Why Are Women Such Nags?
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- This week, we explore the origins of the ‘nagging wife’ stereotype, and the real reason women need to repeat themselves to be heard.
Edited by: Neha Shekhawat
Presented by: Anahita Sachdev
Research: Quoyina Ghosh
Produced by: Shrishti Malhotra
Creative Supervisor: Karla Bookman
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-Ramanujan, Attipate K. "Three hundred Ramayanas: Five examples and three thoughts on translation." Many Ramayanas: The Diversity of a Narrative Tradition in South Asia (1991): 22-49.
-Sigal, Gale. "The Power of Women: A Topos in Medieval Art and Literature by Susan L. Smith." Studies in the Age of Chaucer 19, no. 1 (2017): 310-315.
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I saw a whatsapp forward describing how miserable a man's life had become in lockdown. Obviously the reason is the constant nagging of his wife. From what I have seen, the workload of women increases when men are at home especially when they considers lockdown as their perfect time for relaxation while women does'nt get a single day leave from her chores. Men sharing messages of women nagging, while reposing on his couch ordering tea from his wife!
Very true
the irony 🙄
It's just the completely opposite at our house.... My father use to do all house chores even when our house help took off for a month... And mom relaxed the whole year.... He use to prepare morning chai while normally he is habitual of bed tea.... Even though everything is normal he still makes chai for everyone in morning even for our house help....
Personally i believe that men and women BOTH should do outside work Equally.
And they should also share household works Equally.
Neither of the gender should get burdened with extra responsibility.
A working women must ONLY do Half of household work and other half should be done by working men. But both also should work outside.
@@swaroop2518 Very True ,But some Idiots dont Understand
When my hubby doesn't help, I stop doing things and somehow tolerate a dirty house till he gets fed up of it. I cook what I want to eat and let him fend for himself. I can afford to do this cause we decided to be childfree but women with children would find it difficult to follow this.
Why do people have children ? They're so annoying 😂
@@pretty948 wt if our parents thought of us in the same manner...😶😶
@@pretty948 we all were children once :p
@@sanjeevareddybhogadi557 it would be better.....we weren't be born in the first place...
@@aswathyp4238 Fellow anti natalist.
Finally someone said it👏👏
Or kept nagging throughout the video...ughh
@@chaitanyagupta1335 according to the definition, it doesn't fit.
@@rashmit65 joke tha madam but on a serious note this is debatable but here its revolving just around women being forced into house wives
@@chaitanyagupta1335 the sexism is real
@@Ms.-Lily lmaooo do u even know the meaning of Karen?
Moral of the story: Listening is an art form. Please learn it.
Maybe you should also check if what you are hearing is actually true. Nagging is actually considered harassment google it...
@@j.j3326 When Nagging constitutes forcing someone to perform harmful acts, that would be harassment. But if it’s my mother repeatedly telling my father to stop being a slob, that’s technically not harassment. I think.
@@PokhrajRoy. no harassment can be done anywhere any time to do anything that is why there is something called occupational harassment...it is mental harassment not physical...
@@j.j3326 ‘Perform Harmful Acts’ includes injury to self and others in body and mind.
@@PokhrajRoy. yes... So ? Mental harassment is when you make that person feel uncomfortable . Not only when you make them do something harmful.. Look it up on google.
We also need to stop forwarding those wife jokes on Whatsapp 🤦🤷
@Avantika I don’t think present generation so called millenial fares any better in dispelling the stereotype. I have been into countless WhatsApp discussions and called spoilsport or it’s a joke babe for objecting to sexist jokes of nagging wives. I am tired of it but still tirelessly point it out in every opportunity hoping that one day sexism besides these so called “ harmless” jokes is acknowledged
@Avantika A 70year old can have a millenial mindset and 25 year old can have a boomer mindset. It's ageist to stereotype an entire generation like that. Millenials also have same mindset. It's just a joke
@@ShrutiSharma-ee2tv exactly !
Guys please google the word nagging... It is not that innocent of an act like "crying for help". It is harassment .... Look it up ... They just want to make it look like everything is men's fault ... Men nag too.... It is bad when either of them does it...im just saying it is not that innocent just when women do it.
@Avantika also , do u see what songs millenial generation makes ? For example: coca cola tu. Clear objectification of woman. Was that done by boomers , too ? Not justifying what boomers have done to women , but this generation is no less than them.
I swear everytime my parents look at these kinda whatsapp forwards and they both laugh, I feel disgusting.
Why
@KIM TAEHYUNG If they find it funny why not. People have different sense of humors and taste but one should not call it disgusting. if u dont like it u dont watch i too dont like it but u should tolerate it.
Whats disgusting? I being a woman do realise I do get short tempered unreasonable at times. Your parents too may have realised this and so they laugh it out. Shows they are mature to take joke on themselves.
@KIM TAEHYUNG Having a personal opinion on certain humour is just fine. When we mock someone else by calling them or their actions "disgusting" we are mocking their freedom on having an opinion.
I'm a boy and I have one feeling inside my head
Have you seen those types of pubg memes where someone asks that do girls aslo play pubg?, Then someone reply that those bots that we see in a game are girls!!!
Or have you seen those types of videos where gilrs cannot handle bikes or scooty and met with accident (which sometime are funny 😌)
Why these types of memes or videos always viral on social media??
Pleaser explain this.
Is this indirectly showing that we live in male dominant society and women can't do what man can do!!!
(Sorry for my weak english)
@Worldwide Handsome thank god at least we have 7 men whom we can trust.
@Worldwide Handsome ikr???
Well most of them aren't exactly good at playing games (just my experience) and since the majority of gamers are men of course the memes won't target them.
