Link to Breath-work: ua-cam.com/video/0BNejY1e9ik/v-deo.html Bonus tip: if you can identify what got triggered, IE not trusting or feeling confident, then once you’re done with breathwork if you can affirm in, on a loop, a few beliefs that address the triggered doubt, for 5-10 minutes, then this will help you create the change even quicker. If you can’t identify it, no worries. The breathwork will help a lot and nightly affirmation tracks will too. If you feel comfortable enough to affirm in your end then do that as well.
Dear Daddy what if I dont check, but all the things that happened before checking happens to me these days, about my SP. I'm feeling good, and then boom my mind spiral. Sleeping with the affs didn't soothe me, because I can't sleep while listening to something.
Dylan you are honestly the kindest soul ever! Your daily quotes, posts and vids really keep us all right on our game. Takes practice and reptition to change yourself to have the life you deserve! Thank you
I was randomly triggered last night bc I haven’t heard from my SP over a few days & my mind started to spiral. I tried to distract my mind by reading; that didn’t work. I ended up resorting to the breath work, although it did help tremendously I still felt that underlying feeling of anxiety. I listened to my go-to meditation tape & felt completely better. Then I took that moment to address the issue & did some physical self care (made some tea, took a long hot shower with my favorite body wash & spent some time talking to my friends). Then I kept persisting & boom my SP messaged me. I think it’s important here to address your feelings head on, give yourself grace & work through it so you can get to the desired state. My new phrase is “persist with grace.”
I have almost completely mastered this new way of being and it is so freeing. I used to be an obsessive checker and constantly needed external validation from everything. Now I effortlessly can soothe myself and have no desire for external validation because I can create and give myself all the validation I need from within. THANK YOU !
@@muskangulati9230listen to the video he’s literally telling you. Change self concept listen to affirmations and breathwork during the day to keep your nervous system regulated, it’s also worked for me because I do it everyday consistently
Trust me guys, I was spiralling whole 7 days. I always had a huge urge to check what he is doing. Even today also. In the afternoon, I was crying like hell what to do in my life? How I m gonna change my beliefs? I m just tired of affirming for SP. Finally, I decided to follow the breathwork, sleeping with night time affirmation & obviously remind me how powerful I m. Thank you Dylan, my Godfather to help me. I m truly grateful to you. I m getting myself back on the floor. I m getting myself back. I m getting myself Fucking BACK as a QUEEN!
@@ThatArzzkGuy so far I think pretty good! I'm fully focused on myself and working on my self love. I do have faith that he will come in/contact when everything is in place. I have no anxiety or worries about it. Just an inner knowing and just being busy working on myself ☺️♥️
Oh my god, tarot is a big thing for me toooo. Thank you for this comment. I try not to watch at first but then end up looking for outside validation to confirm or make clear some SP situation I am anxious about. Some of the video titles seem so convincing so I click, trying to feel better. But to be honest it never really helped. I actually love my own tarot cards but reading while anxious is the incorrect way to use them...I'm going to be a lot more mindful from now on.
@@robertdenirhoe4919 samw with me..tarot cards literally cause trauma.. moreover the predictions just sink in our subconscious and we react like what they said
When I was a kid I remember daydreaming about things I want all the time so easily and effortlessly and then it went down hill very quickly from dreaming to the opposite because I had bad experiences, lots of bad experiences and identified myself with those experiences as if they mean something about me, but it just occurred to me as you change your self concept to a positive self concept it’s like you’re back to your normal self just like how it was as a child with no distortions or weird perceptions about yourself just creating from pure awareness of what you want, how it’s meant to be, as my self concept is changing I find myself naturally daydreaming about stuff I want just because it feels good
Think this work can be approached from many angles. There’s Kobe Bryant vid where he says he makes a contract with himself that’s non negotiable. That when limiting beliefs came through he was like ‘nope. We’re not doing this today’. I’ve started this (basically a self concept contract) and it’s amazing. The version of me that would tolerate my own bullshit of limitation. Doesn’t mean I don’t allow it to come up though this new version doesn’t identify with them anymore. It’s quite powerful I have found.
I would like to find where he said that. I am going to apply this to getting my home in order. Sometimes am like might just be not organized. Nope the new version is not accepting that! Thanks
@@eternalabundance39 I have also done shadow work which has helped me get to this point. I know there are people out there who ain’t for though it’s helped me tremendously and I’m a better person for it with or without my manifestation. Ultimately I feel this work is about creating the best version of you. That right there is the biggest win.
Hopefully this helps someone but, I’m the kind of person where if anyone (myself included) tells me that I shouldn’t do something, I get the urge to do it even more, so my trick is to just check and not assign any kind of moral value to it. Instead of ‘you checked = you’re insecure’ I started thinking of it like ‘you checked = you checked”. If you see checking as an inherently anxious or insecure behaviour, every time you check, you’ll reinforce to yourself that you’re an anxious and insecure person. But, if checking is just a behaviour you could engage in for a variety for reasons, sometimes you check just because you’re curious or even excited, and, in my case, I noticed that I started doing it a lot less because I no longer saw it an avenue to negatively reinforce myself. That said, it’s also good to just accept that if you’re checking because you’re anxious and insecure, then you’re anxious and insecure, and that’s okay. In general, I think accepting negative emotions and states as a natural part of the human experience and not as something representative of who you are as a person and how your life is and will be, helps with keeping them short and as an opportunity to show yourself empathy and kindness. In the same way vulnerability strengthens bonds between people, being vulnerable with yourself can be an excellent moment to strengthen your self-concept. I noticed that I only started manifesting things consistently the moment I accepted myself and my feeling state, *no matter what it was,* fully. For a lot of people, loving and accepting yourself only extends to the things you like about yourself and having a good self concept looks like always being confident, stable and secure. Ergo, if you have moments where you’re not confident, not stable, and really insecure, then you don’t have a good self concept because that’s not what people with good self-concepts experience. Insecure people have moments of confidence, and confident people have moments of insecurity, the sooner you accept yourself, the sooner you become a confident person with moments of insecurity and not the other way around. My most helpful advice is: instead of focusing on making sure you only manifest the things you want, focus on becoming the kind of person that can cope and deal with no matter what happens. It helps with the whole ‘does this manifestation business really work’ question. And affirm that you’re the kind of person where you always get what you want because it helps in a lot of tiny ways. And read Psycho-Cybernetics. Also, Dylan if you’re reading this: if you weren’t gay, I would definitely manifest you 🥺
Hey, I have a success story. I just got offered a job. I used the law of assumption. I just kept saying that I already had the job. When I had interviews I just told myself they already liked me. Got the offer today. Going to start soon!!!
