James Hartzer - Trans Boy's Broken Toe
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James Hartzer, performing at Button Poetry Live, July 2019.
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The halfway boy is the most accurate way to describe the feeling of being a trans guy and trying to exist in society
i'm nb, but it hits me, too
Yes.
I think a lot of people fail to understand that just because I didn’t always know I was a boy that that does not mean I was a girl. I just didn’t have words to describe myself.
I understand and I am OK with people having preferences for someone’s physical body. But in general it seems to be hard for cis people to separate genitalia from societies gender expectations.
No cis guys who have only dated other cis guys have ever wanted to be with me. So, I found comfort in those who identify as bisexual or pansexual, but I wish there wasn’t such a narrow view of who a man is, and realizing that trans people are just as valid in whatever gender they are as a cis person.
What is a man? What is a woman?
@@efil1607 What is .... Love and Enough are that thing that we only know when we get there or when we realize how much it's going to change everything when we pass the point? Does that make sense? It's a sentiment I've been wrestling with all year, I have been trying to get this epiphany into a song but I don't want to overthink or oversimplify the way that I was just like DUH... I'm kinda a little slower than my class on the obvious... But I have a rare moment of brilliance... Everyone 4 decades? Bout time.. 🌔
You can’t be mad at a straight person for not being gay.
@@burntwaffle9858 I would say that’s not what this poem or our comments is about. There’s a difference between being mad at someone for their sexual orientation versus being upset with them, because they are failing to recognize and affirm your gender identity.
Not gonna lie, I love the way he moves between scenes as if they weren’t different moments. Really anchors how these experiences come together in a very relatable way for any trans person who’s dated cis people.
As another trans guy this hits really different and it’s ridiculous especially since I haven’t started t but I have a gf
If you were born a women, you'll always be one. End of.
@@ADecadeDrifting this is the third time iv seen you in these comments, are you ok? what do you think this accomplishes? educated and kind people don't read your words and think revert into whatever dull mindset you're in, we know better.
@@ennainno8622 I'm richer than you ssh peasant
@@ADecadeDrifting lol
@@ennainno8622 he's acting out on the internet. we don't care about how much money he has. I grew up among the hyper-rich. a lot of those men really really suck. only the nice ones have loyal, amazing partners. he has a lot to learn. emotional peasant
1:44 SAY IT AGAIN!!!
As a trans guy I come back to this poem every once in a while. It really resonates with the experience of dating cis people.
The last girlfriend I had seemed to have built a lot of her identity around being mostly a queer woman who had an aversion to men, but she came onto me.
I really liked her so when the relationship became romantic and sexual I was happy, but then I started thinking about how she would talk about never being fully attracted to the cis guys she had been with in the past and it made me remember this poem.
The relationship eventually ended bc I had been living overseas while studying when I was with her and we both knew the relationship wasn't serious enough to continue when I returned home.
When I look back at the relationship I can't help but have the good memories tainted by the fact that I am fairly certain I was a "halfway boy" to her; and unfortunately it has left lasting insecurities for when I try to meet anyone else.
As a bi man myself I've had really unfortunate experiences with other bi men where when they are attracted to me they tend to talk about the fact that I haven't had bottom surgery, and the way they talk about it just makes me feel either fetishized or that they are using me to explore their attraction to men without having to "fully commit" bc they have not been with another man yet.
I want to find love, but it just sometimes feels like the only way for me to do that is to accept that I might have to be ok with being someone's halfway boy and that hurts to even think about.
Thanks to the creepy FBI people who figured I'm a guy before I did, for the recommendation
If you were born a women, you'll always be one. End of.
ADecadeDrifting did someone ask?
@@ADecadeDriftingHe wasn't born a woman, he was born a transgender man.There's a big difference. Also like @Brooke Elkins said, no one fucking asked for your transphobic comments
@@ADecadeDrifting oh you're here too, please just leave
@@ADecadeDrifting Bro, read up on basic human biology and psychology. Sex and gender aren't the same thing.
More people need to understand this stuff
Yup. He put this thing perfectly into poetry. I loved it
This broke my heart then put it all back together.
I love this, I love him, I love everyone I don't know I look up to these people almost haha
her* If you were born a women, you'll always be one. End of.
@@ADecadeDrifting take that transphobic shit somewhere else doll, no ones got the patience for it here
@@ADecadeDrifting is this how you have fun? i pity you, i hope you find the compassion to educate yourself.
He seems so sure of himself and everything. People that use him are definitely missing out; he seems like an awesome guy. He's cute too 👀
This hit me so hard. I love this so much. Just because I didn't know I wasn't a girl when I was younger, doesn't mean I was a girl. Just didn't know what it meant to be nonbinary and what it was like to name myself something other than cis. I love this and always will.
"... His mouth holds the word boy while his fingers spread girl all over my body..."
Shit, yes, he did, and I'm still trying to get those stains off
You have to get up from the table when what nourishes you is no longer being served. I am still learning-gathering my courage for this.
Hell yes. Be heard. This was powerful af.
So sophisticated - had me in tears!
This is what I have been waiting to hear from a trans guy my whole life. I have a shit ton of thinking to brain.
this video deserves so much more praise.
