How We Dated as Christians // Courtship, Boundaries, and Being Intentional

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  • @lutendomaiwashe1371
    @lutendomaiwashe1371 3 роки тому +88

    “Don’t finish in the flesh what God started in the Spirit”. Love this!

    • @itstrinitykaye
      @itstrinitykaye 3 роки тому +1

      💕💕

    • @jayela5274
      @jayela5274 2 роки тому

      Yaaaasssss and Amen!!! Gosh! This is exactly what I had to make a conscious decision to do, although it was hard! But God let your will be done. I'm relying on You to finish what You have started.

  • @WonderfulActs
    @WonderfulActs  3 роки тому +99

    Us: We're not giving advice
    Also Us: Gives all the advice
    Every dating story is unique! Follow Jesus and He will lead you the way you should walk in. Do you have any dating questions for us for a Q&A video?

    • @teap.9045
      @teap.9045 3 роки тому +1

      Would God ever have you marry someone who once dated your relative?

    • @noble604
      @noble604 3 роки тому

      This is a wonderful conversation. Do you have advice about family and parental involvement/guidance/ acceptance/ recommendation in Christian dating?
      What’s your advice to couples who haven’t been obedient? Do you believe they’re meant for each other or should they seek others and start anew?
      Do you think even quicker engagements are better... that if you truly believe the Lord has brought you together that you know and that’s enough to marry quickly?

    • @noble604
      @noble604 3 роки тому

      Also if it’s appropriate and you’re comfortable, would you touch on some of the things in your marriage that you say were rough?
      And would Sudan talk about marriage from a man’s perspective, what he would like, what he sees with women now, his successes, desires and challenges.
      Sudan touched on men and the issue of infidelity during and after a wife’s pregnancy. Would you share your conversations with men, red flags, advice to women, practical ways in marriage for women (communication styles, love languages, careers, parenting, sex, balancing time, issues with money, etc.)
      How did you manage during the pandemic lockdown? How did it affect your marriage? How do you “argue?”
      Lol loads of questions.
      Hope this is helpful.
      Blessings

    • @royalpriesthood02
      @royalpriesthood02 3 роки тому +1

      Dealing with finances? What you wish you knew before dating or marriage?

    • @MsAliciaVictoria
      @MsAliciaVictoria 3 роки тому

      Can you share more about the pre-marital counseling process from eachs' perspective?

  • @chepsweetie
    @chepsweetie 3 роки тому +31

    I love the way you don't cut off your husband while he's talking. Your character is beautiful ❤️

  • @ieishaburrows
    @ieishaburrows 3 роки тому +50

    Come on with the boundaries! 🙌🏾 You know you!! Not trying to create an environment for failure. What is we doing?? Either we're dating for marriage or not at all! Love it😊 now let me finish watching the video lol.

  • @adrienneknight3695
    @adrienneknight3695 3 роки тому +26

    This video on Christian courtship was soooo good. I wish more couples could hear this before making a decision to court looking to be married to each other or move on and wait for that right person. My husband and I could have used this info to help us. Keep the videos coming. You too are such a blessing.

  • @tanishaalexander1994
    @tanishaalexander1994 3 роки тому +7

    When he hit that “Pure Flix and chill”…bruh 😆🤚🏾

  • @sarivslife
    @sarivslife 2 роки тому +5

    y’all need a podcast ! this video was so so insightful. as someone who is currently in an intentional year of singleness, I’m loving and learning so much from these types of videos.

  • @christthelord91
    @christthelord91 3 роки тому +12

    I need friends like y'all!! I don't know other fellow millennials who are that sold out for Christ!! Would be great to have that community 🙌!! God continue to bless you guys to keep shining for him, everywhere you go, unapologetically, in Jesus name!!

    • @cynthiawebb972
      @cynthiawebb972 2 роки тому

      @ Marveline B, What area do you live in?…. I know of several churches in the Hampton Roads area of VA that have plenty of millennials…

  • @MaiOakInspires
    @MaiOakInspires 3 роки тому +54

    Lol 😂 this is an arranged marriage. Lord is the greatest matchmaker. Lord arrange for me. Amen

  • @jennifergianakos
    @jennifergianakos 2 роки тому +5

    Great video! Great advice! Inspiring!
    My boyfriend and I are coming out of a brief separation. This time around, I will remain celibate until I am a wife. I felt God calling me to this position during my times of prayer and conversations with Him during our separation. He and I will have a conversation about this matter very soon. Praying for God's will to be done.
    You both have given me encouragement.
    Thank you.

