I am Korean adopted by Mexican parents. My dad is from Guadalajara and my mom is from Zacatecas. My dad was in the army in Korea and adopted me. I have an older sister and 3 brothers and they are all Mexican. My daughter is half Korean and Mexican too.
Hello Susan! This really hit home for me. My father is Korean and my mother is Mexican/Chicano. I grew up in New Mexico as well. Susan Yara, your experience growing up was like my childhood! I thought I was alone but apparently there were more like me. Where in New Mexico did you grow up?
I'm half Japanese and half American and disabled and overweight. I had a really hard time growing up . I was constantly teased because of the way that I look to the point where I wanted to die. Just to try to cope with everything I turned to drugs and alcohol but for the grace of my higher power and my husband (who is also in the program) He has 36 years sober, and the A.A program I can say now with pride that I have been clean and sober going on 18 years.
This was so great! I’m Korean but was adopted by Italians & my daughter’s father is Russian. We have a very diverse household. He is also half Jewish half Orthodox Christian & I am Catholic. We try to immerse her in all the culture we can so she knows who she is in the world. I hope it will help towards bullies as a shield of strength. After all not many are as unique as she is!
Jaclyn Vissichelli you sound like you have a very interesting story. I love these type of stories, please please start a you tube channel about you experiences 🙏😀
I'm a 1/4 Japanese American and my husband is Korean, we married in Korea and he only came to the U.S a few years ago, age 30. I spent a good majority of my 20s in Korea and feel that really impacted me as a person. There are certain occurances in my childhood that I never quite understood, but now understand were connected to my being of mixed heritage. My children will be mixed, so I appreciate this video :) I also always hear "your children will be beautiful" (even from my own biracial family members ㅡ). We are leaning towards returning to Korea in the next couple of years, and want to ensure our child(ren) feel 100% part of both cultures. If we stay in the U.S. I feel it's important we move to an area with a larger Korean community. In Korea I'm already connected with a large community of non-Korean women married to Korean men. Thanks for the video.
I’m so glad I watched this video. I’m Asian & my fiancé is Mexican & my baby is going to be hapa & this is such a good perspective to learn from. I’m 6 months pregnant & I’m nervous about how my son is going to grasp both culture along with the American culture.
Two of my favorite beauty UA-camrs together in one video! I'm also hapa, half Chinese half White and was born in China. I am glad you two discussed the fetishization of mixed kids. I have experienced that, and it's something that definitely doesn't get talked about enough. Wonderful video :)
Even if kids get bullied for being mixed or for what they look like, this is where educators in schools need to really teach kids to embrace diversity and individuality. I hope Aria and baby boy have teachers who embrace your cultures and look beyond what your kids look like! When I was student teaching I met a half chinese half korean student and she loved to talk about her culture and favorite asian foods with me. Kids need to be taught early on from their parents and educators to really embrace who and how they are that will stem further into building a true community into the classroom. Love these heart to heart talks!
Also teach them that "race" doesn't actually exist because we are all the same species (homo sapien) that actually came from different human species mixing together, that's why we have such a diverse range of features! Everything else is a social construct.. Also we all came from Africa and the first Europeans / Asians etc were "black". I do feel blessed to be hapa.
A 1/2 Chinese 1/2 Korean mix is different from 1/2 Korean 1/2 white mix. One still has prominent Asian features, while the other could pass as ambiguous looking. But regardless of mix-racing, couples still needs to educate themselves and their offsprings of their heritage and roots. It will solve a lot of identity problems, and self-loathing issues.
Thank you Susan and Jen for this awesome relatable video. I am Filipino and my husband is Hmong. We do have a son between who is half of each. I always worry about him, if he will get treated differently and such. Let's celebrate our mixed races and multicultural people.
YES YES YES thank you for addressing festishization of mixed race kids!! I'm so glad someone called it out. Thank you ladies for this conversation, it warms my lil hapa heart
AHHHHH! I’m so glad you had this convo!!! Yes and AMEN! I’m adopted from Korea AND live in the US. Just hearing y’all talk about this is so good for my heart. The feelings I have after this is, I’m so glad I’m not alone and I’m proud of who I am. Thank you ladies.
Loved this video. I’m half Korean and half African American and have felt the difficulty of fitting it. Even when comparing myself with my siblings I felt isolated ( my sister looks African American and my brother looks Korean). I could relate to many things you guys talked about! Thanks for sharing your perspective.
I sincerely thank you for this video - I am a newlywed Korean-Canadian married to a Caucasian, and we're thinking of having a kid in a few years. I grew up being a minority in Canada, but I always knew where I came from and my answer to 'What are you?' question has always been 'I'm a Korean-Canadian'. Nonetheless for our future child, the answer isn't going to be that easy. So I appreciate Susan for sharing her experience as well
I am also half Korean and half Mexican. Born in Korea right after the Korean War. Life growing up as half was nothing you can imagine. I am sure, I was only Mexican in Korea back in 50s and 60s.
Hi Jen. I don’t normally comment but I can relate so much about this. Being with my husband (he’s British I’m Taiwanese) for 5 years i can’t stop hearing people commenting on how our kids are going to look. I really hate it when people say that, as if I made my life “better” because of my husband, as if it is some kind of upgrade. Often people don’t come to me with any intentional racism but things like this is them thinking about being with a white man is more superior than other race. (Even though all they say is only: your kids will be so beautiful) it really repelled me. No matter how a kid look like, socially accepted as good looking or whatnot has nothing to do with them. I do not want my kids growing up being told that they are special because of how the parents look. I would much rather they learn other important values in life... Anyway. I love you Jen. You are amazing!
OK, I'm guilty of saying mixed babies are good looking but I don't see it as upgrading from one race to another, I think they're beautiful because they get the best of two cultures. I won't say that anymore because clearly it offends people :(
I don't think there's anything wrong with commenting about physical appearance. People say it all the time for non mixed raced kids too, physical features and genetics are just interesting to look at and think about. I'm in an interracial relationship and I honestly don't think people are implying that my partner is an "upgrade" or "superior." I wouldn't know from a simple statement unless I actually asked.
My kids are mix, yes same dad and they look so different. I always tell them they can be the best of both worlds, and being a mix child is a proof of love conquers all. A product of two people who chose love more than anything else.
