I REGRET RELAXING MY HAIR | GOING BACK NATURAL TOO MUCH BREAKAGE!! + trimming/cutting my hair
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2023
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Girl! I was natural for 7 years. My hair was long. Healthy. Got compliments. This was before natural was a thing. I relaxed my hair and it fell tf out. I was ill. I went back natural and my hair is back to what it was before. Your hair is beautiful. ❤
Before the trolls come, yes, I took care of my hair when it was relaxed. But everything isn't for everyone
I am on my natural hair journey. I haven't had a relaxer in 27 years. I haven't had any chemicals in my hair in 27 years. I only use natural oil and butters and grease on my hair.
I've always had long hair relaxed but now that Im natural it has grown past my growth plateau so I will never relax my hair again.
@@BlackGirlLovesAnime6I’m with you! Though i was fighting to get it past my mid back when relaxed. I’m now well pass that natural. I was the main person swearing I’d NEVER go natural but 7 yrs ago (I’m going on 8) i used Affirm perm, the professional one, i never had problems in the past.. well i still feel they changed the type of lye they used bcse within months my hair broke off up to my shoulders. I went to my beautician and chopped it all off while she was doing someone’s hair! 😂😂😂 i was angry and over it. I got a braided bob and went natural… i can say i love the results! ❤
For 19 years I was natural. Then got a relaxer up to 21. My hair broke off, was raggedy at the ends and around the edges and was lackluster. It also changed my texture to a coarser texture. It was stiff and lifeless hair. My mother was right, I don't need a perm! But I just had to do what all the other girls were doing. I had to know what I was missing.....nothing. It was more work with a relaxer than without! Imagine my surprise!
I let the relaxer grow out. So from 21 to now 42 I've been relaxer free and that's most of my life. Honestly, my hair is the longest it's ever been and healthiest. Recently for some reason it's gotten thicker!
Here's what I learned: All women are beautiful. When black women wear their natural beauty, dress up their natural bodies without covering it up with relaxers, wigs, weaves, lashes, and fake nails, it's just a stunning display of what God and your ancestors gave you. It turns heads. You can't stop looking at the beauty, whether long, short, grey or natural blonde. No one paints over a rose. No one puts fake petals on a tulip. The beauty is in the natural.
But the world has gotten to this place where being OVER MADE UP, overly painted is super coveted. And don't get me wrong, it looks good, but what does the canvas look like underneath all the paint, bells and whistles? Even if the canvas is perfect, what are you hiding from?
You need to do 2 things every 1-2weeks: 1. Use Olaplex or Redken Bond treatment to repair the broken bonds from chemical treatments. 2. Protein to strengthen the hair from the breakage.
There's also such a thing as protein overload. I actually think it's better to do protein once a month then maybe 3 times a month. Every wash day you should do a moisture treatment. After a Relaxer, your next wash day you should do an olaplex treatment. Just my personal experience though
Sorry NOT protein 3 times a month!! I mean once every 3 months haha
@@likefanta2049depends on the strength of the protein product. I use Aphogee. I can use the green tea restructurizer daily, the 2 minute every 2 weeks and the 2 step evety 4 to 6 weeks but i have ultra-fine and fragile haur due to being a Thalessemia carrier and oxidative stress. My best friend had coarse hair and cannot use any of these products. Her hair rarely breaks no matter how badly she treated it.
Doing BOTH of these every 1 - 2 weeks (which is wild on its own) is going to make her already fragile hair extremely brittle and break off further before it even does any good to strengthen her hair. I know this because my hair broke off when it was natural because the girlies online were saying, "Rice water! protein! this that and the other!"
If your hair is not weak, breaking or damaged you don't need Olaplex or Protein treatments. My hair is weak, ultra-fine, high porosity and bleached. Here is my routine for once a week treatment:
Week 1 strong protein treatment and protein free deep conditioner.
Week 2 Olaplex full home treatment
Week 3 protein free- deep conditioner only with olaplex no. 3.
Week 4 medium protein deep conditioner with olaplex 3
Week 5 protein-free deep conditioner with Olaplex 3.
Week 6 Olaplex Salon treatment.
Week 7 restart week 1.
