That’s cus Cali has the most Asians in the U.S so everyone flip flopping from one group to another unlike Wisconsin where it’s a more tight knit community.
You hit it on the nail at the end. When a friend group is all about fun, it can easily turn toxic. They rarely share common values that are actually worth living for. They only value shallow things that often leads to jealousy, envy, and drama. It’s so important to cut those relationships as you get older. You will feel bad cutting those relationships because of the memories you created over the years but you will feel empty keeping those relationships.
You are spot on the point. I just cut them off out of my life left and right, I am too old for the bs. If you are able to remove yourself from that environment, your peace outweighs the memories you have with them in the past.
I mean I am Latino and my best friends and I have know each other since we were five, even my neighbors care for me . we are always interchanging fruits, bread , lunch, is all about caring and sharing with each other
I went to college with a bunch of cliquey and toxic Asian people. They would hangout with you and be besties/buddy buddy but really they be talking behind your back. They would make fun of your quirky habits sometimes. I hungout with everyone because I like making new friends, but nope they would didn't like that I did. I left highschool and all that immaturity behind just to fall into it again in college. SMH!
I am Hmong and I am from OC (714) and I grew up with Vietnamese, Laos, Filipinos, Koreans, Chinese, and other asians. I find that all of my different asian friends, love to hang out with us Hmong folks now because (we are very low profile) and we don't hold any grudge, competitiveness, malevolent behaviors, and hierarchy. I accept all humans in my group, including all other colored humans, not just asians.
You guys are awesome, you talk about alot of interesting things. Its gives me something to think about, or something i never knew about, especially when it comes to Asians😊👏🙌
Really was only an issue in highschool asian friend groups to be honest. I find that everyone was just trying to find people they related to in terms of their at home life and culture, naturally forming these asian friend groups. Problem with this is, as you guys mentioned, is that you really don't have too great of a choice for who's in these groups. The only reason these friend groups stay on stereotypical surface-level topics is due to the fact that everyone actually doesn't know eachother so they go through a flowchart of topics. After highschool you're much more free to chose who you associated with on a regular basis, so I feel like these friend group stereotypes dissapear. Also, love how you're both wearing pieces made by Richie, showing the love 🙏
I also remember attending MAASU in Chicago my freshmen year of college - Midwest Asian American Conference. The speaker for our session asked everyone to share something different about themselves. A girl in my group raised her hand and said 'I don't like it that I have a strong accent bc English is my second language' - the speaker: 'Are you Hmong?', girl: 'yea'... speaker: 'that explains why!' And rolled his eyes. Everyone was disgusted by the speaker's response. Luckily her sweet boyfriend (not Hmong) stood up to her defense and said 'it's different and unique. That's why I love her.' I feel some people are just too rude.
midwest asians are the most toxic ones i know - either they are cliquey but WAY more often i see each asian try to avoid other asians bc they're afraid of being in the 'asian group' box by white people - they then try to tokenize themselves as the "cool asian" to nonasian people. it's gross.
The comment about the distinction between millennial asians vs gen z asians is spot on. As a millennial Asian I see all these tik tok commentary made by gen z asians and a lot of it is unrelatable. I grew up in an area with a lot of Asians and we never had any of this east asian vs southeast asian division crap (and yes, I'm southeast asian). Literally if you were just Asian, you were accepted as part of a friend group and there wasn't any of this stuff that these gen z asians are talking with the EA vs SEA or whatever. The only sort of 'division' there was back then was diaspora asians vs the 'FOB' Asians as we called them (which is a term I don't use anymore and tbh no one should use anymore) but it was never a topic of debate. We just didn't hang with each other (but now I do, sometimes more than other westernized asians) But, I will give them this. Nearly every Asian friend group I had there was always some sort of petty drama, and admittedly a few were backtalky and judgmental. I also saw plenty of stitches to the OG tiktok that talked about how the guys in the groups would only be there to try to date the pretty girls which always led to drama and that is something that has been VERY true in my experience.
💯💯💯 True that!!! Seriously, the age/gen thing is soooo crazy! As a Korean-American, we were sooo not like that back in the day!!! And I agree with you, even from an area with a ton of Asians, basically we all stuck together pretty much, except for the Filipinos who they usually always chose to hang out with the Hispanics (but there was no friction because of it), but most of the Thai, Vietnamese, etc. all hung out with Koreans & Chinese, and it was all cool, like there was not any of this weird toxic animosity or separation between friends. 🤷♀️ Ah, I do miss the good ole days, I guess... 🤭🤗🥰
I grew up having diverse friends of racial backgrounds. It's later in life that i befriended people of the same race and i like it because we like similar foods and have same values. Nothing wrong. I still hang out with my Latino friends, but there's nothing wrong being friends with people of the same race.