I love that you made a video on this. When you two started singing childhood songs tears came to my eyes. It brought back so many memories. I’m half Korean as well. My mom is from Busan and my dad is white. I never felt like I belonged when I was younger. The Korean girls didn’t like me and the white girls made fun of me. I was very self conscious. Funny how things change. This brought back many memories. Thank you for reminding me of my unique childhood ✌🏼
I enjoy these kind of talks. It's something that everyone has an experience with at some point in their lives. I am glad someone talked about being mixed. I am mixed with soooo many things because of my mom and dad's side. Growing up it was hard to say what my ethnicity was because my mom was Mexican,Puerto rican, Philippian,etc. of anything Latino/a related. My dad was Mexican and Spanish. I find it hard for people who are Mexican American or latino/a related to find the right "general term" because one might say chicano,chicana and many other terms to define themselves. I agree Susan...latinos are harsh. I am a latina and they would criticize me for not knowing Spanish because I grew up in a predominate Hispanic neighborhood. They would also call me names because of my complexion which was whiter than most. When I said I was hispanic they said, " no your not," or even "that's the wrong term." Then I have the friends who thought I was Asian lol Then they would use the wrong term to define my own ethnicity which was you know...common for me. Not knowing your cultures language was hard. Both my parents would work and they never had the time to speak or teach me Spanish....it took me years to accept my culture and language. I even hated my own culture at one point because of the experience I had. Even teachers would assume my ethnicity and judged me harshly. This is a topic I think that is important to some people because it's nice to know others who have gone through something similar. Sorry for the long message. Great video! I enjoyed it alot. Also no matter what comes your way...you are a great mom! Happy early mothers day to both of you! ^_^
Although I can't fully relate since I am full Korean and was raised in the US, it's great how you're bringing some light on the subject! Thanks for sharing!!
Susan be proud of who you are and the diverse you are...you shine as a genuine and authentic person. Your beyond beautiful and Im so happy that you are Mexican and Korean. God bless your family!
Wow.. I can relate to every thing Susan is saying. I am also half Korean , my mom is from jeju island and my dad is American. I grew up with a huge mixed culture confusion growing up in the Korean church in Palm Springs. Happy memories and also a lot of wondering who I am and why I looked different from the other kids getting excluded etc. one thing I struggle with is my physical identity because I don’t really think I look Korean or white, and no one ever usually guesses my race right. Most people think I am Hawaiian or from Egyptian LOL. thank you for sharing your story. I always love seeing and hearing other Hapas❤️❤️❤️
Born and raised in San Antonio. My mom is German American and my dad is Mexican American, both met really young and my grandfather (dad side) used to work along side with my maternal grandfather in his remodeling company back in the 80s. Growing up, I could say I'm grateful I did not face any hardships from my Mexican and German sides nor from friends or other kids, I got along with my cousins and I know some Spanish but not any German since my mother is the 4th generation and my dad is 1st generation.
That awesome that Susan grew up in New Mexico! I was born and raised and still live in New Mexico. I'm among a small population of Chinese who live there but I love it! Love this video!!
I'm so glad I watched this. I'm going to have my own mixed baby in 2 weeks. She'll be half Australian half Chinese. I sometimes worry about how they will fit in. I love there are more mixed out there so she wont be all alone but I hope I can support her and she can have that strong identity you talk about.
Omg all this time I thought susan was straight up Asian, I'm Korean and White and look super White😅 my kids are half Mexican, quarter Korean and White, and I think mixed babies are so beautiful!
Super insightful video-thank you for sharing. I’m Korean, married to a Caucasian man-we have a wonderful son who is 1/2 Korean & 1/2 Caucasian. I really appreciated this video a lot!
Thank you so much for making this video. For the longest time I felt so alone, and it felt like no one understood what it felt like being half Korean and half white. All through middle school and some of Highschool it was hard growing up. It’s hard being mixed with two cultures that are so different from one another, sometimes you just feel stuck in between. Again thank you for this video, I don’t feel so alone anymore.
I am Chinese, specifically, I speak Cantonese. I was born and raised in Canada. Fortunately, I was not criticized much, because I don't look like a typical Chinese. In fact, many people think I am Fillipino. I know my sisters had different experiences, because they looked "more Chinese" than me. However, when I was younger and when I went to Chinese school on Saturdays, I felt the most discriminated. And unfortunately, it was from people who had the same ethnic background as me. Whether it was people from Hong Kong, or parts of China that spoke Cantonese. The gaze I got from them made me feel less than enough, usually, it was either because I couldn't speak Cantonese fluently, or my English accent came through as I was speaking the language. But like the 2 strong ladies in the videos, it has made me a stronger person and I am proud it has made me into the person I am today.
It's awesome to hear from such positive women. And as a first generation AA I can relate to this in so many ways. Adding this to my Mix Asian American collection. Thanks ladies! Glad I found you, xxoo from Thailand
Susan Yara yes, please 🙏🏻 I am currently in a relationship with an Indian guy but I'm Filipino 🇵🇭 but was born and raised in Switzerland 🇨🇭. Talk about culture clash😱
Susan Yara I definitely want to know about that. My Mum is Thai and my dad is Singaporean Indian and I’ve heard of my mother’s story with what it’s like being married to an Indian but there isn’t much of a culture clash because Thai and Indian culture is really similar since Thai culture mostly revolves around Theravada Buddhism and well, the religion started in India. I really want to hear about your story and if there are any culture clashes and all of that! Also, I love u Susan! ❤️
Love this video. Never thought about this topic before. I’m Mexican and my husband is Korean. We are currently pregnant with our first baby together. He has 2 kids that are also half Korean and Mexican. His daughter is excited because she’s having a sister that’s mixed like she is. I also have a daughter but she’s full Mexican. This video put things in to prospective. I hope my child doesn’t have to go through this. The community around me is very mixed.
I’m half Thai and half white and grew in in the Chicago suburbs. My experience at Thai school involved some of those you aren’t Thai comments when I was 4-6. They were insecure and it hurt at the time, but now as an adult they are some of my closer adult friends since they are mostly experiencing a mixed culture now. The world will always have those who reject you and those who don’t. I was raised in a very white culture but close to my Dad. I learned Thai a bit when I was young and in highschool, I learned Thai from some tapes from my dad’s friend and visited Thailand seven times growing up and I embraced my Thai culture. It was a different world when I was growing up I was born in 1984. My kids are a quarter Asian and 75 percent white. We are including some a Thai culture and hang out with Thai community. I’ll be real, there are lots of issues we face as mixed people, but it really made me empathetic and strong. I would never change it.
