Boring and predictable mass people find me "stone face" and "loner". Soulful and thoughtful people find me intelligent and interesting and the feeling is mutual. But I seldom meet them. Today I sat on a park bench under a deep oak full of colorful leaves under the shining October sun and read a book about Buddhism, before that I meditated for 30 minute's. I live Sigma all the time. On the inside and on the outside.
must agree that we are categorized into two extremes, either boring loner or fascinating thoughtful deep thinking... I myself don't have a solid group of friends, most days I go about carrying conversation work related or as I carry out my responsibilities. rarely do I converse for the sake of conversing, but I meet gems of a human being where a conversation sparks up that will long keep a light burning in me
Thanks for bringing light to something I've lived with my whole life and didn't know how to verbalize. I am no alpha. I am definitely no beta. I don't need friends and can operate completely confidently and competently on my own. I'm exhausted by explaining things to people that seem obvious to me. Thanks to this new information, I am planning on making some major changes in my life and will stop listening to people who don't know how I operate. I will no longer go with the flow and accept mediocrity simply because I work for mediocre people. Time to make my own way. A thousand thanks.
I tend to treat mediocrity with scorn - but what I can get a headache from is the group of people screaming loudly and inspired by their own "perfection" and screaming in chorus! I'm not ashamed to admit that I used to abuse them with physical terror! I attack after two warnings! Fast, ruthless consistency, efficient! So that he doesn't feel like it, not only to attack back - but also to remove himself completely from my environment forever! And since, as you can imagine - I'm self-righteous, I'm not usually interested in the person's soul! I tend to see these as a kind of annoying little obstacle! And if that person, by chance, turns out to be a tougher opponent - then I will unleash my truly dark side! The Mr.Hyde living in me!
me too. My wife finally understands me & gets my behaviour(s) now. It’s been a much better & stronger relationship now that we both know the things that I couldn’t quite put into proper words before.
The downside to being a Sigma is pretty stiff, but the upside is you run your life yourself. Having control over your life puts everything else in second-or more-place. For me, anyhow!
At first I saw it as a curse, but after going through the worse season in my life and relying more on my faith, its been all blessings. Keep striving to remain sovereign…🤙🏽
I too am a Sigma Male,Johnny and am highly sensitive to my surroundings.I have learned its also best to learn and facilitate how to let go and forgive others.
I can't say I totally agree with #6. I'm not the last to know because I'm out of touch. It's due to me minding my own business and not getting sucked into gossip. I'm completely aware of what's happening in the world around me, but it gets prioritized to what immediately affects me and mine.
I have struggled my entire life. I’m happy I am not alone. Everything he said is exactly how I have always lived my life. I have no close friends and never have. I’ve always believed that there is something wrong with me. Thanks to who ever created this video
Showed my doctor a picture of an emotionless facial expression in a moment of bliss with my kids (lunch at a park) I was happy but my facial expression looked like a soulless being, he wasn't concerned like I was, watching this I understand why now
I received many times, from my current environment, everything that was said here! My ex-wife and even my father considered me an emotional cripple (even a sociopath), and I considered it a waste of energy to explain the concept of colors to the blind! I already thought there was something wrong with me, but what I saw in this video is 95+% about me! (I listen to the news with news analyses, I haven't had a television for 20 years, and the cheeky, brainwashing PR activity of the various news channels annoys and disgusts me!) Many people have told me that I am misanthropic, heartless, too rational, insensitive and an intellectual snob!In fact, I have only recently begun to understand that I am not alone - that we are all alone! With my IQ of around 140, I'm not even a real genius, but human stupidity can really annoy me - especially when it's combined with diligence, dedication and the will to do something! Does this sound familiar to anyone but me? Thank you for the video, soul-searching and effective information! And i wish for you Happy New Year!
@@Conky-or8ic If I really was, I'd be furious right now! However, I am interested in what you deduced this from? And what caused the anger/jealousy behind your comment? And to be precise - I am middle aged!😎
This video describes me exactly.My silence is confused with arrogance .I never share my true feelings with anyone,if I happen to do so ,I will rather lie than telling my true feelings .I even find it difficult to share my great memories or things with anyone. I had. Even tried to change 🥺🥺but I failed
Yes. Constantly asking if I'm OK. I get so mad when they don't take my word for it. "Why are you so mad?" I mean I wasn't until you asked me 6 different times
Just tell them that. While being detached about the outcome. Or you could tell them that you only smile when something of personal importance is truly filling you with joy, or when your current situation makes you genuinely more happy than usual, or when you are feeling pleasure in something to your own taste.
i usually have to fall back on a rare memory that made me smile. That can kinda get a smile out of me - view this effort as a kindness to others. (Long way of saying - "yes I relate.")
I’m definitely a Sigma male and always have been. Glad they finally have term for it. Being thought of as a “loner” or “weird” isn’t accurate, I love people one on one usually but despise large crowds. I have never been into organized sports but an accomplished athlete in individual sports like surfing, hang gliding, and skydiving. I refuse to “follow the crowd” not interested at all in mediocrity or the social “benefits” that go along with that. In school, I never went to pep rallies or sporting events I wasn’t interested in. I’d rather read a book or invent a new solution to a common task that is overlooked by the masses. My brain won’t shut down and when I find a solution to a problem, I’m excited to share it with others. Sometimes people think I’m a genius but more often, I’m just “going against the grain” as usual. Like, “This is the way we’ve always done it, why complicate things?” (When actually, I’ve simplified things.) Every failure in a solution to a problem is actually a success because I’ve tested it and it doesn’t work. So I modify it until it does. I’m very happy being this way even though society thinks I shouldn’t be. I’m very picky about people and only have a few very close friends. Good women find me attractive and mysterious. Average ones hate my guts. (I knew they would) Being a lifelong guitarist/singer/ songwriter in many rock bands, playing on stage in front of large crowds is really fun but it’s an act. As soon as the show is over, I want away from the crowd. I’ll go home and over-analyze what went well with the crowd and what did not. My lead was too technical and hard to follow. That was bad. The silly things I did got cheers. Go figure. Anyway, I’m very happy living this way and for those of you fellow Sigmas out there who identify with these apparent afflictions of our condition, I’d love to hear from you. Peace and aloha to all of you, be safe, keep pondering the cosmos.
