Kandi Burruss’ Emotional Reveal About Suicide Ideation as a Young Child

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  • Have you ever felt like the whole world was against you? Guest co-host Kandi Burruss reveals she thought about committing suicide at a young age.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 742

  • @shalomesther2215
    @shalomesther2215 2 роки тому +956

    Had it not been for God most of us would have died a long time ago

    • @violetl.4615
      @violetl.4615 2 роки тому +30

      Had it not been for God, most of our loved ones would have been alive today

    • @Godslight1970s
      @Godslight1970s 2 роки тому +11

      Amen 🙌🏾 I agree shalom Esther. God is simply amazing and deserves all the praise!!

    • @casandraogoe8394
      @casandraogoe8394 2 роки тому +5

      Amen

    • @psat21
      @psat21 2 роки тому +4

      Amen

    • @JammyG360
      @JammyG360 2 роки тому +6

      A word!!

  • @brooklynforever1990
    @brooklynforever1990 2 роки тому +626

    This why Kandi is so blessed. She always shares from heart and so openly. I’m thankful she made it to the other side.

    • @robinlight
      @robinlight 2 роки тому

      Me too

    • @nikihamilton8781
      @nikihamilton8781 2 роки тому +3

      @RawFacts God does bless with money and everything else you need in this life. God knows this world is ran on money and he will bless you with it and opportunities to make. Look at Tabitha Brown. The Bible says seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you. Get to know God better yourself before you tell someone that they don’t know him.

    • @infinitybless7132
      @infinitybless7132 2 роки тому

      Amen 🙏

    • @dianamcfarland1997
      @dianamcfarland1997 2 роки тому +2

      SO TRUE! THIS IS MAKING ME CRY!! KANDI IS SOOO BLESSED! LOVE U!!

    • @leelee3231
      @leelee3231 2 роки тому +2

      @@rawfacts5664 being on this platform sharing a testimony is a HUGE blessing, she could be helping someone who may have thought about taking their own life. People aren’t always speaking about money when they say someone is blessed.

  • @TheTruthAintInYa
    @TheTruthAintInYa 2 роки тому +724

    This is why we need the REAL having powerful talks like this can change so many lives. So many people watching this, and this might touch someone today and save a life!

    • @jordanharrington3048
      @jordanharrington3048 2 роки тому +1

      THIIIIIISSSSSSS!!!!No one else is doing it!!!

    • @mygmailmygmail5933
      @mygmailmygmail5933 2 роки тому

      Well had they'd been doing REAL interviews like this instead of bickering with one another and backstabbing getting people kicked off* the show they wouldn't have gotten canceled. Too Late

    • @TheTruthAintInYa
      @TheTruthAintInYa 2 роки тому +2

      @@mygmailmygmail5933 child please Tamar got herself kicked off the show just like you got yourself fired from your job

  • @bakarikentrell527
    @bakarikentrell527 2 роки тому +175

    14 - 25 are the MOST IMPORTANT AGES for minority children. Because lots of us grow up in one parent households, it makes the burden much harder on our parents to navigate us through growing pains of teenage and young adult life. USUALLY there is a balance of MOM and DAD to handle the craziness, but with one parent its harder. That causes many teens to not receive enough attention (not for lack of love or trying) and they act out and sometimes it is final and ruins their life. Like Kandi, I am so grateful to have survived those years because its so easy to fall and lose sight.

    • @kimberlyjones538
      @kimberlyjones538 2 роки тому +10

      I agree !!! And PTSD in urban communities is real

    • @J.H90
      @J.H90 2 роки тому +2

      100% right

    • @2jcward
      @2jcward 2 роки тому +2

      I had both parents with both love and still went through this. You think you’re parents are programmed to love you, so when you don’t experience love somewhere else it’s to say the least - disappointing.

  • @Klvnbrgs93
    @Klvnbrgs93 2 роки тому +186

    Kandi always being so sincere about her personal life .

  • @Ju-ok5xg
    @Ju-ok5xg 2 роки тому +291

    Now this is THE REAL! Thank you Kandi!! Sharing your story is so powerful.

    • @jeanettelewis9997
      @jeanettelewis9997 2 роки тому

      Love your true words ❤ much-needed ❤ I'm glad you are here and we all love you from a distance Kandi

    • @m.w.njoroge7438
      @m.w.njoroge7438 2 роки тому +1

      In 8th grade, I wrote a short story about suicide. As the only Black girl in my grade at a mostly White school, I think I felt very excluded. I had tried so hard to fit in but it didn't work. Now, I wasn't serious about doing it but my English teacher had a private meeting with me after he read the story. He asked me if I was going to do it; I said no. That was it. No suicide hotline recommendations, no counseling. I don't think he even told my Mom...🤔 Anyhow, I can relate to feeling like the whole world was against me...But, clearly, I "took a beat". I'm happy to still be here.🎉🎈🥂

  • @icidaimon5670
    @icidaimon5670 2 роки тому +549

    People need to be able to talk about these issues openly without worrying that people will think they’re crazy or have them committed. Let’s keep the conversation going and support one another. Truthfully, I would rather sit through hours of conversation before than cry about the losing the person after. Thank you for this segment 🙏🏽💛

    • @uniqsolsession
      @uniqsolsession 2 роки тому +11

      I told my family I needed help and they had my kids taken and me taken away in a cop car. I had to prove my sanity and go through a lot to get my kids back. Now I tell no one when I’m hurting 😢

    • @icidaimon5670
      @icidaimon5670 2 роки тому +4

      @@uniqsolsession I’m so sorry that happened to you. It’s so hard to reach for support only to find you have none…

    • @willwowxdrice642
      @willwowxdrice642 2 роки тому +1

      @@uniqsolsession 🖤💙🖤💙🖤

    • @ballershanelle
      @ballershanelle 2 роки тому

      Jada shared and fools think it's ok to use it as a laugh vs teaching or sharing to help another moment.

