяців тому

    Bless you! You helped us feel even more determined to adopt an older child. You are an amazing young man! I'm so happy you found a family who you love and who loves you. Every child deserves that.

  • @gregramirez2935
    @gregramirez2935 4 роки тому +1

    I adopted my 5 kids as a single parent. It was tuff for me and I was young going to college. I was working with street and throwaway kids in Los Angeles. I got to know a family judge and he became a second father figure. I brought a 5 yr.old boy to him. He didn't like the foster care system at the time. He looked at me and said since he needed a dad you can adopt him and I will help you through the process. I went him, told my parents and my mom told me people are going to look at you funny because they going to think you want to molest him because during the early 80's many people were accused of sexual abuse because of the McMartin case and others. Five kids later, they are successful college educated adults who did it on their .I just gave the foundation. Now, I have 7 adopted grandchildren. This was the greater gift given to me by God.

  • @emiliapazur
    @emiliapazur 5 років тому +9

    I am in love with your story, I am only 20 but I really want to adopt my children in the future, I need to focus at the work and career first but I always wanted to be a young mother. To adopt like 2 - 3 sons that are brothers in age 10-18 when I am like 30-40 is my ultimate dream in life and I am so sad that I dont know my children yet and they go through the trauma and shit it is so unfair. I wish you the best in life I love your vibe, you are so intelligent and good looking I really hope that all your dreams will come true one day, stay strong!

    • @emiliapazur
      @emiliapazur 5 років тому +1

      + sorry for my english I am from Europe :D

    • @trixiesalodes3561
      @trixiesalodes3561 5 років тому +1

      Hi can you adopt me

    • @vtae5753
      @vtae5753 5 років тому +1

      Can you adopt me and be my mother pls😭💔

  • @donaldschaefer6860
    @donaldschaefer6860 2 роки тому

    Chris, I just finished listening to your video. Your story is so powerful, heart wrenching, and heart warming all at the same time. I hate to think of so many teens not being adopted. I love that God sent you a wonderful family. Thank you for taking the time to share your story. I'm single and am thinking of adopting a teenager. This is a big decision for me. It needs to be bathed in prayer. May God bless you as you walk out His plan and purpose for your life.

  • @mirandaf2112
    @mirandaf2112 6 років тому +16

    Your story touched me so much.

  • @mollydhuet9701
    @mollydhuet9701 2 роки тому +1

    We are adopting a 14 year old girl out of foster care in part because I saw this video about a year ago and my heart was touched. Thank you for speaking up!

  • @howabouthat8606
    @howabouthat8606 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you, Chris! Adopting an older child is something I've thought about for awhile and I feel the time is right to move forward with that. Your story is an inspiration and I wish you a lifetime of love, laughter and happiness!

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

  • @medyatioktarina1430
    @medyatioktarina1430 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your life story. I , a mother aged 56, love you. I sincerely pray that may the universe shower you with a lot of happiness for the rest of your life.

  • @beverlythomas7251
    @beverlythomas7251 4 роки тому +7

    Yes, I want to adopt a older child. I love your story..... I hope I can help a you man on his life road.

  • @zaclong
    @zaclong Рік тому

    Good song for the background! Hills and Valleys could be a very inspirational song for kids going through a rough child hood. Happy to hear your story and that things turned out ok! My wife and I are starting the process to be foster parents with the goal to adopt, so it's helpful to hear that there is hope.

  • @mother_of_doxies
    @mother_of_doxies 2 роки тому +1

    I’m sold, Chris. Thank you for sharing your story. Good luck to you!

  • @louiseking4519
    @louiseking4519 5 років тому +50

    As an adopted child would you personally recommend older retired couple adopting? I feel like more like I could be a Grandmother type for an older child and could give them balance, home, and Family. Love to here from your perspective.

    • @jsmum196
      @jsmum196 4 роки тому +5

      Yes! There is no age limit when fostering and adopting an older child.

    • @katiebarnes6820
      @katiebarnes6820 4 роки тому +6

      Fellow adoptee here - families all look different. Some families are biologically related, others aren't. Some are only separated by one generation and some are separated by 2 or 3. Any loving family is a step up from no family.