I love this video! I am full Asian and as a baby I was always picked on by elders mostly older ladies because I was born with pal skin and blonde hair and ppl always thought I was mixed. But this runs in our family. Even till this day ppl think I’m mixed. And as I grow up I learn to deal with it maturely. Btw. Mixed babies are very beautiful! All babies are beautiful. You two are gorgeous!
Love this conversation, thanks! ❤️🙏🏻 I am half Chinese and half Italian and grew up in a small town, back when it wasn’t really a common thing. It was not easy... But I believe this experience, as you said, made me stronger. My mother was always very careful in stressing that being different was a gift, something that added value, not diminished it. Fun fact: still today 90% of the time the first three questions I get ask whenever I meet someone new are: 1) where are you from? ... oh, because I noticed something Asian in your features 2) do you speak Chinese? 3) where does your name come from? (My name is Pauline) Thanks again for this awesome collab!!! 💞
We are probably going to see a lot of Mexican/Korean babies in Mexico in the future. There’s a growing community of Koreans moving to Nuevo León Mexico.
Many people will say " you and your spouse will make beautiful babies " to people they think are attractive. It's almost always meant as a compliment. There are always freaks on the fringe of society. They will always be inappropriate.
I am late watching this vid, but I totally relate to Susan. I am half Chinese and half Cuban (born in Cuba) and Cubans dont recognize me as Cuban and chinese dont as well so, I understand what Susan was describing feeling displaced
Omg, I totally sympathize w this mixed kid topic. My grandpa was full Filipino and only spoke to my mom in English and totally tried to assimalate as much as possible. Me growing up Filipino ans white I wasn't white enough to hang out w white kids and wasn't Filipino enough to hang out w the Filipinos. And my mom always got the "you're gonna have to keep an eye on that one when she gets older" (talking about me)
As a half Korean half English person I've always associated heavily with bring Korean, to the point where I've never considered myself to be English, despite growing up in England. Recently I've had the immortal face slap of 'lol u thought' from strangers and my Asian friends I'm going through the amazing identity crisis wooo.. I think it is very important to mentally brace someone who is mixed like me, and I never was / have received 'the talk' and it so far hasn't gone down too well with me..
"Same dad, same husband" 😂😂😂 This convo was so relaxing yet insightful, thanks! Oh btw one tour recommendation for Susan: Seoul has SO many world-class escape rooms that also offer English translations so you should check them out! One that really gives off a high-quality traditional Korean housing interior is one in Key Escape Gangnam called WolYaAeDaam (월야애담). It provides English translations and it's really beautiful but bring someone who is really familiar with Korean alphabets and language because there is one quiz that kinda requires that. It's really popular so be sure to make a reservation (reservations can be made starting 15 days prior to your wanted date) Hope you enjoy your visit :)
hi dear susan and your nice friend honestly we are one family we are the world but good for you and all half half born that have more reason to proud specially you have more experience and know plus more reason you are so smart
Yay! My two favorite beauty gurus collaborating! :) This was a great video-race and ethnicity is a really personal and thought-provoking topic so thank you for opening up to us.
As a halfie ^^ (korean/American). Def embrace both cultures whenever you can, including traditions + languages. They'll benefit from their identity, opportunities, to be able to communicate both sides of family/friends, etc. To be a halfie is a blessing alone. Best of luck!
Take a DNA test you'd be surprised and even if you were to be let's say 100% European, Europeans are actually very diverse people today many consider Europe to be a one people society but actually Europeans are very diverse ethnic groups of people on a shared continent, there are Slavics, Nordics, Mediteraneans, Celts, Normans, etc.. etc.. etc.. each with their own languages, variances in skin tones, hair and eye colors, different influences, histories, languages, foods, music, culture, customs, the list goes on and on and on 🙂
it’s so tough being half korean half white. people at my white based school always criticize that im a north korean or related to Kim Jong Un. they always make fun of my eyes or the way my mom talks with her accent and stuff. however, im proud to have my korean heritage. it’s horrible there is still some racism. however, we are strong! my advice is joining a solid korean church youth group of some sort. when i went to one, i made a lot of new friends and felt welcome! it took some time, but you just have to get to know them. also, YOU DONT HAVE TO SPEAK KOREAN. YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED. It does get rough sometimes with the language barrier, but us mixed kids will always stick together. 파이팅💓
This is SUCH a great video. I can so relate to this because i moved to South Africa at 9 and experienced a lot of racism, identity crisis but i agree it has made me stronger and opened my eyes to a bigger world. “where are you from? “...Leading to where were you born” Is probably still my most hated question ppl ask me. Sometimes i brush it off saying ppl are just silly or ignorant but sometimes i get really mad at them. I thought moving back to korea would make me blend in but ive realized now im a person who cant be defined by one country or one culture. Im sure you have a lot of thoughts and concerns about raising Aria and baby #2 but the fact that you are aware of possible bumps is a great start and also being there for your children when they do need you will help them so much. Fun thought, I think susan should go to hangang and order fried chicken as delivery and drink beer. Such a korean thing to do hahahahahaha.
Thank you Jen and Susan for talking about this and sharing about your experiences and advices. Love this video. Love you both. I am going to have future biracial kids too since my bf is from a different race and we are going to marry soon. So thank you for this video for sharing your thoughts, views and experiences. 💕🥰
PS. I think the discussion was great and getting to know you was wonderful. We need this discussion during this political time. Bringing people together. Finding joy in our things in common and love in our differences.
This happens tome. My great grandfather was Chinese but we are all Mexican. I get comments all the time, I learned to embrace it and I really like it (:
I love this video. I have a mixture of the things you’ve been talking about. I was born in Korea but I was adopted my Caucasian parents so I was always seen as not “really” Asian. I want to go back to Korea and learn the language but a little hesitant to do so. It is definitely heartbreaking when your own culture doesn’t see you as one of them
🇸🇪/🇰🇷 my mom was adopted from korea. And I and her both grew up in sweden. I sure feel like I have both con’/s and pro’s... i didn’t have a korean ubrinhing... i feel like people have hard to understand how it is to have 2 so different origins
I had no idea Susan was half Korean! My 8 month old son is half Korean half white (I’m Korean my husband is white). This was a great video. Very interesting to get her perspective.
