Like people take the time to cheat. They kiss, take off the clothes and have sex for however long people have sex for and then put they clothes back on😂
That's not even an opinion, it's a fact. I can't relate though because I never been cheated on, but I know people who got cheated on and it's stupid, if you're not satisfied, than either make it work or break up!
Unpopular opinion: everyone overlooks nerdy black girls // edit : thanks for the likes yall, this is just from my experience as someone who was more nerdy, into anime, video games, and i kept to myself in a predominately afro-Caribbean school.
Another unpopular opinion is that ghetto should not be associated with being black ... stop being upset when a non black person acts ghetto it’s insulting to say that person wants to be black. I’m black and i refuse to say bhad baby is someone who wants to be like me, she a caricature of the black stereotype not what we really are
Unpopular Opinion: It’s okay to establish your career & fall in love with yourself FIRST & then get married & have a family. There is no time limit on when you should start popping out babies. I’d rather be 35 bringing a child into a healthy, stable environment then to be 22 and a baby mama 🤷🏾♀️
Keep this mindset! I did and im about to start my masters in the fall and now have a bf who respects that i want to wait as well. Dont fall for it and stay true to you! Be blessed.
Unpopular opinion: There should be more movies where the Black girls are smart, nice, and shy girls that like Pop music rather than being loud and rude
Retro Blast Also less movie promoting that “strong black woman” narrative, it takes away our femininity, and forces us to be the men/males of the black community
@Social C. honestly that's EXACTLY WHAT A GOOD HUSBAND DOES. Lmfao if a man really loves u he would except and love your child like his own that doesn't need higher praise millions of men are doing that.
@૨σყαℓ ƭεε they are but if he truly is a good man he would just do it and does not need the special praise for a situation he knew he was getting himself into.
@Social C. it's not entitlement sis. He knew exactly what he was getting into when he chose her. If I have kids and a man wants to be in a serious relationship he gonna have to except my kids. Why marry a woman with pervious kids if you are not gonna want to deal with them at all.
@Social C. it is different to need and deserve it, but I would be thankful for him taking care of my kid(s) but hes not getting any praise or special treatment because he willingly came into my life knowing I have a child.
What's up with virgin shaming though sometimes when I tell people some say "oh you poor thing. Like I got plenty of suitors who want me I just choose not too???
quana Mckinney I’m a virgin too. I’ve had to cut off majority of girls who I thought were my “friends” because they always tried to have an input. It made me so insecure for the longest and now I feel like I’m just now starting to be more confident to say I’m a virgin and the time will come when it’s right for me.
Nothing wrong with that, and truth be told many women do wish they were smarter with sex and waited for the right one. I sometimes do. I honestly admire women who waited for the right one and is happy in a marriage. That's the best way to go about it. Don't let any man also make you think you're so rare as if it's a bad thing. The right man will love you for you.
D A I M A U R I the girls considered the prettiest typically have big heads though. I don’t think having a big head hinders anyone if that makes since. Like everybody has a feature they get teased about.
Tiana X like the “ahaa I got melanin” thing on tiktok, all the white girls got their own version now “ahaa I got a pREtTy FaCE” and all that like okay????
Unpopular Opinion: it wouldn’t surprise me if the reason so many black people still support R. Kelly is the same reason sexual abuse is often swept under the rug in black households...
I HATE love and basketball. Doesn’t make any sense. He chose every other girl up until the point that no other girl wanted him. Then he settled for her. HELL no. If ur seeing this please check out one of my videos i just started 3 days ago ;)
unpopular opinion : everybody not toxic unpopular opinion: being toxic is not cute. unpopular opinion: just because you listen to Jhené Aiko you not toxic
i don’t have a lot of black friends because i go to a mostly white school and a lot of the black kids are popular, loud and outgoing, and im that one quiet introverted black girl no one likes lol but i have very few black friends, i wish i had more black friends i had things in common with tho
We’re in the same, exact boat. I don’t really have any friends honestly, but I tend to get a long more with white people. I find myself not being able to...really relate to the black kids in my school. I have no street smarts at all and that’s all they really talk about. I’m an introvert with either group honestly
I found my people exactly the same. I felt like i wasnt black enough to be in their group my parents say that i act white which really took me a while to understand that no matter what im black. I have no black friends nd i want some but i never really managed to keep a good friendship. I hope i find some in uni tho🙂
Let's talk about how people love to say birth control doesn't work or that they was on birth control but it turns out they weren't following the directions of the birth control in the first place. 🤦♀️ I feel like those people spread false information because they weren't doing it correctly and make other impressionable females think that "they shouldn't get on birth control because it doesn't work for most woman"
@Essence Buckingham yes these ladies should be responsible with their birth control. Read the labels. Know the side effects-not the one found on the internet. Know your birth control. And if you dont like the side effects of one go to another one! I promise yall doctor got a list of birth controls you can try
They say the birth control failed but that only happens to less than 1% of women who use it RIGHT. I know way too many people who blame the pill but in reality they weren't taking it every day
lmfaoo lol black women aren’t the only women who wear wigs so let’s dead that. Furthermore I don’t see how it affects you all at all but hey i guess you that’s why it’s an unpopular opinion.
So you don’t want them to drink either then bc that’s poison and bad for your body. I don’t see why it matters if they can do their job it’s not really your business what they do in their free time lmao
J lmao I don’t think they’re gunna show up drunk just bc they drink when they aren’t at work. Adults can have fun when they aren’t at work ain’t nothing wrong with a little drink/smoke, just not around patients lol
Paused it as soon as she said she graduates in two weeks....CONGRATULATIONS MY SISTA!!!!!! That’s it! Beauty, intelligence and a good wig? Just grace your seat on the thrown Queen 👑 ❤️❤️❤️
Unpopular opinion: most of these women out here having babies should not have babies. Y’all can’t even afford to pay for yourselves yet you bring a baby in this world irresponsible. On top of that have a baby with anybody that says “I love you.”
Sweetie your a thousand percent right but they don't see it that way in hey it's there life let them fall some people gotta learn the hard way unfortunately.....
Who are you to tell somebody what they shouldn’t be doing,if they want to have a baby then that’s there problem and if you are not going to help take care of that baby it’s not your place to say anything.I don’t really get how you think it’s ok to tell another woman what the should and shouldn’t do with THERE body
@@love4lea she's not telling anybody what to do with their body. She's saying that alot of women have babys irresponsibly. Pay attention. & u shouldn't be so mad when it's just her "opinion". 😒
Well some of us girls take time to grow in life we needed someone's love not knowing it's a moment. For some it takes time to know what's good for us. It's good you didn't choose to be knocked up too soon. Either way poor or well off if the parents looking out for their child it's a blessing.
BAKUGOU’S BIATCH a lot of baby mamas say that lmao. First thing i learned from single mothers actually which is what made me get on bc. My own mother told me “i didnt choose to get pregnant” in her exact words and then I thought to myself then why did you? Some women really believe they cant choose who they have kids by. They just let whatever happen and pray for the best.
what about the people who get raped who have no money to afford birth control or the young girls that are raped and aren't in the right state of mind to tell their family their are so many situations where pregnancy is not a choice but if you and your partner have unprotected sex with consent that pregnancy is your choice
Annella nkonglo Rape obviously is not a choice but that’s an exception, majority of women were not raped when they got pregnant. There were willing having sex and got pregnant. And if you don’t have access to bc, condoms, etc then don’t have sex. It’s 2020 not 1950, there are so many options out there and women need to use them.
Ėnderman I’m so sorry that happened to you. My comment was for people who choose to have sex on their own accord. Choosing to have sex is also choosing what might come after...could be pregnancy, stds et cetera 🤷🏽♀️.
@@forwhy8723 the first two words in my comment are "unpopular *opinion* ". this is my opinion. you cannot tell me what is or what isn't because my stance doesn't change.
I agree. Maybe it’s insensitive, but I hate to hear people complain about not affording kids. You knew you couldn’t afford them, and didn’t get an abortion. You asked for that child!
pink girl Nah, too many children in foster care, too many abusive parents, etc. I’m for abortions or adoption, but this is a very opinionated topic so I respect it
Unpopular opinion: It’s okay to not be a “hugger”. I prefer not to hug people. Just bc I don’t greet you with a hug at church or at an event doesn’t make me unfriendly. A hug is intimate to me and I don’t like people touching me 🤷🏾♀️
Unpopular opinion: If you have 2 or more children don’t ever believe you’ll marry a high caliber man. Ciara is an exception. I’ve worked at a 5 star hotel for years and every successful man I’ve spoken to desires a childless woman. From doctors to pilots, entrepreneurs, to lawyers, etc.
Darius: Don't agree; Ranch is ALWAYS going on my wings. Chioma: You right about the pregnancy point; it's a choice from the conception of the pregnancy to the birth (if you decide to give birth). Pregnancy doesn't JUST happen. Unpopular Opinion: Baby Mama status is not something someone should STRIDE for.
