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- How long does it take to get to know a Japanese woman? How long should you date before getting married to a Japanese woman?
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As my dad used to say "You never know everything about a person." He met and married my mother in 6 weeks. They remained married until he passed away.
That's cool. Personally I would certainly wait 6 months. And not more than 2 years
He probably said that because he married your mother in 6 weeks
I agree with a lot of what’s been said. Dating in Japan is difficult. I’ve had a lot of terrible experiences, but it’s slowly getting better learning from my past mistakes. It’s best to start off as friends and see where things go. Patience is the most important thing.
I’ve noticed with Japanese girls it starts
to become a mind game and can be difficult to pick up subtle cues. A Japanese girl will never tell she likes you or express deep interest. Some people might think she is not interested or is being cold, but it also depends on the girl.
There are lot of personalities in Japan. Some are social and will express interests and others won’t. Don’t go out and meet a bunch of girls at once. Take your time and find what you like or want in a person.
My Japanese friends say they will never date or marry a Japanese girl because they’re very complicated and it’s always a mind game, but don’t let this influence you. He always told me to start out as friends and be patience. Don’t be too direct right away unless you both know what your intentions are.
"A Japanese girl will never tell she likes you or express deep interest."
That sounds completely awful, and non-committal-- there's no equal partnership or emotional connection with an emotionally unavailable person who expresses nothing and drains you of energy just for trying.
@@WM-gr4qi There are many contributing factors. Japan has a brutal work culture. People work long hours and wages are low. Everything is getting more expensive in Japan. Many are also focused on their careers. Dating can be difficult. It’s really depends on the Japanese woman you met and what both your intentions are. There are a lot of personalities in Japan. It’s a complex issue. Japanese woman are shy and require a bit of space and distance.
It’s best to learn Japanese, make friends, and hangout in groups. You kinda have to be in Japan for that to work. Dating online is really tricky and requires a lot of effort. A lot of Japanese women on dating apps don’t show their face or they are blurred out. Almost not worth it in my opinion. Don’t give up :) it just takes time and patience. I want to marry a Japanese woman one day, but I am in no rush to find a woman.
I really don't think being Japanese makes a lick of difference in how long it takes to get to know a woman. I really don't think being a woman makes a lick of difference in how long it takes to get to know another human being. I liked and was already subscribed but I think the answer to this question is the same exact answer for any two people getting to know each other. It's actually kind of impossible to ever really KNOW another human being, I mean most people don't really ever get to know themselves. In fact, the only time in life that two people can get CLOSE to knowing each other is in the midst of an unsuspected tragedy. The more hardcore the tragedy the closer you will come to understanding not just the other person but also yourself. Still was an interesting conversation. Cheers!
True, but culture does play a big role. In most western cultures, it's often considered strange to get married to someone after knowing them for less than a year (god forbid 6 months!!) whereas its the complete opposite in eastern cultures (where the main goal is to get married and be financially stable)
Really true pend on personally different experience for me like know person longer get to know them then rush into relationship and great video also very helpful 😊👍
I Really like your video Asagi. I really loved your Husband take on Japans Culture. would love to see him more in your videos. i want to go to japan for at least 2 years and would love to hear his take on what to do and What NOT to do! thanks for your Video.
Loved the fist bump Asagi.😄
Hehe 😆
Proud of you two!
I guess once you reach a certain age you have a better understanding of what you do and don’t want in a partner. Once you realize the prince on a white horse or that manic pixie dream girl you seek doesn’t exist, that mental checklist you made for yourself with (endless) requirements you seek in a partner starts to shrink to a realistic level and makes it easier to find a suitable partner.
That's so true! Many people nowadays don't know how to settle down and say they don't want to "compromise" 😅
Awesome video!!!
Glad you enjoyed it 😀
@@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan any time :)
I like to watch this so I can relate to young people and see what problems young people face in the modern world. I think it was much less complicated in my time. But good information as always! ❤🙏
I'm glad you find it helpful 😃
A quick courtship is romantic in nature. It leaves a lot of questions unanswered.
No doubt, some will dismiss this, but for those who read, I believe it's valuable.
I appreciate you guys making an attempt to answer this question in the video, but there are some interesting things you said which I would like to share my opinion about.
Primarily it was referring to getting married within 6 months and then speculating as to the age of people who viewed that negatively. Asagi said "We are kind of experienced, we have experiences, and we knew what we wanted in our lives." He added "People who are overly critical like that, I would be curious to know how old they are and how their experiences are because somebody has an ideal of what marriage should be but haven't really been in a relationship to know that reality is different, and when you know, you know." Later, you said "You'll know when you know...I know it's not a really good answer, but..."