@@Hashashin_420 That doesn't explain why they make fun of girls who want to play games. I like playing games, and I find it incredibly offensive when fucking shit heads make those "jokes".
@@corruptez_ That does explain it. Another reason could be how easily girls are offended, if you like playing games don't you know how gamers like to trash talk.
this is so well put, it infuriates me how most of the time things like these are overlooked and sidelined so easily by laughs, like how can you find putting someone in a helpless situation where they can't help but ask you to do your equal share humorous? the whatsapp forwards, the sexist jokes applauded on by indian cinema, the gender biasness and the absurd amount of mindlessness, sheesh, i could go on forever.
if we repeat a lie again and again, it will become a truth.
Women's nagging is just perceive as an inconsistent "womania" behaviour which can be seen if she is frustrated but no one cares to know the reality behind that particular behaviour.Thankyou swaddle for covering this topic up. awesome
What is this philosophy? A lie will never become the truth. And who's to judge what is a lie and what not.
@@chaitanyagupta6668 Many years ago , Sati pratha was considered an omen and in this , orthodox brahmins lie to the people about this evil and hence it becomes a truth for people to carry on for generation without breaking it. Thus in society, there are various mumbo -jumbo to believe or to condone . We need to have a realistic perspective.
I saw a video where the husband was gonna marry another girl even tho he was already married and his wife came their and was shouting at him and people in the comment section blamed the wife saying who would wanna be with such a crazy women she deserved it, and I was like wth why are people defending this cheater it's messed up and if go see videos that discuss about marital rape just read the comments you will be shocked I saw the vid from girlyappa the comments were horrifying
I hope that the video was fake. If it's not then 😞 feeling extremely sorry for her.
The age old trope of "crazy, frustrated housewife" and the stereotypically telling woman to stop ranting whenever they are talking about the problems had face on a daily basis. Like pls instead of calling the housewife crazy and frustrated, call the husband out for constantly ingnoring his wife's needs and treating her like a piece of trash
This needs to be seen this needs to be viral this needs to be forwarded
Dear Swaddle..you are really very thoughtfull and rationale..wish atleast 1% of our population think like you do.
I have been following this channel since few months now and I absolutely love it. Shared it with my friends and family. The contents need to be seen !!!
I really appreciate the video editor, your videos are minimal, non boring and catchy 👏👏👏
Women , in general keeps Emotions as primary and rationales or logic as secondary regarding situations. Men usually have primary instinct to keep Logic first and emotions as secondary.
This is simple deduction through evolutionary psychology because women were given the responsibility of nurturing and taking care of family as their primary responsibility. Emotions has to be guiding their actions.
Now problem with emotions are that are co- dependent on external situation and people and can change on a whim.
Any Women Who is swayed by her emotions will Nag continuosly no matter what she gets. It is very less to do with the Man.
God...it's soo good...great content...this should be trending 😭😭
Great video.
Every relationship has a power dynamic that needs to be acknowledged and respected. The best way for women to stop nagging is to even out the playing field by finding ways to regain power. That may include gaining more independence by working or through education, and not ceding power by giving in to cultural expectations.
We need to start negotiating strategically instead of nagging.
I feel sad that how mothers or other women are not thank for doing household work and this point was pointed on one show on TV serial also. From time i realised it and I always just say thank you to my mom after having food or whenever she helps me or does any household work
Do you also thank your father for the education, fancy clothes and treats he gets you from the market?
@@chaitanyagupta6668 well my dad isn't the only breadwinner of my family, my mom work equally (like him) as well as manage the household work. Of course I grateful for whatever my dad provided me but my mom provided me equally too with double responsibilities. And for the kindest information I don't wear much fancy clothes but I will, but on my own money(when I will become independent). So that's there's no way of saying that I'm being biased on my parents effort, but thanking someone who do double amount work isn't worth appreciating?
@@astriabranganca never said that. That was just a general question.
@@chaitanyagupta6668 I know but I just wanted to clarify that I am not biased on my parents efforts.
@@astriabranganca No, i am not judging. I get what u are saying. Cheers!
I want this channel to blow up, like really blow up to the point, it becomes the most viewed channel.
This channel is so underrated
Real Super Duper.... Please DO NOT STOP making such GREAT VIDEOS... I already feel less guilty about my nagging now......
Yesssss it's high time we question stereotype and try to be understanding
👌well pointed out the double standards of men
U guys are doing great....!!!
Awesome Content ❤️ Thanks for this video... Really appreciate your efforts✨
At last women will never stop "Nagging" .
Amazing video. Thanks for saying what others refuse to understand. 🤦🏻♀️
U guys are fabulous...debunking every stereotype and helping others to know more about the issues that may help them to be feminist ❤️..Thank u swaddle❤️...keep growing....
Everything is a problem basically. Everything except for women themselves, because how can they be held accountable. They are perfect beings with no flaws whatsoever. Right.
Asking unemployed husband to get a job or do household chores or stop burning the family money on drinking and gambling is "nagging"! How do newspapers print such headlines?
THIS. NEEDED TO BE SAID.
Totally agree with you and this is some seriously good editing👍
Where are your views??!! People do be missin out
Hey Swaddle , we love your videos...
It is evident that a large number of people in India speak and understand english so your videos are fairly comprehensible .
However , I've noticed that a large chunk of our population comprises the lower middle classes and include people above the age of 30 who really need to refreah their cemented views . All these people do have access to UA-cam ...
So, wouldn't it be a good option to opt for both English and Hindi languages for your videos?
Thank you guys for coming up with an another super important issue 🙂👍
The "nagging wife" wale whatsapp forwards and jokes aren't even funny anymore. I hate them
If people find it funny why not
@@karthikeyavarma2903 only boomers find them funny. They're cringe. Period.