This is another unpopular opinion ima get dragged for... if a man has more than 2/3 baby moms and don’t step up to give them child support or be there for his kids and you have been dating him for some time and see he only takes care of one out of 3 or none at all then you are just as a piece of shit as much as he is 🤷🏽♀️ then women want to act shocked when they become baby momma number 3,4,5,6 and does the same thing to them🤦🏽♀️ I said what I said
You know BW have to degrade each-other to the lowest standard before even making an attempt to speak on a BM.. Pregnancy is obviously a choice.. Women with no children love to speak on it repeatedly for some sort of weird superiority complex fix..
I really dont understand why people feel that kinda way about that. I was an introvert in highschool nd when i tried to be in the black friend group since they were the minority there i felt like i wasnt black enough to be in it i.e go out to their parties ,know the language or even do any of the traditional dances. which lead me find other people who were on my level who were. It happened cuz we matched personalities thats all and i could be myself instead of what i failed to try to be. In the final year i was the only black person in the class so obviously im gonna hang out with more white people. I met a girl who was black but we didnt get close. I want to have black friends but if my family isnt close to any and i go to school with mainly of white people . Should i be judged? It was only recently i realized i didn't need to try be black cuz i am black and hopefully when i go uni i would find some friends. But it can genuinely happen nd it wasn't by shunning anyone. People vibe with others that match personalities the black people back then thought i was wierd so i went somewhere else. U cant be friends purely for ur skin tone but the more people there is the more likely it is to have more friends of that race.
Unpopular opinion: just because a person is nice to you and smiles in greeting, doesn't mean they want you to unfurl your life story onto them. Like seriously, some people are just friendly not offering free counseling to every person they offer kindness. 🤷🏾♀️IJS professional vent, #counselorproblems
Unpopular opinion - I’m not with this glorified only fans stuff nowadays it’s like the new porn site for ppl ..smh not everyone but most , I understand ppl being about they money cause I most definitely am but it’s kinda sad to me
Yesss💯💯💯you’ll get shame if you think otherwise. I do understand the financial side but some are doing it bc they believe they are going to make a lot of money
KENN GUILLORY Yet they claim they so Christian, and love God when they don’t practice none of the stuff he preaches. Also they have the nerve to be the most judgmental ppl ever 🤦🏾♀️
@@kitty-zc1zf rightt?!!! They always here to count their blessings but never want to put in the work to be a true Christian. It's always "God is here to make sure I never slip up" but never "what do I gotta do to make God proud?"
This**** mommy issues really are 10x times worse!!! for men, daddy issues are 10x worse for them. Same sex parent issues are always more psychologically damaging on a long term level.
Unpopular Opinion: African parents needs to stop with the when are you going to get married or have a baby question. It's sickening. I'm only 22 and it's always the same thing, like I don't care if you got married and had a baby around the same time just don't put that pressure on me. All I'm trying to do is live child free for a while and enjoy the relationship that I have.
AbbyGail Fran I’m Jamaican and I’m 19 and in college but my dad keeps bugging me for a baby. He has the nerve to say I must be gay, can’t find a man or don’t want to have kids. I’m like dude! Wait 10 years
@@NylaTiaraLove it's ridiculous at one point my step dad kept telling me that I should get married to a woman if I kept on telling them they will have to wait on grandkids.
That’s so weird especially since like having children later in life usually is associated with waiting until you have a stable source of income, a career, a house and a marriage...the fact they want you to pop babies out so early just because they did doesn’t make sense since parents should want their children to go farther than they ever got to go, and take advantage of other opportunities
Soooo... I haven’t started having sex yet but I read some of the comments and it was reassuring. Some girls have made me scared to be on birth control because it “doesn’t work” or it’s “bad for your body”... But I don’t want a kid and I’m gonna get on it cause I don’t think it’s THAT bad if you’re taking it responsibly and form a good routine. But for now, I still have my virginity and finally a little more confident to admit it😭
Pretty Brown find the right person first, then talk to your doctor about your options. I’ve used Nuvaring for over 10 years. I have a menstruation tracker, so I always know when to put the bc in and out. Find what works best for you when the time comes. Don’t rush into sex, especially if you are not ready.
Catie Q Thanks for the advice. I’ve felt the need to just start having sex so it won’t seem like I’m not the only one who is doing it. I’ve been ashamed of my virginity a lot cause it makes me feel weird and left out but the confidence of having it still is slowly coming...
Pretty Brown there is nothing to be ashamed about. Don’t do it. You make the man work. The right one will wait for you if he truly loves you. The man I lost my virginity to isn’t who I’m in a relationship with but we are absolutely cool with one another, and I don’t have any regrets. He didn’t pressure he, I knew he loved me and he was romantic. The longer you wait the better.
Catie Q Goals!! I’m praying and manifesting the exact man I want right now. I heard it’s better to wait anyway so that’s what I’ll be doing. For now instead of feeling insecure about being a virgin I wanna just enjoy not having the extra stress and problems
Pretty Brown I didn’t find the right man until I was 28. I made him wait and he did. He is now deployed to the Middle East and one of the first questions girlfriends or coworkers asked me is how I’m going to go so long without sex. When you’re with somebody who you truly care about sex isn’t even in your top five priorities. Being a virgin is beautiful and you don’t have to tell anyone your business. Some men have a fetish for virgins and will try to prey on you.
I can see where they're coming from with the all white friends thing. But as a black person who went from living in a pretty much all black neighborhood and having all black friends to living in a predominantly white neighborhood and having no black friends, sometimes it's beyond our control. I love my culture and my people but there's only one other black person out of all my classes and he's homophobic so I don't associate with him. I have one Honduran friend so it's easier to talk about race with her but she's the only poc friend that I really have. Tbh I really want some black friends but I just never fit in with the ones at my school.
Poc and black people are not one and the same! Be careful girl, they dont share our struggles or advocate for us EVER especially black women.. Latin america is very racist. Jus keep this in mind.
I think it’s difficult sometimes. I grew up in a predominantly white dominated area and I was a super nerd. I had no interest in fashion, trends, popular culture as a child then a adolescent, my hobbies, personality and attitude towards what I considered frivolous were not congruent to fitting in with the black crowd. I literally alienated black people by being me. So I went with Asians and white people who were way more accepting and open to nerdiness or geekiness. The option was to pretend to be someone else to have black friends or to just be myself and find a different crowd. I chose to find a different crowd. So it’s not ideal but it is possible.
@@vixennem I understand that but as far as I know my friend isn't racist or at least doesn't showcase it. It's true that other poc and black people are not the same and we have different experiences but it's just easier to take to her about race because she also has been discriminated against because of her race unlike my white friends.
I don’t think being a black person with majority white friends is based on confusion or self hate. I live in the suburbs and it’s predominantly Hispanics and whites. The black people here are very scarce!
I mean true but who said where you lived was the only place you can make friends?? You could travel and make a friend where you traveled to. You could make online friends too. Not every friend is made where you live.
Unpopular opinion: Condoms really aren't so uncomfortable to be using that as an excuse to go raw... there's TOO MUCH birth control to be :accidentally pregnant"
I be thinking that too! My boyfriend has 7 siblings and though they’re close to be so many of them, there is still clique-ness in the family where 1 or 2 is estranged. It’s too much chaos naturally with so many different bodies and personalities. The introduction of grandchildren makes things exponentially chaotic.
I agree honestly. Im the first born with my parents and my dad has five kids with his wife and even i see it. Especially since the last three are VERY close in age. My dad already isnt that type of father really and he works all the time to provide and my step mom works too and doesnt have the mental capacity for them all. I noticed when i go over i get sort of attached too very quickly. Yes its because im the way older sister who they dont see a lot but i always felt like it was also because i provide some attention that they dont get enough of. I was never sure though.
Thanks to all of you for being HONEST! A lot of parents that placed themselves in that situation will swear til the end of time that they “love their kids and make time for each one equally” but love has nothing to do with it and there’s only 24 hours in a day so as a parent myself, this is definitely irresponsible. 🤷🏾♀️
When you’re trying to get pregnant it’s like why is this so hard! Then I see all these girls on my timeline posting ultrasound pics with they baby daddy 😕
Your point about your nose job is kindah disagree with. Fixing a crooked, broken, busted nose is one thing .. but I think if a person will do a rhynoplasty on the nose that had from the womb to slim it down I think its erasing something about them. Maybe blackness, uniqueness etc.. but people should still do what they want to do
Kriss not necessarily. There are plenty of black couples who support one another emotionally, financially and love each other. But not all black relationships are like that though.
When I worked at a hospital, there was plenty of Nurses smoking cigarettes, and had the nerve to work in the Cancer unit and and cardiovascular unit. Like wtf 😂
they are just as bad as adults they made those decisions. They couldn't live a childhood cause they already knew grown things. Yall excuse them because they are young but you will be surprised of how many kids know about the nasty. Let them learn.
@@fivestarfuego I really do feel bad if it was an legit “ accident” but not the ones who did it on purpose out of spite quick story I had a “friend” who got knocked up on purpose to piss off her mom and dad after they told her don’t bring no babies back well guess what she did? Poked holes in the condoms and even her then boyfriend didn’t really want kids but she was also doing it because he was cheating on her and she really thought it would save their one sided “relationship” well after she had the baby he dumped her and honestly I don’t feel bad for her because she would talk down on single mothers were we live and thought she was different because she wasn’t black 🤦🏽♀️ she ended up getting pregnant by another guy at 17 🤦🏽♀️
people say pregnancy is both people faults, but ultimate its the woman's responsibility of who she lets inside her. it aint that difficult to take birth control or require the man to take it. its your body you take full responsibility for what goes in and come out of it. it is so easy to not get pregnant by accident with all these different forms or birth control its common sense
Same girl. Never been on birth control and never been pregnant. My thing is, if you're letting a man nut in you, EVEN ON BIRTH CONTROL, you're giving yourself a bigger risk. If you ask me, condoms are the most effective thing there is. And people say condoms can break but I really don't know how lol Maybe someone can explain.
