I’ve met Skylar at a camp for men of the trans experience here in the US it’s been a great experience but man doing hikes sounds even more amazing. You made a great decision choosing Benton. That’s you.
Hey, I know this probably sounds stupid, but I'm a 14 year old trans male and I'm planning on starting my transition on my birthday, I'll be turning 15 but what inspired me to start was you, I just want to thank you for letting me realize that I wasn't alone I couldn't help but to write this because today I had gone to a church and ended up getting held down my two ladies, they kept telling me that I was going to go to hell and I wouldn't be accepted by society, but I could honestly care less about what they said, but for now I'm just glad to have come across your UA-cam channel, thank you.
I just wanted to say thank you! You were the first video that I watched after figuring out that my brain and body didn't match. I am now out to my family and have gotten my referral to the gender identity clinic to start my transition.
You’re gorgeous! My ex (husband of 12 years) is FTM: I love being able to stay involved with the trans community through social media, like this. I’m a true bi, so I’m GLBT, but being with my ex gave me an appreciation of the real struggle trans people still face. It’s like being gay was in the 1950s, or something. But I am amazed at how far trans people have come, in terms of creating an awareness and acceptance I didn’t think I would see in my lifetime. My ex began his transition in the 1990s (ca. “Boys Don’t Cry”). That movie, and the crime it was based on, really did accurately portray the level of oppression in the 90s.
So glad UA-cam randomly decided to notify me about your videos again. Excited to get could back up! PS you were the first UA-cam I watched regularly... so many years ago 😅
i literally just rediscovered your channel after about 6 years... back when i was still figuring stuff out aged 14/15 i remember watching your passing tips videos and so on. now i'm 21 and 6 weeks on testosterone and life is good :)
so true that being trans gives us more empathy. living the first part of your life as the "wrong" gender for you and ppl never seeing the true you cause your bio gender is blocking the view rly make you meet ppl without putting others in boxes and teaches you how to be strong enough in your belief in yourself to be the one that tells you you're not just crazy to feel this way. it makes us strong and kind if we chose to use it for good. kinda like a superpower ^^
It's awesome to see you more active on youtube. I pretty much never leave comments, but I feel like the quality of vids you make is super high, and they're really pleasing, interesting and educational too. Your friend Lindsay is funny as and you guys have great energy together. I also relate to your conflicting feelings about discussing your transition... I've been medically transitioning for almost 7 years and am stealth... but for the last year, I've wanted to connect more to the community and am struggling with how to do that. Thank you for your great videos Benton.
Thank you for continuing to share your story. Skylar’s a good name and so is Benton. You’re incredibly beautiful and I appreciate you. Thank you for being you.
Wonderful, handsome, inspiring man --- thanks for your strength and honesty and sense of humour. You're a shining example of humanity and manhood! Love from Italy
Hey, I am so glad to see you doing well and that you are back on UA-cam! Your videos meant a lot to me and helped me so much through the beginning stages of my transition. And I loved the videos you and Lindsay did together, so you two having a channel together is pretty cool!
Thank you for the video! Im 10 days on T now and it feels awesome. And due to your video I have another perspective for future. I only know 2 trans males who are over 6 years on T and this video made me very happy
Thank you! I always learn something from your videos. And as a cis-male, my doctor told me years ago that my elevated T levels [genetic condition] were the cause of my hair loss on top of my head, and excessive hirsutness everywhere else!
Hey Benton, awesome video :) To add to that long run of probing questions - I wanted to ask whether you have had any issues through transition with disordered eating? That was something that reared its head for me awaiting top surgery and just wondered what your experience has been. No worries if that is a bit private.
man . . . haven’t seen you in so many years, i was in high school when i first saw you. 😂 i’m 20 and i’m still pre T, is it to late for me to start transitioning ?
It's never too late :) you can visit ftm_selfies or transpositive on reddit for some inspiration. I sometimes see people in their 30's, 40s or even 50s on there. Never give up hope 💚
I've personally known people who were in their 50s and 60s before starting to transition. So like everyone else said, never too late. I found connecting with my local trans community, and building a support circle among those who were/are accepting of me was an essential step to getting comfortable and brave enough to pursue transition. Take it all at your own pace. It's your unique life and journey, your body and your gender. No one else can tell you when or the right way. ❤
you are definitely not a skylar. unfortunately i also named myself skylar because of skylar kergil (LOVE that guy but i personally don’t think skylar suits me very well now) and i am now stuck with that name as far as people in my personal life go - although legally i made that my middle name instead
Amazing! So glad to see you at it again. You’re a real gift and resource to people! I miss living in Vancouver and sad I never knew you lived there until after I left.