I noticed how I engage into stalking behaviour when I know that I won't get this certain SP or feel "not good enough". But when I used to feel good enough and sure that I'll get this person, I wouldn't be doing all this checking stuff, looking at their pictures etc. I wouldn't even bother or care. And the "reward" is that I try to convince myself that I can get that SP or just that high feeling thinking they're so cool etc.
I literally just had the urge to check and told myself no i’m not being that version of myself anymore. Sat down and did breath work and affirmed some statements in and shifted out of it. Then boom this video. Oh how I love it here😂😍
This is something I could do easily! Even tho I miss my SP a lot I know checking her social media will trigger out of me I completely stopped checking for the sake of my feeling state
Dylan, I´ve spiraled down three days in a row. Binging in videos on how to "revert" this. "Be gentle to yourself, when this fades away, keep persisting". As I always say, you walk the talk. You are a true gem. Lots of love!
Unfortunately I checked today and made many assumptions that hurt my feelings a bit but it just caused me to realize that there is still work to do. I'm now choosing to completely drop the focus on what my person is doing and put all the focus on me again, I don't think I should care about who he's following or who's what he's doing or whether or not i'll be able to manifest him back or not, once I'm in a secure place with myself then i'll worry about all the other stuff
I was literally just crying and apologing to my body for causing it so much pain. Because it's in my chest...just like you said. Thank you for this and for being straight forward and informative with us....we need that!🥰
But don't we all do that, even with friends that we no longer have contact with? I know I do on FB. I'll think about them and check their FB or IG. I honestly don't even judge myself doing it bc I think it's normal. To say you'll never check puts alot of pressure on you. I say you're human and it's ok.
I almost never comment on any sort of videos but this time I just can't keep silent. I came across Dylan's channel literally 4 or 5 days ago very randomly and I'm completely shocked right now of the results that I got!! I have a special who I had manifested into my life about three month ago, he treated me like queen, making lots of compliments, sharing intimate thoughts, calling and texting all the time. However, with time I started feeling insecure again. As a result, my sp stopped being respectful, could literally ignore my texts for days. That made me so sad and mad at the same time. Then I binged watched Dylan's videos and realized that my sp has been literally mirroring all of my insecurities and old beliefs. All I did is I let myself realize how exhausting my thoughts about sp are and I just said to myself that I'm not fucking satisfied with that version of my sp, I deserve to be treated like a queen, I deserve respect and validation!! I kept quiet and focused on work, started learning a new language called my friend etc. I felt so relieved cuz I finally let my negative energy go and stopped being mad at him almost like it's not business, I simply radiated love towards him and myself. I woke up this morning with five eight message and five missed calls from him, he APOLOGIZED for being cold and treating me poorly. I'm amazed by how fast the manifestation worked but I also feel like I'm finally finding peace with myself. It's done, everyone!!! Circumstances are nothing. Thank you, Dylan, for giving a wake-up call ❤❤❤
the timing of this is insane😭😭 i was doing so good and exactly the checking and seeing something that triggered the absolute crap out of me happened this week. wow
Yes for sure!! That breathwork has been such a game changer for me. I can think logically hardly no triggers or even if I do get triggered I can handle it without reacting, it’s not intense. I just reinforce the new self concept if I’m triggered and do breathwork again, each time I do breathwork I feel so calm and relaxed like I just don’t give a shit about anything
Just do as he tell you. Don’t delete or block. Be positive change your mindset and have positive thoughts about life. The person is now changing me lol. Be cool and have a life ❤
I have so many big circumstances with my SP. Him being with another relationship with kids. Distance and health problems. I never want to give up on this thing that I really want. So I will keep holding on that circumstance no matter how big does NOT matter. And to you Dylan.. you are with me in this journey. You are the only person I need for the rest of my life always get me back on track. Thank you...
@@Mbeepyd I cut my connection to my Sp, there are other toxic traits,. However, I can say that I am in a better place now. I no longer want him and I am totally fine though there is always a part of me saying we will meet again someday. Keep focusing on self ❤️
You’re always reading my mind I SWEAR! Whenever I begin to question myself about a specific area in my self concept and manifesting, you come out with the perfect video about that topic! Love your videos and your energy sm 💕
Hi Dylan! This video explains the general-tarot-reading consumption loop. See a reading on your feed and/or thinking about the 3D in a negative way > search for a clitbaity title with your sun sign in it > you don't feel better or that you got answers > watch five more general readings > do something else simply cos there isn't any time left to watch more readings > rinse > repeat
I honestly don't think you give yourself enough credit or gratitude for how many people you help save themselves I am eternally gratefull to you Dylan! Love 🙏💜
i just had a massive urge to check this mans socials, even tho i knew it wouldnt make me feel any better. so glad i put on this video instead 🙌🙌🙌 keeping the focus on me from now on and only lightly persisting whenever he comes to mind organically
Love your content so much! The mindset Talk you speak about is extememly important because sometimes people just simply fell out of confidence state. I am one of them. I also realize the childhood trauma contribute a lot to not feeling confident, not feeling worthy, not feeling loved etc, these feelings stayed in our body and cycling for years and years. I did a lot of wound healing and body grounding work to get my body and mind align... Once body and mind are more aligned, then it's so much easier to be confident and be able to "don't give a fxck" of the 3D reality. Thank you so much for your sharing. It helps so much! Love it!