@@shrisharma7355 You didnt get the point essentially a joke comes from a dark place where there is victim involved thats why it is funny it is meant to be taken as joke your perception of funny is different from others but that doesnt make it cringe so get over it instead of ranting about.
and finally wonderfully , logically , reasonably politely expressed misery of centuries that women are made to go through
I used to get angry at my mother for nagging too much and then I realized I was a lazy ass who never did my work on time. Thanks mom.
243 mins= 4.05 hrs of work in House, and 8 hrs of work in Office place for men....Im not Saying Women cant work outside, but as this 243 min data was based on average women...it can be taken as Unemployed Women, As in India most women are Homemaker
The way you edit videos is awesome. 😍
Editing was so goodd.
really like the video. appreciate your work !
Dont address everything as stereotype.... This is reality.... My mother was such a nagging wife... Being a daughter, i myself used to get annoyed by my mother.... She wanted every one around her to be her slaves... My dad was a highly educated person having a wonderful career as a lawyer... All finance was in my mom's hand... But still she used to nag my dad... Though my mom was an uneducated women, she wanted to rule everyone in the family... I was brought up by my dad as an independent girl with her own decision making capacity... But no.. My mother wasnt happy with.that... If i buy a dress or saree myself and show it to her, she used to ignore... When asked why, she used to say, did u ask me before buying?... For everything, did you ask me..? What about my own choices... My personality was so much damaged... If i dont like to eat some thing, she would say, see i am asking you so much... Still you reject on my face....
Not just this, she wanted me dress up like she wants, think like her and follow her footsteps which i never did... Things got worsened when my father died and she came over to stay with us.... I saw her horrible face... At times she nagged me so much so that i felt like slapping on her face forgetting that she is my mother... But i never did that....
This channel is always depicting women as goddesses and men as monsters... Calls every set up as a stereotype..... This lady might have been brought up in a beautiful atmosphere where she has not seen true faces of people... Men n women both are human beings ... And therefore they do have flaws... There are wonderful men and women and also havoc of men and women....
Thanks so much. All other comments are biased and off topic.
My ex husband would complain that I was always "nagging" him, when I divorced him, he was GENUINELY Surprised & Shocked! Why ?
If you were nagging him on the stupidest stuff, then you're in the wrong. If not, then it's not your fault.
It's unfortunate but it is a stereotype that I had internalized in my perceptions of my parents and their personalities. :/
Showed it to my Ma . She agreed and started nagging me again.
my mother & my sister does nagging, all they want me to do is help them or share workload with them. i always do help them. i am not saying i dont help them. but sometimes when we are busy & they ask us to do help or something for them, you do feel like nagging right? have you ever felt nagging? i sometimes do, sometimes i hear their nagging. but sometimes i think they just want their voice & pain to be heard
:)
Then help them, you idiot. It won't kill you.
Share the work load bro after all it's your house too.
@@floffy2695 yes, bro i always do help them. i am not saying i dont help them. but sometimes when we are busy & they ask us to do help or something for them, you do feel like nagging right?
@@varsha4447 i always do help them. i am not saying i dont help them. but sometimes when we are busy & they ask us to do help or something for them, you do feel like nagging right? i completly agree that we need get rid of that nagging term
please talk about the islamic invesion on indian women
Again a brilliant topic raised by swaddle ❤❤👏👏, keep it up guysss
Apart from all the wor issues, its the judgemental nature of society. Imagine some guests entering a messy house. Everyone will invariably think what is the woman doing? Nobody even thinks of the man .
Wait the last time I checked people get married because they love that person ....has that changed?
...in india ppl don't get married for love... they r arranged to be married to some stranger..
@@universeofopulence ik ...and that's very sad
@@yimingsofyiaxuefan4641 Not in every condition. My parents had an arranged marriage and are incredibly happy together. All my relatives have also had an arranged marriage, and they're happy together.
@@corruptez_ glad ❤️
I think i should remain single.
Yes
Dear Swaddle,
Can you please make a video on the recent rape case judgement which was passed by the Mumbai High Court, which allowed the rapist to marry the victim as a compensation for the damage caused?
Like how fucked up is that.
Being life and society slightly tough with them.
This is true to some extent (I'm a girl)
People send jokes regarding their wives, but heartfelt messages and poems for the mothers. Aren't most of the wives mothers as well??
Such hypocrisy😝😝
People tend to paint with a broad brush when they use the word mother. So let me help:
A: giving birth is no more a miracle than a toaster making toast. It’s what you’re designed to do. It basically means you were able to convince a male to have sex with you. Not a difficult feat at all.
B: Never equate your self with an individual’s mother. I only have one mother, and I don’t care that you have children. It doesn’t make you special or entitle you to special treat or deference I may show my actual mother.
If you really want to be liberated, if you want something done, do it yourself. If men expect others to do things for them they probably had an Oedipal Mother.
Everyone loves their mother, only some people love their wives.....
@@hamaidmk There is such thing as conditional love when it comes to parents.
please talk about the islamic invesion on indian women
Well said. I constantly see WhatsApp messages and photos about how husbands have to suffer due to women who love shopping, hate cooking etc. But, we never see a post where the genders are reversed. This has to stop.
That's boomer humour in a nutshell
@JNJ I don't want to see men suffer. Don't take things out of context. I was pointing out how we never see posts about men not helping their wives or anything. I was just talking about the double standards in these portrayals. Not that I want men to suffer.
Hey devika are u a swiftie??
Well said
@@theswiftie6654 yeahh...
Next time someone forwards a sexist nagging stereotype message we can send them this video hoping their mindset will change.