Bro , as a bangladeshi 🇧🇩and south Asian i can feel this toxicity in friend groups They pretend to be your friend But in real they treat you like shit in their mind they don't want you to be good at study or in person life and career . And they bully you for your looks or voice or hair or poverty And sometimes skin color clothing Food choices etc etc 😂😂😂😂 yes we are toxic and racist .....
Depends... I've seen non Asian groups be toxic too.... friendships tend to be cliche orient when there are nothing but money or good looks to drive them. People are naturally competitive and cooperative and friendly groups need to meet often enough to be friendly and share stuff. Game Theory says that one shot or rare events tend to be zero sum and competitive while repeating events tend to be cooperative and friendly.
For those eggheads who want to know more: Matchmaking multiple players for optimal multiple results is done in computer science classical problem for multiple organ donor to multiple organ transplant recipients over a large population of players (N:M cooperative matchmaking). disclosure: My friends including my Asian American friends tend to think the same and are on the same cognitive, psychological intellectual and academic level. Being of Asian descent does not automatically make a person compatible relationship wise. My oldest friendships go as far back to the 1960s - I agree that some "good looking " or "elite" or "rich" people can be toxic, shallow and rude. I agree that internet based social networking has allowed the younger generation of Asian Americans easier access to Asian based cultural option/choice to emulate and follow.... like J-pop and K-pop.... that did not exist when I was growing up (disrupting the cultural biases/barriers/monopolistic powers against Asian culture in the Americas). In addition, social networking makes it harder for propaganda sexism racism and other toxic behavior to exist without push back from society.
Especially if you're mixed... You'll often feel or have experienced the most hate from everyone even those that share the same mixtures as you... There's always been a lot of beta hating simp manginas... The chicks??? Not so much so at all... and if they did hate then they often tried to show love or hate by being easy or kind...it's the males that always had the biggest attitude insecurity attention clout chasing problems that I couldn't understand why until I've taken redpills to learn about the biological psychological aspects of men wanting to guard or pouche eachother in the most toxic ways over being in a scarcity mindset and not wanting to be with chicks that match them much at all emotionally because most just wanted seggsual access and variety of it due to greed and ego problems. Even till this very day many azn males have a bunch of side beaches and thug gangster types often cheat and beat... A lot of azn males bring that toxic egocentric heat... But the younger gen z cats are often a lot more softer and chill despite still some of them being toxic beta simp asf about 304s and trying to white Knight paying full prices and overvaluing beaches that been giving it up fast free and easy while using most of them for trips and prizes. Stop the simping! 😂
if you grew up in a majority asian area, asian friend groups came naturally, because you are the majority. there might be issues with asians who live out where they are super minnority and are forced together despite the fact that they would never have been friends if they lived in asia. same thing with implants from minnority areas to majority areas, the people who grew up there generally already have established friends, what i notice from comments on the original video, is that most ppl commenting are not enclave asians, and moved to an asian area or found fellow asians in college and went over to be friends with them, this is not really an organic friendship, as the criteria for choosing your friend was race alone. where as, in asian enclaves, there were plenty of fellow asians that we didn't like to hang out with, so we didn't, but if there were only 10 of us total in the whole neighborhood, maybe we would have hung out with these people we and it would have ruined the group.
💯💯💯 Great points! Yes, so true... I lucky to have grown up with a huge Asian population, so all the friend groups were made out of personal choice and experiences, or common interest/backgrounds, etc., VS. not having any other choice because that's all that is available.
💯💯💯 Great points! Yes, so true... I was lucky to have grown up with a big Asian population, so all the friend groups were made out of personal choices/preferences, shared experiences, or common interests/backgrounds, etc., VS. not having any other choice, because that's all that was available. Even though a lot of us have grown apart as adults now, if any of my closest friends from growing up called me in the middle of the night, I'd still be there for them immediately, no questions asked, and have their back 100% till the very end.