Well, I am much older than you two, have been through a lot more in terms of emotional, physical, mental, spiritual, and relational experiences, and I still know a drop in the bucket compared to what's out there to learn. And yet, I understand clearly that a person who gives pause at a 6-month marriage isn't being "overly critical" at all, but rather wise.
"When you know, you know" is a generic and overused piece of advice that only works for a very select minority of people. Such people have "found themselves" inwardly and are capable to not only recognize beneficial, wholesome relationships, but also perfectly equipped to live with or without a "significant other" in their lives. Such people have tapped into their deeper selves and can sense things on a level most people don't even think about, much less do. So, such advice, for the masses listening, is heard as "Do what feels right," meaning to them "Follow the emotions." This, of course, is bad advice and could be referred to as "Teen philosophy" as it lines up perfectly with how teenagers follow their emotions without any logic present, behaving as if no one else understands, and labeling all older, wiser people's opinions/advice/suggestions as "overly critical" at best and hateful at worst. There is a very real reason, after all, why we have the expression "youth is wasted on the young."
I married the first, and only, time when I was very young, to a "woman" younger than I was, after knowing her for about the same length of time as you two (6 months). Truth is, we never should've dated. I ignored many warning signs about her, and even some obvious traits (such as her laziness) and harsh way of talking didn't deter me from marrying her. Why did I marry her? Easy! I was young, lonely, and afraid of being alone -- courtesy of a childhood of trauma.
Long story short, marriage was hell for almost 10 years until she got her degree and then took my only daughter away from me (a child she never wanted to have) and turned her against me. My daughter is now nearly 24 and still treats me like trash, thanks to her mother. I've had 3 girlfriends since then, and made and grown many more friendships. I've traveled to 15 countries and lived full-time in 3, including 2 in Asia (China and now Japan). Came really close to remarrying a couple times but I wouldn't budge on some non-negotiable things. My longest relationship was over 3 years and I asked her to marry me and come to Japan, but she wanted to stay in China. I didn't, so here I am. My most recent girlfriend from last year, a single Japanese mother (plenty of those around), decided I wasn't for her after I got a blood clot in my leg, causing me to spend time in the hospital and making her reconsider being with a guy fighting kidney cancer. I could sense the change in her towards our relationship -- especially after she made no effort to make Christmas special for both of us.
Before I was in the hospital, she talked a great game about wanting to marry me and wishing we could have kids, but she was unable to. She really laid it on thick. After the hospital, she changed and disappeared. We were together for roughly 9 months. Thanks to my illness, her true self came out and saved me.
Experienced, wise people make a needed life decision quickly but change slowly. Getting married isn't a needed life decision -- it is a choice about changing and should be considered logically, relying on logic, lessons learned from experience, and gut instinct, not emotions like fear, "love" (a word used in place of selfishness, which is what it really is), or desire. Is it possible for two inwardly healthy, whole people to meet, marry, and have a good life together after just knowing one another for 6 months? Yes, but it's highly unlikely.
You mentioned dating a few people -- maybe 3-4 I think -- before "knowing what you want." There are a couple of facts missing here that are important: 1) you don't date people to "know what you want." You look inwardly to find yourself and your purpose FIRST and allow the outside and outside relationships to fall into place. 2) Research shows that in order to have the best possible chance to find someone who matches up with you well, it would take 100 different dates (with different people of course), just to find 5 who would provide really good outcomes. In other words, meeting someone who is truly a good fit is only a 5% chance for the average person. How much less of a chance is it then for someone who has spent a lot of time to improve themselves inside and out? Even less.
I still find it funny sometimes that foreigners think Japanese are like some kind of special breed. Sure culture and upbringing will play some factors, but in the end, people are people.
People are people. Each individual is different so as each culture. Then why don't you be open to learn the cultural difference?
I agree. I also think that Japanese people think they are better than other people.
I’ve heard from a number of foreign men In Japan that Japanese women completely change the moment they have children and that they lose all interest in physical intimacy. An American guy insta was taking how his wife hasn’t given him any action in 5 years.
That's because they have so much to do around the house & their husbands don't bother to help them. Kinda hard to feel in the mood when you have a million things to do, kids & a manchild to take care of.
they do not even know themselves, so it takes multiple lifetimes!
a lot of people say something about typology staff or some stereotypes. But It sounds much more realistic for me that it depends on the people and there are a lot of really different people.
you are such a nice couple and your husband looks like a wise man so you are lucky
congratulations
Hi Asagi.
One life is not enough.
Best wishes.
