He wasn’t an absent dad. He was when Wendy was pregnant but he wasn’t absent when vale was born. U also have to understand they are young. The mind doesn’t fully develop until u are 25 and older. They were fresh out of high school still trying to figure out what career path to take when she got pregnant. Now they are 20 and still trying to find what they are interested in. I honestly think people can be an amazing father but a horrible partner and that’s unfortunately how some are.
@@Realryleighhe was absent for 3 months did you not listen to anything? Also the brain doesn’t even fully develop at 25 in most people because of trauma and other shit. Also she was fresh out of high school not him he was a grown ass man knowing wtf he was doing y’all be defending his weird ass too much it’s like yall don’t listen to anything
Glad you brought wendy by herself! hope people realize what she does for valentina. Carlos parents have fault in how he acted with Wendy during her pregnancy. Love wendy she’s so humble
I feel like mamma Alicia is also able to heal a part of her heart being able to be sooo hands on with Valentina cause she was sooo busy trying to raise her own children🌸❤️
Dicen que se ama más a los nietos que a los hijos, que la felicidad completa no llega hasta que nos convertimos en abuelos, que un nieto es el mejor de los regalos, un obsequio que te da la vida cuando menos lo esperabas, y que cuando un nieto te agarra por el dedo,te agarra también un trozo de tu corazón. Dicen que de ellos recibimos los besos que ya nadie nos da y a ellos les damos los besos que ya a nadie daremos,que son ángeles sin alas, una nueva oportunidad, la mejor de las alegrías,unas delicadas criaturitas que le dan de nuevo sentido a la vida. Dicen que a ellos se les enseña todo lo que aprendimos demasiado tarde, y se les da todo lo que tenemos incluso un amor que creíamos olvidado, y dicen que los ves crecer, sabiendo que los dejarás pronto, demasiado pronto y es por eso que se les quiere más que a nada,y más que a nadie. Un amor que solo lo entiende quién tiene la dicha de tener un nieto. ❤️
people love to hate on wendy, but she literally went through so much shit with carlos!! she loved that man, had a baby with him!! that could change a woman so much.
Wendy made me cry. She just wanted to be loved from her father & Carlos. It's ugly feeling like you aren't worth. Keep growing Wendy & loving yourself for you and Vale!!
She was 18, not even becoming her own person yet, ppd, going through a horrible break up, she was on fight or flight and her childhood trauma. Her foggy memory is due to all her trauma.
@@ForevaaEVaI agree . Therapy could help a lot & of course if she also finds the right therapist. I’ve gone through some bad ones & now have a great one again. Wendy is really young & she will find her own healing journey hopefully. I wish the best for her.
@@estlopez7396Yes, her not remembering much because trauma response is when your brain purposely or sometimes not even purposely forgets things that happens in your past in order to protect yourself and not have anxiety. Like when she says autopilot, she is just going day by day but not feeling anything or allowing herself to feel anything.
My heart honestly goes out to Wendy. So many people criticize her, & bash on her. Yes, there’s a way of her making money different ways & always including her daughter, but we have to remember, she’s so young, she had a baby at a young age, & thankfully she has a mother, & siblings, who love & support her & her daughter & help, which is a kind of village we need, her village supports her & allows her to live her life as well. As life goes on & Wendy becomes older, she’ll become a lot more wiser & change the way she does things, & as long as she makes that change & dedicates her life & career path to her daughter then that’s what matters. Instead of bashing, just let it be, it’s up to us as a parent to show people wrong. As parents, working parents, we don’t own anyone an explanation. Wendy if you’re reading this, you go girl, have fun, live life, & thank the man up above for the village you have, you are truly blessed 🫶🏻
this goes to show u can’t and shouldn’t just judge someone! u don’t know them or their past and don’t understand what they are going through behind closed doors and lives. if you don’t like her, that’s okay! Just scroll!! 😊 we love u wendyy 💗
hate when people say she was already on or other guests they talk about different topics they never talk about the same thing ! KEEP IT UP ALAN !!!! ♥
I agree! Like in Yoatiz videos people were talking about how she was only going to talk about her EX. I think Alan did a great job with his topics and asked his guests..
Right. Those people are just her haters. Shes 19 and has been thru so many experiences that she can talk about. It’s good for her to talk about these things too.
She’s the biggest sweetheart and her bd treated her so badly at such a young age it really does affect u and going through it still during postpartum definitely caused her depression which is so sad.
Tbh the reason why wendys mom is so loving and caring and always wants to be with Valentina is because she missed out on a lot of time with her children and with her having vale around she’s trying to make up for all that time she couldn’t be with her kids she at least wants to be a present grandma ! the stuff my dad couldn’t do for me he is doing it now with my son and that’s healing my inner child they deserve a 2nd chance in life !
The fact that she is still open to having a relationship with her father even after anything speaks volumes of her. I’ve grown so much love for Wendy because people don’t realize that she does have feelings but she’s had to grow up coping with her own emotions by herself she’s not going to express to everyone that it gets to her. People want to find a reason to hate and be envious. She’s an amazing person.
Unfortunately what Wendy went through with Carlos is something that’s become so common among this generation of men growing up in a social media world men get hooked on pornography. It’s so disheartening hearing young girls and women get victimized by these men’s actions and lack of self control. Carlos needs to take accountability for the pain he caused her specially during such monumental moments such as pregnancy. I really hope and pray for Wendy’s mental health and for her to know that those types of actions from her baby daddy were not normal at all. Carlos needs to take responsibility and get down to the root of why he seeks that type of content. pornography addiction is real and goes much deeper than just seeking pleasure. I hope he gets help because that’s microcheating and until a man learns to be sexually mature and self control they will never be fully committed to any partner no matter how attractive their partner is and all these men wind up doing is breaking and making these girls insecure like Wendy became. Much love for Wendy and glad Alan gave her this platform to finally speak up about why she left Carlos. She had all the reason and did so much for their relationship.
