Mr. Acho, I would LOVE to see an uncomfortable conversation episode with a white teacher! As a white middle school teacher, I am in the position of educating black children not only academically, but socially and emotionally as well. I want to understand. I want to do better.
Don't be biased. White teachers statistically punish black students more than white students, and they silence black girls often. This causes black girls to become withdrawn. If possible, find a female black teacher that's good at her job and is willing to mentor you on these matters. But I doubt you will find one as no job exists like that. Your best bet would be to be more conscious of how you treat your students in class regardless of the situation. Develop steps to ensure that you don't favor other students, and make conscious efforts to get to know your students and their culture without biases. This is easy for me to do as a black person, but others find it hard. Also, I was raised with an advantage to not judge which was drilled into me by teachers from K-12.
Kupenda Love That reminds me of a memory four years ago, when the broadcasting class in my high school asked students “How will you celebrate Martin Luther King Jr Day?” I was even asked that question, and as an Asian American student, I didn’t know how to answer the question. The day it was aired, not one Black student was interviewed, and the white students gave such poor answers. I recall my psych teacher being so upset about this. I know there’s likely more to this situation that I’m not noticing.
I can really appreciate this question. I have spent the past few school years trying to get my son's teachers to have this conversation. My children go to schools that are 93% white. I have had to file so many complaints only to be treated like I'm just angry. My son is 14 and 6'3" (we are all very tall) and the assistant principal said he was scared of him. People will try to hurt what they're afraid of. Assumptions have to be set aside and culture has to be understood.
Dee - recent studies reaffirmed that all girls in classrooms around the world are more likely to be ignored and interrupted by boys without being corrected. Wasn’t trying to debate or anything, just adding. I just happened to have read about that last month.
Dear Editor: These are good and important conversations, but *PLEASE lose the cheesy "inspirational" music* . It's just distracting and takes away from paying attention to the dialogue.
Yes I agree. I enjoyed the dialogue but the piano is really cheesy and distracting. It didn’t contribute to any feelings that you may have been trying to convey to the audience (atleast to me). I’m sure I’m not alone.
@@kamran2035 I have to differ. I made my living as an actor/director/writer, professionally, for well over 20 years. The first thing I saw in watching this was the telltale glances followed by an extemporization from what were obviously notes he'd written beforehand. Like it or not, want to believe it or not, actors are the most highly skilled liars on the planet. We literally train for years to become that. I don't mean that in a harsh negative sense. It's just the reality. I cant say that I felt M.M. was being particularly genuine now do I feel the host was offering anything of all that much substance. I'd have liked to see this same interview with some harsher realities discussed openly. M.M. is good at using a lot of words and measured tone to say very little.
There were SO many times when Matthew could have jumped in with "I don't do that" or "I don't feel that way" and it's hard to say how important it is to me that he just. Listened. Emmanuel, thank you so much for using your platform to educate like this; this series is excellent.
This is a good point, many people tend to wait for a point in which they can interject and they just don't listen. Whether it's because they don't want to listen or they forget to. It just really amazes me when I'm listening to two people argue the same point without realizing it because they're just not listening to the other person.
As he was talking about how Matthew can hire black people, I winced thinking that Matthew would butt in with "But I did hire...!", but he didn't. It was such a relief, and makes my love for him grow that much more.
Listening is important but it is hardly a conversation when one side demands and other side listens. One one hand blacks say to be blind to race, and that race doesn't matter but content of character matters and then switch and come back to race matters, and that color of their skin needs to be acknowledged by other races. You can't have it both ways. Just imagine if whites started demanding to talk to them certain way based on the color of their skin, so they could "accept" you. No one is royalty to request others to do things, every nation wants others to know about them, their history sensibilities etc. Everyone wants to be celebrity, to be things about them. So get off your high horse and understand that no one is perfect. Look at America, we only care about ourselves, many people be black or white etc can't tell most countries on the map, yet alone their culture, history.
Yes! He let Emmanuel make the points he wanted to make without ever saying "but that's not me" because he recognized that being defensive wouldn't have been helpful and would only have served to undercut the important points Emmanuel was making. Matthew recognized that Emmanuel was trying to have a good faith, respectful conversation with him without any personal attacks and felt no need to be defensive.
I must say, I believe the best way to move forward is to recognize the issues of the past and their current impacts change what we can, But look forward to what unifies us as fellow Human beings with the goal of creating practices that promote equality without too much focus on our separate labels but the labels we actually do share and the merits of our actions. Thankyou Emmanuel, for creating such a space to open up these Conversations, promoting better understanding and finding solutions
These conversations are so awesome. I love the way Emmanuel is answering the questions. I've witnessed a lot of white people not wanting to ask questions about other races (especially Black race) because we (Blacks) get offended when they ask questions that we think they should already know about us. Still, most whites honestly don't know or understand the culture of others (especially blacks). Despite the hurt, we have to give them (whites) a safe environment to ask questions regarding our past and where we come from, and not be so fast to angrily lash out criticism when an issue is addressed to us about our culture. Keep up the excellent work, Emmanuel.
@@ksam5673 I see your point and where your coming from. In my experience as a white person it is more about fear. Fear of being labeled as a racist for asking questions that are perceived as hateful, even when coming from a place of honest ignorance.
James, most of my white friends have expressed the same feelings. That fear of being labeled racist for asking an honest question about another race. That's why it's important that I created a safe atmosphere for any of them to feel comfortable when asking me about my perspective as a black man.
Humans are tribal, no matter the race if you stya in your own tribe assumptions about others will come up. The only way to remedy this is with uncomfortable conversations .
@@strange4107 These conversations keep you in the mindset of black and white seperate. There is no progress going on having a celebrity ask how to be a better racial man.....
Love what you’re doing…. I feel it’s very important you started this dialogue in a very passionate and positive way. I think you’d be a good bloke to have a beer with…🍺
Do you notice how all of these ideals are sweeping generalizations with nothing concrete? "A house divided against itself-which house? -can not and will not stand"-define "stand?" -Uhh, lot's of "houses" stand very healthy with divisions in beliefs and skepticism. People argue, they have differences, this is irrelevant. It's easy to create these poetic statements and then interpret their meaning later but these can be interpreted any number of ways. "and when the power of love overcomes the love of power, then we will know true peace" -define love, define power, define peace. What is peace exactly? We seem to live in pretty peaceful times when compared to other times. How much more peaceful? Should there never be any conflict? Should life just be non stop pleasures? Well we've seen what happens to societies that run out of things to argue about. The divide actually unifies us and prevents the devolution into depravity. By having differences of opinions, by having struggles, racists, haters, it gives us something to call "enemy" so that we don't end up like the Romans or Egyptians. There is no utopia and there never will be, not in this flesh. Define love? Everyone has a different idea of what love is. Some don't think love is real, it's just a chemical reaction in the body. Define power? What is power? Force? Money? Influence? God? Is power even real? Just because a musician said something, doesn't make it true or even valuable.
I was waiting in line to buy strawberries at a farm and started chatting with these two women. This was in Scotland County, NC probably five years ago, and one of the women, who was maybe 60, mentioned that she grew up as a sharecropper, and that blew my mind. She looked to be about my mom’s age, and I thought sharecropping was from the 20’s. It was a reminder that Jim Crow wasn’t as long ago as I’d thought.
Jarrod Flint I disagree. People definitely care considering it’s Mathew McConaughey speaking about racial injustice. Including the music in the intro makes sense but it gets elongated too much and becomes annoying
Second time watching. Great conversation. We also need to tackle the allergies in our own community. "You ain't black enough" because you "talk/act like a white girl!" It's not just a white allergy...its in the black community. Thank you for the great tools to apply in tackling and handling these tough issues that try to divide. If we can learn to talk...converse...this is how healing can begin
Of course not. That would be a trap. Sorry, tin foil hat on, I do believe all of us are being manipulated somehow. Race does not determine ability. But we are being divided. As in divide and conquer. We must unite, they can't get us if we work together! As the human race! Brothers and sisters together!
Maybe I'm just used to it, but in a kitchen "heard" means "yes. I hear you, I understand you, I will follow through, Chef" not necessarily "ok we're done with this conversation"
@@seaborgium919 Also mental health care. In crisis services training, saying "I'm hearing..." "I heard..." "It sounds like...." is encouraged because it can allow people to feel acknowledged or open for further communication and expression.
@@bobknight33 why are you replying to every comment with this? the video isn't even good. i watched five minutes like you wanted, and it just reeks of manipulation of facts.
I still remember a black girl telling me in highschool, "You know, you're okay for a white girl". She probably thought that was nice of her to say but I was offended and I couldn't even imagine saying "You're okay for a black girl" as it's obviously a put down to every other black girl. I am not mentioning this to try to draw any attention away from the prevalence of racism targeted towards black people, but as a blonde white girl I fear being assumed to be racist (or "basic" or stupid, whatever stereotypes you fancy) before I have even spoken. I love that these honest conversations are happening :)
@KelseyMarkham my guess is that she didn’t say that to you as a compliment at all. You took it to mean that she expected you to be not “okay”, thereby making the assumption of her normal belief is that white people are bad or at the very least not good. However, in my experience, and the experience many other, that statement comes from a place of expecting others (normally white people) to not accept us for our differences like skin color or ethnic background. The idea is that we’re more shocked that a white person is acting comfortable around us when that is not mostly the norm of feeling like we’re out of place for being non-white. I’ll say it’s odd that you say you didn’t want to make this about you, but most certainly did. I don’t think this story carries much weight toward any kind of beneficial progression, but instead sounds more like “well one time a black person did that to me, so I think it’s everyone’s problem instead,” but that could very well be a reach.
Kelsey, don't apologize for recognizing racism from black people. It has to be at least as prevalent as racism by white people. Many have argued more Black people are racist than white people are. If racism follows socioeconomic and education patterns - which I think it does - then there is a strong argument that more blacks are racist than whites.
Eli Jimenez I definitely did not intend to make my experience anyone else’s problem. They spoke of backhanded compliments in the video and I felt compelled to share my experience of it, if only to express how white people can feel unwelcome by the black community as well. I just want to create a dialogue about some of these issues that I have not heard mentioned before, thank you for you’re perspective.
My feeling when I look at all the factors ... as an older white male who spent part of my youth in the South is that the special things we try to do or talk about such as equal opportunity or reparations are too hard, very complex, costly, jealousy inducing, and just not ever really going to be embraced without rancor by everyone, especially my generation or those who have been raise by people of my generation. Why do we even have this problem anymore. I feel like if we fixed the system for everyone and equalled things out for everyone, and do it in the name of the people who have been hurt in ways too horrible to even talk about, such as implementing: - real progressive taxation that cuts down on the power of dynasties like the Trumps, Kochs, etc. - UBI, universal basic income so that people were not forced or extorted to work in a place they do not like or could leave. - Education for everyone - Universal Health Care and more policies that are people and equality oriented. I think most of our racial problems comes from lies people learn from their family and peers, and with these policies that would disappear quickly over time ... I think.
@Ramon Ramirez Democratic socialism is not the same as socialism, and many of the countries with the highest rated quality of life in the world are democratic socialist countries. Denmark, Finland, Netherlands, Iceland, Germany, Norway, Sweden, and Slovenia all have democratic socialist parties and all rate a higher quality of life than the USA. You are correct, socialism is an extreme that doesn't work. But democratic socialism is an effective middle-ground that works pretty well for many countries. Providing basic needs like health care and education is not only possible, but it demonstrably improves the quality of life for all citizens.
@Ramon Ramirez Really? Is it sharp to repeat this same nonsense argument after it has been determined that Venezuela is not socialist. Venezuela is a federal presidential republic. The chief executive is the President of Venezuela who is both head of state and head of government. Executive power is exercised by the President. Legislative power is vested in the National Assembly.
@@justgivemethetruth that account goes around UA-cam posting controversial takes. He’s a troll, so don’t give him time of day, everything you said was facts🙏🏿
Yeah you have an equal chance until you apply for college or for a job with the government. Then you will be picked based off filling specific quotas on minorities in the name of "diversity". Institutional racism exists, but as usual with media its the opposite of what is portrayed on tv
Dear Mr Acho. Thank you for clearing up the linguistic issue of “African American” VS “Black.” So, when writing, I should also Capitalize the First Letter when referring to a Black Lady or Gentleman, the Same way the “A” in “Asian” and “E” in “Englishman” is capitalized in formal writing, yes? 🙂 Looking forward to your next video, Good Gentleman! 🙂❤️🐱
RoninAquila From a gramma point of view, no. Black does not need to be capitalised because its an adjective, not a proper noun. So to use your examples, you would write “ a black lady” because the word black is being used to describe the colour of her skin. In the same way you wouldnt write “a Fat person” or “a Tall person” or “an Angry person” or “a Happy person”. Because the word is describing them, and not referring to their place of origin, it does not need to be capitalised. However, you would write “Asian” with a capital A because it is referring to someone or something that comes from the continent of Asia. So because Asia is the name of a place its a proper noun, so you capitalise it. Its the same if you were saying “an English person” or “an American person” or “a Chinese person” or “African person” - because its referring to the name of the place where the person comes from, you capitalise it. Its similar to how you don’t capitalise every noun. For example, you wouldn’t write “a Lady” or “a Postman” or “a Farmer” because they are just regular nouns, they are not proper nouns. Hope this helps clear things up for you : )
debunker300 No idea. I would guess referring to anyone who is not white as coloured is racist because of segregation laws in America, where public things were split into “white” and “coloured” - a famous example being busses where they were split in half with non-white people having to get on at the back of the bus and sit there, and if a white person got on they had to move to let them sit down. Calling someone coloured might refer back to that oppression and the idea of white people being better than those with other skin tones. Also, white is often associated with purity, so anything less than white, ie coloured, would therefore be impure which has negative connotations. As to why one phrase might be seen as racist and the other not though, I wouldn’t know.
NOTE : He doesn’t speak for us all. I personally prefer African American in homage to my lost ancestry. And Black isn’t accurate and is too often used to denote “bad” things vs. White being only “good”. African American IS more historically accurate whether we’re consciously aware of our specific lineage or not.
I’m a black woman and just received my Masters Degree in Nursing and one of the reasons why I was so proud of that fact is because I never had to submit my work under a specific profile. I was simply a number and my work was graded by my future peers but not my teacher. I never interacted with the panel that judged my work. They didn’t know my name, ethnicity or gender... my work was graded simply by the contents of its character. That Diploma is my proudest academic achievement because of that.
BRO THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! Respect. A girl in my online college class said “I feel pressured to speak and act white here at college” ..... It makes no sense, speaking proper and being educated shouldn’t be associated with any race. This blame white people for everything is tiering.... most of us just want to go to work and go home like normal people, we not out here hating on random people because of their skin color. The ones that do are morons.
I love the fact that McConaughey came to the table with his notes in hand. That says a lot. He was thoughtful in his opening comment as well as in his questioning. It showed me that he was there to learn and listen. I've always liked McConaughey and this conversation just made me like him more! (Plus I just adored the bingo game he had via Zoom with the elders. What a blast to see!)
Or maybe, as an actor, he fully knows the value of having a prepared script. True feelings come out in convo's. A prepared script prevents that..... its PR. Stick to the script, instead of being unabashedly authentic. These types of convo's need to be naked
@@ampollard7041 Possibly. I prefer to think that although he had prepared questions, he was still sincere. Having notes or prepared opening, quotes, etc. doesn't necessarily mean it doesn't come from a genuine place. It could mean you don't want to miss anything you wanted to ask or bring to the table in the course of the conversation. After all, this video was only 12 minutes long. I know that these videos are conversation starters however, I would have liked this conversation as well as others go for at least 30 minutes.
The listening and learning stance is BS by white people. This is the problem. This happens all the time. Matt should be answering his own questions. I want to hear what he thinks, not what Acho thinks. This is the problem. It’s like a parent giving a child their talking to. The child doesn’t learn if they are not given an opportunity to share their thoughts.