    • @jontisesamuelslewis7092
      @jontisesamuelslewis7092 2 роки тому +2

      @uniqsol I'm so sorry that happened to you. My goodness. Family will sometimes make some of the worst decisions that negatively impact those they say they love. 😢

  • @jennamiller7016
    @jennamiller7016 2 роки тому +18

    I’m autistic and I’ve been called ugly, stupid, fat, and was raped by my dad, bullied from middle school-high school, abused physically and verbally. And I’ve had suicidal thoughts and despite all that I found healing and the fatherly love I’ve always craved through Jesus Christ and my mom.

    • @howaboutval
      @howaboutval 2 роки тому +1

      ❤️❤️thankful you’re here.

    • @jennamiller7016
      @jennamiller7016 2 роки тому

      @@howaboutval thanks 😊

    • @meekmeek8198
      @meekmeek8198 Рік тому

      Amen ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @SuperDiamond009
      @SuperDiamond009 3 місяці тому

      Wow. I'm so sorry for your loss. Hope you're healing and living in peace at this time. I'm so sorry for your pain ❤.

    • @lovelywatts3566
      @lovelywatts3566 2 місяці тому

      Omg I’m sorry to hear this ❤

  • @carismas1467
    @carismas1467 2 роки тому +106

    Mental health is so important!! It needs to be talked more about!!!

  • @tru1tru
    @tru1tru 2 роки тому +185

    I tried suicide when I was like 18. I don’t even remember what was the reason at that Time. But I took a lot of pills and I feel like the lord wasn’t ready for me and that’s the only reason I’m still here.

    • @bfree4830
      @bfree4830 2 роки тому +9

      Amen, so happy for you!!

    • @chrison1604
      @chrison1604 2 роки тому +11

      Glad you’re alive!

    • @briannazimmerman5594
      @briannazimmerman5594 2 роки тому +3

      I’m so glad you are still here. God Bless you!

    • @cheriedeparis5000
      @cheriedeparis5000 2 роки тому +7

      I do not know you but I'm still happy to have you here with us. May God bless you my dear. No matter how dark things may seem around you know that God can give you the strength to overcome. Lots of hugs and love.

    • @genevieveaciro638
      @genevieveaciro638 2 роки тому

      Glad you are alive..

  • @dynamict4722
    @dynamict4722 2 роки тому +97

    This helped me Kandi. I’m struggling with social anxiety and feel very alone. I think about hurting myself a lot but I know I have so much more to live for. Thank you!

    • @jasminej2844
      @jasminej2844 2 роки тому +1

      Same and my younger bro is a mental hospital feel like I’m in hell everyday.

    • @lexiebboutique
      @lexiebboutique 2 роки тому +6

      It will get better seasons change and prayer helps

    • @passion2heal443
      @passion2heal443 2 роки тому +4

      I love you. If you never hear it again, just know Passion loves you. Stay positive you got this.

    • @RoseGstar
      @RoseGstar 2 роки тому

      Jesus loves you and he knows every struggle. He knew betrayal, pain and loneliness. He is there , talk to him.

  • @meandmycoworker7678
    @meandmycoworker7678 2 роки тому +3

    If you’re reading this and going through stuff. I pray God recharges you with so much good energy.

  • @MajesticMyronn
    @MajesticMyronn 2 роки тому +250

    Whew… alright! Well first of all I want to thank Kandi for being vulnerable and being able to tell her story… especially coming off this weekend seeing the rapper Chika making what seemed to be a definitive message or in this case letter on social media in regards to ending her life ! As a person on the receiving end… I can’t tell you how traumatizing it is having to be that ONE person who is reaching out or being a true friend to someone that is thinking about committing! I’ve had everything from goodbye messages… to literal pictures of slit wrists , bloody sinks ! Being alone in that situation and getting that text or that phone call… especially when it seems like it’s such a final thing to see or hear from that person and you don’t know if they went through with it or if them trying actually worked… it actually sometimes makes it hard to sleep at night when I think about it ! Abs for anyone that is suffering just know you are not alone and you should not feel as such … there is always someone noticing you and realizing how important u are to the world and then even if at the time u don’t feel like it ! You are loved… you are special… you are important ! Find a way to keep pushing and let your test become your testimony ! ♥️🙏🏾

  • @haryel5058
    @haryel5058 2 роки тому +261

    Thank you Kandi. I’m living that right now and have some suicidal thoughts because life ain’t going the way I wanted. But I’m trying to journal and saying that things will get better and still keep hope. Life is difficult right now :(

    • @hanitakargaran1616
      @hanitakargaran1616 2 роки тому +38

      you are worthy of a beautiful life - I don't know you, but I do know you are made perfectly in Gods image, I never want you to feel any other way! you got this! Reach out for help. Your life is worthy.