You do not need this routine if your hair is not weak, ultra-fine, high porosity or chemically damaged. I had heat damage and i only use Olaplex no. 3 once every 6 weeks. That was enough to stop my hair breaking. Now I have bleached highlights I need the Olaplex no. 3 every week as recommended by my stylist. If you have coarse, low porosity, non-chemically treated hair please stay away from protein and bond builders because this type of hair naturally has enough protein and bonds on it. Relaxer, dye and bleach break the bonds and strips the protein and lifts the cuticles. If you have no chemicals in your hair and it's breaking focus on diet, low manipulation and moisturing protein-free deep conditioner weekly. If your hair isn't broken don't try to fix it.
Avoid too much heat. Heatless options will help avoid breakage.
One thing I would say about retaining length. Go to the salon. When I used to relax my hair myself I would relax it every 3 months. When I started going to the salon I would twice a year.
The back breaking may be because you left the relaxer on longer in some areas more than others. Going to the salon can get an equal and even distribution of the relaxer.
Good luck girl
honestly your hair still looks so amazing!
Thank you so much!!☺️
Your hair, your choice. It's up to you. My hair was healthy relaxed and it's healthy now being natural. It's just a matter of taking care of it and sometimes it's the strength of the relaxer you're using as well. I've considered going back to a relaxed state myself for a while but I haven't made up my mind about it
I think the thing we look for in hair can be convenience and simple maintenance but the harsh truth and reality for us woman of colour is that no matter if your hair is relaxed or natural it will still require a lot of work. Relaxed hair need retouch ups, bond treatments and protein strengtheners to keep it healthy. While ,natural hair needs protective stlyes, wash routines, prepoo and etc to maintain it too. You just have to find what works best for you and which lifestyle you're willing to commit to because either is simple. They require work and structure but you got this!
could not have said it better myself!!!
yesss i was coming to the comments to say protein treatments but i was looking for someone to have said it first lol💓
Natural hair doesn’t always need protective styles though. I wash, treat, condition, style and defuse my hair every 7-9 days and wear it in a wash and go style and my hair is healthy and down to my under breast area. I never wear protective styles
You are right! It requires work. I just posted a video talking about natural hair and relaxers. I mention about relaxers as it relates to the lawsuits too.
I will say, the way you are handling your hair in this video Is kind'e showing the reason why. Relaxed hair is very fragile so you can't allow it to matte. Overall, doesn't look too bad you just need a solid regimen
That blow dry bush had me cringing.
I have never done anything to my hair... I have waaay more breakage than you and my hair is thin af. But I'm a natural blonde. You guys have good hair! If it's natural or relaxed.
Hi love! Dont feel discouraged, I would treat the relaxed hair like bleached hair and use bond repair treatments. I texlaxed my hair and treat it as if I were an extremely bleached blonde. And also, Paradoxx Growth and Thickening stops hair from breaking.
Where you you buy the paradoxx product products?
I got a relaxer but its more like a texturizer since my hair is still really curly. Its much looser and more manageable and I basically treat it like its natural and it doesn't break as long as its moisturized.
For greater accuracy. I had to get a conditioner for chemical treated hair, otherwise everything else is the same.
What kind of relaxer did you use?
its crazy to see this video of you with relaxed hair now as nearly five years ago now, you are one of the people who inspired me to do a big chop on my relaxed and badly damaged hair.
Your hair looks amazing, the v shape from the cut is so flattering!!!! So pretty.
So pretty😍 your hair looks amazing and I like the cut!
Thank you so much😊
I think the biggest mistake you made with this…is not with getting a relaxer per say, but you should have went to a professional and got your relaxer done. I’m not sure if this was your first ever relaxer, but if it was you definitely needed to have a professional apply it and not do yourself. I’m also wondering what was the strength of the relaxer you put on your hair because it was bone straight, it’s not supposed to be like that. A little texture in the hair is supposed to be left, relaxing the curls. Going to a professional…they could have given you lots of tips to keep it healthy without the breakage and also used the correct relaxer for your hair type. I still think it could work out for you with keeping your relaxer you just need to find a professional beautician that can give you the tips to keep your hair as healthy as possible with one. I personally wouldn’t give up so easily, but I totally understand your feelings right now and at the end of the day it’s your choice ❤ Either way natural, relaxed, your hair looks so amazing 🥰
I have been dying for an update of this videoooooo❤
The cut is cute! 😍
This is hilarious! I just finished watching your relaxer video and I asked if you were still natural and here's your answer!❤️❤️
i recently reached a breaking point after multiple bleaching and dying experiences... it was fun. but just like you i am see so much breakage and those small peices of hair due to that. my hair gets so tangled now and when i brush it all i can hear is peices breaking off and snapping like crunch crunch crunch. im gonna get a chop this weekend, but i think you are still in a good place. if you just trim and take care of it i think you're not too far gone.