I'm not having any issues with my SP but I feel very insecure about my manifesting ability in general. I misplaced my earrings and they're very valuable to me so I'm manifesting receiving them but I find myself checking for them in the 3D and doubting myself. This video really came at the best time. I'm going to keep persisting and doing my best to not give attention to any triggers or bad thoughts/feelings :)
Meditation - although it's a longer term thing - is really helpful. It helps one to be an observer instead of getting drawn into things automatically as much. Also walks for me which is what I ended up doing yesterday.
@@starofstars1 Just sit for 15 or 20 minutes a day, preferably in the morning, and focus on one thing. I currently focus on a sound, but in the past I've focused on my breathing as in my stomach rising and falling. And honestly, I don't do it very well. I don't worry about correct posture, although that's good if you can do it. For me it's more important to keep with it consistently as in every day.
This is also good to do even when you are in relationship. Being able to be your own unique person on your own so that you can be a better partner. I tend to ‘check’ On him too much and stress myself out 😅 so this still does help even when you are together
Its my first time writing a comment under Dylan’s video, just felt like sharing my story. Hope it will be helpful (since I read comments of other people and it helps me too). Ive been listening to Dylan’s videos for almost 6 months, he’s been a huge help to improve my self concept 🥺❤️ and since then I was offered a job of a managing director of local PR agency and I recently started to have a relationship. But I can be easily triggered by any circumstance so Im having hard time sustaining this relationship, since I feel like my bf is not that serious about me, as I would like him to be. He is not paying that much attention to me and I always find myself asking for attention and being sad. But by writing this comment I promise to myself and to you guys, that Im not going to be that version of myself anymore and I will make this relationship to be serious and be long term. I get what I want! Wish me luck! If you’re reading this, let me know, if you are interested in my process, it will give me even more motivation ❤️
Yup! Me! Thats me 😟. Its like an addiction. I need to change my mindset, i need more positive, more living in the end. 3D is in the past…so checking on the 3D is pointless.
Just got left by a girl I wanted to grow old with a week ago and this video came at such a convenient time lol, I have been living from the end most of my day just knowing my 3D will change to reflect us back together along with a fairly healthy mental-diet which I would say if I had to put numbers on it, 80-85% clean and I have just been focusing on dissolving the last few remaining doubts I have and literally before clicking this vid and seeing it, I was telling myself I have to stop checking to see if she unfollowed me or if she posted something like a creeper haha I know if I continue then she will unfollow and I understand I have to not even give meaning to that fear and work it out which I feel I will. But man this was a neat coincidence as I was telling myself doing this isn't serving me and in turn is a state I shouldn't be in so luckily I see this and work to get back to my regular dwelling state where I know it's coming because it's done internally it's just the checking which is new to me so thanks for the video and I'll find my way like I always do lol much love.
It’s so nice to hear that you’re very aware by all the actions so early on! You’ve got this - persist! I’ve been checking for so long now so I empathise, and it’s been harder to change that but nothing is impossible. It’s amazing how fast I’m now able to catch my triggers and stop myself from doing it now
Amazing! I got addicted to dating app which I don’t use rather than looking at pictures, always disappointed , the truth is I m not sure I’m really eager to meet any of them. Yesterday I thought no more picking and it feels good. Thank you! You are so right. Love you! Good luck to you- the reader💕
I started watching Dylans videos in November. After a month of the teachings, my SP unblocked me on fb after being blocked for 9 months. I didn't reach out to him and pretended like I didn't notice and kept loving on myself. Yesterday I commented on a mutual friends fb post and my comment triggered him I guess even tho the comment wasn't to him or had anything to do with him and he blocked me again. I have to say I'm hurt and confused bc I was doing so good and have been so happy these past few months only to be back at square 1 now.
Hi Dylan, I found your channel last year May. Only 10 days ago, I understand fully how to stop my negative thinking. Sometimes when I am triggered, I try my best to ignore it. It has been day 10 I am sleeping on self concept manifestation. One day, I will come back to you with my success story with my SP. I also wants to let you know, though I am doing this for my sp but other areas of my life has been improving. I can see so many good things are happening for my children and I. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am very grateful to you ❤ 🙏
@@Priya-mk4ok how do you keep you focused on yourself? if that make sense. I know Dylan talks about breath work and all of that but I’m having a hard time getting my SP out of my head even when I’m meditating or trying my best to focus on myself doing the breath work and staying my affirmations he still pops up in my mind
@@Priya-mk4ok that’s really amazing though I’m so glad this worked for you! 😍 gives me hope. I know in my heart that me and my SP will be back together soon. We talk on the phone a lot like earlier we were on FaceTime for almost 2 hours. I know that he loves talking to me and being around me I just want to be able to focus on myself more though without him popping up in my head
OMG ...No Coincidence...I Decided to Not Check My Sp Social Media..The Universe is Forcing us Both to Focus on Ourselves. Since I Create My Reality..This Relationship has become "The Catalyst to Change"..So I Can Reflect What I Want ..More of a Rendezvous as oppose to a Loop or Deja Vu. I Will Work on my Inner Conversation, Beliefs and Trust The Universe is Bringing Me to My Desire ..What I Want..Wants Me.