@@J10-f4s exactly such a sad unfortunate truth! They unconsciously train their brain to get off to a screen and once presented to a women they can’t even perform due to the fact their brain is use to that dopamine coming from a screen. As women we needa stop using the excuse of “boys will be boys” because a real man isnt out here doing that specially once they’re out of puberty. It’s not normal and it leads to a far darker reality
The way im bawling my eyes out 🥺this girl deserves the world! She's so strong. You should never judge anyone, they could be going through so much and yet still putting a smile on their face no matter what. She's a GREAT ass mom!
Why is no one talking about the fact that Carlos is a sex/porn addict and he needs help? Sounds like he has some serious issues (not justifying his actions towards Wendy)
She’s a sweet heart , she’s just misunderstood, social media can be very harsh sometimes, She’s beautiful and young & everyday we all live and learn,& I just wish nothing but blessings for her and her baby girl 🩷
I hate seeing how much hate she gets online people only see one clip. She is there for her baby and people are mad that she has support keep your head up babygirl, I’m glad you are getting your recognition & being able to tell your story 🩷🩷
Thank you for bringing Wendy back! Its so interesting to learn more of her and her story, she has a sad story and I feel so bad for her, she’s been thru so much and there’s so much more to her than just being an influencer. I hope she’s happy at heart or is at least getting there day by day.
If you really hear her story from a deep level she saying she wasn’t close with her mom or sisters, and her needing someone to tell she was pregnant but she didn’t have anyone to tell but “Carlos” if that make sense. She felt like she didn’t have anyone but Carlos (her best friend) and that made everything that happened with them 20x worse
Omg I felt that when she said it hurt so bad not to be able to sit outside with her baby daddy and baby 😢 like dam she wanted to see them have a daughter father relationship cause her dad wasn’t there for her 😢 Man I’m crying over hear girl ❤
Seeing a completely different side of Wendy just opened my eyes and she isn’t what people say on social media. The fact that she was so vulnerable about her breakup Wow🥹😭 I’m so sorry Wendy. I’m currently pregnant and no woman should ever get cheated on and especially not while pregnant😢
You can see the hurt in her face when she talks about her dad 😢 I started crying too because my dad kicked me out at 18 and started a whole new family too.. I definitely understand how hard it is to just give up on a parent you try to understand every single reason why they are the way they are but honestly some dads just don’t wanna be dads or are ashamed and it’s so fucked up to try to understand but it’s the truth💔 I’m so proud of her for being such a strong mom! And now y’all understand why Mama Alicia is always there because she wants better for her daughter than she had it 😭 and you guys are constantly attacking her it’s sad! And also props to mama Alicia for protecting her kids from the drama and arguments Wendy had no idea the problems he caused and I honestly wish I had that because I seen every single time my dad was a piece of shit to my mom and every single time he hit her!
Literally crying for Wendy she’s such a beautiful soul so misunderstood she just wants to be loved and hugged tightly I pray that you make it big for you and vale and mama Alicia yall deserve it so much!
I love wendy. and i just hope she heals through all the sh*t she has gone by. she has struggled a lot and so many blind people don’t even realized what being a single mom feels like nor the struggles.
@@stefanygodoy1805it is his fault. It’s on both of them. It’s lack of respect for her, if he didn’t think he was doing anything wrong he wouldn’t have been trying to hide it. She definitely has alot of healing to do though.
Everyone has a story. Be willing to hear it before you judge. Btw she said, " I just got out of a CASI ALGO relationship." 😂 Awww, Wendy, i hope you find a good man one day. You deserved to be loved, protected, and respected.
Really at what part I been watching it and heard nothing about will-liar yet. I do hope she finds somebody to that loves her so much he wouldn’t want to hide it
This girl had postpartum depression and everybody judged her. She went through alot during and after her pregnancy of course she had some disconnection from her baby.
Wendy, as a single mother let me tell you this. You are doing Great. Eres una guerrera y vas a llegar lejos. I became a single mother at 21, my daughter is 10 and it gets so much better. Trust me. Dios las bendiga a las dos ❤
Yes!! Especially when she said her mom didn’t show affection to her so it’s normal for her not to show it! I’m sure it’s something she is working on!! That’s exactly what’s happening with my daughter and I.
Wendy, please remember that you are loved and you are enough! Someone will come into your life to love you, correctly! You deserve it! Please remember this quote: "Chances are that when someone is hating on you, it's not about you at all. It's about them. It's their fear, jealousy, boredom, and insecurity."
i honestly never realized how much trauma this girl has gone through at such a young age. I hope she heals from everything that’s ever hurt her, she deserves happiness.
This was such a good episode , I bawled my eyes out on the part where she wanted her dad to be apart of her life... it reminds me of my childhood and later as an adult. I feel like I understand Wendy even more after this. 💖
everybody praises Her BD cause he does what hes SUPPOSE to do as a Father , while bashing her just cause shes trying to secure the bag before Valentina gets old enough to notice her absence.. he put her thru alot during one of the most vulnerable times which was carrying his baby
Let’s not forget she said that man used all the money they both saved up for . I would’ve turned shit upside down if that shit happened to me !!! Wendy got it 😕
@@Bbyyudith SAME! & all to go spend it on his friends! while she was at home going thru PPD & she didnt even know it at the time! he deserves no praise if you ask me👎🏻
Not a big fan of Wendy but after this interview I relate to her in so many ways and see why she lost the sparkle in her eyes 🥺 so proud of her for being vulnerable on this episode.
Wendy is a good mom yall don’t know what happens between closed doors idc yall need to leave this poor woman alone shes human and shes an amazing mom!💕
Not being close with anybody in my family either and going through so many traumatic experiences with domestic violence and some more, I feel you Wendy. Even though it may not be the same, but not having nobody to run to and feeling like you’re really on your own because you were in those moments, hurts. Deeply. And affects your brain so much. You are so loved and I’m so proud of you if nobody is! Everybody is quick to judge on why we have a hard shell and act a certain way not knowing what comes behind it. You keep shining and healing girl! I know it still hurts because the tears show it does, and I’m the same way. So let it all fall out and find ways to heal from it 🩵 love you girl 🥺
Aww I feel for Wendy. A lot of us been there and most of us stick around for a long time with much worst baggage. So I’m happy she left a relationship where she wasn’t appreciated. WENDY you are a trooper! U got this girl! U are doing amazing!
