Thank you for sharing. I am from Oregon and now live in Colorado. Oregon is a great state. I am excited for you and you getting your education. Thank you for making a change in DHS. Stay the course even when it is hard. Thank you for your videos to help others out here making changes in their life. You have touched the lives of others in unknown ways. Peace
DADE! There are very few people who's wisdom and actions I trust. Thank you for being precise and eloquent and caring. Thank you for your effort in smoothing the road for others. I'm sending so much love to you and your family.
Thank you for sharing this. It genuinely made me stop and think, because I realized that even though I consider myself to be an ally and progressive-minded, I would probably hesitate to adopt my child if I saw "transgender" in the home study, even though I would never hesitate if it was your family. I have absolutely no idea why and I realized that I have prejudices that I wasn't aware of. Clearly I need to reflect on that. Thank you for making me think, and hopefully be better. I wish you and your family the best.
Great to hear an update from you, Dade. Thanks for always going the extra mile to help the community. I hope you can take some time to relax and recover from all of the stress.
You're such a brave dude, I'm not sure if you realize how many lives you've already positively impacted. Being human is all part of this experience, but sharing it and standing up for what you believe in has already changed the world man ✌️💙 thank you
I hope, some day, you consider writing a book or doing a documentary about your experience. Your videos have broadened my understanding and deepened my compassion. Your honesty with sharing your experience (and Tiff as well) has made me a better nurse practitioner. Thank you.
Thank you Dade for this video. I am actually in a position where I can relate to how you feel. I have always watched Your videos and they have helped me with my transition and the decisions I've made for myself. I feel the way you are is very similar to myself in the way we think. Thank you for the advice about adoption. It should help a lot of us trans people that do want to adopt in the future. Hope you can find peace in your life and enjoy the fact that you have helped many people through the hardest of times. Thank you, God bless you and your growing family!
I'm continually amazed by your ability to deal with all these things at once. I'm really glad to hear that you're pursuing an education. Also glad to hear that you and Tiffany are influencing the adoption rules in Oregon. I'm sure Zane will have a sister or brother making her and everyone a complete and happy family. Thanks for the update. I hope you folks enjoyed the eclipse . We didn't go completely dark here but the experience was awesome.
What you said is very inspirational...it is a shame you have to work so hard at life but you have a head on your shoulders that is above all else and I send you only the best wishes for a continued successful life. Thanks again, for sharing!
You are such an inspiration! I'm happy to hear you guys are fine! So sorry for your loss. I really hope this adoption goes through. You and Tiffany seem like wonderful parents! Much love!
Just found out you have returned to UA-cam. I have missed your shared thoughts. For all that has happened since you signed off I can only say; wow, I, personally, am happy you and Tiffany have fought thru it all and emerged back to those of us who felt a friendship, kinship with you. Thank you for trying to be there for those of us whom you have helped.
Lol damn I wish you guys could adopt me! It's crazy how you uploaded a video today because I was just thinking about your channel and then bloop.. your video came up in my notifications. However, it's awesome to hear from you guys and hear you all are doing well. You're incredibly inspirational and you'll definitely have one hell of a story to tell one day! 😃
I'm glad to hear you are well. I understand the loss of a baby, as I lost two myself, and am so very sorry for your loss. As someone that works in a NICU, I see quite a few infants that must be placed in foster care, and ultimately adopted, and from my own experience I understand why the adoption process must be very stringent. So many of these babies and children have multiple, ongoing challenges that will strain and test their new families. Even having a healthy bio infant in the best circumstances can be trying on a couple or family. Every coin has 2sides, and from what I can see, you have a lovely family, and you and your wife are obviously excellent parents that could offer much to a child in need. However, in light of your recent struggles ( private personal, as well as some marital strain), I gently suggest perhaps the timing is not ideal. Adding a new kid usually amplifies whatever is going on in the home. I'm saying this very poorly, and please know that I mean no insult or unkindness. My own adult daughter is dealing with infertility-and it breaks my heart for her, but, there are other issues involved that make me think it could be for the best right now, and with a bit of time things will work out for she and her husband. I have followed your story for a long time and have always wished you the best. I know things will work out for you ! Best wishes!