What turned you into a Sigma? I spent nearly all of my childhood being bullied physically and mentally, until one day, I snapped. I have a slightly autistic brother who is two years older than me and I had to defend him constantly as kids by taking the hits both physically and mentally instead of him, from people way older than me. By the time I left school, I was already a man among boys. Something I have always noticed throughout my life though, (I'm almost 50 now) is that Alpha's have never tried to dominate/intimidate me....not even verbally. I must give off a certain vibe. I am also the sort of person that would jump in and help someone in need before even contemplating the consequences.
I also believe Sigma's were probably the most likely group of people to refuse the mandated jabs...like I did. They would have fully researched it all (like I did) before making an informed decision and realizing it was a huge con from the start (just like I did). I hope many others did too.
Not only that. Despised the fact, that the “injection club” became cult like. Rejected the mass peer pressure point of it. Felt no need to go along to get along.
It's exhausting faking emotions, I rather not see others if I'm in that state, which happens to be almost always. I enjoy my private emotions as they help me grow, since I've been a loner since childhood I find it difficult to pretend to like most people
#6 is odd for me. I love politics and everything that comes with it. I can spend hours trying to understand other countries political system and stay up to date with news concerning world events and such. I could care less about what's happening in my own country. It all depends on everyone's passion.
I’m with you on that one, perhaps you’re the last to learn about some senseless gossip or fad. Politics on the other hand is concerned with complexity, philosophy, values and a big picture so would see this area as something of interest to Sigmas.
I did spend years not taking any notice of politics but now I seem obsessed. But I think that's kind of the point you either ignore something or obsess over it. Everyone has their interests, I think the main thing to take from it is that you aren't watching the news for gossip or something to talk about. If anything you keep your political stance mainly to yourself as you aren't watching it for a conversation starter
Real sigma is a keen observer,. He has the ability to observe, smell and expose fake sigma but didn't care much of doing it. However, if his interest caught; most of individuals who commented on every video about male personality traits and identifying theirselves as a sigma will be exposed, (undeniably) by a real sigma. Remember that real sigma don't care about showing off or telling the crowd that he is a sigma (like stating who he is or how his action undertakes) what these fake and self proclaimed sigma are doing.
This is so accurate. All your videos describe my life since I was young. I think challenge I went through as growing up made me what I am. and also I was born this way my personality was improved through the years.
Re: #6, I think that's true about insignificant things like who a Kardashian is dating or what some celebrity or local social bee is doing. But this Sigma generally keeps abreast of consequential national & world events, and has strong personal opinions on them. I usually don't inflict my opinions on others.
Now I understand why I’m different from others, I have tried to be like other all my life and it’ s hard. What you described is so me, now I understand and I’m proud, nothing wrong with me, I’m ok. Thank you.
My ex gf sent me this,I use to tell her I am the way I am because I'm wired like that, it was mind blowing watching this and a few others how precise this was to me lol
I ran across these Sigma videos simply by mistake and have found they describe me completely. I never thought before that anyone could possibly understand me. There should be a Sigma organization of like minded people .
Yes, most of this video resonates with me. I'm constantly asked at work if I'm ok because I often keep to myself with a blank expression on my face most of the time. And I dont bother anyone about things unless it is important or an issue needs to be addressed, immediately.
My wife gets angry at me because she says I think to much or go to deep about something. And when I do share something I've been thinking about or a revelation I have, She just says "whatever" and goes back to what she was doing. And yes, it drives me crazy. Because she's always asking me what's wrong. Especially when I'm in my mental safe space. Why do most people feel that there has to be something wrong to be silent or reserved? I like my sigma life. I'm just tired of constant ridicule because people don't get me. 777
I find that my thoughts and ideas and perspectives are difficult for others to comprehend. When I used to share my thoughts and perspective the room would always becomes quiet and I used to think that I said something dumb, self doubt would consume me and regret would follow but today, I know that they simply could not comprehend what I said so I always follow up with a dumbed down version.
I tick every box. That first one about smiling more is pertinent. I'm fed up with people saying "smile it might not happen", yet actually I'm happy and deep in thought. They never get it though.
I was always an extrovert, but a sigma too. Now as older, I'm beginning to be more introverted. People are simply too crazy for my taste, but I love them, actually. Feels them as children in grown-up bodies. Thank you for these great lectures. I finally understand why I am the guy I am.
talking to a brick wall, one of my fav sayings, sometimes i feel like im with a bunch of zombies, i have been told to tone down so many times by those that have no clue as to what i am talking about. when i drove the big rigs it was so peaceful for me because i was in my own little world with no one to bother me. when at work i love working by myself seperate from the others because i have nothing in common with them.
I love watching management at work catch up to my ideas that I voiced years earlier. It was frustrating at first, now I learned to revel in it to myself.
As a little kid in elementary school I was told by my 4th grade teacher that I was a misfit and a nonconformist and that if I didn't straighten up, toe the line and get with the program he predicted that I would end up serving a long sentence in prison
3.26 When Dr Cotto, my math professor during my first year in college recommended me not to register in his statistic class before taking math 101 I was offended. I've never had a high grade in math but I remembered getting a score of 710 on my CAT scores. I've had flunk a first time due to I had no interest in his class, I found his system soo boring. He finally agreed and I got a 97 percent at the end of the semester. The following semester I registered in 101 as he recommended. The young professor at one point got stuck with an Equation in the middle of the class. To his surprise I proposed the steps to the problem and at the end the whole class ended up following my system under his orders.
#2 Working as a consultant, I often struggled to project my thoughts to new clients. I deliver my reports I often had to spoon feed them to the audience to understand my point of views. I expect a report to Engineers will differ from Accountants whilst Construction reports differ from Sales Staff. I have used graphs, GANTT Charts / Statistics & Raw Data intwined in Power Point Presentations but I still get a few HUHS ???