All I say to this is a nigga can’t complain about a woman deciding to have a child that he DOES NOT want if he went in raw. Only a retard would take that type of risk, especially if they not even in a relationship. Plus men are way too quick to trust the fact that women won’t bleed them out in child support, let alone even check or ask if she got a damn STD lmao If he ain’t wrap it up I don’t feel one ounce of sympathy for him 🤷🏾♀️
This way of thinking is exactly why so many men leave their kids, because they think that ultimately it’s the mothers responsibility. You’re so dumb. Lol.
Butter Francisco He’s getting that much praise because people are so used to seeing men abandon,cheat and embarrass their wives/girlfriends. So when a man that really shows he loves his woman like he’s supposed to, people are going to go above and beyond.
She was kinda being hypocritical when she was talking about if you don’t post your significant other then y’all not even in a relationship, then said “why I gotta post to prove I got a relationship with god on social media the most toxic...” idk me and my boyfriend been together 2 years and we don’t ever post each other and we’ve pretty much lived together the whole time. We plan on getting married and having children. We have each other phone passwords but have never checked them. This sounds like someone’s who’s been cheated on and is scared they’ve got someone else, and that they’re scared they’ll see her.
I didnt know that it was only certain days you could get pregnant i knew about ovulation but I thought you could get pregnant anytime during the month. And im 18 lmao sex education is shitty.
No no no you can still get pregnant any day of the month but the chances are lower but if you are having sex make sure to take birth control and always use a condom because other than pregnancies there is always a risk of STD, and etc.
No you cannot get pregnant ANYDAY of the month LORDT! Only when ovulating(that's when the egg is READY FOR SPERM) YOU ONLY HAVE 1 CHANCE TO OVULATE AFTER EACH PERIOD, WHICH SHOULD BE ONCE A MONTH LOL. Women who have no idea when they get pregnant is because they are shitty at tracking their period and ovulation. They just keep f*ckin without watching their bodies.
On the pregnancy thing, i think another excuse is lack of education. If you don’t know about contraceptives or ovulation, you could get “accidentally” pregnant.
Patricia the astrologist then they are wearing it because of their condition. I'm talking about people how say they're hair is “natural” underneath but nobody has ever seen it
૨σყαℓ ƭεε even hairstylist say that protective styling can be abused and have the opposite effect. If you NEVER have you natural hair out chances are it's breaking off and unhealthy. Hair needs to breath and be left alone sometimes
Exactly . People be like “I love my natural hair “ but you will never see them with their natural hair. If you live your natural hair you will show just like you live that extensions !
@@highdefinition8261 if a black woman wear their hair out all of y'all just going to degrade her hair and call it a weave when it's not I've experienced it myself
I agree about the pregnancy is a choice argument. I’ve argued about this time and time again and you all are the first people I’ve found who have ever agreed. Excluding sexual assaults, pregnancy IS a choice and I’m tired of irresponsible couples and fuck buddies using abortions and a form of birth control. What is so hard about safe sex?!? Especially because people be out here having multiple partners. Like I get it’s your body, but our bodies were not made to have a bunch of abortions. I had a friend who had had 2 or 3 (I forget), but she asked me to go with her when she was 4 mos pregnant when she found a doctor who would do it because her boyfriend was abusive. I stopped being friends with her cause she made terrible choices. Like you have a violent boyfriend who lives with you and beat you up in front of your kid and then you invite friends over while he’s around to put us in harm’s way?! Another example: after having him freeload off of her and use her car etc and not pay rent while hardly working and clubbing every weekend, she decided to marry this manchild AND get pregnant by him again, but she kept that baby. I think they’re divorced now. Smdh like why do women make these kind of choices and then try to drag their friends into it and even worse, bring kids into the world with these psychos and then act like it was an accident? Ain’t no 🍆 ever gonna be that good to make me risk me and my child’s life. Sorry bout it!
unpopular opinion: i feel like black girls who are into rock, pop music like somewhere in the emo and punk rock era..should be normalized and not for other people to think they tryna become white. that’s what i feel
Unpopular opinions: 1. Sex can be for pleasure not just to create a baby. 2. If a man is telling a woman that they are not ready for a child and if the woman goes ahead and have it anyway, he has EVERY right to leave. 3. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD black women please stop saying you’re “protective styling” if you are wearing a wig 24/7. like if you hate your hair just say that lmfao 💀😭. 4. IF you do not have TWO fully black parents you are NOT black.
Pretty Girl if you choose to get pregnant with an unreliable or absent “baby daddy,” or even from a sperm bank without a reliable partner, it’s selfish as fuck. Many of us know the pain of coming from single parent households but act like we shouldn’t do everything possible to prevent that for our kids (getting married to a stable and nurturing man before having kids.)
If you become a single mother by choice via IVF. I see a lot on men and women doing this now due to all the wokeness and hating going on in the relationship world.
MiVidaBellisima I mean if you have money and a good support system (family and friends) or you don’t want to get married but have a child. Being a single parent by choice would be the best option or adopt so you don’t have to deal with or the baby momma/daddy drama.
Unpopular opinion: black women have options too when it comes to dating. Ima high schooler and I listened that we only want black male. These days, I switched our mindset and now I find other groups attractive. Out here expending my options and developing my feminine energy.
Unpopular opinion: not every woman wants kids, especially in marriage. Women can be what they want, so please stop pushing women into gender roles unless that’s what they want to do. Women can still marry rich but choose not to be a housewife and have their own career too. Bc the husband that makes the most can afford a maid to clean the house,
I’m confused. Who would think it wasn’t? But blaming women isn’t going to solve anything. It takes a man and a woman so while pregnancy is a choice, child support isn’t so men need to strap it up.
agreed! I heard some stories from COUPLES about "accidental" pregnancies. And I was like. Guurl, that was never an accident, you just did not "protect" yourself enough. You 99% acted negligently and that is okay if you both wanted to have a child in general anyways and are now happy about the pregnancy. But if it had been a PRIORITY of you to not to become pregnant, you would have done what is needed for that, so yeah it is a choice somehow. But don't be acting like "ohh, it just happened, I am so suprised...naah". I sometimes feel like it's unfair for the baby Daddy when he was like "hey, not now because of bla" and she just acts negligently. But other times, both act like "whatever" we'll take the risk and hope it's gon be alright. I know that there are very rare expectations, where, for example the hormone spiral wasn't working or the ECP could not do anything anymore, when the condom tore. So many women take the pill like smarties and don't care when they forget a day or two.
Some girls are envious of your relationship and will try to sabotage it and so will some guys.. that’s why some people don’t post ALL the time. Especially if you’re with a high class man or someone that spoils you all the time and they feel jealous and envious people will try to destroy that
I mean I was the only black kid in my school except for my brother and we lived in a white neighborhood so where was I supposed to find a black friend?
You don't have to make friends strictly in the place you live. You can make friends by traveling to other locations for different reasons. Also I agree with what the above comment said too.
I had black boyfriends but black girls be moving shady on me. Believe me, when I have a wedding I want to see MELANIN in that bridesmaids photo. But girls be weird.
Mr. Deep Voice is back! I co-sign at 8:14, what kills me is the same women shoving their kids down are throats, feel some type of way when you shove your traveling/purchases as well. I don't care what anyone says having kids is a big deal and should be well thought out, ppl literally can't even feed themselves and bring someone else in the situation bc they don't want to be alone.
You can get pregnant any time of the month though, it is much much higher chances during ovulation but you can get pregnant so PLEASE USE PROTECTION. Also you don't you need to post your relationship with god but you need to post your partner?
With the God thing, I feel like people do it to prove it to others. With relationships, I think people refrain from doing it because of the taboo that comes with it. All in all, i think with both, if you have a solid foundation with your God and your relationship, what's wrong with posting about it and why not post about it? Ya know lol 🤷🏾♀️😂
Hey Choima I love you lots! But I disagree with your opinion with people sharing their relationship with God. I think it actually brings positivity to social media. It shines a light on the overlooked glory of God and inspires people to get close to God, which is what God wants. P.S: I love you and Darrius’s videos!