    • @yuuuuuppppp55
      @yuuuuuppppp55 2 роки тому +8

      do you need to talk?

    • @Thesilentvoice...
      @Thesilentvoice... 2 роки тому +7

      Try not to be hard on yourself, and give it to God. Just say whatever’s on your mind and he will listen. Also whoever is around you, that you trust, speak to them. Remember it’s okay to rest and breath when everything is hard, and know it’s not your fault. You are doing your best. Find little things that give you joy and cling onto them in the best way. You will find peace and get through it, rain ends, everything has a end.

    • @tishataray
      @tishataray 2 роки тому +5

      2021 was that year 4 me....felt stuck no matter what I did but 2022 brought hope

    • @cheriedeparis5000
      @cheriedeparis5000 2 роки тому +5

      Haryel things can get difficult in this life. It's just how life can be. However as difficult as things can get please know that you are worthy of being here. Please know also that there may be someone looking on who gets their hope from you as you deal with your own situation. Listen please don't allow yourself or anything to infiltrate your thoughts and say that you are not worthy. You are! Please press in and press on. There are lots of us out here that don't know you but we are praying for you. You can and will overcome! Lots of hugs and love

  • @BroughChatroom
    @BroughChatroom 2 роки тому +44

    Kandi touched my heart.

  • @lalyndacobb48
    @lalyndacobb48 2 роки тому +119

    Love how transparent she is here! I love Kandi ♥️ Always so down to earth and REAL.

  • @jasminesanders6034
    @jasminesanders6034 2 роки тому +145

    I have to say after years of watching the real this was the realist moment. I never cried watching a tv segment before but this was my first one. So many people can relate to this topic. Everything Kandi was saying many people have felt that way. You feel so low that you don’t even want to live anymore. I love how she said it doesn’t rain all the time you will see sunshine at the end of the tunnel. Thank you ladies for bringing awareness about suicide. Especially in the black community we don’t talk about these things. We think people won’t care, judgmental and think we crazy. Mental health is so important. If you are reading my comment and you feel like you relate to this I’m praying for healing and sending love. We all need to support one another and know it’s okay to seek professional help. Everybody need someone to talk to.

    • @kendolynow
      @kendolynow 2 роки тому +2

      Feeling this now... ❤️❤️❤️😭😞

  • @adrenna1973
    @adrenna1973 2 роки тому +35

    This is a real issue. I'm nearly 49 and came close to taking my life at 12 years old. I was tired of the trauma I was experiencing and it didn't want to feel it anymore. Kids don't have the tools to deal with it. Like Kandi I'm grateful that I decided against it. While my childhood was rough, I was able to use it help others and build resilience.

  • @janiboma
    @janiboma 2 роки тому +31

    Kandi is a special person. She helped so, so many people with this interview. She is beautiful inside and out.

  • @terrickclaybrooks7543
    @terrickclaybrooks7543 2 роки тому +77

    I needed to hear this ! I’ve been feeling suicidal. I’ve been feeling helpless and hopeless. A college student full time and full time work but HOMELESS AND MY TWIN SISTER IS IN A COMA. My father is dead. Bring black and gay on top of that is hard. But I try to never fall victim to my situation.

    • @RmclilCoreon
      @RmclilCoreon 2 роки тому +12

      Don’t give up bro

    • @lovebrittt
      @lovebrittt 2 роки тому +14

      There is hope. Please don’t give up. Pray and ask God to give you the strength you need to keep going.

    • @gaila.9852
      @gaila.9852 2 роки тому +8

      Please keep going. You will graduate college and do great things with your life.

    • @meximami3494
      @meximami3494 2 роки тому +2

      Keep pushing through, things will get better for you❤

    • @celeste2329
      @celeste2329 2 роки тому +1

      God bless you. you will make it out😞❤️

  • @lifeisbeautiful9455
    @lifeisbeautiful9455 2 роки тому +40

    I feel you Kandi, as a kid, and a teen when my mom died, plus my father was abusive and acting like it’s a sport, he couldn’t wait to bully and puck on me. God took the wrong person… this man tortured and abused my mother everyday and us. He acts like he’s this angel and he’s a monster.

    • @monamonae7732
      @monamonae7732 2 роки тому +5

      That breaks my heart to hear the main person in your life whom is suppose to help you weather life's storm's, etc. is causing havoc in your home. People are so miserable and they constantly front and take their pain out on other's, usually the one's closest to them. I hope he's out of your life and you can breathe so to speak and build a life of freedom and joy. We're suppose to forgive, yet that depends on the ordeal. Life isn't fair, so sad the wrong person was taken from your life. But continue to move forward and upward as a dedication to your mother. It's as if you're celebrating life for her. I often dream of a situation where God leads all the bad people to a certain building for whatever reason only for an explosion to occur. And when certain family members, etc learn of their demise, the joy of witnessing the burden lifted from their household's! I still believe this dream may have already in some format come to fruition. THE WORLD SURE WOULD BE A BETTER PLACE!