I wouldn't mind mixing with Susan Yara - Tee, Hee! But seriously, thanks for this. I just stumbled across Ms. Yara today when her video popped up and just figured maybe she was 1/2 White, 1/2 Asian. Never would have guessed 1/2 Mexican, because Latinos mixing with Asians is *extremely* RARE! I'm a Black man, and "Blasian" mixes are far, far more common. Latino guys just tend to stick with their own. And when I was stationed in Korea, you just saw very few of the Latino guys chasing Korean women. They seemed to hold it until they got home. I had girlfriend in Korea who was a dark as me and she was *not* mixed heritage! Just a really, really DARK Korean... Plus, I saw other Koreans who looked White, Latino who were NOT of mixed heritage. So, just within the Korean people there's a lot of physical diversity. To keep it simple, Ms. Yara I would classify you as "Asian", because that's your dominant feature. Just like Halle Berry and Mariah Kerry are "Black" women and Tiger Woods is a "Black" man, etc.
I am German and Korean and half of the time people always say that I Sounded mean just because I was German, so tell your kids about all the stereo types of Koreans and prepare them about how to deal with it.
Love!! 😍 I'm half-Korean too and am part of a couple FB groups! They were so key to a lot of healing in my life because of some tough experiences growing up biracial! So cool to see you two in one vid-- I've been subscribed to both of you for a while now! 🤗
Jane Doe You should def join the half-Korean group on FB!!! Lots of stories and connecting there!!! 🤗🤗🤗 There's just something about having a group that just 'gets it'! ☺️
Wow, interesting perspective. I’m half Korean and half Italian, definitely feel closer to my Korean side. I grew up in Northern Virginia, around a ton of other half Koreans and all kinds of races, so I didn’t struggle much. Now living in Hawaii, I’ve noticed so many people commenting that my daughter is “brown”... when we live in a hugely diverse place. I feel such a connection to other half Koreans, so happy to hear your stories
Half Korean/half Italian here ! SAME EXPERIENCE, it’s crazy I can relate to everything. Even the lullaby, I was like if that’s what she starts singing right now 💀 lol. Most important I think is learning the language, it’s my biggest embarrassment I wish I could speak/understand
My niece and nephew are half Portuguese and half German living in France. Thankfully Europe embraces multiculturalism and they go to an international school with many mixed kids. USA seems a harsh country to grow up in, for sure. But then again maybe growing up different than the norm is hard in any country! I remember studying abroad in Europe and people being fascinated with the fact that I was from elsewhere. In the US either they don’t care or they just perceive that has a handicap or view you with disdain. This is my personal opinion and self experience.
Loved this one! I would recommend going to a Korean baseball game. I just finished a course on U.S. and East Asia and we did a project on the culture of baseball in Korea. So amazing! It is now on my bucket list to go to Seoul to see a game. It is incredible.
I'm half Korean half white and this validated everything I felt growing up. At school I wasn't white and within the Korean community I never felt Korean enough. I don't think my parents ever understood that divide I felt within myself. Your children are so lucky ♡ Now I'm a kindergarten teacher and we talk about our different cultures all the time. I do home visits to meet their families in their home and I get to experience their cultures. Then the next day I show the class pictures and we talk about what I saw and did and what might be the same or different for other kids in the class. It's been some of the best experiences I've ever had.
Thank you for having me Jen! You are such a joy. Yay for mixed babies!! ❤️
Susan Yara Susan can you talk about how your mom/family dealt with your mom's pregnancy situation?
Wow!!! Great parents’ love story!!! How did your Korean mom communicate with your English- speaking dad?
Susan Yara same same!! Cute.
Susan Yara you should get your nails done by nail_Unistella and possibly do a video she is on Instagram. Her job look amazing.
Susan Yara you are so beautiful!!!
half korean half mexican is a really unique mix 🇰🇷🇲🇽
I am Korean adopted by Mexican parents. My dad is from Guadalajara and my mom is from Zacatecas. My dad was in the army in Korea and adopted me. I have an older sister and 3 brothers and they are all Mexican. My daughter is half Korean and Mexican too.
That’s beautiful 😍
My parents are from Zacatecas!
As a mixed mexican-korean-black baby this video brought me such happiness. Thank you !♡
That's a mix!!!! Nice!!!
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Hello Susan! This really hit home for me. My father is Korean and my mother is Mexican/Chicano. I grew up in New Mexico as well. Susan Yara, your experience growing up was like my childhood! I thought I was alone but apparently there were more like me. Where in New Mexico did you grow up?
Susan Yara is Mexican?! Latina pride 🇲🇽
I'm half Japanese and half American and disabled and overweight. I had a really hard time growing up . I was constantly teased because of the way that I look to the point where I wanted to die. Just to try to cope with everything I turned to drugs and alcohol but for the grace of my higher power and my husband (who is also in the program) He has 36 years sober, and the A.A program I can say now with pride that I have been clean and sober going on 18 years.
U r strong and beautiful!
We all druggist have same problem only the stories are different. I had 4 months of N.A program treatment .
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As opposed to "non-settler" white?
Quit your racism, dude!
Amy Blakewood all our love 💓
This was so great! I’m Korean but was adopted by Italians & my daughter’s father is Russian. We have a very diverse household. He is also half Jewish half Orthodox Christian & I am Catholic. We try to immerse her in all the culture we can so she knows who she is in the world. I hope it will help towards bullies as a shield of strength. After all not many are as unique as she is!
Jaclyn Vissichelli you sound like you have a very interesting story. I love these type of stories, please please start a you tube channel about you experiences 🙏😀
I'm a 1/4 Japanese American and my husband is Korean, we married in Korea and he only came to the U.S a few years ago, age 30. I spent a good majority of my 20s in Korea and feel that really impacted me as a person. There are certain occurances in my childhood that I never quite understood, but now understand were connected to my being of mixed heritage. My children will be mixed, so I appreciate this video :) I also always hear "your children will be beautiful" (even from my own biracial family members ㅡ). We are leaning towards returning to Korea in the next couple of years, and want to ensure our child(ren) feel 100% part of both cultures. If we stay in the U.S. I feel it's important we move to an area with a larger Korean community. In Korea I'm already connected with a large community of non-Korean women married to Korean men. Thanks for the video.