It's crazy how much she couldn't talk in the first podcast with Eve. It was great seeing her be more vocal and have it more focused on her and her past.
Hearing her talking about her almost “casi algo” knowing we all know who she’s talking about.. but a real note I’m glad she left she does deserve the world and deserves to have and be with someone who KNOWS what they want. I’m glad she thought about herself and vale. We NEED wendy to see this comment section 🤍
Awww she’s actually so relatable. As much as we can heal, talking about something like this brings up that pain we learned to forget 🥺 I also felt like I didn’t have that connection with my son off the jump, because I was so caught up in the drama with my sons dad & and learning to be a first time mom. We can’t help but to feel guilty but at the same time, over time, we come to realize what we were going through and learn to forgive ourselves. That connection came once I let go of what wasn’t important and just focused on my son. It gets better, it really does 🫶
Los De La Homan straight from Chicago 👌🏻🔥 @Alannized I'm the girl that recognized you at Volcano Bay in Florida, & my daughter took a pic with you! It was an honor meeting you 🥲🤍
Awww Wendy…this explains why she is the way she is, I understand completely about the daddy issues because I never had a dad in my life to guide and show me love. I’m 34 years old and wish I had my dad in my life. I agree with Wendy when she says she don’t know how it feels to be loved by a man because she never had that father figure in her life that hurt when she cried. I started crying for her. Once u know someone real story that’s when it changes your persona about someone. Never judge a book by its cover because we don’t know what happens behind close doors❤
i'm glad she got to speak her truth on here because she gets so much hate from people over baseless assumptions.and what i noticed was so many people hate it when young mothers have a good support system, the way people hate wendy just because her family wants to help her out with her kid is soooo weird.
being filled with animosity will eat you alive or having resentment for someone just bc they have a life you want will get you nowhere these people need to realize this
I respect Wendy so much as a person because I can relate to her so much when it comes to daddy issues, and relationship issues. This girl has been through a LOT and you can tell she has a good heart. ❤️🩹
I WISH I CAN GIVE WENDY A HUG, IM PROUD OF YOU WENDY FOR HOW FAR YOU HAVE CAME FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO FOR VALENTINA, I JUST KNOW WHEN SHE’S OLDER SHE WILL APPRECIATE EVERYTHING YOU HAVE N KEEP DOING FOR HER 🤍🤍🤍 YOU GOT THIS WENDY KEEP YOUR HEAD UP 🫶🏻 #wendynvale4L 💖💝💕💓💗
Personally I know that having a baby by a man you love & shortly after being rejected by him is hard to adapt to. She’s young & I don’t blame her for being out & about trying to figure herself out. I’ve been there ,it’s hard but she & Valentina will be more then fine 🙏🏻❤️
noone over 25 plus or with kids should be talking bad about wendy or no other female. she is still a girl learning to mature and become a mother at the same time. as a 31 year old i look back and wish i did things differently but i was not mental mature to see. she LOVES her daughter and will do what she thinks its best. we may not agree but thats her journey. no one is a perfect parent. kids don't come with a manual but we as mothers try our best. She's been through alot like most of us. Give Grace.
yes i agree! im 30 now and became a single mama at the age of 19. just a baby raising a baby. she is learning and still has so much to learn just as many of us do!
From not wanting to call and make your own appointment to reaching out to do this 🙌 I can't wait to see what yours and Vales future looks like! We love you Wendyyy!!! Thank you for sharing all of this with us! 🤍
I feel like Wendy is truly hurt about her baby daddy and isn’t over it yet.. I don’t know it’s my intuition. That time she crashed out with the iced coffee was the same time Carlos revealed his new gf. She was probably sad and couldn’t believe that he could move on
The fact that I’m her age when she got pregnant and me myself Idk how I would have known how to handle all that just give me more props to her and I don’t think people realize how at this age u haven’t even found yourself yet and still living life facing new challenges so the fact that she got this far on top of being a mother just shows a lot. She is trying her best which is all that matters and the hate she receives is just soo sad bc people are soo quick to judge without knowing her story, making clips to make her look like a terrible mom but Ik off camera she a wonderful mom and at the end of the day there is no perfect mom. Proud of you Wendy 💕
I think this was my favorite episode so far. It’s funny because she’s such a good mom the only difference is her life is filmed. You did a great job Alan. I related so much with her especially with the fact that we are the same age and her baby is months apart from mine. We actually went through the same pregnancy story. ❤I definitely love love love.
Brooo this whole podcast had me crying, Wendy my love I’m soo sorry you had to go through that alone behind closed doors & everyone siding with him, I know how that feels. I’m sorry baby you are doing better now, you are beautiful 🥹 sending a virtual bear huggg🫶🏻
All she wants is love she went through a lot as a child not having her dad and than her relationship with Carlos. She just wants a family of her own. Who doesn’t want that..she’s young and still trying, there are worse moms out there who don’t care for there children at all. Wendy is out there making her bag doing everything she can for vale. Let’s just give her a break..stop the back lashing she is a good mom❤❤
Glad she did this podcast by herself! I feel bad for Wendy because she's been hurt and she's so young to have already experienced all of this that some people in their 30s,40s haven't even experienced! ... she has every reason to have her guard up, being hurt sucks! I pray she continues to strive, because she is kicking butt!! She should be proud of herself regardless of what all the haters say!!! Good for u Wendy!!! We love you baby girl! & we also love Valentina 🎀 Alannized: once again you rocked!!! ❤
People judge her and everything bc of what’s online but they don’t really see behind close doors what she goes thru she’s definitely a great mother , daughter , sister and friend ❤
agreed. She just needed someone to talk to, you can tell she’s still hurt by everything that’s happened to her. Especially during her pregnancy, that’s something a woman would never forget, on how she was treated whilst pregnant.
that’s exactly what i was getting from this, you know she needed this sit down and talk for someone or others to hear her story so bad :( she’s made out to be weak on tiktok but it’s the complete opposite and no one is perfect
Hearing her talk about your baby daddy brings tears to my eyes.. I went through a similar situation with mine. Watching what she has build for herself and her daughter motivates me!!