I am in the same boat. Relaxed for ease - it was not easier. Felt horrible no matter what, wasn't even fully straight and I couldn't even twist or braid it for convenience because the straight- ish ends would cause my hair to unravel. It was so dry only glycerin would help, but if I used heat it was rock hard again. Plus breakage. I learned that its full, soft and fluffy 4c always for me so I shaved my head and its crazy how in love with my texture and future styling possibilities I am now. Was worth while for personal growth!
I relaxed my hair after being natural for 7 years and I didn’t like it. I shaved my head 3 days later and went back natural and I’m never looking back.
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Idk I love mines🤷🏽♀️ its much easier, and always been for me. With my schedule it's a quick up and go,and when sweating I don't ruin my hairstyle 🙌🏼❤️❤️
That's precisely why i quit relaxer over a decade ago. I think maybe it can work for some people, but not for me!! The matting i used to get was terrible.
You look so much like Nia Long with the trim and middle part for some reason, so pretty!!🥰
Because a relaxer has to break bonds it naturally makes the hair cuticle thinner. Have you thought about doing a texture smoothing system (amino acid treatment) instead? My sister uses Avlon texture release in place of a relaxer and keeps her hair straight 100% of the time. Her hair is thicker now than it was with the relaxer because the system doesn't break any bonds. I also use the system at the lowest setting for curly hair and it helps with tangling. BTW your hair and the cut look amazing!
Hey! I want to loosen my texture a bit to make wash days easier. I was considering a texturizer and trying a texture release system. Has the texture release permanently loosened your sister’s hair a bit???
I Don't think you can mix relaxers with many straightening chemicals. It's best to stick with one.
In all hair still looks pretty and thanks for sharing this with us sweetheart ❤
Thank you so much🤍
It still looks so pretty!! Your Aries energy is really just shining through here. Is there a plan? No! Is that gonna stop you? No! Love that confidence 😍
Hahaaahaa lmao thank you!!🤍
I dont regret it not one bit🙌🏼❤️❤️❤️ its much easier to manage with my busy schedule and work out routine.
Same here. I was natural for 12 years and it became time consuming and harder to manage. I went back to a mild relaxer and I love it. Wrap and go.
I relaxed my hair 6 months ago after being natural for 2 year ( I know that’s not that long) and wow do I regret it. I’m experiencing the same breakage as you.
I’m sorry this happened to you. Hair relaxing should be left to the professionals . Also the type of relaxer ( sodium vs calcium, lithium, guanidine) used plays a huge role in the health and desired outcome.
I feel being a straght natural is an easier way to rock straight hair. I hated relaxer before natural hair was even a thing so I would never go back, but straightening my hair gives the kind of straight hair I like, not fully straight but with body. With that said, I only ever realxed my hair like 4 times in my life so I've never really actually lived with relaxed hair.
Yes for me, my hair is fine and relaxing it makes hair kind of limp and lifeless. If I go back, I might use a texturizer or something
I really want to be a straight natural, but my hair is so long and thick, it's hard to take two days out of my life to wash it and straighten it. Since it's not used to the heat, it reverts the same day, not completely, but I love it in the first 30 minutes when its pin straight, then it starts getting fuller within the hour. Trying to live my Disney Pocahontas dreams out here and my hair won't let me 😆.
My hair naturally grows in a v shape so that cutting method is perfect for me.. thanks!
Your hair still looks pretty 😍
your hair is SO beautiful damnnnn
I got my hair professionally done. I don’t regret going back to a mild relaxer.
Getting it professionally done will help to prevent much of the breakage. I'm contemplating going back. 16 years of being natural and three kids later is causing an itch for the creamy crack.
@@shanellakers7303 absolutely. My lifestyle could no longer handle natural hair, became too much work 🤷🏽♀️
I relaxed my hair in June last year and 6 months later I went back natural. Hair breakage was annoying. Even with treatments my hair relaxed was too fragile
Your hair looks healthy to me and pretty!
I just big chopped my hair cuz i wanted to know what it was like to be natural, but sometimes i do miss my relaxed hair. I used to cut my own hair and what i would do is split it down the middle, and bring it over my shoulders like you did and cut it across. Then i would comb it all to the back and put it in a low ponytail, then slide another scrunchie close to the end, and i would cut the “tail” part. That would always result in it being a subtle u shape instead of a v shape.