There is definitely a difference between under 40 years of age Sigma males and over 40 ones. I like this channel however these videos seem to focus on youthful much less self assured immature Sigmas in there 20's-30's of today as opposed to us elder ones in our late 40's and beyond once we are really in our zone of figuring out our place in the world and how to navigate it well. I was a Sigma before it was even a thing or cool as it is today. I am seeing so many man today trying so very hard to be a sigma type male personality when you are kind born to it or raised from the start by Sigma type parents. It is kinda genetic if you ask me or learned from a very young age. A lot of Gen X men and women seem to be Sigmas out of necessity as latchkey kids because in the 80's both parents were "ALWAYS" at work and night classes community college many times. Our parents really raised the bar and had high expectations of us which was ok by me. We had to step up and take care of ourselves (and each other) with little to no supervision at all. So by default that created a generation of self sufficient, practical, serious, focused, no nonsense, direct and ulta-effective coming of age adults. It is a lifestyle that you just don't choose and many times even want. It is just who you are. Back in the day before it was a thing we were just loners that called things as they are plainly and fit in practically anywhere but nowhere at the same time. People always said "your just complicated and so mysterious Matthew". Never really felt that but Ok. I am now 54 and retired from a career in the Army now on pension. I really came into my own at around 48ish. I am experiencing the best time period of my life today as a Sigma. A Sigma spiritual awakening if you will really. Life is really good but it hasn't always been that way as a life long reluctant Sigma. Like wine we seem to get better with age figuring it all out. So if your a Sigma good luck to ya, your gonna need it because it isn't easy. If your trying desperately to become one. Nice try, be ok with who you are and don't be a phoney bologna!
Thanks to my personality type, I was told back in college my super power was being able to hold the exact same facial expression no matter the surroundings. We used to do a lot of drugs and drinking recreationally back then and no matter what fights and action we came across I brought insane intimidation as the behemoth in the back row starting you down. Working men don't smile because this isn't a game.
Being a Sigma male is the toughest life out there, being one myself is always met with opposition. Sometimes unintentional, but frustrating none the less. Being a bouncer ( security officer ) for 7 years also was tough, showing no emotion or always looking angry, when all i am doing is watching over everyone and enjoying my night fully. It is easy to be misunderstood when I never laughed at a joke loudly, even though i was highly entertained. But is annoying when they point out a slight smile or a snigger or chuckle.
I never knew who I was or why I did not ...quite...fit in. I knew that I was no Beta, and never sought the limelight like the superficial Alphas. Finally, a spot on description of my personality and the reasons I was always the odd ball.......Highly intelligent and driven oddball....but still the oddball.
For several months now, I've been considering whether I am actually a psychopath. I've known for some time that I don't process emotions like other people. I've often been called an "Alpha" (especially with all the work I do with canines), but that term never felt like it really fit me. Some aspects, sure, but certainly not most. I found out about the term "Sigma Male" just yesterday and have watched several of these videos talking about their traits. Holy cow! As I go through these videos I think of several situations where I've reacted like a textbook Sigma. And, considering that we are among the rarest of the male types, it doesn't surprise me that I haven't run into many others and, when I do, we get along fantastically. It's also kind of nice to know that I'm not "broken", just different.
Funny, I never thought I'd find internet videos about myself. Always the loner, the outcast, the pitiful one. But the thing about happiness is relative to the society you live in. We're not that closed off from the world. The question is, where is the best place for Sigmas?
I went to the mountains isolated. Every time I go shopping,once a month,...after a couple of hours my head becomes chaos for no reason. So while I wonder how ppl manage to live happily in chaos ,they wonder how am I living happily isolated...we pity each other 🤣
This explains everything. I appreciate this video very much. Life gets very difficult when you feel like an outcast in every social situation. One begins to think they're crazy at times.
It’s like you’ve spent a month with me and know everything about me. This video resonates so much it makes me paranoid. Thank you for showing me that I’m not alone.
This is me to the tee. Until I found these videos I felt like I just didn’t fit in. I literally was going to seek professional help because I felt that way.
My wife has a few sigma traits - tho not really sigma (as I am.) I expect 2 pure sigmas could get along well - sharing depth, contentment, lack frantic materialism etc. There is a saying that opposites attract. That is only half the story - opposites attract only if they compliment each other. So 2 sigmas will do great if per what I first said above is what they are looking for. In contrast let's say a sigma male (CEO?) finds his career/interests complimented by having an extrovert (beta?) wife warming up social contacts at a business party. He might find her outlook fascinating. (And he can be his sigma self with her in the rest of the relationship.) In brief: there is no one answer to your question -- but a good rule of thumb is: compliments attract. (If you are being a matchmaker - being "compliments" really is an intangible only the couple can figure out.)
What means sigma female ? I never got it... They describe woman with man's behaviour which is abnormal. Its like we say that its not possible to be two roosters in the same chicken house!
Throughout much of my life (age 65), it would have been nice to have others accept me for the sigma that I am rather than persist with their vision or ideas of what they would expect from me. Example: Often, I would be criticized for the way I went about doing a given task, but praised over the completed results!
I frequently have a straight expression; I borrow a statement from the late LaVell Edwards, BYU football coach, "I'm a happy guy, I've just never told my face."
After I watched this I remember when I was 10yrs old my family and cousins though that I'm dumb because look at the sky or sometimes looking aimlessly but they didn't know that I'm thinking of so many possibilities in a given situation infront of me things that could possibly happened or will happen.
I hear too often "smile" when I'm content and not unhappy. It is simply that I've met too many cheesy-faced liars and a smile doesn't impress me. I also hear "why are you mad?" when I am not angry. I simply meet the world with a straight face that few seem to understand or appreciate. Unfortunately for them, a Sigma doesn't care what others think because I have more important things to do. I have a life, a purpose, a mission, and a mark to make in the world before I leave it. That is what makes this Sigma tick ...