You can tell she’s still hurting allot I feel for her. She’s young just trying to figure it out and broadcasting so much ppl only see bad they never see the good. I’m happy this is giving her positive recognition it came at the right time !
Aw Wendy! you can just hear the hurt in her voice when she’s talking about certain stuff 😢 hope she heals or has healed from her relationship with Valentina dad also from her father’s abandonments. Wishing you nothing but the best ❤ no one deserves to go through hurtful pain alone !
i’m kind of glad i watched the whole podcast, it made me see her from a different perspective. i’m a mom and i feel for her, having a baby daddy is hard when you still care, it’s hard to get a bag when you don’t have a village. i’m glad she does. i guess its because traveling as an influencer is still new to the generations& it’s hard to be alone with out your kids when your even just a few miles away for a few hours. i feel like i owe her an apology for this. growing up is realizing this.
I feel so bad for wendy, she's such a genuine person getting hate for showing her feelings and speaking up for herself, which is very up spoken about her.
Thank you, Alan, for doing this for Wendy (bringing her again on the podcast) so she can share her side of her story! People are/were so quick to judge her on social media and not even realize all the bs she was put through! This video made me realize how genuine and real she is! She doesn't portray to live in a fairytale story. She portrays everyday real-life situations! Wendy, you're young and beautiful I can honestly say, this is just a rock in the road! Focus on your beautiful baby Valentina, who is well and healthy and on yourself! Your biggest comeback and revenge is to better yourself as a mom and a person! Let him see you shining and thriving! One day you will understand that God removed him for a good reason! ❤❤❤
I understand Wendy a lot more now seeing this, you don’t know what it’s like unless you’ve been there. Someone constantly hurting and manipulating you makes you see everything so differently.
I’m glad you had her on your podcast again! We learned a lot about Wendy! And I can definitely relate to the daddy issues for sure it does affect your dating life thank you Wendy for being so open with us! ❤❤❤❤❤
@alanized literally she has made me cry I needed to hear this advice because I have been dealing with ppd & today was a day were I felt in a dark room & Wendy story made my day 😢
I relate to her soooooo much about the dad stuff. I always try to block it all out and forget but hearing her made so many memories rush back. I don't wish pain like this on anybody.
And no one talks about how CARLOS treated Wendy and how he was an absent dad but y’all run you’re mouth about Wendy
He wasn’t an absent dad. He was when Wendy was pregnant but he wasn’t absent when vale was born. U also have to understand they are young. The mind doesn’t fully develop until u are 25 and older. They were fresh out of high school still trying to figure out what career path to take when she got pregnant. Now they are 20 and still trying to find what they are interested in. I honestly think people can be an amazing father but a horrible partner and that’s unfortunately how some are.
@@Realryleighwasn’t he absent like the first 3 months Valentina was born
@@RealryleighCarlos was absent for 3 months……….. no excuse, imagine how Wendy felt going through ppd and the father of your child disappearing….
@@Realryleighhe was absent for 3 months did you not listen to anything? Also the brain doesn’t even fully develop at 25 in most people because of trauma and other shit. Also she was fresh out of high school not him he was a grown ass man knowing wtf he was doing y’all be defending his weird ass too much it’s like yall don’t listen to anything
@@Realryleighnot seeing your infant for days at a time is being an absent parent
i love how youtube comments are so much supportive then tiktok.
Cause those are clip haters. They base their whole opinion on a little clip from a hating page and run with it.
Because tik tok is full of 14 yr old trolling
Rte
tiktok’s horrible it’s always little kids or grown men
@@alma4514 right why they bashing her when they know what she been through
Glad you brought wendy by herself! hope people realize what she does for valentina. Carlos parents have fault in how he acted with Wendy during her pregnancy. Love wendy she’s so humble
100% agree!!! If I was Carlos mom I would’ve wanted to slap him hopefully she did behind closed doors
I feel like mamma Alicia is also able to heal a part of her heart being able to be sooo hands on with Valentina cause she was sooo busy trying to raise her own children🌸❤️
that’s so true🥺
Couldn’t agree more 💕
Omg yesss😩😩
Exactly!
Dicen que se ama más a los nietos que a los hijos, que la felicidad completa no llega
hasta que nos convertimos en abuelos,
que un nieto es el mejor de los regalos,
un obsequio que te da la vida
cuando menos lo esperabas,
y que cuando un nieto te agarra por el dedo,te agarra también un trozo de tu corazón.
Dicen que de ellos recibimos
los besos que ya nadie nos da
y a ellos les damos los besos que ya a nadie daremos,que son ángeles sin alas,
una nueva oportunidad, la mejor de las alegrías,unas delicadas criaturitas
que le dan de nuevo sentido a la vida.
Dicen que a ellos se les enseña todo lo que
aprendimos demasiado tarde,
y se les da todo lo que tenemos
incluso un amor que creíamos olvidado,
y dicen que los ves crecer,
sabiendo que los dejarás pronto,
demasiado pronto
y es por eso que se les quiere más que a nada,y más que a nadie.
Un amor que solo lo entiende quién tiene la dicha de tener un nieto.
❤️
people love to hate on wendy, but she literally went through so much shit with carlos!! she loved that man, had a baby with him!! that could change a woman so much.
Fr it gets me so angry how Carlos treated her like shit when she clearly loved him.