Ykw, I really will
Once I told my dad I don't like his wife jokes... He clearly got pissed😭. Atleast he stopped telling them to me infront of my mom. 😭😭
Great idea
@@rimjhimchakraborty9365 I just send the puke emoji / if he says it in person he gets audio as well 😂
Absolutely mate. My attitude towards this steryotype has changed forever. These guys have the chance of being "real influencers" to both young men and woman alike. Thank You team Swaddle.
I find that even men can be nags, they always demand things from their wife and don't care weather she is busy or tired but they are not called nags
so when a man is nagging it is not because the wife is not helping it is not a cry for help it is something EVIL. but when a women does it you guys redefine it as something innocent , harmless, a cry for help by angles. the hypocrisy
@@firstnamelastname1744 I guess s/he is talking from the archaic perspective of women being irritating.
Men in households sit comfortably, scratching their back and laughing on sexist jokes and constantly ask for tea or anything else. S/he means that even that is nagging. I don't think s/he ever said that nagging, when done by by women, is right. It's wrong both ways, but the reasons are different.
@@firstnamelastname1744 Are you joking? Most women, even working women do most household chores. Most men don't do such care work.
@@firstnamelastname1744 And expecting someone else to MAKE YOU TEA is ENTITLEMENT. That's really nagging. NOT expecting someone to share the CHORES
@@bhavyavikrambhat9312 nagging is considered harassment no matter who does it. It is not a "cry for help " When women do it . It is still considered harassment . Google the actual definition of nagging ... You will how they are manipulating you to think its always the man's fault even when the women does something wrong...
When mothers have to deal with the responsibility of an entire household single-handedly and they have kids like me who does not help and is only busy with her own life, nagging is their only option
This is why iam child free and most people around me cannot digest it
@@technicaltreasures7297 They are jealous of you, sis
@@stylehautecouture4810 absolutely 💯 ,I don't let it affect me 😀😀
@@technicaltreasures7297 i highly advocate for women choosing to be ChildFree go sis!
But I cannot help but notice everyone is so put off by the fact that a woman has no stress and is leading a happy independent life
@@korviscapetrova5269 yes people believes it's a woman's debt to society to birth children irrespective of what they want, I never succumbed to that pressure because I didn't need anyone's validation.
i hate the wife-husband jokes that are made for fun. esp in big shows like kapil sharma where they make fun of wives being dominating when in real life, women can't even breathe for themselves.
exactly same here
lol.
But wouldn't that differ from case to case
@@maikbanner7552 thats what I was trying to see this video was really onesided
Wife nags - bad wife
Husband nags and makes wife life miserable - sahi to kar raha he akhir pati he uska haq he
This is mindset of our patriarchal society 🥺
@@ultimate6243 got the attention? Now give back the phone to your parents 😀
@@ultimate6243 haha go to sleep you must be tired making all of troll accounts
@Rahul Roy I am sorry to hear that...
@Rahul Roy the video reminded me of my cousin who committed suicide fedup with her 'nagging husband ' !
P. S- Creating stories is so easy! Get a life and focus on better things in life. 😊
@Rahul Roy
Witch-hunter spotted
Yeah!! Let's not enjoy those sexist jokes anymore. I was even waiting for someone to put this topic forward. Those jokes are not at all funny. And it irritates even more whenever I see them forwarded by a woman herself!! 😣😬
oh hell ya so true and it is mainly shared on stories status and in family groups its so annoying
Also, please use terms like, woman or lady because 'female' is a degrading term,
@@sleepyexe644 right!! Edited!!🙃
jokes should be taken as jokes not seriously if it's funny is funny we shouldn't spread cancel culture as humour is subjective. there are enough extremists causing mayhem for a bunch of jokes lets not be like them.
Truth hurts right .:)
If we Men Listen to Them respectfully and Co-operate with them in the first place
then women won't have a reason to keep Nagging us. 🙂
@@man-pl9pv at least better than you.
@@vaishalichauhan4616 vaishalj do u really think that all men are who supports feminist narrative on social media actually they really believe in it? THINK BEFORE YOU SAY ANYTHING TO ME.
@@man-pl9pv It's not like men can never support it. I have seen MEN supporting it. It's not impossible. But bro, how he's gonna get laid by supporting equality on 'youtube'? Look, suffering women give you a reason and supportive men give you inspiration.
You spelled my name wrong, btw.
@This Person dude just see the desperation in the comment, and women why these male feminist not come for punishment for women, when women accused a guy on a false rape cases?
@@vaishalichauhan4616 white knights like him think that by agreeing with women on everything, they will get the female attention, sympathy etc, and finally you wil become his girlfriend one day, I am a guy, i know this trust me on that.
I love the content this channel makes. They highlight issues that are not even considered issues in our society but desperately need attention. We need more videos and channels like this. Great work! Keep it up!!
Very very true. Honestly i also got irritated by these sexist jokes on women and men both, I hate the jokes on women as a nagger or stupid or gold digger who does not understand anything or Yes i also got irritated by movies and TV serials where "women beating men" is shown as funny and cute. Or the jokes where a wife beats up a husband ?? But if genders in those scenes and jokes get reversed then it will be considered abuse. This sexism needs to be stopped very soon.
@@swaroop2518 true even Bollywood celebrities make that kind of jokes.
Do watch - The Great Indian Kitchen. True, many issues are not even considered issues.
@@swaroop2518 Never have I seen those scenes being portrayed as 'cute', funny yes but indirectly aren't they showing woman as nags again, as always being angry and unhappy with their husbands and beating them? And the husbands living a miserable life. We can't expect much from Bollywood or Indian serials they rarely show any form of abuse or domestic violence.