Christopher Stuart I absolutely agree! It wasn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all. I was pretty surface. I hope it improves over time. But the is now!
@@cstuartdc I noticed that as well. It was a good video, but...this wasn't uncomfortable or even an actual conversation, right? It felt more like two people positioning themselves as humble student and wise teacher.
As a dark skin black woman, I strongly agree with your comment-- White women and black women need to sit down together. HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained.
There is a video called “Best Friends Get Honest About Race” from Iris that is a short conversation between a black woman and a white women that is similar.
I think it's because Matthew is very open and comfortable with being vulnerable and self-reflective. Most people are not, so conversations like these won't be as comfortable for them.
This isn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all, it’s a normal one of thoughts and ideas. The fact that anyone would feel this would be uncomfortable just because it is with a black person is racist in my opinion. Also the entire conversation is stupid and baseless and I could spit facts all day to shut it all down but who cares. You can’t change people’s mind frames. You have to dig yourself out. If you think you’re oppressed then so be it. Meanwhile I’ll watch all the successful blacks left and right who grew up with less than who are currently proving all these ideologies wrong. I’ll watch all the full police cam videos proving media lies and watch all the white people who die more and so on.
Critical race theory nonsense. I think it would be a net good to have these fabled “uncomfortable conversations,” but a conversation involves both listening and speaking. Hearing and being heard. A dialectic can’t occur without an interlocutor. If one party is right by definition, as is the case with CRT, then it’s just mental masturbation with another party to nod along. And um... white allergies? 🤓Foh. With all due respect.
We are in a moment in Society a” soft bigotry of Condensation “ so often doled out to Black folk. “ Black people are now above reproach and below expectation”. This is very dangerous place to be in. It’s the same as a parent just allowing their petulant child to do whatever they want to do you can get a pass on any behavior and you dare not criticize. There’s a least 100 other ethnicities in America and 70 of them make more money annually than whites including Nigerians. Go to US census demographics. There is no systemic racism this is Marxist BS. There are plenty of other blacks in this country who are doing better than whites. Indians Taiwanese Filipino Chinese and keep going all the way to 71 to get to white we should say were oppressed but all these other groups. People view Black people more as a threat not because society told them to it’s because of the violence come on man keep it real. Anybody that went to a public school with blacks know they got their ass beat if they were white constantly especially if you got bused to a black School. For god sake just ask any school teacher that’s honest that teaches at a majority black school they’ll give you some horror stories. Mr Acgo you are being dishonest maybe not intentionally maybe because of the indoctrination at a university maybe it’s subversion stop perpetuating it it’s going to cause a war. If I owned my own company if I wanted to hire all blacks all Chinese are all white for whatever reason that would be my business but it’s not because of racism. It’s OK to have preferences based on past lived experiences. With that said blacks have suffered tremendously I need some help but the Johnson’s administration civil rights act and all that money pumped in the programs trillions paid out have backfired and things have gotten worse all the While Third World immigrants who can’t even speak English have came here and made it home and are prospering. BTWmany whites have descended who were slaves right here too but that’s been a raced out of the history books. www.educationviews.org/white-slaves-america/ The Irish almost genocided out of existence 300,000 shipped here. Although there around 380,000 Africans brought to the colonies. Can you imagine how offensive it is have to apologize for being responsible for slavery and probably being forced to pay for it when your ancestors came here as poor peasants who Were actually treated just as bad as blacks. The same group of elites who enslaved Africans have enslaved Christians. rense.com/general81/d3ss.htm This link will get you to who owes black reparations.
Honestly I’m just wasting my time writing a post for people who are close minded and already made up their minds that this country is and always has been perfect and has always looked at every other race who isn’t white the same. I’ll keep it short, the people who think this way are doing so much more damage than those who are bluntly racist because at least racist people acknowledge that there is a difference in how we treat people instead of acting like that live on Cloud 9 and nobody sees color and everyone is treated equally. I just love how people bring up “whites are killed more than blacks”...NO SHIT that’s why they’re called MINORITIES, you’re comparing an ocean to a pond. Again, there is literally no point in talking delusional people. I guess I’m just venting
Thank you for this Mr. Acho. My father played football and ran track for the University of Texas and graduated in 1963. Your statement about the UT athletics not being integrated until the late 60's is SPOT ON. My father often recounts the story of how at the NCAA Nationals for Track and Field, he was watching the lower division schools run the 2 mile relay (which was an event he competed in) and noticed that the lower division schools were beating the crap out of their times and he wondered why those schools didn't compete with the best teams, like UT. Then he realized it was because those teams were black and the University of Texas couldn't tolerate being beating by a team of black kids. He said that was the moment that he realized just how much racism was ingrained in society and the extent to which is it invisible to people like him.
Thank you for your story. And ignore Rustang's comment, guys like him are from the past. They are so filled with victimization and feeling aggrieved that they will never move forward. Let's call it "Tiny Hands Syndrome". A good film on the same lines as your story is Glory Road about a small black school facing the NCAA basketball juggernaut Kentucky back in the pre-Civil Rights days. Also of course Denzel is excellent in Remember the Titans. Together we will all move forward and those like Rustang will be left behind and wither away.
Yo Bo but if you don’t address the point he made, your not putting forward a convincing case. I get that you might not feel like replying which is of course totally fine, but I don’t think the avoid them and they’ll go away attitude works. It never has and never will. If you want to deal with a problem you confront it, and avoiding discourse or dialogue with someone you disagree with achieve nothing. He wasn’t offensive or rude, he lashed out a simple argument and yet you avoid it. I dunno, I just wish more dialogue between differing sides took place.
@@trtvitor5837 I think the point is that ppl can either admit and address systematic racism or they can choose to use any number of distractions to avoid dealing with their own racism. If a person is closed off, you should move on and engage with those who are willing to learn.
This confuses me because when a white person says this its considered racist and one of the most harsh things to say. I have seen people say it's wrong because your not acknowledging someone's blackness.
Does "God" do that? Christians say Heaven only if you follow Jesus - doesn't that mean good people if they are Hindus, Buddhists and Atheists will be set apart and dumped into gas chambers in hell? Whatever happened to character? Talk is cheap
If I move from my country to a different country and then break the rules of that new country because it was legal in my own, do you think they will not punish me in their legal system according to their own laws? They are not going to let me go because my past country has different rules. So it is with God. He has a different standard than we do for ourselves and that others have for us. The Bible says that a man is made righteous by his faith in God in that without faith, it is impossible to please God. So believing a different religion will not work to make us good in the eyes of God at the end of our lives. God asks that we believe he is who he says he is and choose to live by his rules, and then we will experience the incredible joy, peace, and love that comes from being in a good relationship with God. Out of experiencing that love and grace that comes from God despite our feelings, we desire to do good, not just because we should, but because it’s actually what we want to do. That’s what Christianity is supposed to all be about. Unfortunately many people miss represented, but that is what can be found in the Bible.
Mr. Acho, I can't wait to hear what's next. I was taught as a young child around 4 that a black man the 1st one I ever saw was the boogy man. It took me many many years to not be afraid of black men. I was raised in the 40's & 50's and almost everyone I knew was prejudiced against the black. After leaving home and moving around the country Ihave lost some of that prejudice I am 80 now and I hope I lost more but sometimes I find some is still there and it is not right I know I do want to change. I have subscribed because I do not want to miss more of your awakening conversations. Thank you for being you and thank you for making me aware of back handed compliments. I may not say them to someone but I know I have thought them.
Never have I felt so connected with another person, till I read your compliment. I am 40 years old, and unfortunately experienced much of the same thing. however I was fortunate that during the most important stages of my life, it was black men and women that reached out and assisted me in helping me grow as a person and understanding.
I'm not sure either of you will ever see these comments, but I'm a black man, and I'd like to say it moves me emotionally to know that people can change their perceptions. Thanks for taking the effort not only to acknowledge it but to change in the first place. A lot of people don't.
Indians are more racist than white people, I am a witness. Also a lot of Asian immigrants look down upon black ppl bc they see them as ppl who slack off and do drugs. Asian Americans are all about hard work and good choices. When they see the complete opposite in some black people, they look down upon them.
I totally second this! I'll be honest, I had so many assumptions about Asian people growing up until I got to college and met my best friend Lianna, we both grew up around predominately our own races, got roomed together freshman year and she has truly opened my mind to soooo many things, as I hope I'm also doing for her.
The whole “your the whitest black girl I’ve ever met” “why do you listen to that white people music” “I’ve never met a black girl that listens to heavy metal” “oh you have gauges i didn’t know black people wear gauges” it drives me INSANE when it comes from people that try to make me feel like my blackness isn’t as prominent because of the way I act or who I am. Like yes the “I’ve never met a black girl who listens to heavy metal” I will accept because u are right not a lot of black women listen to heavy metal. when I tell you this but be careful with your diction after that statement.
For some reason people tend not to leave others alone with this stuff. How the hell does the type of music you listen to define your character or skin color? The people who say this to you are ignorant at best.
@@IceyGuy thank you! U are absolutely right, I get the heavy metal comment A LOT, I really don’t understand how music defines skin color. Like i know majority of people that say that don’t mean to be offensive but I’ve had some times where they knew what they were doing
@Speaking Truth I completely get what you are coming from! Music, clothes and food is tied to ethic background and cultural here in the US too! Also body attributes and body modification, i have gauges that a lot white American do Here, in the US and I get the comment “oh you act white u have gauges” which is completely stupud because the stretching of the ears is apart of african culture! curves and big lips are very common when it comes to being African descent but we wouldn’t come out and say that to a person because it’s kinda weird that jusr where I’m from! In the US, metal is influenced by rock and rock was created by a black man, so that is why I get so offended by that comment if they mean it in a heinous way because my people are the ones who helped metal become what it is today. And the reason why being compared to a white person likr “you act like a white person” people only tel me that because I talk “proper” or “non AAVE” which mean it’s a backhanded compliment because they are saying Blsck people can’t be proper only white people can.(AAVE is a dialect of which black Americans created in the US because when slavery happened, we couldn’t learn how to read or write so we couldn’t pick up on the proper English terms so we talk to each other in a more slang way, I still talk like this with my friends, and of course the slang as evolved over time) Another reason why I get offended by that comment because I love my blackness, being an African American I have ancestor and close family that are still alive todsy that have fought for freedom and equal rights before I was born, my grandfather was a civil rights activist, so when you tell me that I don’t “act black and I act white” it takes away from what we have been working for for decades, CENTURIES. I don’t want my blackness deemed as any less because of stereotypes and racism. (I hope me saying “you” didn’t confuse u I’m talking in general term not personal you specifically lmao) also we use that “bad with spices” here in the US too lmaooo I completely agree with where you are coming from but in the US it is completely different because of our history and the way history and on going event that have shaped us. Majority the stereotype that are used against blsck people are harmful not physically but society and fundamental wise, it feeds into that “black and anything that isn’t white is deemed less in this society”. I hope this all made sense!
@Speaking Truth yes you are completely right we are obsessed with race and I fucking hate ittttt but we have to keep talking about it because it’s legit ingrained into everything! Our government hsving systemic racism, different childhood songs like the ice cream truck tone is originally a racist song, the term “gaiter bate” which is alligators bait originated by the slave masters that use to use BLACK BABIES as alligator bait! It’s legit into everything and we have to keep talking about race because we have keep fighting for equality every day. It’s draining Yes! I’ve noticed that non African Americans do not like say “African British” or “African Scottish” in the US a lot of African Americans do not hold any connections towards our history or ancestors, we do not know where we come from and it hurts knowing that u do not know anything about ur history because it was stripped of ur ancestors so we try to stay Connected to that side of us because that’s where it all started. Lucky many of us have used DNA test, I did it and I know what my DNA holds, it isn’t much but it makes me feel a little more like me yanno
@Speaking Truth also I really appreciate you and anyone that isn’t black that come and talk to me or just anyone in the comments but especially you because u are Europeans and u can easily turn a blind eye to our problems in the US.
For those who don't know, "Heard" or "Thank you" is how actors are taught to take notes aka how actors acknowledge they understood and refuse to make excuses, but instead just do better.
Why should I feel guilty? I have never ever ever been unkind to anyone..please read my note. No one should feel guilty unless they are assholes who call people racist things in which case they are ignorant morons who dont have a life anyways and dont matter...if someone calls me a whore i am not offended because, im not a whore do they matter no, are they looking like a moron yes. Why do i care what an idiot thinks of me? I dont. I really dont. What we need to do is be kind to everyone be the change we want to see in this world..the government that is robbing us and making life survival so impossible wages low cost of living swrved to keep us deep in debt is by dividing us creating a racist banter skin color religious beliefs men and women dividing us media propaganda to get us to divide instead of unite then the government has the distraction to do us all even worse they get away with more and more keep your eyes on the prize...notice when media propaganda tries to divide us from our coming together....why....think about it. I love everyone and i have grieved over many a tragic event and ive seen things that would make the most brutal combat look like a picnic at the park..there are some very evil things still going on...we are all brothers and sisters of one Creation and that is a fact accept it lets do this together by beginning with being the change we expect to see in this world. 🌎✌🕊
Except you don't just want acknowledgment, do you? BLM demands money, open borders, no cops - they want to flip the society on its head. I acknowledge you're unstable.
@@spicerc1244 Did i ask you for money? Did i ask you for money? I asked for us all all of us to become to be to behave like walk talk treat others lije to speak like the change we all wanna see in this world. I have no guilt because i am kind to everyone i respect everyone i never assume oh you wearing a white shirt well i got raped by somebody wearing a white shirt that means all white shirt wearing people are rapists..thats just dumb. Thats not even stable thinking. Be kind. Pay attention to the distaction of racism over media and look for what is being done to us all all of us all Americans while we are being baited to divide.
I love that the title includes the word “uncomfortable” because being uncomfortable is often what leads to fear, hate, prejudice, and to being willingly blind to others’ suffering. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. This means we are growing as a person. If we allowed ourselves to be uncomfortable more often, we would explore worlds otherwise unknown to us, and imagine how unlimited the horizons!
Uncomfortable I think is what everyone needs a little bit to get out of their comfort zone. Leaving that and growing from that experience is what will help both parties involved.
We need to see a show called uncomfortable conversations with uncle-toms and sellouts...the guest would be Candice Owens. First question would be "Why do you always shuck and jive in front of FOX NEWS when in reality they're calling you the "N" word behind your back"
Emmanuel acho 😂 Weird why make a big thing about being black. Like millennial black men think of themselves as something other than human. Other generations just have relationships with people of all races. We dont look at each other as black or white.. just people. Black millennials 24-36 years old are the reason why this country as really bad race issues now. Milennials period dont know how to socialize and black millennials have extra problem with socializing and being black
@@beastmode2610 "Why make a big thing about being black?" Without even realizing it, you just exhibited the very behavior that this entire video is trying to work against. Being black may seem like an irrelevant factor in this conversation to you, but the same cannot be said for the many who are subjected to differential treatment for said blackness. You claim that other generations can conversate and start relationships with people regardless of race, however, you are failing to consider the racial biases that they may still hold. Yes, they may be able to talk to a black man without throwing a racial slur but that doesn't mean that they don't unintentionally toss around a few microaggressions or stereotypes. Research done by the dFp, among other sociology organizations, suggests that millennials are actually the generation that is most opposed to institutionalized racism and discrimination. Meaning that your statement that they are the reason race relations are so bad in this country is indeed incorrect. The reality of the matter is that, historically, America has never gone without race issues. Nearly the entirety of this country's institutions were founded in racist sentiments against minorities. It just happens to be that the minority group that was most heavily targeted was black people and because of that, they are still being affected to this day. That is why it is "a big thing about being black" and by continuing on as you do, "[not looking] at each other as black or white," you are contributing to the problem. You HAVE to look at others' race because only then will you be able to acknowledge the issues that they face because of that and start to help fix them. It has nothing to do with poor social skills and everything to do with finding the root of the problem (in yourself, in society, in the general behavior of the majority) and reconstructing it in order to create change and make progress.