I'm so sorry that you have been through losing babies also. It's hard. I thank you for your input on timing. The timing of the things going on that were so hard actually happened two years ago, and it's been over a year since we lost the baby. So time has passed and we are stable. Since then we have actually been foster parents so we also have some pretty solid experience about bring another child or two into our home. More importantly we have gained experience bringing troubled and abused kinds into our home. For us the timing feel right. Now we just need to wait on the system.
Hey Dade. I cannot thank you enough for your honesty with regards to trying to adopt while also having your transgender status declared. This had been a decision I battled with before ultimately making the choice to post pone my medical transition until I have had my biological children. I wish you and your family all the best with your adoption process. While I don't have the pleasure of knowing you or your family, I have no doubt that you all deserve to be happy. Thank you for such a good update.
"Still waters run deep". Thanks for being so thoughtful and honest about the good, bad and ugly. Your videos opened my eyes in to the trans world and I will be forever grateful, Dade. I am a better human being because of your open honesty. Please take good care of yourself, my friend and I just know your next family member is on his/her way to you guys.
Hi Dade, good to see you and your family are doing so well. I'm really sorry to hear that you've been having so many things going on in the last couple of years and been in so much turmoil. I hope your coming out the other side of it. It's really hard to come to terms that your the reason for an adoption not going through just because of your trans status and it shouldn't be an issue at all. There's so much prejudice in society still and a lot of taboo to be overcome but so pleased you were able to take your trans status out of your homecare report as it shouldn't reflect on you as a person and as a family as a whole it should be based on what you can offer as a family and family life. I hope things keep picking up and that your semester continues to go well and your studies. I don't know how you and Tiff keep it together and stay so strong. Your amazing people individually and as a family and have so much to offer. Thank you for sharing this and making others aware of the struggles you've had. X
Gender reassignment has no bearing on adoption what about current hippa regulations leaving gender reassignment it's a personal decision in other words why couldn't hippa get that issue stricken from the record it's between you and tiff and no else's business your friend tom putting it perspective for you it's health insurance privacy and portability act,
I really look up to you Dade. The stuff that was going on with the adoption sounds really tough, I'm glad you've got it resolved now - for yourself and other trans people in your state - but what a horrible exposure of people's prejudices. Fingers crossed for you to have a new member joining your family very soon. My wife and I are trying for a baby at the moment, and every setback makes me feel so guilty that I can't just 'do my part' in getting her pregnant the old-fashioned way. It's tough. But all we can do is be patient and hope.
I'm glad you're doing better than you were. I enjoyed getting an update! Ugh, that is so crazy that you were being discriminated against. Good for you for "taking action on your own behalf," as my old therapist would say. :)
I just recently came across your videos. As part of the LGBTQ community, I want to praise you for your brave journey and your wife's brave journey with you. I watched many of your videos so far and I'm amazed to see your transformation from not only your inner self, but also your physical self. The change is remarkable to see the man you have become and I'm so happy for you. I hope that you and your wife are able to adopt soon. Did you and your wife ever consider a surrogate prior to looking into adoption? Sorry if you already covered this issue, since I haven't watched all of your videos. Also, just as an observation, you seem like there is a lot of sadness you are holding inside (maybe from current or even past events / stress). I hope you are either sharing within a support group or finding help via a therapist. I know you mentioned you tend to be a loner (I can relate), but sometimes it is more helpful to get outside of your own head and share in a supportive environment that can help alleviate some of that sadness / stress. Nevertheless, take care and I hope you and your family are doing well.
Thanks for this. You’re videos are the best I’ve ever listened to for education on the subject. I’m realizing that cis is male born and trans male (female born) is both male but still different. I was wondering do trans people ever say well here it is, I’m just male now. I see now it’s impossible. You are always going to carry part of your former self as female with you. That’s a big realization for me. Good grief, regular life is hard enough and still you must live with all your former self and all you went through and things you’ll always deal with along with regular life. Blessings to you and your sweet family. I hope that you keep peace and joy in your life. I wish you all the very best. Looking to the day trans people are just accepted as regular people and we can just be able to be a part of each other’s daily lives.
