1.5 years of lip service. He said the right things but never backed them up with actions. His words were breadcrumbs that kept me hoping his actions would catch up. I took him back multiple times and repeatedly he showed no investment while telling me he loved me and wanted a future. I heard every excuse in the book including ‘I’m just no good at relationships”. I have finally had enough and I walked away for the last time. Listen to Elliot. He’s right. Don’t allow someone to string you along while you’re hoping for a change that will never come. Now I have to figure out how to not feel worthless and how to stop hating myself for loving and investing in a man that didn’t love me or invest back. I don’t know how to pick up and move on. Love and luck to all of you.
@@adelante3105 Unfortunately not. I allowed it to happen again. This time he did change and his actions matched his words. Then two weeks ago out of the blue he walked out of my life. No reason, no argument, nothing. Please don't make the same mistakes I made. Happy to chat with you off YT if that will help. Stay strong!
I brought it up, and he wants to continue things as they are. Its not a go for me. Glad I've KEPT MY LEGS CLOSED. Just going to pick up my losses and keep it moving.
Put yourself first. If he is not meeting your standards or needs, do not settle. Let him know youre dating to marry and if he doesnt propose or bring up marriage within 3 months... keep talking to other men and go contact with him. Only fiancé's deserve exclusivity because a *real* commitment is marriage. He will waste your life if you wait on him. He should be providing 100% or he is not husband material or masculine enough.
@camellia8625 who cares what he thinks, this is your life and your standards. Hes getting wife benefits at girlfriend price. I would stop giving him free sx and tell him that you will not be exclusive without an engagement first if you're dating to marry. If he's truly serious about you and values marriage, he will propose.
Nothing more awkward than a woman having no idea on his intentions so she has to bring it up. If she kept her options open and wasn’t always available because she has a fun life with friends, hobbies and possible other suitors, he’d lock her down sooner than 8 weeks if he wanted to. If not, it’s win/win!
The eight week cut-off rule, alone, makes watching Elliott’s videos invaluably worth women’s time to watch. It is so, so helpful to know that any time spent beyond eight weeks with any man is time wasted, for a woman who wants a committed serious LTR with a man. Thank you for everything you do sir!
What if we are in a relationship (or were) for 2,5 years and now he is uncertain to progress because he doesn’t know if it is love after all? It’s his first long-term relationship. Maybe he’s just not that into me to put in the work. He’s not afraid to lose me. He’s taking a break now for a month to understand his own feelings. He said, however, that I should be prepared to move on my own. I just turned 32 yo, he is 34 yo.
IMHO If a man would take advantage ; he isn’t the right guy. I personally think ladies should end things if he either pulls away or hasn’t asked for an exclusive relationship within 8 weeks. Ditto if the relationship isn’t meaningfully progressing
Can you make more videos about building the "context" in the relationship before it becomes official? I feel this is a video many others could learn from. I personally DID and I thank you for itーI was able to become stable with my boyfriend and the relationship has been improving since.
Love this ❤, do you have videos on how to go about bringing up the ultimatum ie rough wording of the conversation? Thanks 😊 Is it case of wording it are you on the same page as me and looking for a relationship?
Hi Elliot, thank you for another wonderful video. Please, can you make a video about MONEY. How men see women who are financially very successful or women who can barely make it or live paycheck by paycheck? Anything, any of your perspective, information regarding this subject will be appreciated. And once again help us women ........
My boyfriend keeps assulting me and disrespecting me whebn having conflicts , judges me every time because am different from him , i did the huge mistake to beg him to stay and it s THE VERY FIRST TIME I beg someone to stay and ii feeel worthless and horrible and ashamed of my self + i have a narcissistic mother so it just makes it worst for me , i now can t stand him anymore and want to break up but before i need my dignity back , how can i do that pease
The mother thing is irrelevant in this situation, if it’s a serious problem in creating patterns, therapy is the best solution. For this situation, tell him CALMLY that you’ve reconsidered the relationship, you’re not feeling happy and you’re going to go your separate way. Don’t explain yourself or justify, don’t use a lot of words, stick to your decision whatever you do, or you’ll be playing into his belief that you’re not worthy of respect. This is a good learning lesson, it’s part of life and the way we grow is to do hard things! Xoxoxo
1.5 years of lip service. He said the right things but never backed them up with actions. His words were breadcrumbs that kept me hoping his actions would catch up. I took him back multiple times and repeatedly he showed no investment while telling me he loved me and wanted a future. I heard every excuse in the book including ‘I’m just no good at relationships”. I have finally had enough and I walked away for the last time. Listen to Elliot. He’s right. Don’t allow someone to string you along while you’re hoping for a change that will never come. Now I have to figure out how to not feel worthless and how to stop hating myself for loving and investing in a man that didn’t love me or invest back. I don’t know how to pick up and move on. Love and luck to all of you.
are you feeling any better? about to embark on this same journey, after 3 years, i'm at my limit
@@adelante3105 Unfortunately not. I allowed it to happen again. This time he did change and his actions matched his words. Then two weeks ago out of the blue he walked out of my life. No reason, no argument, nothing. Please don't make the same mistakes I made. Happy to chat with you off YT if that will help. Stay strong!