So grateful for you and your videos💟 I’ve did a prayer last night, really needing guidance, because I felt so desperate and anxious.. and now this video shows up! Thanks so much.. this made perfect sense. It’s exactly how I felt. I felt fine one minute, and then these thoughts randomly ruined everything 🤣 .. but now I finally have some guidance and already feel so much more relaxed with my mind 💙
Tell me why my brother randomly texted me that he saw me marrying my sp. he knew nothing about her or even what she looks like lmao… manifestation is REAL guys believe
Lately I have been super angry and felt like my sp just doesn't care. Its frustrating because i cant shake the ickiness. I'm trying like hell to just focus on myself and while things are WAY better than they were - I am struggling. Big time.
I'm not checking but 3P tagged him in something that triggered me almost to the point of unfriending him. Taking a break from social media because I know that circumstances don't matter and everything works out in my favor.
My sp blocked me on fb again even tho we were in no contact and past 3 days I don't care to log onto my fake account to see what he's doing. I tell myself he's paused when he's not in my life, so he's not doing anything. Like a paused video game character. Seems to be working pretty well.
I realise that I no longer do that anymore. Well it is a good thing my SP does not have social media except whatsapp. But I remember checking when it was his last seen in the past. These days when I happen to have that small urge, I just tell myself, "We don't do this anymore." =D Oh and I have been listening to Limitless Love affirmations every night.
He left me to go travel the world and live the life of his dreams, he didn’t want me to come along. It’s so hard not to look he posts at least 6 times a day I wish I had an ex who didn’t use social media
I would love to get someone's insight/advice on this: Basically, I have completely changed my self concept in love, and I LOVE it. I am getting any guy I want and they are madly falling in love with me and treating me like the queen I am. ❤️ Yay! Finally. The only thing I still haven't nailed is getting old lovers to come back to me. In the past, old lovers would leave me for a 3rd party. I thought I was on the right track to improve this because I've made a lot of progress with feeling like a queen and like I have no competition and no 3rd party bothers me. Internally, I feel like I have made a genuine shift from the self concept that another girl could outshine me, but the part I am stuck on is the self concept of old lovers actually coming back. Of them reaching out and telling me they miss me. Any advice on working on what I need to amp up here? I wonder if it's because I'm not clear on what I want. I want them to come running back but I don't want to actually take them back 😂
Exactly the video for me at the moment, each time your videos match perfectly with the things I am triggered with, it’s like you’re reading in my mind, thank you ❤️
I've actually been doing really good the past few days, a few wobbles but mostly stable. Today was actually amazing, but when I got home my dad gave me the news that my aunt just passed away
My sp doesn’t have any social media but I always drive past his house and my mind works in crazy ways bc when I don’t see his car there is triggers me for some reason. I’m putting a stop to this
Link to Breath-work:
ua-cam.com/video/0BNejY1e9ik/v-deo.html
Bonus tip: if you can identify what got triggered, IE not trusting or feeling confident, then once you’re done with breathwork if you can affirm in, on a loop, a few beliefs that address the triggered doubt, for 5-10 minutes, then this will help you create the change even quicker. If you can’t identify it, no worries. The breathwork will help a lot and nightly affirmation tracks will too. If you feel comfortable enough to affirm in your end then do that as well.
thank you so much dylan
Thank you!!! I was searching for this
Dear Daddy what if I dont check, but all the things that happened before checking happens to me these days, about my SP. I'm feeling good, and then boom my mind spiral. Sleeping with the affs didn't soothe me, because I can't sleep while listening to something.
Thank you so much, I've done breathwork, but never when I want to check socials, my last option was smashing my phone against the wall😂😂
Dylan you are honestly the kindest soul ever! Your daily quotes, posts and vids really keep us all right on our game. Takes practice and reptition to change yourself to have the life you deserve! Thank you
i swear i would've moved on years ago if i stopped checking his socials. it has become an addiction to me
Same with i can't stop myself from doing that and it's hurting me and I'm wasting my time on this 😑😑
I was randomly triggered last night bc I haven’t heard from my SP over a few days & my mind started to spiral. I tried to distract my mind by reading; that didn’t work. I ended up resorting to the breath work, although it did help tremendously I still felt that underlying feeling of anxiety. I listened to my go-to meditation tape & felt completely better. Then I took that moment to address the issue & did some physical self care (made some tea, took a long hot shower with my favorite body wash & spent some time talking to my friends). Then I kept persisting & boom my SP messaged me. I think it’s important here to address your feelings head on, give yourself grace & work through it so you can get to the desired state. My new phrase is “persist with grace.”
what were your affirmations
@@minglii5412 “what I want, wants me”. “It’s easy to attract my desires.” “I’m worthy of everything that I desire.”
@@starofstars1 ua-cam.com/video/4EaMJOo1jks/v-deo.html
Can I ask how long had passed before they messaged you?
@@jessicawolf777 about 30 mins later.
I have almost completely mastered this new way of being and it is so freeing. I used to be an obsessive checker and constantly needed external validation from everything. Now I effortlessly can soothe myself and have no desire for external validation because I can create and give myself all the validation I need from within. THANK YOU !
Please give some tips how to do this
@@muskangulati9230what Dylan said
How did you do it?
@@muskangulati9230listen to the video he’s literally telling you. Change self concept listen to affirmations and breathwork during the day to keep your nervous system regulated, it’s also worked for me because I do it everyday consistently
I'm laughing so hard right now. Literally I was just "checking" right before I opened up UA-cam and saw this video! Thank you!
Me too 😌
Omg hahhaa same I love how so many of us can relate
Same. 🤦♀️
UPS haha
Damn. It just occurred to me that we are all deeply traumatized.