  • @Antyweszka
    @Antyweszka 3 роки тому +10

    One word: MATURITY❤️❤️❤️
    Thanks for that Collossian verse❤️ Church NEED it today❤️❤️❤️

  • @michellelogan9177
    @michellelogan9177 3 роки тому +16

    This was sooo good. I love the journey of how you courted one another, including God in your process and admittedly saying how some issues of lust did surface, but, yet y’all maintained the absence of sexual activity. I know that was hard. We can all say, what we won’t do while in singleness, can you maintain when he or she starts connecting with you in courting. Again, this was so much needed in today’s world. Please continue this dialogue with all of us.

    • @teresacoombs1917
      @teresacoombs1917 3 роки тому

      Thank you both so much for sharing, & the input you bring for "the community" to consider as we're being lead by the Lord. I understand God's way is right! God bless you; sincerely, with the Love of Christ.

  • @groundandcoffee
    @groundandcoffee 2 роки тому +3

    I’m glad I discovered this channel, I know God led me here. I’ve been told I’m intense for setting such boundaries and wanting something pure, so ima wait for husband.

  • @cecechampion4
    @cecechampion4 3 роки тому +11

    This is so encouraging and a confirmation to be Christ-focused. This is absolutely beautiful.

  • @jeanstoudemire9178
    @jeanstoudemire9178 3 роки тому +9

    Wow! This is exactly where in at in life right now. Im not interested in any games and wasting the rest of my youth with a guy that doesnt know what he wants or where hes going. Im 28 and im absolutely not interested in wasting anymore of my time. I needed this video so much.

    • @lauramannyvlogs6675
      @lauramannyvlogs6675 3 роки тому

      Oh I feel you! I’m 25 and living with my partner but we have both just become Christians. He is always playing ps4 and I really struggle to know if this relationship is what God wants for me, we are both now being celibate for marriage but it’s not easy when the relationship didn’t start with God.

    • @jeanstoudemire9178
      @jeanstoudemire9178 3 роки тому +1

      @@lauramannyvlogs6675 yea i understand your situation because i was in the exact same one plus we had a child. But as i realized that the person i was dealing with wasnt willing to change and follow the Lord with me, thats when i knew that a decision had to be made. I loved that person alot and wanted our family to work but i began to watch Christian advised videos on youtube and i was very convicted. I knew the life i wanted to live and that was following God and not following my sin anymore so i left and temptation did come and i did fall many times back into sin but God delivered me from that sinful path and now im completely free from that life i was living and im currently now living an abstinent life from sexual immortality and im waiting on the husband i know God has for me. Its a struggle at times being single but theres no going wrong with waiting on the one God has for me.

    • @lauramannyvlogs6675
      @lauramannyvlogs6675 3 роки тому

      @@jeanstoudemire9178 Thank you so much for sharing that! God will surely bring you the right Husband for you. That must have been really tough going through that. Thankfully my partner has submitted his life to God as well and he is starting to righteously. Before we became Christian’s only a month ago, the past 3 years we would fight a lot and our relationship was very toxic at times, that’s why now as a new Christian I’m praying for God to reveal to me how to renew our relationship and if he is the right man for me to marry. God has already been transforming our relationship so much with patience for each other and kindness and abstinence.

  • @Yasmine_WilliamsWoods
    @Yasmine_WilliamsWoods 3 роки тому +10

    I looooved seing the throwback pictures. They were just as beautiful as your love story. So much beauty and joy in this video! Thanks for sharing.

  • @untrendingtruth9682
    @untrendingtruth9682 2 роки тому +1

    So nice to see and hear a man with a HEART for God, and a desire to hear, listen to and serve Him 🙌🏿 Praise the Lord!!

  • @RBoyd-yt4sl
    @RBoyd-yt4sl Рік тому

    So much “WISDOM”!!! Christ centered Love Story! SO SWEET! I love how honest you both were, nothing more valuable then personal testimonies. Living this story. Thank You for sharing. The Pureness of a God Centered relationship. To God Be The Glory!

  • @heatherj.3393
    @heatherj.3393 3 роки тому +4

    I'm glad I stumbled upon this channel. This blesses me, my pregnancy and my marriage. Thank you. Keep em coming.