  • @mitziecyrus4205
    @mitziecyrus4205 2 роки тому +24

    That’s why I really admire most of these younger kids, because things we were told not to talk about, these young kids are speaking up

  • @stephenchristian3636
    @stephenchristian3636 2 роки тому +29

    Wow this is so brave of Kandi to share her testimony!!! Suicide/Mental illness/Mental health is real . Your mental health matters & when it comes to it nobody’s perception of you matters . As a Sexual Abuse/Physical abuse survivor starting at age 10-11 I contemplated suicide last year an even attempted thank God I survived. We can’t HEAL what we won’t REVEAL. I recommend therapy to EVERYONE it definitely saved my life an now I’m a Certified Mental health advocate/Support group facilitator/Counselor teamed with NAMI & American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. To my Kings 👑 & Queens 👸 I love you & you’re WORTH IT & LOVED. You’re here for a reason & divine purpose ‼️ I battle with Clinical Depression(Major depressive disorder) anxiety. Mental illness doesn’t define who you are . If you’re feeling suicidal please reach out I care & I’m here for you!!! In process of writing ✍🏾 my first book 📕.

  • @brownshugakale2410
    @brownshugakale2410 2 роки тому +15

    Her testimony just saved so many people - thank God for saving Kandi 🙏🏾❣️. She's such an amazing woman!

  • @tigisttemesgen9293
    @tigisttemesgen9293 2 роки тому +18

    For me its my faith in Jesus Christ got me through that time when it felt like the world was agnest me.🙏💛.

  • @lovelylady6341
    @lovelylady6341 2 роки тому +11

    When Candy cries we all cry😭😭🇿🇦

  • @The_RealEstate_Shorty
    @The_RealEstate_Shorty 2 роки тому +23

    Kandi is such an AMAZING role model!!! Not only is she the total package (smart, beautiful, humble, loyal, classy), but she also makes good life decisions, is not messy or negative and is what I would consider a virtuous woman. Thank God she is here with us so we can see her shine!

  • @gele1984
    @gele1984 2 роки тому +38

    Honestly this show must not be cancelled. it is saving lives everyday, I learn so much from this show and receive so much encouragement to keep pushing through in my life everyday. As a mom things get really tough and hard and you worry about everything but this show always helps me take a step back and not act in ways i will later regret in life and not ruin another human life because i am going through something that will eventually pass. i love you ladies and will start keeping you in my prayers. i wish i can hug you ladies someday.

    • @SoStormieTV
      @SoStormieTV 2 роки тому +2

      This comment is the one! I'm a mom as well and your statement really hits home. Thank you for sharing your truth mama!

  • @superben790
    @superben790 2 роки тому +23

    I almost went into suicide since my mom passed away but she didn't want me to go down that road, she wants me to continue my dreams and spend time with my brothers everyday!!!!!!

  • @kingly1407
    @kingly1407 2 роки тому +20

    I'm in my rainy seasons at this very moment. Things were already at an all time low. Then I suddenly lost my sister a few weeks ago. This life is no joke sometimes

    • @kingly1407
      @kingly1407 2 роки тому +2

      @Jessica Torres Thank you

    • @stinaw.454
      @stinaw.454 2 роки тому +1

      Right sunshine is coming! Rain can't last always

    • @dontbdirtyicecream
      @dontbdirtyicecream Рік тому

      hope you are in a better place now

  • @shakiracamejo5376
    @shakiracamejo5376 2 роки тому +7

    Thank you Lord Jesus for healing Kandi and bringing her to a place of peace in you Lord. Please help anyone else going through anything similar ❤️🤍🥺🙏🏾

  • @gaila.9852
    @gaila.9852 2 роки тому +4

    My “rainy season” has lasted for years, but I keep praying and holding on one day at a time.

  • @sweetov5
    @sweetov5 2 роки тому +64

    How can someone 'take a beat' if their own mother is the cause of their greatest pain? When we try locking off our mothers to protect our sanity our entire family is against us because they think no matter what you must respect and love your mother. A mother is supposed to protect their children. If they put another man... especially a stepfather before their children then it's toxic. Suddenly everything he does is right and everything an innocent child does is wrong. When that child turns into an adult if the situation is still toxic run very far away and never look back. That pain makes us regret doing certain things. Suicide is not a joke. People do not seriously attempt to take their lives for attention. They are tired of feeling any emotional pain and they just want it to end.

    • @bohlalenchabeleng1370
      @bohlalenchabeleng1370 2 роки тому +7

      I am so sorry for having to go through that. You can love and respect your mom without being around her toxic environment, let your mental health be your priority.

    • @ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy
      @ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy 2 роки тому +7

      It may be time to let go of your idea of what a mother is and see your mother the flawed human being we all are. It's up to you to protect your own peace and your own happiness. You'll be just fine. ❤️

    • @labrisimonesimone8042
      @labrisimonesimone8042 2 роки тому +4

      My mother did not protect me, she chose my step father over me. He abused her and me, he stopped abusing my mom, after my brother was born. But my abuse didn't stop, this went on for over 12 years. I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with this. I'm 49 years old, my husband don't understand he's like my mom. Suicide, tried it over 4 times, God wont let my die 🙏 ♥️

    • @sweetov5
      @sweetov5 2 роки тому +3

      @@labrisimonesimone8042 I'm so sorry that you went through that. You are still here for a reason. We can all heal by moving forward. I speak to my mother once a month and it's only for a video call to see her granddaughter. I block her after. We have to decide on harsh decisions to maintain our peace of mind. If we are still close ... we would only be hurting ourselves. My husband helped me make that decision because every time I saw and spoke to my mother I would physically get sick and depressed. It's because I love her and the pain of knowing that she thinks I'm a liar when I've opened up about the truth.... hurts like hell. My husband said the only thing she didn't do was kill me. Thinking about it... being too close to her is emotional suicide. We deserve to move on and be happy. We are not our mothers.

