If I was the caller, I would make my own plans for all the upcoming holidays. I would take it as him communicating he doesn’t want the relationship to progress ( because he doesn’t think I am the one or there is someone else he has in mind or is seeing and he isn’t going to come out and say it directly). I would slowly phase him out as he seems to be doing himself and then just move along.
This is a terrible idea. This couple just might not be on the same page as far as their relationship goes. This girl will be single by Christmas. I guarantee it.
First, it is very insensitive of him not to invite her to Thanksgiving knowing she would be alone and he shouldn't need this pointed out. Second, she needs to work on her communication skills and call him out on not inviting her and how that makes her feel. Regardless of how this is handled and whether they will spend the holidays together or if there is someone on the side, or not, I don't see this relationship being one that will last.
He clearly doesn't want her at Thanksgiving or he would have invited her. He's also aware she will be spending the holiday alone and has no issue with that at all. While family is important, if he truly considered her someone he wants to be with long term he would either invite her to spend it with his family or spend the holiday with just the two of them. Since neither of those happened, I would dump him.
Noooooo!!! KK I love you but this is a recipe for disaster (pun intended lol) This tactic screams of desperation! Go where you're celebrated not tolerated and make it a special day to pamper yourself. If he doesn't feel you fit in enough to invite you then it's not your people!
Kristin has a HORRIBLE idea. Her "mama heart" isn't gonna WANT you there, she's just gonna get guilt tripped into it. Abby actually has a good idea for once, BUT if my significant other contacted my mom to snake his way into thanksgiving, I would immediately break up as soon as the holidays were over bc that's desperate and creepy
Has anyone considered that he’s just clueless? it’s totally possible that it hasn’t even occurred to him that the appropriate thing to do is to invite you. I am with a lot of other commenters and I would make my own plans. I just wouldn’t read too far into something that may be very simple. He will show you who he is over time. I might start asking him about other holiday plans though.
Surely you have 1 friend to meet up with. Go for a walk/hike gym class grab a coffee shop the sales (online or black fri prep) wrap xmas pressies. Order your fave takeout or cook yoyr favourite meal. Read a book watch a film invitea friend or go to a friend who is celebrating. Not American so my country doesnt celebrate tg but every usa person i know says its juat hassle work and a football game. Dont take kristans advice its desperate dont go where your not invited.
If I was the caller, I would make my own plans for all the upcoming holidays. I would take it as him communicating he doesn’t want the relationship to progress ( because he doesn’t think I am the one or there is someone else he has in mind or is seeing and he isn’t going to come out and say it directly). I would slowly phase him out as he seems to be doing himself and then just move along.
Do not take Kristin's advice
Agreed. Its so so bad
This is a terrible idea. This couple just might not be on the same page as far as their relationship goes. This girl will be single by Christmas. I guarantee it.
More of Kristin's sneaky, manipulative advice that she's so proud of.
Abby, the single person, actually got it right. COMMUNICATE!
Do not contact the mother, it’s soooooo desperate
First, it is very insensitive of him not to invite her to Thanksgiving knowing she would be alone and he shouldn't need this pointed out. Second, she needs to work on her communication skills and call him out on not inviting her and how that makes her feel. Regardless of how this is handled and whether they will spend the holidays together or if there is someone on the side, or not, I don't see this relationship being one that will last.
He clearly doesn't want her at Thanksgiving or he would have invited her. He's also aware she will be spending the holiday alone and has no issue with that at all. While family is important, if he truly considered her someone he wants to be with long term he would either invite her to spend it with his family or spend the holiday with just the two of them. Since neither of those happened, I would dump him.
Noooooo!!! KK I love you but this is a recipe for disaster (pun intended lol) This tactic screams of desperation! Go where you're celebrated not tolerated and make it a special day to pamper yourself. If he doesn't feel you fit in enough to invite you then it's not your people!
Probably not really worth the effort or time, but I would want to see his reaction with no intentions of going and then dump him.
Kristin has a HORRIBLE idea. Her "mama heart" isn't gonna WANT you there, she's just gonna get guilt tripped into it. Abby actually has a good idea for once, BUT if my significant other contacted my mom to snake his way into thanksgiving, I would immediately break up as soon as the holidays were over bc that's desperate and creepy
DONT DO IT! Kristen is being a pick me girl and trying to ruin your relationship
Has anyone considered that he’s just clueless? it’s totally possible that it hasn’t even occurred to him that the appropriate thing to do is to invite you. I am with a lot of other commenters and I would make my own plans. I just wouldn’t read too far into something that may be very simple. He will show you who he is over time. I might start asking him about other holiday plans though.
I'd never lower myself to manipulate to beg the mum for an invite
He is just to gutless to dump you
Id be done!! Don't try and weasel your way in. Get out!!
Maybe he’s surprising her with a plane ticket to see her family!
Noooo Kristen! Omg that's psycho!
Abby is smart. Go with the communication. Don't listen to Kristin!
Just ask the guy why he has not invited you try and reassure him that if there is a problem with a family member you will try to be understanding
I thought you guys were going to have an answer to this
What happened? Follow up?
Surely you have 1 friend to meet up with. Go for a walk/hike gym class grab a coffee shop the sales (online or black fri prep) wrap xmas pressies. Order your fave takeout or cook yoyr favourite meal. Read a book watch a film invitea friend or go to a friend who is celebrating. Not American so my country doesnt celebrate tg but every usa person i know says its juat hassle work and a football game. Dont take kristans advice its desperate dont go where your not invited.
Make plans to go out with someone new on Nye
Move on.
I hope you don't live together
Life's too short to be with him if your not his number one
Your not his marriage long term person