Holy crap. This hit me hard. I’ve always tried to be the open minded guy but now I realize how close minded I still am. Thank you for what you’re doing and thank you for spreading some light on racial issues still out there.
I am white btw so I have to assess myself in these ways constantly, we can always keep improving in this way, I know im still far from being without bias, but im working my hardest to change that
😂😂😂. But 😐, everyone out there in reply land let's not repeat that teenager line ya'll know which one I'm talkin about. That line didn't age well and is uber cringy. 😐
@@MacabreQt888 By accepting some blame for the situation too. Not everyone in 2020 is oppressed or held down by some system racism. There are other issues that are to blame as well. The biggest one is the extremely high rate of single motherhood. This alone sets you WAYYYY back in life and destroys your odds of success. That is a cultural problem that can be resolved.
I feel like their answers are still constrained and not well answered as I'd hoped to be. To me it's not that uncomfortable enough. Let's get deeper please! I want more!!! This is good!
I believe that step by step is the way. You don't want anyone to feel attacked or on the spot, especially because who will be sitting in the other chair is willing to be part of the conversation.
This is just a start of a conversation that could lead to deeper ones in the future with different people. It's a dialogue that must continue. Cant be done in just one day.
True, but you have to consider the different levels/awareness of biases of the viewers. In many ways the video creators have to find a way to speak to people of varying levels of awareness/knowledge. You have to try to take people from where they are to the next level. Uncomfortable is good, but it should be in a (gentle?) way that they click on *next". That, I think, it where change starts to happen. Uncomfortable-ness happens in stages, in my experience.
Seriously. It's why you never hear people going around to Breast Cancer walks going "aLl CaNcErS mAtTeR," because they don't care about "All." They only care about silencing the ones speaking for the few.
But analogous to diseases, when will people think it has been addressed enough (just like we now think "regular cancer" has been addressed enough compared to COVID)? It is not the case that no people die anymore from regular cancer right?
I actually love the video and I catch the heart behind it. But let me respectfully disagree on why that isnt a helpful analogy. Media tend to downplay COVID-19 numbers. Media sensationalises certain "woke" narratives for their agendas, therein lies a very big difference, also racism is an ongoing problem, the spanish flu and covid are NOT ongoing problems, it distracts from the main issue.
I love how Matthew McConaughey watched the previous episode and took notes, then wrote down questions to ask. It shows he put thought and effort into the conversation so the dialogue can be more deeply delved.
@Alisya Ceviche , you're not alone. A very dear black lady I got to know very well and love deeply (and by whom this white guy was deeply honored to be considered by her and her adult kids as a family member) seemed to feel the same way about McConaughey. I do wish she were still alive -- for so many reasons, but especially to ask her more about what prompted her admiration and affection for him -- and to show her this very interview, which she would have loved. And I'm sure she'd have agreed entirely with your comment, without hesitation!
Me too bud! Especially when I have so many friends who obviously trying not be racist with all good intentions saying : all lives matter! Yeah of course all lives matter especially those lives who’ve been hurting since a long time ago! Definitely that o e gets me!
Really appreciate Emmanuel's analogy of All Lives Matter & Black Lives Matter to the Coronvirus Vaccine & other illnesses. I think that's a great way to explain it that makes it easy to understand and explain to others.
I agree, it was a great way to put it in context. I’ve been having a hard time explaining it, and why BLM is so important. People just don’t understand why it isn’t all life’s matter. No one is saying all lives don’t matter. But, BLM is the movement we need to focus on and respect. This was a wonderful way to explain BLM. My fear, is not matter how it is explained, some people will never understand because they won’t accept it.
This completely changed my perspective on the whole issue! I always thought in terms of 'all lives matter' because they do, but putting it in the context of what we're fighting so hard to do now with coronavirus BECAUSE it is so important RIGHT NOW, my view has gone in a completely different direction. I never was a person who held negative opinions about others based on any demographic information, but rather relied on the person and how they act, comport themself, acted toward others, etc. I always told people that "I am your friend until you change my mind.", and I will continue to hold that in my heart because that's the way I want to look at everyone. But it struck me after the video that I need to add to that "...and look at things from your perspective too." All in all, this series with Emmanuel Acho is making me a better person, and for that I am deeply grateful.
But how can I take BLM seriously when they always try to justify crimininals who were resisting arrest, fighting the police etc. Those people would get shot by the police in any of the countries in the world. But BLM automatically screams "racism!". That's the reason why I would never support it. Everything is racist no matter what. I'm not saying that racism isn't an issue, but this is just wrong.
Good grief, McConaughey studied up for this discussion... not that I'm saying he wouldn't have normally, but I do appreciate the level up quality it brought to the interaction with Acho. I'm very impressed and I learned a LOT.
I appreciate the interest in learning and education in this comment thread. Here are a couple dozen examples answering the question of black oppression to add: ua-cam.com/video/zUzbzru2swE/v-deo.html
Matthew came prepared: not just to listen, but to ask the questions...not just of himself, but of Emmanuel. That is what a conversation is - not all one side or the other, but both sides coming together to hear the other and gain understanding. And if Langston Hughes can touch someone willing to learn like Matthew, imagine how far we can go.
You're right. But, have to admit, I don't think the format of "I'm sorry I'm White. What can I do about it?" Isn't entirely healthy. I kind of wish the uncomfortable conversations went on for both sides. Because there are some real issues on the black side of things too that never seem to be addressed. Change doesn't come from one side trying to repent. The other side has to reciprocate as well. Which, growing up as a black woman, I don't think a large number of people in the black community are willing to do quite yet. Granted the issues are deep and more complicated than being solved with a meager apology. But the principle still stands. I think alot have to accept that they internally villainize white/European races which causes them to reject and only see the worse in those that *actually* try. As well as, have unrealistic standards about lack of prejudice that they themselves don't keep to regarding other races.
@@chemxfan Listen, all I know is that it's not okay to get tunnel vision with issues like these. I'm not invalidating the importance of the very real issues my race faces. Why on earth would i? Its crushing, unjust, and causes pain the longer this all goes on. But I also won't close my eyes and ignore what I see on the other side of the fence. Bringing up other valid issues isn't meant to invalidate the main argument. It's adds for a more well rounded look at the entire situation. If that makes me a bad person, they so be it. But it's the way I analyze situations. If things are going to improve *everyone* needs to take a good, long look at themselves. And it's why a partly like what this man is doing with this series. I just wish it was a little more from both sides instead of one. But, then again, maybe that's not the point of what he's trying to do here.
Brie B I completely agree with your desire to have both sides heard. Well spoken! However, under current circumstances, it seems that white people are the ones missing the point. Such as Black Lives Matter, police brutality, or even the existence of systemic racism. I am a 63 year old white woman with a lot to learn. I want to hear this conversation.
This was so incredibly helpful. I know of Emmanuel through football, and obviously Matthew through his movies. Matthew’s questions were very well and carefully asked, coming from a white man’s perspective. And Emmanuel’s responses were very easy to follow and understand. Beautiful.
Exactly, and maybe people don't notice that their "complement" is offensive because there's always been a bias when there should never have been in regards of gender, color/ ethnicity, nationality, sexuality, and other things that define a person besides their performance.
I was always told I was pretty for a black girl now black woman. I was always told that I have to be mixed with something because I’m so pretty and my hair is so pretty. Recently in 2020 a older white woman made a comment about my black husband that happens to be a civil engineer She said “ she figured he was a professional because he speaks so well” as if him speaking well is not expected outside of him being a professional. I could go on with so much more these back hand “compliments” are real.
There are dozens of broadcast online that project good ideals and information online. check out Dr. Glen Loury, then follow the bread crumbs to expanding your knowledge and share it with your friends and enemies.
“Oh let America be America again, the land that never has been yet, and yet must be. The land where every man is free” “that’s the realest thing I’ve ever heard because it’s acknowledging America.. we’ve never been what we’ve aspired to be.”
Always remember what it was built on... You can have the most beautiful home but if it was built on top of sand... it is destined to fall. America was built on MURDER, ROBBERY, RAPE, and SLAVERY and what built it will destroy it. Physics 101.
Theresa Dunstan:. You are so right. I'm a Marine. When I was asked by people in Japan, and Mexico how could I fight for country where me and my people had to fight for the right to vote, my answer was I was fighting for what America is going to be. And America will be a nation where everyone feels good to be American. I was born in the segregated South, fiirst six years of school was in that system,but I know where we are headed. Some more people will die , people of all color fighting for us to get there. It's unfortunate, but what country do you know of where didn't die for freedom ? SEMPER FIDELIS.
He’s get his woke ass schooled. This show is nothing but leftist propaganda. This is no honest conversation about race, this is obviously planned. I’m so sick of celebrities telling us what to think.
1. When he pulled out those note cards I knew he was serious 2. When he said he applied to Grambling I knew he was open to diversity 3. When he wrapped it up with a Langston Hughes poem I knew he was a true ally Thank you Emmanuel Acho and Matthew McConaughey Truly refreshing!
When he took out the card it showed how fake he is, lol. He's an ACTOR. He memorizes lines for a living, and he didn't take the time to remember what's on the card? He simply didn't care enough about it to spend any time on it, at all. I watched this hoping for a truly uncomfortable conversation. Something real, true, addressing real differences. If this is just confirming everything you already believe, how uncomfortable can it be?
@TsigiesWorld13 He had the cards to ensure he wouldn't accidentally say something in his heart--something racists. He applied to Grambling because he loves women of color but is in competition with men of color. He used LH poem to sway you to his side, which makes him not an ally but a masked racist. Dont be so gullible. What we can say is at least he has something in his heart thats saying I need help.
As a dark skin black woman, I enjoyed watching and listening to them-- HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained. ...the absence of what you would define as emotion or disagreement does not mean that discomfort was also absent from the 2 people talking.
Todd Walker so, you write a script and memorize it for a conversation with someone? He could’ve memorized his questions, sure. But wouldn’t that have taken away from the organic flow of the discussion once his questions were asked? Because if there’s a “script” in your head already taking up space, you’re working at saying your lines right, you’re not having a conversation. Then, you’re acting. There’s nothing at all wrong with having written down his questions so that he did not leave anything out he felt was important to address. Not memorizing them is a ridiculous nitpick. What’s the point?
I like that Matthew wrote his questions down. I feel that he really came prepared to learn something and take something from this experience. I like how he acknowledged "heard" what was said and that he felt what was being delivered. This was a good conversation. I wish it was longer and there were even deeper questions.
The only thing that i would like about this series is that we do not only listen to the black guy and say yes. Let me explain ( please keep in mind that this is my second language). What i saw was a good video, but it could be great. What i noticing os that people from different ethnical groups see the world differently, and what i saw above, was not a conversation. It was an interview. It think that to resolve all this, people should have a dialog. How do you see the world, how do you experience it, how do you react to.... Why do you think this.... And so on. And it should be conversations between not only blacks and whites, but blacks with asians, latinos. And latinos with asians and whites...... And then we could ad also people of different political views. And we could ad straight with gay and transgender. We all need to be exposed to one and other. The more we talk the less divisive the world will be. We will get to know our similarities and also our differences. But the more we talk the better things will be. We could understand why the other see and think a certain way. And also understand what people mean by some of things they say.
Except this wasn't a conversation. This was preaching to a non-racist white man convincing him he is a racist. If Emmanual Acho was actually interested in uncomfortable conversations then he would bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this become an "uncomfortable conversation."
I think black people should rule themselves. And white people rule themselves. It is pointless to prove anything to black people. Thousands of years passed where blacks lived among people of their own skin color undisturbed and yet barely achieved significant civilization in the past. Many were still living in hunter gatherer societies until recent history. While white people had so many greatest civilizations, achievements to count, and lived with many different cultures. Even the pharaoh was white, having European ancestry R1b. White have right to be proud of their ancestors and accomplishments in culture, science etc. We have come to era, where "underprivileged" groups ganging up on western ideals on the basis of color of their skin. People should work to better their own culture and stop asking others to adapt to theirs, or accept theirs. Adam Smith said that best result would come when everyone is doing best for themselves . Everyone should work better themselves instead of worrying what other think or telling other how to think and how to behave.
@@seekeroftruth7111 how do you propose we do that in a society with multi-ethnicity? And I think you are learning dated history books written when European Historians tried to whitewash ancient history. History has shown that the first major civilizations were black civilizations, including Egypt. Herodotus, the Greek historian, described the Egyptians of the time as having "black skins and kinky hair". The only white pharaoh was Cleopatra. So the truth is the other way around, whites were nomads when the Egyptians finished the great pyramid. Listen to this video from start to finish, then try and do it yourself IRL.
White South African know their privileges they pass them down generation to generation, they will have them in your face and go back to their drawing board with an action plan
This was a great second episode! Stop with the backhanded compliments: Im so glad that you said this. Ive been given those all my life. I am not an oreo. Im not pretty for a black girl! I am not talking white! This show is just what people need to hear. I wish you much success with this series.
when the oreo comment came up and he started quoting the statements that he was told that he didn't dress like a black man, or talk like a black man... sure that's bad, but it needs to be bad when it comes from blacks to blacks... or Joe Biden to blacks saying that there not black enough... OMG... this is way to serious for the truth not to be told on all sides.
I know this won't make it up for all the times you received shitty and ignorant comments but maybe you need to read this today : you are beautiful, intelligent, important and you matter. I hope you have a good day 🙂
I've been backhanded from both sides. My white co-worker tells me I'm more white than him because of the way I sound - a bit too proper without an accent. Then my old friends from the hood said I ain't Black enough and think I'm too good for them. It's a double standard issue and that's why I keep to myself - introvert. Life is better that way...
@@hustlehard.8522See this is the thing under the surface of racist America that infuriates me. The things you speak of ignite anger and frustration in me to a point of heartbreak that as a white woman I feel helpless to make a change and like I don't really have any influence on people who are racist and prejudice. It sickens me that people still think if a black person is speaking properly and is intelligent or successful or dressing a certain way they are "more white". Wtf. ??? Obviously that has nothing to do with it. There are plenty of white people who are lazy, can't speak proper English and are not educated. For real. A LOT. And don't care to be. I wear hoodies and baggy clothes. I listen to hip hop. I talk slang. I smoke. Am I black and don't know it? I mean come on with people. Maybe some of my late ancestors were. Maybe that's it. Lol Listen, I'm only one person and you are only one person but on behalf of other terrible, uniformed and ignorant people.... YOU ARE a beautiful human being. And you can be however you want to be. What other people think of you is irrelavant to your existence and amazing potential in the world. Some of us will never truly know the pain it causes. But we empathize and we feel pain in a different way. I'm so tired of the hurt people are in. I just want equality. I just want everyone to love. I'm thankful the conversation is finally happening but we have so much work to do. 🖤🧡💙💚💛💜💗
@@KP-yi4nu Yeah in a kitchen it's just a way to acknowledge that you heard loud and clear and you are letting them know without talking about. Sometimes a simple good ole 10-4 is healthy in communication.
I agree. There are black all over America (north, central and south) including the islands. Our ancestors came from Africa, well technically the human race started in the African continent.
Mr. Acho, I would love to see an uncomfortable conversation with a black conservative. Larry Elder, Thomas Sowell, Coleman Hughes, Walter Williams, Shelby Steele, Jason Riley, and Bob Woodson are just a few you might consider. You seem like a thoughtful and respectful man. I'm hoping your love for diversity extends to the realm of ideas as well.
To what end? For what purpose? What is the value in that conversation? Mind you I'm not saying it has no value. I'm wondering what you are hoping comes from it? At this point these conversations are very specific and purposeful. Would the conversation you are asking for serve that same purpose? Or does it belong on a different forum?