I give you so much credit for your determination, honesty and courage as a trans man and to just BE Who You Are! As A Gay man in Florida as well as a Musician and Counselor, I struggle to understand other aspects of human sexuality such as bisexuality and transgender. I would genuinely like to chat with you, if you are comfortable with that, just as potential friends and allies. Let me know if you're interested and if so, how I can reach you in a confidential manner. I Wish You ALL The Best And You have my utmost Respect And Admiration. Your Friend in Tampa Bay Florida - Todd
Dade, you and Tiff made a tremendous contribution to the Civil Rights cause for all people by taking your fight to get trans status removed. Bravo. And congrats at returning to school. My best to you and your family.
Hey Dade,I have a question for you. I am older, 54, and have some immunity issues and a thyroid disorder that we are trying to keep in balance with thryroid med and T, which actually has helped it a lot. I also have a slightly slow liver and can get toxic pretty easily. Overall, after a year on T, we have had to lower my T gradually, and at one point had to stop for up to a month, which resulted in a gradual regression in my physical changes. Very frustrating. I work on my diet and staying away from plastics, etc, and tend to do ok, but eventually I am suddenly in estrogen-flair, when the T is too much and reverts to estrogen, and I experience a PMS kind of thing until the T goes down. It seems to build up and then becomes a problem. I'm up and down like a yo-yo. I think my Doc and I need to test more regularly to see at what point this happens.The other thing is I had a full hysterectomy almost three months ago and my T dropped, and I had had to stop the T three weeks before because I went into estrogen flair again and was waiting for the Doc's ok to get more blood work. i became unbearably cranky and exhausted after surgery, and when tested, my T was very low even though my breasts were sensitive. So, he upped my last two doses to 2.5 and a week later 2.0. I have had to lower my thyroid med because the T was making my thyroid levels too high, so that is getting resolved. But why on earth am I beginning to feel PMS-y again? And my breasts are so sore? On such a low dose??I'm trying to get back in shape as my energy has improved, but I am the heaviest (and pretty muscular under the chub) Ive ever been. I also take DIM to block the estrogen flairs, and I just increased it to three caps a day to see if it will help. I am trying to schedule a mastectomy for apring. Will that help me in anyway to balance out a little? Do you have any suggestions for me to help keep my T from turning into estrogen? Thomas
Hey Dade, I just have a quick question hoping you can answer. What has your workout routine been throughout your transition? I'm a trans guy 7 months on T right now. I'm naturally a kind of small guy and I'm trying to figure out how to build more muscle, especially upper body. I bike a lot but I'm not sure the best way to build upper body muscle. If you have any tips for me that'd be real cool! Thank you! love your videos btw you're a great guy and I hope things are looking up for you.
Hey man :) I don't do the crazy work out thing that a lot of guys do. I am consistent with what I do though. I lift a few times per week and focus solely on my upper body. I lift heavy (8 reps or under) for about 30 minutes. That's it. Slowly over the last 6 years my muscles have developed. I know a lot of people push really hard and bulk up fast, but that's never been my style. Good luck!
As a legal studies major, this is pure curiosity. When you worked with getting your trans status revoked from your home study did you go to courts at all or was it done strictly through the DHS? The way you mentioned it made it sound like you took it all the way to the Oregon Supreme Court.
It was all through DHS. When I said I took it to Salem, I was referring to taking it to DHS headquarters. I wasn't trying to make it sound like more than it was.
Dade your fighting the good fight and you may not realize it but you are a trailblazer for other transgender parents regarding adoption and dealing with DHS. No one should have to disclose their transgender status. Keep up the good fight.