I grew up in a majority white town where I attempted to be friends with other black people. I had very few black friends here and there, but for the most part I just was never "black enough" for the black people I went to school with. I was raised to speak proper and I have different interests so I was considered nerdy and weird. So because I never fit in with them I went where people were nicer to me. Notice I said nicer and not nice. Because of that the very black people that already didn't accept me would then look at me up and down as if I think I'm better than them. I was heckled and bullied so much that would avoid being around the black people that I went to school with. Just because everytime I was around them they would start picking with me and would never leave me alone. I finally thought I found some black friends to be friends with and they ended up turning on me in the long run too. I'm still to this day trying to make black friends and everytime I still get comments about the way that I talk or dress. I personally don't think the way someone talks, dresses, or what they like should determine whether or not someone is black enough. These same people will readily invite white people to the cookout the moment they act or speak the same way they do. I've even seen them call them black. So at this point I'm just waiting until I can move to a more open minded area so I can meet black people that I can click with. For me it was never that I want led to hang out with white people more. I just was never accepted by my own people. I even at one point when I was younger tried to change myself just so I could have black friends and all they did was laugh behind my back. I'm only giving my story because on the outside it can look bad but some people are like me and were never accepted at all. I was raised to speak very proper (not white and nasally) and to be proper in the way that I carry myself. For some reason that's considered white😶
Yes pregnancy is a choice but i would like to say there’s always that one percent who still get pregnant on BC. My sister had the IUD and got pregnant TWICE on it. But please do all you can to protect yourselves but the best protection is Abstinence. You have a 0% chance of getting pregnant that way. When having sex in general you can still get pregnant.
Monika Linn idk, I heard somewhere that sometimes people don’t use their bc correctly or read labels or follow up advice from their doctor after their friends asked why it failed. But anyways, what if you want to have sex but not want to get pregnant then what?
Skinny legend Steve iud is something they typically put in your arm... there’s no way to screw that up. Like i said if you want to have sex.. just know whether you are on birth control or not there is still a chance to get pregnant. What’s so hard to understand about that? So you shouldn’t be shocked at all that you are pregnant what u choose to do with your body is still your choice
Skinny legend Steve like there’s 3 different forms of bc there’s the pill(i assume that’s the one u can screw up on) there’s the IUD (insert) and then there’s depo (the shot) 2 out of 3 there’s no way to screw it up. But you can still get pregnant regardless there’s plenty of people who take bc regularly that still got pregnant
8:14 I agree! It’s annoying to hear “I got pregnant unexpectedly” especially when they refuse to take birth control or use condoms. I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and I’m on the pill plus we use condoms every time. There’s just no excuse nowadays with all these resources available.
Unpopular opinion: y’all talk shit about black women who wear weaves but those be the same women with the longest hair. Tell me I’m lying cause Ik I’m not 👀
Zeniah Wilburn faxxx like just bc we where weave doesn’t mean we hate our natural hair or aren’t confident.People don’t understand the point of protective styles is to PROTECT and grow ur hair
Unpopular opinion: cheating is not a mistake it’s a choice and if you continuously do it it’s apart of your character
Like people take the time to cheat. They kiss, take off the clothes and have sex for however long people have sex for and then put they clothes back on😂
Mistaken value; thinking the ride or die is worthy of betrayal
Right.
That's not even an opinion, it's a fact. I can't relate though because I never been cheated on, but I know people who got cheated on and it's stupid, if you're not satisfied, than either make it work or break up!
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Unpopular opinion: everyone overlooks nerdy black girls // edit : thanks for the likes yall, this is just from my experience as someone who was more nerdy, into anime, video games, and i kept to myself in a predominately afro-Caribbean school.
Yupppp
Same it’s soo hard finding guys🥺
Omg yes
Deadass.
I'm a nerdy black girl believe it or not lol but so true.
Popular/unpopular opinion:People using their Zodiac sign as an excuse for their bad behavior is so weird to me.🤷🏾♀️
I hate that so much . Lol , Like wtf
weird as hell
Ikr!
Autumn the Capricorn ascendant I still don’t think we should use that as an excuse either
Man people who make their zodiac their whole personality is annoying! 😂😂
Another unpopular opinion is that ghetto should not be associated with being black ... stop being upset when a non black person acts ghetto it’s insulting to say that person wants to be black. I’m black and i refuse to say bhad baby is someone who wants to be like me, she a caricature of the black stereotype not what we really are
Underestimated post!!
@@ramlahagi2674 amen
I THOUGHT THE SAME THING
Misslimitless23 yeah but that’s not all of us as a whole. But that’s what we are seen as a whole and that’s my point. All of us ain’t ghetto
I agree I’m not black but anyone can be ghetto 🤦♀️ that dumb stereotypes only in America
Unpopular Opinion: It’s okay to establish your career & fall in love with yourself FIRST & then get married & have a family. There is no time limit on when you should start popping out babies. I’d rather be 35 bringing a child into a healthy, stable environment then to be 22 and a baby mama 🤷🏾♀️
Absolutely. I want to have my first child around 36-38.
Okay now
Keep this mindset! I did and im about to start my masters in the fall and now have a bf who respects that i want to wait as well. Dont fall for it and stay true to you! Be blessed.
💯
@Patricia the astrologist ermmmm being that old can affect ur baby's health
Unpopular opinion: There should be more movies where the Black girls are smart, nice, and shy girls that like Pop music rather than being loud and rude
Retro Blast Yes! I say this all the time!
Retro Blast Also less movie promoting that “strong black woman” narrative, it takes away our femininity, and forces us to be the men/males of the black community
then they say she's trying to be white lmao
Yessssss!!!! This is me in a nutshell.
Like Tasha Smith 🤐😂😂😂 in all the Tyler Perry’s
I have to agree men should not be praised for what a good boyfriend or good husband should be doing.
@Social C. honestly that's EXACTLY WHAT A GOOD HUSBAND DOES. Lmfao if a man really loves u he would except and love your child like his own that doesn't need higher praise millions of men are doing that.
@૨σყαℓ ƭεε they are but if he truly is a good man he would just do it and does not need the special praise for a situation he knew he was getting himself into.
@Social C. it's not entitlement sis. He knew exactly what he was getting into when he chose her. If I have kids and a man wants to be in a serious relationship he gonna have to except my kids. Why marry a woman with pervious kids if you are not gonna want to deal with them at all.
@Social C. it is different to need and deserve it, but I would be thankful for him taking care of my kid(s) but hes not getting any praise or special treatment because he willingly came into my life knowing I have a child.
@Mina Babylitteraly women have been doing the same for men for decades
What's up with virgin shaming though sometimes when I tell people some say "oh you poor thing. Like I got plenty of suitors who want me I just choose not too???
quana Mckinney lol ignore those people , they’re weird.
@૨σყαℓ ƭεε all I hope is I can turn 21 in peace next year without thirsty dudes lurking around the corner and other people feeling 'sorry' for me.😂
@Patricia the astrologist you told no lies because same. But people also say I'm naturally flirty but I'm not so maybe that's why🤦🏾♀️😭
quana Mckinney I’m a virgin too. I’ve had to cut off majority of girls who I thought were my “friends” because they always tried to have an input. It made me so insecure for the longest and now I feel like I’m just now starting to be more confident to say I’m a virgin and the time will come when it’s right for me.
Nothing wrong with that, and truth be told many women do wish they were smarter with sex and waited for the right one. I sometimes do. I honestly admire women who waited for the right one and is happy in a marriage. That's the best way to go about it. Don't let any man also make you think you're so rare as if it's a bad thing. The right man will love you for you.
Unpopular opinion: Girls with big foreheads are pretty too.
The big forehead slander that I see on social media will not be tolerated anymore.😤🙅
D A I M A U R I the girls considered the prettiest typically have big heads though. I don’t think having a big head hinders anyone if that makes since. Like everybody has a feature they get teased about.
Okay girl!!!! Five head gang in this thang 😂🤣
We been pretty some ppl say it makes you look more youthful
Rihanna has a big forehead and she’s beautiful
D A I M A U R I lol I don’t get why it’s a big deal. I guess everyone has minor flaws somewhere
Unpopular opinion: black people should have thing for their selves without others trying to copy like they copy everything we do
Tiana X right
Tiana X like the “ahaa I got melanin” thing on tiktok, all the white girls got their own version now “ahaa I got a pREtTy FaCE” and all that like okay????
@@lillyshelley357 right that's exactly how I feel
P.E.R.I.O.D
Unpopular Opinion: it wouldn’t surprise me if the reason so many black people still support R. Kelly is the same reason sexual abuse is often swept under the rug in black households...
Some still do unfortunately
But no one is ready for that conversation
Hmmmm
Unpopular opinion: if you watched the video to “see if it was him” you just as gross🤮🤮
@@Cynthiaa.c541 what video?
I HATE love and basketball. Doesn’t make any sense. He chose every other girl up until the point that no other girl wanted him. Then he settled for her. HELL no.