West Coast Elements i studied in Vancouver and then moved home to Portland Oregon. I loved it up there. I miss Surrey and my friends out that way. It’s so beautiful. I especially love ur videos for the beauty of Canada.
I love you . Your video 70 questions, was wonderful. Gave me hope, and confidences. Witch I will need lot of as I take the journey from F 2 M. I only starting out. I start testosterone injections This week, on Tuesday Sept. 15th I will have my first shot. Right now I want to grow facial hair so I can pass as male. Thank you for your video.
Skylar would have been good pick. I also was thinking of changing my name to Skylar but as months past I saw this other trans guy, who was just alround rad looking...so I chose his name lol.
I feel the same as living as female and male I know what it’s like to be both in the eyes of society but being stealth when trans can be really stressful I’m stealth at college and it gives me sutch bad anxiety
This is a difficult question, but one that I've seen many people across the lgbtq+/leftytube dialogue struggle to answer or agree on. Trigger warning I know it is a complex and loaded issue, I am merely bisexual goth, my parents were progressive and my changes were merely aesthetic; I never had to be as courageous and honest as many people in this comments section, so apologies if I am clumsy. The question I have is, would you say from your own experiences and from the people that you have met, are there aspects of transitioning from AFAB that are, I guess, easier or less controversial to manage than from AMAB? And what aspects run opposite to that - what do people tend to find more difficult when transitioning to male? I guess it depends on the person, and sometimes the inherited bone structure, obviously, cis -especially white- male privilege still exists in both behavioural and linguistic terms (amongst others), and from what I've seen online and discussed with one of my old friends Nate (who has been on testosterone longer than Benton at this point...wow haven't thought back to our complicated school days in a while haha), it can be easier to keep your head down/blend in as a trans man, whereas some trans women have to own their trans-visibility in a different way. I don't mean to undermine/undersell the challenges faced by anyone, but as our society is stilted against certain groups - some big some minorities - what advantages are you privy to early on? and what advantages are you still excluded from, on whatever side of the Catharine wheel of gender you lie? Understanding fosters love, and dispels hatred. I hope I haven't tread on any toes... I was just wondering if there were any trends or patterns that tend to repeat? I wonder if that might help people feel more prepared at the start of their journey.. to whom I wish the best of luck, it was so so worth it for Nate. Don't rush, but ultimately trust yourself. What do you fear more? Staying as someone who you can't relate to, or finding out who you should be?
I think you should make a video´ 70 questions with the cat of FTM transgender- How I survived Benton´ with Mr. Catzilla himself.... Could be nice!!! P.S Am FTM myself....
i've been on Testosterone for now going on 4 years and my voice hasnt really changed and neither has my face like people still call me maam and im like im a sir so how do you deal with it or have you eve dealt with it , and have you gotten bottom surgery already ?
Hey Benton! Please do not infer that I did not watch, because I *did* , but I am an anatomically born male (trying 2 say that sensitively), & welcome 2 the "team," bro'! U R handsome 2 ME & I aleays want U guys 2 B personally happy & as satisfied sexually as possible. U went 2 a LOT of trouble 4 this "shift" IMHO, dude...
‘What’s your sexuality?’
‘Often’
I’m dead 😂
But same, at least preferably.
Oh no! Don't die, wait a second. The ambulance will be on their way soon!
(x3)
Now that you have come out has "often" I would like to come out as "rarely". Thank you very much.
"How's your hairline doing?" ............We've parted ways. Hahahaha
this is like the "4 months on T"-video but 5 years later and i love it
Exactly! Thanks Simon :)
Yes, doctor, I would like THIS specific brand of testosterone please.
I’ve met Skylar at a camp for men of the trans experience here in the US it’s been a great experience but man doing hikes sounds even more amazing.
You made a great decision choosing Benton. That’s you.
OOOOooooo what is Camp for men? I'm interested.