Maybe thats why she doesn’t choose to be with Val, she sees part of Carlos in her 💔
Same
@@FatimaIbarra-co5kkthe military??? When ???
Period ! 💯
Wendy made me cry. She just wanted to be loved from her father & Carlos. It's ugly feeling like you aren't worth. Keep growing Wendy & loving yourself for you and Vale!!
She was 18, not even becoming her own person yet, ppd, going through a horrible break up, she was on fight or flight and her childhood trauma. Her foggy memory is due to all her trauma.
Exactly. I really hope she considers therapy ❤
@@ForevaaEVaI agree . Therapy could help a lot & of course if she also finds the right therapist. I’ve gone through some bad ones & now have a great one again. Wendy is really young & she will find her own healing journey hopefully. I wish the best for her.
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wym her foggy memory meaning she doesn’t remember much ?
@@estlopez7396Yes, her not remembering much because trauma response is when your brain purposely or sometimes not even purposely forgets things that happens in your past in order to protect yourself and not have anxiety. Like when she says autopilot, she is just going day by day but not feeling anything or allowing herself to feel anything.
My heart honestly goes out to Wendy. So many people criticize her, & bash on her. Yes, there’s a way of her making money different ways & always including her daughter, but we have to remember, she’s so young, she had a baby at a young age, & thankfully she has a mother, & siblings, who love & support her & her daughter & help, which is a kind of village we need, her village supports her & allows her to live her life as well. As life goes on & Wendy becomes older, she’ll become a lot more wiser & change the way she does things, & as long as she makes that change & dedicates her life & career path to her daughter then that’s what matters. Instead of bashing, just let it be, it’s up to us as a parent to show people wrong. As parents, working parents, we don’t own anyone an explanation. Wendy if you’re reading this, you go girl, have fun, live life, & thank the man up above for the village you have, you are truly blessed 🫶🏻
this goes to show u can’t and shouldn’t just judge someone! u don’t know them or their past and don’t understand what they are going through behind closed doors and lives. if you don’t like her, that’s okay! Just scroll!! 😊 we love u wendyy 💗
Shut up 🤫
YESS WE LOVE HER 💕
@@Lupitalove310that’s why ur here! go outside and worry about your OWN LIFE instead of someone else’s
True
@@itsminaaaa💯
hate when people say she was already on or other guests they talk about different topics they never talk about the same thing ! KEEP IT UP ALAN !!!! ♥
Am I the only who does not like these into groups of singers
I agree! Like in Yoatiz videos people were talking about how she was only going to talk about her EX. I think Alan did a great job with his topics and asked his guests..
Right. Those people are just her haters. Shes 19 and has been thru so many experiences that she can talk about. It’s good for her to talk about these things too.
She got me emotional because I can relate with the daddy issues 😭
Fr same I started crying so much 😭I feel bad for her
right i was js telling myself that it wasn’t even half way in and i wanted to cry alr😭
Same😂
Same I started crying
Sitting in my truck crying bc I relate!
She’s the biggest sweetheart and her bd treated her so badly at such a young age it really does affect u and going through it still during postpartum definitely caused her depression which is so sad.
Tbh the reason why wendys mom is so loving and caring and always wants to be with Valentina is because she missed out on a lot of time with her children and with her having vale around she’s trying to make up for all that time she couldn’t be with her kids she at least wants to be a present grandma ! the stuff my dad couldn’t do for me he is doing it now with my son and that’s healing my inner child they deserve a 2nd chance in life !
🥺🥺 oh this makes so much sense!
heavy on the they deserve a 2nd chance at life 🎉☺️
The fact that she is still open to having a relationship with her father even after anything speaks volumes of her. I’ve grown so much love for Wendy because people don’t realize that she does have feelings but she’s had to grow up coping with her own emotions by herself she’s not going to express to everyone that it gets to her. People want to find a reason to hate and be envious. She’s an amazing person.
Unfortunately what Wendy went through with Carlos is something that’s become so common among this generation of men growing up in a social media world men get hooked on pornography. It’s so disheartening hearing young girls and women get victimized by these men’s actions and lack of self control. Carlos needs to take accountability for the pain he caused her specially during such monumental moments such as pregnancy. I really hope and pray for Wendy’s mental health and for her to know that those types of actions from her baby daddy were not normal at all. Carlos needs to take responsibility and get down to the root of why he seeks that type of content. pornography addiction is real and goes much deeper than just seeking pleasure. I hope he gets help because that’s microcheating and until a man learns to be sexually mature and self control they will never be fully committed to any partner no matter how attractive their partner is and all these men wind up doing is breaking and making these girls insecure like Wendy became. Much love for Wendy and glad Alan gave her this platform to finally speak up about why she left Carlos. She had all the reason and did so much for their relationship.
yes👏🏼
Corn* addiction is REAL. Some men can’t even get off with a “real” woman anymore.
@@J10-f4s exactly such a sad unfortunate truth! They unconsciously train their brain to get off to a screen and once presented to a women they can’t even perform due to the fact their brain is use to that dopamine coming from a screen. As women we needa stop using the excuse of “boys will be boys” because a real man isnt out here doing that specially once they’re out of puberty. It’s not normal and it leads to a far darker reality
@@J10-f4sit’s sad it happened to me 😢
Yes its so much more common then people think
Wendy speaking about her dad made me so emotional 😢
Same
Me too
Same!!!
The way im bawling my eyes out 🥺this girl deserves the world! She's so strong. You should never judge anyone, they could be going through so much and yet still putting a smile on their face no matter what. She's a GREAT ass mom!