@lynn4054 dont fall back!!! please!! 2025
@@adelante3105 I'm trying
I brought it up, and he wants to continue things as they are. Its not a go for me. Glad I've KEPT MY LEGS CLOSED. Just going to pick up my losses and keep it moving.
Put yourself first. If he is not meeting your standards or needs, do not settle. Let him know youre dating to marry and if he doesnt propose or bring up marriage within 3 months... keep talking to other men and go contact with him. Only fiancé's deserve exclusivity because a *real* commitment is marriage. He will waste your life if you wait on him. He should be providing 100% or he is not husband material or masculine enough.
It isn’t so straightforward if you are sleeping together and/or he views your talking to other men as cheating.
@camellia8625 who cares what he thinks, this is your life and your standards. Hes getting wife benefits at girlfriend price. I would stop giving him free sx and tell him that you will not be exclusive without an engagement first if you're dating to marry. If he's truly serious about you and values marriage, he will propose.
This 💯
Men know almost every woman wants a relationship, no matter what she says lol
Nothing more awkward than a woman having no idea on his intentions so she has to bring it up. If she kept her options open and wasn’t always available because she has a fun life with friends, hobbies and possible other suitors, he’d lock her down sooner than 8 weeks if he wanted to. If not, it’s win/win!
I LOVE how real you are, Elliot 👏🏼
Thanks for talking about biological masculinity and the way that works. Most women don’t understand that, think he should act like a woman/feminine
your commitment videos are the absolute best elliott, wish it was even longer 😂❤
That means a lot thank you
I agree! Longer the better! Love listening to your videos & you’re a great communicator ❤
The eight week cut-off rule, alone, makes watching Elliott’s videos invaluably worth women’s time to watch. It is so, so helpful to know that any time spent beyond eight weeks with any man is time wasted, for a woman who wants a committed serious LTR with a man. Thank you for everything you do sir!
What if we are in a relationship (or were) for 2,5 years and now he is uncertain to progress because he doesn’t know if it is love after all? It’s his first long-term relationship. Maybe he’s just not that into me to put in the work. He’s not afraid to lose me. He’s taking a break now for a month to understand his own feelings. He said, however, that I should be prepared to move on my own. I just turned 32 yo, he is 34 yo.
IMHO If a man would take advantage ; he isn’t the right guy. I personally think ladies should end things if he either pulls away or hasn’t asked for an exclusive relationship within 8 weeks. Ditto if the relationship isn’t meaningfully progressing
No time
No intimacy no talking no meeting till he starts doing everything fr you plain n simple
I like when you speak nice and calmly. When you get really loud and wild, it’s hard to follow. :) thank you ❤
Can you make more videos about building the "context" in the relationship before it becomes official? I feel this is a video many others could learn from. I personally DID and I thank you for itーI was able to become stable with my boyfriend and the relationship has been improving since.
Love this ❤, do you have videos on how to go about bringing up the ultimatum ie rough wording of the conversation? Thanks 😊
Is it case of wording it are you on the same page as me and looking for a relationship?
Hi Elliot, thank you for another wonderful video. Please, can you make a video about MONEY. How men see women who are financially very successful or women who can barely make it or live paycheck by paycheck? Anything, any of your perspective, information regarding this subject will be appreciated. And once again help us women ........
Great video!
So true.
Help me
I agree👍👍👍👍
My boyfriend keeps assulting me and disrespecting me whebn having conflicts , judges me every time because am different from him , i did the huge mistake to beg him to stay and it s THE VERY FIRST TIME I beg someone to stay and ii feeel worthless and horrible and ashamed of my self + i have a narcissistic mother so it just makes it worst for me , i now can t stand him anymore and want to break up but before i need my dignity back , how can i do that pease
The mother thing is irrelevant in this situation, if it’s a serious problem in creating patterns, therapy is the best solution. For this situation, tell him CALMLY that you’ve reconsidered the relationship, you’re not feeling happy and you’re going to go your separate way. Don’t explain yourself or justify, don’t use a lot of words, stick to your decision whatever you do, or you’ll be playing into his belief that you’re not worthy of respect. This is a good learning lesson, it’s part of life and the way we grow is to do hard things! Xoxoxo
Better to know his intentions so you don't have to feel confused.
Breaking up with him will give u ur Power back and hold on to it, after this hold no contact as if u Never see him again and live ur best life❤
Sounds like you’re not compatible. Move on.
Just leave him period WLK AWAY
Hi Elliot, your microphone is so low, hard to hear you.
Do you have ADD? Cuz my goodness this was hard too much
So when someone is talkative and high energy/frenetic they now automatically have a disorder? 🤡