If ur seeing this please check out one of my videos i just started 3 days ago ;)
It’s overrated af
Right ! He was washed up smh
Thank you. To me love and basketball is not a good example of black love and self esteem
Thank you mfs don’t understand why this movie is a horrible example of LOVE 🤒
Yeah I hate that movie. The media always perpetuates struggle love to Black women.
unpopular opinion : everybody not toxic
unpopular opinion: being toxic is not cute.
unpopular opinion: just because you listen to Jhené Aiko you not toxic
Pretty Girl right they just wanna follow the aesthetic of being “toxic “ which is dumb asl
😂😂👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Her music Is far from toxic people just throw that word around and glorify it😩😂
i don’t have a lot of black friends because i go to a mostly white school and a lot of the black kids are popular, loud and outgoing, and im that one quiet introverted black girl no one likes lol but i have very few black friends, i wish i had more black friends i had things in common with tho
We’re in the same, exact boat. I don’t really have any friends honestly, but I tend to get a long more with white people. I find myself not being able to...really relate to the black kids in my school. I have no street smarts at all and that’s all they really talk about. I’m an introvert with either group honestly
I’ll be your friend 🥺 we can be 2 shy black girls together
I found my people exactly the same. I felt like i wasnt black enough to be in their group my parents say that i act white which really took me a while to understand that no matter what im black. I have no black friends nd i want some but i never really managed to keep a good friendship. I hope i find some in uni tho🙂
@@estherorimolade6700 exactly
@@mayasanders1046 aww thanks😭😭
Let's talk about how people love to say birth control doesn't work or that they was on birth control but it turns out they weren't following the directions of the birth control in the first place. 🤦♀️ I feel like those people spread false information because they weren't doing it correctly and make other impressionable females think that "they shouldn't get on birth control because it doesn't work for most woman"
@Essence Buckingham yes these ladies should be responsible with their birth control. Read the labels. Know the side effects-not the one found on the internet. Know your birth control. And if you dont like the side effects of one go to another one! I promise yall doctor got a list of birth controls you can try
Right or just wait till ur married to have sex. It’s easy
They say the birth control failed but that only happens to less than 1% of women who use it RIGHT. I know way too many people who blame the pill but in reality they weren't taking it every day
@@IluvAmerica it really is!! Sis but these ladies be acting like they die with it.
@@Latte-girly90 preach
Unpopular opinion: wigs wearing 365 days a year as a protective style is senseless to me🤷🏽♀️
Facts!!! But black woman aren't ready for that conversation at all!
lmfaoo lol exactly 😁
Yesss omggggg FAX 11 months out of the year girl you is hiding that shit
I just got my hair in dreadlocs when I was 10, and I still have them. Good way to have natural long hair imo
lmfaoo lol black women aren’t the only women who wear wigs so let’s dead that. Furthermore I don’t see how it affects you all at all but hey i guess you that’s why it’s an unpopular opinion.
Lmaooo those ”if you scroll” posts are annoying af.
For real
I wouldn't want my doctor smoking weed, cigarettes, crack anything to be honest.
lmfaoo lol omg crack?? That escalated quickly 😂😂😂
Oh honey, not the crack LMFAOOOO
So you don’t want them to drink either then bc that’s poison and bad for your body. I don’t see why it matters if they can do their job it’s not really your business what they do in their free time lmao
Brooklyn Blount and when they show up to show surgery drunk don’t be trying to sue js🤷🏾♀️
J lmao I don’t think they’re gunna show up drunk just bc they drink when they aren’t at work. Adults can have fun when they aren’t at work ain’t nothing wrong with a little drink/smoke, just not around patients lol
Paused it as soon as she said she graduates in two weeks....CONGRATULATIONS MY SISTA!!!!!! That’s it! Beauty, intelligence and a good wig? Just grace your seat on the thrown Queen 👑 ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much 🤗 I cannot believe this is really happening !
Oh yeah, congratulations! 🎉
Unpopular opinion: most of these women out here having babies should not have babies. Y’all can’t even afford to pay for yourselves yet you bring a baby in this world irresponsible. On top of that have a baby with anybody that says “I love you.”
Sweetie your a thousand percent right but they don't see it that way in hey it's there life let them fall some people gotta learn the hard way unfortunately.....
Who are you to tell somebody what they shouldn’t be doing,if they want to have a baby then that’s there problem and if you are not going to help take care of that baby it’s not your place to say anything.I don’t really get how you think it’s ok to tell another woman what the should and shouldn’t do with THERE body
@@love4lea she's not telling anybody what to do with their body. She's saying that alot of women have babys irresponsibly. Pay attention. & u shouldn't be so mad when it's just her "opinion". 😒
@@FutureNewGirl And who tf are you to tell a woman that she had her baby irresponsible, mind your business and worry about your own life.
Well some of us girls take time to grow in life we needed someone's love not knowing it's a moment. For some it takes time to know what's good for us. It's good you didn't choose to be knocked up too soon. Either way poor or well off if the parents looking out for their child it's a blessing.
whoever said pregnancy isn’t a choice is a clown 😛 .
BAKUGOU’S BIATCH a lot of baby mamas say that lmao. First thing i learned from single mothers actually which is what made me get on bc. My own mother told me “i didnt choose to get pregnant” in her exact words and then I thought to myself then why did you? Some women really believe they cant choose who they have kids by. They just let whatever happen and pray for the best.
what about the people who get raped who have no money to afford birth control or the young girls that are raped and aren't in the right state of mind to tell their family their are so many situations where pregnancy is not a choice but if you and your partner have unprotected sex with consent that pregnancy is your choice
I agree
Annella nkonglo Rape obviously is not a choice but that’s an exception, majority of women were not raped when they got pregnant. There were willing having sex and got pregnant. And if you don’t have access to bc, condoms, etc then don’t have sex. It’s 2020 not 1950, there are so many options out there and women need to use them.
Annella nkonglo that’s a whole different story
Yup, pregnancy is a choice. I’ve been saying that sex is for creation and people just look at me like I said something outlandish.
I don’t understand this comment what are you trying to say here?
Ėnderman I’m so sorry that happened to you.
My comment was for people who choose to have sex on their own accord. Choosing to have sex is also choosing what might come after...could be pregnancy, stds et cetera 🤷🏽♀️.
Exactly. It’s not that hard but people don’t like being responsible or held accountable so...
Lol Right!
unpopular opinion: telling a skinny girl to eat is just as offensive as telling a big girl to stop eating 💆🏾♀️
Facts I hate that
No it's not. That's like comparing dark and light skin problems. Only one is glorified in society.
@@forwhy8723 the first two words in my comment are "unpopular *opinion* ". this is my opinion. you cannot tell me what is or what isn't because my stance doesn't change.
@@kennytwotimes5805 skinny girl problems are like light skin girl problems
@@forwhy8723 why tf does it matter? that's two totally different categories. why tf would you ever compare weight to skin color?
I agree. Maybe it’s insensitive, but I hate to hear people complain about not affording kids. You knew you couldn’t afford them, and didn’t get an abortion. You asked for that child!
That’s not how that works lol
Exactly. Especially if the guy runs off or lets you know he's not ready for a child.
Whewwww
You do understand you can have everything you need one minute and nothing the next? Things can happene
pink girl Nah, too many children in foster care, too many abusive parents, etc. I’m for abortions or adoption, but this is a very opinionated topic so I respect it
Unpopular opinion: It’s okay to not be a “hugger”. I prefer not to hug people. Just bc I don’t greet you with a hug at church or at an event doesn’t make me unfriendly. A hug is intimate to me and I don’t like people touching me 🤷🏾♀️
Exactly and just because we’re related doesn’t mean I want a damn hug I don’t even hug my parents😂
@@cherishxoxo2738 same 😂😂😂
Unpopular opinion: If you have 2 or more children don’t ever believe you’ll marry a high caliber man. Ciara is an exception.
I’ve worked at a 5 star hotel for years and every successful man I’ve spoken to desires a childless woman. From doctors to pilots, entrepreneurs, to lawyers, etc.
Ciara had only one child with Future before Russell Wilson.
I completely agree with you.
I’m proud that I don’t have kids yet lol
😢💔
They don’t hear you though! Also don’t expect a high caliber man if your dress size is bigger than your shoe size.
I agree with the unpopular opinion of pregnancy is choice. I so agree with it.
Darius: Don't agree; Ranch is ALWAYS going on my wings.
Chioma: You right about the pregnancy point; it's a choice from the conception of the pregnancy to the birth (if you decide to give birth). Pregnancy doesn't JUST happen.
Unpopular Opinion: Baby Mama status is not something someone should STRIDE for.
Unpopular opinion: men should be held accountable for pregnancy’s at the same level of women because with out one of them no child can be made
Ofc. But the women knowing she'll be the one pregnant and not the man when having sex shows she risked becoming pregnant to begin with.
She doesn’t have to have sex if he ain’t got a condom...basically she makes the calls no condom no sex that simple
This is another unpopular opinion ima get dragged for... if a man has more than 2/3 baby moms and don’t step up to give them child support or be there for his kids and you have been dating him for some time and see he only takes care of one out of 3 or none at all then you are just as a piece of shit as much as he is 🤷🏽♀️ then women want to act shocked when they become baby momma number 3,4,5,6 and does the same thing to them🤦🏽♀️ I said what I said
You know BW have to degrade each-other to the lowest standard before even making an attempt to speak on a BM.. Pregnancy is obviously a choice.. Women with no children love to speak on it repeatedly for some sort of weird superiority complex fix..
Agreed! Truly it’s the man’s fault if he decides to plant the seed, but it’s the woman’s fault if she allows it and lets it grow 🤷🏽♀️
😭🥴 I felt Darius about the Black person hanging with just white people.