  • @mameafrane1725
    @mameafrane1725 3 роки тому +4

    Brother Sudan how you kidnapped for two videos in 1 week? Lol. Alyssa this is a great video. Christian dating can be difficult especially if you the “Christian” partner is not on the same level of growth spiritually.
    I have learned to not even look anymore cuz these fellas out be “claiming “ they are Christians yet not practicing purity. It’s hard out here. But I’m hopeful like you my sister. With God, all things are possible. Shout out to you guys and May God bless your unit on.
    Brother Sudan, I applaud you making the change you needed to make to make this Godly mirrage glory to God. Glory!

  • @JaNyaJohnson
    @JaNyaJohnson 3 роки тому +1

    Very much Needed! I am in a friendship/ relationship now that’s been going on for 3 years. I’m 20 he’s 21, he has the right mind set about marriage but lack of maturity and discipline to carry out what that looks like. I’ve prayed for God to literally take him away , but for some reason he’s always there fighting for what we have. Christian dating is a challenge and I am very thankful for you guys being so transparent.

  • @skillpreneurr
    @skillpreneurr 3 роки тому +3

    I love you guys! Thank for your sharing. When I was not sure if I wanted to marry my now husband. I watched one of your video, you have a similar dating story of mine. I choose to give him a chance and now we are happily married :D

  • @jeevagarraway3538
    @jeevagarraway3538 3 роки тому +5

    I loved this, is like holy Spirit was like listen to your brother and sister, I am preparing you. God bless you all 😇🙏

  • @firstmnm1
    @firstmnm1 3 роки тому +5

    This video is such a blessing! I was smiling the whole time. May God continue to bless and protect your union 😍😍😍

  • @whyisthisathingnow...
    @whyisthisathingnow... 3 роки тому +4

    I wish I still had that kind of optimism, but I feel it's faded over the past year especially after the one I thought would marry turned from God and left me as well :/ but I hope and pray someday that God will help me find the right one and that the fire I once had will start again.

    • @dajianelson2031
      @dajianelson2031 3 роки тому

      Mark 11:23
      "Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea,' and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them.”

    • @Yarddays
      @Yarddays 3 роки тому

      Keep focused! God got you!

  • @BHGMGlobal
    @BHGMGlobal 2 роки тому +1

    AMEN!! PRAISE GOD! Such a Godly couple. I enjoyed this video tremendously!

  • @BrooklyngirlLovesCrochet
    @BrooklyngirlLovesCrochet 3 роки тому +1

    So cool! There are good "rules" too. The word says that even the APPEARANCE of sin is wrong because we are to guard our testimony so it is wise to never be alone in a setting that could be misunderstood. Y'all did good. Thank you for discussing this. All singles, young and old should conduct themselves in this manner when courting. 👏

  • @wishingonthemoon1
    @wishingonthemoon1 2 роки тому

    Girl, your husband is sooo wise. God bless y’all and God bless y’all for practicing The Wait.

  • @offtheMarcKate
    @offtheMarcKate 3 роки тому +1

    Love that you shared in order to encourage others that there are Godly relationships out there! 😍 We also started our channel after my coworker heard our love story and encouraged us to pray about sharing online to encourage others to seek out Christ-centered relationships! It is crazy how much we have in common!! Marc also used the word “courtship” which is the same as what I understand to be “Christian dating” - to discern marriage. And we also talked about saving the first kiss until marriage right away!! And tried to do ministry together right away!! So encouraged to hear about your relationship 😍😄

  • @user-ng7yc3ku3x
    @user-ng7yc3ku3x 3 роки тому +3

    "This was an arranged marriage." 🤣 🤣. I can't stop laughing

  • @Dorotheexo
    @Dorotheexo 3 роки тому +1

    Hi Alyssa! This video came at the perfect time as this addressed or gave me a sense of direction for my current relationship. God really highlighted so many things as the two of you were talking.
    I just want to add also that I’m so happy for you and proud of your growth. God has used you so much and your life is literally a ministry of showcasing the glory and provision of God.
    You are a testament to all God can do and will do for those that are called according to his purpose and to those that truly submit to him and his will. Here we all are bearing witness at the orchestration of Gods hand in your life!
    God bless you and I can’t wait to see more of your growth x

  • @elizabethe9567
    @elizabethe9567 3 роки тому +3

    SO GOOD! THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR BEAUTIFUL STORY!

