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Sex After SCI (Spinal Cord Injury) | Can You Get an Erection?!

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  • Опубліковано 7 лип 2020
  • Sex after SCI
    There's so much more to being paralyzed than not being able to walk! One of the worst side effects that men with spinal cord injury face is with having sex. The main issue men with spinal cord injuries face when it comes to having sex is erectile dysfunction. In this video we discuss how it is possible for men with a spinal cord injury to have sex, and measures they can take to help with erectile dysfunction and positioning.
    This is part 4 of our "Spinal Cord Injury - The Awkard Stuff" Series, watch the rest of the series here:
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 114

  • @brenreidy8763
    @brenreidy8763 Рік тому +19

    The amount of admiration and respect I have for you two is off the charts. I need not explain why.

  • @LA-86
    @LA-86 8 місяців тому +10

    It is admirable when people are willing to share their experience

  • @johnavery5586
    @johnavery5586 Рік тому +12

    Hello and great to see you both combating these issues together, I had my MVA in 1980 leaving me a T6 Incomplete break, I was 18 at the time. With little to no information on sex and or intimacy in general we were largely left to blunder through life, affecting males and females alike. I have since experimented with all manner of sexual matters, medication, positions, communities, and life coaching with Tantric Sex. But still, I find the dating game is littered with stereotypes and bigotry based on misconceptions. So thank you both for your effort to enlighten both people with disabilities and the wider population.

  • @aarondaniel9022
    @aarondaniel9022 5 місяців тому +4

    I've been a paraplegic for 23 years now and paralyzed from nipples down. And yes there is still sex life after the injury. True I can't feel below my injury level but, she can. And that makes up for my loss, to know I can still preform the best way I can.

  • @CarlThompsonIsCool
    @CarlThompsonIsCool 4 роки тому +22

    Great video! Thanks for being so open to educate others! I recently started a channel with my girlfriend (I use a wheelchair, she walks), we're hoping to be able to share the realities of interabled relationships and reduce the stigma around disability 😊

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  4 роки тому +3

      Glad you enjoyed it! It's not the easiest topic to talk about but it is important. We've had a look at your channel and are looking forward to seeing more from you, good luck! 😀

    • @vishnudaspute5326
      @vishnudaspute5326 Рік тому +1

      @@PARALIFE you guys are doing a very good job, taking very much efforts for our SCI community. Your all the videos are being realy very helpful.
      Is the Vaccurect pump useful for us . Have u ever tried to use. I purchased it but irection dosent stay for enjoying the sex. Is that injection Ok to have sex.

  • @Zee-ob1pe
    @Zee-ob1pe 3 роки тому +9

    I’m glad you are an open couple about your sexual life. You made this an educational video. I remember seeing another interabled couple and they were angry at commenters for asking questions related to their sex life (Sabia and Loren). The human mind is curious. Some people don’t mean to be rude.

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +3

      It's not the easiest thing to discuss in public, but these things are important and hard to get your head around after a SCI. Hopefully these videos will help some people 😀

  • @fanofthedog
    @fanofthedog 10 місяців тому +2

    Excellent job teaching this topic in such an easy to understand video

  • @mikehughes2668
    @mikehughes2668 4 роки тому +17

    Guys that was a really good video, questions I have wondered over the passed three months so thanks for being so open about it. So many different aspects to sex and intimacy is so important. Learning so much from you both, keep the videos coming. Thanks.

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  4 роки тому

      Thanks for the kind message, we're glad you found it useful. It's not the easiest topic to discuss but it's so important!

  • @kathymaslowskibrightflower9638
    @kathymaslowskibrightflower9638 3 роки тому +7

    Thankyou for sharing & being open about this subject 🙏🏽🌈🌟

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +2

      We're glad you enjoyed it 😀

  • @someonerandom6379
    @someonerandom6379 4 роки тому +9

    Really appreciate this conversation. My partner didn’t find any tablets worked properly so we have moved onto the injections. They do work more reliably but the worry of the erection lasting dangerously wrong has been an issue.
    We have become far more creative and both realise that sex isn’t all about an erection. Especially if ejaculation isn’t possible.

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  4 роки тому +4

      We're glad you found it helpful! Thanks for the info about the injections. Sex is definitely more than just intercourse (but having that option is nice)! Ejaculation is possible for a large percentage of men with SCI (but not necessarily through intercourse). We are planning to make a video about this soon.