West Coast Elements went ahead and DMed yalls IG :) sent you a link
I didn't know this was a thing! ah! -googling
Hey, I know this probably sounds stupid, but I'm a 14 year old trans male and I'm planning on starting my transition on my birthday, I'll be turning 15 but what inspired me to start was you, I just want to thank you for letting me realize that I wasn't alone I couldn't help but to write this because today I had gone to a church and ended up getting held down my two ladies, they kept telling me that I was going to go to hell and I wouldn't be accepted by society, but I could honestly care less about what they said, but for now I'm just glad to have come across your UA-cam channel, thank you.
I just wanted to say thank you! You were the first video that I watched after figuring out that my brain and body didn't match. I am now out to my family and have gotten my referral to the gender identity clinic to start my transition.
Congrats g..... So which pronouns I use ?
@@loriscol-chambon5068 Thank you! He/him/his
Congrats Charlie! So glad to hear. keep us updated!
Same! Watching his one year on t video exploded my brain, I'm 4 years on t now
I CANT BELIEVE VOGUE CAME TO INTERVIEW YOU BENTON!! I LOVE THESE VIDOES THAT THEY DO. The man behind the camera sounds different though
You stupid. It's not really vogue. It's his bestfriend.
@@yascircuit4036 r/woooosh
You are such a beautiful person inside and out. Make me laugh when I'm down. Hope you had a great day
Hope you have a great day as well. Thanks for your kind words :)
@@WestCoastElements Anytime bud, just telling the truth
Thank you for posting honestly. I’m an aunt of a FTM child and have learned much.
Thank you for being supportive and open to learning! As a ftm man family support is so important❤️
You’re gorgeous! My ex (husband of 12 years) is FTM: I love being able to stay involved with the trans community through social media, like this. I’m a true bi, so I’m GLBT, but being with my ex gave me an appreciation of the real struggle trans people still face. It’s like being gay was in the 1950s, or something. But I am amazed at how far trans people have come, in terms of creating an awareness and acceptance I didn’t think I would see in my lifetime. My ex began his transition in the 1990s (ca. “Boys Don’t Cry”). That movie, and the crime it was based on, really did accurately portray the level of oppression in the 90s.
lollllllllll
can not even imagine him as a woman. Thanks for the answers.
Because hes a man.
@@Martin-je7qu damn. You know what he meant, lol jeez
@@Martin-je7qu no
So glad UA-cam randomly decided to notify me about your videos again. Excited to get could back up!
PS you were the first UA-cam I watched regularly... so many years ago 😅
Omg HES so handsome I’ve always thought he was handsome
i literally just rediscovered your channel after about 6 years... back when i was still figuring stuff out aged 14/15 i remember watching your passing tips videos and so on. now i'm 21 and 6 weeks on testosterone and life is good :)
I miss this kind of videos from you benton. You should do this more often
so true that being trans gives us more empathy. living the first part of your life as the "wrong" gender for you and ppl never seeing the true you cause your bio gender is blocking the view rly make you meet ppl without putting others in boxes and teaches you how to be strong enough in your belief in yourself to be the one that tells you you're not just crazy to feel this way. it makes us strong and kind if we chose to use it for good. kinda like a superpower ^^
Well said :)
It's awesome to see you more active on youtube. I pretty much never leave comments, but I feel like the quality of vids you make is super high, and they're really pleasing, interesting and educational too. Your friend Lindsay is funny as and you guys have great energy together. I also relate to your conflicting feelings about discussing your transition... I've been medically transitioning for almost 7 years and am stealth... but for the last year, I've wanted to connect more to the community and am struggling with how to do that. Thank you for your great videos Benton.
Thank you for continuing to share your story.
Skylar’s a good name and so is Benton.
You’re incredibly beautiful and I appreciate you.
Thank you for being you.
Thanks for your comment, Mat! We appreciate you too :)
Wow, you are a great man. I'm 1 year on T and getting top surgery on January 29, 2020.
Ok that 71st question was hilarious!! 😂😂🤣🤣
I watched your videos when I was questioning, now I'm 2 years on testosterone. Your videos really helped me ❤
Congrats on 2 years! Thanks for your comment, Thomas
I would literally fly to Canada to go on hikes with some cool people. And Benton suits you definitely beter than Skylar
Wonderful, handsome, inspiring man --- thanks for your strength and honesty and sense of humour. You're a shining example of humanity and manhood! Love from Italy
"Go with your gut". I love this response. Much love.
The best and most useful Q&A I've ever seen in this topic. Thanks for doing it! Great job :) Helps a lot to put things in their places.