I side eye those people 😧
Teala Dunn...I Don't think I've ever seen her with black people besides this one video
zakiyah samad it gives me “get out” vibes 😭
I really dont understand why people feel that kinda way about that. I was an introvert in highschool nd when i tried to be in the black friend group since they were the minority there i felt like i wasnt black enough to be in it i.e go out to their parties ,know the language or even do any of the traditional dances. which lead me find other people who were on my level who were. It happened cuz we matched personalities thats all and i could be myself instead of what i failed to try to be. In the final year i was the only black person in the class so obviously im gonna hang out with more white people. I met a girl who was black but we didnt get close. I want to have black friends but if my family isnt close to any and i go to school with mainly of white people . Should i be judged? It was only recently i realized i didn't need to try be black cuz i am black and hopefully when i go uni i would find some friends. But it can genuinely happen nd it wasn't by shunning anyone. People vibe with others that match personalities the black people back then thought i was wierd so i went somewhere else. U cant be friends purely for ur skin tone but the more people there is the more likely it is to have more friends of that race.
@@estherorimolade6700 right
Unpopular opinion: just because a person is nice to you and smiles in greeting, doesn't mean they want you to unfurl your life story onto them. Like seriously, some people are just friendly not offering free counseling to every person they offer kindness. 🤷🏾♀️IJS professional vent, #counselorproblems
Ro Frankie right, I’m tired of emotional vampires. Like I’m no therapist, I don’t get paid to hear your depressing life story
THANK YOU
Same here sis same field I just put up a boundary and move along unless it’s a family emergency
Unpopular opinion - I’m not with this glorified only fans stuff nowadays it’s like the new porn site for ppl ..smh not everyone but most , I understand ppl being about they money cause I most definitely am but it’s kinda sad to me
Patricia the astrologist it’s just odd to me lol like why is this the new cool thing
Yesss💯💯💯you’ll get shame if you think otherwise. I do understand the financial side but some are doing it bc they believe they are going to make a lot of money
I agree.
Ėnderman she wasn’t shaming them.
Ėnderman Stop being so sensitive I see you in all these comments disagreeing. She’s right, it’s virtual stripping.
Im not even 2 minutes in but I just want to say I love when you collab with Darius 😊❤️
me too lol I was laughing the entire time. Thanks for watching🖤
He’s hilarious 😆
Unpopular opinion: God don’t like majority of the stuff y’all do.
KENN GUILLORY Yet they claim they so Christian, and love God when they don’t practice none of the stuff he preaches. Also they have the nerve to be the most judgmental ppl ever 🤦🏾♀️
Yep!
Hmph. 🙊 They not ready for that talk.
@@kitty-zc1zf rightt?!!! They always here to count their blessings but never want to put in the work to be a true Christian. It's always "God is here to make sure I never slip up" but never "what do I gotta do to make God proud?"
Yeah specially sex before marriage
Unpopular opinion: I’d rather be rich and “lonely at the top” over broke and struggling but “hAPpY” any day 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Thee BratzDoll Money or love...MONEY!
Securing the bag and being happy are not mutually exclusive!
that's very interesting. I am rich and "lonely" at the top. And I am longing for having love back in my life again so so hard...
Unpopular opinion : having mummy issues is deeper than daddy issues and does more damage
Facts
This**** mommy issues really are 10x times worse!!! for men, daddy issues are 10x worse for them. Same sex parent issues are always more psychologically damaging on a long term level.
I have mommy issues
I want nothing to do with my mom
Fr!
Unpopular Opinion: African parents needs to stop with the when are you going to get married or have a baby question. It's sickening.
I'm only 22 and it's always the same thing, like I don't care if you got married and had a baby around the same time just don't put that pressure on me. All I'm trying to do is live child free for a while and enjoy the relationship that I have.
AbbyGail Fran I’m Jamaican and I’m 19 and in college but my dad keeps bugging me for a baby. He has the nerve to say I must be gay, can’t find a man or don’t want to have kids. I’m like dude! Wait 10 years
S Videos 19 and he wants you to have a baby. Hell no I’m 19 and I’m a child. I thought I’d be a grown ass woman when I turn 19 hahahaha
@@NylaTiaraLove it's ridiculous at one point my step dad kept telling me that I should get married to a woman if I kept on telling them they will have to wait on grandkids.
That’s so weird especially since like having children later in life usually is associated with waiting until you have a stable source of income, a career, a house and a marriage...the fact they want you to pop babies out so early just because they did doesn’t make sense since parents should want their children to go farther than they ever got to go, and take advantage of other opportunities
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Soooo... I haven’t started having sex yet but I read some of the comments and it was reassuring. Some girls have made me scared to be on birth control because it “doesn’t work” or it’s “bad for your body”... But I don’t want a kid and I’m gonna get on it cause I don’t think it’s THAT bad if you’re taking it responsibly and form a good routine. But for now, I still have my virginity and finally a little more confident to admit it😭
Pretty Brown find the right person first, then talk to your doctor about your options. I’ve used Nuvaring for over 10 years. I have a menstruation tracker, so I always know when to put the bc in and out. Find what works best for you when the time comes. Don’t rush into sex, especially if you are not ready.
Catie Q Thanks for the advice. I’ve felt the need to just start having sex so it won’t seem like I’m not the only one who is doing it. I’ve been ashamed of my virginity a lot cause it makes me feel weird and left out but the confidence of having it still is slowly coming...
Pretty Brown there is nothing to be ashamed about. Don’t do it. You make the man work. The right one will wait for you if he truly loves you. The man I lost my virginity to isn’t who I’m in a relationship with but we are absolutely cool with one another, and I don’t have any regrets. He didn’t pressure he, I knew he loved me and he was romantic. The longer you wait the better.
Catie Q Goals!! I’m praying and manifesting the exact man I want right now. I heard it’s better to wait anyway so that’s what I’ll be doing. For now instead of feeling insecure about being a virgin I wanna just enjoy not having the extra stress and problems
Pretty Brown I didn’t find the right man until I was 28. I made him wait and he did. He is now deployed to the Middle East and one of the first questions girlfriends or coworkers asked me is how I’m going to go so long without sex. When you’re with somebody who you truly care about sex isn’t even in your top five priorities. Being a virgin is beautiful and you don’t have to tell anyone your business. Some men have a fetish for virgins and will try to prey on you.
I can see where they're coming from with the all white friends thing. But as a black person who went from living in a pretty much all black neighborhood and having all black friends to living in a predominantly white neighborhood and having no black friends, sometimes it's beyond our control. I love my culture and my people but there's only one other black person out of all my classes and he's homophobic so I don't associate with him. I have one Honduran friend so it's easier to talk about race with her but she's the only poc friend that I really have. Tbh I really want some black friends but I just never fit in with the ones at my school.
Louiya Draws 👏🏽👏🏽 Thank you Yess!
I've lived in the Suburbs all my life so I feel this comment 100%
Poc and black people are not one and the same! Be careful girl, they dont share our struggles or advocate for us EVER especially black women..
Latin america is very racist.
Jus keep this in mind.
I think it’s difficult sometimes. I grew up in a predominantly white dominated area and I was a super nerd. I had no interest in fashion, trends, popular culture as a child then a adolescent, my hobbies, personality and attitude towards what I considered frivolous were not congruent to fitting in with the black crowd. I literally alienated black people by being me. So I went with Asians and white people who were way more accepting and open to nerdiness or geekiness. The option was to pretend to be someone else to have black friends or to just be myself and find a different crowd. I chose to find a different crowd. So it’s not ideal but it is possible.
@@vixennem I understand that but as far as I know my friend isn't racist or at least doesn't showcase it. It's true that other poc and black people are not the same and we have different experiences but it's just easier to take to her about race because she also has been discriminated against because of her race unlike my white friends.
Unpopular opinion: Everything does not need to be made into a black version like it pisses me off movies films shows ect
Finally a Sista admits that this is not an a achievement, Pregnancy is a choice and a setback for every female that doesn't plan ahead
Sun it’s true
I 100% agree with the cookout opinion lol. A white person will moonwalk and all of a sudden Black twitter says they’re invited to the cookout💀
I don’t think being a black person with majority white friends is based on confusion or self hate. I live in the suburbs and it’s predominantly Hispanics and whites. The black people here are very scarce!
I think their talking about the ones who choose to hang out with them and dont want black friends
Kiki Gam bingo lol
Its definitely not but tbh many do just "get along to move along" to include not call out other races bs because they have "friends"
I mean true but who said where you lived was the only place you can make friends?? You could travel and make a friend where you traveled to. You could make online friends too. Not every friend is made where you live.
Unpopular opinion: Condoms really aren't so uncomfortable to be using that as an excuse to go raw... there's TOO MUCH birth control to be :accidentally pregnant"
Cheshire agreed 👏🏾
Unpopular opinion: if you and your husband have more than 3 kids, you won’t have enough time for all of them to get the attention they deserve.
MiVidaBellisima hmm 🤔
I be thinking that too! My boyfriend has 7 siblings and though they’re close to be so many of them, there is still clique-ness in the family where 1 or 2 is estranged. It’s too much chaos naturally with so many different bodies and personalities. The introduction of grandchildren makes things exponentially chaotic.
I agree honestly. Im the first born with my parents and my dad has five kids with his wife and even i see it. Especially since the last three are VERY close in age. My dad already isnt that type of father really and he works all the time to provide and my step mom works too and doesnt have the mental capacity for them all. I noticed when i go over i get sort of attached too very quickly. Yes its because im the way older sister who they dont see a lot but i always felt like it was also because i provide some attention that they dont get enough of. I was never sure though.