    • @RunningwithJesus
      @RunningwithJesus 4 роки тому +1

      Yes. My friend Connies friend grandma adopted my friend Connie’s cousin. So yes

    • @davidjimenezlopez
      @davidjimenezlopez 4 роки тому +2

      I would agree that it does not matter the age, if you can give a foster kid a home and a forever family, that would change his or her world for the better.
      Legally speaking, it depends where you are. My wife and I are in the process of adopting (we are in our early 40s), and here, there is an age limit to adopt (60 years of age). If you can convince a family judge, the limit can be lifted. I have no idea where you are, or the particulars of family law in your jurisdiction.

  • @cathelenealtamirano6803
    @cathelenealtamirano6803 4 роки тому +1

    Chris what a fine young man you have turned out to be...Your mother and father must be very proud of you and your accomplishments.You are graduating from College...WOW, that's wonderful.You have such a positive attitude.I wish you the best,and lots of success in your life.Great story continue with this, you will inspire other kids in the foster program, remember never give up,all things are possible.God is good,God is great bless you and your new family.

  • @debbiep99
    @debbiep99 5 років тому +10

    This made me sad and then so happy.
    We are looking to adopt a teen and looking for stories and experiences.

  • @margarets4078
    @margarets4078 Рік тому

    I am in the process of getting licensed as foster/adopt a teen. I have been leaning more toward a girl as I felt the fit into my life would be better. After listening to your story and reasons for wanting to be adopted as a teenager, I have opened up the option to boys as well. I hope I can have as positive impact on a teen as your family has provided you.

  • @cececece8966
    @cececece8966 5 років тому +2

    Your the reason why kiddo!! I love your story, your heart, and this is why teens are so special to my family! Sending lots of love and praying for blessings over your life! God bless you!
    Keep sharing your story. Look how many hearts are being touched.

  • @bethzaleesotomayor9910
    @bethzaleesotomayor9910 6 років тому +4

    Thanks for sharing your story! We have been fostering for almost 3 years, looking into fostering/adopting an older kid. Kinda nervous because of all the stories you hear. Your story was very encouraging. Praying for nothing, but the best for you!

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

  • @kindnessheals
    @kindnessheals 7 місяців тому

    Congratulations on setting goals and working towards them and achieving them! You were proactive in thinking about what you wanted in life and how to achieve it! Great job advocating for yourself with your case manager when you decided you wanted to be adopted! You can be happy and proud as well as thankful that you are nearing college graduation. You are a kind person to think about other older kids out there who want to be adopted and to try to help them by reassuring prospective adoptive parents about your successful adoption story.
    Keep looking ahead, setting goals, and working to achieve them. Even if there are hard patches along the way and you have to make adjustments to your plans, never give up! You are worth it. You have something valuable to give to others. Your life is meaningful.

  • @adoptionnow9512
    @adoptionnow9512 5 років тому +4

    Thank you for sharing your story! We love telling adoption stories and always love seeing people stand up as a voice for adoption! You are an encouragement!

  • @nicoleguidry7151
    @nicoleguidry7151 6 років тому +2

    You have a beautiful story. I am going to school for social work and we plan on adopting one day. I fostered my 16 year old brother for 6 months until a better family situation with more opportunities came about with our aunt and uncle. Your story truly inspires me. It takes great courage to do what you are doing, using your voice. Thank you for your testimony.

    • @llddau
      @llddau 4 роки тому

      Nicole Guidry When you say you fostered your brother, do you mean you became his guardian because he was under-age and you were an adult?

  • @Goldibabyyy
    @Goldibabyyy 3 роки тому

    I love your story!I actually grew up in San Antonio.My dream is to adopt 2 kids minimum(1 older)& to have kids biologically,so this is what’s driving me.I’m making all of the necessary changes now so that I can build a solid foundation for when I’m ready.You have a light in you. You talked about someone who has lived “half of their life already” and I want to assure you that teens/& 20s are just the beginning.I’m 26,& still learning to navigate through life.So happy to hear about a positive adoption story!I am passionate about wanting this for my future and your video along with others has been so helpful,especially getting a different perspective from not an adoptive/foster parent,but from someone who was in foster care themselves.Keep telling your story!

  • @drkim4077
    @drkim4077 4 роки тому +12

    You’re a wonderful person.
    I just wanted to say that 💜

  • @BillyBob-oy9gk
    @BillyBob-oy9gk 5 років тому +2

    Chris, Thank you so much for your story... every child in this world needs to be able to know that they are loved and wanted. PS... Please tell your parents thank you as well... I am so proud of them and you!