Hey, I am so glad to see you doing well and that you are back on UA-cam! Your videos meant a lot to me and helped me so much through the beginning stages of my transition. And I loved the videos you and Lindsay did together, so you two having a channel together is pretty cool!
You are so beautiful. I love your answers and how well spoken you are. I look forward to seeing more of you. Thank you for this!
Thanks Anthony! Glad you enjoyed :)
benton is so cute.
Very good, very humorous. Really needed this video after the week I’ve had. LGBT hike sounds awesome, excited for the future content 😃🏳️🌈❤️
Loved how open you are about sharing your experience with everyone.
This is the first video of yours I've come across and I felt it was educational, charming and funny. I think I might be in love with you 😂😂
Beautiful guy. Love your humor!
Thank you for the video!
Im 10 days on T now and it feels awesome. And due to your video I have another perspective for future. I only know 2 trans males who are over 6 years on T and this video made me very happy
Im 11 days on T right now, so we started almost at the same time. I didn't really notice any changes yet, so I'm really impatient aaaah
Thank you! I always learn something from your videos.
And as a cis-male, my doctor told me years ago that my elevated T levels [genetic condition] were the cause of my hair loss on top of my head, and excessive hirsutness everywhere else!
I think Skyler would have suited you but I think Benton fits you even better.
I really like your videos! Keep updating us about your daily life ❤️
Such great advice!!! It’s nice to hear info from someone so far out on T.
Hey Benton, awesome video :)
To add to that long run of probing questions - I wanted to ask whether you have had any issues through transition with disordered eating?
That was something that reared its head for me awaiting top surgery and just wondered what your experience has been.
No worries if that is a bit private.
It's always that 71st question... 😂
Ty for this video. You're so chill
I really want to see how you knew you were trans and how you came out to your parents
Thank you for this, it was great! I know it was like, 6 years ago.
Hope all future video are better, but love the hiking idea!
man . . . haven’t seen you in so many years, i was in high school when i first saw you. 😂 i’m 20 and i’m still pre T, is it to late for me to start transitioning ?
Litta Rizki Ardiningrum it’s never too late for you to start transitioning
It's never too late :) you can visit ftm_selfies or transpositive on reddit for some inspiration. I sometimes see people in their 30's, 40s or even 50s on there. Never give up hope 💚
I've personally known people who were in their 50s and 60s before starting to transition. So like everyone else said, never too late.
I found connecting with my local trans community, and building a support circle among those who were/are accepting of me was an essential step to getting comfortable and brave enough to pursue transition.
Take it all at your own pace. It's your unique life and journey, your body and your gender. No one else can tell you when or the right way. ❤
Are you Indonesian? If yes, I wanna be friends with you...
정하나Rida iya aku indonesian
I've always watched your videos back then and enjoy them even more now 😊
Means a lot, thank you :)
The ad that came on right after the video was a pro pence campaign 😂😂
Oh & OFTEN sounded pretty damned good 2 ME, man...That is a marvelous natural gift that we should not squander.
Omg! He's such a sweet guy!! Why can't I find guys like him where I live??? 😡😡
And yes, Skylar does suit you :)
you are definitely not a skylar. unfortunately i also named myself skylar because of skylar kergil (LOVE that guy but i personally don’t think skylar suits me very well now) and i am now stuck with that name as far as people in my personal life go - although legally i made that my middle name instead
It is a great name! Smart about the middle name though :) That's always tricky.
Vincent Buzzell Your user says vincent.... (My name is vincent so i was just kindve excited to see another trans guy with the name)
kriipt keeper hahaha hey man what’s up!
Amazing! So glad to see you at it again. You’re a real gift and resource to people! I miss living in Vancouver and sad I never knew you lived there until after I left.
Thanks Chester! Whereabouts did you move?
West Coast Elements i studied in Vancouver and then moved home to Portland Oregon. I loved it up there. I miss Surrey and my friends out that way. It’s so beautiful. I especially love ur videos for the beauty of Canada.
I love you . Your video 70 questions, was wonderful. Gave me hope, and confidences. Witch I will need lot of as I take the journey from F 2 M. I only starting out. I start testosterone injections This week, on Tuesday Sept. 15th I will have my first shot. Right now I want to grow facial hair so I can pass as male. Thank you for your video.
glad you’re back!
Anyone eles watching this to become an better ally?
My last name is Benton. Still is and when I'm at work I'm called Benton because I'm in law enforcement.
wow. youre an amazing person! very inspiring. stay good, sir!