And regarding your comment on men wearing skirts that is a completely different thing. They were talking about women being judged for wearing modern or exposing clothes which literally includes wearing shorts and all but no one judges men for that, right?
Both women and men are mocked at if they dress up non-conventionally that doesn't conform to gender norms though. Like men wearing makeup and skirts, and women wearing tomboyish clothes. Though for men it is much harder because 'feminine boys' have been looked down upon sadly for years, as if something is wrong with them. And being tomboy is actually being accepted.
So true... soooooo true... even after having a baby, i have to ask my husband countless times to help me in taking care of the baby.. please note he helps me because i am the primary care giver.. women are supposed to be right and whenever he looks after his daughter for 15 minutes while I bathe, wash utensils, he behaves as if he is doing a huge favour to me.. his parents also say my son is so supportive.. hate this mentality
Hein? Was he like this even before marriage?
do you both go to work
Same in my family..
This is why I chose to be child free
@@stevestiffler8875 yes..i work and have a very demanding job.. i also earn almost similar to what he earns.. give or take a few thousand
A good cook, children caretaker, a good looking for romance, a nurse for caring illness be it of husband or children & a teacher to do children's homework.. A man sees the one who perform all these functions in a single Women.. & What women want is just a single Man who understands her better.. & if she asks for help & becomes frustrated sometimes then Man says I've a Nagging wife.
Height of Hypocrisy
Very true, i believe that men and women BOTH should do outside work Equally.
And they should also share household works Equally.
Neither of the gender should get burdened with extra responsibility.
A working women must ONLY do Half of household work and other half should be done by working men.
And both should understand and help each other.
Good insight...
Sure. What u actually did was go in depth of what is expected from women but just touch the topic in case of men. Ofcourse, all we men need to do is be understanding. And women here are literally liking the comment like crazy. It caters to them. I could name a number of things that is expected of men. And get to know the meaning of the word hypocrisy. People are using it wrong all the time.
I think I'm lucky that these stereotype are not in my family. I've never heard my father saying anything like this, neither he gives any chance to my mum to ask him to do anything again and again.
sorry that comment was not meant for you .
I wish all men were like your dad
@@firstnamelastname1744 which comment?
@@divyanipatel9244 i deleted it. I thought you must have gotten a notification that is why i...
I think your mother is also understanding of your father's problem that's why they are happy
Saying Nagging is wrong why don't those people who say this, imagine themselves in their wife's place and think how hard it is for them to ask for help when you are just ignoring their requests.
And those whatsapp forwards who are those people who are making them and now you have to think do you want to be them or a right person.
@Rahul Roy I haven't seen actual nagging to the point of suicide. Can you tell an anecdote so we can relate, as it must be very common going by the popularity of the nagging wife jokes and complaints, but still all we can perceive is husbands being ungrateful and not willing to adjust towards the relationship?
I have seen many nagging wives which irritates me but often comes from someone being ignored or having a world not bigger than a few people. Since the day my mom found enough freedom and supportive neighbours to go on trips even religious ones, she's discovered what fun and freedom and happiness mean and has become more cool in allowing us more freedom.
would you say the same when it come to a lesbian couple ? where one person feels their partner is nagging them too much. nagging and asking for help are two different things
@@klpnaGupta time.com/89987/husbands-wives-nagging-study/
nagging and other issues can add on causing mental depression . there is an extreme pressure on a persons mind which can add up to suicidal tendencies. There is a reason most suicides on earth are committed by men and the reason is not loosing a job . majority of the cases it is because of unsuccessful marriage .
@Yash Dakhare hey bhagwan. All a female has to do is try to talk politely and you start abusing instead of bothering to talk.
Of course I will watch the link and go into further details of our disagreements, that's why I asked in the first place!
I know I may not know every problem guys face but I feel you know even less about problems girls face and get angry when we talk about it. But until you and I talk, how will I know or how will you know?
Are you planning to explain your viewpoint without attacking me unnecessarily?
@Rahul Roy I am not saying you are mansplaining. I think you might have a good reason for your complaint, but asking for anecdotes and evidence to ensure you are not simply hating on women, like how the Yash Dakhare person above has demonstrated. I agree that many louder feminist voices have gone towards blaming men too much without caring to listen to them. And I felt if I think I can contribute in striking a better conversation, I should speak up.
I am not womansplaning men's issues and only trying to state my perception of men unfairly and ungratefully stereotying their nagging wives because ~3-4 out of 5 men around me openly make fun of their wives and complaining if she asks you to come home on time when they are freely having fun regularly with friends while the wives stay at home.
Now that I stress my memory, 3 cases come to mind where the wife is actually abusive and the man tries his best to keep the family together. I wouldn't joke about that nagging. I'll call it torture and would be worried about the husband and other family members. And trust me, I have seen almost every acquaintance worrying about them.
I perceive the 'nagging controlling wife' stereotype more in the context of husbands from regular healthy families bashing their wives and calling it a joke when confronted, but no similar bashing by majority of wives I've seen.
Let me read other responses and video above before I say more.
So true.Women work equally hard in the house as well as their respective workplaces.
And yet men will joke about their "attyachari patnis" when they are asked to do something which will reduce their work pressure significantly
Show him great Indian kitchen movie
Make one video why only extroverts are given priority at all areas of the society and the less speaking ones ones are called antisocial,if every personality is unique then why the partiality??
in a job interview I was asked if I am social and outgoing and I said no, I mostly like to stay in my room, read, watch movies, etc. and then the interviewer immediately laughed and told me that I'm an 'antisocial' 🤦♀️🤦♀️
and then went on to advise me how I should go out, roam around with friends, and socialise more with people. as if that is the only standard setting a human should have and anything else is wrong.