Why is no one talking about the fact that Carlos is a sex/porn addict and he needs help? Sounds like he has some serious issues (not justifying his actions towards Wendy)
Oh for sure!! & being the partner of a porn addict takes a toll on your self confidence 🥺
he’s been exposed on twitter doing stuff💀
@@sheylaaa23_what do u mean by stuff? ive never heard of this
@@Jennval96and no one talks about it
this is what I kept thinking the whole time!! It sounds unhealthy. Sounds like an addiction
She’s a sweet heart , she’s just misunderstood, social media can be very harsh sometimes, She’s beautiful and young & everyday we all live and learn,& I just wish nothing but blessings for her and her baby girl 🩷
I hate seeing how much hate she gets online people only see one clip. She is there for her baby and people are mad that she has support keep your head up babygirl, I’m glad you are getting your recognition & being able to tell your story 🩷🩷
Wendy has been through a lot of trauma… and so young.. my heart breaks for her.. such a strong girl!
Thank you for bringing Wendy back! Its so interesting to learn more of her and her story, she has a sad story and I feel so bad for her, she’s been thru so much and there’s so much more to her than just being an influencer. I hope she’s happy at heart or is at least getting there day by day.
I feel like she needs to leave willito alone. He doesn’t seem far off from her BD
If you really hear her story from a deep level she saying she wasn’t close with her mom or sisters, and her needing someone to tell she was pregnant but she didn’t have anyone to tell but “Carlos” if that make sense. She felt like she didn’t have anyone but Carlos (her best friend) and that made everything that happened with them 20x worse
Omg I felt that when she said it hurt so bad not to be able to sit outside with her baby daddy and baby 😢 like dam she wanted to see them have a daughter father relationship cause her dad wasn’t there for her 😢
Man I’m crying over hear girl ❤
Seeing a completely different side of Wendy just opened my eyes and she isn’t what people say on social media. The fact that she was so vulnerable about her breakup Wow🥹😭 I’m so sorry Wendy. I’m currently pregnant and no woman should ever get cheated on and especially not while pregnant😢
You can see the hurt in her face when she talks about her dad 😢 I started crying too because my dad kicked me out at 18 and started a whole new family too.. I definitely understand how hard it is to just give up on a parent you try to understand every single reason why they are the way they are but honestly some dads just don’t wanna be dads or are ashamed and it’s so fucked up to try to understand but it’s the truth💔 I’m so proud of her for being such a strong mom! And now y’all understand why Mama Alicia is always there because she wants better for her daughter than she had it 😭 and you guys are constantly attacking her it’s sad! And also props to mama Alicia for protecting her kids from the drama and arguments Wendy had no idea the problems he caused and I honestly wish I had that because I seen every single time my dad was a piece of shit to my mom and every single time he hit her!
Literally crying for Wendy she’s such a beautiful soul so misunderstood she just wants to be loved and hugged tightly I pray that you make it big for you and vale and mama Alicia yall deserve it so much!
Feeling alone after being cheated hits home for me. Not being able to tell anyone because you’re embarrassed of your situation. I can relate so much
I stayed cuz he changed but the only people that really knows that went down was my little sister and high school friend it's embarrassing.
having a song written about you is iconic!! 😩
They scare me tho singing
@@crystalsanchez5720😂😂😂
Good for business
Riiiiiight why didn’t anyone mention this more often the song was cute
I love wendy. and i just hope she heals through all the sh*t she has gone by. she has struggled a lot and so many blind people don’t even realized what being a single mom feels like nor the struggles.
Hearing her past tells a lot about why when willito is liking pics and hiding stuff is such a big deal to her. 😞😞😞
But it aint his fault, she needs to heal before finding a man
@@stefanygodoy1805it is his fault. It’s on both of them. It’s lack of respect for her, if he didn’t think he was doing anything wrong he wouldn’t have been trying to hide it. She definitely has alot of healing to do though.
@@stefanygodoy1805that’s why things didn’t work out both wanted different things so they both went their separate ways.
Everyone has a story. Be willing to hear it before you judge.
Btw she said, " I just got out of a CASI ALGO relationship." 😂 Awww, Wendy, i hope you find a good man one day. You deserved to be loved, protected, and respected.
Really at what part I been watching it and heard nothing about will-liar yet. I do hope she finds somebody to that loves her so much he wouldn’t want to hide it
@@melaniemelaninit’s towards the end but not that far
@@melaniemelanin @ 1:26:40
This girl had postpartum depression and everybody judged her. She went through alot during and after her pregnancy of course she had some disconnection from her baby.
Wendy, as a single mother let me tell you this. You are doing Great. Eres una guerrera y vas a llegar lejos. I became a single mother at 21, my daughter is 10 and it gets so much better. Trust me. Dios las bendiga a las dos ❤
Some of y’all complain too damn much props to Wendy for opening up about this it’s forsure a different side of her I hope she heals 💙
Yes!! Especially when she said her mom didn’t show affection to her so it’s normal for her not to show it! I’m sure it’s something she is working on!! That’s exactly what’s happening with my daughter and I.
Wendy, please remember that you are loved and you are enough! Someone will come into your life to love you, correctly! You deserve it! Please remember this quote: "Chances are that when someone is hating on you, it's not about you at all. It's about them. It's their fear, jealousy, boredom, and insecurity."
i honestly never realized how much trauma this girl has gone through at such a young age. I hope she heals from everything that’s ever hurt her, she deserves happiness.
This was such a good episode , I bawled my eyes out on the part where she wanted her dad to be apart of her life... it reminds me of my childhood and later as an adult. I feel like I understand Wendy even more after this. 💖
everybody praises Her BD cause he does what hes SUPPOSE to do as a Father , while bashing her just cause shes trying to secure the bag before Valentina gets old enough to notice her absence.. he put her thru alot during one of the most vulnerable times which was carrying his baby
THISSSS!!!!!
Let’s not forget she said that man used all the money they both saved up for . I would’ve turned shit upside down if that shit happened to me !!! Wendy got it 😕
@@Bbyyudith SAME! & all to go spend it on his friends! while she was at home going thru PPD & she didnt even know it at the time! he deserves no praise if you ask me👎🏻
Not a big fan of Wendy but after this interview I relate to her in so many ways and see why she lost the sparkle in her eyes 🥺 so proud of her for being vulnerable on this episode.
her story with carlos just shows how spiritual women are and how in tune we can be with our intuition !!!