Few years back, i found out, i am an empath more like a dark empath to be precise, lol and now realizing that I'm a Sigma male, after watching few of this videos, learned something new today, thanks, half battles won when you know thyself.
I can't stand small talk. People either think I don't like them or depressed etc. I'm always thinking about the big picture; 30,000 foot view if you will. When I do speak on subjects it's at a level most don't understand, and they think I'm weird, conspiratorial, so they get annoyed; while it's completely obvious to me. I don't understand why they don't understand. As far as I'm concerned they should already know what I'm referring to. That's how it's always been but it can get tiresome.
All of these aspects apply to me. I'm so glad I'm not the only one suffering from them. I know that's kind of evil but everybody would feel some form of comfort in my situation. I'm always the odd one out and I keep having great ideas that nobody understands. I get asked if I'm okay almost daily and I'm always the last to know about things. People are always making remarks because they're mistaking my silence for arrogance and I constantly think about certain things. I can't even talk to other people about this topic because no one really understands me. They think it's more simple than it actually is. I really want to make this comment even longer and explain more clearly but there is no point in it.
A daily conversation. "What's wrong?" "Nothing" "It takes more energy to frown than it does to smile" "Yeah, it takes more energy to point that out than it does to leave me alone"
2:00 😂🤣😂🤣Very true . I only look fully human on some photo taken by suprise and and only if the timing is right...Was caught in a burst of laughter 30 years ago and it's still my mom's favourite picture of me . She was so stoked about it she had it enlarged and framed .
Yeah,the dumbing down your ideas thing. It kills me. Ide rather not talk to some people just because I know they won't understand anything I'm saying even if I make it easy to understand lol.
I experience every trait on this list but there's another that really gets to me. Wasting time and energy on fruitless endeavors. Wintertime is my biggest one. Shoveling snow takes so much time and energy that I would rather apply in more useful ways. People often try to convince me snow is needed to maintain water levels in lakes and reservoirs. Rain I believe be just as effective. Besides, I don't enjoy cold. Here in northern Minnesota winter is almost 6 months long. Time that is wasted indoors. So many things are delayed because of cold and snow.
Dont be frustrated when you try to help somebody but they dont take it seriously. Tell them once then let them experience what they neglected then wait for them to come back to you for advice. You shouldnt waste your power on someone who dont appreciate it.
Boring and predictable mass people find me "stone face" and "loner". Soulful and thoughtful people find me intelligent and interesting and the feeling is mutual. But I seldom meet them. Today I sat on a park bench under a deep oak full of colorful leaves under the shining October sun and read a book about Buddhism, before that I meditated for 30 minute's. I live Sigma all the time. On the inside and on the outside.
Omg yea the stone face thing. Everyone thinks I’m a secret killer or something. Smh
@@perfectcell_21 facts love your name
I got the stone face attitude . Some people think I'm creepy . I don't care .
must agree that we are categorized into two extremes, either boring loner or fascinating thoughtful deep thinking...
I myself don't have a solid group of friends, most days I go about carrying conversation work related or as I carry out my responsibilities. rarely do I converse for the sake of conversing, but I meet gems of a human being where a conversation sparks up that will long keep a light burning in me
@@nelsonvargas9527 Good. Your inner world is fantastic. The others, as boring as a gray wall.
"Hostages who were told to smile for the camera"
Lol 🤣 so true mate!
Thanks for bringing light to something I've lived with my whole life and didn't know how to verbalize. I am no alpha. I am definitely no beta. I don't need friends and can operate completely confidently and competently on my own. I'm exhausted by explaining things to people that seem obvious to me. Thanks to this new information, I am planning on making some major changes in my life and will stop listening to people who don't know how I operate. I will no longer go with the flow and accept mediocrity simply because I work for mediocre people. Time to make my own way. A thousand thanks.
I’m with ya
I tend to treat mediocrity with scorn - but what I can get a headache from is the group of people screaming loudly and inspired by their own "perfection" and screaming in chorus! I'm not ashamed to admit that I used to abuse them with physical terror! I attack after two warnings! Fast, ruthless consistency, efficient! So that he doesn't feel like it, not only to attack back - but also to remove himself completely from my environment forever!
And since, as you can imagine - I'm self-righteous, I'm not usually interested in the person's soul! I tend to see these as a kind of annoying little obstacle! And if that person, by chance, turns out to be a tougher opponent - then I will unleash my truly dark side! The Mr.Hyde living in me!
Well spoken! I'm doing the same 💯
me too. My wife finally understands me & gets my behaviour(s) now. It’s been a much better & stronger relationship now that we both know the things that I couldn’t quite put into proper words before.
Amen. Same realizations here. I could have used this tidbit decades ago
I could sense what most cannot . I could feel what most cannot . I could hear hear what most cannot .
listening to your videos makes me feel more understood than everyone around me. Its a curse and a blessing to be me.
You not alone man.
The downside to being a Sigma is pretty stiff, but the upside is you run your life yourself. Having control over your life puts everything else in second-or more-place. For me, anyhow!
At first I saw it as a curse, but after going through the worse season in my life and relying more on my faith, its been all blessings. Keep striving to remain sovereign…🤙🏽
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I too am a Sigma Male,Johnny and am highly sensitive to my surroundings.I have learned its also best to learn and facilitate how to let go and forgive others.
I never thought of myself as a sigma male, but its shoking that about 10/12 characteristics fits in my life experiences so perfectly...
I find that it’s truly amazing how a character can be described with such accuracy
I can't say I totally agree with #6.
I'm not the last to know because I'm out of touch. It's due to me minding my own business and not getting sucked into gossip.
I'm completely aware of what's happening in the world around me, but it gets prioritized to what immediately affects me and mine.
I don't agree with 6 either. I'm always in the know due to reading the news and keeping an eye on events.
When it got to number 6, I thought the same thing but otherwise everything was on point and accurate.
I have struggled my entire life. I’m happy I am not alone. Everything he said is exactly how I have always lived my life. I have no close friends and never have. I’ve always believed that there is something wrong with me. Thanks to who ever created this video
I am so glad you liked it!