Thank you so much for the update, Dade! My mind is racing, because, I understand your advocacy for transgenders. I think it's GREAT, and you should continue doing the exceptional job you do. However...why does DHS need your PRIVATE medical information? I can understand if they want to know about recreational drug use, if you have a terminal disease, etc. but that should be all...nothing more. Your doctor could certainly write a report about that! Anything else is confidential. The next issue is, I think you were transgender before...now you're just are a man...body and soul, so unless you are encouraging, and providing guidance for other trans people, I don't think it's anyone's business unless YOU choose to disclose it. And I believe there are times you shouldn't have to. It's just like gay and lesbians...WHY do they have to tell anyone about their business, unless they want to. I don't have to go around announcing I'm heterosexual, and what goes on in my bedroom, so why should anyone else have to? Also, did you get a new birth certificate with a male gender? I hope I'm not offending you (I usually always offend someone, with my candor), or getting too personal. You can just ignore anything I said if you want. I have a curious streak that won't end! Sincerely, Danni Sue
That's wonderful. I didn't have my son until I was 40 (living in Utah) as a single mother. I'm now 62 and he's 22. Ancestry and these other things didn't exist when he was a kid. I wish he could have known them as a child so that they could have established a real relationship. It becomes harder as their older. Also, he's an only child (my only child) and an introvert. I wonder what goes on in his head. He works full time, is in college for anthropology, and is a weight lifter (into it big time). I wonder if I harmed him by being single. I was divorced when I was younger from an alcoholic abusive man and never remarried. I adore my son, but worry about him. I enjoy hearing your story.
Please excuse my ignorance, but at what point do people move from being considered trans to the actual gender that they identify with? I've followed you for quite a while and from my perspective, especially since you've completed your surgeries, you are a man, period. Does it vary from state to state? You're such a strong person Dade. I wish nothing but the best for you and your beautiful family.
hinotefanatic You’re always trans. You are a trans man. You don’t have to be one or the other. Biological males are cisgender men. And both cisgender and trans ftm are male.
Dude, you sometimes need some outside neutral perspective only a psychologist can give you,...one you feel comfortable with. Here in North Europe adopting a child, you being transgendered isn't a problem,...but the UK, Ireland, the Netherlands, Germany, Belgium, Denmark, Sweden, Norway are really strickt on adopting away children to foreign (outside the EU) hopeful's, especially to North America, it very rarely gets the go ahead, but it would have been perfect if not for that part for you. It's ridiculous that your "transgender" status is in anyway relevant or an obstacle in this process.
can someone please clarify....what in the world is this person talking about ???....i mean,....you where a girl and now a boy....or WHAT?....seriously, i am totally confused...................nothing hateful or bad......just can not figure this out.....
Thank you for sharing. I am from Oregon and now live in Colorado. Oregon is a great state. I am excited for you and you getting your education. Thank you for making a change in DHS. Stay the course even when it is hard. Thank you for your videos to help others out here making changes in their life. You have touched the lives of others in unknown ways. Peace
DADE! There are very few people who's wisdom and actions I trust. Thank you for being precise and eloquent and caring. Thank you for your effort in smoothing the road for others. I'm sending so much love to you and your family.
Finn Menzies knnnm
Thank you for sharing this. It genuinely made me stop and think, because I realized that even though I consider myself to be an ally and progressive-minded, I would probably hesitate to adopt my child if I saw "transgender" in the home study, even though I would never hesitate if it was your family. I have absolutely no idea why and I realized that I have prejudices that I wasn't aware of. Clearly I need to reflect on that. Thank you for making me think, and hopefully be better. I wish you and your family the best.
Great to hear an update from you, Dade. Thanks for always going the extra mile to help the community. I hope you can take some time to relax and recover from all of the stress.
You're such a brave dude, I'm not sure if you realize how many lives you've already positively impacted. Being human is all part of this experience, but sharing it and standing up for what you believe in has already changed the world man ✌️💙 thank you
You're such an amazing person. Best wishes to you and your beautiful family.
What an accomplishment. You're paving the way for future people. God bless.
It's awesome to see you doing an update. It's a relief to know you are still a happy family.