I didn't ask for it. and I didn't need his advice. 🙄
@@SleepIntoTheDiamondLife what to do we are forming our so called educated, modernized society on the basis of this misconception that "you have to socialize and be extrovert to succeed" and when societies are formed on the basis of misconceptions the misconceptions turn into stereotypes and once they turn into stereotypes the result is in front of you and you very well know how hard it is to change stereotypical mentality.
It's an indirect pressure that society creates so individuals place society and socializing at a higher priority than themselves ! I succeeded coz I work at home solely with my laptop and that's how I realized my dream of being an engineer in silicon Valley
@@andrewfernandes6906 exactly so. I have been literally shamed for not having friends. I do have one friend who is also busy with his work and we barely meet but we are friends, we just don't fit into the society's definition of 'friends' (you know the one that leaks rainbows and sparkles lol)
@@SleepIntoTheDiamondLife maybe our sole purpose is to prove to these people that their thinking relating to the introverts, quiet natured people and loners is wrong that's why God has made us different.Remember when all humankind believed that the earth was a flat disc until one man disproved this belief broke the flat earth mentality and proved that the earth is spherical,people called him insane,outcasted him and considered him a maniac but he was wise and he believed in himself,his research and his instincts and the rest is history you people call that man by the name Galileo Galilei.I believe one day even this mentality will break but for that people like us just need to take a step but through our actions.
That is the same nagging that keeps your household together. If it weren't for those reminders then the household would be a mess.
Please google the word nagging it is not as innocent as they made it to be.... They redefined it to glorify women ...
May be if the husbands willingly shared the work load of domestic chores! Their “nagging wives” would automatically transform into the cool desirable women these men dream of!
@@shivangimodirak8125 exactly!
@Jay Yadav what about working wifes?... They have double that burden. Then they are paid less
@Jay Yadav How is it equal burden if a man works outside the home and does nothing at home and the woman works outside of home and also does all the work at home?? That's not equal bruh
I always thought my mom is such a nag and my dad is so cool.
My mom left the house for four days because her dad died
And I realised my dad was cool because he didn't care as much my mom .
It was her nagging that got the work done and without her the house was a complete mess.
I feel sorry for laughing at all those uncle jokes that state how irritating wives are .
Whenever my boy friend asks me, how are you so perfect in cooking cleaning and all the house hold work ?
Because I was the only member of the family who participated in household chores and later being a girl it was me who had to suffer the same burden as my mom felt.
But.... Now history won't repeat, learn doing your work with same perfection as expected by women in the society.
man same here as well my mom made me do all housework except cooking when i was 12 but never asked my brother to do anything because he yk is studying and should not be bothered with such things now i am 15 and still my brother does not do any house work i have to still do everything and my mom rarely scolds him..
Nagging is a genuine term. But why a mother's or wife's request/command is taken as nagging? In school a child has to obey his teacher like doing homework, classwork etc. Our sports teacher or gym instructor always push us to our limits and sometimes we hate them but still do everything he says. In our workplace also our senior will give us some work to do and we will get a good scolding if we don't do it right. So why for eg if my mother tells me to keep my shoe in the shoestand and not throw it around everytime, it's considered nagging? We could also then say that fathers are nagging their daughters in 20s to get married. So why some naggings are accepted and some are not?
Good question
Fathers nagging daughters to get married is also considered bad.
@@thechosenone1533 not really
Teachers nagging and women's nagging is not the same thing. Ask any Married man, if he does one thing his wife will find some other fault in him.
@@maikbanner7552 you really gave thought and time to reply under my comment, first of all appreciation for that. Secondly, your allocation of 243 minutes of a woman's time to household work is vague and non specific. It varies with socio economic groups, time of the year, no. of members in the family, etc.
1. There are 5 socioeconomic grps in India. Most women in low SE grp work as maids, contractual labour etc in addition to doing household work. Avg-low grp woman are also employed in small businesses etc. I believe that most women in avg and avg-high grps are working as housewives, but not all. And I believe that men in avg to high-avg groups work 9-5 in 5 days a week and most of it is not physical or manual labour. I can say this bcz I come in this grp and my work is a sitting and writing job.
2. Raising a child is hands down, the most difficult job any man or woman would do. Thats the reason our indian govt is the frst govt to launch a family planning program. Less children less worries. I agree that a fathers financial input is most important for growth of a child, but a mother's love, care, emotions, teaching sanskaar is equally important bcz all studying and schooling would go to waste if a child grows up to be a criminal.. I can back this fact bcz recently I hv been reading into true crime stories recently and most of them, if not all have had a traumatic childhood.
3. A mother's work is increments exponentially during the time of festivals especially hindu festivals which occur round the year. When husband and the kids are enjoying a holiday, she has to do extra work of cleaning and special food, sweets for all including guests. And I would like to add its very uncomfortable in an indian summer and an indian hot kitchen.
4. Just today, I saw someone posted a pic on twitter where a mother was on oxygen but she was standing in the kitchen making rotis. Her son posted this captioning mothers unconditional love. Now I dont know the full backstory so I wont comment but i do feel a little sad about it.
Coming to the point of this video, i think a mother's "nagging" is mostly to inculcate good habits in children. And a wife's "nagging" i dont know, maybe its a tea talk among men to vent out their frustration. I dont know, I am not a wife yet.
I was fed up of those whatsapp pati patni jokes in which they victimised husbands who were asked to do normal housework and vilanised their wives for it who do it 24x7 without a break
My mother 'nags' to study instead of seeking part time jobs and for wearing clothes that r not to her approval🤷🏻♀️ .my dad too does the same. One way to stop the nagging is to either politely inform them that u r doing what they're asking or just let them get it out of their system by hearing them out and giving assurance. Works way better than yelling back or being angry 💁🏻♀️ it's a good long term solution.