I’m so glad I watched this video. I’m Asian & my fiancé is Mexican & my baby is going to be hapa & this is such a good perspective to learn from. I’m 6 months pregnant & I’m nervous about how my son is going to grasp both culture along with the American culture.
This video speaks so much to me. My mom is Korean. My dad is Mexican. And I live in New Mexico!! I definitely relate so much to you!
Two of my favorite beauty UA-camrs together in one video! I'm also hapa, half Chinese half White and was born in China. I am glad you two discussed the fetishization of mixed kids. I have experienced that, and it's something that definitely doesn't get talked about enough. Wonderful video :)
Even if kids get bullied for being mixed or for what they look like, this is where educators in schools need to really teach kids to embrace diversity and individuality. I hope Aria and baby boy have teachers who embrace your cultures and look beyond what your kids look like! When I was student teaching I met a half chinese half korean student and she loved to talk about her culture and favorite asian foods with me. Kids need to be taught early on from their parents and educators to really embrace who and how they are that will stem further into building a true community into the classroom. Love these heart to heart talks!
Elena Kim The problem is that most educators need to be educated!!! They are many closet racist educators. Sad 😞
Diversity, along with Equity is a dangerous term used by left to promote an anti-white agenda
Totally understandable and true but as a future educator I just want to keep these kinds of things in mind !
Also teach them that "race" doesn't actually exist because we are all the same species (homo sapien) that actually came from different human species mixing together, that's why we have such a diverse range of features!
Everything else is a social construct.. Also we all came from Africa and the first Europeans / Asians etc were "black". I do feel blessed to be hapa.
A 1/2 Chinese 1/2 Korean mix is different from 1/2 Korean 1/2 white mix. One still has prominent Asian features, while the other could pass as ambiguous looking. But regardless of mix-racing, couples still needs to educate themselves and their offsprings of their heritage and roots. It will solve a lot of identity problems, and self-loathing issues.
Thank you Susan and Jen for this awesome relatable video. I am Filipino and my husband is Hmong. We do have a son between who is half of each. I always worry about him, if he will get treated differently and such. Let's celebrate our mixed races and multicultural people.
Korean Mexican American? Wow what a mix!💕
Are you korean??
Thanks for being so transparent Susan! God bless you!
YES YES YES thank you for addressing festishization of mixed race kids!! I'm so glad someone called it out. Thank you ladies for this conversation, it warms my lil hapa heart
only 40 seconds in and holy cow, Susan is freaking beautiful!
AHHHHH! I’m so glad you had this convo!!! Yes and AMEN! I’m adopted from Korea AND live in the US. Just hearing y’all talk about this is so good for my heart. The feelings I have after this is, I’m so glad I’m not alone and I’m proud of who I am. Thank you ladies.
Kim Bolton I'm adopted from Korea as well. My son is mixed, and this was such an amazing talk!
Loved this video. I’m half Korean and half African American and have felt the difficulty of fitting it. Even when comparing myself with my siblings I felt isolated ( my sister looks African American and my brother looks Korean). I could relate to many things you guys talked about! Thanks for sharing your perspective.
I sincerely thank you for this video - I am a newlywed Korean-Canadian married to a Caucasian, and we're thinking of having a kid in a few years. I grew up being a minority in Canada, but I always knew where I came from and my answer to 'What are you?' question has always been 'I'm a Korean-Canadian'. Nonetheless for our future child, the answer isn't going to be that easy. So I appreciate Susan for sharing her experience as well
I am also half Korean and half Mexican. Born in Korea right after the Korean War. Life growing up as half was nothing you can imagine. I am sure, I was only Mexican in Korea back in 50s and 60s.
Hi Jen. I don’t normally comment but I can relate so much about this. Being with my husband (he’s British I’m Taiwanese) for 5 years i can’t stop hearing people commenting on how our kids are going to look. I really hate it when people say that, as if I made my life “better” because of my husband, as if it is some kind of upgrade.
Often people don’t come to me with any intentional racism but things like this is them thinking about being with a white man is more superior than other race. (Even though all they say is only: your kids will be so beautiful) it really repelled me. No matter how a kid look like, socially accepted as good looking or whatnot has nothing to do with them. I do not want my kids growing up being told that they are special because of how the parents look. I would much rather they learn other important values in life...
Anyway. I love you Jen. You are amazing!
OK, I'm guilty of saying mixed babies are good looking but I don't see it as upgrading from one race to another, I think they're beautiful because they get the best of two cultures. I won't say that anymore because clearly it offends people :(
I don't think there's anything wrong with commenting about physical appearance. People say it all the time for non mixed raced kids too, physical features and genetics are just interesting to look at and think about. I'm in an interracial relationship and I honestly don't think people are implying that my partner is an "upgrade" or "superior." I wouldn't know from a simple statement unless I actually asked.
My kids are mix, yes same dad and they look so different. I always tell them they can be the best of both worlds, and being a mix child is a proof of love conquers all. A product of two people who chose love more than anything else.
My kids are mixed. Thank you Susan for sharing your insight and experience! I will be talking more to my girls about their mixed heritage.
I love that you made a video on this. When you two started singing childhood songs tears came to my eyes. It brought back so many memories. I’m half Korean as well. My mom is from Busan and my dad is white. I never felt like I belonged when I was younger. The Korean girls didn’t like me and the white girls made fun of me. I was very self conscious. Funny how things change. This brought back many memories. Thank you for reminding me of my unique childhood ✌🏼
Jennifer Fabian I look back and realize I’m so grateful for being mixed. It’s a different perspective. 🤗
I enjoy these kind of talks. It's something that everyone has an experience with at some point in their lives. I am glad someone talked about being mixed. I am mixed with soooo many things because of my mom and dad's side. Growing up it was hard to say what my ethnicity was because my mom was Mexican,Puerto rican, Philippian,etc. of anything Latino/a related. My dad was Mexican and Spanish. I find it hard for people who are Mexican American or latino/a related to find the right "general term" because one might say chicano,chicana and many other terms to define themselves. I agree Susan...latinos are harsh. I am a latina and they would criticize me for not knowing Spanish because I grew up in a predominate Hispanic neighborhood. They would also call me names because of my complexion which was whiter than most. When I said I was hispanic they said, " no your not," or even "that's the wrong term." Then I have the friends who thought I was Asian lol Then they would use the wrong term to define my own ethnicity which was you know...common for me. Not knowing your cultures language was hard. Both my parents would work and they never had the time to speak or teach me Spanish....it took me years to accept my culture and language. I even hated my own culture at one point because of the experience I had. Even teachers would assume my ethnicity and judged me harshly. This is a topic I think that is important to some people because it's nice to know others who have gone through something similar. Sorry for the long message. Great video! I enjoyed it alot. Also no matter what comes your way...you are a great mom! Happy early mothers day to both of you! ^_^
Although I can't fully relate since I am full Korean and was raised in the US, it's great how you're bringing some light on the subject! Thanks for sharing!!