I hope, some day, you consider writing a book or doing a documentary about your experience. Your videos have broadened my understanding and deepened my compassion. Your honesty with sharing your experience (and Tiff as well) has made me a better nurse practitioner. Thank you.
What kind thing to say. Thank you.
Congratulations on growing and moving forward. Self-compassion and self-care are so important.
You're a good man. Don't beat yourself up. You are an asset to your family not a detriment. Stand your ground and hold your head high.
Im happy you and your family are doing good. Blessings!
You resemble Ryan Reynolds right here 🤔
Nazari Austin I would agree...he does look like Ryan Reynalds......Dade is very handsome for sure
Thank you Dade for this video. I am actually in a position where I can relate to how you feel. I have always watched Your videos and they have helped me with my transition and the decisions I've made for myself. I feel the way you are is very similar to myself in the way we think. Thank you for the advice about adoption. It should help a lot of us trans people that do want to adopt in the future. Hope you can find peace in your life and enjoy the fact that you have helped many people through the hardest of times. Thank you, God bless you and your growing family!
U are a great guy u helped me a lot , I'm all away from Russia ,god bless u
I'm continually amazed by your ability to deal with all these things at once. I'm really glad to hear that you're pursuing an education. Also glad to hear that you and Tiffany are influencing the adoption rules in Oregon. I'm sure Zane will have a sister or brother making her and everyone a complete and happy family. Thanks for the update. I hope you folks enjoyed the eclipse . We didn't go completely dark here but the experience was awesome.
Forgot to mention that I really enjoy your Instagram postings. Gives us viewers a different prospective on your family life.
Tiff and Zane traveled to the path of totality and said it was amazing:) I had to stay home to work... the best I saw was 94%. It was still beautiful.
Keep your head up, buddy. Thanks for still speaking up. Give me a shout if you ever need anything. I'll help however I can.
Life is a Journey!! Blessings to you and your family 😊
What you said is very inspirational...it is a shame you have to work so hard at life but you have a head on your shoulders that is above all else and I send you only the best wishes for a continued successful life. Thanks again, for sharing!
You are such an inspiration! I'm happy to hear you guys are fine! So sorry for your loss. I really hope this adoption goes through. You and Tiffany seem like wonderful parents! Much love!
Just found out you have returned to UA-cam. I have missed your shared thoughts. For all that has happened since you signed off I can only say; wow, I, personally, am happy you and Tiffany have fought thru it all and emerged back to those of us who felt a friendship, kinship with you. Thank you for trying to be there for those of us whom you have helped.
Lol damn I wish you guys could adopt me! It's crazy how you uploaded a video today because I was just thinking about your channel and then bloop.. your video came up in my notifications. However, it's awesome to hear from you guys and hear you all are doing well. You're incredibly inspirational and you'll definitely have one hell of a story to tell one day! 😃
I'm glad to hear you are well. I understand the loss of a baby, as I lost two myself, and am so very sorry for your loss. As someone that works in a NICU, I see quite a few infants that must be placed in foster care, and ultimately adopted, and from my own experience I understand why the adoption process must be very stringent. So many of these babies and children have multiple, ongoing challenges that will strain and test their new families. Even having a healthy bio infant in the best circumstances can be trying on a couple or family. Every coin has 2sides, and from what I can see, you have a lovely family, and you and your wife are obviously excellent parents that could offer much to a child in need. However, in light of your recent struggles ( private personal, as well as some marital strain), I gently suggest perhaps the timing is not ideal. Adding a new kid usually amplifies whatever is going on in the home. I'm saying this very poorly, and please know that I mean no insult or unkindness. My own adult daughter is dealing with infertility-and it breaks my heart for her, but, there are other issues involved that make me think it could be for the best right now, and with a bit of time things will work out for she and her husband. I have followed your story for a long time and have always wished you the best. I know things will work out for you ! Best wishes!
I'm so sorry that you have been through losing babies also. It's hard. I thank you for your input on timing. The timing of the things going on that were so hard actually happened two years ago, and it's been over a year since we lost the baby. So time has passed and we are stable. Since then we have actually been foster parents so we also have some pretty solid experience about bring another child or two into our home. More importantly we have gained experience bringing troubled and abused kinds into our home. For us the timing feel right. Now we just need to wait on the system.