@@suzettebennett2564 I worry that Candace Owen's is much more active than conservative. A few of the other suggestions (I would also add Tim Scott and Colin Powell) would be much better to represent conservative views.
@Richard Lionheart this is awfully presumptive of you to assume what conversations hes interested in having. It also sounds like you aren't listening very much to what he's saying. Sad because it doesnt work if you dont listen.
Matthew been showing us his heart in his performances so I’m not surprised to see him extending it in a time of need. This video meant a lot. Love to everyone.
That's where I'm at... My mom is 100% on board with listening and understanding pain, but my dad - he's not willing to do better, he's not willing to work for the betterment of people who don't look like him, sound like him. So he doesn't even take the FIRST step down that road, of listening.
The way I am approaching things, and I'm not saying that my way is right, best, or anything else for that matter, is that I'm using the energy I have to converse with those who are open to conversation, but who don't have the same mindset and viewpoint as myself. I figure that there are those who, at least for the time being, have chosen to be closed minded, so I shall begin with those who at least have the potential to change. And perhaps in those conversations I can better learn what sort of thoughts those who have closed minds might be thinking. So as I get better and learning, listening, conversing and ideally changing the tide, I might also be better equipped to converse with those who weren't previously ready to have conversations.
@@86fifty First, kudos to you and your mom for your willingness to be open to understanding other perspectives. Second, be encouraged. Change NEVER happens over night. Think about puberty. A person may go to sleep one night with clear skin and wake up the next day with a big pimple on their face. On the surface, it seemed like something that happened instantaneously, but below the surface a lot of changes over time had to occur for that to happen. If you and your mom keep being open, willing to have conversations, and willing to practically live out the things you've learned, there is no way your dad will be unaffected -- because he loves you two. Even if he never responds the way you'd ultimately like him to, there are still changes occurring below the surface.
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge it" That right there is the biggest take away. Too many people are afraid of being blamed, when that isn't really the problem.
Well put. I can acknowledge that my ancestors and even me have been treated differently than black folks. Am I guilty or do I feel guilty for this? No. Moving forward will i try, and that's all i can do is try, to not do things that propagate racism? Absolutely.
The thing here is..and media isn't helping. Its not presented that way... Whites are being told this nonsense as if its some kind of non nonreligious version of original sin. Which is evil to even do.. The communication needs to be fought for on both sides.. Instead of MLK types being heard inciters are propped up.. or "Rightfully Angry" people used as a defense...which is NO excuse. This show being a perfect example of how it should and needs to be handled. To me the ones that are not are no different then actual racist white people themselves. And this stupid white guilt stuff is poison to the whole thing.. self righteous virtue signaling people who are actually causing harm to everyone. When can we all be "Americans" again before something else.. when can we start being "Humans" before anything else.. this is the only real path to unity. When you have people classifying themselves it only leads to more separation.
I think a lot of people have acknowledged that there is a difference and please let's start the conversation . So we can move forward. I am so tired of the hate on both sides of the fence .The late great Don Cornelius said it best every Saturday morning at the close of his TV show Peace Love and Togetherness and I would like to add for All
I would love to hear an episode regarding "the talk". We are a set of white parents raising their 8 year old grandson and I am just learning about the talk. I feel that there are a set of topics to cover (hands on wheel at all times, be respectful, get home to me no matter how cruel the police officer) but as a privileged (I feel like I should say affluent because I don't want people to make an assumption about our circumstances in relation to raising our grandchild) white adult .............this is hard to write....... as a white adult that was raised by an aggressively racist family, my first instinct is to shield him from hatred, I don't know how to have the talk, and it is humbling. I figured at first that if I could raise myself out of ignorance and hate, surely I can handle this. I was wrong, I didn't raise myself out of ignorance, I just turned from what I knew in my heart to be wrong. I didn't educate myself to end the problem, I just thought that more people would be like me as time moves on. I now know that is not enough.
Thank you for being open to making the effort and being a part of the change to make this world better . If I can help please let me know, I’ve been given a lot of resources to try to have a dialogue with those wanting to be aware of what our world needs to change
@John Owens - I appreciate you humbling yourself enough to ask this question and seek ways to educate yourself on this issue. I understand that your first instinct is to shield him from the ignorance and hatred, but the sad truth is you can't. "The talk" isn't just one talk. At least it shouldn't be. It should be an open dialogue that you guys keep with engaging with him over several years. Here's a brief interview that I found that touches on the topic. It doesn't go into great depth, but I thought it may be a good starting place for you, and may give you some ideas on how to direct your research. news.wttw.com/2020/06/08/having-talk-how-families-prepare-black-children-police-interactions I wish your family the best.
That is part of your learning and healing. Change is scary and hard. I tend to freeze when hit with change then embrace it after internal reflection. You will do great. Lead with love.
I feel this to my bones. I am an adoptive mother and have been searching for something for quite a while now on this topic - not just the talk about police, but also how to explain something like racism to my babies, this ugliness and hate in some humans. I so badly want to shelter them from it and keep them safe and untouched by it. My heart bleeds to know I have to prepare them for a lifetime of it. It's something that most white parents don't even consider or can't empathize with. Many times it's not intentional - they're just not aware of the state of things since they don't experience it. Now that I know, I think of all the generations of parents who had to send their children out into this world, praying to get them back unharmed every day, who had to prepare them to meet the worst in humanity at too young an age. I was walking around completely oblivious, as are most people who aren't affected by it. There is no safe place to go to keep them safe. There isn't a better state to move to or school system to get them into. It's everywhere. I want this world to change so badly it hurts. I'm digressing. I wanted to thank those of you who made suggestions. I'm going use them. Please give us more if you know of any. ❤
“Oh let America be America again-- The land that never has been, yet, and yet must be The land where every man is free.” Langston Hughes America, we’ve never been what we aspire to be!!!
I would like to see him sit down with someone on the conservative side that doesn’t necessarily agree with BLM and the ideals they push and hear different views. That would be very interesting. People such as Candace Owens.
This conversation was not "uncomfortable" for Emmanuel at all. He's just teaching "Matthew" how to be woke and convincing him that he's a racist when he actually isn't. Yes, bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this be uncomfortable for Emmanuel.
@@AudraT I couldn’t agree you more which is why I’d love to see him debate someone like Candace or Ben Shapiro but it probably makes him uncomfortable because they will fire back and won’t tolerate being told they are racist
The example of Covid-19 was incredible, I'm stealing that for my own arguments. I woke up this morning to see that the Mississippi state flag is officially coming down!
I agree! I was checking here to see if anyone else had made this comment before I added mine. It is *so* perfect! Cancer is still important to study and treat, but a much less urgent threat at the moment than COVID-19. Hopefully this is an analogy that will be relatable to the "ALM" believers at this time!
@@brandoncampbell9808 comparing annual mortality rates must take into consideration that COVID stats have been over a span of approximately 4-5 months, not 12. To further the analogy, the risk to Black live is also escalating, or we are at least becoming more aware due to increases in technology. "Save the whales" doesn't mean f*ck the other fish. It just means additional attention must be given at this time to protect them because they are at dangerously high risk! Same with BLM. It doesn't mean that the rest of us don't matter, it's just that the risk to our lives is not as high on a daily basis. Case in point, how likely are you to get roughed up, arrested or shot during a traffic stop? I've never given it a second thought, but I have learned that my Black friends always have this in the back of their minds, and the are straight-laced, well-educated, law-abiding citizens. This has to change!!!
Mr. Acho, I would LOVE to see an uncomfortable conversation episode with a white teacher! As a white middle school teacher, I am in the position of educating black children not only academically, but socially and emotionally as well. I want to understand. I want to do better.
Don't be biased. White teachers statistically punish black students more than white students, and they silence black girls often. This causes black girls to become withdrawn. If possible, find a female black teacher that's good at her job and is willing to mentor you on these matters. But I doubt you will find one as no job exists like that. Your best bet would be to be more conscious of how you treat your students in class regardless of the situation. Develop steps to ensure that you don't favor other students, and make conscious efforts to get to know your students and their culture without biases. This is easy for me to do as a black person, but others find it hard. Also, I was raised with an advantage to not judge which was drilled into me by teachers from K-12.
Unfortunately my kids school doesn't even celebrate black history month PERIOD!! THEY DON'T EVEN MENTION A NAME OR ACKNOWLEDGE IT!
Kupenda Love That reminds me of a memory four years ago, when the broadcasting class in my high school asked students “How will you celebrate Martin Luther King Jr Day?” I was even asked that question, and as an Asian American student, I didn’t know how to answer the question. The day it was aired, not one Black student was interviewed, and the white students gave such poor answers. I recall my psych teacher being so upset about this. I know there’s likely more to this situation that I’m not noticing.
I can really appreciate this question. I have spent the past few school years trying to get my son's teachers to have this conversation. My children go to schools that are 93% white. I have had to file so many complaints only to be treated like I'm just angry. My son is 14 and 6'3" (we are all very tall) and the assistant principal said he was scared of him. People will try to hurt what they're afraid of. Assumptions have to be set aside and culture has to be understood.
Dee - recent studies reaffirmed that all girls in classrooms around the world are more likely to be ignored and interrupted by boys without being corrected. Wasn’t trying to debate or anything, just adding. I just happened to have read about that last month.
Dear Editor: These are good and important conversations, but *PLEASE lose the cheesy "inspirational" music* . It's just distracting and takes away from paying attention to the dialogue.
please
this music made me feel like I am watching a 12 weeks body transformation video
Yes I agree. I enjoyed the dialogue but the piano is really cheesy and distracting. It didn’t contribute to any feelings that you may have been trying to convey to the audience (atleast to me). I’m sure I’m not alone.
And the forced subtitles as well. I can hear and understand them, I can turn sub's on if I want them.
Yes, the music is way too sad and tearful. This should be a positive thing. Just don't use anything
I love how Matthew made notes showing he was thoughtful about the meeting and wanting to genuinely learn
As far as any of us know, anyway.
Matthew is a big thinker and he taught himself to always write
he didn't listen to a word Acho said. Just posturing like he did.
The only reason McDude is on here is because Acho is a former Longhorn.
@@kamran2035 I have to differ. I made my living as an actor/director/writer, professionally, for well over 20 years. The first thing I saw in watching this was the telltale glances followed by an extemporization from what were obviously notes he'd written beforehand. Like it or not, want to believe it or not, actors are the most highly skilled liars on the planet. We literally train for years to become that. I don't mean that in a harsh negative sense. It's just the reality. I cant say that I felt M.M. was being particularly genuine now do I feel the host was offering anything of all that much substance. I'd have liked to see this same interview with some harsher realities discussed openly. M.M. is good at using a lot of words and measured tone to say very little.
Thank you for all that you are doing. I am a white female who is almost 60. I live in the south and was raised as such.
Thank you!! I need this.
There were SO many times when Matthew could have jumped in with "I don't do that" or "I don't feel that way" and it's hard to say how important it is to me that he just. Listened. Emmanuel, thank you so much for using your platform to educate like this; this series is excellent.
This is a good point, many people tend to wait for a point in which they can interject and they just don't listen. Whether it's because they don't want to listen or they forget to. It just really amazes me when I'm listening to two people argue the same point without realizing it because they're just not listening to the other person.
As he was talking about how Matthew can hire black people, I winced thinking that Matthew would butt in with "But I did hire...!", but he didn't. It was such a relief, and makes my love for him grow that much more.
Yea nothing we need more is a false education, to make people believe whites are racist,and blacks are not. This channel is a lie
Listening is important but it is hardly a conversation when one side demands and other side listens. One one hand blacks say to be blind to race, and that race doesn't matter but content of character matters and then switch and come back to race matters, and that color of their skin needs to be acknowledged by other races. You can't have it both ways. Just imagine if whites started demanding to talk to them certain way based on the color of their skin, so they could "accept" you. No one is royalty to request others to do things, every nation wants others to know about them, their history sensibilities etc. Everyone wants to be celebrity, to be things about them. So get off your high horse and understand that no one is perfect. Look at America, we only care about ourselves, many people be black or white etc can't tell most countries on the map, yet alone their culture, history.
Yes! He let Emmanuel make the points he wanted to make without ever saying "but that's not me" because he recognized that being defensive wouldn't have been helpful and would only have served to undercut the important points Emmanuel was making. Matthew recognized that Emmanuel was trying to have a good faith, respectful conversation with him without any personal attacks and felt no need to be defensive.
I must say, I believe the best way to move forward is to recognize the issues of the past and their current impacts change what we can, But look forward to what unifies us as fellow Human beings with the goal of creating practices that promote equality without too much focus on our separate labels but the labels we actually do share and the merits of our actions.
Thankyou Emmanuel, for creating such a space to open up these Conversations, promoting better understanding and finding solutions
These conversations are so awesome. I love the way Emmanuel is answering the questions. I've witnessed a lot of white people not wanting to ask questions about other races (especially Black race) because we (Blacks) get offended when they ask questions that we think they should already know about us. Still, most whites honestly don't know or understand the culture of others (especially blacks). Despite the hurt, we have to give them (whites) a safe environment to ask questions regarding our past and where we come from, and not be so fast to angrily lash out criticism when an issue is addressed to us about our culture. Keep up the excellent work, Emmanuel.
Well I don't know about that one. Most white people don't ask these questions to black people for two reasons 1: They are scared & 2: They don't care.
@@ksam5673 I see your point and where your coming from. In my experience as a white person it is more about fear. Fear of being labeled as a racist for asking questions that are perceived as hateful, even when coming from a place of honest ignorance.
James, most of my white friends have expressed the same feelings. That fear of being labeled racist for asking an honest question about another race. That's why it's important that I created a safe atmosphere for any of them to feel comfortable when asking me about my perspective as a black man.
Humans are tribal, no matter the race if you stya in your own tribe assumptions about others will come up. The only way to remedy this is with uncomfortable conversations .
@@strange4107 These conversations keep you in the mindset of black and white seperate. There is no progress going on having a celebrity ask how to be a better racial man.....
Love what you’re doing…. I feel it’s very important you started this dialogue in a very passionate and positive way. I think you’d be a good bloke to have a beer with…🍺
A house divided against itself, can not and will not stand!
We must judge people by the content of their character and not the color of their skin.
Martin Luther King.
Still true.
Golden Voice No, absolutely untrue. Absolutely untrue. You must be reading Russian propaganda.
And when the power of love overcomes the love of power, then we will know true peace! Jimi Hendrix
Do you notice how all of these ideals are sweeping generalizations with nothing concrete?
"A house divided against itself-which house? -can not and will not stand"-define "stand?" -Uhh, lot's of "houses" stand very healthy with divisions in beliefs and skepticism. People argue, they have differences, this is irrelevant.
It's easy to create these poetic statements and then interpret their meaning later but these can be interpreted any number of ways.
"and when the power of love overcomes the love of power, then we will know true peace"
-define love, define power, define peace. What is peace exactly? We seem to live in pretty peaceful times when compared to other times. How much more peaceful? Should there never be any conflict? Should life just be non stop pleasures? Well we've seen what happens to societies that run out of things to argue about. The divide actually unifies us and prevents the devolution into depravity. By having differences of opinions, by having struggles, racists, haters, it gives us something to call "enemy" so that we don't end up like the Romans or Egyptians. There is no utopia and there never will be, not in this flesh.
Define love? Everyone has a different idea of what love is. Some don't think love is real, it's just a chemical reaction in the body.
Define power? What is power? Force? Money? Influence? God? Is power even real?
Just because a musician said something, doesn't make it true or even valuable.
That poem and thought behind it is on another level..And yes..another fighter against Slavery and racism is born..Keep it up man..God Bless..