MiVidaBellisima and let not even talk about small children in different households! That’s whole a different level of chaos, bs, and drama.
Thanks to all of you for being HONEST! A lot of parents that placed themselves in that situation will swear til the end of time that they “love their kids and make time for each one equally” but love has nothing to do with it and there’s only 24 hours in a day so as a parent myself, this is definitely irresponsible. 🤷🏾♀️
You’re so pretty lol
Maeve Conner IKR!! Lowkey have a crush on her lmao
I feel attacked! Haha I live in a white area and I want a black friend so bad. Sometimes I get so mad at white ppl
Mozzarella • heeeyyyy giiiirrrrlll (I’m black btw)
“They can be invited to the picnic ” 😂😂
When you’re trying to get pregnant it’s like why is this so hard! Then I see all these girls on my timeline posting ultrasound pics with they baby daddy 😕
You know it's about to be lit when you see Derrius.
Your point about your nose job is kindah disagree with. Fixing a crooked, broken, busted nose is one thing .. but I think if a person will do a rhynoplasty on the nose that had from the womb to slim it down I think its erasing something about them. Maybe blackness, uniqueness etc.. but people should still do what they want to do
You do have to realize that smoking a cigarette is an addiction
Mandy okay then in the next lifetime when shit get too hard I’ll tell them to smoke crack
Which is what makes it so bad smh
Uncle Derr Ent. Because that’s what said?!?!?!? ..... k
Unpopular opinion: I’m here for Black Love❤️🙏🏽
JustLovelyQ 2020 as long as it isn’t “struggle love”
Kriss not necessarily. There are plenty of black couples who support one another emotionally, financially and love each other. But not all black relationships are like that though.
Kriss im guessing your a troll and probably not black...
Kriss ok definitely not black you would’ve said so...
Deanna John exactly 💯❤️
Ranch is bomb with chicken 😭
Thank you!! I cannot way chicken without some ranch
When I worked at a hospital, there was plenty of Nurses smoking cigarettes, and had the nerve to work in the Cancer unit and and cardiovascular unit. Like wtf 😂
UnPop : I feel sad for teenagers (14,15)having kids I feel they are and will be missing out on soo many things in life.
they are just as bad as adults they made those decisions. They couldn't live a childhood cause they already knew grown things. Yall excuse them because they are young but you will be surprised of how many kids know about the nasty. Let them learn.
That's their fault
@@fivestarfuego I really do feel bad if it was an legit “ accident” but not the ones who did it on purpose out of spite quick story I had a “friend” who got knocked up on purpose to piss off her mom and dad after they told her don’t bring no babies back well guess what she did? Poked holes in the condoms and even her then boyfriend didn’t really want kids but she was also doing it because he was cheating on her and she really thought it would save their one sided “relationship” well after she had the baby he dumped her and honestly I don’t feel bad for her because she would talk down on single mothers were we live and thought she was different because she wasn’t black 🤦🏽♀️ she ended up getting pregnant by another guy at 17 🤦🏽♀️
Yes to that pregnancy point!
people say pregnancy is both people faults, but ultimate its the woman's responsibility of who she lets inside her. it aint that difficult to take birth control or require the man to take it. its your body you take full responsibility for what goes in and come out of it. it is so easy to not get pregnant by accident with all these different forms or birth control its common sense
I think people say it's both people's responsibility because the man will have to pay child support (if they're not in a relationship)
Same girl. Never been on birth control and never been pregnant. My thing is, if you're letting a man nut in you, EVEN ON BIRTH CONTROL, you're giving yourself a bigger risk. If you ask me, condoms are the most effective thing there is. And people say condoms can break but I really don't know how lol Maybe someone can explain.
Exactly! And ppl need to stop letting men ejaculate inside of them!! Definitely not healthy for the ph balance of the vag
All I say to this is a nigga can’t complain about a woman deciding to have a child that he DOES NOT want if he went in raw. Only a retard would take that type of risk, especially if they not even in a relationship. Plus men are way too quick to trust the fact that women won’t bleed them out in child support, let alone even check or ask if she got a damn STD lmao
If he ain’t wrap it up I don’t feel one ounce of sympathy for him 🤷🏾♀️
This way of thinking is exactly why so many men leave their kids, because they think that ultimately it’s the mothers responsibility. You’re so dumb. Lol.
Russel Wilson didn’t ask for those praises.
Well no shit, the point is that he shouldn't be praised for common sense
Butter Francisco He’s getting that much praise because people are so used to seeing men abandon,cheat and embarrass their wives/girlfriends. So when a man that really shows he loves his woman like he’s supposed to,
people are going to go above and beyond.
@@watson8600 You don't say😲
She was kinda being hypocritical when she was talking about if you don’t post your significant other then y’all not even in a relationship, then said “why I gotta post to prove I got a relationship with god on social media the most toxic...” idk me and my boyfriend been together 2 years and we don’t ever post each other and we’ve pretty much lived together the whole time. We plan on getting married and having children. We have each other phone passwords but have never checked them. This sounds like someone’s who’s been cheated on and is scared they’ve got someone else, and that they’re scared they’ll see her.
Brooklyn Blount exactly! Can’t people just like to not post everything on social media
I didnt know that it was only certain days you could get pregnant i knew about ovulation but I thought you could get pregnant anytime during the month. And im 18 lmao sex education is shitty.
Umm no, you can get pregnant any day of the month however it is some days we're the chances are higher
No no no you can still get pregnant any day of the month but the chances are lower but if you are having sex make sure to take birth control and always use a condom because other than pregnancies there is always a risk of STD, and etc.
@@m.a2989 Exactly! I Agree 💯
Oh wow 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️bless y'all babies 🤣🤣🤣
No you cannot get pregnant ANYDAY of the month LORDT! Only when ovulating(that's when the egg is READY FOR SPERM)
YOU ONLY HAVE 1 CHANCE TO OVULATE AFTER EACH PERIOD, WHICH SHOULD BE ONCE A MONTH LOL.
Women who have no idea when they get pregnant is because they are shitty at tracking their period and ovulation. They just keep f*ckin without watching their bodies.
On the pregnancy thing, i think another excuse is lack of education. If you don’t know about contraceptives or ovulation, you could get “accidentally” pregnant.
Maybe if you’re 12.
Queen Chioma nah you would be surprised to the amount of young adults that are extremely uninformed
If you’re uninformed you shouldn’t be having sex.
jada I feel like ppl shouldn’t be having sex if you’re not going to educate yourself. It’s 2020, we live in the Information Age
Random person On UA-cam exactly why I said that lol
I agree! I just wish some girls will admit they wanted a baby. We're too advanced to use that "accident" excuse. We all know how babies are created.
Unpopular opinion: I'm tired of black women wearing 24/7 weave and calling it a protective style.
Patricia the astrologist then they are wearing it because of their condition. I'm talking about people how say they're hair is “natural” underneath but nobody has ever seen it
૨σყαℓ ƭεε even hairstylist say that protective styling can be abused and have the opposite effect. If you NEVER have you natural hair out chances are it's breaking off and unhealthy. Hair needs to breath and be left alone sometimes
@ May thank you! The damn wigs too!
Exactly . People be like “I love my natural hair “ but you will never see them with their natural hair. If you live your natural hair you will show just like you live that extensions !
@@highdefinition8261 if a black woman wear their hair out all of y'all just going to degrade her hair and call it a weave when it's not I've experienced it myself
I agree about the pregnancy is a choice argument. I’ve argued about this time and time again and you all are the first people I’ve found who have ever agreed. Excluding sexual assaults, pregnancy IS a choice and I’m tired of irresponsible couples and fuck buddies using abortions and a form of birth control. What is so hard about safe sex?!? Especially because people be out here having multiple partners. Like I get it’s your body, but our bodies were not made to have a bunch of abortions. I had a friend who had had 2 or 3 (I forget), but she asked me to go with her when she was 4 mos pregnant when she found a doctor who would do it because her boyfriend was abusive. I stopped being friends with her cause she made terrible choices. Like you have a violent boyfriend who lives with you and beat you up in front of your kid and then you invite friends over while he’s around to put us in harm’s way?! Another example: after having him freeload off of her and use her car etc and not pay rent while hardly working and clubbing every weekend, she decided to marry this manchild AND get pregnant by him again, but she kept that baby. I think they’re divorced now. Smdh like why do women make these kind of choices and then try to drag their friends into it and even worse, bring kids into the world with these psychos and then act like it was an accident? Ain’t no 🍆 ever gonna be that good to make me risk me and my child’s life. Sorry bout it!
unpopular opinion: i feel like black girls who are into rock, pop music like somewhere in the emo and punk rock era..should be normalized and not for other people to think they tryna become white. that’s what i feel
Unpopular opinions:
1. Sex can be for pleasure not just to create a baby.
2. If a man is telling a woman that they are not ready for a child and if the woman goes ahead and have it anyway, he has EVERY right to leave.
3. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD black women please stop saying you’re “protective styling” if you are wearing a wig 24/7. like if you hate your hair just say that lmfao 💀😭.
