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  • @KaramoShow
    @KaramoShow  Рік тому +23

    Watch Karamo look back at this episode in our new series Karamo's Cut here: ua-cam.com/video/t_mBRccoV8Q/v-deo.html

    • @mercylinmoraa6229
      @mercylinmoraa6229 8 місяців тому +1

      Hey karamo can you help me financially 😢😢am really down ,am from kenya ,I know you have a good heart honestly I don't have a life i feel like giving up

  • @gizzel74
    @gizzel74 Рік тому +677

    The little sister's defensive aggression screams pain, but she has to learn how to listen more, and she'll be heard more. I hope they can resolve their issues eventually.

  • @chillinwithkesha6422
    @chillinwithkesha6422 Рік тому +1062

    That baby said I met my mama on drugs and that just crushed my soul!! We have to respect our people’s experiences

    • @MissWestside
      @MissWestside Рік тому +33

      Right ! It’s krazy bc she kept saying I ain’t have no mama poor baby .

    • @tjaydakidd9355
      @tjaydakidd9355 Рік тому +7

      Frfr man dat was a shot to the ❤ fr but they just gotta stay strong and make ends meet cus their mom wouldn’t want this 😢it’s sad it happened to her fr and hopefully she rises above herself and better herself and follow her ❤

    • @emymco9874
      @emymco9874 Рік тому

      ​@@MissWestside in

    • @MissWestside
      @MissWestside Рік тому +1

      @@emymco9874 girl why you tag me

    • @queenleslia378
      @queenleslia378 Рік тому

      @@tjaydakidd9355 like

  • @MrsDymples76
    @MrsDymples76 2 роки тому +1958

    There’s so much misplaced resentment. The oldest was 15 having her own child and having to care for her younger siblings. That’s a lot. The youngest sister missed her parents and she acted out. There’s a lot to unpack. I hope they realize they’re all they have and move forward in love.

    • @stylesbykaydeee
      @stylesbykaydeee Рік тому +10

      understandable

    • @alvingant
      @alvingant Рік тому +18

      Girl in the oldest sister is hrut to tf

    • @trimschonson5221
      @trimschonson5221 Рік тому +13

      Right, they need therapy (Iyanla) not a dang tv show. I hope is sending them off with resources to therapy or sun, cause I don’t see the help on this other than surface level outreach

    • @Logantaliaferro
      @Logantaliaferro Рік тому +4

      I’m on Jenny side because she litterally owened up to. Everything she doesn’t need to explain herself anymore

    • @naegillespie5267
      @naegillespie5267 Рік тому +24

      @@Logantaliaferro Ok why she could do that with her sisters. She mad at her sister for taking care of her. The sisters were children too.

  • @MrsTriggaTay
    @MrsTriggaTay Рік тому +369

    The middle sister seems to have it together the most. God help these ladies.

  • @Monique215_
    @Monique215_ 2 роки тому +1537

    The younger sister want them to see that she changed without bringing up the past, bring up the past is her trigger point.

    • @sequillarochelle4044
      @sequillarochelle4044 2 роки тому +252

      That's not fair nor is it real,how she want everyone to recognize her hurt,and she don't want to recognize theirs,which came from all she has done and said....no ma'am, I wouldn't kiss her butt either...Her mama owe her,they don't, they had the same messed up mama...

    • @globalprincess5471
      @globalprincess5471 2 роки тому +1

      Well Said

    • @marcuswainright952
      @marcuswainright952 2 роки тому +18

      @@sequillarochelle4044 real...is relative, and if no one is willing to even make a single caveat, then they should just pretend they mean nothing to each other and go about their business.

    • @arieannamorrison7651
      @arieannamorrison7651 2 роки тому +92

      Thats true BUT you can’t move forward without acknowledging the pain and betrayal you cause on others. That’s not how life works. They want her to know WHY they don’t deal with her, if she wants to throw it away in the “past” pile. She has to acknowledge it, apologize and mean it and then they can move forward.

    • @unapologeticlly-Me
      @unapologeticlly-Me 2 роки тому +20

      No someone that wants people to see that the have changed tells the truth they are compassionate nobody wants to deal with a hateful person that's don't wanna listen...

  • @PRETTYESHIA504
    @PRETTYESHIA504 2 роки тому +522

    I'm so sorry to say this but it needs to be said. The Mother is to blame and it's so sad that she left her daughters back here broken hearted and Hatred towards each other. 🙏🏽🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @pearlsrevealed
      @pearlsrevealed 2 роки тому +13

      💯

    • @crystal11507
      @crystal11507 Рік тому +46

      Yep but also the absent father, one woman ain't suppose to raise 3 girls. Ancient Africa always had extended family, always took a village to raise a child. This structure of one woman raising children in ineffective even if she was a one of a few cases of a drug addicted mom

    • @laura4495
      @laura4495 Рік тому +3

      Yup, that's what I was thinking.

    • @Shefightsproductionz
      @Shefightsproductionz Рік тому +10

      Indeed. The parents failed them (for whatever reason) & the generational hurt, trauma continues. Question is how can we heal the world when we can't even heal our family relationships as it relates.

    • @crystal11507
      @crystal11507 Рік тому +1

      @@PrincessYonna1 🤔

  • @chendab.6125
    @chendab.6125 2 роки тому +865

    Karamo is so loving.. that hug he gave her was everything 💕💞

    • @reeshanay6164
      @reeshanay6164 2 роки тому +27

      That's what she needs. That baby is HURT.

    • @julyhoward5757
      @julyhoward5757 2 роки тому +7

      He should've given her that when she first came out. He does that often where he greets the first person who comes out with "affection", hears their side, and then the vibe is much lower for the next person out.

    • @GeauxQueen
      @GeauxQueen 2 роки тому +9

      It really was. She needed a sincere hug.

    • @labrea654
      @labrea654 2 роки тому +4

      He's frigging gay. Every thing he does is soft.

    • @MrsBryant1024
      @MrsBryant1024 2 роки тому +13

      @@labrea654 Umm, what does him being gay have to do with ANYTHING 🙄

  • @lucio24753
    @lucio24753 Рік тому +54

    What i learnt from this whole conversation is:
    1. Sometimes we just have to stop talking and start listening.
    2. We don't heal the past trying to talk about it (like making it number one on the list).
    3. What people wants to hear is to make them feel you understand what they are going through and won't judge them (makes them defensive, if perceived to be judged).
    4. Rather than talk, a simple hug, and i love you heals faster before talking about the real situation.
    5. Make better choice language while trying to communicate.
    Well done Sir.❤

    • @IWrite2Heal
      @IWrite2Heal Рік тому +2

      You very much so heal the past by talking about it. You have to relive it to relieve it. It’s not going away if you don’t address what caused you trauma. The best way to change behavior is address why the behavior started in the first place. I definitely agree with everything else. Be well .