I stumbled upon your channel on Wayne's story, Man I found a gem of enlightenment 💎
You earned my sub Emmanuel 👊🏿
I was waiting in line to buy strawberries at a farm and started chatting with these two women. This was in Scotland County, NC probably five years ago, and one of the women, who was maybe 60, mentioned that she grew up as a sharecropper, and that blew my mind. She looked to be about my mom’s age, and I thought sharecropping was from the 20’s. It was a reminder that Jim Crow wasn’t as long ago as I’d thought.
Black is the most accurate and least offensive way to describe us?? Next time just speak for yourself on that one. That was weird
I wish you didn't have background music the whole time. I want to hear this convo raw.
Jarrod Flint I disagree. People definitely care considering it’s Mathew McConaughey speaking about racial injustice. Including the music in the intro makes sense but it gets elongated too much and becomes annoying
They say they didn't add it. It just follows Mathew around.
Merlyn Mac I see what you did there 😂
I like the music
Thanks for the upload, Emmanuel.
Second time watching. Great conversation. We also need to tackle the allergies in our own community. "You ain't black enough" because you "talk/act like a white girl!" It's not just a white allergy...its in the black community.
Thank you for the great tools to apply in tackling and handling these tough issues that try to divide. If we can learn to talk...converse...this is how healing can begin
You can’t assume that every black person feels oppressed or is a part of the blm movement
Of course not. That would be a trap.
Sorry, tin foil hat on, I do believe all of us are being manipulated somehow. Race does not determine ability. But we are being divided. As in divide and conquer.
We must unite, they can't get us if we work together! As the human race!
Brothers and sisters together!
This conversation is a step in the right direction. Music isn’t needed to feel the emotional weight of it imo. Thanks for sharing
Who else wishes they could pull off the Matthew McConaughey "Heard." to just end every topic lol.
He's cooler than the other side of the pillow.
Maybe I'm just used to it, but in a kitchen "heard" means "yes. I hear you, I understand you, I will follow through, Chef" not necessarily "ok we're done with this conversation"
@@seaborgium919 Also mental health care. In crisis services training, saying "I'm hearing..." "I heard..." "It sounds like...." is encouraged because it can allow people to feel acknowledged or open for further communication and expression.
I just learned this, but it's an acting technique when running though dialogue at readings when hearing input from others.
Good conversation!
Everyone needs to come together and let’s make a America great again.
“America ... we’ve never been what we have aspired to be.”
ua-cam.com/video/uyRF6ETd1YQ/v-deo.html Black freedom was a thing. just watch 5 minutes Just 5
@@bobknight33 why are you replying to every comment with this? the video isn't even good. i watched five minutes like you wanted, and it just reeks of manipulation of facts.
If Aliens are watching us here on earth, they probably want us gone sooner than later!
@@bonniejunk try this, about 14 minutes; a couple dozen examples answering the question of black oppression: ua-cam.com/video/zUzbzru2swE/v-deo.html
Goodbye “Alright, Alright”, Hello “Heard”! But seriously these are very good. I tear up every time. I enjoy the positive comments too.
Me too!!
This is so gross
@@Ryan-me9ge
There are many disagreements with and arguments against this clip and it is still here. Why would you make an untrue statement like that?
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge" that's all we ask!
Wooooooowwwww I’m so glad I discovered you. God bless you on your journey
I still remember a black girl telling me in highschool, "You know, you're okay for a white girl". She probably thought that was nice of her to say but I was offended and I couldn't even imagine saying "You're okay for a black girl" as it's obviously a put down to every other black girl. I am not mentioning this to try to draw any attention away from the prevalence of racism targeted towards black people, but as a blonde white girl I fear being assumed to be racist (or "basic" or stupid, whatever stereotypes you fancy) before I have even spoken. I love that these honest conversations are happening :)
@KelseyMarkham my guess is that she didn’t say that to you as a compliment at all. You took it to mean that she expected you to be not “okay”, thereby making the assumption of her normal belief is that white people are bad or at the very least not good. However, in my experience, and the experience many other, that statement comes from a place of expecting others (normally white people) to not accept us for our differences like skin color or ethnic background. The idea is that we’re more shocked that a white person is acting comfortable around us when that is not mostly the norm of feeling like we’re out of place for being non-white. I’ll say it’s odd that you say you didn’t want to make this about you, but most certainly did. I don’t think this story carries much weight toward any kind of beneficial progression, but instead sounds more like “well one time a black person did that to me, so I think it’s everyone’s problem instead,” but that could very well be a reach.
⬆️ this is one honest conversation right here
You're thinking too much. You're questioning the narrative just a little too much. You're slowly getting red pilled.
Kelsey, don't apologize for recognizing racism from black people. It has to be at least as prevalent as racism by white people. Many have argued more Black people are racist than white people are.
If racism follows socioeconomic and education patterns - which I think it does - then there is a strong argument that more blacks are racist than whites.
Eli Jimenez I definitely did not intend to make my experience anyone else’s problem. They spoke of backhanded compliments in the video and I felt compelled to share my experience of it, if only to express how white people can feel unwelcome by the black community as well. I just want to create a dialogue about some of these issues that I have not heard mentioned before, thank you for you’re perspective.
There were and still are natives here in pre America or just America. Lets acknowledge that also please 🙏
Outstanding!
My feeling when I look at all the factors ... as an older white male who spent part of my youth in the South is that the special things we try to do or talk about such as equal opportunity or reparations are too hard, very complex, costly, jealousy inducing, and just not ever really going to be embraced without rancor by everyone, especially my generation or those who have been raise by people of my generation. Why do we even have this problem anymore.
I feel like if we fixed the system for everyone and equalled things out for everyone, and do it in the name of the people who have been hurt in ways too horrible to even talk about, such as implementing:
- real progressive taxation that cuts down on the power of dynasties like the Trumps, Kochs, etc.
- UBI, universal basic income so that people were not forced or extorted to work in a place they do not like or could leave.
- Education for everyone
- Universal Health Care
and more policies that are people and equality oriented. I think most of our racial problems comes from lies people learn from their family and peers, and with these policies that would disappear quickly over time ... I think.
@Ramon Ramirez Democratic socialism is not the same as socialism, and many of the countries with the highest rated quality of life in the world are democratic socialist countries. Denmark, Finland, Netherlands, Iceland, Germany, Norway, Sweden, and Slovenia all have democratic socialist parties and all rate a higher quality of life than the USA. You are correct, socialism is an extreme that doesn't work. But democratic socialism is an effective middle-ground that works pretty well for many countries. Providing basic needs like health care and education is not only possible, but it demonstrably improves the quality of life for all citizens.
@Ramon Ramirez
Really? Is it sharp to repeat this same nonsense argument after it has been determined that Venezuela is not socialist.
Venezuela is a federal presidential republic. The chief executive is the President of Venezuela who is both head of state and head of government. Executive power is exercised by the President. Legislative power is vested in the National Assembly.
@@justgivemethetruth that account goes around UA-cam posting controversial takes. He’s a troll, so don’t give him time of day, everything you said was facts🙏🏿
I don't mean to be Matthew McConaughey's hype man but Free State of Jones is a movie worth checking out.
The true realization is that ALL people have these prejudices. It is not just “White People”.
This man needs Thomas Sowell
i was raised in a way that everyone has a equal chance. after watching this video i will try even harder to be better every single day
Well unfortunately everyone does not have an equal chance. Sometimes we have to unlearn
That is what the Message is. Dont let your guard down yet! Have a great weekend
Yeah you have an equal chance until you apply for college or for a job with the government. Then you will be picked based off filling specific quotas on minorities in the name of "diversity". Institutional racism exists, but as usual with media its the opposite of what is portrayed on tv
Even here there are obtuse people; WOW!!!!
Me To!
Acho bro! You can reach greater heights in politics and make history. Big respect bro 👊🏻👊🏻
Dear Mr Acho. Thank you for clearing up the linguistic issue of “African American” VS “Black.”
So, when writing, I should also Capitalize the First Letter when referring to a Black Lady or Gentleman, the Same way the “A” in “Asian” and “E” in “Englishman” is capitalized in formal writing, yes? 🙂
Looking forward to your next video, Good Gentleman! 🙂❤️🐱
Yessss. I am not african. my ancestors were but not me. I am just a black american.
RoninAquila From a gramma point of view, no. Black does not need to be capitalised because its an adjective, not a proper noun. So to use your examples, you would write “ a black lady” because the word black is being used to describe the colour of her skin. In the same way you wouldnt write “a Fat person” or “a Tall person” or “an Angry person” or “a Happy person”. Because the word is describing them, and not referring to their place of origin, it does not need to be capitalised.
However, you would write “Asian” with a capital A because it is referring to someone or something that comes from the continent of Asia. So because Asia is the name of a place its a proper noun, so you capitalise it. Its the same if you were saying “an English person” or “an American person” or “a Chinese person” or “African person” - because its referring to the name of the place where the person comes from, you capitalise it.
Its similar to how you don’t capitalise every noun. For example, you wouldn’t write “a Lady” or “a Postman” or “a Farmer” because they are just regular nouns, they are not proper nouns.
Hope this helps clear things up for you : )
@@liammorris9372 Are you a teacher.
debunker300 No idea. I would guess referring to anyone who is not white as coloured is racist because of segregation laws in America, where public things were split into “white” and “coloured” - a famous example being busses where they were split in half with non-white people having to get on at the back of the bus and sit there, and if a white person got on they had to move to let them sit down. Calling someone coloured might refer back to that oppression and the idea of white people being better than those with other skin tones. Also, white is often associated with purity, so anything less than white, ie coloured, would therefore be impure which has negative connotations.
As to why one phrase might be seen as racist and the other not though, I wouldn’t know.
NOTE : He doesn’t speak for us all. I personally prefer African American in homage to my lost ancestry. And Black isn’t accurate and is too often used to denote “bad” things vs. White being only “good”. African American IS more historically accurate whether we’re consciously aware of our specific lineage or not.
We need to find solutions for everyone in the world. We have to talking about our problems with racism and equality for everyone 🙄
Matthew Mconahay is never out of character hehe
I love this channel!
I’m a black woman and just received my Masters Degree in Nursing and one of the reasons why I was so proud of that fact is because I never had to submit my work under a specific profile. I was simply a number and my work was graded by my future peers but not my teacher. I never interacted with the panel that judged my work. They didn’t know my name, ethnicity or gender... my work was graded simply by the contents of its character. That Diploma is my proudest academic achievement because of that.
That is absolutely amazing. Love it!
Nice! So much more rewarding than affirmative action.
Which college is this?
I love this, congrats to you!
That is awesome and how it should be. Congradulations.
If I’m being honest the “you sound/act white” comments I got always came from other black people
I know black people who say this but never met a white person who has (not saying they exist as I'm sure they do)
@zzz it means something different in that situation and doesn’t effect me in anyway. When someone who looks like says this it’s a form of ostracism
That's honest. I hope I've never said that but hearing it made me frightened that I may have said something similar.
BRO THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS! Respect. A girl in my online college class said “I feel pressured to speak and act white here at college” ..... It makes no sense, speaking proper and being educated shouldn’t be associated with any race. This blame white people for everything is tiering.... most of us just want to go to work and go home like normal people, we not out here hating on random people because of their skin color. The ones that do are morons.
@@tommymc7535 nobody is blaming white ppl for everything 😀
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge." Best advice ever.
I love the fact that McConaughey came to the table with his notes in hand. That says a lot. He was thoughtful in his opening comment as well as in his questioning. It showed me that he was there to learn and listen. I've always liked McConaughey and this conversation just made me like him more! (Plus I just adored the bingo game he had via Zoom with the elders. What a blast to see!)
I noted that too, he's taking it seriously and so he should.
Or maybe, as an actor, he fully knows the value of having a prepared script. True feelings come out in convo's. A prepared script prevents that..... its PR. Stick to the script, instead of being unabashedly authentic. These types of convo's need to be naked
@@ampollard7041 Possibly. I prefer to think that although he had prepared questions, he was still sincere. Having notes or prepared opening, quotes, etc. doesn't necessarily mean it doesn't come from a genuine place. It could mean you don't want to miss anything you wanted to ask or bring to the table in the course of the conversation. After all, this video was only 12 minutes long. I know that these videos are conversation starters however, I would have liked this conversation as well as others go for at least 30 minutes.
@@ampollard7041 they werent notes they were questions. the whole point of an interview.
The listening and learning stance is BS by white people. This is the problem. This happens all the time. Matt should be answering his own questions. I want to hear what he thinks, not what Acho thinks. This is the problem. It’s like a parent giving a child their talking to. The child doesn’t learn if they are not given an opportunity to share their thoughts.
I NEED TO SEE THIS WITH A BLACK WOMAN HAVING AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION WITH A WHITE WOMAN. IT NEEDS TO HAPPEN. ITS NOT EASY FOR US AT ALL!!!
Christopher Stuart I absolutely agree! It wasn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all. I was pretty surface. I hope it improves over time. But the is now!
Girl we also need an uncomfortable conversation with black man and woman
@@cstuartdc I noticed that as well. It was a good video, but...this wasn't uncomfortable or even an actual conversation, right? It felt more like two people positioning themselves as humble student and wise teacher.
As a dark skin black woman, I strongly agree with your comment-- White women and black women need to sit down together. HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained.
There is a video called “Best Friends Get Honest About Race” from Iris that is a short conversation between a black woman and a white women that is similar.
Anyone else feel like this is actually a very comfortable conversation?
I think it's because Matthew is very open and comfortable with being vulnerable and self-reflective. Most people are not, so conversations like these won't be as comfortable for them.
This isn’t an uncomfortable conversation at all, it’s a normal one of thoughts and ideas. The fact that anyone would feel this would be uncomfortable just because it is with a black person is racist in my opinion. Also the entire conversation is stupid and baseless and I could spit facts all day to shut it all down but who cares. You can’t change people’s mind frames. You have to dig yourself out. If you think you’re oppressed then so be it. Meanwhile I’ll watch all the successful blacks left and right who grew up with less than who are currently proving all these ideologies wrong. I’ll watch all the full police cam videos proving media lies and watch all the white people who die more and so on.
Critical race theory nonsense. I think it would be a net good to have these fabled “uncomfortable conversations,” but a conversation involves both listening and speaking. Hearing and being heard. A dialectic can’t occur without an interlocutor. If one party is right by definition, as is the case with CRT, then it’s just mental masturbation with another party to nod along. And um... white allergies? 🤓Foh. With all due respect.
We are in a moment in Society a” soft bigotry of Condensation “ so often doled out to Black folk.
“ Black people are now above reproach and below expectation”. This is very dangerous place to be in. It’s the same as a parent just allowing their petulant child to do whatever they want to do you can get a pass on any behavior and you dare not criticize.
There’s a least 100 other ethnicities in America and 70 of them make more money annually than whites including Nigerians. Go to US census demographics. There is no systemic racism this is Marxist BS. There are plenty of other blacks in this country who are doing better than whites. Indians Taiwanese Filipino Chinese and keep going all the way to 71 to get to white we should say were oppressed but all these other groups.
People view Black people more as a threat not because society told them to it’s because of the violence come on man keep it real.
Anybody that went to a public school with blacks know they got their ass beat if they were white constantly especially if you got bused to a black School. For god sake just ask any school teacher that’s honest that teaches at a majority black school they’ll give you some horror stories.
Mr Acgo you are being dishonest maybe not intentionally maybe because of the indoctrination at a university maybe it’s subversion stop perpetuating it it’s going to cause a war.
If I owned my own company if I wanted to hire all blacks all Chinese are all white for whatever reason that would be my business but it’s not because of racism. It’s OK to have preferences based on past lived experiences.
With that said blacks have suffered tremendously I need some help but the Johnson’s administration civil rights act and all that money pumped in the programs trillions paid out have backfired and things have gotten worse all the While Third World immigrants who can’t even speak English have came here and made it home and are prospering.