We all need to find our true friends. In golfing, running, or online, bro. ;)
You not alone.
All these sigma videos blow my mind, like everything is wicked on point as to who i am and my whole life i had no idea
Being understood as a Sigma feels appreciated!
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What you just describe was me and I’m proud to be a sigma male by keeping it to myself. 😁
...thats right.
I feel like a female sigma lol
"U don't need much to be happy "LOL
@@wairuriblackpoet8252 does not exist
Calling yourself sigma doesnt make you a sigma, lol.
The photo thing had me screaming finally, someone understands
wouldn't a real Sigma male not even watch this video and or care if the world "got" him?
@@bigassdummy46 that would be alpha )
😂😂😂
Oh my god i never liked my self on photo's but others like my photo's
smilling is not my game on pictures but my freinds said always smile 😂😂
Showed my doctor a picture of an emotionless facial expression in a moment of bliss with my kids (lunch at a park) I was happy but my facial expression looked like a soulless being, he wasn't concerned like I was, watching this I understand why now
@@socialengineering2539 same to me brother😅 always tells me to smile, even if I'm not okay without smiling, photo looks awkward anyways
This guy hides nothing if I smile it’s definitely genuine. 👍
I received many times, from my current environment, everything that was said here! My ex-wife and even my father considered me an emotional cripple (even a sociopath), and I considered it a waste of energy to explain the concept of colors to the blind! I already thought there was something wrong with me, but what I saw in this video is 95+% about me!
(I listen to the news with news analyses, I haven't had a television for 20 years, and the cheeky, brainwashing PR activity of the various news channels annoys and disgusts me!)
Many people have told me that I am misanthropic, heartless, too rational, insensitive and an intellectual snob!In fact,
I have only recently begun to understand that I am not alone - that we are all alone!
With my IQ of around 140, I'm not even a real genius, but human stupidity can really annoy me - especially when it's combined with diligence, dedication and the will to do something! Does this sound familiar to anyone but me?
Thank you for the video, soul-searching and effective information! And i wish for you Happy New Year!
We are the Awakened ones, while the world is asleep.
We would be friends. [grin]
You’re not a sigma…you’re an old and haggard narcissist.
@@Conky-or8ic
If I really was, I'd be furious right now! However, I am interested in what you deduced this from? And what caused the anger/jealousy behind your comment? And to be precise - I am middle aged!😎
This video describes me exactly.My silence is confused with arrogance .I never share my true feelings with anyone,if I happen to do so ,I will rather lie than telling my true feelings .I even find it difficult to share my great memories or things with anyone. I had. Even tried to change 🥺🥺but I failed
I've been a Sigma all this time n thought I was just a moody loner type bastard 🙃 This changes everything going forward!
Good for you
if you think that of yourself, then re evaluate your conclusion my friend
@@ou6775 👍🏼 absolutely I am! This video is like a light bulb moment !
You could be both 😂😂
@@dentonjordan6992 heh, no need to categorize yourself, keeps folks guessing 😂
Yes. Constantly asking if I'm OK. I get so mad when they don't take my word for it.
"Why are you so mad?"
I mean I wasn't until you asked me 6 different times
I hate that when people tell me to smile. I want to say "Give me something to smile about," but usually don't say anything.
Just tell them that. While being detached about the outcome.
Or you could tell them that you only smile when something of personal importance is truly filling you with joy, or when your current situation makes you genuinely more happy than usual, or when you are feeling pleasure in something to your own taste.
i usually have to fall back on a rare memory that made me smile. That can kinda get a smile out of me - view this effort as a kindness to others. (Long way of saying - "yes I relate.")
My thought exactly.
I’m definitely a Sigma male and always have been. Glad they finally have term for it. Being thought of as a “loner” or “weird” isn’t accurate, I love people one on one usually but despise large crowds. I have never been into organized sports but an accomplished athlete in individual sports like surfing, hang gliding, and skydiving.
I refuse to “follow the crowd” not interested at all in mediocrity or the social “benefits” that go along with that. In school, I never went to pep rallies or sporting events I wasn’t interested in. I’d rather read a book or invent a new solution to a common task that is overlooked by the masses. My brain won’t shut down and when I find a solution to a problem, I’m excited to share it with others.
Sometimes people think I’m a genius but more often, I’m just “going against the grain” as usual. Like, “This is the way we’ve always done it, why complicate things?” (When actually, I’ve simplified things.)
Every failure in a solution to a problem is actually a success because I’ve tested it and it doesn’t work. So I modify it until it does.
I’m very happy being this way even though society thinks I shouldn’t be. I’m very picky about people and only have a few very close friends. Good women find me attractive and mysterious. Average ones hate my guts. (I knew they would)
Being a lifelong guitarist/singer/ songwriter in many rock bands, playing on stage in front of large crowds is really fun but it’s an act.
As soon as the show is over, I want away from the crowd. I’ll go home and over-analyze what went well with the crowd and what did not. My lead was too technical and hard to follow. That was bad. The silly things I did got cheers. Go figure.
Anyway, I’m very happy living this way and for those of you fellow Sigmas out there who identify with these apparent afflictions of our condition, I’d love to hear from you.
Peace and aloha to all of you, be safe, keep pondering the cosmos.
You are just lonely and wierd
What turned you into a Sigma? I spent nearly all of my childhood being bullied physically and mentally, until one day, I snapped. I have a slightly autistic brother who is two years older than me and I had to defend him constantly as kids by taking the hits both physically and mentally instead of him, from people way older than me. By the time I left school, I was already a man among boys. Something I have always noticed throughout my life though, (I'm almost 50 now) is that Alpha's have never tried to dominate/intimidate me....not even verbally. I must give off a certain vibe.
I am also the sort of person that would jump in and help someone in need before even contemplating the consequences.
I'm almost 50 also and its weird know there are more like me out here.
The "alpha " stuff is a game. If you don't play along, they have to reinvent themselves or expose themselves, and they resent it.
Explains every thing.
Listening to your videos have allowed myself to really understand myself and how I am around others. Thank you for your videos.