Id agree. Growing up Filipino-American in SF with all types of ethnic groups, I've noticed Filipino groups tend to be the most toxic. They're always gossiping, comparing, and talking shit.
Sadly, I had the same experience in my high school, especially the girls. Many had a princess complex and would insult people to their faces. The guys seemed more like jokesters though.
Same in my school experience most of the extreme assholes were the really thuggish wannabe gangster Pacific Islander kids and the arrogant, superficial, poser Asian kids 😂 I’m both so I can say that I kind of understand both sides lol
It depends on what type of "Asian" group we are talking about. Is it a Pan-Asian ABC, Amboy/girl group, or is it all the same ethnicity? I feel that the mixed Asian groups are more open minded.
Andrews smart for pointing that part at the end tho... We gotten hate from our own not being pure blooded in anything so we recognize nonsense more often than most others do. FACTS! 💯 I love anybody real and not toxic
It’s a culture thing. Here in Hawaii we have mixed group friends (Asian, White, Polynesian, Black). We all share the same values and interests growing up in Hawaii.
25yo half filipino who grew up in a full filipino immigrant house 20+ people. Growing up was wierd af trying to hangout with the local filipino kids due to not getting great grades being a halfbreed and getting in trouble. It was like i had some kind of plague, unless I went with my cousins and then highschool hit and it was even more cliqued up.
Lol I’m Japanese American, from Hawaii, went to high school in a country town in WA state, and am 42..I had lots of different Asian friends and a few white, Polynesian, actually many races..it felt mostly like we went off of individual personalities, not our race..we did stick together because we didn’t automatically fit in with the white kids, plus we had more in common..
I’m a millennial Filipino and in college the Filipino club had a bad rep of being super cliquey and exclusive and the Chinese club was very welcoming towards me and didn’t even care I wasn’t Chinese lol.
I really don't see how this is racial-specific. Tons of people face the same issue, but it just means you're mingling with the wrong crowd. A lot of us have experienced calling someone who you thought was a "friend" only to have them backstab you when an opportunity presented itself for them to use you as a sacrificial pawn. True loyalty is hard to find, especially when it takes years to forge.
Grew up in a super white area in the US so there like very few other Asians, and just this year found an Asian friend group which I feel like is somewhere in-between? I feel like everyone is super nice in general since there aren't a ton of other Asians around, but sometimes feels a little like everyone is comparing themselves in terms of looks, although not in a competitive way perhaps, because everyone is an adult and have their own other friend groups haha
I was waiting for this video!! To add my personal experience, as a late millennial possibly early gen z, my school was like 90% asian. All the different cliques and groups were extremely nice and not toxic, to me at least. Sure, there was some general high school fakeness but its typical at that age. HOWEVER, college was a different story. That's where the frat culture and student org culture gets thrown into the mix and not to mention CHRISTIAN Asian groups. The amount of homophobia and racism and hypocrisy.
The anti gay stuff is justified. The I Ching before the Bible existed clearly states marriage is between one man and one woman. Well the Austrineans are a lesser ethnic group. Blacks and Hispanics have tendency to be trouble makers unless they behave like Gonzalo Lira, Ted Cruz, Larry elder, Thomas Sowell, Allen West, and etc.
I am a "Baby Boomer". I didn't grow up with alot of Asians in school. My brothers & I were the very few in our school in the 60's. We were the only Asians (Chinese) in our community for a long time. It didn't bother me. It was the way it was. Alot of racism back then. Called names just because the colour of our skin. But, most people were kind. But, the "bad apples" always stood out from the crowd. Attention whores. I find more divisiveness now. And people who were racists & who hid in their closets...are now, very out-spoken & aggressive. It has become even worse. The US is scary. We have it in Canada too. But, you just have more people than we do. Always interesting topics. Thank you for sharing this video with us. 👍🇨🇦😊 So many different Asian groups now. More immigrants than ever. The pool of Asians are so diverse now & so many different cultures and backgrounds. It is alot different when I grew up.
Decades ago, a relative working in a restaurant who was having baby, and share the good news with his coworkers. They told him his wife was having an affair with her boss, and asked 'how do you know this is your baby?'. My relative forced his wife to have an abortion. Family members stopped him from getting a divorce; but he had never stop abusing his wife, even today. Recently he learned his wife had never met coworkers, but so used to abusing his wife, he doesn't know how to stop.