It's sad
Trust me guys, I was spiralling whole 7 days. I always had a huge urge to check what he is doing. Even today also. In the afternoon, I was crying like hell what to do in my life? How I m gonna change my beliefs? I m just tired of affirming for SP. Finally, I decided to follow the breathwork, sleeping with night time affirmation & obviously remind me how powerful I m. Thank you Dylan, my Godfather to help me. I m truly grateful to you. I m getting myself back on the floor. I m getting myself back. I m getting myself Fucking BACK as a QUEEN!
I dropped my SP completely atm. Just don't care anymore 🤷 Too many triggers too much anxiety. I NEED to focus on myself completely. ♥️
Hows that goingv
@@ThatArzzkGuy so far I think pretty good! I'm fully focused on myself and working on my self love. I do have faith that he will come in/contact when everything is in place. I have no anxiety or worries about it. Just an inner knowing and just being busy working on myself ☺️♥️
@@Dean_Winchester86 Hey any update on your SP??
@Aliscs don't ask for updates...you are second guessing
How’s it going with everything so far?
Yes checking and watching tarot card readings, a disaster, it stops today, thank you Dylan 👍🏾
Stop the tarot! I used to obsess over tarot vids. Stopped watching and life is so much better.
Oh my god, tarot is a big thing for me toooo. Thank you for this comment. I try not to watch at first but then end up looking for outside validation to confirm or make clear some SP situation I am anxious about. Some of the video titles seem so convincing so I click, trying to feel better. But to be honest it never really helped. I actually love my own tarot cards but reading while anxious is the incorrect way to use them...I'm going to be a lot more mindful from now on.
@@robertdenirhoe4919 samw with me..tarot cards literally cause trauma.. moreover the predictions just sink in our subconscious and we react like what they said
The only thing I check is to see if Dylan posted lol
When I was a kid I remember daydreaming about things I want all the time so easily and effortlessly and then it went down hill very quickly from dreaming to the opposite because I had bad experiences, lots of bad experiences and identified myself with those experiences as if they mean something about me, but it just occurred to me as you change your self concept to a positive self concept it’s like you’re back to your normal self just like how it was as a child with no distortions or weird perceptions about yourself just creating from pure awareness of what you want, how it’s meant to be, as my self concept is changing I find myself naturally daydreaming about stuff I want just because it feels good
Think this work can be approached from many angles. There’s Kobe Bryant vid where he says he makes a contract with himself that’s non negotiable. That when limiting beliefs came through he was like ‘nope. We’re not doing this today’. I’ve started this (basically a self concept contract) and it’s amazing. The version of me that would tolerate my own bullshit of limitation. Doesn’t mean I don’t allow it to come up though this new version doesn’t identify with them anymore. It’s quite powerful I have found.
I would like to find where he said that. I am going to apply this to getting my home in order. Sometimes am like might just be not organized. Nope the new version is not accepting that! Thanks
@@eternalabundance39 I have also done shadow work which has helped me get to this point. I know there are people out there who ain’t for though it’s helped me tremendously and I’m a better person for it with or without my manifestation. Ultimately I feel this work is about creating the best version of you. That right there is the biggest win.
@@Noob-ee2cy cool
Yes I do this I say fuck you old concept o self don’t let it settle in. Affirm I am worthy etc 💪
I always say this to my self . ," We don't do that anymore" or we are not going there anymore " or *we already have it don't you remember"
Hopefully this helps someone but, I’m the kind of person where if anyone (myself included) tells me that I shouldn’t do something, I get the urge to do it even more, so my trick is to just check and not assign any kind of moral value to it. Instead of ‘you checked = you’re insecure’ I started thinking of it like ‘you checked = you checked”. If you see checking as an inherently anxious or insecure behaviour, every time you check, you’ll reinforce to yourself that you’re an anxious and insecure person. But, if checking is just a behaviour you could engage in for a variety for reasons, sometimes you check just because you’re curious or even excited, and, in my case, I noticed that I started doing it a lot less because I no longer saw it an avenue to negatively reinforce myself. That said, it’s also good to just accept that if you’re checking because you’re anxious and insecure, then you’re anxious and insecure, and that’s okay. In general, I think accepting negative emotions and states as a natural part of the human experience and not as something representative of who you are as a person and how your life is and will be, helps with keeping them short and as an opportunity to show yourself empathy and kindness. In the same way vulnerability strengthens bonds between people, being vulnerable with yourself can be an excellent moment to strengthen your self-concept. I noticed that I only started manifesting things consistently the moment I accepted myself and my feeling state, *no matter what it was,* fully. For a lot of people, loving and accepting yourself only extends to the things you like about yourself and having a good self concept looks like always being confident, stable and secure. Ergo, if you have moments where you’re not confident, not stable, and really insecure, then you don’t have a good self concept because that’s not what people with good self-concepts experience. Insecure people have moments of confidence, and confident people have moments of insecurity, the sooner you accept yourself, the sooner you become a confident person with moments of insecurity and not the other way around.
My most helpful advice is: instead of focusing on making sure you only manifest the things you want, focus on becoming the kind of person that can cope and deal with no matter what happens. It helps with the whole ‘does this manifestation business really work’ question. And affirm that you’re the kind of person where you always get what you want because it helps in a lot of tiny ways. And read Psycho-Cybernetics.
Also, Dylan if you’re reading this: if you weren’t gay, I would definitely manifest you 🥺
Hey, I have a success story. I just got offered a job. I used the law of assumption. I just kept saying that I already had the job. When I had interviews I just told myself they already liked me. Got the offer today. Going to start soon!!!
Yayyyy good luck with your new job!!
I noticed how I engage into stalking behaviour when I know that I won't get this certain SP or feel "not good enough". But when I used to feel good enough and sure that I'll get this person, I wouldn't be doing all this checking stuff, looking at their pictures etc. I wouldn't even bother or care.
And the "reward" is that I try to convince myself that I can get that SP or just that high feeling thinking they're so cool etc.