    • @NoDeductions
      @NoDeductions 11 місяців тому

      ​@@IWrite2Healfacts 💯💯

  • @icantbelievemyeyesnelson6970
    @icantbelievemyeyesnelson6970 2 роки тому +205

    The youngest sister needs therapy. She has a lot to unpack without judgement and tools to get through it all

    • @mercythesoloist
      @mercythesoloist 2 роки тому +5

      I totally agree with that. They need to look beyond her behaviour to understand her better

    • @stephanielove2662
      @stephanielove2662 2 роки тому +9

      We know the real reason why she ran away from the group home could have been some sort of SA and abuse. She probably never opened up to her sisters about that.

  • @lavagirl1628
    @lavagirl1628 Рік тому +162

    I feel for the older sister I can relate to the pain she went through having to take care of herself and the people around her at such a young age

  • @GoddessPower777
    @GoddessPower777 Рік тому +220

    the youngest sister is her own problem. she doesn’t want to be held accountable. Anytime anyone brings up who she really is and what she does, she gets mad. She gave no apology.

    • @corneisharatcliffe8053
      @corneisharatcliffe8053 Рік тому +18

      Should she really have to apologize for something that wasn't her fault, she met her mother on drugs, she's slept under highways, grp homes, etc... This is child she didn't know any better, she's probably never felt love from her parents , that's tough and it has to mess with on a soul level have you ever experienced that? It's easy for us all to say what she should be doing when we only seen 15min.

    • @GoddessPower777
      @GoddessPower777 Рік тому +33

      @@corneisharatcliffe8053 yes!!! she’s using those excuses to justify repeated bae behavior or simply not owning anything she’s done wrong. can’t keep using my mom was on drugs. At some point growth and respect has to happen. she keeps disrespecting others then plays victim cause “her mom was on drugs” . immaturity

    • @tonyymonyana
      @tonyymonyana Рік тому +9

      Those young girls think they can do no wrong and have a lot of excuses. A lot of em think that attitude cute. If you really wanted to heal and grow you'd change your attitude.

    • @dheireea
      @dheireea Рік тому +15

      ​@corneisharatcliffe8053 Ok what about everything she said to her niece and nephew about them going to be motherless? And the 2nd oldest said the youngest wished death on her, those are strong words, they are to not be taken lightly and if she was innocent, why say all that and not apologize for it? How she met her own mother is not her sisters fault and it seems like the oldest had to grow up quick because from the sound of it their mom wasn't available or a present parent they needed her to be, but why go against each other and not share their experiences and take notes from each other to be better to each other.

    • @sydnifaithh
      @sydnifaithh 10 місяців тому +1

      EXACTLY

  • @kandylandtarot142
    @kandylandtarot142 Рік тому +279

    If the eldest is definitely resentful towards the youngest. She has to accept that she's not going to a huge heartfelt apology. If she wants to be around Jenny then she has to meet her where she is. Jenny has to understand a hard lesson that whatever you've been through does not mean you get to lash out at people due to it. "I've changed" doesn't mean "I apologize".
    They all have to understand that the closure they want is to start fresh.

    • @reddbyrde
      @reddbyrde Рік тому +21

      I don’t think Jasmine has an issue meeting her where she is. I think she has an issue with being disrespected. She sacrificed a lot for Jenny and she deserves some respect. I can feel that.

  • @brittbritt6857
    @brittbritt6857 2 роки тому +105

    Jennifer is hurt .. she wanted the mommy daughter moments so bad

  • @LoThePhenom
    @LoThePhenom 2 роки тому +731

    I feel for the little sister so much ,and they consistently deny her feelings which only makes her behavior worse
    And for them to keep downplaying her and act as if she's the only one with issues is WILD

    • @УАо-ж1ш
      @УАо-ж1ш 2 роки тому +133

      No one denys her feeling can't u see clearly she wasn't accommodating 😒telling her big sister to shut up

    • @perryrand876
      @perryrand876 2 роки тому +42

      Lol they didn’t listen to her?

    • @jasmineonthescene
      @jasmineonthescene 2 роки тому +135

      Are We watching the same show lol the youngest is denying everyone else’s pain because she feels as if she had it the worse….and she don’t even wanna address the things she said to them that was detrimental 😢

    • @_viichu9974
      @_viichu9974 2 роки тому +60

      the little sister played victim every second.. and no one denied her feelings they listened to what she had to say even though she continued to deny the others feelings.

    • @idgafjuslisten
      @idgafjuslisten Рік тому +13

      @@УАо-ж1ш what? The oldest sister denied everything cursed her out threatened her and wouldn’t even let her speak

  • @goddess835
    @goddess835 2 роки тому +49

    Baby girl needs to heal. She has some seriously deep wounds. Lord bless them allowing them all to open up an let go. They need peace.

  • @dejapeterson4390
    @dejapeterson4390 2 роки тому +124

    Sometimes you just gotta pray for your family and love from a distance. They will decide to overcome their pain at some point.

  • @meganlord781
    @meganlord781 Рік тому +36

    I pray for forgiveness, restoration, deliverance, peace, unity, divine intervention, miracles, healing, protection, breakthroughs, speed, favor,love,joy,for the hand of God to move mightily in the lives of these three Sisters. Forgive each other 💝💝💝.