So maybe the solution is to not hang out with just Asians all the time? To test the waters and find your fit outside of those social circles and not just hang out with other Asians all the time because they're also the race you are? But of course hardly anyone will do that and therefore nothing will change.
" I, against my brothers. I and my brothers against my cousins. I and my brothers and my cousins against the world." Depending on the community you are in, the more Asians the finer the separation as per the quote.
as an adoptee (have to preface this everytime) i definitely cant relate at all to this trend. like white people do the exact same thing lmao making starbucks, their favorite sports team, and italian food their entire personality. and the whole "carbon copies" thing completely ignores the fact that asian americans were forced into enclaves to survive racial hostility. we dont have a choice in this country to develop individuality because things like the model minority myth and perpetual foreigner myth lump us all together anyway. thats why i dont get ppl who criticise you two "obsessed about being asian" like no, I am grateful that you guys talk about this stuff. enclave asians take it for granted that they lived in a community where they could wholly embrace their asianness. even if that definition was narrow. im not justifying the toxicity, i know enclavers myself who dissociate from their identities due to this very problem, but i think this "superficial asianness" shouldnt be blamed on these asian americans, but rather on the the lack of systemic power asians have in the west, the marginalization, and the anti asian racism that existed for so long. Like, I literally see these stitchers saying this exact thing, that the source is rooted in stereotypes...well then maybe you should actually advocate for something instead of just creating discourse that goes nowhere??? edit: asians really know NOTHING about other races. maybe thats the real problem. y'all project problems you think are specific to being asian as if making such broad negative statements doesnt scream self hatred. this is why i fully believe that token asians tend to be far more racially aware than enclave asians.
💯💯💯 I'll 100% take a "difficult" friend that I know is loyal and always down for me, than a fake nice, easy-going, "friend", that you know is a snake inside and would betray you for less than nothing.
I loved my High school friend group! 2 whites, 2 Asian-mixed, 2 Koreans, 1 Indian. We got so many awesome cultural experiences, thanks to our friendship and our parents inviting all of us to everything!
@@claram4983 Filipinos are a strange people, more Western than Eastern. Their religion is from the Middle East, they have names like Jonathan and William and their surnames are Hispanic.
Imagine sitting in a boba place listening to other peoples conversations 😂 who gives a fuck what people in a boba shop talk about? I doubt answer is talking about deep topics 24/7 when he’s outside of UA-cam.
Lived in California and Wisconsin. Wisconsin Asians seem better at watching out for one another. Cali not so much unless you find that niche set.
to be fair people from California don't really look out for each other to begin with.
yup im an asian from cali and u spot on. i found the right group tho, very caring
@@ssibal.inu1It's likely because there's way more Asians in California so there's less on a strong need to protect each other
That’s cus Cali has the most Asians in the U.S so everyone flip flopping from one group to another unlike Wisconsin where it’s a more tight knit community.
the people who shit on other asians for having an all-asian friend group are just self-haters who are too awkward to fit in, so they cope by hating
You hit it on the nail at the end. When a friend group is all about fun, it can easily turn toxic. They rarely share common values that are actually worth living for. They only value shallow things that often leads to jealousy, envy, and drama. It’s so important to cut those relationships as you get older. You will feel bad cutting those relationships because of the memories you created over the years but you will feel empty keeping those relationships.
You are spot on the point.
I just cut them off out of my life left and right, I am too old for the bs. If you are able to remove yourself from that environment, your peace outweighs the memories you have with them in the past.
The shallow materialism is a big issue.
I mean I am Latino and my best friends and I have know each other since we were five, even my neighbors care for me . we are always interchanging fruits, bread , lunch, is all about caring and sharing with each other
I went to college with a bunch of cliquey and toxic Asian people. They would hangout with you and be besties/buddy buddy but really they be talking behind your back. They would make fun of your quirky habits sometimes. I hungout with everyone because I like making new friends, but nope they would didn't like that I did. I left highschool and all that immaturity behind just to fall into it again in college. SMH!
High school never ends. Elements of high school have a residual effect in many walks of life
Thats why diversity is important
Just find better friends and move on.
Not all groups obviously but definitely definitely relate, and have seen it, and I understand where it’s all coming from.
I am Hmong and I am from OC (714) and I grew up with Vietnamese, Laos, Filipinos, Koreans, Chinese, and other asians. I find that all of my different asian friends, love to hang out with us Hmong folks now because (we are very low profile) and we don't hold any grudge, competitiveness, malevolent behaviors, and hierarchy. I accept all humans in my group, including all other colored humans, not just asians.
