Keeping it Normal ep 5
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- Опубліковано 18 бер 2023
- Emily dives right in to episode 5 with all sorts of topics. She talks about her dental anxiety and how she recently found out she has 14 cavities! She talks about how gentle parenting does not always equal a gentle child, and how maybe getting upset with your child is not as important as what comes after.
This is the first episode I've watched! You're uplifting! I am a sahm with three and carry tons of mom guilt. Thanks for being you!
I avoided the dentist for 10 years. I never had a cavity til I was 21 after I had my son. I'm 32 now. The past 2 years I have been going to the dentist so much and getting all my work done. I have a like 3 more cavities to fill and then I'm finally done. My front tooth was chipped for 6 years and I finally got it fixed. I feel so much more confident and happy. It has also taught me to have better dental hygiene. I got a water flosser and make sure to brush my teeth twice a day. And always make sure no matter what to floss floss floss. But I had so much anxiety around the dentist and thats what stopped me from going. But honestly going so much over the past 2 years the anxiety has gotten less and less. Even having to have extractions. And work done on my front teeth , novacaine injections. It's becoming more normal lol 😆. I'm really proud of me for going to the dentist and taking better care of my teeth. And dental care and health care is self care and self love. Love yourself enough to take care of your body. I'm also proud of you for going to the dentist.
Thank you to you for sharing this, and Emily of course. I haven’t been in 10 years and it’s on my “to do” list but I’m so fearful of what they will find and of being judged😢
I was the same at bedtime. Just constantly getting frustrated and lashing out. I kept remembering something that Amanda from After Hours with Amanda says, distrupt before you erupt. After that I started communicating that i was getting frustrated and needed to take a couple minutes. My husband usually stepped in at this point to give me a few. After that I stopped pushing for an earlier time and the rule is that once lights are out at 8 we need to stay in our room, but she doesnt have to go to sleep until she's ready. She can also come into my bed only when shes ready to go to sleep. Shes 4 and is generally asleep around 9pm, but then she sleeps until 7am or so. It varies day to day but its been working for us and our schedule since I work from home most days and dont need her up early.
I’ve been procrastinating going back to the dentist. I don’t really like the one I’ve been going to, I think they kinda messed up a tooth theywere supposed fill, but I can’t find any other dentist in a 30 minute drive from me that’s accepting new patients. Had a tooth break and they were going to put a crown on it, then went back and forth with doing that and finally were like, well you need to go to someone else to get it pulled. Gee thanks. What about the rest of the cavities I need taking care of? Then pandemic. Had to go in a few times during 2020 near the end of the year when there was a little lull in restrictions. Just haven’t gone back, it’s such a PITA. I think they only put a temp filling in the tooth next to the one that got pulled, but not like they told me that. Now that tooth is hurting. Gah. Teeth really shouldn’t be this high maintenance or we should have developed with more than just milk teeth and one set of adult teeth. Makes you wonder about our evolutionary biology and what we really are supposed to be eating that shouldn’t cause tooth decay. Because all this teeth rotting out of our head if we aren’t constantly scraping the gunk off them isn’t conducive to living successfully to reproduce and raise our young.
I totally get the bedtime angry. Husband working second shift and I homeschool my school aged kiddo and have a toddler, so we don’t do early mornings and end up in bed sometime after 1am. I’d like the kids in bed sooner, but dad is coming in at 11:30 and they want to see daddy and he does bathtime with them, and the toddler prefers dad to get him to sleep over me, and I have to get the diabetic child squared away for the night, and then I’m often up till 5 am (yes I get quiet me time) but I have to be quiet, and I’m mostly just watching his blood sugar to see if I need to give him an insulin dose or wake him up and stick something sugary in his mouth to bring his numbers up. Serious fear of my child’s blood sugar dropping so low he goes into a coma and dies, just keeps me from sleeping. It’s only been 3 months since he was diagnosed and I haven’t gotten a nights sleep really since then. I’m lucky if I get 6 hours a night, 3 or 4 if I’m not so lucky. It’s tough.
I’m 43 in a couple weeks, and these two kiddos are my second set, I have two adult children from a previous relationship. So I learned a lot how to do this, and started “gentle” responsive parenting with my older two when they were around 7 or 8. These two have been raised that way too, but that doesn’t always work for ADHD kids. Teaching neurotypical kids self regulation works much better than with completely disregulated and emotionally immature adhd children. I still do it, it’s just way harder. I can say even if my older son is rambunctious and has other various difficulties, he is kind to other children, and can be incredibly helpful. So at least something is sinking in. We just do the best we can with the tools we have or can find.