BTWmany whites have descended who were slaves right here too but that’s been a raced out of the history books.
www.educationviews.org/white-slaves-america/
The Irish almost genocided out of existence 300,000 shipped here. Although there around 380,000 Africans brought to the colonies.
Can you imagine how offensive it is have to apologize for being responsible for slavery and probably being forced to pay for it when your ancestors came here as poor peasants who Were actually treated just as bad as blacks.
The same group of elites who enslaved Africans have enslaved Christians.
rense.com/general81/d3ss.htm
This link will get you to who owes black reparations.
Honestly I’m just wasting my time writing a post for people who are close minded and already made up their minds that this country is and always has been perfect and has always looked at every other race who isn’t white the same. I’ll keep it short, the people who think this way are doing so much more damage than those who are bluntly racist because at least racist people acknowledge that there is a difference in how we treat people instead of acting like that live on Cloud 9 and nobody sees color and everyone is treated equally. I just love how people bring up “whites are killed more than blacks”...NO SHIT that’s why they’re called MINORITIES, you’re comparing an ocean to a pond. Again, there is literally no point in talking delusional people. I guess I’m just venting
I have always love Mathew. This just made me love him more.
More or less.
Ew
@@outofmind9222 Is that what you garnered. OK.
Thank you for this Mr. Acho. My father played football and ran track for the University of Texas and graduated in 1963. Your statement about the UT athletics not being integrated until the late 60's is SPOT ON. My father often recounts the story of how at the NCAA Nationals for Track and Field, he was watching the lower division schools run the 2 mile relay (which was an event he competed in) and noticed that the lower division schools were beating the crap out of their times and he wondered why those schools didn't compete with the best teams, like UT. Then he realized it was because those teams were black and the University of Texas couldn't tolerate being beating by a team of black kids. He said that was the moment that he realized just how much racism was ingrained in society and the extent to which is it invisible to people like him.
Thank you for your story. And ignore Rustang's comment, guys like him are from the past. They are so filled with victimization and feeling aggrieved that they will never move forward. Let's call it "Tiny Hands Syndrome".
A good film on the same lines as your story is Glory Road about a small black school facing the NCAA basketball juggernaut Kentucky back in the pre-Civil Rights days. Also of course Denzel is excellent in Remember the Titans. Together we will all move forward and those like Rustang will be left behind and wither away.
Yo Bo but if you don’t address the point he made, your not putting forward a convincing case. I get that you might not feel like replying which is of course totally fine, but I don’t think the avoid them and they’ll go away attitude works. It never has and never will. If you want to deal with a problem you confront it, and avoiding discourse or dialogue with someone you disagree with achieve nothing. He wasn’t offensive or rude, he lashed out a simple argument and yet you avoid it. I dunno, I just wish more dialogue between differing sides took place.
@@trtvitor5837 I think the point is that ppl can either admit and address systematic racism or they can choose to use any number of distractions to avoid dealing with their own racism. If a person is closed off, you should move on and engage with those who are willing to learn.
@@user-wn5eb7br9m There it is buddy!!! Thanks for sharing the mentality of the psychotic tribalism left
No background music was edited in, it just follows McConaughey
There was music the entire video Dude!
@@karenlindsey5988 It's a joke Karen
😂
lmfao this music took me straight to the Lincoln commercial XD
Heard
judge a man not by the color of his skin, but by the character of the man
Yesssss
And respect the people wish if they want to segregate ,do not forced them to mix.
This confuses me because when a white person says this its considered racist and one of the most harsh things to say. I have seen people say it's wrong because your not acknowledging someone's blackness.
Does "God" do that? Christians say Heaven only if you follow Jesus - doesn't that mean good people if they are Hindus, Buddhists and Atheists will be set apart and dumped into gas chambers in hell? Whatever happened to character?
Talk is cheap
If I move from my country to a different country and then break the rules of that new country because it was legal in my own, do you think they will not punish me in their legal system according to their own laws? They are not going to let me go because my past country has different rules. So it is with God. He has a different standard than we do for ourselves and that others have for us. The Bible says that a man is made righteous by his faith in God in that without faith, it is impossible to please God. So believing a different religion will not work to make us good in the eyes of God at the end of our lives. God asks that we believe he is who he says he is and choose to live by his rules, and then we will experience the incredible joy, peace, and love that comes from being in a good relationship with God. Out of experiencing that love and grace that comes from God despite our feelings, we desire to do good, not just because we should, but because it’s actually what we want to do. That’s what Christianity is supposed to all be about. Unfortunately many people miss represented, but that is what can be found in the Bible.
Mr. Acho, I can't wait to hear what's next. I was taught as a young child around 4 that a black man the 1st one I ever saw was the boogy man. It took me many many years to not be afraid of black men. I was raised in the 40's & 50's and almost everyone I knew was prejudiced against the black. After leaving home and moving around the country Ihave lost some of that prejudice I am 80 now and I hope I lost more but sometimes I find some is still there and it is not right I know I do want to change. I have subscribed because I do not want to miss more of your awakening conversations. Thank you for being you and thank you for making me aware of back handed compliments. I may not say them to someone but I know I have thought them.
Never have I felt so connected with another person, till I read your compliment. I am 40 years old, and unfortunately experienced much of the same thing. however I was fortunate that during the most important stages of my life, it was black men and women that reached out and assisted me in helping me grow as a person and understanding.
I'm not sure either of you will ever see these comments, but I'm a black man, and I'd like to say it moves me emotionally to know that people can change their perceptions. Thanks for taking the effort not only to acknowledge it but to change in the first place. A lot of people don't.
Love the transparency
@@numinousnihil3804 Hopefully blacks will also learn to not vilify all whites. It works both ways.
Can we have an Asian convo here I think that there are a lot of misunderstanding between blacks and Asians
My thoughts exactly!!!!
Model minority stereotype MUST be exposed for the myth it is.
Indians are more racist than white people, I am a witness. Also a lot of Asian immigrants look down upon black ppl bc they see them as ppl who slack off and do drugs. Asian Americans are all about hard work and good choices. When they see the complete opposite in some black people, they look down upon them.
This means two different things in UK Vs USA
@@TheFaro2011 Elaborate please.
I totally second this! I'll be honest, I had so many assumptions about Asian people growing up until I got to college and met my best friend Lianna, we both grew up around predominately our own races, got roomed together freshman year and she has truly opened my mind to soooo many things, as I hope I'm also doing for her.
" Don't feel guilty just acknowledge it". Powerful statement!
The whole “your the whitest black girl I’ve ever met” “why do you listen to that white people music” “I’ve never met a black girl that listens to heavy metal” “oh you have gauges i didn’t know black people wear gauges” it drives me INSANE when it comes from people that try to make me feel like my blackness isn’t as prominent because of the way I act or who I am. Like yes the “I’ve never met a black girl who listens to heavy metal” I will accept because u are right not a lot of black women listen to heavy metal. when I tell you this but be careful with your diction after that statement.
For some reason people tend not to leave others alone with this stuff. How the hell does the type of music you listen to define your character or skin color? The people who say this to you are ignorant at best.
@@IceyGuy thank you! U are absolutely right, I get the heavy metal comment A LOT, I really don’t understand how music defines skin color. Like i know majority of people that say that don’t mean to be offensive but I’ve had some times where they knew what they were doing
@Speaking Truth I completely get what you are coming from! Music, clothes and food is tied to ethic background and cultural here in the US too! Also body attributes and body modification, i have gauges that a lot white American do Here, in the US and I get the comment “oh you act white u have gauges” which is completely stupud because the stretching of the ears is apart of african culture! curves and big lips are very common when it comes to being African descent but we wouldn’t come out and say that to a person because it’s kinda weird that jusr where I’m from! In the US, metal is influenced by rock and rock was created by a black man, so that is why I get so offended by that comment if they mean it in a heinous way because my people are the ones who helped metal become what it is today.
And the reason why being compared to a white person likr “you act like a white person” people only tel me that because I talk “proper” or “non AAVE” which mean it’s a backhanded compliment because they are saying Blsck people can’t be proper only white people can.(AAVE is a dialect of which black Americans created in the US because when slavery happened, we couldn’t learn how to read or write so we couldn’t pick up on the proper English terms so we talk to each other in a more slang way, I still talk like this with my friends, and of course the slang as evolved over time)
Another reason why I get offended by that comment because I love my blackness, being an African American I have ancestor and close family that are still alive todsy that have fought for freedom and equal rights before I was born, my grandfather was a civil rights activist, so when you tell me that I don’t “act black and I act white” it takes away from what we have been working for for decades, CENTURIES. I don’t want my blackness deemed as any less because of stereotypes and racism. (I hope me saying “you” didn’t confuse u I’m talking in general term not personal you specifically lmao) also we use that “bad with spices” here in the US too lmaooo
I completely agree with where you are coming from but in the US it is completely different because of our history and the way history and on going event that have shaped us. Majority the stereotype that are used against blsck people are harmful not physically but society and fundamental wise, it feeds into that “black and anything that isn’t white is deemed less in this society”. I hope this all made sense!
@Speaking Truth yes you are completely right we are obsessed with race and I fucking hate ittttt but we have to keep talking about it because it’s legit ingrained into everything! Our government hsving systemic racism, different childhood songs like the ice cream truck tone is originally a racist song, the term “gaiter bate” which is alligators bait originated by the slave masters that use to use BLACK BABIES as alligator bait! It’s legit into everything and we have to keep talking about race because we have keep fighting for equality every day. It’s draining
Yes! I’ve noticed that non African Americans do not like say “African British” or “African Scottish” in the US a lot of African Americans do not hold any connections towards our history or ancestors, we do not know where we come from and it hurts knowing that u do not know anything about ur history because it was stripped of ur ancestors so we try to stay Connected to that side of us because that’s where it all started. Lucky many of us have used DNA test, I did it and I know what my DNA holds, it isn’t much but it makes me feel a little more like me yanno
@Speaking Truth also I really appreciate you and anyone that isn’t black that come and talk to me or just anyone in the comments but especially you because u are Europeans and u can easily turn a blind eye to our problems in the US.
For those who don't know, "Heard" or "Thank you" is how actors are taught to take notes aka how actors acknowledge they understood and refuse to make excuses, but instead just do better.
Thanks. It sounded a bit patronizing, but now it makes a bit more sense.
Thank you for the explanation, I’m going to start using “heard”
Restaurant workers say it too, to acknowledge they heard the chef's orders.
Thanks because I was so confused on the first comment mentioning this term lol
Theater says "Thank You 5" before the show to actors.
I love it when Matthew says, "Heard" sweet, taken in... absorbed sweet!
He probably worked in a restaurant. My friends or family ask me to do something and I immediately say “heard”
I like when Acho says "Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge"... beautifully articulated
"Heard" - is that enough? Simple, direct, non-defensive...
Why should I feel guilty? I have never ever ever been unkind to anyone..please read my note. No one should feel guilty unless they are assholes who call people racist things in which case they are ignorant morons who dont have a life anyways and dont matter...if someone calls me a whore i am not offended because, im not a whore do they matter no, are they looking like a moron yes. Why do i care what an idiot thinks of me? I dont. I really dont. What we need to do is be kind to everyone be the change we want to see in this world..the government that is robbing us and making life survival so impossible wages low cost of living swrved to keep us deep in debt is by dividing us creating a racist banter skin color religious beliefs men and women dividing us media propaganda to get us to divide instead of unite then the government has the distraction to do us all even worse they get away with more and more keep your eyes on the prize...notice when media propaganda tries to divide us from our coming together....why....think about it. I love everyone and i have grieved over many a tragic event and ive seen things that would make the most brutal combat look like a picnic at the park..there are some very evil things still going on...we are all brothers and sisters of one Creation and that is a fact accept it lets do this together by beginning with being the change we expect to see in this world. 🌎✌🕊
Except you don't just want acknowledgment, do you? BLM demands money, open borders, no cops - they want to flip the society on its head. I acknowledge you're unstable.
@@spicerc1244 Did i ask you for money? Did i ask you for money? I asked for us all all of us to become to be to behave like walk talk treat others lije to speak like the change we all wanna see in this world. I have no guilt because i am kind to everyone i respect everyone i never assume oh you wearing a white shirt well i got raped by somebody wearing a white shirt that means all white shirt wearing people are rapists..thats just dumb. Thats not even stable thinking. Be kind. Pay attention to the distaction of racism over media and look for what is being done to us all all of us all Americans while we are being baited to divide.
@@tamarakennedy4976 That was for the OP
I love that the title includes the word “uncomfortable” because being uncomfortable is often what leads to fear, hate, prejudice, and to being willingly blind to others’ suffering. It’s okay to be uncomfortable. This means we are growing as a person. If we allowed ourselves to be uncomfortable more often, we would explore worlds otherwise unknown to us, and imagine how unlimited the horizons!
Uncomfortable I think is what everyone needs a little bit to get out of their comfort zone. Leaving that and growing from that experience is what will help both parties involved.
We need to see a show called uncomfortable conversations with uncle-toms and sellouts...the guest would be Candice Owens. First question would be "Why do you always shuck and jive in front of FOX NEWS when in reality they're calling you the "N" word behind your back"
Emmanuel acho 😂 Weird why make a big thing about being black. Like millennial black men think of themselves as something other than human. Other generations just have relationships with people of all races. We dont look at each other as black or white.. just people. Black millennials 24-36 years old are the reason why this country as really bad race issues now. Milennials period dont know how to socialize and black millennials have extra problem with socializing and being black
@@beastmode2610 "Why make a big thing about being black?"
Without even realizing it, you just exhibited the very behavior that this entire video is trying to work against. Being black may seem like an irrelevant factor in this conversation to you, but the same cannot be said for the many who are subjected to differential treatment for said blackness.
You claim that other generations can conversate and start relationships with people regardless of race, however, you are failing to consider the racial biases that they may still hold. Yes, they may be able to talk to a black man without throwing a racial slur but that doesn't mean that they don't unintentionally toss around a few microaggressions or stereotypes. Research done by the dFp, among other sociology organizations, suggests that millennials are actually the generation that is most opposed to institutionalized racism and discrimination. Meaning that your statement that they are the reason race relations are so bad in this country is indeed incorrect.
The reality of the matter is that, historically, America has never gone without race issues. Nearly the entirety of this country's institutions were founded in racist sentiments against minorities. It just happens to be that the minority group that was most heavily targeted was black people and because of that, they are still being affected to this day. That is why it is "a big thing about being black" and by continuing on as you do, "[not looking] at each other as black or white," you are contributing to the problem.
You HAVE to look at others' race because only then will you be able to acknowledge the issues that they face because of that and start to help fix them. It has nothing to do with poor social skills and everything to do with finding the root of the problem (in yourself, in society, in the general behavior of the majority) and reconstructing it in order to create change and make progress.
Rain HnR zZzZ
Holy crap. This hit me hard. I’ve always tried to be the open minded guy but now I realize how close minded I still am. Thank you for what you’re doing and thank you for spreading some light on racial issues still out there.
Thank you for being willing to learn
Your taking big steps man in the right direction 🇺🇸🤙🏽
Man that's so much more than most people are willing to give, good on you, we must continue to learn and spread and promote equality! :)
I am white btw so I have to assess myself in these ways constantly, we can always keep improving in this way, I know im still far from being without bias, but im working my hardest to change that
Yes, we constantly have to unlearn what we were taught and relearn
Matthew McConaughey: Reading Langston Hughes
Me: Well alright, alright, alright...!
😂🤣😂🤣
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Love his poetry, even read his bio as a young girl and been a fan since.
All white dudes who read Langston Hughes are allies. Case in point: www.bitchute.com/video/O8Onuw5X96fp/
😂😂😂. But 😐, everyone out there in reply land let's not repeat that teenager line ya'll know which one I'm talkin about. That line didn't age well and is uber cringy. 😐
Two Americans having an intelligent nuanced conversation about race? In America? I could get used to this.