Wow I've been following you for over 5yrs! Time flies. Glad to hear you are all doing well.
Hey Dade. I cannot thank you enough for your honesty with regards to trying to adopt while also having your transgender status declared. This had been a decision I battled with before ultimately making the choice to post pone my medical transition until I have had my biological children. I wish you and your family all the best with your adoption process. While I don't have the pleasure of knowing you or your family, I have no doubt that you all deserve to be happy. Thank you for such a good update.
You give me hope for the future of mankind. Good luck in school, and thank you!
It takes a great deal of courage and fortitude to stand strong and not get bogged down in a difficult situation.
"Still waters run deep". Thanks for being so thoughtful and honest about the good, bad and ugly. Your videos opened my eyes in to the trans world and I will be forever grateful, Dade. I am a better human being because of your open honesty. Please take good care of yourself, my friend and I just know your next family member is on his/her way to you guys.
Good to see you, man. Glad the fam's doing well.
Hi Dade, good to see you and your family are doing so well. I'm really sorry to hear that you've been having so many things going on in the last couple of years and been in so much turmoil. I hope your coming out the other side of it. It's really hard to come to terms that your the reason for an adoption not going through just because of your trans status and it shouldn't be an issue at all. There's so much prejudice in society still and a lot of taboo to be overcome but so pleased you were able to take your trans status out of your homecare report as it shouldn't reflect on you as a person and as a family as a whole it should be based on what you can offer as a family and family life. I hope things keep picking up and that your semester continues to go well and your studies. I don't know how you and Tiff keep it together and stay so strong. Your amazing people individually and as a family and have so much to offer. Thank you for sharing this and making others aware of the struggles you've had. X
Gender reassignment has no bearing on adoption what about current hippa regulations leaving gender reassignment it's a personal decision in other words why couldn't hippa get that issue stricken from the record it's between you and tiff and no else's business your friend tom putting it perspective for you it's health insurance privacy and portability act,
I really look up to you Dade. The stuff that was going on with the adoption sounds really tough, I'm glad you've got it resolved now - for yourself and other trans people in your state - but what a horrible exposure of people's prejudices. Fingers crossed for you to have a new member joining your family very soon. My wife and I are trying for a baby at the moment, and every setback makes me feel so guilty that I can't just 'do my part' in getting her pregnant the old-fashioned way. It's tough. But all we can do is be patient and hope.
I hear you, man. It's really hard. Best of luck to you and your wife :)
I'm glad you're doing better than you were. I enjoyed getting an update! Ugh, that is so crazy that you were being discriminated against. Good for you for "taking action on your own behalf," as my old therapist would say. :)
Thx 4 the updates! Congrats on everything & much appreciated nfo 👊👍
Thanks for sharing the adoption process details and congrats for getting through that part of the system!
Hi Dade, you look great, hope all is going well for you and family and friends. Peace to you my friend.
I just recently came across your videos. As part of the LGBTQ community, I want to praise you for your brave journey and your wife's brave journey with you. I watched many of your videos so far and I'm amazed to see your transformation from not only your inner self, but also your physical self. The change is remarkable to see the man you have become and I'm so happy for you. I hope that you and your wife are able to adopt soon. Did you and your wife ever consider a surrogate prior to looking into adoption? Sorry if you already covered this issue, since I haven't watched all of your videos. Also, just as an observation, you seem like there is a lot of sadness you are holding inside (maybe from current or even past events / stress). I hope you are either sharing within a support group or finding help via a therapist. I know you mentioned you tend to be a loner (I can relate), but sometimes it is more helpful to get outside of your own head and share in a supportive environment that can help alleviate some of that sadness / stress. Nevertheless, take care and I hope you and your family are doing well.
Thanks for this. You’re videos are the best I’ve ever listened to for education on the subject. I’m realizing that cis is male born and trans male (female born) is both male but still different. I was wondering do trans people ever say well here it is, I’m just male now.