4 yr engaged and then 1 more yr got married. Don’t get married too fast. Get to know the person really well first.
Hello Asagi, I am in the USA. Can I purchase advise from here, I see the currency is JPY. Also Would you offer advise on a Singaporean woman? Note we are both 57 years.
Best, Steve
Yes, thank uou Justin, the wonderful Japanese woman, I'm talking to is mysterious, and intelligent. She opened up right away, then said we have to slow.😊.
Well I'm a youngster early 20s, got told advice to know your partner about 5 years to really know from those that have had plenty of experience. 6 months is short but I do understand, I've heard people go for 9 months, but wouldn't say it's common.
Congrats to y'all👍
Name of the background music, please?
I dont think this is so much cultural thing but rather but rather everyone experiences things differently and japanese people are just people like everyone else in sense that people are people and everyone is different
Most important IMHO is communication and willingness to be for one another.
Not a language per se, it can even be with a language barrier entirely I guess.
It's most important IMHO, to care for one another both in small and large things. To always make one another happy / considerate.
It sounds trivial or naive perhaps or something. Alas, it is nowhere to be found :/
Japanese base culture and values appear to align though...
I mean, 6 months is pretty fast but it seems like people there are a lot more decisive and seek to meet someone who meets there needs and move towards marraige as opposed to the west where there isn't much incentive to be married and people will date for years.
Oh to be loved from opposite gender, never experienced it
Judging by the profile pic, i see why
@@MegaTheman25 hehe
Hi Asagi, good video, I still believe and hope Japanese women will date Godzilla like me and not be afraid lol Iam thinking about using a KitKats as bait just to see what would happen might do a video of it lol
Hahaha. Not sure if you are seriousness, but you should attract women with your own charm!
@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan well I like to karaoke I think I charmed with my voice but not sure.
0:38 like a onion
I am flaberghasted that Justin managed to reel in this super model of a japanese woman that Asagi is 😲
stop, go rub one out and enter sage mode before you comment
❤️
2:25 年齢 経験
And intelligence.
My wife and I dated for like 5 years (since our early 20s… in Tokyo).
We could’ve married earlier, but it worked out just right for us. We’ve been married for 13 years now and have a 9yr old and a 4yr old.
Still plenty of things she won’t talk to me about, and plenty of things that she won’t listen to me about. Can’t really expect change, so I just have to figure out how to navigate through it.
I don’t think it’s an intrinsicly Japanese trait, but culture does play into why she won’t have truly deep conversations with me; there’s just a certain level I can’t get past because she won’t let me. I wish it were different, but I’ll just have to live with it and handle my feelings about it by myself.
It can be frustrating, but at the end of the day, we’re happy that we belong to each other.
how are you
1-2 weeks should suffice
the changing masks/hats sounds exhausting. I think only 2 are good to have, 3 at most. Work face, and normal face. or potentially work/friends/family.
also, I have to disagree about first few relationships being trials and then finding the right person. because each person you meet in not a progression of the last. it's completely random.
in fact, there are many stats showing that the more partners one has before marriage, the more likely they are to get divorced.
the best advice is to marry early and marry young, and then grow with your partner. never consider divorce as option. take that "til death do us part" seriously, and you'll be stronger and better off in the long run. as will family and everybody involved.
Bruh your husband out here looking like asmongold lmaoooo
I do not get the mindset of Japan being like anime. America is not like Hollywood life is not like we see on TV.
is 10cm long enough.
How can you advise people about dating while you rush in to marriage in six months? your body language on the show always looks awkward.
Okay. I certainly wouldn't take your advice either cause you seem like just a keyboard warrior who doesn't have a life 🤷🏻♀️ Thanks for the engagement though!
If you're trying to give criticism actually give advice instead of just "awkward." Doesn't even look awkward to me. Also, six months is a long time to spend with someone to get to know them, is it not? Even if it was 3 months, the amount of time you spend each day getting to know someone is important too, there isn't some sort of time quota
6 months is easily enough time, especially if you spend nearly every day with the person.
Anyway, it's better than wasting both people's time by dating for years with no goal.
@@magnetcrusher1193
Relationship experts recommend dating for at least 1 to 2 years before getting married. Dating for 3 or more years drops the likelihood of getting a divorce as much as 50%. In Japan it will definitely need more time because of 建前, tatemae and 本音, hon'ne culture behaviors.
@@yunusaminbari3060I agree with you. Looks like it struck a nerve with her lol I wouldn’t mind them. 6 months is extremely fast to decide and get married. I’ll give them a couple of years before that honey moon phase wears out
Getting knocked up generally speeds things up