  • @Nique1920
    @Nique1920 2 роки тому +7

    It doesn’t rain forever!

  • @luzmendez7628
    @luzmendez7628 2 роки тому +42

    I love Kandi she so relatable and such an awesome person that’s why god has blessed her … sending so much love to her and her family 😍🥰

  • @rorleans98
    @rorleans98 2 роки тому +17

    Damn, this video could not have come at a better time, been at one of my lowest 😢

    • @RmclilCoreon
      @RmclilCoreon 2 роки тому +2

      Me too

    • @lovebrittt
      @lovebrittt 2 роки тому +4

      It gets better girl. I’ve been through postpartum depression and losing a good friend tragically. Things are not all well yet but I’m believing it will get better. Pray and ask God to give you the strength to keep going.

    • @crissydixon2299
      @crissydixon2299 2 роки тому

      Me too

    • @stephenchristian3636
      @stephenchristian3636 2 роки тому +1

      @ Renee Orleans praying for you love ❤️

  • @kejuanlynette8531
    @kejuanlynette8531 2 роки тому +3

    Kandi and Porscha. THIS is what RHOA should talk about! I had NO IDEA! I’m so glad she shared this!

  • @sandra4933
    @sandra4933 2 роки тому +40

    I've been struggling with crippling social anxiety and life ending thoughts for as long as I can remember. I would always complain of stomach aches and we would go to the hospital and they would always say that I was fine so it seemed like I was lying. It wasn't until I got older and started experiencing worse panic attacks that I realized my stomach aches were actually physical manifestations of anxiety. I still struggle and I avoid places like the mall and anywhere that's crowded cause it just feels like sensory overload. The thought of suicide comes into my mind a lot honestly but when it does I either pray (I like reciting psalm 23) or I call my mom. I am on anti-anxiety medication right now and I am looking into therapy so there's light at the end of the tunnel.

    • @RmclilCoreon
      @RmclilCoreon 2 роки тому +2

      I’m feeling the same way, minus the stomach aches

    • @khangelwakhathi508
      @khangelwakhathi508 2 роки тому +1

      Thats what is happening to me now but i havent been diagnosed yet im still waiting to meet a psychologist so i can get through. Right now im surviving on anti anxiety meds until my appointment date!!

    • @Jess1991virgo
      @Jess1991virgo 2 роки тому +3

      I understand, I used to have chest pains when my social anxiety was triggered. Over the years I tried to avoid the places that triggered me the most malls, clubs, amusement parks. It has gotten better over the years. Prayer and going to those places with people that understand helps.

    • @Kinzokumen_JEEB
      @Kinzokumen_JEEB 2 роки тому +1

      This is my life but unfortunately my family fails to understand me and so I have very little support and I do not want to be on meds forever but that and at time mantras help but right now I just feel like I am trapped on the outskirts of a black hole....but I wish you and anyone else struggling as well the best

    • @veronica5080
      @veronica5080 2 роки тому +1

      How do you find anxiety meda help? If they really do i want to get some

  • @TheAnonymous006
    @TheAnonymous006 2 роки тому +12

    I don’t know how the UA-cam algorithm got this to me, but it did at the right time!
    Kandi! Thank you thank you. Kandi is my idol in general. I can’t imagine the world without Kandi Buruss. You gave me hope tonight to keep pushing forward. I get chocked up “it’s gonna shine so bright on you when it does” 💙

  • @damienreacts3238
    @damienreacts3238 2 роки тому +37

    Yes I was a low point in my life about a year ago. I felt like my life was worthless and nobody cared about me. I had this thought ever since my mom passed in 2013. It was like my life ended. In 2020 December I just wanted to end it all. But something clicked in my mind and said don't end your life. Of I hadn't listen to that voice that day I wouldn't have made the move from Alabama to Georgia with good friends and ok job. I may not have it all together but life is much better and I'm still working on my mental health. Sometimes the storms seem like they will not end but they will if I trust in God and wait on him

    • @BrandyD1777
      @BrandyD1777 2 роки тому +1

      What you did, the steps you took, the attention you give to your mental, the strength you have is immeasurable. I got a tattoo that says "The darker the storm, the deeper the roots" .... Meaning every storm that comes my way I will take still stand tall because my roots become stronger, bigger, and it won't knock me down. Thank you for sharing.

    • @kenziej4301
      @kenziej4301 2 роки тому

      Aw sorry to hear that

    • @yasmin6376
      @yasmin6376 2 роки тому

      I’m so tired

    • @lifeisgolden41
      @lifeisgolden41 2 роки тому

      You are loved and a beautiful human. Things always get better.

    • @monamonae7732
      @monamonae7732 2 роки тому +1

      @@yasmin6376 Just take it day by day. Pray on matter and stay in the graces of good friend's. Many people are tired these day's, yet they keep striving! God will show you other's dealing with matters vastly worst than your strifes, like the people in Ukraine for instance. If they can still have the strength to still want to live and fight to survive, then you too can be a bit stronger! Seek some facet of mental therapy and constantly pray on situation, ask the Lord for strength. Hopefully one can look back on matter and see how far they've come.