You guys are awesome, you talk about alot of interesting things. Its gives me something to think about, or something i never knew about, especially when it comes to Asians😊👏🙌
Really was only an issue in highschool asian friend groups to be honest. I find that everyone was just trying to find people they related to in terms of their at home life and culture, naturally forming these asian friend groups. Problem with this is, as you guys mentioned, is that you really don't have too great of a choice for who's in these groups. The only reason these friend groups stay on stereotypical surface-level topics is due to the fact that everyone actually doesn't know eachother so they go through a flowchart of topics. After highschool you're much more free to chose who you associated with on a regular basis, so I feel like these friend group stereotypes dissapear.
Also, love how you're both wearing pieces made by Richie, showing the love 🙏
the people who shit on other asians for having an all-asian friend group are just self-haters who are too awkward to fit in, so they cope by hating
I also remember attending MAASU in Chicago my freshmen year of college - Midwest Asian American Conference. The speaker for our session asked everyone to share something different about themselves. A girl in my group raised her hand and said 'I don't like it that I have a strong accent bc English is my second language' - the speaker: 'Are you Hmong?', girl: 'yea'... speaker: 'that explains why!' And rolled his eyes. Everyone was disgusted by the speaker's response. Luckily her sweet boyfriend (not Hmong) stood up to her defense and said 'it's different and unique. That's why I love her.' I feel some people are just too rude.
midwest asians are the most toxic ones i know - either they are cliquey but WAY more often i see each asian try to avoid other asians bc they're afraid of being in the 'asian group' box by white people - they then try to tokenize themselves as the "cool asian" to nonasian people. it's gross.
The comment about the distinction between millennial asians vs gen z asians is spot on. As a millennial Asian I see all these tik tok commentary made by gen z asians and a lot of it is unrelatable. I grew up in an area with a lot of Asians and we never had any of this east asian vs southeast asian division crap (and yes, I'm southeast asian). Literally if you were just Asian, you were accepted as part of a friend group and there wasn't any of this stuff that these gen z asians are talking with the EA vs SEA or whatever. The only sort of 'division' there was back then was diaspora asians vs the 'FOB' Asians as we called them (which is a term I don't use anymore and tbh no one should use anymore) but it was never a topic of debate. We just didn't hang with each other (but now I do, sometimes more than other westernized asians)
But, I will give them this. Nearly every Asian friend group I had there was always some sort of petty drama, and admittedly a few were backtalky and judgmental. I also saw plenty of stitches to the OG tiktok that talked about how the guys in the groups would only be there to try to date the pretty girls which always led to drama and that is something that has been VERY true in my experience.
💯💯💯 True that!!! Seriously, the age/gen thing is soooo crazy! As a Korean-American, we were sooo not like that back in the day!!!
And I agree with you, even from an area with a ton of Asians, basically we all stuck together pretty much, except for the Filipinos who they usually always chose to hang out with the Hispanics (but there was no friction because of it), but most of the Thai, Vietnamese, etc. all hung out with Koreans & Chinese, and it was all cool, like there was not any of this weird toxic animosity or separation between friends. 🤷♀️
Ah, I do miss the good ole days, I guess... 🤭🤗🥰
I grew up having diverse friends of racial backgrounds. It's later in life that i befriended people of the same race and i like it because we like similar foods and have same values. Nothing wrong. I still hang out with my Latino friends, but there's nothing wrong being friends with people of the same race.
hot take!
i dont think u get it my guy
Bro , as a bangladeshi 🇧🇩and south Asian i can feel this toxicity in friend groups
They pretend to be your friend
But in real they treat you like shit in their mind they don't want you to be
good at study or in person life and career . And they bully you for your looks or voice or hair or poverty
And sometimes skin color clothing
Food choices etc etc
😂😂😂😂 yes we are toxic and racist .....
Depends... I've seen non Asian groups be toxic too.... friendships tend to be cliche orient when there are nothing but money or good looks to drive them. People are naturally competitive and cooperative and friendly groups need to meet often enough to be friendly and share stuff. Game Theory says that one shot or rare events tend to be zero sum and competitive while repeating events tend to be cooperative and friendly.
