Working with a Client's Emotional Triggers - with Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD
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- Опубліковано 9 січ 2023
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When a client struggles with emotional triggers, they may find themselves stuck in cycles of reactivity and overwhelm.
Not only can this be mentally and physically exhausting for your client, but it often has an impact on everyone around them - including those they love the most and hold most dear.
So in this video, Ruth Lanius, MD, PhD shares a co-regulation strategy that can help clients and their families better attune to and manage their emotional triggers.
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Great conversation!! It has further opened my awareness 🙌🏻💪🏻💜🙏🏻
Thnxs for the videos , good like/for ' sort aftercare' 👍
The partner must be part of the therapy. It's very difficult for my spouse.
This it totally about the client and a partner... so many ppl are single, do you have any suggestions for single people?
I agree. I have no one that I could work with.
Perhaps journaling....write down the overwhelming emotions. I am single and work with the concept of myself as my own empathy buddy...that there is an observer/witness part of myself that can hold space for the part that is feeling overwhelmed in the moment....writing can support this process. Its a way of self-co-regulation. Later, when I can feel the overwhelm subside, I can ask myself what past unresolved trauma is being highlighted that the current triggering situation is leading to overwhelm. When I can identify a past issue, then I can bring my wiser older/current self to my younger self to provide compassion and kindness during those difficult times.
I recently did this when I felt overwhelmed by others' misdirected anger they felt towards another but unleashed their anger at me. After it happened when I was alone I took time for myself to self-regulate until the overwhelm subsided, then looked back at my early life to situations where I was lashed out at unfairly but other's misdirected anger. I then did energy work for myself at those times in my life based on sending compassion and caring energy to my younger self.
I also revisited the recent triggering event and "renegotiated" the memory, as a technique taught by Peter Levine. In the renegotiation/visualization process I worked with the other person's glaring stare by slow blinking my eyes, and breaking the eye contact and looking at a tree outside the window, as well as holding up a notebook as a protective shielding from the anger verbally directed at me.
In real life I also set a boundary with the glaring individual that was done in a way that was non-confrontational to them (I don't think they realized how they were behaving towards me was problematic and I wasn't in a place in myself that I wanted to point it out to them, though maybe in the future), but I did set the boundary in a way so as to be able to take care of myself, which included sending a message to my inner child self and present self that I am taking care of me, past and present, for a better future.
In the weeks following someone else did a misdirected anger outburst at me and I didn't get to the point of overwhelm. I was able to self-regulate in the moment which seemed to energetically create a protective field around me that then the misdirected anger ceased without any direct discussion about it. I use somatic techniques like placing both feet evenly and firmly on the floor, feeling aligned in my posture, awareness of my breathing, etc as self-regulation along with stating an affirmation in my mind to myself, "I am here with me."
I hope what I write makes sense and is of benefit.
I've found many of the videos from nicabm to be very beneficial for solo work and healing.
It would be so much easier to have loving feedback from my spouse. He not only refused to help me with therapy and healing but purposefully goaded and ridiculed and scoffed making things even harder.
Thankfully I finally found a therapist who takes my insurance and is very familiar with nicabm and these doctors' work and strategies.
@@MEFbeelove Thank you very much for taking the time to share your experiences and suggestions. Beautifully and succinctly written. Your self-awareness, encouragement, and love shine through with each step in your process.
Please know that this information does not only apply to people in relationships, but any individual.