I see now it’s impossible. You are always going to carry part of your former self as female with you.
That’s a big realization for me.
Good grief, regular life is hard enough and still you must live with all your former self and all you went through and things you’ll always deal with along with regular life.
Blessings to you and your sweet family.
I hope that you keep peace and joy in your life.
I wish you all the very best.
Looking to the day trans people are just accepted as regular people and we can just be able to be a part of each other’s daily lives.
We all at one point in our life we loose control. You are not alone
I give you so much credit for your determination, honesty and courage as a trans man and to just BE Who You Are! As A Gay man in Florida as well as a Musician and Counselor, I struggle to understand other aspects of human sexuality such as bisexuality and transgender. I would genuinely like to chat with you, if you are comfortable with that, just as potential friends and allies. Let me know if you're interested and if so, how I can reach you in a confidential manner. I Wish You ALL The Best And You have my utmost Respect And Admiration. Your Friend in Tampa Bay Florida - Todd
Dade, you and Tiff made a tremendous contribution to the Civil Rights cause for all people by taking your fight to get trans status removed. Bravo. And congrats at returning to school. My best to you and your family.
Congratulations! Best wishes for your adoption ventures!
You're so amazing. 💕
Hey Dade,I have a question for you. I am older, 54, and have some immunity issues and a thyroid disorder that we are trying to keep in balance with thryroid med and T, which actually has helped it a lot. I also have a slightly slow liver and can get toxic pretty easily. Overall, after a year on T, we have had to lower my T gradually, and at one point had to stop for up to a month, which resulted in a gradual regression in my physical changes. Very frustrating. I work on my diet and staying away from plastics, etc, and tend to do ok, but eventually I am suddenly in estrogen-flair, when the T is too much and reverts to estrogen, and I experience a PMS kind of thing until the T goes down. It seems to build up and then becomes a problem. I'm up and down like a yo-yo. I think my Doc and I need to test more regularly to see at what point this happens.The other thing is I had a full hysterectomy almost three months ago and my T dropped, and I had had to stop the T three weeks before because I went into estrogen flair again and was waiting for the Doc's ok to get more blood work. i became unbearably cranky and exhausted after surgery, and when tested, my T was very low even though my breasts were sensitive. So, he upped my last two doses to 2.5 and a week later 2.0. I have had to lower my thyroid med because the T was making my thyroid levels too high, so that is getting resolved. But why on earth am I beginning to feel PMS-y again? And my breasts are so sore? On such a low dose??I'm trying to get back in shape as my energy has improved, but I am the heaviest (and pretty muscular under the chub) Ive ever been. I also take DIM to block the estrogen flairs, and I just increased it to three caps a day to see if it will help. I am trying to schedule a mastectomy for apring. Will that help me in anyway to balance out a little? Do you have any suggestions for me to help keep my T from turning into estrogen? Thomas
U. Are. Awesome.
Keep on rockin!
Thank you
DON'T BEAT URSEALF UP TOO BAD RYAN, UR ONLY HUMAN IN LIFE!!
The grey side patches of hair you have resemble gentlemen in the 60's, really nice and handsome :)
Hey Dade, I just have a quick question hoping you can answer. What has your workout routine been throughout your transition? I'm a trans guy 7 months on T right now. I'm naturally a kind of small guy and I'm trying to figure out how to build more muscle, especially upper body. I bike a lot but I'm not sure the best way to build upper body muscle. If you have any tips for me that'd be real cool! Thank you! love your videos btw you're a great guy and I hope things are looking up for you.
Hey man :) I don't do the crazy work out thing that a lot of guys do. I am consistent with what I do though. I lift a few times per week and focus solely on my upper body. I lift heavy (8 reps or under) for about 30 minutes. That's it. Slowly over the last 6 years my muscles have developed. I know a lot of people push really hard and bulk up fast, but that's never been my style. Good luck!
Look at sportpeople. Bikers have tiny upper body's and huge legs but f.i. swimmers have large torsos.