  • @curtis.couple
    @curtis.couple 6 років тому +3

    Wow! Thank you for sharing. We are thinking about adopting an older child. I had a son when I was very young and had another son many years later with my husband so there is a 10 year age gap between our kids. And we’d love to fill in the gap between our two. And knowing that there is such a need for older kids, it seems to just make sense. We are doing the research now and your video came up, thank you for sharing your story! God bless!

  • @bobp1016
    @bobp1016 4 роки тому

    You’re an amazing young man and for being in the foster care system for so many years you have a wonderful out look in life.
    Every kid deserves a family.
    God bless you and your family.

  • @KS-vt5yw
    @KS-vt5yw 4 роки тому

    I have three of my kids who were 9, 11, 14 with special needs when they becamecpart of our family. They are a gift from God-just as you are. Thanks for sharing your story.

  • @karendienesch-calamari5992
    @karendienesch-calamari5992 5 років тому +9

    Hi, Thank you for your wonderful story. We are empty nesters with 2 children who have graduated college and one in college now. I hate having an empty home without the sounds of children. The process has been slow because they seem to rush foster parents through, but it is a waiting game for families who want to go straight to adoption. The system is so slow. One year has passed and our home study is submitted for processing. I look forward to sharing your story with my husband. You are a wonderful young man and an inspiration to all! Please wish us luck as we see this through, seeking to welcome to our family in a child 12-16. All the best, The Calamari's

    • @Oceanusnovas-um2zf
      @Oceanusnovas-um2zf 4 роки тому

      Good luck to you and your husband. It's a wonderful thing to do. Bless

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

  • @AlishaHerbiederbie
    @AlishaHerbiederbie 5 років тому +3

    I am wanting to adopt an older child in the next few years. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope only beautiful things come your way in life.

    • @vtae5753
      @vtae5753 5 років тому

      Can you adopt me😭😭💔

  • @threerisingsuns
    @threerisingsuns 4 роки тому

    What a well spoken and bright young man. You helped me to break down my preconceived notions about fostering older kids, thank you.

  • @happylovesmile6415
    @happylovesmile6415 2 роки тому

    Your testimony has brought me to tears so amazing!!!!!!!!!!! May God bless you forever 💜💚💙🧡💛

  • @beckymorris146
    @beckymorris146 4 роки тому +2

    You seem like an amazing young man. Given your determination and attitude, you will go far in life and do great!!

  • @andreajohnson6968
    @andreajohnson6968 4 роки тому +1

    You reinforced my desire to adopt an older kid when I'm settled. Thank you.

  • @almostafarm6394
    @almostafarm6394 3 роки тому

    Chris, you are persuasive! You've got me thinking! Yes, we all need family, somewhere to belong!

  • @JessicaElle
    @JessicaElle 6 років тому +8

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Your story is beautiful! This really hit home for me...For the past 10 months, my husband and I have been fostering a 10-year-old girl, a previous student of mine. A few weeks ago, she was moved to a new placement because we are military and we will be moving out of state, so we are unable to take her with us due to the time limit, as well as the fact that she is Native American. :( This has been hard for all of us.
    Due to ICWA, they have to try to find a Native American adoptive family. She has struggled with emotional/anger issues, just as you have, many being in part due to her traumatic past, which is understandable. She is trying to cope with everything she has gone through. We absolutely adore her and want so much to have her back with us, but we will have to wait to see if she is going to be adopted by a native family. We know that God has a plan for her, but it is hard not being able to do anything more until the state goes through the adoption process required for native children. It is SO hard, but we are not losing hope! Thank you for sharing your story and how it has changed your life. God bless you and your family!!!

    • @ChrisGray1graytheone
      @ChrisGray1graytheone  6 років тому +6

      Thank you so much! I feel that people need to hear that adoption is a beautiful thing you changed a kids life tremendously. I want to be able to use my voice to help kids that want to have that forever home. I'm sorry to hear that about the situation I know God has a plan for here and I know that she will be put in a place where she needs to be. Thank you for caring It truly means a lot and it is an inspiration and motivation for me to keep speaking on behalf of kids who may not be on the position i'm in. Honestly I would to maybe collaborate with you and your husband on a video maybe like a Q&A or something where you can talk to me about what its like or whatever ya'll would like to ask, I saw your channel kinda revolve around the topic and I would be totally open to it.