  • @amandabuller8627
    @amandabuller8627 2 роки тому +10

    My daughter is going through this right now she is 14 teen now and she feels that there's nothing good going on in her life she thinks if she is gone that things would be better. Being a parent is a full time job and I love my child. I have gotten her the help she needs and I truly hope she finds herself and the amazing things this world has to offer. Mental health issues are no joke.

  • @aprilgarrett2596
    @aprilgarrett2596 2 роки тому +4

    I'm obsessed with Kandi. The community is SO proud of her.

  • @jewel-annnedd-baptiste3556
    @jewel-annnedd-baptiste3556 2 роки тому +5

    Gosh today I asked God to show me a sign of what my purpose here is. And a half hour after my son came to me and he said mom I’m so thankful for you. I don’t know what if do without you. And that showed me my purpose was there all along. Thanks Kandie for sharing.

  • @sonhg7951
    @sonhg7951 2 роки тому +3

    Her Mom is a perfectionist. So it makes sense that she would feel that way!

  • @lovelyb2416
    @lovelyb2416 2 роки тому +35

    Wow, this hit home, went into severe depression last year, tried many times to end myself. It’s difficult 😥, last year was the worst year of my life. I still don’t know if the rain will stop yet in my life.

    • @RmclilCoreon
      @RmclilCoreon 2 роки тому +7

      Don’t give up

    • @lovebrittt
      @lovebrittt 2 роки тому +8

      It will girl. You are not alone. Don’t give up hope. One day you too will look back and be glad you didn’t give up.

    • @fezilenkabinde9087
      @fezilenkabinde9087 2 роки тому +5

      Things will get better

    • @TheYumx2
      @TheYumx2 2 роки тому +4

      It will stop! Kandi said it lasted a while for her, but look at what was on the other side of her storm.... She was still very young when she made it! Kandi still struggles with things that's why she's still so emotional, but she feels in a better head space with it, and that's important, and I also love that about her experience because I don't think we all should expect perfection, esp when we have been in really dark spaces. It stains, but no matter what your cards you were dealt, someone has it worse than you, that's the interesting part about life, and I think keeping that in context can keep us in the fight... even when it's in the back of our minds. We have to let ourselves break down sometimes. We have to hate ourselves and our lives sometimes. Some of us have to go to places that only give us hopelessness. Places that give us nothing to go off of. Places we can't put into words. I hate it, but it's reality. We can overcome ANYTHING tho , don't forget to give yourself permission to have a little faith that life can be different for you. It can and will! I don't even know you but I love you & I see you. Please fight!

    • @toyburrell1029
      @toyburrell1029 2 роки тому

      It will. I've been there too and it has gotten better. It still rains sometimes, sometimes it's cloudy as hell but the sun shines too.

  • @agirlhasnoname6306
    @agirlhasnoname6306 2 роки тому +14

    EVERYBODY seems to be having the same feelings at some point in their lives. At this point it's just a milestone and we just have to get over ourselves. We all suffer...such is life.

  • @candacedawn357
    @candacedawn357 2 роки тому +1

    I'm 42 & I've dealt with suicide ideation for a long time. Lord, help me!

  • @petitlefrancais7680
    @petitlefrancais7680 2 роки тому +45

    That's crazy I've always thought that kandi life has always been a charm life that she never encountered anything harmful cause she always has this chill vibe and she always seems unbothered and she's so talented in so many areas. To be able to hear her childhood struggles gave me a whole new face for her I respect her even more and I learned alot during this segment.

  • @peacelove681
    @peacelove681 2 роки тому +8

    This was powerful. Anyone behind the scenes that can keep this show on the air please. This is your why. Candid conversations like these are soooo needed. There is no other show that can connect with young women like this.

  • @ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy
    @ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy 2 роки тому +2

    Kandi and her testimony should make us all commit to never making a negative comment again.

  • @maryjane2965
    @maryjane2965 2 роки тому +15

    This was some REAL REAL talk by Kandi. I love that woman, everything she got she got through very hard work. And she doesn't take herself too serious which is a great trait because all that ego just makes you trip and focus on irrelevant things.

  • @4reelfishkeeper398
    @4reelfishkeeper398 2 роки тому +9

    Kandi story really hits home to me. She is so brave to share. ❤ 💙 💜

  • @StacyPowerhouse
    @StacyPowerhouse 2 роки тому +3

    That’s why they say a quiet testimony never helped anyone

  • @nicoleyoshihara4011
    @nicoleyoshihara4011 2 роки тому +4

    God Bless Kandi, so glad she's here ❤💕

  • @JS-tn7by
    @JS-tn7by 2 роки тому +7

    This is so hard.
    My cousin took his life this past weekend.
    I'm so hurt for him.
    If he could have just heard Kandi's testimony.
    He was an amazing guy.
    I just wish he knew that about himself.

    • @shawnanderson6638
      @shawnanderson6638 2 роки тому +1

      same here, except it was my little brother. He never told us, had no "symptoms"--we were all surprised by it. so heartbreaking. I would've done anything for my brother. I wish i knew what was going on and i would've helped him get the proper help. but alas...