  • @EdwardSmart
    @EdwardSmart 3 роки тому +2

    Sounds like a Blessed relationship!

  • @aurielle.g
    @aurielle.g 3 роки тому

    Wow submission “to get under the mission” that’s a word! HELLO!!! ❤️

  • @anastasiaparker2017
    @anastasiaparker2017 3 роки тому

    You all’s boundaries remind me of my husband and I during courtship!!! 💕 I love it!!!

  • @JazzelleNorman
    @JazzelleNorman 3 роки тому

    Watched near enough the whole video with a smile on my face because the Lord himself knows how much I desire to enter into a courtship in my next relationship.
    I didn’t even know what a courtship was until I came across your channel so you video(s) have been really insightful.
    I really enjoyed hearing from yours & your husbands perspective. I appreciate you both taking the time out to keep it real get into it lol.
    May God continue to bless your family in Jesus name 🙏🏽🤍

  • @alphaandomega1332
    @alphaandomega1332 3 роки тому +2

    Awwwww 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰… I would love the discussion about the female friends/ male friends prior to marriage and after 🤔🤔🤔🤔 ….

  • @Rees-Howells
    @Rees-Howells 3 роки тому +2

    Mariam, come and see your UA-cam mum!
    This is a blessing!!! Thank you Wonderful Acts

    • @mariamyakung
      @mariamyakung 3 роки тому +1

      Definitely a blessing! Learnt a whole lot.

  • @mercyhunja4089
    @mercyhunja4089 3 роки тому

    So beautiful 🥰🥰
    May God continue to bless your family and marriage 🙌🏽
    If you are reading this May this be your portion and even more 🙌🏽🙏🏾

  • @ashleylee651
    @ashleylee651 3 роки тому +1

    This is sooo amazing! Your husband reminds me of Russell Wilson

  • @christnastubbs1603
    @christnastubbs1603 3 роки тому +4

    I’m so happy you posted this video. ❤️

  • @Jennifer-vp2ov
    @Jennifer-vp2ov 2 роки тому

    I love this so much ❤️❤️❤️ I can’t wait for the Lord to give me my husband 🥺

  • @ChosenDeeDee
    @ChosenDeeDee 3 роки тому

    And they say Godly man with good intentions do not. Thank you for sharing this video.💕

  • @Strawberries017
    @Strawberries017 3 роки тому +1

    All the “In another video” I hope that you do record all of them! This was such a great video 👍🏽

  • @lightjoy1919
    @lightjoy1919 3 роки тому +2

    That was great! Thank you so much sharing your story with us!! Very helpfjl.

  • @iamzionroar
    @iamzionroar 3 роки тому +2

    Blessed Love. Preciate Yall for sharing your story.

  • @royalpriesthood02
    @royalpriesthood02 3 роки тому +1

    Yes to the series keep them coming sis😊👏we love you all

  • @mapsonthemap4529
    @mapsonthemap4529 3 роки тому +2

    I am so thankful for this channel... every video you make is so encouraging....

  • @bridgetjones8716
    @bridgetjones8716 3 роки тому +1

    I wish you both & your family all the best. Relationship are not easy married or not.Thank you for sharing your story. I enjoyed it 😍👍🎉🎁

  • @manessa_
    @manessa_ 3 роки тому +1

    This is super off topic, but Alyssa I really love your nose. It’s so pretty 😂❤️

  • @lovereadingsnyc
    @lovereadingsnyc 3 роки тому

    YOU GUYS WERE ALWAYS BEAUTRIFUL BUT THE MOST HIGH GOD IS MAKING US ALL MORE BEAUTIFULE VERY DAY AND YOU TOO ARE FIRE DON'T STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @angelajackson3258
    @angelajackson3258 3 роки тому +2

    Love you two! Great role models!

  • @duyileopeyemi9192
    @duyileopeyemi9192 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for sharing! 🙌🏾

  • @breonnacannon
    @breonnacannon 3 роки тому +2

    Perfect timing !!

  • @untrendingtruth9682
    @untrendingtruth9682 2 роки тому +1

    The mom and man thing is REAL!! Do not IGNORE ladies 🚩🚩🚩🚩

  • @noble604
    @noble604 3 роки тому +1

    Beautiful video. Thank you. Blessings to you and your children.