4. IF you do not have TWO fully black parents you are NOT black.
4. If one of them is mixed and the other black, you will be considered black lol
Unpopular opinion: planning to be a single mother is selfish and abusive.
Pretty Girl if you choose to get pregnant with an unreliable or absent “baby daddy,” or even from a sperm bank without a reliable partner, it’s selfish as fuck. Many of us know the pain of coming from single parent households but act like we shouldn’t do everything possible to prevent that for our kids (getting married to a stable and nurturing man before having kids.)
Pretty Girl single mother detected
If you become a single mother by choice via IVF. I see a lot on men and women doing this now due to all the wokeness and hating going on in the relationship world.
GET REAL yes that would be included under the “sperm bank” umbrella...
MiVidaBellisima I mean if you have money and a good support system (family and friends) or you don’t want to get married but have a child. Being a single parent by choice would be the best option or adopt so you don’t have to deal with or the baby momma/daddy drama.
I love these team ups with you and Derrius! Best duo
Love this seriesss!! Derrius is mad funny😂
Julie Camille Aww thank you sis ❤️
Unpopular opinion: black women have options too when it comes to dating.
Ima high schooler and I listened that we only want black male. These days, I switched our mindset and now I find other groups attractive. Out here expending my options and developing my feminine energy.
You haven’t watch good animé.
As soon as Derrius said his opinion about that, I went "aww hell naw!" 🤣🙅🏾
True asf
Anime awesome
Yes
Unpopular opinion: not every woman wants kids, especially in marriage. Women can be what they want, so please stop pushing women into gender roles unless that’s what they want to do. Women can still marry rich but choose not to be a housewife and have their own career too. Bc the husband that makes the most can afford a maid to clean the house,
I’m confused. Who would think it wasn’t? But blaming women isn’t going to solve anything. It takes a man and a woman so while pregnancy is a choice, child support isn’t so men need to strap it up.
agreed! I heard some stories from COUPLES about "accidental" pregnancies. And I was like. Guurl, that was never an accident, you just did not "protect" yourself enough. You 99% acted negligently and that is okay if you both wanted to have a child in general anyways and are now happy about the pregnancy. But if it had been a PRIORITY of you to not to become pregnant, you would have done what is needed for that, so yeah it is a choice somehow. But don't be acting like "ohh, it just happened, I am so suprised...naah". I sometimes feel like it's unfair for the baby Daddy when he was like "hey, not now because of bla" and she just acts negligently. But other times, both act like "whatever" we'll take the risk and hope it's gon be alright. I know that there are very rare expectations, where, for example the hormone spiral wasn't working or the ECP could not do anything anymore, when the condom tore. So many women take the pill like smarties and don't care when they forget a day or two.
yes I love Chioma and Derrius vids
Y’all funny! “Before I tasted the WHOHAA”😩😩😭😭😭😭☠️☠️☠️
Jason’s Lyric is nice and underrated.
Yes!
Some girls are envious of your relationship and will try to sabotage it and so will some guys.. that’s why some people don’t post ALL the time. Especially if you’re with a high class man or someone that spoils you all the time and they feel jealous and envious people will try to destroy that
I appreciate that Derrius said the “r-word”.
@Magdalia wait Chioma got like you know??
I mean I was the only black kid in my school except for my brother and we lived in a white neighborhood so where was I supposed to find a black friend?
You weren't...your folks decision to live in a predominantly white area has its consequences
You don't have to make friends strictly in the place you live. You can make friends by traveling to other locations for different reasons. Also I agree with what the above comment said too.
darius really said "be prepared to talk with a viocebox" LMFAO im screaming
This guy's voice is so calming I love it
Rafaela Thank you idk why a lot of people say that
I had black boyfriends but black girls be moving shady on me. Believe me, when I have a wedding I want to see MELANIN in that bridesmaids photo. But girls be weird.
You guys really just raised my spirit. That wig is fab and you look so beautiful Queen Chioma. 😘😘
The dynamic duo is back!!!
Lauren Bettis Thanks I love you too ❤️
Love and basketball was so overrated to me 😂. She basically was chasing him the whole time
Mr. Deep Voice is back! I co-sign at 8:14, what kills me is the same women shoving their kids down are throats, feel some type of way when you shove your traveling/purchases as well. I don't care what anyone says having kids is a big deal and should be well thought out, ppl literally can't even feed themselves and bring someone else in the situation bc they don't want to be alone.
You can get pregnant any time of the month though, it is much much higher chances during ovulation but you can get pregnant so PLEASE USE PROTECTION. Also you don't you need to post your relationship with god but you need to post your partner?
With the God thing, I feel like people do it to prove it to others. With relationships, I think people refrain from doing it because of the taboo that comes with it. All in all, i think with both, if you have a solid foundation with your God and your relationship, what's wrong with posting about it and why not post about it? Ya know lol 🤷🏾♀️😂
Ovulation is just 1 day with a couple days before & after as a fertile window.
Also, sperm can only survive for like 3 days.
Meandsushiroll that is not true. Please stop spreading lies.
@@catieq5270 thank you
Unpopular opinion: RANCH ABSOLUTELY BELONGS ON WINGS SIR/MA’AM!! 🗣👏🏾👏🏾😭🤣
Hey Choima I love you lots! But I disagree with your opinion with people sharing their relationship with God. I think it actually brings positivity to social media. It shines a light on the overlooked glory of God and inspires people to get close to God, which is what God wants.
P.S: I love you and Darrius’s videos!
He green af this nigga said “you gone start talking with a microphone in yo neck” 😂😂😂😂😂😭i freaking love y’all videos ❤️❤️❤️
TopNotchPie 😂😂😂😂😂 that shit was hilarious. I really had to cut out how bad I was laughing
TopNotchPie I had to say it because if you smoke cigs you heading down that road
I love you chioma but asoon as I saw derrius in this I had to click for his opinions and that 😂
I don't usually like when people bring guest on their channel but y'all energy really just goes together
I 100% agree about your pregnancy 🤰🏾 point
I grew up in a majority white town where I attempted to be friends with other black people. I had very few black friends here and there, but for the most part I just was never "black enough" for the black people I went to school with. I was raised to speak proper and I have different interests so I was considered nerdy and weird. So because I never fit in with them I went where people were nicer to me. Notice I said nicer and not nice. Because of that the very black people that already didn't accept me would then look at me up and down as if I think I'm better than them. I was heckled and bullied so much that would avoid being around the black people that I went to school with. Just because everytime I was around them they would start picking with me and would never leave me alone. I finally thought I found some black friends to be friends with and they ended up turning on me in the long run too. I'm still to this day trying to make black friends and everytime I still get comments about the way that I talk or dress. I personally don't think the way someone talks, dresses, or what they like should determine whether or not someone is black enough. These same people will readily invite white people to the cookout the moment they act or speak the same way they do. I've even seen them call them black. So at this point I'm just waiting until I can move to a more open minded area so I can meet black people that I can click with. For me it was never that I want led to hang out with white people more. I just was never accepted by my own people. I even at one point when I was younger tried to change myself just so I could have black friends and all they did was laugh behind my back. I'm only giving my story because on the outside it can look bad but some people are like me and were never accepted at all. I was raised to speak very proper (not white and nasally) and to be proper in the way that I carry myself. For some reason that's considered white😶
Ignorance is all over...to include whites and blacks.
Yes pregnancy is a choice but i would like to say there’s always that one percent who still get pregnant on BC. My sister had the IUD and got pregnant TWICE on it. But please do all you can to protect yourselves but the best protection is Abstinence. You have a 0% chance of getting pregnant that way. When having sex in general you can still get pregnant.
If you don’t use the bc properly you can get pregnant always use a mental tracker app too to help
Skinny legend Steve how do u not properly use an IUD tho lol
Monika Linn idk, I heard somewhere that sometimes people don’t use their bc correctly or read labels or follow up advice from their doctor after their friends asked why it failed. But anyways, what if you want to have sex but not want to get pregnant then what?
Skinny legend Steve iud is something they typically put in your arm... there’s no way to screw that up. Like i said if you want to have sex.. just know whether you are on birth control or not there is still a chance to get pregnant. What’s so hard to understand about that? So you shouldn’t be shocked at all that you are pregnant what u choose to do with your body is still your choice
Skinny legend Steve like there’s 3 different forms of bc there’s the pill(i assume that’s the one u can screw up on) there’s the IUD (insert) and then there’s depo (the shot) 2 out of 3 there’s no way to screw it up. But you can still get pregnant regardless there’s plenty of people who take bc regularly that still got pregnant
8:14 I agree! It’s annoying to hear “I got pregnant unexpectedly” especially when they refuse to take birth control or use condoms. I’ve been in a relationship for 3 years and I’m on the pill plus we use condoms every time. There’s just no excuse nowadays with all these resources available.
Unpopular opinion: y’all talk shit about black women who wear weaves but those be the same women with the longest hair. Tell me I’m lying cause Ik I’m not 👀
Zeniah Wilburn faxxx like just bc we where weave doesn’t mean we hate our natural hair or aren’t confident.People don’t understand the point of protective styles is to PROTECT and grow ur hair
I don’t wear weaves but I’m trying to grow my hair and I’m tired of it atm sooo I will definitely be wearing wigs, extensions etc.