    • @someonerandom6379
      @someonerandom6379 4 роки тому +2

      We have tried numerous options but 8 years post injury he still hasn’t been able to achieve ejaculation. We have spoken to lots of medical professionals and other sci men and sadly it’s very common not to be able to ejaculate. If you make a video please ensure you make this clear so people don’t just think they’re unusual or partners don’t think it could happen if they just tried other things.

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  4 роки тому

      @@someonerandom6379 We're sorry to hear that it doesn't work for you, but thanks for the feedback, we will definitely make it clear that it unfortunately just doesn't work for some people!

    • @RsRj-qd2cg
      @RsRj-qd2cg 2 роки тому

      I used to use trimix and it worked great. But at some point I realized that a penis pump and ring were much cheaper and worked just as well lol. Plus I can just take the ring off after we're done. With trimix, the erection is stuck there for 3-4 hours! And you're only supposed to use it every other night.
      There are definitely ways to be intimate without intercourse too. One of my partners in college was also paralyzed and we just made out and did nipple stimulation. We tried PIV once and managed to make it work but neither of us could feel it so we switched to 69'ing which worked way better.

  • @alannahhouston5798
    @alannahhouston5798 3 роки тому +7

    Hi there!
    I'm an OT student in NI and came across your videos as I'm currently doing an assignment on housing adaptations and psychosocial changes for a person with paraplegia. I am interested in including sex in my assignment and was so grateful of this video! I was wondering if you had any info or if you could direct me to somewhere about the experience of a paraplegic woman during intercourse?
    Thanks for your content, it's been so helpful to see toilet transfers etc.
    Take care.

    • @HappyHibee
      @HappyHibee 7 місяців тому

      Not sure if you ever got the info you were looking for or if you even still need it but this video is a fantastic example of how sex works from the perspective of a paraplegic woman. I hope this helps? m.ua-cam.com/video/2k4dJK0RAX8/v-deo.html&pp=ygUNc2NpIHNleCB3b21lbg%3D%3D

  • @birhanezemichael2678
    @birhanezemichael2678 3 роки тому +6

    i am new to your channel. i am paraplegic and i hope the channel will help me finding good information related to my disability.

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +1

      We're glad to have you with us 😃

  • @sjp4u338
    @sjp4u338 2 роки тому +6

    So sad. I’m sorry these young people have to deal with this. 😢

    • @barrylyndon80
      @barrylyndon80 Рік тому

      Horrible, nobody should have to deal with things like that.

  • @aidenw207
    @aidenw207 2 роки тому +7

    What is the point of sex if you can't feel anything below the waist? Just to go through the actions and motions?

    • @user-lm2rb7yr2r
      @user-lm2rb7yr2r 2 роки тому

      Getting your partner off is the point

    • @mostazezo
      @mostazezo 5 місяців тому

      😭 extensive nipple rubbing

  • @katphillips6045
    @katphillips6045 3 роки тому +17

    So you can’t even feel sex? That must be so frustrating! Thank you for sharing

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +20

      It can be a little frustrating, but I can still feel the other aspects of it, so I can still enjoy sex. Thanks for watching 👍

    • @eyeyamI
      @eyeyamI 3 роки тому +11

      @@PARALIFE I would imagine you can also get pleasure out of knowing your partner is enjoying it.

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +7

      @@eyeyamI exactly 😊

    • @clemsonbloke
      @clemsonbloke 2 роки тому

      @@PARALIFE Forgive me but I had a question. Are you able to ejaculate? I mean for say if you wanted to have children? By the way I am a gay guy and I just wanted to say that you are a hot guy man! Take care.

  • @sheilan6959
    @sheilan6959 2 роки тому +2

    Respectfully thank you for talking about this.

  • @milahh6422
    @milahh6422 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for learning us a bit more about your life style

  • @dlbrittain1976
    @dlbrittain1976 4 роки тому +3

    Thanks guys...its a very important subject. That doesn't get much discussion..

  • @mysoundmindz
    @mysoundmindz Рік тому +1

    Great educational video. Thanks

  • @morgancalvi6675
    @morgancalvi6675 4 роки тому +2

    Sildenafil, or Viagara, can be bad if you use it and you have heart issues...or a C4 injury, which affects the heart beat...so discussing it (many people will go and try it based on your talking about it...just wanted them to know it may not be the best thing).

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  4 роки тому +1

      Good point, definitely important to consider the side-effects and check with your doctor before trying any new medications.