    • @Jassy4444
      @Jassy4444 Рік тому

      Amen

    • @marshadauphin4193
      @marshadauphin4193 Рік тому

      Amen I claim it for myself and my children in the name of Jesus. Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏

    • @777JESUSISLORD71
      @777JESUSISLORD71 5 місяців тому

      Hallelujah,I touch and agree with this prayer of deliverance for this family. I know exactly what they're going through.. JESUS saved me from death.. I was just like the youngest sister,but I would say worse. I had my first child at 13 by a grown man,,and was sexually taken advantage of starting at 8 years old,then introduced to porn at 11. By 14 I was a ward of the court,and was taken out of my mom's home..I was into selling drugs and prostitution.. My life was so out of control,and was under so much trauma,and being that I was so young,my son was born at 2 1/2 pounds,and was taken by the CPS department, because of his medical condition and needs, then given to my mom when he was 5 .. But by then i was in a group home,but still prostituting during my home visits,when i finally got home from the group home,I left home at 17 with the man i had been with since i was 14. A grown man,but my son's father was from a different grown man..I was sex trafficked from 14 until almost 30 years old by a man that i was with since I was 14. Imagine that. I've been almost killed on many occasions,I've snorted cocaine,smoked cocaine,drank alcohol,I've tried meth,and was just out in the streets lost and demonically oppressed. Until I ended up being kidnapped,and after being kidnapped GOD showed me myself in a casket in a dream he gave me,and when I woke up. I knew it was over...My life of living in SIN was about to come to a cease. It was a process,but JESUS saved me,and delivered me from all those evil spirits. Today I'm 47 years old,and an evangelist sharing the gospel of JESUS CHRIST,and my testimony wherever I can,and to whomever GOD allows to cross my path.. So I know whatever he did for me,he can do this for this family.. I've been saved for over 15 years now, and have three beautiful children,a wonderful church family and a completely changed life. 🙌🙌🙌❤️. Hallelujah in the name of JESUS

  • @Uniques-95
    @Uniques-95 Рік тому +28

    I started watching the Karamo show yesterday. So far, I can see that he has an excellent free association. His tone and demeanor are calming and reassuring. He doesn't come off as too harsh or judgemental.

  • @Burlykim13
    @Burlykim13 Рік тому +86

    The fact that the younger sister can be in such (rightful) anger about her childhood being what it was, but not have any capacity to understand and empathize with what her sister was dealing with, being pregnant at 15 and trying to get custody of her…that’s beyond sad and really disgusting actually.

  • @yvettelattimore6883
    @yvettelattimore6883 2 роки тому +207

    Sometimes family is the worst ones. Love from a distance. Everybody can't be saved.

  • @listentomebyrhema
    @listentomebyrhema Рік тому +61

    I love Karamo. He's so gentle and patient.

  • @elizabethdenson3208
    @elizabethdenson3208 2 роки тому +259

    The piece about calling people a liar is so real, I was gaslit about experiences and dates and timeliness as a kid and it makes me so mad when people don't agree with a timeline or how I thought something happened because I feel like they're telling me it didn't happen and they're denying MY experiences. It happened so often as a kid that when people simply have a different perspective I feel threatened and get defensive. It's not someone denying my experiences it's someone else's version and truth and that's okay! Details are allowed to be muddy! And it's taken me a long time to understand that

    • @raindrops4284
      @raindrops4284 2 роки тому +6

      Well said and I can absolutely understand your point of view.

    • @mandyellis876
      @mandyellis876 Рік тому +1

      My mother flat out denies my experiences and whilst she had my brother alive, the pair of them would tell me how much of a victim I was. Since my brother’s death, I’ve only once heard how much of a victim I am and I immediately shut her down, strangely enough I’ve never heard it again!

  • @cheembojay9462
    @cheembojay9462 2 роки тому +53

    This young girl needs love she is frustrated with life n things around her…these sisters love each other…we can see that I hope all goes well for them

  • @lotusxinception3475
    @lotusxinception3475 2 роки тому +312

    I feel for the youngest but her anger is misdirected. Her older sisters love her but they are hurt by her ungratefulness and disrespect. Advice to the older sisters: sometimes it's best to love from a distance.

    • @idgafjuslisten
      @idgafjuslisten Рік тому

      Her oldest sister does not love her. The oldest is evil asf did you hear how she talked to her?

    • @lotusxinception3475
      @lotusxinception3475 Рік тому +35

      @@idgafjuslisten did you hear how the little sister talks to her older sisters?? I cant even repeat it without my comment getting taken down lol. The oldest is very hurt by her and she's reacting to that. Not saying it's right but the little sister has said very awful things...

    • @idgafjuslisten
      @idgafjuslisten Рік тому

      @@lotusxinception3475 are you dumb? The little one didn’t curse once she defended herself against that big evil bully of a sister. You can tell how wicked the oldest is by how she talks and looks at her. Little one didn’t call her out her name once the oldest called her a bit** 4x and said she hated her. The little one said she didn’t like her and was mainly talking about how she changed and what she went through with her mother. She yelled yes but that’s all she did she called them a liar that was the biggest insult she spewed. Be fkn for real right now

    • @idgafjuslisten
      @idgafjuslisten Рік тому +6

      @@lotusxinception3475 idgaf about the oldest being hurt she’s hurt because she had to carry and keep a baby at 15 and had younger siblings to look after. She held that animosity towards the youngest one because she could and you can tell she’s wicked saying she’s gonna beat her a$$? Pack it up

    • @lotusxinception3475
      @lotusxinception3475 Рік тому +31

      @@idgafjuslisten I'm not going to argue with you. They've both said hurtful things... but the eldest has been there for her youngest sister. Even when her hand got messed up and the little one reached out to her after she blocked her. It's called being done with a toxic abusive person. I would be done with her too. Some siblings just don't get along no matter what. It is what it is.

  • @bealambwouldya
    @bealambwouldya Рік тому +48

    Jennifer needs a safe place with no judgement. To express her pain & what she’s been through. She needs grace & support. Someone to listen without judgement. Everyone’s hurting Jennifer needs to be heard

  • @lovealways1524
    @lovealways1524 2 роки тому +378

    Would love an update on these 3 sisters. Really hope their relationship improves.

    • @keginahnyakatawa7300
      @keginahnyakatawa7300 Рік тому +1

      I wld love also i have a little sis whos like that also ahhhh its a problem

  • @msfrank3197
    @msfrank3197 2 роки тому +67

    It was good hearing the youngest sister explaining her change and how the past is the past and they need to leave it there and by the grace of god I hope the have a good relationship

    • @pearlsrevealed
      @pearlsrevealed 2 роки тому +26

      They can’t leave it “there” because the youngest has not acknowledged or apologized for wishing death on them when they did not give her whatever she wanted (money) back then “there “. Apologies can heal this rift.