I also believe Sigma's were probably the most likely group of people to refuse the mandated jabs...like I did. They would have fully researched it all (like I did) before making an informed decision and realizing it was a huge con from the start (just like I did). I hope many others did too.
This is worth looking into more.
Not only that. Despised the fact, that the “injection club” became cult like. Rejected the mass peer pressure point of it. Felt no need to go along to get along.
Yep... No jabs here.
Yup.
All of the above reasons, along with hearing that people who have allergies, shouldn’t get it. But I also agree with the injection cult
It's exhausting faking emotions, I rather not see others if I'm in that state, which happens to be almost always. I enjoy my private emotions as they help me grow, since I've been a loner since childhood I find it difficult to pretend to like most people
#6 is odd for me. I love politics and everything that comes with it. I can spend hours trying to understand other countries political system and stay up to date with news concerning world events and such. I could care less about what's happening in my own country. It all depends on everyone's passion.
Its just think outside the box curiousity. And its common for sigmas
Kudos mate 🎈
I’m with you on that one, perhaps you’re the last to learn about some senseless gossip or fad.
Politics on the other hand is concerned with complexity, philosophy, values and a big picture so would see this area as something of interest to Sigmas.
I did spend years not taking any notice of politics but now I seem obsessed. But I think that's kind of the point you either ignore something or obsess over it. Everyone has their interests, I think the main thing to take from it is that you aren't watching the news for gossip or something to talk about. If anything you keep your political stance mainly to yourself as you aren't watching it for a conversation starter
Real sigma is a keen observer,.
He has the ability to observe, smell and expose fake sigma but didn't care much of doing it. However, if his interest caught;
most of individuals who commented on every video about male personality traits and identifying theirselves as a sigma will be exposed, (undeniably) by a real sigma. Remember that real sigma don't care about showing off or telling the crowd that he is a sigma (like stating who he is or how his action undertakes) what these fake and self proclaimed sigma are doing.
This is so accurate.
All your videos describe my life since I was young.
I think challenge I went through as growing up made me what I am. and also I was born this way my personality was improved through the years.
Re: #6, I think that's true about insignificant things like who a Kardashian is dating or what some celebrity or local social bee is doing. But this Sigma generally keeps abreast of consequential national & world events, and has strong personal opinions on them. I usually don't inflict my opinions on others.
Now I understand why I’m different from others, I have tried to be like other all my life and it’ s hard. What you described is so me, now I understand and I’m proud, nothing wrong with me, I’m ok. Thank you.
My ex gf sent me this,I use to tell her I am the way I am because I'm wired like that, it was mind blowing watching this and a few others how precise this was to me lol
I do love my little world. It’s a beautiful place. 👍
I ran across these Sigma videos simply by mistake and have found they describe me completely. I never thought before that anyone could possibly understand me. There should be a Sigma organization of like minded people .
I love seeing people's reaction when I tell them I don't own a TV
Yes, most of this video resonates with me. I'm constantly asked at work if I'm ok because I often keep to myself with a blank expression on my face most of the time. And I dont bother anyone about things unless it is important or an issue needs to be addressed, immediately.
My wife gets angry at me because she says I think to much or go to deep about something. And when I do share something I've been thinking about or a revelation I have, She just says "whatever" and goes back to what she was doing. And yes, it drives me crazy. Because she's always asking me what's wrong. Especially when I'm in my mental safe space. Why do most people feel that there has to be something wrong to be silent or reserved? I like my sigma life. I'm just tired of constant ridicule because people don't get me. 777
I find that my thoughts and ideas and perspectives are difficult for others to comprehend. When I used to share my thoughts and perspective the room would always becomes quiet and I used to think that I said something dumb, self doubt would consume me and regret would follow but today, I know that they simply could not comprehend what I said so I always follow up with a dumbed down version.
I tick every box. That first one about smiling more is pertinent. I'm fed up with people saying "smile it might not happen", yet actually I'm happy and deep in thought. They never get it though.
Awful photos I don't even like taken photos that much 😶
we are the same on that one,
I was always an extrovert, but a sigma too. Now as older, I'm beginning to be more introverted.
People are simply too crazy for my taste, but I love them, actually. Feels them as children in grown-up bodies.
Thank you for these great lectures. I finally understand why I am the guy I am.
You can't change yourself lol
@@insightfulrealm2866 Can't stand fakery. The main trait of Sigmas I recognize in myself. I tried to fit God damn it, but I can't 😁
talking to a brick wall, one of my fav sayings, sometimes i feel like im with a bunch of zombies, i have been told to tone down so many times by
those that have no clue as to what i am talking about. when i drove the big rigs it was so peaceful for me because i was in my own little world with no
one to bother me. when at work i love working by myself seperate from the others because i have nothing in common with them.
Number 3 is totally spot on!
My husband was like this, spotting problems and he never smiled. He did for me and my daughter. You AS are like this.
Thank you this channel from a “ Lone wolf wandering in the wilderness “ but is now found !
I love watching management at work catch up to my ideas that I voiced years earlier. It was frustrating at first, now I learned to revel in it to myself.
I've always felt like I've been some kind of a misfit. Watching your videos lets me know I have a place in this world.
You and I, both, pal.
As a little kid in elementary school I was told by my 4th grade teacher that I was a misfit and a nonconformist and that if I didn't straighten up, toe the line and get with the program he predicted that I would end up serving a long sentence in prison
3.26 When Dr Cotto, my math professor during my first year in college recommended me not to register in his statistic class before taking math 101 I was offended. I've never had a high grade in math but I remembered getting a score of 710 on my CAT scores.
I've had flunk a first time due to I had no interest in his class, I found his system soo boring. He finally agreed and I got a 97 percent at the end of the semester.
The following semester I registered in 101 as he recommended. The young professor at one point got stuck with an Equation in the middle of the class. To his surprise I proposed the steps to the problem and at the end the whole class ended up following my system under his orders.