  • @LulaS
    @LulaS 3 роки тому +2

    Very interesting! Thank you so much for sharing that and keep up the awesome work.

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +1

      Thanks for watching! 😃

  • @anandkumar-gc8im
    @anandkumar-gc8im 3 роки тому +5

    Hello...will u please suggest any pill...
    I am c2-c3 injury level..
    2018
    Now i am able to walk
    Have 40% bladder control....
    I do almost everything apart from weight lifting....
    But erection =zero...

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +2

      It's a difficult one, since everyone is so different. We would recommend contacting your doctor or urologist for advice 👍

    • @anandkumar-gc8im
      @anandkumar-gc8im 3 роки тому

      @@PARALIFE sure ♥️

    • @mekharikendrick9067
      @mekharikendrick9067 3 роки тому +1

      Im t10 and im 17 in rehab right now

    • @rudedudesonu9909
      @rudedudesonu9909 2 роки тому +1

      Complete or incomplte

  • @crazybaboon1749
    @crazybaboon1749 7 місяців тому +1

    First off all respect to you guys; but I would correct the statement at 1:26 below T11 you can get bot relex and psychogenic erection if S2,3,4 is okay.

  • @miss_aliciak
    @miss_aliciak 3 роки тому +1

    This was very enlightening thank you 😊

  • @gaurav2009june
    @gaurav2009june Рік тому

    Thank You So Much for this informative video. I am working as neurophysiotherpist.

  • @repeekyraidcero
    @repeekyraidcero Рік тому

    Fascinating.
    Thanks !
    Finally some actual answers.

  • @danielcolon203
    @danielcolon203 3 місяці тому

    I meant to say the medication called HIMS OR HIM will it work if I take it an hour before having sex

  • @eyeyamI
    @eyeyamI 3 роки тому +1

    This was amazing. Thank you.

  • @davelarson5672
    @davelarson5672 3 роки тому +4

    I’ve really appreciated your candor. This will sound stupid. I can still walk, so I thought my ED was from the pain of mentally worried about the possibility of the increase pain with pelvic thrust. That’s why I thought it was in my head (as in brain, you dirty minded people). Even laying flat on my back and my wife doing all of the work, in many ways, it still didn’t care. Delete this if it violates any rules. My tongue works fine and I enjoy using it (it’s always been an arousal for me and obviously her. However, she wants intercourse. Because I didn’t think it’s physical, I never talked to my doctor. I will next visit.

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +1

      Glad you found it useful. Everyone is affected in different ways, and the only way to know is to talk about it! Hope everything gets sorted 👍

  • @user-cq7ig1ui1b
    @user-cq7ig1ui1b 3 роки тому +2

    We need translation to arabic
    Thank u four this video

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +1

      Unfortunately, we don't speak Arabic, so can't provide a translation. However, we are happy to upload a translation if someone provides us with one 😃

  • @danielcolon203
    @danielcolon203 3 місяці тому

    I'm paralyzed from the chest down but have had sex multiple times it's just been a long time am I anxiety is the most part if I take the medication himself an hour b4 can I still proform

    • @danielcolon203
      @danielcolon203 3 місяці тому

      I ment 2 say the medication call Hims will it work 4 me

  • @glenntankard2534
    @glenntankard2534 6 місяців тому +1

    I am incomplete C5-6 w zero sex feeling. Tried viagra w no luck. I’ve given up.

    • @aarondaniel9022
      @aarondaniel9022 5 місяців тому

      I'm a complete t-5 t-7. Dude get trimix. I don't feel anything but she does

    • @glenntankard2534
      @glenntankard2534 5 місяців тому

      @@aarondaniel9022 Awesome thank you I’ll give it a go

  • @rubyrose1231
    @rubyrose1231 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks so much sharing ❣️❣️

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому

      You're welcome 😃

  • @joenissan
    @joenissan 2 роки тому +1

    If you can’t feel it, why bother having sex at all?

  • @SupportIsraelLGBTQ
    @SupportIsraelLGBTQ 4 місяці тому

    Question- is it even enjoyable if you cant feel it, how do you finish? Doesnt make sense why youd try

  • @malsawmtluangamalsawma6735
    @malsawmtluangamalsawma6735 2 роки тому +1

    I'm spinal injury why my urine is like burning it so hurt a lot

    • @sanbrimo4547
      @sanbrimo4547 2 роки тому +3

      If you're a male , you must have prostatitis or a UTI (urinary tract infection). Consult your Urologist, pronto !