Such a cute video 💗 subscribed and love your humor
He’s so chill
Thank you for the clear knowledge!
i really enjoy listening to you speak.
Skylar would have been good pick. I also was thinking of changing my name to Skylar but as months past I saw this other trans guy, who was just alround rad looking...so I chose his name lol.
that cat is huge...Thank you for sharing
Yoo I’m on Van island, 5 months on T. Look forward to more content
Wow ! Hard to believe that he's transgender he looks and sound like a biological male and very handsome.
Yeah I'm a male who is not trans but I'd quite like to be as good looking as him
I feel the same as living as female and male I know what it’s like to be both in the eyes of society but being stealth when trans can be really stressful I’m stealth at college and it gives me sutch bad anxiety
Benton suits you well.
You definitely do not look like a Skylar. Benton fits you.
Fun video!
Omg can you post places where you travel and recommend going for like a 6 month stay omg.
For bottom surgery recovery omg -Sara
This is a difficult question, but one that I've seen many people across the lgbtq+/leftytube dialogue struggle to answer or agree on. Trigger warning I know it is a complex and loaded issue, I am merely bisexual goth, my parents were progressive and my changes were merely aesthetic; I never had to be as courageous and honest as many people in this comments section, so apologies if I am clumsy. The question I have is, would you say from your own experiences and from the people that you have met, are there aspects of transitioning from AFAB that are, I guess, easier or less controversial to manage than from AMAB? And what aspects run opposite to that - what do people tend to find more difficult when transitioning to male? I guess it depends on the person, and sometimes the inherited bone structure, obviously, cis -especially white- male privilege still exists in both behavioural and linguistic terms (amongst others), and from what I've seen online and discussed with one of my old friends Nate (who has been on testosterone longer than Benton at this point...wow haven't thought back to our complicated school days in a while haha), it can be easier to keep your head down/blend in as a trans man, whereas some trans women have to own their trans-visibility in a different way. I don't mean to undermine/undersell the challenges faced by anyone, but as our society is stilted against certain groups - some big some minorities - what advantages are you privy to early on? and what advantages are you still excluded from, on whatever side of the Catharine wheel of gender you lie? Understanding fosters love, and dispels hatred. I hope I haven't tread on any toes...
I was just wondering if there were any trends or patterns that tend to repeat? I wonder if that might help people feel more prepared at the start of their journey.. to whom I wish the best of luck, it was so so worth it for Nate. Don't rush, but ultimately trust yourself. What do you fear more? Staying as someone who you can't relate to, or finding out who you should be?
So much respect!
yay! yes to more Vids!
Benton, good name choice it some how seems to fit you.
LOoooooved this video!
6:25 pstd memories lol
this video helped a lot to me, and you're really funny too so i laughed a lot!
We are living in the same City! Oh my 😍
Skylar, no... Benton; YES! 👍🏼✌️😎
I think you should make a video´ 70 questions with the cat of FTM transgender- How I survived Benton´ with Mr. Catzilla himself.... Could be nice!!! P.S Am FTM myself....
i've been on Testosterone for now going on 4 years and my voice hasnt really changed and neither has my face like people still call me maam and im like im a sir so how do you deal with it or have you eve dealt with it , and have you gotten bottom surgery already ?
Benton you look good!!!
ayyyye I'll get there one day. In 5.25 years!! haha!
It goes by quickly!
I’m age 26 and I get stressed by my gender and sexuality because I’m not confident in what they are yet. Smh 🤦♀️
Im 25 feeling the similar. Trying to start by making small changes and seeing how far i feel comfortable going but it's pretty confusing
Honestly..Benton suits you.
He reminds me of Chris Evans
Ok
Skylar would fit but Benton does too.
ily
do anyone know how old u have to be to get the surgery??
Hey Benton! Please do not infer that I did not watch, because I *did* , but I am an anatomically born male (trying 2 say that sensitively), & welcome 2 the "team," bro'! U R handsome 2 ME & I aleays want U guys 2 B personally happy & as satisfied sexually as possible. U went 2 a LOT of trouble 4 this "shift" IMHO, dude...
Handsome young man!
Do you Identify as a straight or gay man or something else. I'm a gay cis male and I think you are very attractive.
i missed u benton
HE is cool :)
Lol well I started watching Skylar and that’s the name I picked lmao
Thks!!!
That is a Big cat
Dory :3
is there any chance for cis guy date transman 🥺