Susan be proud of who you are and the diverse you are...you shine as a genuine and authentic person. Your beyond beautiful and Im so happy that you are Mexican and Korean. God bless your family!
Wow.. I can relate to every thing Susan is saying. I am also half Korean , my mom is from jeju island and my dad is American. I grew up with a huge mixed culture confusion growing up in the Korean church in Palm Springs. Happy memories and also a lot of wondering who I am and why I looked different from the other kids getting excluded etc. one thing I struggle with is my physical identity because I don’t really think I look Korean or white, and no one ever usually guesses my race right. Most people think I am Hawaiian or from Egyptian LOL. thank you for sharing your story. I always love seeing and hearing other Hapas❤️❤️❤️
Born and raised in San Antonio. My mom is German American and my dad is Mexican American, both met really young and my grandfather (dad side) used to work along side with my maternal grandfather in his remodeling company back in the 80s. Growing up, I could say I'm grateful I did not face any hardships from my Mexican and German sides nor from friends or other kids, I got along with my cousins and I know some Spanish but not any German since my mother is the 4th generation and my dad is 1st generation.
That awesome that Susan grew up in New Mexico! I was born and raised and still live in New Mexico. I'm among a small population of Chinese who live there but I love it! Love this video!!
hellou azn girl
I'm so glad I watched this. I'm going to have my own mixed baby in 2 weeks. She'll be half Australian half Chinese. I sometimes worry about how they will fit in. I love there are more mixed out there so she wont be all alone but I hope I can support her and she can have that strong identity you talk about.
I'm half korean as well. I can truly relate to Susan's experiences.
Such a great video! Thanks Jen!
Mixed Makeup This conversation was great!!! You need to do more talks like this!! :)
Omg all this time I thought susan was straight up Asian, I'm Korean and White and look super White😅 my kids are half Mexican, quarter Korean and White, and I think mixed babies are so beautiful!
Super insightful video-thank you for sharing. I’m Korean, married to a Caucasian man-we have a wonderful son who is 1/2 Korean & 1/2 Caucasian. I really appreciated this video a lot!
🇰🇷🇲🇽🙆♀️👍the best of both! Love Susan even more now 💕💕
B Jeon Woohoo!! ❤️❤️❤️
i love this! i am fully japanese and i grew up in europe so it’s interesting to see the differences in the us
are you bilingual?
Thank you so much for making this video. For the longest time I felt so alone, and it felt like no one understood what it felt like being half Korean and half white. All through middle school and some of Highschool it was hard growing up. It’s hard being mixed with two cultures that are so different from one another, sometimes you just feel stuck in between. Again thank you for this video, I don’t feel so alone anymore.
I am Chinese, specifically, I speak Cantonese. I was born and raised in Canada. Fortunately, I was not criticized much, because I don't look like a typical Chinese. In fact, many people think I am Fillipino. I know my sisters had different experiences, because they looked "more Chinese" than me. However, when I was younger and when I went to Chinese school on Saturdays, I felt the most discriminated. And unfortunately, it was from people who had the same ethnic background as me. Whether it was people from Hong Kong, or parts of China that spoke Cantonese. The gaze I got from them made me feel less than enough, usually, it was either because I couldn't speak Cantonese fluently, or my English accent came through as I was speaking the language. But like the 2 strong ladies in the videos, it has made me a stronger person and I am proud it has made me into the person I am today.
sleepinblue41 similar situation but I was born in China, grew up in Canada, I got called a FOB by CBCs. Not nice.
Wow...some people disgust me (not you guys, just to clarify)
It's awesome to hear from such positive women. And as a first generation AA I can relate to this in so many ways. Adding this to my Mix Asian American collection. Thanks ladies! Glad I found you, xxoo from Thailand
yes please, I want a topic on what it's like to marry somebody who is Indian. Because they also have strong family values.
Keith Cuarteros I have a lot to say about it. 👍
Susan Yara yes, please 🙏🏻 I am currently in a relationship with an Indian guy but I'm Filipino 🇵🇭 but was born and raised in Switzerland 🇨🇭. Talk about culture clash😱
Susan Yara looking forward to that video 😉
Susan Yara I definitely want to know about that.
My Mum is Thai and my dad is Singaporean Indian and I’ve heard of my mother’s story with what it’s like being married to an Indian but there isn’t much of a culture clash because Thai and Indian culture is really similar since Thai culture mostly revolves around Theravada Buddhism and well, the religion started in India.
I really want to hear about your story and if there are any culture clashes and all of that!
Also, I love u Susan! ❤️
@@keithcuarteros9844 i know this is a year old, my fiance and i are the other way around. im Bangladeshi-canadian and my fiance is Filipino. Lol
Love this video. Never thought about this topic before. I’m Mexican and my husband is Korean. We are currently pregnant with our first baby together. He has 2 kids that are also half Korean and Mexican. His daughter is excited because she’s having a sister that’s mixed like she is. I also have a daughter but she’s full Mexican. This video put things in to prospective. I hope my child doesn’t have to go through this. The community around me is very mixed.
I’m half Thai and half white and grew in in the Chicago suburbs. My experience at Thai school involved some of those you aren’t Thai comments when I was 4-6. They were insecure and it hurt at the time, but now as an adult they are some of my closer adult friends since they are mostly experiencing a mixed culture now. The world will always have those who reject you and those who don’t. I was raised in a very white culture but close to my Dad. I learned Thai a bit when I was young and in highschool, I learned Thai from some tapes from my dad’s friend and visited Thailand seven times growing up and I embraced my Thai culture. It was a different world when I was growing up I was born in 1984. My kids are a quarter Asian and 75 percent white. We are including some a Thai culture and hang out with Thai community. I’ll be real, there are lots of issues we face as mixed people, but it really made me empathetic and strong. I would never change it.
she looks gorgeous. her korean pronounciation is perfect..