  • @lateshashampree
    @lateshashampree 2 роки тому +10

    To God be the glory

  • @KeeKeeSoto
    @KeeKeeSoto 2 роки тому +12

    I'm one of those ppl who is still here because of my husband and kids and the thought of what would happen to them if I followed through. I'm working on loving myself enough to stick around for me.

    • @RmclilCoreon
      @RmclilCoreon 2 роки тому +2

      Don’t give up, you have a purpose

  • @marcelsmith3510
    @marcelsmith3510 2 роки тому +8

    It don't sound crazy Kandi, your human baby. God bless you sweetheart, wishing you healing and peace! 💙

  • @ABeautifulMess101
    @ABeautifulMess101 2 роки тому +12

    🫣🤧 Bless Kandi for being so open, honest and vulnerable. People go through so much behind closed doors at times, and conversations such as these are needed to keep the light shining in on dark times.

  • @chali_93
    @chali_93 2 роки тому +21

    Thank you Kandi for keeping it REAL, I’m still feeling like I’m drowning since losing my mom in 2018, still waiting for my rain to clear up or at least become a drizzle 🕊💙

    • @melglenn6556
      @melglenn6556 2 роки тому +2

      Hang in there!!!!! It WILL get better. Watch.

    • @annieo6919
      @annieo6919 2 роки тому +2

      It will it takes time....

    • @womeninministrytv
      @womeninministrytv 2 роки тому +3

      Guard your thoughts! Watch motivational videos of those who have succeeded. No one has or had it all together. Never EVER Quit! It will get better! God bless you!

  • @aissam.2420
    @aissam.2420 2 роки тому +11

    This hits so different when it's been years you're going through that and you attempted multiples times... So difficult to think clearly, to believe things going to be alright, that you are worth it, that your life is important... 😔

  • @markwilliams8326
    @markwilliams8326 2 роки тому +4

    BIG Respects to kandi for being honest and sharing her story

  • @daciadrummond1982
    @daciadrummond1982 2 роки тому +3

    I'm so glad Kandi decided to share her truth. Her words will help so many people.

  • @DJ2130
    @DJ2130 2 роки тому +6

    Amen. Kandy has done so much. Her music and song writing is apart of all of our lives. Music we don't even realize in a lot of back grounds. There would be so much missing in the world with out her.

  • @johnsonke9509
    @johnsonke9509 2 роки тому +5

    ooooo I know that feeling! Just went through it in my adult hood as well at the age 33. But thank god once i had the strength to tell my family and i went from one state and they moved me to the next in two days and surrounded me and been supporting me every since. And i thank god for people like kandi cause mental awareness in the black community (just speaking for ours) is real and we really need love and support!! ❤️❤️Thank you Kandi

  • @souleymanediop7233
    @souleymanediop7233 2 роки тому +5

    not many people know this but both Kandi and Porsha have this in common. Both are two amazing and strong women, adore you both❤️ keep going!

  • @Lala-yk6pf
    @Lala-yk6pf 2 роки тому +5

    Wow! I never knew this and look how powerful and successful she is. God kept her for a reason and now we see that reason in full color!

  • @blarneysbureau
    @blarneysbureau 2 роки тому +17

    I’m going through this right now. I keep fighting the thought & it’s hard. 😑

    • @j.jeffers5845
      @j.jeffers5845 2 роки тому +7

      Keep fighting! I know personally it’s easier said than done, but our darkest hour & most challenging moments are the start to our most rewarding experiences that will inevitably come. If we don’t have these low moments where we feel there is no outlet or we don’t feel better days ahead, then we don’t have opportunities to become greater than those moments and an opportunity to motivate ourselves and change our situation. The greatest victory is celebrating the challenges we’ve overcome by coming out & surviving our most challenging moments. You’re not alone, I’m not alone, we’re not alone- we will choose strength! 🤍

    • @cheriedeparis5000
      @cheriedeparis5000 2 роки тому +4

      Sometimes these dark situations can really cloud our minds about our worth and ability to cope. You can get over this. You can and you will. I pray for strength for you. You are loved my dear..you really are...Grab hold of positive thoughts, share with friends, seek counselling if you can, watch the real. Comment here. You have value and purpose and you are loved. Big Hugs for you and lots of love.

    • @lovebrittt
      @lovebrittt 2 роки тому +5

      Keep fighting.. talk to someone if you can. Read the Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer.

    • @BriaBarrows
      @BriaBarrows 2 роки тому

      @@j.jeffers5845 so well said

  • @gracemercy5478
    @gracemercy5478 2 роки тому +2

    Kandi I don't want to get all emotional while she is already emotional & now I'm emotional🥺

  • @santannastyles6475
    @santannastyles6475 2 роки тому +2

    I’m glad Kandi spoke out the storm don’t last always 🙏🏾

  • @darrenmartin-walkeden1438
    @darrenmartin-walkeden1438 2 роки тому +10

    Kandi thank you for speaking up on such a taboo issue....I was at the point of no return but with the strength of my loved ones I'm still here #speakup #mentalhealth

  • @Msladyrae92
    @Msladyrae92 2 роки тому +5

    I love this platform. Kandi felt so seen and heard and everyone that comes here feels that acceptance

  • @Y6995
    @Y6995 2 роки тому +13

    I love this show, don't cancel it.