#2 Working as a consultant, I often struggled to project my thoughts to new clients. I deliver my reports I often had to spoon feed them to the audience to understand my point of views. I expect a report to Engineers will differ from Accountants whilst Construction reports differ from Sales Staff. I have used graphs, GANTT Charts / Statistics & Raw Data intwined in Power Point Presentations but I still get a few HUHS ???
There is definitely a difference between under 40 years of age Sigma males and over 40 ones. I like this channel however these videos seem to focus on youthful much less self assured immature Sigmas in there 20's-30's of today as opposed to us elder ones in our late 40's and beyond once we are really in our zone of figuring out our place in the world and how to navigate it well. I was a Sigma before it was even a thing or cool as it is today. I am seeing so many man today trying so very hard to be a sigma type male personality when you are kind born to it or raised from the start by Sigma type parents. It is kinda genetic if you ask me or learned from a very young age. A lot of Gen X men and women seem to be Sigmas out of necessity as latchkey kids because in the 80's both parents were "ALWAYS" at work and night classes community college many times. Our parents really raised the bar and had high expectations of us which was ok by me. We had to step up and take care of ourselves (and each other) with little to no supervision at all. So by default that created a generation of self sufficient, practical, serious, focused, no nonsense, direct and ulta-effective coming of age adults. It is a lifestyle that you just don't choose and many times even want. It is just who you are. Back in the day before it was a thing we were just loners that called things as they are plainly and fit in practically anywhere but nowhere at the same time. People always said "your just complicated and so mysterious Matthew". Never really felt that but Ok. I am now 54 and retired from a career in the Army now on pension. I really came into my own at around 48ish. I am experiencing the best time period of my life today as a Sigma. A Sigma spiritual awakening if you will really. Life is really good but it hasn't always been that way as a life long reluctant Sigma. Like wine we seem to get better with age figuring it all out. So if your a Sigma good luck to ya, your gonna need it because it isn't easy. If your trying desperately to become one. Nice try, be ok with who you are and don't be a phoney bologna!
Yes we do , I’ll be 63 next month and I definitely understand who I am much better now than in my 20s & 30s
@@rustymakely1057 I know right.
Thanks to my personality type, I was told back in college my super power was being able to hold the exact same facial expression no matter the surroundings. We used to do a lot of drugs and drinking recreationally back then and no matter what fights and action we came across I brought insane intimidation as the behemoth in the back row starting you down. Working men don't smile because this isn't a game.
Being a Sigma male is the toughest life out there, being one myself is always met with opposition. Sometimes unintentional, but frustrating none the less. Being a bouncer ( security officer ) for 7 years also was tough, showing no emotion or always looking angry, when all i am doing is watching over everyone and enjoying my night fully. It is easy to be misunderstood when I never laughed at a joke loudly, even though i was highly entertained. But is annoying when they point out a slight smile or a snigger or chuckle.
I was told that I'd be a good bouncer
@@lazyrusclubberlang5996 What is stopping you from going for the job?
@@moosethe1st910 Too many people around. Hate the club
@@lazyrusclubberlang5996 lol fair enough, it does get rough in there.
I never knew who I was or why I did not ...quite...fit in. I knew that I was no Beta, and never sought the limelight like the superficial Alphas. Finally, a spot on description of my personality and the reasons I was always the odd ball.......Highly intelligent and driven oddball....but still the oddball.
I once started a club for sigmas. Nobody ever showed up, but that was fine.
I see what you did there 😂
I joined the club but didn't see a reason to partisipate.
Yep we have to deal with lots of criticism and skepticism indeed.
For several months now, I've been considering whether I am actually a psychopath. I've known for some time that I don't process emotions like other people. I've often been called an "Alpha" (especially with all the work I do with canines), but that term never felt like it really fit me. Some aspects, sure, but certainly not most. I found out about the term "Sigma Male" just yesterday and have watched several of these videos talking about their traits. Holy cow! As I go through these videos I think of several situations where I've reacted like a textbook Sigma. And, considering that we are among the rarest of the male types, it doesn't surprise me that I haven't run into many others and, when I do, we get along fantastically. It's also kind of nice to know that I'm not "broken", just different.
Don't know how I stumbled onto this but you have explained my life, I know I have never "fitted in" and thanks to this video I now understand why.
In re "smile more"... I get told this sometimes, and I like to reply "Hey, I've got a smile scheduled for November."
Being constantly misunderstood is def not ok. No one gets used to not being truly seen or heard.
Practice more cause no one noticed your comment either
@@kylewilkinson6975 …I just farted…you say something??
I am so glad that i found this channel, now i can finally understand myself better
Funny, I never thought I'd find internet videos about myself. Always the loner, the outcast, the pitiful one. But the thing about happiness is relative to the society you live in. We're not that closed off from the world. The question is, where is the best place for Sigmas?
Me to a T
I went to the mountains isolated.
Every time I go shopping,once a month,...after a couple of hours my head becomes chaos for no reason.
So while I wonder how ppl manage to live happily in chaos ,they wonder how am I living happily isolated...we pity each other 🤣
At a dungeons and dragons game.
the place that he created around him
This explains everything. I appreciate this video very much. Life gets very difficult when you feel like an outcast in every social situation. One begins to think they're crazy at times.
I have been called heartless a few times and I thought it was funny. very accurate video
Been a misfit, is not bad 'cause misfit also means unique person.
Which also means flirting with insanity till you figure it out...
Having to dumb down converations is *VERY* aggrivating....
This is so true. I am a Sigma INFJ Male.
It’s like you’ve spent a month with me and know everything about me. This video resonates so much it makes me paranoid. Thank you for showing me that I’m not alone.
This is spot on !!! why am I just now learning about this? but I have "learned how to smile"
This is me to the tee. Until I found these videos I felt like I just didn’t fit in. I literally was going to seek professional help because I felt that way.
Sometimes it's nice to be able to put a name on it. For me, it's an 'EBQ', Energy Based Quarkelectronian seems to most fit.