I love this video!
I am full Asian and as a baby I was always picked on by elders mostly older ladies because I was born with pal skin and blonde hair and ppl always thought I was mixed. But this runs in our family. Even till this day ppl think I’m mixed. And as I grow up I learn to deal with it maturely.
Btw. Mixed babies are very beautiful! All babies are beautiful. You two are gorgeous!
maybe you should ask mom some question??greetings from me
What a beautiful discussion! I love these types of videos :)
Love this conversation, thanks! ❤️🙏🏻 I am half Chinese and half Italian and grew up in a small town, back when it wasn’t really a common thing. It was not easy... But I believe this experience, as you said, made me stronger. My mother was always very careful in stressing that being different was a gift, something that added value, not diminished it.
Fun fact: still today 90% of the time the first three questions I get ask whenever I meet someone new are: 1) where are you from? ... oh, because I noticed something Asian in your features 2) do you speak Chinese? 3) where does your name come from? (My name is Pauline)
Thanks again for this awesome collab!!! 💞
Susan should being me with her to Korea it would totally enrich her experience ❤
We are probably going to see a lot of Mexican/Korean babies in Mexico in the future. There’s a growing community of Koreans moving to Nuevo León Mexico.
So interesting! I loved this discussion. Thank you for sharing!
Many people will say " you and your spouse will make beautiful babies " to people they think are attractive. It's almost always meant as a compliment. There are always freaks on the fringe of society. They will always be inappropriate.
Such a wonderful chat! So great to hear this! 😊
I am late watching this vid, but I totally relate to Susan. I am half Chinese and half Cuban (born in Cuba) and Cubans dont recognize me as Cuban and chinese dont as well so, I understand what Susan was describing feeling displaced
Omg, I totally sympathize w this mixed kid topic.
My grandpa was full Filipino and only spoke to my mom in English and totally tried to assimalate as much as possible.
Me growing up Filipino ans white I wasn't white enough to hang out w white kids and wasn't Filipino enough to hang out w the Filipinos.
And my mom always got the "you're gonna have to keep an eye on that one when she gets older" (talking about me)
i wish there were pitures of susan as she was telling her story:) she's so beautiful.. i wonder what she looks like as a little girl...
I love this video, it's so nice to have these conversations about race/ethnicity in this kind of context.
As a half Korean half English person I've always associated heavily with bring Korean, to the point where I've never considered myself to be English, despite growing up in England. Recently I've had the immortal face slap of 'lol u thought' from strangers and my Asian friends I'm going through the amazing identity crisis wooo..
I think it is very important to mentally brace someone who is mixed like me, and I never was / have received 'the talk' and it so far hasn't gone down too well with me..
"Same dad, same husband" 😂😂😂 This convo was so relaxing yet insightful, thanks! Oh btw one tour recommendation for Susan: Seoul has SO many world-class escape rooms that also offer English translations so you should check them out! One that really gives off a high-quality traditional Korean housing interior is one in Key Escape Gangnam called WolYaAeDaam (월야애담). It provides English translations and it's really beautiful but bring someone who is really familiar with Korean alphabets and language because there is one quiz that kinda requires that. It's really popular so be sure to make a reservation (reservations can be made starting 15 days prior to your wanted date) Hope you enjoy your visit :)
What a great conversation! I’m adopted from Korea and live in the US. ❤️ so much of what you guys talked about and can relate so much!
hi dear susan and your nice friend honestly we are one family we are the world but good for you and all half half born that have more reason to proud specially you have more experience and know plus more reason you are so smart
Yay! My two favorite beauty gurus collaborating! :) This was a great video-race and ethnicity is a really personal and thought-provoking topic so thank you for opening up to us.
As a halfie ^^ (korean/American). Def embrace both cultures whenever you can, including traditions + languages. They'll benefit from their identity, opportunities, to be able to communicate both sides of family/friends, etc. To be a halfie is a blessing alone. Best of luck!
This was so interesting, thank you! My background is very monocultural and I find it very fascinating to learn about different backgrounds.
Take a DNA test you'd be surprised and even if you were to be let's say 100% European, Europeans are actually very diverse people today many consider Europe to be a one people society but actually Europeans are very diverse ethnic groups of people on a shared continent, there are Slavics, Nordics, Mediteraneans, Celts, Normans, etc.. etc.. etc.. each with their own languages, variances in skin tones, hair and eye colors, different influences, histories, languages, foods, music, culture, customs, the list goes on and on and on 🙂
it’s so tough being half korean half white. people at my white based school always criticize that im a north korean or related to Kim Jong Un. they always make fun of my eyes or the way my mom talks with her accent and stuff. however, im proud to have my korean heritage. it’s horrible there is still some racism. however, we are strong! my advice is joining a solid korean church youth group of some sort. when i went to one, i made a lot of new friends and felt welcome! it took some time, but you just have to get to know them. also, YOU DONT HAVE TO SPEAK KOREAN. YOU ARE NOT REQUIRED. It does get rough sometimes with the language barrier, but us mixed kids will always stick together. 파이팅💓
I love Susan. She’s so intelligent and beautiful. I’m surprised she’s half Korean and Mexican. Would have never known.
This is SUCH a great video. I can so relate to this because i moved to South Africa at 9 and experienced a lot of racism, identity crisis but i agree it has made me stronger and opened my eyes to a bigger world. “where are you from? “...Leading to where were you born” Is probably still my most hated question ppl ask me. Sometimes i brush it off saying ppl are just silly or ignorant but sometimes i get really mad at them. I thought moving back to korea would make me blend in but ive realized now im a person who cant be defined by one country or one culture. Im sure you have a lot of thoughts and concerns about raising Aria and baby #2 but the fact that you are aware of possible bumps is a great start and also being there for your children when they do need you will help them so much.
Fun thought, I think susan should go to hangang and order fried chicken as delivery and drink beer. Such a korean thing to do hahahahahaha.
Hapas have the best of both worlds. Gorgeous features.
Thank you Jen and Susan for talking about this and sharing about your experiences and advices. Love this video. Love you both. I am going to have future biracial kids too since my bf is from a different race and we are going to marry soon. So thank you for this video for sharing your thoughts, views and experiences. 💕🥰
As a hapa, that last part actually gave me a bit of confidence 😭 감사해요 언니 ..
