Completely agree. Two years? I have a masters degree and have waited tables to make ends meet until I found a good job. No excuse. Kick him out. Hard times build character.
Of course He is toxic , my boyfriend is being out of job 5 months ago , it is stressful for me , everyday playing video game , while there are many jobs opportunities out there. I stopped paying for his stuffs ,I m waiting to see his reaction, we want a man ladies not a child
Please pay close attention to her. She's probably being manipulated and abused. Don't stop trying to be a part of her life. It may feel like she's against you but she needs you more than she will say.
I’m about file those papers I’m sick my husband not working won’t do shit around house.I work 70 hours a week he can’t even wash his ass but 1time a week .I’ve done the set down he calls it abuse if I bring it up.
What about a boyfriend that is building a small business but doesn’t get at least a part time job to supplement our income? The business doesn’t take up much of his time... 😐
Don't enable him or just leave. Ex sat on the couch all day. I quit feeding him. He had a job within 2 weeks. You're not his mom. If you keep doing this, you can always do it.
is there a nicer way to tell him 👋 .. Im single mom, Im a nurse , Im going to school. He hasn't worked for 2 yrs. He doesn't really live with me , keeps some of his things at my place....I watched further on as i was typing this,you were clear niceness should be out the window...but its so hard for me to be like dude job or bye. The other day he made a comment on how I should look at getting a house...lol on a 2300 a month salary and a teenager getting ready to go off to college, who is paying that bill lol. So no this video is tough love on what i need to do just sucks.
my bf of a yr and 7 months...he lost his job 8 months into our relationship. he's called me toxic or a witch whenever i bring up when he's going to start working. my bills are higher and i miss being able to treat myself once in a while. i helped him pay off boot on his car, paid for his brakes to be fixed, car insurance and oil change--he's killing me. i maxed out 2 credit cards helping him out while he sits in MY apt watching prayer videos all day on you tube. I'm fighting back tears and losing as i type this from my work computer bc i CANNOT believed this is my life as a 35 yr old😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
I don't know if you've ever noticed, but your videos get better and better. Keep up the great work Marc. I really enjoy the great advice you give everyone!
If your boyfriend is not disabled he can work im not saying get an executive job but but get a job he can be a busser or custodian but he needs a job to pull his weight if he refuses kick him out.
I don't know man. I got to somewhat disagree on this one. More info is needed. And assuming it was circa 2014, I remember applying for career positions and getting no where during that time period. I have a bachelors with 10 years experience, and part way through masters degree at that time. So not getting a job worthy of the student loan debt payment, I applied at shit jobs for a cashier position at lowes and stuff. They thought it was odd that someone with my credentials would apply and I was basically discriminated against for being overqualified in so many words. It's unbelievable in those situations, you can't seem to win, either you not qualified enough or you too qualified. Honestly, I think they believe that if they hire you, you will leave the moment you get something better...which is sort of true because a cashier job doesn't pay the student loans let alone the rest of the bills. Maybe the boyfriend in the video was depressed, if anything from not being able to find a job. I'd be curious to know how the guy who wrote you really treated the unemployed one. I've had significant others run me down and blame me when after an interview I didn't get hired like it was my fault. I've been degraded because my income, no matter how I earned it was too low compared to what my partner was earning. I'm basically saying, the toxic person can very well be the employed partner in the relationship. So as others suggested, I tried to keep the house tidy, like do laundry and dishes and stuff to kind of contribute, cook meals, that kind of thing. Well let me tell you how that turned out. He would leave his dishes everywhere, all over the house, and I was downgraded the his bitch, the maid of the house that had to pick up after him...that kind of shit isn't a partnership either. And I have to say one more thing. Yes, the unemployed boyfriend should try to do something with his life...but your demeanor and that of the guy who wrote you almost makes it seem that your loved one, your "partner" is mostly just a paycheck for you, another person to split the bills with. If that's the case, the unemployed boyfriend would be better off without the guy, even if he pays for everything because that's not real love. I've seen it all before, the second you lose that income, that you know longer have that paycheck, you are deemed a loser and the relationship is over or threatened to be over.
I’m 23 and my bf is 28. We met online and fell inlove. I moved in with his family and lived in a camper his parents bought for us.. I was working most of the time while he jumps after another job that would last about 2 weeks . I now feel like his parents knew this about him and I didn’t know what I was going to deal with. One day I was manager at a store busy working. I found out he ditched work and took off with the car and drove around 8 hours(pretending he was at work) and drunk . That day changed the way I see him... but I still love him. That all ima say for now.. There’s more to this it just keeps getting worse lol. 🥴😅
Marc...LOL....I had to watch that video twice... You continue to demonstrate such exceptional wisdom for someone so young, honestly can't wait to meet you. Congrats on all your success & I only see a brighter future for you my friend.