Still looks healthy and the cut is alright too🥰
Thank you!❤️
I definitely dont have the same hair as you but im pretty sure nape breakage is super common amongst long hair of all races? Its hard to avoid friction in that area with clothes/jewelry and if you wear your hair up a lot.
Shhh don't tell people the truth
Yes. It is. Even if it’s not actually breaking, most people have those short bits that don’t necessarily show if the hair is curly. The shorter hairs just curl together with the longer hair
I’m natural, my hair is very healthy, long, always protected… but I ALWAYS have breakage at my nape area, I don’t care, actually I like my little ones🤣🤣🤣
You look great! Thanks for the video❤ My phone must be listening to me. I was just about to relax my little bit of hair. Maybe I should wait.
The relaxed hair looks very good don’t regret your decision my dear❤Blow drying should be medium to low heat with least manipulation during drying. Moisturized hair, deep conditioning, leave in conditioner, regular trims and not too much heat your hair will be fine.
So pretty ❤
You’re hair looks soo healthy frr
I stopped relaxing my hair over 10 years ago. And now I only do progressive straightening with a blend of acids!
It was the best choice, because my curly hair is now straight without using heat sources.
I regret relaxing my long natural hair after 5 years of growing it past waist length… I’ve been relaxed for a two years and my hair is shoulder length after hairdressers messed up my hair. I’ll be back to natural but just don’t know when. I wear hair extensions so it’s not the end of the world but it does hurt knowing how long, thick and beautiful my natural 4c hair was. I tried a few times but having two hair textures AND a family is just too much work! Bring on the LA Weave until further notice!
Hi girl. I wanted to ask u what your protein usage is like currently. I am not relaxed but i am very high porosity so i tend to follow a lot of relaxed ladies bc my hair functions similarly. Most relaxed ladies are incorporating protein and deep conditioning with heat nearly every wash to ensure no breakage…i do it with my natural hair and it’s a game changer.
Also, get your hair professionally trimmed. 😂
Simply gorgeous ❤
Your hair still looks still looks good 🤎🖤🤍
Your hair is lovely and so healthy
Also have been thinking more! friction is major at killing relaxed hair!!!
I had long healthy relaxed hair but I needed to do much to keep them, although it takes time to get used to the natural fro shrinkage, I do less than I used to, and my hair is thriving.
Her hair looks good!😁
Your hair is very beautiful
Can you plz drop an updated makeup tutorial plz because your makeup looks so Beautiful 🤩
Hot oil treatments and deep conditioning every wash and Aphogee treatments, this was the only thing that helped me
Your hair still looks beautiful
Love you hair either way it’s beautiful. natural is always better I tried perms several times and no matter how much I oil my hair it just breaks
i love the music you use in your videos, how do you find them? do you risk demonetization using those sorts of songs ?
@Kayla Jay,
You should do a protein treatment to strengthen your hair then follow up with a moisturizing mask.
You are so beautiful and so is your hair ❤️
I’m natural again. I’ve experimented with almost everything. I HATED the different textures from new growth. Hated how my scalp and hair felt. I miss only the fast drying of relaxed hair but miss the strength and softness of my natural one
Your hair is beautiful.
Relaxers require protein balance atleast monthly mot even nothing heavy. I noticed when i to natural to relaxed i did have to so more to maintain my length since products escape the cuticles layers faster. Patience and technique. But if you're a whenever i feel like it person relaxed hair isn't for you. Definitely less heat usage
It looks healthy to me. Maybe try putting a protein treatment on it if it’s snapping. Gorgeous hair!
thank you so much ❤
That's bad advise. She needs to go see a professional
I prefer my natural hair too. I had so much new growth and I’m annoyed that I convinced myself to relax. I’d probably be happy with it if it weren’t over processed and snapping. I want to cut it off but I don’t look good with short hair. I have no neck.
I’d recommend the aphrogee 2 step rite in treatment and k18 or olaplex
Thank you, I will try those
Your hair looks great but I would reduce tension and small tooth combs to avoid more stress on your hair. Your lipstick is gorgeous btw, what colour/brand is it?
Did you use a bonding system after you permed your hair ?