    • @veronicawiltshire682
      @veronicawiltshire682 Рік тому +12

      @@pearlsrevealed The youngest sister is not listening to anyone, the middle sister is trying to have a conversation with her and she is shouting and did not even acknowledge when her sister said, how many times have I told you I am proud of you and I love you, she has to realize that her sisters had it rough also, she was also explaining why she send the police for her, and that was to save her from bad things happening to her, all she wants to do is be angry, in my village where I grow up someone would have looked out for all of them, even if you were not blood relative, but now to each his own

  • @ceewrites2592
    @ceewrites2592 2 роки тому +152

    Karamo hit it on the nose about the word "lying" as being a trigger. I have yet to come to this conclusion with my sister, but I receive that advice as facts!

  • @GangstaBoo7
    @GangstaBoo7 2 роки тому +67

    Jenny I can tell she's not over what they talked about, the look on her face speaks volumes. She needs to mature more, I'm glad she's on the right path but she's not at peace completely.

  • @marieperpetuemoncoeur2954
    @marieperpetuemoncoeur2954 Рік тому +8

    This show makes me realize that family is a gift and should not be taken for granted.

  • @tsmith3522
    @tsmith3522 2 роки тому +479

    I'm 55 and the eldest of two younger sisters. As of today, we three are estranged. My perspective is the dysfunction of our parents and how it couldn't gel us together as a solid, more loving family. After our Dad died in 2000, my sister lost her mind and is currently diagnosed as schizo affected bipolar. The baby sister became successful as a nurse but she has remained a very angry and unforgiving person. I take care of my daughter and her four children and try to help my mentally ill sister, but the successful sister won't participate anymore, but I get it, I'm tired too. It's super sad that this is how my family has ended up and I can't fix it. I'm doing the best that I can but I have to live for me.

    • @SpontaneousVirgo
      @SpontaneousVirgo 2 роки тому +16

      Hugs 🤗

    • @raisedbyhousewives
      @raisedbyhousewives 2 роки тому +14

      Major hugs

    • @philomenaezeh7770
      @philomenaezeh7770 2 роки тому +35

      The Lord is your strength. I am praying for your family. God bless you. God will heal your sister and rebuild your family in Jesus mighty name. Keep praying sister, because God answers prayers.

    • @erikabrock2742
      @erikabrock2742 2 роки тому +3

      ❤️❤️❤️prayers Hugs

    • @K.P.0629
      @K.P.0629 2 роки тому +3

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @Loveis_Kind
    @Loveis_Kind 2 роки тому +186

    I took care of my 4 younger siblings too . My mom was strung out on dope One of the siblings feel like I should of done more (mind you I was 14) when I moved out at 18 (he felt I shld of stayed longer ) I took responsibility of things that I shldnt have . I was kid being a parent . My mom has apologized repeatedly for her past . And I forgive her . But by her abandonment it end up being a domino effect to me and my sibling. The anger and emotions he has towards me need to be directed toward her. She is the mom .I did the best I could ♥️

    • @Loveis_Kind
      @Loveis_Kind Рік тому +3

      @Blatina401 Thank you 🙏🏾 ♥️!!!

  • @benirpierre2671
    @benirpierre2671 Рік тому +33

    Karamo! This is your ministry. I first learned of you on the reality show on TV One and could see your empathy and heart then. But this, Sir, you were made for this!!! I appreciate how you amplify voices and help people tell their stories without exploiting them. You genuinely try to be mediator/usher healing through your platform and it is such a beautiful sight to behold. Thank you for being exactly who you are 🙌🏾

  • @shandragossett8075
    @shandragossett8075 Рік тому +22

    Three siblings that lost their childhood and their Mother. Three different levels of pain, but pain jus the the same. 💯♥️♥️♥️ #GoodSHOW💯♥️

  • @privatecarrilho3108
    @privatecarrilho3108 2 роки тому +73

    I see the problem. She doesn't want help, she only wants things her way or the highway.

    • @mrs.maxwellofcourse5859
      @mrs.maxwellofcourse5859 2 роки тому +8

      She didn’t want them to mentioned not about her ways and her past.

    • @privatecarrilho3108
      @privatecarrilho3108 2 роки тому +23

      @@mrs.maxwellofcourse5859 I understand but her behaviour at the moment is not okay either. She needs to learn a lot

    • @idgafjuslisten
      @idgafjuslisten Рік тому

      If that’s what you gathered than you have a low ass comprehension span

    • @MichelleLuvn25
      @MichelleLuvn25 Рік тому +15

      Exactly. I totally get she went through hard times but she’s so dismissive and rude and entitled.

    • @d484jx
      @d484jx Рік тому +1

      you got her mixed up wit the oldest

  • @thelovelykimmi7920
    @thelovelykimmi7920 2 роки тому +39

    The oldest two just need to cut their losses and move forward. There cannot be any peace with someone who behaves in that manner. Hopefully the youngest sister can get some counseling and then maybe they can all grow closer in the future.

    • @ariamarshall5161
      @ariamarshall5161 2 роки тому +5

      Huh? The older 2 absolutely gained up on her…She knows nothing but survival. As she stated she only knew a drug addicted mom. Nobody knows what could’ve happened to her as a child & having no1 to protect her. She’s young & feels she’s trying to fend in this world by herself. That’s NOT her fault. It’s the fault of the adults who brought that baby into the world & caused her severe emotional damage. U can’t expect for a young lady in position to be perfect. They ALL need counseling from an outside source. Bc they ALL had to grow up & do things kids shouldn’t have to do. The sisters are mad she ungrateful & defensive & act out but that’s all she knows. Her sister had no business calling her a b*tch & saying she’s fight her. She’s OLDER so act like it. They need serious counseling to broke down their own issues then figure out together how to heal.

    • @MichelleLuvn25
      @MichelleLuvn25 Рік тому +10

      @@ariamarshall5161 the youngest is hurt without a doubt. However, she’s rude, asinine and entitled.