    • @JessicaElle
      @JessicaElle 6 років тому +2

      Thank you for using your voice to speak out for those kids. I think it's important that people understand where you are coming from. Honestly, we really didn't until we had one of our own here at home. She has been in foster care 6 times and she is only 10. She has been in countless homes. It has been an eye-opening journey for us. Absolutely! We would love to do a collab with you and be able to help you use your voice and share your story! :) We are in the middle of packing/moving now, but once we get settled here in June, we would love to! Please reach back out if we haven't. Things are just hectic for us right at this point in time. Talk soon!
      ~Jess

    • @ChrisGray1graytheone
      @ChrisGray1graytheone  6 років тому +2

      The Nichols' Nook I know it’s been a long time since we last spoke but I was just reaching out I would love to see if you still wanna do that collaboration video. I apologize for the such late timing but just wanted to see if you were still interested!

  • @katrinar9310
    @katrinar9310 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. Thank you for being willing to take a chance on opening up to a family and wanting to fit in. As an older child, it is also on them wanting to bond and fit in to being a part of a family. In other words, love goes both ways. You have to WANT to love back. BLESSINGS, -Kate

  • @danascully7358
    @danascully7358 4 роки тому +1

    You are a precious puppy. I can't imagine wanting to adopt a young child. I can't even imagine giving birth. I love teens. they are such a hot mess but I love it. I've heard the stats on kids that age out and this is something that needs to change now. So happy for you. You WILL do great things with your life. Keep going! God bless!

  • @taycie1486
    @taycie1486 3 роки тому

    My husband and I are a very young couple and I have always been interested in foster care. I was adopted as an infant and I have seen adoption bless my family in so many ways. We are definitely interested in fostering older children, even if we don't end up adopting them just so they can have a safe space to just live and be themselves. I hope we get lucky enough to add to our family this way. Thanks for sharing!! I am so glad you have found your family.

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

    • @taycie1486
      @taycie1486 2 роки тому

      @@folkfolk281 you need to contact the police! Find an adult or a friend who can help you!

  • @shawnwiles4512
    @shawnwiles4512 5 років тому +3

    God bless you brother. I loved hearing your story. My wife and I are currently looking into adopting a middle aged child.

  • @suegoulding1341
    @suegoulding1341 4 роки тому +2

    Thanks for sharing your story. Good luck 👍 with your future... I'm sure you're going to do well because you never gave up. You have a very nice way about yourself.

  • @arenkiafielteau2442
    @arenkiafielteau2442 2 роки тому +1

    Chris, thank you for sharing your story. I am interested in adopting an older child & I wanted to hear your story. Best wishes in your journey as you share your story.

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

  • @undercatcards3080
    @undercatcards3080 4 роки тому

    Thank you SO much for this video! My husband and I are about to start the process...everyone we know is trying to talk us out of it..telling us adopting older will be the biggest mistake of our lives. Hearing your story just gave me more reassurance that this is right!! Best wishes for you going further!!

  • @patientlywaiting9030
    @patientlywaiting9030 3 роки тому

    You are an inspiration! I pray to adopt someone like you! I felt the Lord leading us to one child. I started praying for him and then got word he was already matched. I’ll continue to pray.

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

    • @patientlywaiting9030
      @patientlywaiting9030 2 роки тому

      @@folkfolk281 if you’re being abused call DCF hotline and report it. They will get you immediate help. Praying for you.

  • @UnePetiteAmie
    @UnePetiteAmie 5 років тому +11

    Thank you for sharing your story. My husband and I were mostly interested in young kids because we are young ourselves but I saw a 17 year old boy on an adoption website today and just out in an inquiry about him. I don’t know if anything will come from it but there was just something about him. I have to know more.

  • @lisabolo26
    @lisabolo26 4 роки тому +1

    Bless you, Young Man! Thanks for sharing. I've been thinking about adopting an older child for many years.

  • @ivanoskaospino1173
    @ivanoskaospino1173 4 роки тому +1

    God bless you boy. I cannot imagine as mother, you made me cry. Lot of love for you.

  • @thelmaparker7888
    @thelmaparker7888 4 роки тому +1

    You seem like a great kid. We all need to thank you adoptive parents for taking a chance. The guided you to be a fine young man. Good Luck in your future.

  • @thisgraceylife7389
    @thisgraceylife7389 4 роки тому

    My husband (also a Chris) and I are in the licensing process to become foster parents. We are hoping to be lisenced for 18mo+, but we are both so excited to get our first teen! Teens are the age group we are most excited about! You are a wonderful young man, and I pray God continues to bless your life. I'm sure your parents are so very proud of you!