She is beautiful! I loved hearing about her experiences.
PS. I think the discussion was great and getting to know you was wonderful. We need this discussion during this political time. Bringing people together. Finding joy in our things in common and love in our differences.
Susan I am full mexican and look more asian than you lol. I got picked on all the time but now I embrace looking asian and unique!
eyecandie2004 Haha!! So many of my friends and family say the same.
Many Mexicans have Native Indian blood in them, and Native Indians have Asian blood in them, so that is very common!! :)
I’m full Asian and I have family members that look Mexican and Native American lol we go with the flow lol
This happens tome. My great grandfather was Chinese but we are all Mexican. I get comments all the time, I learned to embrace it and I really like it (:
Full Mexican means you are full blooded Native American. Majority of Mexicans are mixed race European + Native mix with a hint of African.
I love this! It's so nice to see your perspectives on this. I thoroughly enjoyed this :)
I love that black and white gingham top!
I just had a mixed baby. I am Pakistani and my husband is Korean. THIS video was 100000% relatable!!
I love this video. I have a mixture of the things you’ve been talking about. I was born in Korea but I was adopted my Caucasian parents so I was always seen as not “really” Asian. I want to go back to Korea and learn the language but a little hesitant to do so. It is definitely heartbreaking when your own culture doesn’t see you as one of them
Dont be afraid, I think it is worth to visit here.
Love your blouse but dang....
She's so pretty 😍
🇸🇪/🇰🇷 my mom was adopted from korea. And I and her both grew up in sweden. I sure feel like I have both con’/s and pro’s... i didn’t have a korean ubrinhing... i feel like people have hard to understand how it is to have 2 so different origins
I had no idea Susan was half Korean! My 8 month old son is half Korean half white (I’m Korean my husband is white). This was a great video. Very interesting to get her perspective.
Eunice Talton Yup! A lot of people don’t realize. 😊
This is amazing everyone in the world ever should be required to watch this
I’m half Filipino half Irish and this resonated with me!!
I wouldn't mind mixing with Susan Yara - Tee, Hee! But seriously, thanks for this. I just stumbled across Ms. Yara today when her video popped up and just figured maybe she was 1/2 White, 1/2 Asian. Never would have guessed 1/2 Mexican, because Latinos mixing with Asians is *extremely* RARE! I'm a Black man, and "Blasian" mixes are far, far more common. Latino guys just tend to stick with their own. And when I was stationed in Korea, you just saw very few of the Latino guys chasing Korean women. They seemed to hold it until they got home. I had girlfriend in Korea who was a dark as me and she was *not* mixed heritage! Just a really, really DARK Korean... Plus, I saw other Koreans who looked White, Latino who were NOT of mixed heritage. So, just within the Korean people there's a lot of physical diversity. To keep it simple, Ms. Yara I would classify you as "Asian", because that's your dominant feature. Just like Halle Berry and Mariah Kerry are "Black" women and Tiger Woods is a "Black" man, etc.
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I'm Hispanic had Japanese and Korean girlfriends honestly they are fun also a joy to be around.
I am German and Korean and half of the time people always say that I Sounded mean just because I was German, so tell your kids about all the stereo types of Koreans and prepare them about how to deal with it.
I relate to so many of the things said. I am half korean as well. It feels like when you don’t speak korean you are outcasted.
Abigail Yi It’s true!
Abigail Yi Girl, I’m full Korean and get the same criticism! Koreans can be so harsh
Teach your children Korean. As a Korean Hapa I wish my mom pushed harder to learn.
Love!! 😍 I'm half-Korean too and am part of a couple FB groups! They were so key to a lot of healing in my life because of some tough experiences growing up biracial! So cool to see you two in one vid-- I've been subscribed to both of you for a while now! 🤗
J So I didn’t even consider there were FB groups for it! 😛
Jane Doe You should def join the half-Korean group on FB!!! Lots of stories and connecting there!!! 🤗🤗🤗 There's just something about having a group that just 'gets it'! ☺️
Wow, interesting perspective. I’m half Korean and half Italian, definitely feel closer to my Korean side. I grew up in Northern Virginia, around a ton of other half Koreans and all kinds of races, so I didn’t struggle much. Now living in Hawaii, I’ve noticed so many people commenting that my daughter is “brown”... when we live in a hugely diverse place. I feel such a connection to other half Koreans, so happy to hear your stories
Half Korean/half Italian here ! SAME EXPERIENCE, it’s crazy I can relate to everything. Even the lullaby, I was like if that’s what she starts singing right now 💀 lol. Most important I think is learning the language, it’s my biggest embarrassment I wish I could speak/understand
My cousins are half Mexican and Korean and they are flipping cute!!!😊🇲🇽🇰🇷
My niece and nephew are half Portuguese and half German living in France. Thankfully Europe embraces multiculturalism and they go to an international school with many mixed kids. USA seems a harsh country to grow up in, for sure. But then again maybe growing up different than the norm is hard in any country! I remember studying abroad in Europe and people being fascinated with the fact that I was from elsewhere. In the US either they don’t care or they just perceive that has a handicap or view you with disdain. This is my personal opinion and self experience.
Loved this one! I would recommend going to a Korean baseball game. I just finished a course on U.S. and East Asia and we did a project on the culture of baseball in Korea. So amazing! It is now on my bucket list to go to Seoul to see a game. It is incredible.
I wish this was longer or a series
I wrote an essay about the identity of half-japanese last year for my asian studies unit in uni, it was such an interesting topic 😁
I wished this video was longer!! It was so interesting to hear and see how that related in my life as an Asian American.
Thank you! & Hi!
I really enjoyed your video!!
I have two mixed kids living in Korea.
I'm half Korean half white and this validated everything I felt growing up. At school I wasn't white and within the Korean community I never felt Korean enough. I don't think my parents ever understood that divide I felt within myself. Your children are so lucky ♡ Now I'm a kindergarten teacher and we talk about our different cultures all the time. I do home visits to meet their families in their home and I get to experience their cultures. Then the next day I show the class pictures and we talk about what I saw and did and what might be the same or different for other kids in the class. It's been some of the best experiences I've ever had.
Ahhh awesome collab 🤗
Jess Lim 🤗🤗🤗