So proud of u Wendy ur always so real and vulnerable despite the hate u get I hope u continue and succeed in life u are one of a kind💗
She was nervous at the start, but you can see her get more comfortable talking!
Alan is the best podcaster out there!! 🎉
Wendy is a good mom yall don’t know what happens between closed doors idc yall need to leave this poor woman alone shes human and shes an amazing mom!💕
Not being close with anybody in my family either and going through so many traumatic experiences with domestic violence and some more, I feel you Wendy. Even though it may not be the same, but not having nobody to run to and feeling like you’re really on your own because you were in those moments, hurts. Deeply. And affects your brain so much. You are so loved and I’m so proud of you if nobody is! Everybody is quick to judge on why we have a hard shell and act a certain way not knowing what comes behind it. You keep shining and healing girl! I know it still hurts because the tears show it does, and I’m the same way. So let it all fall out and find ways to heal from it 🩵 love you girl 🥺
Aww I feel for Wendy. A lot of us been there and most of us stick around for a long time with much worst baggage. So I’m happy she left a relationship where she wasn’t appreciated. WENDY you are a trooper! U got this girl! U are doing amazing!
It's crazy how much she couldn't talk in the first podcast with Eve. It was great seeing her be more vocal and have it more focused on her and her past.
Hearing her talking about her almost “casi algo” knowing we all know who she’s talking about.. but a real note I’m glad she left she does deserve the world and deserves to have and be with someone who KNOWS what they want. I’m glad she thought about herself and vale. We NEED wendy to see this comment section 🤍
Awww she’s actually so relatable. As much as we can heal, talking about something like this brings up that pain we learned to forget 🥺 I also felt like I didn’t have that connection with my son off the jump, because I was so caught up in the drama with my sons dad & and learning to be a first time mom. We can’t help but to feel guilty but at the same time, over time, we come to realize what we were going through and learn to forgive ourselves. That connection came once I let go of what wasn’t important and just focused on my son. It gets better, it really does 🫶
Los De La Homan straight from Chicago 👌🏻🔥 @Alannized I'm the girl that recognized you at Volcano Bay in Florida, & my daughter took a pic with you! It was an honor meeting you 🥲🤍
Aw honestly she's growing and evolving I feel like she deserves everything she's receiving and hopefully she meets someone that fulfills her
Awww Wendy…this explains why she is the way she is, I understand completely about the daddy issues because I never had a dad in my life to guide and show me love. I’m 34 years old and wish I had my dad in my life. I agree with Wendy when she says she don’t know how it feels to be loved by a man because she never had that father figure in her life that hurt when she cried. I started crying for her. Once u know someone real story that’s when it changes your persona about someone. Never judge a book by its cover because we don’t know what happens behind close doors❤
Who cried when she started crying about the father stuff🥺
Me
I started balling 😢
Carlos has Porn addiction, he's never going to change until he gets help, I feel so bad for Wendy when she went throw all that
He was 20 of course he had a porn addiction. They were kids taking adult risk.
i'm glad she got to speak her truth on here because she gets so much hate from people over baseless assumptions.and what i noticed was so many people hate it when young mothers have a good support system, the way people hate wendy just because her family wants to help her out with her kid is soooo weird.
being filled with animosity will eat you alive or having resentment for someone just bc they have a life you want will get you nowhere these people need to realize this
Alan is like a therapist! I love this episode! 💙
“ can i be with you guys outside “ part .. got me 😩😭🥲 I felt that pain girl .
Wendy is actually so emotionally intelligent tbh
I respect Wendy so much as a person because I can relate to her so much when it comes to daddy issues, and relationship issues. This girl has been through a LOT and you can tell she has a good heart. ❤️🩹
I WISH I CAN GIVE WENDY A HUG, IM PROUD OF YOU WENDY FOR HOW FAR YOU HAVE CAME FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO FOR VALENTINA, I JUST KNOW WHEN SHE’S OLDER SHE WILL APPRECIATE EVERYTHING YOU HAVE N KEEP DOING FOR HER 🤍🤍🤍 YOU GOT THIS WENDY KEEP YOUR HEAD UP 🫶🏻 #wendynvale4L 💖💝💕💓💗
Personally I know that having a baby by a man you love & shortly after being rejected by him is hard to adapt to. She’s young & I don’t blame her for being out & about trying to figure herself out. I’ve been there ,it’s hard but she & Valentina will be more then fine 🙏🏻❤️
I GENUINELY HOPE HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND SEES THIS!
noone over 25 plus or with kids should be talking bad about wendy or no other female. she is still a girl learning to mature and become a mother at the same time. as a 31 year old i look back and wish i did things differently but i was not mental mature to see. she LOVES her daughter and will do what she thinks its best. we may not agree but thats her journey. no one is a perfect parent. kids don't come with a manual but we as mothers try our best. She's been through alot like most of us. Give Grace.
yes i agree! im 30 now and became a single mama at the age of 19. just a baby raising a baby. she is learning and still has so much to learn just as many of us do!
From not wanting to call and make your own appointment to reaching out to do this 🙌 I can't wait to see what yours and Vales future looks like! We love you Wendyyy!!! Thank you for sharing all of this with us! 🤍
Idc if a guy feels the need to always cheat on his girl, then his soulmate is definitely a man.