  • @CcBeautiful94
    @CcBeautiful94 2 роки тому +365

    I needed this video! I go through the same thing with my sisters. We had to accept the fact that we have our own truth and our own perspective. Unfortunately I don’t think our issues are resolvable so we don’t speak anymore and honestly I’m so much more at peace without the arguing and negativity. It just ain’t worth fixing sometimes

    • @elizabethprouddolllover641
      @elizabethprouddolllover641 2 роки тому +6

      Same our mother was mentally ill so I didn't see my siblings until adult hood. And of of the we never clicked. I don't like the when the gone you crushed. This sister passed away but I don't grieve her being gone I'm sad how she treated me

    • @modoulaminjabang6575
      @modoulaminjabang6575 2 роки тому +3

      Good day Sister please for the sake of your Creator try and fix your relationship with your sisters family bond is so precious I wish I had your WhatsApp number

    • @aquoyahrobinson1630
      @aquoyahrobinson1630 2 роки тому +7

      Same here, I tried to help my sister and I’ve always been there but I had to take a step back and take care of my self and mine. I tried to get my sister help but she did not want it. She tol lies on all the family telling half truth and not being honest. I loved my sister with everything I had. Now we dead a gone. Now all I have is memories. Ppl need to wake up and get the help they need. Life to short

    • @iyeshapratt9729
      @iyeshapratt9729 2 роки тому +1

      @@elizabethprouddolllover641 ,
      ,,
      ..,....

    • @jn1211
      @jn1211 2 роки тому +7

      @@modoulaminjabang6575 if the family bond is so precious, then family should stop destroying that bond, and it's not our job to continually allow these people to actively make our lives worse just because they came out of the same vagina. family is just another word for abuser

  • @gabewilliams9862
    @gabewilliams9862 2 роки тому +25

    8:26 - 8:32 - "I got this..." May God continue to bless Karamo.

  • @crystalcole8940
    @crystalcole8940 2 роки тому +107

    It's sad cause the older sisters want to help her but I can just imagine how she act behind closed doors

    • @mrs.maxwellofcourse5859
      @mrs.maxwellofcourse5859 2 роки тому +8

      Yes, I bet she’s a firecracker

    • @rubyjaez
      @rubyjaez 2 роки тому +26

      She needs therapy. She has endured so much throughout her life. Being homeless, chasing after a Mother with a drug addict, being incarcerated, and being abandoned by her parents. Being separated from her family, causes her to be unable to have any emotional bond with her Sisters. She can't take advice and criticism from them because she views it as personal attacks.

    • @crystalcole8940
      @crystalcole8940 2 роки тому +5

      Yes therapy helps but you got to want the help and receive the help

    • @rubyjaez
      @rubyjaez 2 роки тому +4

      @@crystalcole8940 I think she'd so deep in her trauma that she can't see she needs the help. A lot of people in my community don't realize that they're suffering from deep-rooted trauma and need help. She needs people who have experience with mental health to introduce her to the concept of help. I bet she's suffering from PTSD. She's not going to listen to her sisters because she does not trust them. They have proven over the years that their love is conditional.

    • @alvingant
      @alvingant Рік тому

      @@rubyjaez bro they was abandoned too don't jus say she going throw sum they all is in she chosen to act like that and be homeless like her sister tried to help her but she didn't want help like what she told that kid yo dad should have rape u manee what

  • @lifewithaveyah7981
    @lifewithaveyah7981 2 роки тому +128

    No one is talking about this girls pain 💯the youngest sister has been a handful I’m sure , but she’s human too she didn’t wanna see her mom dying she’s made peace with herself but it’s up to them to see the person she is today not before the day of this show 💯

    • @alanamitchell9208
      @alanamitchell9208 2 роки тому +1

      She is not accepting the pain she caused them too. They all experienced the same pain caused from their mom. Who wishes death and getting raped on their loved one.

    • @nottodaylilbaldhead
      @nottodaylilbaldhead 2 роки тому +28

      Why yall keep saying yall feel the little one like the older ones didn't help her out...

    • @AkireMaru
      @AkireMaru Рік тому +4

      Absolutely ridiculous. They keep talking about her pain. She is spoiled, disrespectful and silly.

  • @itscollysworld1389
    @itscollysworld1389 2 роки тому +112

    Her interrupting the lil sister 20 seconds into her talkin tells me everything

    • @dequetta_lashae
      @dequetta_lashae 2 роки тому +35

      She did the same thing most of the show to Soo shouldn’t you be seeing how they both are ?

    • @itscollysworld1389
      @itscollysworld1389 2 роки тому +34

      No because they still had their opportunity to speak… so regardless if the lil sister interupted them back they STILL already spoke, answered questions and gave some background information….She hasn’t. Soon as she hit the stage she couldn’t get a full sentence out. Oranges n apples

    • @lashaylashayy5949
      @lashaylashayy5949 Рік тому +21

      @@itscollysworld1389if somebody lying on me ima speak as well . the middle sister came out and told everybody basically what the older sister said meanwhile the youngest sister was lying denying it until he made her admit so what is it that she told you that you “ needed to know “ ?

    • @veronicawiltshire682
      @veronicawiltshire682 Рік тому +1

      @@itscollysworld1389 The last sister was the second person on stage and she was talking from the time she got there, when the older one said something about beating and all that and called her names she got up and was ready to fight, the middle sister was the one who got things a little calmer for a minute, but the last sister and older sister are not going to get along, you can clearly see that, but I am hoping for a miracle

  • @valenciawilliams5112
    @valenciawilliams5112 Рік тому +61

    I feel for them. And the younger sister has soo much hurt. My prayers go out to all of them.

  • @Qd322
    @Qd322 Рік тому +24

    The parents failed them miserably. I truly hope they are able to mend their relationship.

  • @penelopeb1370
    @penelopeb1370 2 роки тому +34

    Such beautiful and hurt women. Lord, the things we do and expose our children to.

  • @kenya1067
    @kenya1067 Рік тому +18

    This is so sad. When she's describing sleeping under the bridge. They may not want to tarnish the image they have of their mother. But the youngest sister needs her story to be heard so she can truly heal and move past it. Best wishes to them all. I hope they can acheive their vision for their lives.

  • @K.P.0629
    @K.P.0629 2 роки тому +118

    I have one older sister and two younger sisters and we get along. I’m thankful we do.

    • @WarriorWon
      @WarriorWon 2 роки тому +8

      That'd good and I hope yall stay close and always are there for eachother. Everyone isn't that blessed.

    • @Yfntyyy
      @Yfntyyy Рік тому

      I’m the oldest out of 7 and no matter what we go through we always have each other back

  • @jessicarabbit3147
    @jessicarabbit3147 Рік тому +58

    I feel sooo much for the youngest. I met my mother on drugs and slept with her under the freeway at 12yrs. Im sure she felt abandoned by the sisters growing up.She probably has guilt for not being with her mom on the streets. Neither one took her in before going to group homes. Then she ran FOR A REASON as she said😓 To finally have the middle not coming to get you but call the cops. Oldest popping up to go thru the legal stuff for a year (based on what she said) then emancipate her.The way the oldest one flipped her attitude from nice to F that Bish hate her guts. They couldn’t see past her anger to see the pain. And all the so young Geeeshhh.