Damn that's honestly the best peom I've heard in a while😘😍
I love this delightfully rageful poem thank u for writing it
u said it naruto
EXACTLY. Also he’s so cute I love
she's* If you were born a women, you'll always be one. End of.
ADecadeDrifting why don't you get your ignorance out of here. HE is sharing a poem that is cared for. Even if you don't like it, go disagree in silence. P.S. there is biology behind being trans, look it up.
ADecadeDrifting i could explain to you years of biology that you’ll never look into because your ignorant opinion is one you’ll always think is correct. Gender is what you say you are sex is what you biologically are.
I have the exact opposite problem I'm a transgender gay guy
and surgery isnt perfect yet .it sucks so bad man.
same
same man. same
SAMMME
Wow he’s amazing. I’m speechless
she's* If you were born a women, you'll always be one. End of.
@@ADecadeDrifting shaking your fragile self-identity brahhhhhh- feel free to insult me- i can laugh at a lot of shit these days. Just was locked up, came out stronger.
@@kookoo4pandas cool cool cool cool cool
Holy fuck. I want to learn more. I have a friend who's going through this and I want to understand as much as possible. This is beautiful and angering and I just want to know more
Those are some good goddamn words, just slow 'em down a bit! Pause, let the audience really have it and you've got a 10/10 poem
But also jesus, I felt this. I'm grateful for my boyfriend and the way he handles sex and my dysphoria every day because despite the fact that I'm taken and monogamist cis people still think it's fine to hit on me/try to experiment with me and it's disgusting and frustrating. I hardcore empathize man
I like how he delivers it. It’s so different from everyone else, some of them just seem to be copying each other’s flow and it feels less authentic
Jesus Christ that sent shivers down my spine
as a bi trans guy, this is the MOST touching piece of trans media I have ever come across, ever. I come back to this video whenever I need a good cry. thank you.
That rocks a lot. There is another piece we have up that was really big for me personally, "A letter to the girl I used to be" ua-cam.com/video/Lkn06Y8prDU/v-deo.html
Check it out, might do something for you!
alright, i just cried again. well, thank you-- that poem was beautiful as well. @@ButtonPoetry
Thank you! This was amazing! This needed to be said!
I had a lot of issues accepting myself as non-binary because no one treated me as a person. They treated me as girl not what I am...girls acted as if my body was just for their desire not for myself...I understand that so much.
You have literally described every relationship I have ever been in, I’ve never connected with poetry as much as I have with this 👌🏻
I think cis people who hurt trans people like this probably makes them distrusting of what all cis people's intentions towards them really are and that makes me sad. 😞 Like how do you trust people if this is how some of them treat you?
This puts everything I have been thinking into words
I love this it's so true and needs to be talked about more
maybe in sex ed class one day they'll put it in high schools to educate people
Hereby, a Thank you to my girlfriend for respecting me like myself and my body like my own.
What a powerful poem. Really wonderful!
Thank you for the poem. The world needs more inspirations!
FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT
KING GO OFF OMG WOOOOO
A FUCKING KING. PERIODT.
Wow, this is really deep. Great job
Fucking POWERFUL
And that's the fucking tea 🙌🏼
I fucking felt this, thank you for sharing
1:26 fucking ouch, dude. Same.
SO GOOD
Amazing 💗
god this hits me hard
Damn this is really good
I had one of my friends announce he was Pan (nothing against pan people) because he was into me. Im trans. Its a common misconception but identifying as pan because you like a trans person is a way of expressing how they don't count as the gender they are working so hard to blossom into. I know my friend isn't transphobic but I have to explain how uncomplicated it really is. People often overthink how you're supposed to react and talk to trans people. If I identify as a man, that means I'm going to be around people who treat me like a man. Not someone who comments on my breast size or thick thighs. You don't do that with men, do you? If I identify as a woman, I will be with a person who treats me like a woman. Not just a 'man with makeup'. We aren't identifying as a gender out of binary. We are just saying the body we have isn't the right one. Trans aren't "other gender". They are men and women. That being said, I don't know too much about nonbinary and gender fluid etc.
Sorry if some of my wording didn't sound right. It's hard to express my thoughts
This is amazing. I really felt that🌻💛
I felt that. That was so deep
I love this
Shit this is relatable
1:17.... And 2:06 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Wow. 👏👏👏👏👏
I think this needs to be talked about more - The experience of trans people. The reason for all the misunderstandings is because this topic doesn’t come up enough.
Dang. This hit home for me
So, and please don’t attack me for this, if you’re a cis boy then does it mean you’re a trans woman?
Cis basically means you identify with the gender you were assigned at birth. Meaning that no a cis boy would just be a boy
Don't get me fucking started
I mean, I can't judge cis people for having preferences and so. I can understand it. But playing with someone feelings like this and using them as support or someone fun to do is just horrible. Holy crap.
He didn't deserve that, I'm so sad for him. I hope he find someone good enough for him soon.
And no, I'm not trans but damnnnn, doing it with someone and only care about yourself??? Dating someone and only use them for your own comfort? Shit, something's wrong with that people. Me and my demisexual nb ass can't get it.
😵
Ok but he cute 👀
🥴
weird....
@@dandandan0619 im sorry... its just my thoughts towards it...im sorry ....