It was a lecture. Only 1 person took blame and looked for ways to improve himself.
@@dlakerguy how could the other person improve themself and how are they at fault?
@@MacabreQt888 By accepting some blame for the situation too. Not everyone in 2020 is oppressed or held down by some system racism. There are other issues that are to blame as well. The biggest one is the extremely high rate of single motherhood. This alone sets you WAYYYY back in life and destroys your odds of success. That is a cultural problem that can be resolved.
@@dlakerguy yeah... You're either a troll or REALLY ignorant. Have a nice day.
@@dlakerguy True about the lecture.
I feel like their answers are still constrained and not well answered as I'd hoped to be. To me it's not that uncomfortable enough. Let's get deeper please! I want more!!! This is good!
Those were my comments as well.
I believe that step by step is the way. You don't want anyone to feel attacked or on the spot, especially because who will be sitting in the other chair is willing to be part of the conversation.
This is just a start of a conversation that could lead to deeper ones in the future with different people. It's a dialogue that must continue. Cant be done in just one day.
ua-cam.com/video/rdh8zPr_ZmI/v-deo.html if you want something a little deeper
True, but you have to consider the different levels/awareness of biases of the viewers. In many ways the video creators have to find a way to speak to people of varying levels of awareness/knowledge. You have to try to take people from where they are to the next level. Uncomfortable is good, but it should be in a (gentle?) way that they click on *next". That, I think, it where change starts to happen. Uncomfortable-ness happens in stages, in my experience.
damn, the comparison to covid vs other diseases was pretty smart.
especially since it's the same people denying covid is a real problem that needs to be addressed, are arguing against the realities of racism
Seriously. It's why you never hear people going around to Breast Cancer walks going "aLl CaNcErS mAtTeR," because they don't care about "All." They only care about silencing the ones speaking for the few.
But analogous to diseases, when will people think it has been addressed enough (just like we now think "regular cancer" has been addressed enough compared to COVID)? It is not the case that no people die anymore from regular cancer right?
I actually love the video and I catch the heart behind it. But let me respectfully disagree on why that isnt a helpful analogy. Media tend to downplay COVID-19 numbers. Media sensationalises certain "woke" narratives for their agendas, therein lies a very big difference, also racism is an ongoing problem, the spanish flu and covid are NOT ongoing problems, it distracts from the main issue.
i thought it was too! Very insightful!!
I love how Matthew McConaughey watched the previous episode and took notes, then wrote down questions to ask. It shows he put thought and effort into the conversation so the dialogue can be more deeply delved.
i was just about to comment on that! glad to see that the intention to learn was truly there
@Alisya Ceviche , you're not alone. A very dear black lady I got to know very well and love deeply (and by whom this white guy was deeply honored to be considered by her and her adult kids as a family member) seemed to feel the same way about McConaughey. I do wish she were still alive -- for so many reasons, but especially to ask her more about what prompted her admiration and affection for him -- and to show her this very interview, which she would have loved. And I'm sure she'd have agreed entirely with your comment, without hesitation!
White men say: your pretty for a black girl
Black men say: your pretty for a dark girl
These two phrases are actually connected......
White people say BOTH. Never heard a black man say that about black women
funny, Ive always said she fine regardless. Fake news.
We both know that black men make the "dark girl comment" FAR more than white men make the "black girl" comment. 😉
S C I have heard black men say that consistently throughout my life.
They are! Both statements stem from the same disease of prejudice.
As a Nigerian I’m sending blessings to all my black and white brothers in America. We love you all. Long live the USA 🇺🇸 🇳🇬❤️🤍🖤💪🏻💪🏿
From America ❤️🤍🖤💪🏻💪🏿✊🏻✊🏿
Yes much love from america!
and long live nigeria...
@Moyin Adegbie - THANK YOU! Much Love to my brothers/sisters in Nigeria!
Damn corona virus metaphor really gets me. So understandable
Me too bud! Especially when I have so many friends who obviously trying not be racist with all good intentions saying : all lives matter! Yeah of course all lives matter especially those lives who’ve been hurting since a long time ago! Definitely that o e gets me!
Really appreciate Emmanuel's analogy of All Lives Matter & Black Lives Matter to the Coronvirus Vaccine & other illnesses. I think that's a great way to explain it that makes it easy to understand and explain to others.
I agree, it was a great way to put it in context. I’ve been having a hard time explaining it, and why BLM is so important. People just don’t understand why it isn’t all life’s matter. No one is saying all lives don’t matter. But, BLM is the movement we need to focus on and respect. This was a wonderful way to explain BLM. My fear, is not matter how it is explained, some people will never understand because they won’t accept it.
This completely changed my perspective on the whole issue! I always thought in terms of 'all lives matter' because they do, but putting it in the context of what we're fighting so hard to do now with coronavirus BECAUSE it is so important RIGHT NOW, my view has gone in a completely different direction. I never was a person who held negative opinions about others based on any demographic information, but rather relied on the person and how they act, comport themself, acted toward others, etc. I always told people that "I am your friend until you change my mind.", and I will continue to hold that in my heart because that's the way I want to look at everyone. But it struck me after the video that I need to add to that "...and look at things from your perspective too."
All in all, this series with Emmanuel Acho is making me a better person, and for that I am deeply grateful.
@@KeyboardsJR I'm glad he helped you understand. I'm glad you are willing to learn and admit your change in thinking.
Yes you're right! We talk about what you mention in our video. You should check it out: ua-cam.com/video/ACTl3djRE4s/v-deo.html
But how can I take BLM seriously when they always try to justify crimininals who were resisting arrest, fighting the police etc. Those people would get shot by the police in any of the countries in the world. But BLM automatically screams "racism!". That's the reason why I would never support it. Everything is racist no matter what. I'm not saying that racism isn't an issue, but this is just wrong.
The ending with the Langston Hughes poem excerpt was the most hopeful thing I've seen in a while.
Antonina Roberts gtfo
I completely agree..
Growth mindset, the power I yet.
Good grief, McConaughey studied up for this discussion... not that I'm saying he wouldn't have normally, but I do appreciate the level up quality it brought to the interaction with Acho. I'm very impressed and I learned a LOT.
I appreciate the interest in learning and education in this comment thread. Here are a couple dozen examples answering the question of black oppression to add: ua-cam.com/video/zUzbzru2swE/v-deo.html
Matthew came prepared: not just to listen, but to ask the questions...not just of himself, but of Emmanuel. That is what a conversation is - not all one side or the other, but both sides coming together to hear the other and gain understanding. And if Langston Hughes can touch someone willing to learn like Matthew, imagine how far we can go.
but it is all one sided...
You're right. But, have to admit, I don't think the format of "I'm sorry I'm White. What can I do about it?" Isn't entirely healthy. I kind of wish the uncomfortable conversations went on for both sides. Because there are some real issues on the black side of things too that never seem to be addressed. Change doesn't come from one side trying to repent. The other side has to reciprocate as well. Which, growing up as a black woman, I don't think a large number of people in the black community are willing to do quite yet. Granted the issues are deep and more complicated than being solved with a meager apology. But the principle still stands. I think alot have to accept that they internally villainize white/European races which causes them to reject and only see the worse in those that *actually* try. As well as, have unrealistic standards about lack of prejudice that they themselves don't keep to regarding other races.
@@brieb402 Your "whataboutism" is showing.
@@chemxfan Listen, all I know is that it's not okay to get tunnel vision with issues like these. I'm not invalidating the importance of the very real issues my race faces. Why on earth would i? Its crushing, unjust, and causes pain the longer this all goes on. But I also won't close my eyes and ignore what I see on the other side of the fence. Bringing up other valid issues isn't meant to invalidate the main argument. It's adds for a more well rounded look at the entire situation. If that makes me a bad person, they so be it. But it's the way I analyze situations.
If things are going to improve *everyone* needs to take a good, long look at themselves. And it's why a partly like what this man is doing with this series. I just wish it was a little more from both sides instead of one. But, then again, maybe that's not the point of what he's trying to do here.
Brie B I completely agree with your desire to have both sides heard. Well spoken! However, under current circumstances, it seems that white people are the ones missing the point. Such as Black Lives Matter, police brutality, or even the existence of systemic racism. I am a 63 year old white woman with a lot to learn. I want to hear this conversation.
This was so incredibly helpful. I know of Emmanuel through football, and obviously Matthew through his movies. Matthew’s questions were very well and carefully asked, coming from a white man’s perspective. And Emmanuel’s responses were very easy to follow and understand. Beautiful.
Pathetic nonsense….poor, poor victims, blah, blah. Pay attention to your own situations and improve your own situations.
"You're so intelligent for a woman"
"You're so pretty for a lesbian"
"You're so educated for a black guy"
Not complements at all!
Exactly, and maybe people don't notice that their "complement" is offensive because there's always been a bias when there should never have been in regards of gender, color/ ethnicity, nationality, sexuality, and other things that define a person besides their performance.
I was always told I was pretty for a black girl now black woman. I was always told that I have to be mixed with something because I’m so pretty and my hair is so pretty. Recently in 2020 a older white woman made a comment about my black husband that happens to be a civil engineer She said “ she figured he was a professional because he speaks so well” as if him speaking well is not expected outside of him being a professional. I could go on with so much more these back hand “compliments” are real.
"you're so fly for a white guy"
Did Joe Biden say that? It sounds like him.
"You dance well for a White guy."
"She's smart for a blonde."
"He sings like a Black guy."
Not compliments at all!!
Finally, as a black woman i can listen to a conversation that encourages excellent thought and not fear and hatred.
Thank you...
Yes you're right! We talk about what you mention in our video. You should check it out: ua-cam.com/video/ACTl3djRE4s/v-deo.html
It's christmas don't listen to this fake crybaby s***. They are lying to you white people could give a f*** about your problems.
There are dozens of broadcast online that project good ideals and information online. check out Dr. Glen Loury, then follow the bread crumbs to expanding your knowledge and share it with your friends and enemies.
@@jameylane9196 to tell the truth, i have not known any black person who cares either....
I kept tearing up every time he said "heard"? Its about damn time my brothers and sisters were just....heard.
Giovanni Mancini you are part of the problem. And ignorant.
black men should be having uncomfortable conversations with white police officers not actors
Aww, honey,💞
@Giovanni Mancini dogwhistle much?
Amen, Taku. It's time for us to just fucking listen. That's not enough of course, but that's the best place to start.
This was actually...useful.....imagine that when people talk with nuance instead of fight with absurd generalities.
Hamna
Please finish your statement, I've been hanging on to this cliff for over a week!
Here are a couple dozen examples answering the question of black oppression: ua-cam.com/video/zUzbzru2swE/v-deo.html
Yes you're right! We talk about what you mention in our video. You should check it out: ua-cam.com/video/ACTl3djRE4s/v-deo.html
America is allergic to nuance ...this is apart of the vaccine
Ok seriously this interview went in directions I did not expect, I'm glad I gave it the time of day....Thank You Google Algorithm!
This is simply more of the totally discredited Anti-White narrative. See nowhiteguilt.org and Go Free.
@@europeanman6506 "Anti-White" get tf outta here
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I sat my wife down to have an uncomfortable conversation. I said, “honey you have to acknowledge.” That was the end of the conversation.
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Women don't do accountability, my friend😂
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🤭😆 pray about it
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Love Matthew! He seems to be just genuinely living his life trying to grow and improve. He's never set in his ways and is always open.
Even two years later, idiots look at this as a sincere conversation rather than just a virtue signalling spew.
“Oh let America be America again, the land that never has been yet, and yet must be. The land where every man is free” “that’s the realest thing I’ve ever heard because it’s acknowledging America.. we’ve never been what we’ve aspired to be.”
POWERFUL
Are we free as a people ? That is of any color?
Langston Hughes
Always remember what it was built on... You can have the most beautiful home but if it was built on top of sand... it is destined to fall. America was built on MURDER, ROBBERY, RAPE, and SLAVERY and what built it will destroy it. Physics 101.
Theresa Dunstan:. You are so right. I'm a Marine. When I was asked by people in Japan, and Mexico how could I fight for country where me and my people had to fight for the right to vote, my answer was I was fighting for what America is going to be. And America will be a nation where everyone feels good to be American. I was born in the segregated South, fiirst six years of school was in that system,but I know where we are headed. Some more people will die , people of all color fighting for us to get there. It's unfortunate, but what country do you know of where didn't die for freedom ? SEMPER FIDELIS.
I would love to hear a conversation between Emmanuel and Thomas Sowell.
Oh my Lord, YES!
Unfortunately, I doubt TS is in well enough health for that. National treasure, that man. Also, they would be talking right past one another.
He’s get his woke ass schooled. This show is nothing but leftist propaganda. This is no honest conversation about race, this is obviously planned. I’m so sick of celebrities telling us what to think.
Thats rascist
Me too
1. When he pulled out those note cards I knew he was serious
2. When he said he applied to Grambling I knew he was open to diversity
3. When he wrapped it up with a Langston Hughes poem I knew he was a true ally
Thank you Emmanuel Acho and Matthew McConaughey
Truly refreshing!
When he took out the card it showed how fake he is, lol. He's an ACTOR. He memorizes lines for a living, and he didn't take the time to remember what's on the card? He simply didn't care enough about it to spend any time on it, at all.
I watched this hoping for a truly uncomfortable conversation. Something real, true, addressing real differences. If this is just confirming everything you already believe, how uncomfortable can it be?
@TsigiesWorld13 He had the cards to ensure he wouldn't accidentally say something in his heart--something racists. He applied to Grambling because he loves women of color but is in competition with men of color. He used LH poem to sway you to his side, which makes him not an ally but a masked racist. Dont be so gullible. What we can say is at least he has something in his heart thats saying I need help.
As a dark skin black woman, I enjoyed watching and listening to them-- HOWEVER!!! FOR ALL THE PEOPLE IN THE COMMENTS SECTION SAYING THAT THIS WAS NOT AN UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION, JUST BECAUSE IT WAS NOT UNCOMFORTABLE FOR YOU TO WATCH DOES NOT MEAN THAT THERE WAS ZERO DISCOMFORT FELT BY THE PEOPLE SITTING DOWN TALKING....WHETHER OR NOT THEY FEEL/DISPLAY DISCOMFORT IS NOT OUR DETERMINATION.... THIS MAY HAVE VERY WELL BEEN UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THEM, THEY DON'T NEED TO MAKE THAT CLEAR FOR US BY CRYING OR ARGUING OR EVEN DISAGREEING. ....and if makes you feel any better, as a Psychologist, I did noticw that there was some discomfort displayed when MM felt the need to explain that he wasn't even raised around white people in order to develop a white bias so he asked what biases might he have that he might be unaware of...that wasn't comfortable, but again....We shouldn't need a lot of passion displayed in the conversations in order for it to be determined uncomfortable to the two people who are actually having the conversation. Enjoy watching and learning, don't look to be entertained. ...the absence of what you would define as emotion or disagreement does not mean that discomfort was also absent from the 2 people talking.
Todd Walker so, you write a script and memorize it for a conversation with someone? He could’ve memorized his questions, sure. But wouldn’t that have taken away from the organic flow of the discussion once his questions were asked? Because if there’s a “script” in your head already taking up space, you’re working at saying your lines right, you’re not having a conversation. Then, you’re acting. There’s nothing at all wrong with having written down his questions so that he did not leave anything out he felt was important to address. Not memorizing them is a ridiculous nitpick. What’s the point?
You are easily impressed.....What McConaughey did in this video was old shtick that started 60 yrs ago. I never heard the word "reparations."
I like that Matthew wrote his questions down. I feel that he really came prepared to learn something and take something from this experience. I like how he acknowledged "heard" what was said and that he felt what was being delivered. This was a good conversation. I wish it was longer and there were even deeper questions.