  • @chocolateluv91
    @chocolateluv91 2 роки тому +52

    I’d lost my sister almost 2 months ago n oh how I wish I could have my sister back. We fought , one felt more favored than the other, we cried, we laughed and we loved one another. Sometimes you just have to sit, talk, n listen n hear , n try to understand. Cherish your siblings sometimes they are your distant best friend.

    • @kenya1067
      @kenya1067 Рік тому

      I'm so sorry for your loss.

  • @tonyayoung2702
    @tonyayoung2702 2 роки тому +32

    So glad me and my sisters have a loving sister relationship. I couldn't imagine. I hope they can work things out.

  • @meekmeek2599
    @meekmeek2599 2 роки тому +54

    Whew he said a mouthful, but when a child is actually acting as a parent towards younger siblings there’s always emotional issues between them. Then when the parent has stepped away physically from them it starts a emotional roller coaster for them all. Not one child had her, not even the middle child. The oldest is angry she became a teen parent, the youngest is angry she believes they had a parent in which they all missed out. Praying she holsters her anger and gets family therapy, quit letting things fester any longer.

  • @MissTreStar
    @MissTreStar 2 роки тому +52

    Karamo is a gift to humanity…period.

  • @imanikingel6103
    @imanikingel6103 2 роки тому +64

    Something happened to the youngest that she blames them for … Definitely you can tell she is SO defensive and her sisters degrade and downplay her feelings a lot.

    • @veronicawiltshire682
      @veronicawiltshire682 Рік тому +8

      I am glad you said that I too believe when she was out there with her mother while she was on drugs, only God knows if she was molested and the mother could not defend her daughter, think she said she was about twelve when she slept under the bridge and all about with her mother

  • @sekhmetthe7845
    @sekhmetthe7845 2 роки тому +68

    As a Black, middle sister; I hate to see this. My older and younger sisters do not seem to care for me. It seems like my meek and humble, caring and empathetic spirit annoys them. When you have narcissists in your life, they will definitely hate on you because they secretly feel like you are better than them. This was my experience.
    In the video case, I think the baby girl has so much resentment for feeling alone in the struggles with their mom. I, too used to sleep in ditches and vacant houses with my mom, while she was in her struggles and my siblings were safely housed. I do not blame or envy them at all. However, they envy me for my love and patience for our mother. I am pretty much estranged from all of my family now. I have to look out for my own mental well-being, and stop placing everyone else first.

  • @berettaghost777
    @berettaghost777 2 роки тому +13

    Karamo you sir are a hero humanitarian! You have me crying almost every episode BECAUSE YOU ACTUALLY CARE! Unlike shows I grew up watching you aren’t here to exploit ppl ! I truly pray for you!

  • @taytriggs9065
    @taytriggs9065 2 роки тому +33

    She never addressed if she made those comments to her niece and nephew. She reminds me of my lil sister. She has the mouth of the south. My sisters and I were pinged against each other since birth. I was the oldest, quietest and my family considered the smartest. My mom, for some reason, called them her babies but she just wasn’t affectionate toward me at all. If someone said I looked like her she screw up her face and protest that I didn’t look like her. So I left home at 16 (I was always in advanced placement and honors classes so I graduated at 16). I started college at 16 and got my BS and MS. My sisters and I rarely talk as my mom gossiped a lot between us. My mother is deceased now and we still have not come together.

    • @blessingsbest6838
      @blessingsbest6838 2 роки тому +1

      Wow sad 😢

    • @pearlsrevealed
      @pearlsrevealed 2 роки тому +1

      Was your mom a teen parent? Do you have a different dad from your younger siblings? Maybe she wasn’t ready to be a mom when she birth you or motherhood was forced upon her and she wrongfully resented your existence.
      One of my sisters treat her 3 kids based on her relationships with their fathers. The middle child got the short end of her love and patience because she HATED his dad.

    • @lecresiagoodwin694
      @lecresiagoodwin694 2 роки тому +3

      Man....im the oldest and this is surely my life. I liked hearing your story...

  • @ariannaadestiny
    @ariannaadestiny Рік тому +61

    i understand the younger sibling, but she doesn’t understand the trauma the oldest went through

    • @halimayusuf8828
      @halimayusuf8828 7 місяців тому +1

      Honestly, I disagree. The oldest is the one with the biggest mouth. She like to talk but don’t like to listen. Plus, she’s had a mother who guided her. When Jennifer was in the picture her mother was a drug addict. What do you actually expect for a child to learn from a drug addict. I don’t condone the behavior from the youngest, but the oldest is the most obnoxious and pretentious.

    • @Dnnnn23
      @Dnnnn23 2 місяці тому

      ⁠@@halimayusuf8828tbf, according to the oldest, the youngest sister did tell her niece you should have been raped by your dad.. I don’t blame her for popping off at the youngest sibling,

  • @chriselain36rakes89
    @chriselain36rakes89 2 роки тому +56

    I’m the youngest of four. In 2017 mom was losing her battle with stage four breast cancer. I took care of my mom a lone being the youngest. Often I would cry at night while she was sleeping. Most of the time I thought to myself I got this. But watching your first best friend dying breaks you emotionally on every level. Then after she passed my siblings would have holidays together and wasn’t invited. This went on for five years. I have no hate anymore towards my siblings for not being there. I was mentally the strongest one. Where my older siblings couldn’t be. I did what God tells us to, honor thy mother & father. I’m in this world a lone with my son’s. I have admit I miss having unconditional love that my mom provided. I still don’t have a relationship with none of my siblings to this day. And my sister who robbed my mom of her money has the nerve after everything she’s done. To ask me to apologize to her. Some people really believe in their own delusions. But I still wish her well after everything. That’s growth.☝🏾💯

    • @vanderbiltmary
      @vanderbiltmary Рік тому +5

      Sorry about your mom and I understand the sibling part my sister and I don’t talk and my brother had a whole wedding and didn’t invite me until the last moment and I help my brother threw college and everything and don’t say two words to me and my older sister is another story

    • @chriselain36rakes89
      @chriselain36rakes89 Рік тому +1

      @@vanderbiltmary thank you! I understand completely what your going through. My sister got married late last year. Once her and my other sister mended their differences she cut me out of her dress fitting. And last minute she called me like crazy to come to her wedding. It was hurtful, I sit by myself. My father didn’t even speak or Acknowledged me in anyway. The part about not have a family really does suck. But I’m stronger than I ever thought I would be. I thank my mom for preparing me for life like she did.❤️✌🏾

  • @TheMOBLife
    @TheMOBLife 2 роки тому +28

    Something about the youngest sister, that reminds me of Bobbi Kristina Brown. I hope these young ladies, will heal from all the hurt

  • @angeldowning3008
    @angeldowning3008 2 роки тому +46

    This was a truly sad episode with these sisters. I really hope they became close and became the sisters each other needed.