  • @shaylatobar7974
    @shaylatobar7974 2 роки тому +2

    I needed this in this very moment. I’ve lost my sister , best friend , aunt , and granny. I’m at my lowest in life right now losing them all and wondering what else to life is it but thank you for your story. Hopefully life gets better for me.

  • @chit-chat007
    @chit-chat007 2 роки тому +5

    Wow. This was so emotional. We need to have more of these talks! It is so important.

  • @DaughterOfLove17
    @DaughterOfLove17 2 роки тому +1

    There will be brighter days. You will breathe again. You will smile again. Hold on. Stay strong ❤

  • @15christi21
    @15christi21 2 роки тому +1

    I thank God for allowing Kandi to open up about this part in her life because I know someone needed to hear this besides me. I pray for all those in the world that's going through a rainy season, it will get better #stayprayedup

  • @foulany7774
    @foulany7774 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you Kandi for just being you. Stay blessed 🥰🙏🏼

  • @spiritledpoetess394
    @spiritledpoetess394 2 роки тому +1

    “ it can’t rain forever” kandy 💝💝💝💝💝💝

  • @elainebird58
    @elainebird58 2 роки тому

    PRAYING for anyone of all ages who is struggling with depression right now. LORD GIVE THEM THE STRENGTH TO MAKE IT THROUGH. TO NOT GIVE UP. TO NOT GIVE IN, TO KNOW THERE IS HOPE...THE RAINY SEASON DON'T LAST ALWAYS.
    .HE LOVES US❤

  • @lisaosbourne-eden4576
    @lisaosbourne-eden4576 2 роки тому +1

    Kandi you are a gem all around. So real and transparent. Keep soaring and May God continue to keep you and keep being authentic to you💓

  • @UCanOnlyChangeU
    @UCanOnlyChangeU 2 роки тому +2

    I REALLY NEEDED TO HEAR THIS ❤️ Thank you Kandi 🙏

  • @tiffaraogaldez
    @tiffaraogaldez 2 роки тому +1

    I appreciate Kandi so much. She is always so authentic ♥️ God's continued blessings upon you and your family Kandi 🙏🏾

  • @tanyaguy6016
    @tanyaguy6016 2 роки тому +2

    Kandi you are not alone i felt the same way in middle school high school. To this day i still have thoughts like that. GOD 1st always

  • @christineb7304
    @christineb7304 2 роки тому

    I'm normally not a RHOA Kandi fan (I am an Esape Kandi fan), but I applaud her for sharing this personal moment to encourage others! BRAVA!

  • @lslife542
    @lslife542 2 роки тому +20

    So grateful you are here, Kandi! You have NO idea how much I admire you! thank y'all for sharing this xoxo

  • @jocelynmurchison2125
    @jocelynmurchison2125 2 роки тому +1

    I loved everything Kandi said and appreciated her vulnerability and transparency as she spoke about her past experiences. I know this will have an impact on someone dealing with the same feelings she once had. I appreciate her sharing.

  • @jeremiahbeavers2911
    @jeremiahbeavers2911 2 роки тому

    Thank you for your testimony Kandi, because mental health is real.❤

  • @tamaraonthego
    @tamaraonthego 2 роки тому

    Certainly changed mine....thank you
    Some days...it feels like I'm alone in the world....and everywhere is a empty space...and I step into that emptiness

  • @tramainestokes6001
    @tramainestokes6001 2 роки тому +4

    Just when i thought I couldn't love Kandi anymore❤

  • @ASMinor
    @ASMinor 2 роки тому

    I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my UA-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates.

  • @jeffreyward7815
    @jeffreyward7815 2 роки тому +4

    As someone dealing with this right now, I admire Kandi more as my kindred spirit and role model.

  • @deem132
    @deem132 2 роки тому +2

    I remember her saying this I forgot where but God had such bigger plans for her life, what an inspiration 🤍

  • @melv2371
    @melv2371 2 роки тому +9

    I really needed to hear this today. Thank you so much Kandi for sharing this 😭❤️

  • @queenvee9729
    @queenvee9729 2 роки тому

    I left social media. I don't need anybody's validation. It's a destructive way to live because people are not consistent. Sometimes they love you, sometimes they hate you with or without good reason. My God and myself are all I need to confirm I'm a blessing.

  • @evelynmobley3748
    @evelynmobley3748 2 роки тому

    Wow! U never know what people are going thru or had went thru. We all are dealing with something in our lives and when you go thru that phrase you have to remember that God got you here for a reason. Thank you Kandi! God wanted you to live!

  • @rinavelli
    @rinavelli 2 роки тому +6

    Wow, I have so much respect for Kandi to share this and be so transparent while doing so. Wishing her continued healing ❤️

  • @tee3165
    @tee3165 2 роки тому

    Wow. This can truly help people. Thank God she shared this on this platform. The storm doesn't last forever.

  • @robinlight
    @robinlight 2 роки тому

    We are soooo happy you are still here with us Kandi!!

  • @darriennemartin4083
    @darriennemartin4083 2 роки тому +5

    I need the real to stay! I may not catch the live show but being able to hear these ladies talking about so many different topics really entertains me and gets me through my monotonous days at work or talking about politics all the time. This show is NECESSARY ❤️