  • @123ZoeMiss
    @123ZoeMiss 3 роки тому

    Loved the video!!! If possible, could you lower the music in the video as it was hard to focus on what you both were saying. x

  • @renitamargie
    @renitamargie 3 роки тому +2

    This was so helpful!! Thank you guys for sharing! 😊

  • @seyi500
    @seyi500 3 роки тому +1

    Wonderful video, and incredible story. Thank you for sharing!! God bless you both 🙏🏿🙏🏿

  • @candacedawn357
    @candacedawn357 3 роки тому

    I liked all of the pictures you inserted of you & your hubby. ❤😊

  • @23ieshia
    @23ieshia 3 роки тому +1

    Great topics: I appreciate your transparency! Love your love for each other. Can you guys do more videos like this? Also?, what other things are women & men to look for in a mate in God?

  • @canditate740
    @canditate740 8 місяців тому

    This is wisdom. Thank you❤

  • @tamaraslay
    @tamaraslay 3 роки тому +1

    Excited!🥰

  • @chaseback5102
    @chaseback5102 2 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing the weak moments. I feel that it was important to mention the sexual attraction.. Especially from when you shared that before, he was more like a “brother” and that you were not attracted to him initially. Sex is apart of marriage and I could only imagine how difficult It would be to engage with someone, whom you view as a bother/ without that attraction…
    Some people in the Lord would like to say that, sexual attraction towards your betrothed is sinful and that one is in the flesh… But God created sex, therefore he also created the desire……To your point… desire not Controlled by the Holy Spirit definitely leads to lust. It’s important how we decide to conduct ourselves after the desire is noticed and it helps the relationship when you both agree to purity.

  • @Ladybug12.
    @Ladybug12. 3 роки тому +1

    Oh yah first comment:)

  • @latonyadampier9449
    @latonyadampier9449 2 роки тому

    Praise GOD! Amen!

  • @stellaejoseph7729
    @stellaejoseph7729 Рік тому

    To say the least; Christian marriages are sweet. The best in love is finding your soulmate ❤🎉

  • @DrCareyYazeedTV
    @DrCareyYazeedTV 3 роки тому

    I loved this video. Thank you for your honesty and transparency 💜

  • @tonyrichards9794
    @tonyrichards9794 3 роки тому

    Watching from zambia 🇿🇲

  • @kenkoolhimes
    @kenkoolhimes 2 роки тому

    Love this!

  • @tawanadarshae
    @tawanadarshae 3 роки тому

    This was really good guys!!

  • @eww4306
    @eww4306 3 роки тому +1

    Goals ❤🙏🏽🙌🏽

  • @jamienl207
    @jamienl207 Рік тому

    Love this video ❤

  • @itstrinitykaye
    @itstrinitykaye 3 роки тому

    Loved this!! Thanks for sharing!

  • @princessaudu6571
    @princessaudu6571 3 роки тому

    First time on your channel and I watched till the end! Great video, I was blessed

  • @christthelord91
    @christthelord91 3 роки тому

    Love this. Thank you for this

  • @ΑντρέαςΣωτηρίου-π8γ

    You guys are so cute ! Like the Chemistry and the God Love !

  • @deshontadavis1455
    @deshontadavis1455 3 роки тому

    I love you guys!!!

  • @christthelord91
    @christthelord91 3 роки тому

    I think y'all should start a church. Sudan would be a great pastor and Alissa, a great first lady!

  • @Anti-democratChick
    @Anti-democratChick 2 роки тому

    Sister, you are beautiful ❤️

  • @revelsoundscape
    @revelsoundscape Рік тому

    Any recommendations on books to read in dating?

  • @jaykay5086
    @jaykay5086 3 роки тому

    Me: God if they not the one close the door
    *gets ghosted with a quickness*
    Me: oh ok... every time 😭

  • @DaughterofYah101
    @DaughterofYah101 3 роки тому

    ❤️✨☁️🦋

  • @jaem521
    @jaem521 3 роки тому

    Hello, can you please check your email for a private message from me...

  • @AngelaWang724
    @AngelaWang724 3 роки тому +19

    So excited to watch this!!🤍🤍🤍 you guys make a wonderful couple🤗

  • @cheniseyvette
    @cheniseyvette 2 роки тому +1

    The obedience that the both of you had and have is astounding. Thank you for displaying that it is possible to date under God also that there are men who can resist temptation and respect and view a womans body as well as his own as a temple .🙏