  • @kadrayaBasketballGirl13wilson
    @kadrayaBasketballGirl13wilson Рік тому +43

    The fact you can physically see the difference in the three of them. The two oldest look way more put together than the youngest one, they have better control over they're emotions and everything compared to her. The youngest girl been through some things and she needs to work and heal from that stuff before she can properly rebuild anything with her sisters. I see a lot of comments about being the older sibling and parenting for your parents so I'll give a perspective of the youngest child. I understand her hurt with her older sisters a little bit. When she said that she slept under bridges with her mom and said that her sisters were no where around I felt that. I held some resentment towards my older brother at one point in my life because I felt like he knew of the dysfunction in our lives and he moved on and left me in it, I felt that for her/ feel that for her. I hope she gets the healing and counseling she needs for the things she's experienced in her life.

  • @QueenSammiLea
    @QueenSammiLea 2 роки тому +54

    If feel so bad for the baby sister. Her anger is a total mask. I remember when I was young I acted super aggressive like that because it was easier than crying and explaining my hurt. I hope she gets some help with expressing her true feelings.

  • @Molliee92
    @Molliee92 25 днів тому +1

    It’s so sad the amount of people that goes through pain this way. I’m so thankful I didn’t have to have that pain growing up and I pray for those who do go through these things that they receive nothing but love anymore

  • @kattiethomas4687
    @kattiethomas4687 Рік тому +19

    Self discipline is everything.

  • @FinDom1
    @FinDom1 2 роки тому +92

    This is all their parents fault unfortunately.

  • @kiramccoy4264
    @kiramccoy4264 2 роки тому +89

    I love his Videos but I feel like we need longer videos like this because I really wanna hear the whole situation and I love what you're doing to these people become back family are you doing a great job ❤❤

  • @jakaylaj7804
    @jakaylaj7804 Рік тому +7

    Everyone saying that baby girl is playing victim but all I see is that little girl inside of her that’s still hurt. Everyone has done things they aren’t proud of and nobody knows how she feels because they aren’t in her shoes. Sometimes you gotta do what you Gotta do but it’s not about what you did it’s what you do moving forward. I wish her healing, peace, and blessings.

  • @globalprincess5471
    @globalprincess5471 2 роки тому +21

    This is only a few minutes of their life that I'm listening to. I pray you all can find peace because they all have a story and none of these children ask to live the life that they had to live

  • @serahrohu1218
    @serahrohu1218 Рік тому +16

    The second sister is a sweetheart,

  • @MissWestside
    @MissWestside Рік тому +10

    I can understand all 3 sides , the youngest sister has more issues with abandonment, not having tht mother love hit different . The oldest sister had to grow up faster and at the same time witnessing their mothers choice of life . The middle sister just stuck in the middle .praying for them

  • @lilpaulettenthegang7869
    @lilpaulettenthegang7869 2 роки тому +56

    Hey Karamo you are now my favorite host! I love how open minded and aware you are with life. I remember you from the real world too. Loved you then as well!

    • @SlumpTia
      @SlumpTia 2 роки тому +1

      I agree. I never been able to watch Jerry springer, Murray, judge Judy nobody😅 I absolutely love how karamo isn’t trying to get them to argue/fight for viewers…karamo is like a real therapist & genuinely wants to help his guests. I absolutely love watching him 🥰

    • @foxthiele5871
      @foxthiele5871 2 роки тому

      He shouldnt be, take a Look into the Pink Sauce incident, Karamo is an awful man

  • @MimiTthatsMe
    @MimiTthatsMe 2 роки тому +64

    I feel for the youngest sister..... look at how the sister is acting the moment she came out

    • @nottodaylilbaldhead
      @nottodaylilbaldhead 2 роки тому +48

      They don't owe her anything they did what they could for her.

    • @toabettertomorrow7949
      @toabettertomorrow7949 2 роки тому +6

      @@nottodaylilbaldhead and vice versa

    • @erica-5198
      @erica-5198 Рік тому +12

      The moment she came out she was cussing at the oldest sister.

  • @sonhg7951
    @sonhg7951 2 роки тому +62

    Excellent job, Karamo! 👏🏾

  • @joypierce230
    @joypierce230 2 роки тому +15

    Karamo shows so much love ❤️ !

  • @paigegardner5031
    @paigegardner5031 2 роки тому +345

    The little sister playing victim too much for me

    • @dollydames127
      @dollydames127 2 роки тому +32

      That's because she is 1. I can already get a glimpse how that mother is behind closed doors!

    • @bekahdoug5572
      @bekahdoug5572 Рік тому +47

      She is a victim of generational trauma. She never had ANYONE in her life that's genuinely loved and nurtured her.

    • @kattiethomas4687
      @kattiethomas4687 Рік тому +15

      I think the younger sister sees things differently than the 2 older ones..

    • @senorpoop9299
      @senorpoop9299 Рік тому +5

      We can tell who was spoiled as a kid lmao u don't understand this type of trauma

    • @BOSSLADY-cu8vs
      @BOSSLADY-cu8vs Рік тому +1

      @@bekahdoug5572
      I agree... they need to break that cycle. It's not a walk in the park they all have to want it

  • @ceilaramirez2874
    @ceilaramirez2874 Рік тому +10

    She is just hurt. I hope they can work it out and really love her like she needs

  • @ForeverXentoriia-hq5ly
    @ForeverXentoriia-hq5ly Рік тому +3

    Aw man... 😟 the severity of all this hurt nd pain is almost indescribable, my heart hurts for these young women, sister's, I truly & sincerely hope they can find healing nd peace to bring them back together gradually.