I literally just had the urge to check and told myself no i’m not being that version of myself anymore. Sat down and did breath work and affirmed some statements in and shifted out of it. Then boom this video. Oh how I love it here😂😍
Me too...... verbatim...... wow!
Wow nice you got a practice for it.
This is so amazing, I still give in to my urges sometimes 😅
This is something I could do easily! Even tho I miss my SP a lot I know checking her social media will trigger out of me I completely stopped checking for the sake of my feeling state
How are you? Update ?
@@latishaa6822 We are back in contact now and she admitted she missed me!
@@julialee690 should I text him first? I honestly miss him and I have positive vibes abt it 🥰
@@latishaa6822 as long as you are stable, I think you can reach out first
@@julialee690 I jus sent the text and I feel really good abt it! No matter the outcome I’ll be ok 😂🥰❤️
Dylan, I´ve spiraled down three days in a row. Binging in videos on how to "revert" this. "Be gentle to yourself, when this fades away, keep persisting". As I always say, you walk the talk. You are a true gem. Lots of love!
Unfortunately I checked today and made many assumptions that hurt my feelings a bit but it just caused me to realize that there is still work to do. I'm now choosing to completely drop the focus on what my person is doing and put all the focus on me again, I don't think I should care about who he's following or who's what he's doing or whether or not i'll be able to manifest him back or not, once I'm in a secure place with myself then i'll worry about all the other stuff
I was literally just crying and apologing to my body for causing it so much pain. Because it's in my chest...just like you said. Thank you for this and for being straight forward and informative with us....we need that!🥰
The fact I just started checking randomly….
Thank you so much for all of this! It helps when I feel like I’m getting that push-pull!
But don't we all do that, even with friends that we no longer have contact with? I know I do on FB. I'll think about them and check their FB or IG. I honestly don't even judge myself doing it bc I think it's normal. To say you'll never check puts alot of pressure on you. I say you're human and it's ok.
I almost never comment on any sort of videos but this time I just can't keep silent. I came across Dylan's channel literally 4 or 5 days ago very randomly and I'm completely shocked right now of the results that I got!! I have a special who I had manifested into my life about three month ago, he treated me like queen, making lots of compliments, sharing intimate thoughts, calling and texting all the time. However, with time I started feeling insecure again. As a result, my sp stopped being respectful, could literally ignore my texts for days. That made me so sad and mad at the same time. Then I binged watched Dylan's videos and realized that my sp has been literally mirroring all of my insecurities and old beliefs. All I did is I let myself realize how exhausting my thoughts about sp are and I just said to myself that I'm not fucking satisfied with that version of my sp, I deserve to be treated like a queen, I deserve respect and validation!! I kept quiet and focused on work, started learning a new language called my friend etc. I felt so relieved cuz I finally let my negative energy go and stopped being mad at him almost like it's not business, I simply radiated love towards him and myself. I woke up this morning with five eight message and five missed calls from him, he APOLOGIZED for being cold and treating me poorly. I'm amazed by how fast the manifestation worked but I also feel like I'm finally finding peace with myself. It's done, everyone!!! Circumstances are nothing. Thank you, Dylan, for giving a wake-up call ❤❤❤
I swear you’re in my head. Always right on time. Thanks for the forever encouraging videos. ❤️❤️❤️
Same!!!
Cue --- Craving--- Routine---- Reward
James clear in atomic habits
the timing of this is insane😭😭 i was doing so good and exactly the checking and seeing something that triggered the absolute crap out of me happened this week. wow
He’s right, you know. Practice makes perfect. I was a hot mess. Scouts honor. Breath work works.
I took myself to the spa today because I love myself. I feel amazing 🤩 thank you for what you do ❤️
Yes for sure!! That breathwork has been such a game changer for me. I can think logically hardly no triggers or even if I do get triggered I can handle it without reacting, it’s not intense. I just reinforce the new self concept if I’m triggered and do breathwork again, each time I do breathwork I feel so calm and relaxed like I just don’t give a shit about anything
Just do as he tell you. Don’t delete or block. Be positive change your mindset and have positive thoughts about life. The person is now changing me lol. Be cool and have a life ❤
I have so many big circumstances with my SP. Him being with another relationship with kids. Distance and health problems. I never want to give up on this thing that I really want. So I will keep holding on that circumstance no matter how big does NOT matter. And to you Dylan.. you are with me in this journey. You are the only person I need for the rest of my life always get me back on track. Thank you...
How did things go?
@@Mbeepyd I cut my connection to my Sp, there are other toxic traits,. However, I can say that I am in a better place now. I no longer want him and I am totally fine though there is always a part of me saying we will meet again someday. Keep focusing on self ❤️
You’re always reading my mind I SWEAR! Whenever I begin to question myself about a specific area in my self concept and manifesting, you come out with the perfect video about that topic! Love your videos and your energy sm 💕
Hi Dylan! This video explains the general-tarot-reading consumption loop. See a reading on your feed and/or thinking about the 3D in a negative way > search for a clitbaity title with your sun sign in it > you don't feel better or that you got answers > watch five more general readings > do something else simply cos there isn't any time left to watch more readings > rinse > repeat
I honestly don't think you give yourself enough credit or gratitude for how many people you help save themselves I am eternally gratefull to you Dylan! Love 🙏💜
My mind & body are resisting so much, it's hectic! But not going to give up & I'll be patient. I'm going to try for as long as it takes!
i just had a massive urge to check this mans socials, even tho i knew it wouldnt make me feel any better. so glad i put on this video instead 🙌🙌🙌 keeping the focus on me from now on and only lightly persisting whenever he comes to mind organically
this man has a gift
Just what I needed, thank you Dylan.... I'm so tired of one of my age old habit loops... it's gonna belong to the past this year.