This was totally needed! Swaddle team, you're doing great!
This must be sent to all those "poor husbands" sending sexist husband wife jokes on WhatsApp!!
In each and every comedy video .....the main topic for male comedians is to stereotype women and show how miserable life of a man becomes after marriage.....I wonder how everyone is so hypocrite and has double standards that even when there are countless news about women being harassed or being victim of domestic violence etc etc, ppl still talk about how women are making their life hard .....when in fact that is also because they don't listen to women and help in anything as you have higelighted here.
@Yash Dakhare equal in what sense?
Sorry, I didn't get you.
@Yash Dakhare moreover.....in most cases in India girls are not allowed to choose whom they want to marry
It is chosen for them by family.....in many cases they don't even have any chance to give their opinion...
@Yash Dakhare yes I agree....if a woman is financially independent and doesn't depend on her husband for living then there are less chances of getting harassed but just because husband is working outside doesn't give him any right to harass his wife.....in such cases wife takes care of house....and household chores are also very very tiring.....so even if she doesn't earn she at least is doing something that is worth a lot but she doesn't get paid.....
Also you know ppl have just started to put money and efforts in educating girls and empowering them financially....a lot of women are not in working positions
Other than that
Men and society need to normalize wives earning more than husbands or only wives earning not husbands.....but I hope you know how big of a taboo they make out of it if something like this happens....also even if women earn more than their husbands still they are supposed to take care of house alone .....because roots of this system are so deep...and off course many women fight against it and deny .....but then they are humiliated by society , closed ones everyone....they are continuously taunted saying angry feminist etc etc....and then one more thing is added to it that... just because she earns she doesn't have any kind of manners and doesn't respect her husband, relatives etc etc....
@Yash Dakhare agreed!!
@Ahan gupta true....
Because women are generally not given any part in inheritance from parents....so if someone doesn't earn enough on her own ...there is nothing which can back her up....but dowry and alimony both should be removed slowly....society should change thinking about inheritance first..... legally girls are given the right in inheritance from parents but society has not accepted it....so that is why alimony can't be phased out suddenly....
Another option is that it can be made 2 way thing
If wife is more well financially and husband is somehow dependent then he can be given alimony and vice versa
That will make things equal for everyone.
Thanku so much you are the true teacher of teenage girls ❤️❤️❤️
true teacher really ? google the word nagging .it is literally harassment . they are manipulating you to make it all look like the man's fault.
@@firstnamelastname1744 oh just like you all manipulate the society by justifying rape that makes it look like it's woman's fault...now get the taste of your own medicine that is how it feels evn more pathetic for woman if you try and think about it a little
@@tani6071 what do you mean you all ? do you know my gender ? do you know if i have been raped or not ? why did you say that ?
@@tani6071 why is a bad action an answer to another bad action ? so if some man/women oppress a women you will go and punish some other man/women for it?
@@tani6071 this is not feminism this is man hatting .
Just an observation no offense
I see more women in comments section than men
I just feel like if there were more men seeing it it would make a greater impact..coz we women(mostly) know this already
I'm not saying women on whole should not watch it.. mindset is irrespective of gender ofc..I'm just talking about the percentages
More men have patriarchal/orthodox mindset than women (fact we can all agree to) and we need to get more men to watch it..so recommend this channel to all the men especially is what I want to say
👍👍 well said
Men don't want to lose their male privileges. That's why.
we men dont give a shit. These r jokes, meant to be taken as a joke. We men don't complain about the types of husband jokes there are on the internet (you would know if u bothered to search). Hell there are even jokes about the wife's infidelity with their husbands with husbands shown as dumb ignoring all the signs about their wife's cheating. In other words, we dont get offended so easily and nag.
@@stylehautecouture4810 Oh noo, what would i do if i was not able to make jokes on women. I would die and lose all power. Hahahaha how dumb. There might be some truth about the dumb wife jokes that circulate on the net after all.
If all genders were treated equally and everyone were given the appreciation they deserve why would there be any need for women to nag ?!
This statistics showing that men spend less time in house work is just one part of the statistics. Men spend most of the time on work outside of household. Getting car serviced, fixing all the broken stuff in the house etc.
Gen X humour is the worst. My dad keeps forwarding these annoying ass _memes_ talking about how *annoying* wives are.
Yep
Your dad is a real man, he understands female nature quite well unlike these weak soyboy today.
@@SS-hy4dy tf does that mean
@@saanvik4898 tf that you won't understand.
*Sitting behind a phonescreen with legs relaxed on a recliner asking the wife to make tea-- Sending messages is easy. A man who listens to his wife and his wife also listens to him is often made fun of because the 'SPINELESSNESS'. A marriage is essentially a legal union or contract that holds legal value to rights and wished. Consider marriage rituals in India, A girl is "married off", "given to"...even the Kanyadaan is a wedding ritual where the bride's father gives away his daughter. In South Indian weddings there's a ritual where the groom gets up in the middle of the wedding and refused to marry the bride claiming that he wants to be more religious and study further and give up all the pleasures of the world after which he walks away and the bride's father has to chase him and beg and plead him to come back and marry his daughter as she will be his companion for life. Why is this ritual limited to the groom? Can't the bride want to study further or be religious instead of marrying a man? Why can't the bride have her in-laws chasing after her, begging her to marry their son?“Pati parmeshwar” is a pretty cliché phrase in our society. Saas-bahu serials should just patent it now.