The only thing that i would like about this series is that we do not only listen to the black guy and say yes. Let me explain ( please keep in mind that this is my second language). What i saw was a good video, but it could be great. What i noticing os that people from different ethnical groups see the world differently, and what i saw above, was not a conversation. It was an interview. It think that to resolve all this, people should have a dialog. How do you see the world, how do you experience it, how do you react to.... Why do you think this.... And so on. And it should be conversations between not only blacks and whites, but blacks with asians, latinos. And latinos with asians and whites...... And then we could ad also people of different political views. And we could ad straight with gay and transgender. We all need to be exposed to one and other. The more we talk the less divisive the world will be. We will get to know our similarities and also our differences. But the more we talk the better things will be. We could understand why the other see and think a certain way. And also understand what people mean by some of things they say.
Except this wasn't a conversation. This was preaching to a non-racist white man convincing him he is a racist. If Emmanual Acho was actually interested in uncomfortable conversations then he would bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this become an "uncomfortable conversation."
@@AudraT yep. Fully agree
This is great! Comment Box: Music is distracting
SO DISTRACTING!
Yes. The producer is pushing for an emotional piece
@@Jknny And it's not necessary, it's distracting and comes across as fake.
Just slightly too loud
distracting af!
"...not just by being not racist, but by being anti-racist"
Solid 👌🏿
I think black people should rule themselves. And white people rule themselves. It is pointless to prove anything to black people. Thousands of years passed where blacks lived among people of their own skin color undisturbed and yet barely achieved significant civilization in the past. Many were still living in hunter gatherer societies until recent history. While white people had so many greatest civilizations, achievements to count, and lived with many different cultures. Even the pharaoh was white, having European ancestry R1b. White have right to be proud of their ancestors and accomplishments in culture, science etc. We have come to era, where "underprivileged" groups ganging up on western ideals on the basis of color of their skin. People should work to better their own culture and stop asking others to adapt to theirs, or accept theirs. Adam Smith said that best result would come when everyone is doing best for themselves . Everyone should work better themselves instead of worrying what other think or telling other how to think and how to behave.
Tell that to black community 's
Anti-racism is more dangerous than racism.
@@marklvrd Then I'm sure you feel better, knowing that there's so much more racism than there is anti-racism.
@@seekeroftruth7111 how do you propose we do that in a society with multi-ethnicity? And I think you are learning dated history books written when European Historians tried to whitewash ancient history.
History has shown that the first major civilizations were black civilizations, including Egypt. Herodotus, the Greek historian, described the Egyptians of the time as having "black skins and kinky hair". The only white pharaoh was Cleopatra. So the truth is the other way around, whites were nomads when the Egyptians finished the great pyramid.
Listen to this video from start to finish, then try and do it yourself IRL.
Ive always loved Matthew as an actor, now I love him as a person.
Me too. I actually like him.
I wish we could have more of this everywhere.❣️👑❤️ God knows we need it.especially here in 🇿🇦🇿🇦 South Africa🌍
White South African know their privileges they pass them down generation to generation, they will have them in your face and go back to their drawing board with an action plan
This was a great second episode! Stop with the backhanded compliments: Im so glad that you said this. Ive been given those all my life. I am not an oreo. Im not pretty for a black girl! I am not talking white! This show is just what people need to hear. I wish you much success with this series.
I’ve been a recipient of the backhanded compliments as well
when the oreo comment came up and he started quoting the statements that he was told that he didn't dress like a black man, or talk like a black man... sure that's bad, but it needs to be bad when it comes from blacks to blacks... or Joe Biden to blacks saying that there not black enough... OMG... this is way to serious for the truth not to be told on all sides.
I know this won't make it up for all the times you received shitty and ignorant comments but maybe you need to read this today : you are beautiful, intelligent, important and you matter. I hope you have a good day 🙂
I've been backhanded from both sides. My white co-worker tells me I'm more white than him because of the way I sound - a bit too proper without an accent. Then my old friends from the hood said I ain't Black enough and think I'm too good for them. It's a double standard issue and that's why I keep to myself - introvert. Life is better that way...
@@hustlehard.8522See this is the thing under the surface of racist America that infuriates me. The things you speak of ignite anger and frustration in me to a point of heartbreak that as a white woman I feel helpless to make a change and like I don't really have any influence on people who are racist and prejudice. It sickens me that people still think if a black person is speaking properly and is intelligent or successful or dressing a certain way they are "more white". Wtf. ??? Obviously that has nothing to do with it. There are plenty of white people who are lazy, can't speak proper English and are not educated. For real. A LOT. And don't care to be. I wear hoodies and baggy clothes. I listen to hip hop. I talk slang. I smoke. Am I black and don't know it? I mean come on with people. Maybe some of my late ancestors were. Maybe that's it. Lol Listen, I'm only one person and you are only one person but on behalf of other terrible, uniformed and ignorant people.... YOU ARE a beautiful human being. And you can be however you want to be. What other people think of you is irrelavant to your existence and amazing potential in the world. Some of us will never truly know the pain it causes. But we empathize and we feel pain in a different way. I'm so tired of the hurt people are in. I just want equality. I just want everyone to love. I'm thankful the conversation is finally happening but we have so much work to do. 🖤🧡💙💚💛💜💗
"Heard." Matthew has spent some time working in kitchens, it seems.
I felt that too
Oh, thats good to know. I thought it was his way of saying "word" and it felt extremely corny .... and , uncomfortable. I prefer you to be right. 🤣
He mentioned working at a catfish station in the video.
same thing i thought! heard chef!
@@KP-yi4nu Yeah in a kitchen it's just a way to acknowledge that you heard loud and clear and you are letting them know without talking about.
Sometimes a simple good ole 10-4 is healthy in communication.
There’s a alot of black fragility in this and a lot of misleading information in the context of not taking accountability of there own problems.
I like how he wrote down his questions to remember them.
Me too.
Better to remember & less chance of misspeaking. Good plan.
Let's you know he took it serious. I love him.
Last thing MM wants is to experience cancel culture, being smart
Ever go shopping without a shopping list? If so you probably forgot something?
Aye! Thank you for shouting us black Cubans out because some people don't even know we exist. Great conversation
I agree. There are black all over America (north, central and south) including the islands. Our ancestors came from Africa, well technically the human race started in the African continent.
Mr. Acho, I would love to see an uncomfortable conversation with a black conservative. Larry Elder, Thomas Sowell, Coleman Hughes, Walter Williams, Shelby Steele, Jason Riley, and Bob Woodson are just a few you might consider. You seem like a thoughtful and respectful man. I'm hoping your love for diversity extends to the realm of ideas as well.
Candace Owens also.
To what end? For what purpose? What is the value in that conversation?
Mind you I'm not saying it has no value. I'm wondering what you are hoping comes from it?
At this point these conversations are very specific and purposeful. Would the conversation you are asking for serve that same purpose? Or does it belong on a different forum?
@@suzettebennett2564 I worry that Candace Owen's is much more active than conservative.
A few of the other suggestions (I would also add Tim Scott and Colin Powell) would be much better to represent conservative views.
@Richard Lionheart this is awfully presumptive of you to assume what conversations hes interested in having.
It also sounds like you aren't listening very much to what he's saying. Sad because it doesnt work if you dont listen.
Seems Ben Carson would be a very good choice as well.
Matthew been showing us his heart in his performances so I’m not surprised to see him extending it in a time of need. This video meant a lot. Love to everyone.
Seemed like a normal conversation, the real issue is trying to talk to someone who is unwilling to have that convo, unwilling to listen.
True, and listening is a skill that many of us do not have.
That's where I'm at... My mom is 100% on board with listening and understanding pain, but my dad - he's not willing to do better, he's not willing to work for the betterment of people who don't look like him, sound like him. So he doesn't even take the FIRST step down that road, of listening.
Right? We need Larry "systemic racism doesn't exist" Kudlow on the show.
The way I am approaching things, and I'm not saying that my way is right, best, or anything else for that matter, is that I'm using the energy I have to converse with those who are open to conversation, but who don't have the same mindset and viewpoint as myself. I figure that there are those who, at least for the time being, have chosen to be closed minded, so I shall begin with those who at least have the potential to change. And perhaps in those conversations I can better learn what sort of thoughts those who have closed minds might be thinking. So as I get better and learning, listening, conversing and ideally changing the tide, I might also be better equipped to converse with those who weren't previously ready to have conversations.
@@86fifty First, kudos to you and your mom for your willingness to be open to understanding other perspectives. Second, be encouraged. Change NEVER happens over night. Think about puberty. A person may go to sleep one night with clear skin and wake up the next day with a big pimple on their face. On the surface, it seemed like something that happened instantaneously, but below the surface a lot of changes over time had to occur for that to happen. If you and your mom keep being open, willing to have conversations, and willing to practically live out the things you've learned, there is no way your dad will be unaffected -- because he loves you two. Even if he never responds the way you'd ultimately like him to, there are still changes occurring below the surface.
"Heard."
Jonny Potts read
Love that moment
"Don't feel guilty, just acknowledge it"
That right there is the biggest take away. Too many people are afraid of being blamed, when that isn't really the problem.
exactly. white guilt is useless. we don't need nor want it.
Well put. I can acknowledge that my ancestors and even me have been treated differently than black folks. Am I guilty or do I feel guilty for this? No. Moving forward will i try, and that's all i can do is try, to not do things that propagate racism? Absolutely.
The thing here is..and media isn't helping. Its not presented that way... Whites are being told this nonsense as if its some kind of non nonreligious version of original sin. Which is evil to even do.. The communication needs to be fought for on both sides.. Instead of MLK types being heard inciters are propped up.. or "Rightfully Angry" people used as a defense...which is NO excuse. This show being a perfect example of how it should and needs to be handled. To me the ones that are not are no different then actual racist white people themselves.
And this stupid white guilt stuff is poison to the whole thing.. self righteous virtue signaling people who are actually causing harm to everyone.
When can we all be "Americans" again before something else.. when can we start being "Humans" before anything else.. this is the only real path to unity.
When you have people classifying themselves it only leads to more separation.
@@memyself898 actually that's not all you can do. You can also be anti- racist.
I think a lot of people have acknowledged that there is a difference and please let's start the conversation . So we can move forward. I am so tired of the hate on both sides of the fence .The late great Don Cornelius said it best every Saturday morning at the close of his TV show Peace Love and Togetherness and I would like to add for All
"The land that never has been yet", damn straight. Proud of you guys, especially you Acho! Keep talking and keep educating. Hook 'em Horns!
This man Did A Time to Kill. Never had a doubt he was a ally of humanity.
Agreed. It was like he wasn't acting.
The movie makes me cry every single time I watch it.
One of my all time favourite movies.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
He married to a Spanish woman and speaks better Spanish than me lol
Okay! That's the movie, I couldn't name that he was in as the lawyer and Sam Jackson was the defendant.
I would love to hear an episode regarding "the talk". We are a set of white parents raising their 8 year old grandson and I am just learning about the talk. I feel that there are a set of topics to cover (hands on wheel at all times, be respectful, get home to me no matter how cruel the police officer) but as a privileged (I feel like I should say affluent because I don't want people to make an assumption about our circumstances in relation to raising our grandchild) white adult .............this is hard to write....... as a white adult that was raised by an aggressively racist family, my first instinct is to shield him from hatred, I don't know how to have the talk, and it is humbling. I figured at first that if I could raise myself out of ignorance and hate, surely I can handle this. I was wrong, I didn't raise myself out of ignorance, I just turned from what I knew in my heart to be wrong. I didn't educate myself to end the problem, I just thought that more people would be like me as time moves on. I now know that is not enough.
Thank you for being open to making the effort and being a part of the change to make this world better . If I can help please let me know, I’ve been given a lot of resources to try to have a dialogue with those wanting to be aware of what our world needs to change
@John Owens - I appreciate you humbling yourself enough to ask this question and seek ways to educate yourself on this issue. I understand that your first instinct is to shield him from the ignorance and hatred, but the sad truth is you can't. "The talk" isn't just one talk. At least it shouldn't be. It should be an open dialogue that you guys keep with engaging with him over several years. Here's a brief interview that I found that touches on the topic. It doesn't go into great depth, but I thought it may be a good starting place for you, and may give you some ideas on how to direct your research. news.wttw.com/2020/06/08/having-talk-how-families-prepare-black-children-police-interactions I wish your family the best.
That is part of your learning and healing. Change is scary and hard. I tend to freeze when hit with change then embrace it after internal reflection. You will do great. Lead with love.
Amen
I feel this to my bones. I am an adoptive mother and have been searching for something for quite a while now on this topic - not just the talk about police, but also how to explain something like racism to my babies, this ugliness and hate in some humans. I so badly want to shelter them from it and keep them safe and untouched by it. My heart bleeds to know I have to prepare them for a lifetime of it. It's something that most white parents don't even consider or can't empathize with. Many times it's not intentional - they're just not aware of the state of things since they don't experience it. Now that I know, I think of all the generations of parents who had to send their children out into this world, praying to get them back unharmed every day, who had to prepare them to meet the worst in humanity at too young an age. I was walking around completely oblivious, as are most people who aren't affected by it. There is no safe place to go to keep them safe. There isn't a better state to move to or school system to get them into. It's everywhere. I want this world to change so badly it hurts.
I'm digressing. I wanted to thank those of you who made suggestions. I'm going use them. Please give us more if you know of any. ❤
“Oh let America be America again--
The land that never has been, yet, and yet must be
The land where every man is free.” Langston Hughes
America, we’ve never been what we aspire to be!!!
And we never will be. But we still aspire and that is good.
Yes, let's work towards it. That's the only way we can be patriots - to always work to move towards that ideal.
I particularity liked the poem. I think it also point to inevitability of freedom. Let just hope we get there fast
Insanely powerful. I was really pleasantly surprised.
This comment constitutes sedition. It's not legal.
I would like to see him sit down with someone on the conservative side that doesn’t necessarily agree with BLM and the ideals they push and hear different views. That would be very interesting. People such as Candace Owens.
They would never show up to have an uncomfortable conversation outside of the politically hospitable confines of FOX, OAN etc.
This NEEDS to happen.
Matthew is conservative
This conversation was not "uncomfortable" for Emmanuel at all. He's just teaching "Matthew" how to be woke and convincing him that he's a racist when he actually isn't. Yes, bring on the heavy hitters like Candace Owens, Larry Elder or Brandon Tatum. Only then will this be uncomfortable for Emmanuel.
@@AudraT I couldn’t agree you more which is why I’d love to see him debate someone like Candace or Ben Shapiro but it probably makes him uncomfortable because they will fire back and won’t tolerate being told they are racist
The example of Covid-19 was incredible, I'm stealing that for my own arguments. I woke up this morning to see that the Mississippi state flag is officially coming down!
I agree! I was checking here to see if anyone else had made this comment before I added mine. It is *so* perfect! Cancer is still important to study and treat, but a much less urgent threat at the moment than COVID-19. Hopefully this is an analogy that will be relatable to the "ALM" believers at this time!
Not really especially since everything else he named is at a higher death rate than covid. And bringing the state flag down isn't changing anything.
@@brandoncampbell9808 comparing annual mortality rates must take into consideration that COVID stats have been over a span of approximately 4-5 months, not 12. To further the analogy, the risk to Black live is also escalating, or we are at least becoming more aware due to increases in technology.
"Save the whales" doesn't mean f*ck the other fish. It just means additional attention must be given at this time to protect them because they are at dangerously high risk! Same with BLM. It doesn't mean that the rest of us don't matter, it's just that the risk to our lives is not as high on a daily basis. Case in point, how likely are you to get roughed up, arrested or shot during a traffic stop? I've never given it a second thought, but I have learned that my Black friends always have this in the back of their minds, and the are straight-laced, well-educated, law-abiding citizens. This has to change!!!
@@maryroberts589 Spot on!!