Dylan my life is changing so beautifully and swiftly, I thank God for you
Love your content so much! The mindset Talk you speak about is extememly important because sometimes people just simply fell out of confidence state. I am one of them. I also realize the childhood trauma contribute a lot to not feeling confident, not feeling worthy, not feeling loved etc, these feelings stayed in our body and cycling for years and years. I did a lot of wound healing and body grounding work to get my body and mind align... Once body and mind are more aligned, then it's so much easier to be confident and be able to "don't give a fxck" of the 3D reality. Thank you so much for your sharing. It helps so much! Love it!
I'm not having any issues with my SP but I feel very insecure about my manifesting ability in general. I misplaced my earrings and they're very valuable to me so I'm manifesting receiving them but I find myself checking for them in the 3D and doubting myself. This video really came at the best time. I'm going to keep persisting and doing my best to not give attention to any triggers or bad thoughts/feelings :)
Meditation - although it's a longer term thing - is really helpful. It helps one to be an observer instead of getting drawn into things automatically as much. Also walks for me which is what I ended up doing yesterday.
@@starofstars1 Just sit for 15 or 20 minutes a day, preferably in the morning, and focus on one thing. I currently focus on a sound, but in the past I've focused on my breathing as in my stomach rising and falling. And honestly, I don't do it very well. I don't worry about correct posture, although that's good if you can do it. For me it's more important to keep with it consistently as in every day.
Watching ur videos is literally my favorite part of the day
This is also good to do even when you are in relationship. Being able to be your own unique person on your own so that you can be a better partner. I tend to ‘check’ On him too much and stress myself out 😅 so this still does help even when you are together
Its my first time writing a comment under Dylan’s video, just felt like sharing my story. Hope it will be helpful (since I read comments of other people and it helps me too).
Ive been listening to Dylan’s videos for almost 6 months, he’s been a huge help to improve my self concept 🥺❤️
and since then I was offered a job of a managing director of local PR agency and I recently started to have a relationship.
But I can be easily triggered by any circumstance so Im having hard time sustaining this relationship, since I feel like my bf is not that serious about me, as I would like him to be. He is not paying that much attention to me and I always find myself asking for attention and being sad.
But by writing this comment I promise to myself and to you guys, that Im not going to be that version of myself anymore and I will make this relationship to be serious and be long term. I get what I want!
Wish me luck!
If you’re reading this, let me know, if you are interested in my process, it will give me even more motivation ❤️
I am! Keep going!
How’s it going??
How are things now?
How's it going? Update please ❤
Finally a really helpful video on ignoring the 3d
Thank you soooo much Dylan and to whoever commented. Have been struggling with this! I want change and freedom!!
Yup! Me! Thats me 😟. Its like an addiction. I need to change my mindset, i need more positive, more living in the end. 3D is in the past…so checking on the 3D is pointless.
It actually is an addiction : ) habit loops form as addiction coping mechanisms
Omg how did you show up at the perfect moment. That’s what I’ve been doing all day. Checking…. I needed to hear this. Thank you! 🙏
The description you gave at the beginning was SO IDENTIC to what I am feeling rn, impressing❤️.
Thank you, for everything you do.
I feel attacked by this exact description of my behavior
Checking and worrying = not knowing, feeling stable and secure
Just got left by a girl I wanted to grow old with a week ago and this video came at such a convenient time lol, I have been living from the end most of my day just knowing my 3D will change to reflect us back together along with a fairly healthy mental-diet which I would say if I had to put numbers on it, 80-85% clean and I have just been focusing on dissolving the last few remaining doubts I have and literally before clicking this vid and seeing it, I was telling myself I have to stop checking to see if she unfollowed me or if she posted something like a creeper haha I know if I continue then she will unfollow and I understand I have to not even give meaning to that fear and work it out which I feel I will.
But man this was a neat coincidence as I was telling myself doing this isn't serving me and in turn is a state I shouldn't be in so luckily I see this and work to get back to my regular dwelling state where I know it's coming because it's done internally it's just the checking which is new to me so thanks for the video and I'll find my way like I always do lol much love.
This was not a coincidence!! They do not exist. 🤗
It’s so nice to hear that you’re very aware by all the actions so early on! You’ve got this - persist! I’ve been checking for so long now so I empathise, and it’s been harder to change that but nothing is impossible. It’s amazing how fast I’m now able to catch my triggers and stop myself from doing it now
Your name is a sign for me. Thank you 😊
You got this it wi work out in your favour
Amazing! I got addicted to dating app which I don’t use rather than looking at pictures, always disappointed , the truth is I m not sure I’m really eager to meet any of them. Yesterday I thought no more picking and it feels good. Thank you! You are so right. Love you! Good luck to you- the reader💕
I started watching Dylans videos in November. After a month of the teachings, my SP unblocked me on fb after being blocked for 9 months. I didn't reach out to him and pretended like I didn't notice and kept loving on myself. Yesterday I commented on a mutual friends fb post and my comment triggered him I guess even tho the comment wasn't to him or had anything to do with him and he blocked me again. I have to say I'm hurt and confused bc I was doing so good and have been so happy these past few months only to be back at square 1 now.
Hi Dylan, I found your channel last year May. Only 10 days ago, I understand fully how to stop my negative thinking. Sometimes when I am triggered, I try my best to ignore it. It has been day 10 I am sleeping on self concept manifestation. One day, I will come back to you with my success story with my SP. I also wants to let you know, though I am doing this for my sp but other areas of my life has been improving. I can see so many good things are happening for my children and I. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am very grateful to you ❤ 🙏
How’s it going?
@@gabrielleards3398 we are back together. He is all over me now. The secret is I didn't give a fuck. I was busy with my life and looking after myself.