If you ask this question, it is apparent that the guy is no longer your bofriend as you now resent him above any feelings for him. Not a real boyfriend - not working for most of the entire relationship = moocher. Kick him to the curb without any concern for where he may have to go. Sometimes you have to force someone to be an adult. In the long run, you are most likely doing him one of the best favors of his life. You have to help him by letting him go and hoping it forces him to grow up and take responsibility for himself.
Come to Jesus INDEED. I think you hit this nail right on the head Marc! Are you from the South, since I've heard you use a few Southern expressions? Thanks for your wise advice, as always!
Hi Marc how are you? I must tell you that I love your films and I admire you so much, I'm from Argentina, South America. I hope to make a movie someday with you
What if he agreed to keep house, cook, wash clothes, etc., etc. In other words, what if he contributed to the relationship in other ways than working outside and bringing home a paycheck every month? Marc, do you only see value in men if they prove to be of utility in financial terms? I find that to be a little sad. The way you were so comfortable to callously dismiss someone you hardly know as a "bozo." I am sure you wouldnt have used such harsh language if the person in question was female.
I dont think he is contributing in any significant degree or his partner wouldnt have been emailing me for advice , I will stand by my statement that he is a bozo.
Most of us would not support a grown man just for doing housework and mowing the grass once in a while. There would have to be some child care or elder care to justify that.
Completely agree. Two years? I have a masters degree and have waited tables to make ends meet until I found a good job. No excuse. Kick him out. Hard times build character.
Exactly, you do what you have to until you get to the point you can do what you want
My grown daughters boyfriend says his past prevents him to work and has her paying for everything. I say he's toxic and I'm the bad one.
Of course He is toxic , my boyfriend is being out of job 5 months ago , it is stressful for me , everyday playing video game , while there are many jobs opportunities out there. I stopped paying for his stuffs ,I m waiting to see his reaction, we want a man ladies not a child
Please pay close attention to her. She's probably being manipulated and abused. Don't stop trying to be a part of her life. It may feel like she's against you but she needs you more than she will say.
I’m depressed and suicidal and I work every day😂
Same
Right. And even people that are in pain still work. I'm so tired of doing everything on my own.
I’m about file those papers I’m sick my husband not working won’t do shit around house.I work 70 hours a week he can’t even wash his ass but 1time a week .I’ve done the set down he calls it abuse if I bring it up.
What about a boyfriend that is building a small business but doesn’t get at least a part time job to supplement our income? The business doesn’t take up much of his time... 😐
Don't enable him or just leave. Ex sat on the couch all day. I quit feeding him. He had a job within 2 weeks. You're not his mom. If you keep doing this, you can always do it.
Contrary to popular opinion "can't," "won't" and "don't want to" are not synonymous terms.
OMG! Totally needed to hear what you said.
is there a nicer way to tell him 👋 ..
Im single mom, Im a nurse , Im going to school. He hasn't worked for 2 yrs. He doesn't really live with me , keeps some of his things at my place....I watched further on as i was typing this,you were clear niceness should be out the window...but its so hard for me to be like dude job or bye.
The other day he made a comment on how I should look at getting a house...lol on a 2300 a month salary and a teenager getting ready to go off to college, who is paying that bill lol. So no this video is tough love on what i need to do just sucks.
And be ready, the day he goes if you not there he will take most of your valuables.
my bf of a yr and 7 months...he lost his job 8 months into our relationship. he's called me toxic or a witch whenever i bring up when he's going to start working. my bills are higher and i miss being able to treat myself once in a while. i helped him pay off boot on his car, paid for his brakes to be fixed, car insurance and oil change--he's killing me. i maxed out 2 credit cards helping him out while he sits in MY apt watching prayer videos all day on you tube. I'm fighting back tears and losing as i type this from my work computer bc i CANNOT believed this is my life as a 35 yr old😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
The sex cannot be that good.
Lol. yes i agree!
My boyfriend could never keep a job, I fuc.... kicked his ass out for good after being veeery patient and caring. Off he went!
I don't know if you've ever noticed, but your videos get better and better. Keep up the great work Marc. I really enjoy the great advice you give everyone!
Hey, thank you very much :) im trying
This goes for family members, too.
Sorry you are having this issue. This is a come to Jesus moment. Time for a altermatim. Hope it works out.
& then he goes with all the things you bought... your phone, your car, the clothes you bought him, the tools, etc things you bought him.