As a legal studies major, this is pure curiosity. When you worked with getting your trans status revoked from your home study did you go to courts at all or was it done strictly through the DHS? The way you mentioned it made it sound like you took it all the way to the Oregon Supreme Court.
It was all through DHS. When I said I took it to Salem, I was referring to taking it to DHS headquarters. I wasn't trying to make it sound like more than it was.
you look like ryan reynolds
Dade your fighting the good fight and you may not realize it but you are a trailblazer for other transgender parents regarding adoption and dealing with DHS. No one should have to disclose their transgender status. Keep up the good fight.
Hit me up anytime bro. Here for ya.
Thank you so much for the update, Dade! My mind is racing, because, I understand your advocacy for transgenders. I think it's GREAT, and you should continue doing the exceptional job you do. However...why does DHS need your PRIVATE medical information? I can understand if they want to know about recreational drug use, if you have a terminal disease, etc. but that should be all...nothing more. Your doctor could certainly write a report about that! Anything else is confidential. The next issue is, I think you were transgender before...now you're just are a man...body and soul, so unless you are encouraging, and providing guidance for other trans people, I don't think it's anyone's business unless YOU choose to disclose it. And I believe there are times you shouldn't have to. It's just like gay and lesbians...WHY do they have to tell anyone about their business, unless they want to. I don't have to go around announcing I'm heterosexual, and what goes on in my bedroom, so why should anyone else have to? Also, did you get a new birth certificate with a male gender? I hope I'm not offending you (I usually always offend someone, with my candor), or getting too personal. You can just ignore anything I said if you want. I have a curious streak that won't end! Sincerely, Danni Sue
Did the donor you picked for Zane have other kids that you know of. My donor conceived son has 5 sisters that we found on ancestry.com.
Yes. A lot. We are in contact with quite a few of them, and Zane is friends with them.
That's wonderful. I didn't have my son until I was 40 (living in Utah) as a single mother. I'm now 62 and he's 22. Ancestry and these other things didn't exist when he was a kid. I wish he could have known them as a child so that they could have established a real relationship. It becomes harder as their older. Also, he's an only child (my only child) and an introvert. I wonder what goes on in his head. He works full time, is in college for anthropology, and is a weight lifter (into it big time). I wonder if I harmed him by being single. I was divorced when I was younger from an alcoholic abusive man and never remarried. I adore my son, but worry about him. I enjoy hearing your story.
Yes, I'm so happy for you guys, can you hire a surrogate?
Please excuse my ignorance, but at what point do people move from being considered trans to the actual gender that they identify with? I've followed you for quite a while and from my perspective, especially since you've completed your surgeries, you are a man, period. Does it vary from state to state?
You're such a strong person Dade. I wish nothing but the best for you and your beautiful family.
hinotefanatic You’re always trans. You are a trans man. You don’t have to be one or the other. Biological males are cisgender men. And both cisgender and trans ftm are male.
Did you ever take the Meyer Briggs test Dade? You seem like an INTJ.
I am an INTJ.
ElectricDade I'm also an intj
You look like my uncle
Hey I’m in love with you
Dude, you sometimes need some outside neutral perspective only a psychologist can give you,...one you feel comfortable with.
Here in North Europe adopting a child, you being transgendered isn't a problem,...but the UK, Ireland, the Netherlands, Germany, Belgium, Denmark, Sweden, Norway are really strickt on adopting away children to foreign (outside the EU) hopeful's, especially to North America, it very rarely gets the go ahead, but it would have been perfect if not for that part for you.
It's ridiculous that your "transgender" status is in anyway relevant or an obstacle in this process.
It is absolutely absurd to be discriminated be sure being trans . Statistics point to problems being in non trans families
can someone please clarify....what in the world is this person talking about ???....i mean,....you where a girl and now a boy....or WHAT?....seriously, i am totally confused...................nothing hateful or bad......just can not figure this out.....
Robert Brown Yep. I am a FTM (female to male) trans person. I have used this channel to document my transition for the last six years.
Oh god, another boo hoo story where no real information is given. Well at least you are wearing a shirt.