For those eggheads who want to know more: Matchmaking multiple players for optimal multiple results is done in computer science classical problem for multiple organ donor to multiple organ transplant recipients over a large population of players (N:M cooperative matchmaking). disclosure: My friends including my Asian American friends tend to think the same and are on the same cognitive, psychological intellectual and academic level. Being of Asian descent does not automatically make a person compatible relationship wise. My oldest friendships go as far back to the 1960s - I agree that some "good looking " or "elite" or "rich" people can be toxic, shallow and rude. I agree that internet based social networking has allowed the younger generation of Asian Americans easier access to Asian based cultural option/choice to emulate and follow.... like J-pop and K-pop.... that did not exist when I was growing up (disrupting the cultural biases/barriers/monopolistic powers against Asian culture in the Americas). In addition, social networking makes it harder for propaganda sexism racism and other toxic behavior to exist without push back from society.
Not all skinfolk are kinfolk
Especially if you're mixed... You'll often feel or have experienced the most hate from everyone even those that share the same mixtures as you... There's always been a lot of beta hating simp manginas... The chicks??? Not so much so at all... and if they did hate then they often tried to show love or hate by being easy or kind...it's the males that always had the biggest attitude insecurity attention clout chasing problems that I couldn't understand why until I've taken redpills to learn about the biological psychological aspects of men wanting to guard or pouche eachother in the most toxic ways over being in a scarcity mindset and not wanting to be with chicks that match them much at all emotionally because most just wanted seggsual access and variety of it due to greed and ego problems. Even till this very day many azn males have a bunch of side beaches and thug gangster types often cheat and beat... A lot of azn males bring that toxic egocentric heat... But the younger gen z cats are often a lot more softer and chill despite still some of them being toxic beta simp asf about 304s and trying to white Knight paying full prices and overvaluing beaches that been giving it up fast free and easy while using most of them for trips and prizes. Stop the simping! 😂
if you grew up in a majority asian area, asian friend groups came naturally, because you are the majority. there might be issues with asians who live out where they are super minnority and are forced together despite the fact that they would never have been friends if they lived in asia.
same thing with implants from minnority areas to majority areas, the people who grew up there generally already have established friends, what i notice from comments on the original video, is that most ppl commenting are not enclave asians, and moved to an asian area or found fellow asians in college and went over to be friends with them, this is not really an organic friendship, as the criteria for choosing your friend was race alone. where as, in asian enclaves, there were plenty of fellow asians that we didn't like to hang out with, so we didn't, but if there were only 10 of us total in the whole neighborhood, maybe we would have hung out with these people we and it would have ruined the group.
The most well versed people socially are people who grew up in diverse friendgroups or prioritize having a diverse friendgroup
💯💯💯 Great points! Yes, so true... I lucky to have grown up with a huge Asian population, so all the friend groups were made out of personal choice and experiences, or common interest/backgrounds, etc., VS. not having any other choice because that's all that is available.
💯💯💯 Great points! Yes, so true... I was lucky to have grown up with a big Asian population, so all the friend groups were made out of personal choices/preferences, shared experiences, or common interests/backgrounds, etc., VS. not having any other choice, because that's all that was available.
Even though a lot of us have grown apart as adults now, if any of my closest friends from growing up called me in the middle of the night, I'd still be there for them immediately, no questions asked, and have their back 100% till the very end.
Id agree. Growing up Filipino-American in SF with all types of ethnic groups, I've noticed Filipino groups tend to be the most toxic. They're always gossiping, comparing, and talking shit.
Sadly, I had the same experience in my high school, especially the girls. Many had a princess complex and would insult people to their faces. The guys seemed more like jokesters though.
Yes. My brother didn't join Filipino groups for that reason. The tsismosos and tsismosas. Two faced.
Same in my school experience most of the extreme assholes were the really thuggish wannabe gangster Pacific Islander kids and the arrogant, superficial, poser Asian kids 😂 I’m both so I can say that I kind of understand both sides lol
Bruh I’m black but those stitches to those videos were all over my ForYou 😭😭😭 people WENT IN
It depends on what type of "Asian" group we are talking about. Is it a Pan-Asian ABC, Amboy/girl group, or is it all the same ethnicity? I feel that the mixed Asian groups are more open minded.
Andrews smart for pointing that part at the end tho... We gotten hate from our own not being pure blooded in anything so we recognize nonsense more often than most others do. FACTS! 💯 I love anybody real and not toxic
It’s a culture thing. Here in Hawaii we have mixed group friends (Asian, White, Polynesian, Black). We all share the same values and interests growing up in Hawaii.