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

    • @thisgraceylife7389
      @thisgraceylife7389 2 роки тому

      @@folkfolk281 hi, sweetie! Tell every teacher, pastor, friends' parents, police, etc. that you can. And don't stop! Always tell the 100% truth! Don't exaggerate or the social workers may make you out to be a liar and they will down play everything you say. This happened to my daughter who fought for 5 years to get out of the situation. She is your age and my heart just aches for you!

  • @AAnnyAbreu
    @AAnnyAbreu 4 роки тому +1

    So much love and deep appreciation for you, for your words, and your life on this earth. And unlimited blessings for you and your amazing family!!!

  • @claudiamcnal187
    @claudiamcnal187 2 роки тому

    My husband n I are thinking of fostering to adopt an older child. Your video is very positive n it seems down to earth. Bravo to you n your family for finding each other!!

  • @johnh8186
    @johnh8186 4 роки тому +1

    Thanks for your story. Really inspirational and glad you persevere and never gave up on your hope / dream as most people likely would have done so by the time they are in their teens. Very happy for you and look forward to hearing more about your journey forward. Respect and love!

  • @ELSuttonjr
    @ELSuttonjr 3 роки тому

    Chris, thanks for eloquently inspiring potential adoption families to seriously consider adopting teens as well.

  • @lmr1300
    @lmr1300 3 роки тому

    I love Kerrville! Everyone I go to TX I love passing through there! I'm so happy for you that you were adopted!

  • @Aethelrose
    @Aethelrose 2 роки тому

    Just makes me more convinced of what I need to do. Im so glad your family found you ♡

  • @Aritul
    @Aritul 5 місяців тому

    What a beautiful, uplifting story! I hope that you and your family are doing well.

  • @ESSIETALES
    @ESSIETALES 5 років тому +4

    😭 Thank you for sharing. My partner and I just started the process to become licensed to adopt. I really appreciate you sharing your story.☺️

  • @allatgoddess8961
    @allatgoddess8961 4 роки тому +3

    God bless you. May you have a full, wonderful, successfull, Life of love.

  • @sunnyrays2281
    @sunnyrays2281 5 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing. Love your story and your heart. May God continue to bless you and use you to help bless others.

  • @garymorrow9324
    @garymorrow9324 2 роки тому

    Blessed. I'm adopted too. Keep sharing your testimony...

  • @washingtongumballs
    @washingtongumballs 5 років тому +2

    I’ve just been matched with a 16 year old that I want to adopt, she will be our first kid and I’m hoping you could share in what ways you felt like you were really in your forever home compared to a foster home.

  • @integritymatters5162
    @integritymatters5162 6 років тому +5

    what a beautiful story - thank you so much for sharing and god bless you.

  • @tallgirlhappyme
    @tallgirlhappyme 3 роки тому

    *🔴Thank you for telling your story. I hope you will continue to tell it to all who will listen. You are a fine young man, and clearly quite intelligent and articulate. You have opened my eyes and given a voice to children still hoping for a family. I will not forget you, nor your story. God bless.*

  • @FiveEighteenBlog
    @FiveEighteenBlog 5 років тому +3

    Chris thank you for sharing your story, im looking into adopting an older child because i feel like everyone wants a baby but there are so many older children that need loving homes. Thanks for helping my research

    • @folkfolk281
      @folkfolk281 2 роки тому

      Hello,
      I'm a 13 year old girl who's getting hit and abused by her parents. I am mentally going through a lot.I just want to get adopted and end all of this.Please let me know if i can get any kind of help.

  • @KaiMouy
    @KaiMouy 6 років тому +6

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I am in a process of adopting a child from foster as well.

    • @ChrisGray1graytheone
      @ChrisGray1graytheone  6 років тому +2

      You're welcome! I want to use the platform to really spread awareness about and how much you can change someones life! Thank you for supporting me I greatly appreciate it! I'm glad to hear that! If you have any questions about it please let me know!

  • @mondayswithmayra
    @mondayswithmayra 3 роки тому

    I agree. I have adopted six teens and five eight and under. After they all grew up becoming contributing members of society, I missed having kids around to make a difference. I retook the classes and signed all the docs and waited. DCFS wouldn’t give me any kids. So now at age 79 I am adopting a teen from Bulgaria, the only country with no age limits. Costing a fortune but look at this young man and my own eleven, isn’t one lifer worth it?

  • @mlalch7026
    @mlalch7026 4 роки тому

    You are so special kid. I hope you know it and keep the good patterns. Even if you go sometimes regress, don't forget you can go forward . Always forward.