  • @moufiee
    @moufiee 2 роки тому +19

    im so sad that a lot of people relate to being estranged from their siblings 💔 my siblings are my everything

  • @margaretiwegbu2214
    @margaretiwegbu2214 2 роки тому +57

    My love to the youngest sister she sems to have been through a lot. 😍

  • @WESTFREE2
    @WESTFREE2 Рік тому +7

    Family, or not, sometimes you have to walk away from each other. I tried up to mid-thirties to forge a relationship with my siblings. Without blaming anyone, I simply came to the conclusion that it will never authentically work, so I closed that door. At 48 now, I still love them, but I don't miss them. It took me a long time to be ok with admitting that.

  • @brazilmonequi
    @brazilmonequi 2 роки тому +17

    💕 praying for you Jennifer !

  • @mrs.maxwellofcourse5859
    @mrs.maxwellofcourse5859 2 роки тому +23

    Lord God, I thank you for my parents. They laid out the foundation and understood your assignment. As of today we have continued family traditions. I’m the youngest of 7 and I’m 49 we get along well and our children do as well. But unfortunately I don’t see our children continuing the tradition 🤦🏾‍♀️ we try to encourage but the millenniums are HARD OF THE HEAD

    • @blessingsbest6838
      @blessingsbest6838 2 роки тому

      Aww 😢

    • @stephanielove2662
      @stephanielove2662 2 роки тому

      Why do you feel that your kids can’t continue the tradition?

    • @mrs.maxwellofcourse5859
      @mrs.maxwellofcourse5859 2 роки тому +2

      @@stephanielove2662 I feel they will not keep the tradition going because of their sometimes lack of interest of being there at times.

  • @lindakachona7500
    @lindakachona7500 2 роки тому +11

    She is intelligent. I wish I could hug her

  • @demim.9203
    @demim.9203 Рік тому +2

    That hug was everything

  • @deevillarreal9475
    @deevillarreal9475 2 роки тому +41

    The eldest sister I totally can be best friends with 🤞🤞🤞👍❤️

  • @Heykyddo
    @Heykyddo Рік тому +13

    The youngest in every family, even in a unit we’re both parents are present, does harbor a lot of resentment and has difficulty taking responsibility. The youngest especially of three girls, coming from experience, usually has a hard time with the victim mentality, for much longer than the others. I feel so bad for all of these women because what they needed they didn’t receive, and now resent and hold each other accountable for it. That’s what happens when parents aren’t present, when we can’t rely on authority figures in our life to create structure and emotional stability. We turn to our peers, but when our peers fail us, we close off completely and harbor resentment that Takes years to unpack and release.

  • @sheistru
    @sheistru Рік тому +6

    The oldest and the youngest are so much alike, more than they will agree. That childhood trauma is real and makes you automatically defensive. The oldest had to grow up fast and had to be mom to her sister's while watching their mom's addiction at such a young age. The youngest had to grow up fast and had to be mommy to self while watching their mom's addiction. Their mom left them with such pain. I relate too well. I am the oldest and missed out on my childhood to be the physical aspect of my siblings. It is hard and painful to tap into the trauma, so being guarded and defensive becomes a norm to continue on to the next day.

  • @GeauxQueen
    @GeauxQueen 2 роки тому +44

    I’m estranged from my older sibling. She has always been antagonistic, condescending and mean. I finally had to dissolve the relationship in my early 40s. Sometimes the youngest sibling is always the butt of the emotional abuse of toxicity within a family upbringing. I feel like this younger sister is constantly judged, therefore she doesn’t feel loved and comfortable.

    • @khoney6600
      @khoney6600 2 роки тому +2

      This is my story. I no longer have a relationship with my sister also because the toxicity is beyond real.

    • @GeauxQueen
      @GeauxQueen 2 роки тому +1

      @@khoney6600 It’s unfortunately necessary to just walk away from some toxic relatives. I hate how people are gaslighted into accepting abuse just bc it’s a family member.

  • @bnchangd7793
    @bnchangd7793 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for your work. When I see these shows, it makes me so very sad that we have so much disfunction and hidden pain. And trust..I understand. 🙏🙏

  • @jusahbreeeze
    @jusahbreeeze 2 роки тому +24

    She has a lot of harvest feelings towards her mom, it ain’t the sisters.

    • @shimmergangfitness5880
      @shimmergangfitness5880 2 роки тому +1

      ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️

    • @joycegirl7197
      @joycegirl7197 2 роки тому +1

      And she has to acknowledge THAT and then she can really see the love of her sisters. Her mom is owed that anger, not her sisters.

  • @tbabycooper
    @tbabycooper Рік тому +7

    I feel like the older sisters don’t understand what the younger one went through. Group homes can be terrible ppl do what they must to survive. It’s like they can’t move past her youth

  • @asiaryan8639
    @asiaryan8639 8 місяців тому +4

    It’s interesting to say that you’ve changed but the minute you get mad you get violent and aggressive. She wants them to acknowledge her past but she won’t acknowledge what she’s done to them in the past.

  • @MsLady-gb3gy
    @MsLady-gb3gy 2 роки тому +2

    The 1st two that came on both need composure..and are out of control 💚✨️💚 Jennifer did act out, I believe she had it absolutely bad. They need to consider what she is saying in give her grace and mercy ✨️✨️✨️

  • @Married2culture
    @Married2culture 2 роки тому +37

    Karamo needs a show like Iyanla 😂 we need days on these issues

  • @sabriyahsmith346
    @sabriyahsmith346 Рік тому +7

    I am praying for Jenny!! ❤

  • @Morrisneuro83
    @Morrisneuro83 2 роки тому +12

    Poor Jennifer she is in so much pain

  • @kharywilsontenor4712
    @kharywilsontenor4712 Рік тому +2

    This is powerful!!

  • @soulrelaxation7769
    @soulrelaxation7769 9 місяців тому

    OMG this was draining to watch and sad all at the same time, I hope they become closer and heal.

  • @jtanaygregory5797
    @jtanaygregory5797 2 роки тому +9

    It was always me and my sister she passed last year and I’m lost without my baby sister!! Our mom passed when we were young! I hate they are going through this 😢

  • @dequetta_lashae
    @dequetta_lashae 2 роки тому +7

    Why is she blaming her sister like her sister was her mother ? That’s not her sister responsibility to take care of her or sacrifice for her