Most people are toxic in their 20s
25yo half filipino who grew up in a full filipino immigrant house 20+ people. Growing up was wierd af trying to hangout with the local filipino kids due to not getting great grades being a halfbreed and getting in trouble. It was like i had some kind of plague, unless I went with my cousins and then highschool hit and it was even more cliqued up.
Lol I’m Japanese American, from Hawaii, went to high school in a country town in WA state, and am 42..I had lots of different Asian friends and a few white, Polynesian, actually many races..it felt mostly like we went off of individual personalities, not our race..we did stick together because we didn’t automatically fit in with the white kids, plus we had more in common..
in bay area here and prefer diverse friends and also asian friends . as long as you are open minded and can eat everything
I’m a millennial Filipino and in college the Filipino club had a bad rep of being super cliquey and exclusive and the Chinese club was very welcoming towards me and didn’t even care I wasn’t Chinese lol.
Kaba lol bunch of racist fucks
So Asian social circles sound tough
I really don't see how this is racial-specific. Tons of people face the same issue, but it just means you're mingling with the wrong crowd. A lot of us have experienced calling someone who you thought was a "friend" only to have them backstab you when an opportunity presented itself for them to use you as a sacrificial pawn. True loyalty is hard to find, especially when it takes years to forge.
Never grew up around other Asians, and I always wanted to have an Asian friend group… but this topic has me like 🤔🤔
They really are
Yuss !!! They neeeed to make a modern looney college "toxic Asian/American friend group" film ! 😅
Just go to Irvine
I don't talk boba and rave, I just talk AI and Blender. And I blend in any group as slightly nerdy or alien.
Grew up in a super white area in the US so there like very few other Asians, and just this year found an Asian friend group which I feel like is somewhere in-between? I feel like everyone is super nice in general since there aren't a ton of other Asians around, but sometimes feels a little like everyone is comparing themselves in terms of looks, although not in a competitive way perhaps, because everyone is an adult and have their own other friend groups haha
I know, I have non Asian friends group. Too much competition within friendship on status and wealth.
I was waiting for this video!! To add my personal experience, as a late millennial possibly early gen z, my school was like 90% asian. All the different cliques and groups were extremely nice and not toxic, to me at least. Sure, there was some general high school fakeness but its typical at that age. HOWEVER, college was a different story. That's where the frat culture and student org culture gets thrown into the mix and not to mention CHRISTIAN Asian groups. The amount of homophobia and racism and hypocrisy.
😮😮😮😮😮wow...interesting..i never that..
The anti gay stuff is justified. The I Ching before the Bible existed clearly states marriage is between one man and one woman. Well the Austrineans are a lesser ethnic group. Blacks and Hispanics have tendency to be trouble makers unless they behave like Gonzalo Lira, Ted Cruz, Larry elder, Thomas Sowell, Allen West, and etc.
So clearly you're CHRISTIAN-phobic and don't see your own hypocrisy 🤔
UCI is like that
I am a "Baby Boomer". I didn't grow up with alot of Asians in school. My brothers & I were the very few in our school in the 60's. We were the only Asians (Chinese) in our community for a long time. It didn't bother me. It was the way it was. Alot of racism back then. Called names just because the colour of our skin. But, most people were kind. But, the "bad apples" always stood out from the crowd. Attention whores. I find more divisiveness now. And people who were racists & who hid in their closets...are now, very out-spoken & aggressive. It has become even worse. The US is scary. We have it in Canada too. But, you just have more people than we do. Always interesting topics. Thank you for sharing this video with us. 👍🇨🇦😊 So many different Asian groups now. More immigrants than ever. The pool of Asians are so diverse now & so many different cultures and backgrounds. It is alot different when I grew up.
Decades ago, a relative working in a restaurant who was having baby, and share the good news with his coworkers. They told him his wife was having an affair with her boss, and asked 'how do you know this is your baby?'. My relative forced his wife to have an abortion. Family members stopped him from getting a divorce; but he had never stop abusing his wife, even today. Recently he learned his wife had never met coworkers, but so used to abusing his wife, he doesn't know how to stop.
So maybe the solution is to not hang out with just Asians all the time? To test the waters and find your fit outside of those social circles and not just hang out with other Asians all the time because they're also the race you are? But of course hardly anyone will do that and therefore nothing will change.