Sis u have good hair
It looks really good
thank you 🥹
@@KaylaJayxo your welcome
In my opinion, relaxed hair requires too much babying, because the bonds are broken. People say it’s easier but I’ve been natural 15 years and for me, natural has definitely be easier, and it’s much less of a commitment than a relaxer. If that makes sense. 😂
And it's inexpensive if you don't overdo the buying of "natural hair" products, not to mention hairstyles lasting longer
I looks great 👍🏾. I like the v cut.
There are plenty of ppl who have healthy relaxed hair. I think you just need to develop a routine that will maintain healthy hair if it is relaxed. Idk why ppl act like you can’t have damaged natural hair. I had damaged natural hair and healthy relaxed hair at one point lol
Exactly, I have a mild relaxer and I love it.
I think it’s more of that some people’s hair can handle a lil more than others some times too that may be a part of it:)
There is no such thing as " healthy relaxed" hair.
That's an oxymoron, i.e. a contradiction in terms.
In order for the relaxer to work, it has to break the bonds, i.e., permanently damage/weaken the hair, which is not healthy.
Natural hair can be damaged, just like the body, if it is not properly taken care of.
No one has ever said that natural hair can't be damaged, but natural damaged hair doesn't seep lye (the main ingredient in relaxers) into the pores of a person.
I agree that a person has the right to choose what they want or not want without being shamed.
However, I feel that truthful facts need to be addressed also.
@@saltwatertaffy7020 as smart as you are REALLY trying to sound, you just sound ignorant- ie: UNAWARE that one can have healthy relaxed hair.
If you had damaged relaxed hair, just say that. Plenty of people have HEALTHY relaxed hair.
@@saltwatertaffy7020 mines is relaxed and colored and healthy and by the way growing like a weed. I got tired of looking like Frederick Douglass, I’m over it 🤷🏽♀️
Your hair still looks good. 😃👍🏽❤️
I love the v shape cut
You need a good protein treatment to stop the shedding and you need to moisturize and condition on a regular basis. Also do some hot oil treatments once a week to stop the shedding it works. Relaxers dry our hair out so we need to keep oil in it. Your hair is still beautiful. You have to keep in mind that those relaxers are built to straighten out the hair follicles once those bonds are broken, it strips all of the protein out of your hair. This is why you have to use certain hair products to rebuild and strengthen your hair again. What you take out of your hair you have to replace it. I hope this help sis and godbless ❤❤
🤣 I suddenly screamed when you cut that chunk out your hair
Your hair look gorgeous, but I completely understand. Even when I press my hair too much it gets weaker. I had to cut about 5 inches off my hair from constant presses. I guess God gives our hair all the strength it needs in its natural state otherwise it will be very high maintenance.
You are so prettttyyyyy😊
thank you ❤
It looks good. That's how my hair grows; in a v-shape.
The cut really isn’t that bad lol
I think it's how the way you applied the relaxer on your hair. I think u had to start mid shaft, roots then ends.
Your hair is still 😍
Roller sets with big rollers and wrap it 🥰
Looks great
You need to use constant leave and conditioners bond repair and putting some keratin over. It would help as well.
Going to miss those pretty girls on you, but ur relaxed/perm hair looks great and if you like it then I LOVE IT. You look beautiful. It came out very pretty.
I would click this update with box still in hand. Lol still going for it 😩 🤞
Hi hun, is that brush causing damage.x
Thin combs x
You're so gorgeous
This is d cut salons do . N it looks gorgeous
You need moisture in your hair. It also depends on how you are protecting your hair at night. A great brand that will keep your hair healthy and nice, Kerastase. This brand is pricey but worth every penny. Get the shampoo, conditioner and leave in.
it still looks really good though
I recommend thio relaxers over the regular ones
Do your other family members have long hair like you? Or do you use certain products?
Mine did that when I used too much heat and didn’t use a protectant
Shampoo your hair really good then use the L’Oréal ever pure bond strengthening pre shampoo as a protein treatment. I know it says pre shampoo but you use it after your shampo. It is comparable to Olaplex.
thank you so much for the recommendation I will have to check it out!
did u do a bond repair
It is the flat iron that's helping it to bracke it happens to me every time I grow my hair passed my ears I always have to do the big chop 😢
Pretty good cut
Girl I had the same issues briogeo hair products transformed my relaxed hair
I knew you’re going to regret it. Your hair is so beautiful natural.
Go back natural, you have such beautiful hair
Aphogee two step treatment will stop the breakage and strengthen your hair.