Sigma female here. I wonder how two sigmas would work out in a relationship… asking for a single friend 😉
My wife has a few sigma traits - tho not really sigma (as I am.) I expect 2 pure sigmas could get along well - sharing depth, contentment, lack frantic materialism etc.
There is a saying that opposites attract. That is only half the story - opposites attract only if they compliment each other.
So 2 sigmas will do great if per what I first said above is what they are looking for.
In contrast let's say a sigma male (CEO?) finds his career/interests complimented by having an extrovert (beta?) wife warming up social contacts at a business party. He might find her outlook fascinating. (And he can be his sigma self with her in the rest of the relationship.)
In brief: there is no one answer to your question -- but a good rule of thumb is: compliments attract. (If you are being a matchmaker - being "compliments" really is an intangible only the couple can figure out.)
They both would agree on sleeping in different rooms as they used to.
What means sigma female ?
I never got it...
They describe woman with man's behaviour which is abnormal.
Its like we say that its not possible to be two roosters in the same chicken house!
@@craterous I think two sigmas is not good match...
...or the perfect match!
They should be in two continents for a relation. 🗾 🗺️
Love this episode, really good to the point.
I've been working for my self for almost a decade. I am so glad I do not have to play dumb at work any more!
You keep your fake smile . I'll keep my real smile .
Throughout much of my life (age 65), it would have been nice to have others accept me for the sigma that I am rather than persist with their vision or ideas of what they would expect from me. Example: Often, I would be criticized for the way I went about doing a given task, but praised over the completed results!
"Sygmus are often told to smile more." The captions are great.
always thought I was a bit of alpha but damn this nailed me on every point. thank you.
I frequently have a straight expression; I borrow a statement from the late LaVell Edwards, BYU football coach, "I'm a happy guy, I've just never told my face."
After I watched this I remember when I was 10yrs old my family and cousins though that I'm dumb because look at the sky or sometimes looking aimlessly but they didn't know that I'm thinking of so many possibilities in a given situation infront of me things that could possibly happened or will happen.
I hear too often "smile" when I'm content and not unhappy. It is simply that I've met too many cheesy-faced liars and a smile doesn't impress me. I also hear "why are you mad?" when I am not angry. I simply meet the world with a straight face that few seem to understand or appreciate. Unfortunately for them, a Sigma doesn't care what others think because I have more important things to do. I have a life, a purpose, a mission, and a mark to make in the world before I leave it. That is what makes this Sigma tick ...
Few years back, i found out, i am an empath more like a dark empath to be precise, lol and now realizing that I'm a Sigma male, after watching few of this videos, learned something new today, thanks, half battles won when you know thyself.
This video definitely describes me all the way! Great video!
Thanks a lot, for another great video. Love U.
4:16 PREACH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Another great and truthful video 👍🏾👍🏾🤙🏾
Try being a Sigma male and attending a Tony Robbins event. Dude, I don't need to jump around. It's very annoying.
That is quite the visual picture - a sigma at a Robbins event. I listened to his "tapes" some, never been tempted by an event per your observation.
It's such a blessing to watch these videos and subsequently watch all the sigma males pop up in the comments.
Like some kind of 'sigma-off'..lel
I can't stand small talk. People either think I don't like them or depressed etc. I'm always thinking about the big picture; 30,000 foot view if you will. When I do speak on subjects it's at a level most don't understand, and they think I'm weird, conspiratorial, so they get annoyed; while it's completely obvious to me. I don't understand why they don't understand. As far as I'm concerned they should already know what I'm referring to. That's how it's always been but it can get tiresome.
All of these aspects apply to me. I'm so glad I'm not the only one suffering from them. I know that's kind of evil but everybody would feel some form of comfort in my situation. I'm always the odd one out and I keep having great ideas that nobody understands. I get asked if I'm okay almost daily and I'm always the last to know about things. People are always making remarks because they're mistaking my silence for arrogance and I constantly think about certain things. I can't even talk to other people about this topic because no one really understands me. They think it's more simple than it actually is. I really want to make this comment even longer and explain more clearly but there is no point in it.
I understand.
But thank you for not blabbing on about things true sigmas don't care about
Yes use right i also faced these type of problems but the thing is i dont take it very seriously and i learnt something from this
You can smile with your eyes, thats what i say to my boss when ever it comes up.
Clever! Will rermember that.
"you should smile more.". I do smile on the inside. The gesture doesn't reach my face. Blocked by my thoughts
I heard no lies.
A daily conversation.
"What's wrong?"
"Nothing"
"It takes more energy to frown than it does to smile"
"Yeah, it takes more energy to point that out than it does to leave me alone"
Omg yes on the pictures. I work in a school so school pictures every year twice a year. Same guy says smile. I say I am. Then he says oh....
2:00 😂🤣😂🤣Very true . I only look fully human on some photo taken by suprise and and only if the timing is right...Was caught in a burst of laughter 30 years ago and it's still my mom's favourite picture of me . She was so stoked about it she had it enlarged and framed .
For years I thought I was mentally ill or something, when In reality I was just a sigma male.
Thank you for this video!!
Yeah,the dumbing down your ideas thing. It kills me. Ide rather not talk to some people just because I know they won't understand anything I'm saying even if I make it easy to understand lol.
I smile a lot and act agreeably to put those around me at ease. But then they are surprised when they find out what I really think.
Thanks for the video. I'm glad this came up as this has confirmed who I am inside.
I experience every trait on this list but there's another that really gets to me. Wasting time and energy on fruitless endeavors. Wintertime is my biggest one. Shoveling snow takes so much time and energy that I would rather apply in more useful ways. People often try to convince me snow is needed to maintain water levels in lakes and reservoirs. Rain I believe be just as effective. Besides, I don't enjoy cold. Here in northern Minnesota winter is almost 6 months long. Time that is wasted indoors. So many things are delayed because of cold and snow.
I used to say , there was no direct correlation between my facial expression and my state of mind..
this explains why ..
Dont be frustrated when you try to help somebody but they dont take it seriously. Tell them once then let them experience what they neglected then wait for them to come back to you for advice. You shouldnt waste your power on someone who dont appreciate it.