I grew up near diamond bar and had mostly Asian friends. Nowadays I am the token.
Same grew up in SoCal went to Irvine. Left that toxic cesspool to serve my country. Now I live in a beautiful small town as a the token.
I can write a whole Torah on this subject lol
Now this is a deep topic. Well should be
It's true
Everyone else can have all white, black, Latin friend group and it’s cool. But let it be a all Asian friend group all sudden it’s “uncool” 🙄
We are specifically talking about girl's? 😊
no. no thyere not
Of course it's false. It's impossible for every asian group to be toxic. Everyone is different
" I, against my brothers. I and my brothers against my cousins. I and my brothers and my cousins against the world."
Depending on the community you are in, the more Asians the finer the separation as per the quote.
He's probably talking about chinese friends if he's talking about toxic parents
Believe me strict Vietnamese and Koreans have JUST as bad of a reputation lol
Not really. Unnecessary topic. Every race will most likely hang out with their own race, why? Shared values and interests.
as an adoptee (have to preface this everytime) i definitely cant relate at all to this trend. like white people do the exact same thing lmao making starbucks, their favorite sports team, and italian food their entire personality. and the whole "carbon copies" thing completely ignores the fact that asian americans were forced into enclaves to survive racial hostility. we dont have a choice in this country to develop individuality because things like the model minority myth and perpetual foreigner myth lump us all together anyway. thats why i dont get ppl who criticise you two "obsessed about being asian" like no, I am grateful that you guys talk about this stuff. enclave asians take it for granted that they lived in a community where they could wholly embrace their asianness. even if that definition was narrow. im not justifying the toxicity, i know enclavers myself who dissociate from their identities due to this very problem, but i think this "superficial asianness" shouldnt be blamed on these asian americans, but rather on the the lack of systemic power asians have in the west, the marginalization, and the anti asian racism that existed for so long. Like, I literally see these stitchers saying this exact thing, that the source is rooted in stereotypes...well then maybe you should actually advocate for something instead of just creating discourse that goes nowhere??? edit: asians really know NOTHING about other races. maybe thats the real problem. y'all project problems you think are specific to being asian as if making such broad negative statements doesnt scream self hatred. this is why i fully believe that token asians tend to be far more racially aware than enclave asians.
Its toxic but its real unlike people who want to be nice to your face but stab you in the back 🤷🏽♂️
💯💯💯 I'll 100% take a "difficult" friend that I know is loyal and always down for me, than a fake nice, easy-going, "friend", that you know is a snake inside and would betray you for less than nothing.
YES, especially the ones from San Francisco and Seattle 🤮 I’ll never associate again.
Just look for the non toxic people.
it never ends these arguments, trust and follow Jesus your life will change past these never ending arguments.
I loved my High school friend group! 2 whites, 2 Asian-mixed, 2 Koreans, 1 Indian. We got so many awesome cultural experiences, thanks to our friendship and our parents inviting all of us to everything!
Awwww!!! 🥰
Filipino is considered South East Asian? Not Pacific Islander?
Filipinos are considered SE Asian.
Filipinos are as much Pacific Islanders as Japanese people.
@@claram4983 Filipinos are a strange people, more Western than Eastern. Their religion is from the Middle East, they have names like Jonathan and William and their surnames are Hispanic.
@@johnnyxcalade Japanese are East Asian.
Philippines is in Asia....
Y'all spoiled! When I was young the only Asians in our town were our cousins!!!😊
菲律賓男孩在社群媒體、課堂、人際關係和網路遊戲上的一切都有毒🤢，他們中的一些人也以此為榮
Dont believe what an outsider say about you. The sun is always rises in the east and will always rises in the east. Be innovative and keep fighting
Sounds like my job
Yo mono-lids are sexy af
Imagine sitting in a boba place listening to other peoples conversations 😂 who gives a fuck what people in a boba shop talk about?
I doubt answer is talking about deep topics 24/7 when he’s outside of UA-cam.
Everyone just loves to play the victim and make others the bad guy Hey maybe its you..really
If your inner circle is all of the same ethnic background as you, then that is symptomatic of a larger issue.
Not really
@@niamtxivthats the funny thing, it can be 100% true or 100% fake. It honestly just depends
Love Filipinos but these Fil-Am friend groups feel like I’m competing in Big Brother.