Willito is not a man she needs to she needs to be with a mature guy one that will give her everything in so many kind of ways
Fr he seems chilish
His parents ain’t 💩
I feel like Wendy is truly hurt about her baby daddy and isn’t over it yet.. I don’t know it’s my intuition. That time she crashed out with the iced coffee was the same time Carlos revealed his new gf. She was probably sad and couldn’t believe that he could move on
It’s painful to give someone a child go thru pregnancy y being backstabbed y no te respeten o valoren I can understand her
If you look back it hasn’t even been a year yet so yes of course she is still hurt and trying to heal
The fact that I’m her age when she got pregnant and me myself Idk how I would have known how to handle all that just give me more props to her and I don’t think people realize how at this age u haven’t even found yourself yet and still living life facing new challenges so the fact that she got this far on top of being a mother just shows a lot. She is trying her best which is all that matters and the hate she receives is just soo sad bc people are soo quick to judge without knowing her story, making clips to make her look like a terrible mom but Ik off camera she a wonderful mom and at the end of the day there is no perfect mom. Proud of you Wendy 💕
Proud of Wendy! She's definitely going to make it big! You got this Wendy!! ☺️❤️☺️
she said he would bring her water he’s a good boyfriend, the bar is in helllll
I think this was my favorite episode so far. It’s funny because she’s such a good mom the only difference is her life is filmed. You did a great job Alan. I related so much with her especially with the fact that we are the same age and her baby is months apart from mine. We actually went through the same pregnancy story. ❤I definitely love love love.
Brooo this whole podcast had me crying, Wendy my love I’m soo sorry you had to go through that alone behind closed doors & everyone siding with him, I know how that feels. I’m sorry baby you are doing better now, you are beautiful 🥹 sending a virtual bear huggg🫶🏻
Wendy is such a sweet soul! You can tell she loves her daughter, I was also a young mom and it is so hard. She is learning and growing everyday.
All she wants is love she went through a lot as a child not having her dad and than her relationship with Carlos. She just wants a family of her own. Who doesn’t want that..she’s young and still trying, there are worse moms out there who don’t care for there children at all. Wendy is out there making her bag doing everything she can for vale. Let’s just give her a break..stop the back lashing she is a good mom❤❤
THE OPENING PERFORMANCE..”Wendy Ortiz”🥹🥹
I thought nobody else watched it because I didn’t see no one comment about it lol
I thought it was cute 💕
Glad she did this podcast by herself! I feel bad for Wendy because she's been hurt and she's so young to have already experienced all of this that some people in their 30s,40s haven't even experienced! ... she has every reason to have her guard up, being hurt sucks! I pray she continues to strive, because she is kicking butt!! She should be proud of herself regardless of what all the haters say!!! Good for u Wendy!!! We love you baby girl! & we also love Valentina 🎀
Alannized: once again you rocked!!! ❤
People judge her and everything bc of what’s online but they don’t really see behind close doors what she goes thru she’s definitely a great mother , daughter , sister and friend ❤
Thank you for talking about mental illness. I'm sorry you went through that, especially after having your baby! Wishing you lots of love and healing.
Wendy is beautiful, young, loyal, honest, she deserves the world ❤
This completely changed how I once viewed Wendy ❤️
you can definitely see that wendy needed this .
agreed. She just needed someone to talk to, you can tell she’s still hurt by everything that’s happened to her. Especially during her pregnancy, that’s something a woman would never forget, on how she was treated whilst pregnant.
that’s exactly what i was getting from this, you know she needed this sit down and talk for someone or others to hear her story so bad :( she’s made out to be weak on tiktok but it’s the complete opposite and no one is perfect
Hearing her talk about your baby daddy brings tears to my eyes.. I went through a similar situation with mine. Watching what she has build for herself and her daughter motivates me!!
You can tell she’s still hurting allot I feel for her. She’s young just trying to figure it out and broadcasting so much ppl only see bad they never see the good. I’m happy this is giving her positive recognition it came at the right time !
Aw Wendy! you can just hear the hurt in her voice when she’s talking about certain stuff 😢 hope she heals or has healed from her relationship with Valentina dad also from her father’s abandonments. Wishing you nothing but the best ❤ no one deserves to go through hurtful pain alone !
i’m kind of glad i watched the whole podcast, it made me see her from a different perspective. i’m a mom and i feel for her, having a baby daddy is hard when you still care, it’s hard to get a bag when you don’t have a village. i’m glad she does. i guess its because traveling as an influencer is still new to the generations& it’s hard to be alone with out your kids when your even just a few miles away for a few hours. i feel like i owe her an apology for this. growing up is realizing this.
I feel so bad for wendy, she's such a genuine person getting hate for showing her feelings and speaking up for herself, which is very up spoken about her.
Thank you, Alan, for doing this for Wendy (bringing her again on the podcast) so she can share her side of her story! People are/were so quick to judge her on social media and not even realize all the bs she was put through! This video made me realize how genuine and real she is! She doesn't portray to live in a fairytale story. She portrays everyday real-life situations!
Wendy, you're young and beautiful I can honestly say, this is just a rock in the road! Focus on your beautiful baby Valentina, who is well and healthy and on yourself! Your biggest comeback and revenge is to better yourself as a mom and a person! Let him see you shining and thriving! One day you will understand that God removed him for a good reason! ❤❤❤
Aw I heard the tears coming before she cried. I understand girl. That hurts
When she started tearing up about her dad I just started crying 😭 Wendy you deserve the world and more 💗💗
We need Mama Alicia on this podcast!!! 😢❤
She deserves a lot of credit as well 🥹💘
I understand Wendy a lot more now seeing this, you don’t know what it’s like unless you’ve been there. Someone constantly hurting and manipulating you makes you see everything so differently.
this is so real
my dad was a great dad so i don’t know how she feels but i do respect her giving her truth
I’m glad you had her on your podcast again! We learned a lot about Wendy! And I can definitely relate to the daddy issues for sure it does affect your dating life thank you Wendy for being so open with us! ❤❤❤❤❤
This is the type of person that we need to hype up on TikTok. I hope and pray for her success.
@alanized literally she has made me cry I needed to hear this advice because I have been dealing with ppd & today was a day were I felt in a dark room & Wendy story made my day 😢
I relate to her soooooo much about the dad stuff. I always try to block it all out and forget but hearing her made so many memories rush back. I don't wish pain like this on anybody.
That first true love you think it’s the love of your life really hurts to lose
the Banda singing her a song with her name it’s beyond cute 😣😣