If your boyfriend is not disabled he can work im not saying get an executive job but but get a job he can be a busser or custodian but he needs a job to pull his weight if he refuses kick him out.
God damn, this man is handsome
I don't know man. I got to somewhat disagree on this one. More info is needed. And assuming it was circa 2014, I remember applying for career positions and getting no where during that time period. I have a bachelors with 10 years experience, and part way through masters degree at that time.
So not getting a job worthy of the student loan debt payment, I applied at shit jobs for a cashier position at lowes and stuff. They thought it was odd that someone with my credentials would apply and I was basically discriminated against for being overqualified in so many words. It's unbelievable in those situations, you can't seem to win, either you not qualified enough or you too qualified. Honestly, I think they believe that if they hire you, you will leave the moment you get something better...which is sort of true because a cashier job doesn't pay the student loans let alone the rest of the bills.
Maybe the boyfriend in the video was depressed, if anything from not being able to find a job. I'd be curious to know how the guy who wrote you really treated the unemployed one. I've had significant others run me down and blame me when after an interview I didn't get hired like it was my fault. I've been degraded because my income, no matter how I earned it was too low compared to what my partner was earning. I'm basically saying, the toxic person can very well be the employed partner in the relationship.
So as others suggested, I tried to keep the house tidy, like do laundry and dishes and stuff to kind of contribute, cook meals, that kind of thing. Well let me tell you how that turned out. He would leave his dishes everywhere, all over the house, and I was downgraded the his bitch, the maid of the house that had to pick up after him...that kind of shit isn't a partnership either.
And I have to say one more thing. Yes, the unemployed boyfriend should try to do something with his life...but your demeanor and that of the guy who wrote you almost makes it seem that your loved one, your "partner" is mostly just a paycheck for you, another person to split the bills with. If that's the case, the unemployed boyfriend would be better off without the guy, even if he pays for everything because that's not real love. I've seen it all before, the second you lose that income, that you know longer have that paycheck, you are deemed a loser and the relationship is over or threatened to be over.
I’m 23 and my bf is 28. We met online and fell inlove. I moved in with his family and lived in a camper his parents bought for us.. I was working most of the time while he jumps after another job that would last about 2 weeks . I now feel like his parents knew this about him and I didn’t know what I was going to deal with. One day I was manager at a store busy working. I found out he ditched work and took off with the car and drove around 8 hours(pretending he was at work) and drunk . That day changed the way I see him... but I still love him. That all ima say for now.. There’s more to this it just keeps getting worse lol. 🥴😅
Love your youtube vids man. Tx ;)
Buen consejo Marc, muchos hemos pasado por una situación así.
Yes please , u don’t need a headache
Good advice.
Well you do have a way with "WORDS" i give you that.
Marc...LOL....I had to watch that video twice... You continue to demonstrate such exceptional wisdom for someone so young, honestly can't wait to meet you. Congrats on all your success & I only see a brighter future for you my friend.
Hey Eric , thank you very much!!
If you ask this question, it is apparent that the guy is no longer your bofriend as you now resent him above any feelings for him. Not a real boyfriend - not working for most of the entire relationship = moocher. Kick him to the curb without any concern for where he may have to go. Sometimes you have to force someone to be an adult. In the long run, you are most likely doing him one of the best favors of his life. You have to help him by letting him go and hoping it forces him to grow up and take responsibility for himself.
Yes, i very much agree with you!
Come to Jesus INDEED. I think you hit this nail right on the head Marc! Are you from the South, since I've heard you use a few Southern expressions? Thanks for your wise advice, as always!
I was born in New Jersey , I moved to MS when i was 9.
Hi Marc how are you? I must tell you that I love your films and I admire you so much, I'm from Argentina, South America. I hope to make a movie someday with you
Hey Fred , thank you very much!!
When do you make a workout video?
Maybe they have mental health issues and they don't trust people anymore because they feel hurt deep down or depressed maybe suicidal.:(
What if he agreed to keep house, cook, wash clothes, etc., etc. In other words, what if he contributed to the relationship in other ways than working outside and bringing home a paycheck every month? Marc, do you only see value in men if they prove to be of utility in financial terms? I find that to be a little sad. The way you were so comfortable to callously dismiss someone you hardly know as a "bozo." I am sure you wouldnt have used such harsh language if the person in question was female.
I dont think he is contributing in any significant degree or his partner wouldnt have been emailing me for advice , I will stand by my statement that he is a bozo.
Most of us would not support a grown man just for doing housework and mowing the grass once in a while. There would have to be some child care or elder care to justify that.
How can I sent you an email marc
www.marcdylan.xxx
When do you make a workout video?
I have done a couple youtube videos with workout tips