  • @Christian-oi4zx
    @Christian-oi4zx 2 роки тому +1

    Do you still respond to comments?

  • @JohnSmith-sj2dk
    @JohnSmith-sj2dk 8 місяців тому

    Tadalafil is better, with less side effects and longer lasting

  • @angelcastillo5298
    @angelcastillo5298 3 роки тому +2

    Can I please message u guys i hot few questions

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +1

      You can send us a DM on Instagram or email us if you'd like

  • @samjordan6166
    @samjordan6166 Рік тому

    I have tried viagra but I'd did not work well. I also got a uncomfortable headache from it

  • @tonyc.5344
    @tonyc.5344 2 роки тому

    Now almost 50yrs old and a father of 2, I got paralyzed as a teenager and lost sexual function. I'm not 100% sure of this but I do believe that masturbation helped me regain function.

  • @julianarreola6318
    @julianarreola6318 3 роки тому +1

    Can men with spinal bifida have children?

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому

      This isn't really our specialty, but some men with spina bifida can have children! It probably depends more on the specific person and injury, since everyone is different

  • @jonvan2451
    @jonvan2451 7 місяців тому +1

    🫡 my friend

  • @rexultimus1422
    @rexultimus1422 3 роки тому +1

    lol 😂 i’m fucking dead

    • @richp.1234
      @richp.1234 2 роки тому +3

      What's so funny bruh?

  • @ajsgaming932
    @ajsgaming932 Рік тому

    Hey
    I am Ajaroo Ram
    From india
    T11 complete injury
    I want to chat with you

  • @covenetslayer1497
    @covenetslayer1497 3 роки тому +2

    So I was in a car accident about 5 months ago. I had damage to my t10 and t11 and it was incomplete. My girl wants to spend time with me but I can't get it up and I have no idea how to tell her.

    • @PARALIFE
      @PARALIFE  3 роки тому +1

      It's a difficult one, we suggest being honest, talk to your doctor about ways to get it up and enjoy the other aspects of intimacy 😀

    • @covenetslayer1497
      @covenetslayer1497 3 роки тому

      @@PARALIFE alright thanks for responding I appreciate it 😊

    • @sanbrimo4547
      @sanbrimo4547 2 роки тому +1

      @@tonybilly5878 Somebody up there likes you, congrats !

  • @guntherw6819
    @guntherw6819 2 роки тому

    If you need to get it up, and remain at it all night go'ogle Mario Volpstein's stuff, trust me you will be amazed and yes, you will have "singing" starting the first day.

  • @drooshmaroosh8261
    @drooshmaroosh8261 3 роки тому +2

    You need to animate yourselves a little more. You have a sort of deadpan delivery, although the content you are communicating is good.

    • @ingebeckmann3534
      @ingebeckmann3534 3 роки тому +2

      Droosh, you're being a douche.

    • @drooshmaroosh8261
      @drooshmaroosh8261 3 роки тому

      @@ingebeckmann3534 Why don't you go back into that hole you crawled out from if you have nothing better to do than act like a troll and post rude comments.

    • @v4v819
      @v4v819 3 роки тому +1

      @@drooshmaroosh8261 "if you have nothing better to do than act like a troll and post rude comments"
      You're projecting...

    • @alexojideagu
      @alexojideagu 3 роки тому

      Most British people are not as hyper or animated as Americans, including UA-cam. Also it's a sensitive topic.

  • @geno5169
    @geno5169 3 місяці тому

    I thank you for sharing your amazing story together! This wA very interesting! I took Cialis at age of 56! My eyes got blurry then I lost my vision from taking Cialis! I have those injections to help me get hard! It’s not sexy to ask my wife to jab me! But she doesn’t mind!

  • @JAHalmightyful
    @JAHalmightyful Рік тому

    What about ejaculation

  • @user-zm8zx8rt7c
    @user-zm8zx8rt7c 2 роки тому

    I used Viagra 100mg and I'm T12 and still nothing

  • @nobodyaskedyou9004
    @nobodyaskedyou9004 2 роки тому +1

    They really talked all that shh to say nothing. We know how impotence works. It’s a direct question that your circling around giving texts book answers. The answer is clearly No! Just say it damn.

  • @sandralyons4997
    @sandralyons4997 Рік тому +1

    I think I'll go out and find a boyfriend in a wheelchair!!