@@Priya-mk4ok how do you keep you focused on yourself? if that make sense. I know Dylan talks about breath work and all of that but I’m having a hard time getting my SP out of my head even when I’m meditating or trying my best to focus on myself doing the breath work and staying my affirmations he still pops up in my mind
@@Priya-mk4ok that’s really amazing though I’m so glad this worked for you! 😍 gives me hope. I know in my heart that me and my SP will be back together soon. We talk on the phone a lot like earlier we were on FaceTime for almost 2 hours. I know that he loves talking to me and being around me I just want to be able to focus on myself more though without him popping up in my head
Omg this is so good! Just what I needed!
OMG ...No Coincidence...I Decided to Not Check My Sp Social Media..The Universe is Forcing us Both to Focus on Ourselves. Since I Create My Reality..This Relationship has become "The Catalyst to Change"..So I Can Reflect What I Want ..More of a Rendezvous as oppose to a Loop or Deja Vu. I Will Work on my Inner Conversation, Beliefs and Trust The Universe is Bringing Me to My Desire ..What I Want..Wants Me.
Whenever daddy suggests something we start applying 🥰🥰🥰
This is so important and has helped me understand why I got addicted to doing it
Trusting knowing yourself, holding a vision allowing That to happen you always Know What to do and say
I been checking 😣 i needed to hear this.
So grateful for you and your videos💟 I’ve did a prayer last night, really needing guidance, because I felt so desperate and anxious.. and now this video shows up! Thanks so much.. this made perfect sense. It’s exactly how I felt. I felt fine one minute, and then these thoughts randomly ruined everything 🤣 .. but now I finally have some guidance and already feel so much more relaxed with my mind 💙
Title was calling me out💀
Im going to use this on my wieght loss journey!
Needed this! Thank you Daddyyyyy 😆
Tell me why my brother randomly texted me that he saw me marrying my sp. he knew nothing about her or even what she looks like lmao… manifestation is REAL guys believe
Yes!!! I love when others confirm!
Thanks Dylan for the pep-talk, I really needed to hear this 💛
Always perfect timing. Thanks, Dylan!
This was the exact video I needed right now. Thanks so much Dylan!
Lately I have been super angry and felt like my sp just doesn't care. Its frustrating because i cant shake the ickiness. I'm trying like hell to just focus on myself and while things are WAY better than they were - I am struggling. Big time.
Im with you
I'm not checking but 3P tagged him in something that triggered me almost to the point of unfriending him. Taking a break from social media because I know that circumstances don't matter and everything works out in my favor.
Thank you Dylan ❤️❤️❤️❤️!!! Love you!!!
My sp blocked me on fb again even tho we were in no contact and past 3 days I don't care to log onto my fake account to see what he's doing. I tell myself he's paused when he's not in my life, so he's not doing anything. Like a paused video game character. Seems to be working pretty well.
Thank you for the video! I was just checking randomly rn and then saw this video
i am eternally grateful for you ♥️
Thank you so much for loving us to continue to provide us with content that’s educates us. BFF 💙
5:00 checking = what is your reward?
Love you Dylan everyone should do the WIM HOF method plz just do it people type it up
I realise that I no longer do that anymore. Well it is a good thing my SP does not have social media except whatsapp. But I remember checking when it was his last seen in the past. These days when I happen to have that small urge, I just tell myself, "We don't do this anymore." =D Oh and I have been listening to Limitless Love affirmations every night.
Update?
The video I never knew I needed.
Thank you so so soooooo much Dylan!!
He left me to go travel the world and live the life of his dreams, he didn’t want me to come along. It’s so hard not to look he posts at least 6 times a day I wish I had an ex who didn’t use social media
I would love to get someone's insight/advice on this:
Basically, I have completely changed my self concept in love, and I LOVE it. I am getting any guy I want and they are madly falling in love with me and treating me like the queen I am. ❤️ Yay! Finally.
The only thing I still haven't nailed is getting old lovers to come back to me. In the past, old lovers would leave me for a 3rd party. I thought I was on the right track to improve this because I've made a lot of progress with feeling like a queen and like I have no competition and no 3rd party bothers me. Internally, I feel like I have made a genuine shift from the self concept that another girl could outshine me, but the part I am stuck on is the self concept of old lovers actually coming back. Of them reaching out and telling me they miss me.
Any advice on working on what I need to amp up here? I wonder if it's because I'm not clear on what I want. I want them to come running back but I don't want to actually take them back 😂
Same I had to delete tero video from my phone because I became so obsessed with checking those videos for validation
Exactly the video for me at the moment, each time your videos match perfectly with the things I am triggered with, it’s like you’re reading in my mind, thank you ❤️
This video was 💯 right on time.
This is so good thanks coach ❤
u made this video specifically for me im convinced lolol
Hello Dylan. Thank you for sharing your insights and amazing healing gifts. 🙏🏼❤️
Needed this today , I’m triggered easily and I’m working hard on self concept.
Absolute game changer. Thank you Dylan ❤️✨
you said "hello cuties" and I was like "hello daddy!" lmao
Dylan can you make a video for academic success step by step ty :")
I've actually been doing really good the past few days, a few wobbles but mostly stable. Today was actually amazing, but when I got home my dad gave me the news that my aunt just passed away
Pearls of wisdom 🌸
My sp doesn’t have any social media but I always drive past his house and my mind works in crazy ways bc when I don’t see his car there is triggers me for some reason. I’m putting a stop to this
Ok this explains so much! So glad I found you!!! You’re freaking amazing!
Thanks Dylan ☺️....this one saved me....it really helped me a lot ...very beautifully explained...thanks again for the valuable insight 💗
Good nite daddy! Thanks for tucking us cuties in all snug and cozy 😂💓
Thank you this was so needed for me 🧡