The concept of equating the husband to god in the eyes of the subservient wife, is emphasised every time the bride is asked to bend and reach for her life partner's feet. Some Indian weddings even have the bride and her family wash the groom’s feet.Sure, many of us touch our elder’s feet to show them respect and that may not be demeaning to someone, personally. But in a marriage, respect should go both ways. HOW CAN WE EXPECT EQUAL LABOUR WHEN THIS STUFF EXISTS*
Why we can't see memes and jokes on.... How mens demand for something... Like tea.. Food... Or for some papers...pen.. And when they didn't get it within 1min ... They start.. Repeating it.... Likeeeee helllllllllll....... That's the habit of my father........my mom is habitual to it ... But i always point this nature of him... Whenever he does that...... At least wait for 10 min..... Then repeat..... Or do it yourself....
@@skanderberg8701 I don't want to create such meme..... And I will never support those if it will happen.......... You are the one.. Who didn't get the real mean... Of why we can't see memes on men......let me elaborate......meaning of this line is... Stop creating such things against women..... Not start creating these things against men......... I'm talking about demolishing the gender bias.... Not creating an another gender bias against other group that is men..... And yes.... Bro plzz....again watch the vedio and understand the word nagging.... Before using it..... Like... I'm not demanding anything orr annoying you or anybody else over here by repeating the same thing..... You can say feminaze....... Insta wali didi.... .. So called woke... Libranduo type of title here....nagging doesn't go with the flow here
@@skanderberg8701 now you get your path right...... Continue this......get an stranger....... Andddd if she is saying X.... Modify that into Y in your head... And then show your hate outrage on that person......and give titles to them.... Feminaze... Libradu... Whichever you feel will hurt or disgrace the other person the most....... And lastly...... Never ever listen to other person.... What she is saying......okkkk.......for example.... If she is saying...that it's a common perception that only wife nag.. But it is also true when it comes to men...... Buttttttt never go on that direction of discussion buddy... That's a trap..... Dragggg the discussion tooo some random things.... Which is totally unrelated(and chances are very high that even that person doesn't support those things which you are dragging here.. But fuck it😛😛) like you find mintra obscene... Andddddddddd win the battle in your head... Just by bullying someone...... That's how you win ego battles here buddy.... Gud keep it up..... And yess follow this path... Don't go on saying "stop nagging"... That doesn't go with harassment and online bullying very well..... Best of luck...
@@skanderberg8701 Bruh *Avesta foundation* made the complaint about Myntra's logo.
Avesta foundation works for senior citizens and homeless people, and it considers Indian value and culture to its utmost, as per their saying on their website. They are not Women Rights organization or anything related to it.
Lastly, stop blaming feminist for everything, feminism is just about equality, don't you want that your sisters and female friends get equal opportunities.
@@skanderberg8701 you are using term "feminist" As some abusive word.... Otherwise you won't have said that.... Feminist have problem..... That meann you dooooo feel they all sucks.. And meant to be called by such names.... Yup you didn't speel it... But you did use the term feminist as feminaze..... Otherwise you shouldn't have said this......if you had every believed that these feminist are fighting for equality and we should respect them.....
@@skanderberg8701 and yesss... I'm a proud feminist...(supporter of equality for all)... And a proud liberal... (Respect to all)...... And didn't feel shame.... If someone trying to punch me down for that...because they didn't know the real meaning of these things.... Rather I accept it... Openly... Proudly....
If woman doesn't want to do ALL of caring work(like care for children) then she is not worthy of marrying. Because men aren't suited for such things.
How many times I have to say:-
"Please make a Video on GHUNGHAT System prevailing in North India"
(4th time)
As usual she wll defend her toxic community
If you listen your better half right away and start respecting her opinion regarding important matters, no need for repetition or "nagging".
Reading this from a man is empowering thank you and God bless you Amit 🙏
@@nesminra8982 thank you mam
THIS.
Okay, so my female bestie also nags, and she have never done a single piece of household work in her house, how will u justify her behaviour.
If she doesn't want to do household work, she doesn't have to. Though, obviously, everyone should at least learn how to do it.
@@corruptez_ i totally agree with the household work should be done by everyone, but what about her behaviour of just nagging and doing nothing else🤷🏻♂️
@@satyamkeshri1825 I mean, nagging about the stupidest stuff is annoying. But, when she's "nagging" about something which actually makes sense, just hear her out.
This makes me realise, how these silly small stupid things frame and shape us as a person, agree or not this really effects us subconsciously ,degrades our confidence, hinders our growth, this really effects us Oh Lord!
When a wife is tortured by her husband we take it seriously. But when a boy is tourtured by his wife we take it funnily
True
Kinda is
Agreed. If a woman is raped, it's serious. If a man is raped, *just laugh it off.* If a woman is abused, comfort her. If a man is abused, *call him weak.* Smh.
Mostly by women, because they don't like weak men.
@@SS-hy4dy Agreed. Crying doesn't make a man weak, it makes him/her/them a human.
the victimhood in this comment section goes hard af. ppl really acting like husband jokes don't exist and don't get forwarded round whatsapp girl chats. yes, this stereotype is bad, but that doesn't mean every wife behaves perfectly with her husband. so tired of people who fight other people and not the problem at hand.
Gonna share this in my family group. Istg I'm so done with those jokes
Don't judge every women on the base of shitty Bollywood. Real life is no Bollywood and you will find many decent women out there minding their business in real life and if we talk about Bollywood as you seem obsessed with it..there's a man (the director) behind every nag scene.
Following your channel is one of best things I’ve ever done! Thank you so much for this “overthinking series” it’s very enlightening!!
I feel like this is the only socially evolved channel in youtube
👏👏👏Socially evolved. So true. This channel is by far the best find on UA-cam. I'm overwhelmed while watching the videos and reading the comments. Finally a place for reflection of thoughts.