I’ve exercised my masculine energy ever since my childhood. My father was abusive and then absent. My mother didn’t cope well. So I had to be strong. I don’t know how to rest in the feminine. I’ve had moments. I feel that regarding men I am never enough. Now outside of the realm of men I’m accomplished and quite proud of who I am. I know I have deep rooted trust issues when it comes to men so I’m very guarded with them.
My man has pointed out countless times that I run on this high masculine energy and it would upset me because I couldn’t see it. I couldn’t accept it and the worst part is that I know exactly where it stems from. I don’t want to be that way anymore… I want to just rest in my feminine energy and let go. I’m tired of being hyper vigilant or hiding my fears/insecurities with aggression especially towards my man. He’s been so patient with me but I can’t help but feel like he’s getting tired. I’m glad I found this channel right now.
As a teenager I am so happy that I can embrance my feminine energy. I admit that I used to be masculine but this was really toxic energy. I was rebelious but in bad way. I was mean. I was close to others. I regret that. It was immature and stupid. I am happy that I started to watch videos about feminine energy and this really helped me. I was able to embrance surrender and I did change a lot. I started to wear dresses. I started to take care of myself. I wear feminine shoes and I changed my personality. I am nice when I can be nice. I am nice. I am kind. I am supportive. I learned to be patience and lovely. The only thing I regret is the fact that I din't become like that before. I am 17 years old and this transformation really makes me happy. I am willing to embrance my feminine energy even more and I would like to be like a princess❤.
This is really superb content. I'm a psychotherapist and have struggled with my masculine energy man for a long time. I've done a lot of my own personal therapy, but it is very difficult when that has been engrained in you as a survival mechanism. I finally attracted a man and pulled him towards me. With feminine energy, that I was practicing to the point where we were on the path to marriage. He had wanted me for years as we were friends in a social circle. But then my anxiety got to me and I started pushing and inviting myself and making trips and doing way too much. And the attraction that he felt to me, which caused him to want to step app and commit degraded. 2 weeks ago. He broke up with me comma he says i'm the soul source of his emotional support and needs comma but my sense is the attraction is not there anymore. The spark. Because I had to please. My father over and over and over again to get his love and approval, I've often perpetuated that behavior with men. This comes off as trying too hard, being too nice doing too much and putting the man on the pedestal. That's the mistakes I made in this current relationship. The man was under tremendous stress, moving across country, starting a new business, had no income and I kept pushing for more and more and could not wait for him to step up in time to make the arrangements that he had promised and committed to. I had a father who rejected me emotionally after a while of his abuse and I was forever trying to get in his love and Grace is again by doing doing doing doing doing. Did the same thing in this relationship with the man now? And this translates into pushing too hard, trying to hard, seeing 2 nice, not letting them Chase, and in the end, he said he was totally dependent on me for his emotional needs. And that he wanted a relationship that was more fulfilling than just a motional needs being fulfilled. What that means to me is he got scared and overwhelmed. But also that his attraction and spark to me had degraded.
Hi Chengi, I have always been more of a tom boy and even like “one of the boys” in my relationships. I now realise why I’ve had so much trouble attracting a high value masculine man. Can you do a video about girls who identity as more of a tom boy and how we can embody more femininity without losing our personality? Thank you and love your videos xx
Such girls are in masculine energy and when they are ready to become a feminine goddess they will make the transition. Tomboyishness is usually a survival protocol. Often wounds being hidden beneath the surface.
Chengi you are so right. Men would always said to me "smile." However, my mind was always think about the dragons I had to slay. Now, I am carefree and happy. People respond to me differently with complaints. I still need work but I am mindful of my face because of therapy. Thanks for your help.
Wow! So glad I found your channel! This is so true! I really could use some advice, I just got married. Month ago and I keep falling back into masculine energy sometimes and I’m worried I’m going to lose him..
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I’m extremely masculine. Mama was absent most of my life and even when she was around wasn’t a good example/influence. I was raised by my dad and grandfather along with my little brother I had to help raise. I’ve been through a lot, especially with the men I’ve dated my whole life. I have created an alter identity over the years that has grown my masculinity even more. But I have so much feminine energy within me I’m a very gentle and submissive and loving nurturing woman , but am battling within myself going back and forth. Idk where to start. And how to let these bad habits go that I’ve been using my entire life.
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Hi Chengi, I recently got into your videos and I loved every one of them as it was the most challenging thing I had to digest. I'm someone who has be running high with masculine energy. While the energy has helped me navigate through other parts of life, it didn't help me find love and relationships. I belong to the 4th archetype. I'm tall and taller or as tall as most men. That is the first thing that intimidates them. I'm also confident, so that's the 2nd trait that men find intimidating. Having worked with men (majorly), I think I've taken up masculine energy to a large extent and thought that's the only way to be smart. Boy, was I wrong!.It is only in the last 2-3 years that I'm begining to embrace my feminine energy as I always perceived it as weak.. This is why I had difficulty accepting a few things you highlight in your videos. I take this opportunity to thank you for your content and also request you to make a video about women who want to learn to balance both energies and want to attract men with balanced energies. I don't think I will be comfortable dating a highliy masculine man because it is not in my nature. I want to attain a balance and want someone who has has this balance (60-70% masculine and 30-40%feminine energy). Thanks Sandhya
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Shalawam sister you’re doing a wonderful job. As older women we have a responsibility to teach our younger and older broken women to come back to being the woman we were born to be. You’re absolutely on it. Sisters it’s all about self love and respect then we are able to generate such actions.
Thank u 🙏 i have never really felt safe in my body 😢 its sad i remember even having anxiety as an 9 year old. I wish i could just go back and tell myself that its alright and the older you Will take better care of you ❤. Im happy that ive started healing my inner child 🫶
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I'm not sure if you'll read this because it is a year old video, but just in case I wanted to say some things. Thank you so much for this video. It has enlightened me greatly. I now know I need to help myself feel safe and get out of flight or fight mode to move forward into my femininity. You are very smart and I appreciate your help.
You've just answered one of my deepest concerns. I understand now why my body makes so much cortisol. I decided to have less stress in my life, but when I took that decision, I was offered an opportunity at work I couldn't ignore, which will keep me in my masculine energy. Less stress, but more responsibilities. Feel like it's a never ending battle. Anyway, I'll keep trying! How funny today, I came across a nice gentleman today who could hardly hide a smile when I came in. I came in like a hurricane. I wasn't late, but that's the way I walk. I realised it wasn't feminine at all. There's so much work to do. Lord, please 🙏help me.
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I’ve exercised my masculine energy ever since my childhood. My father was abusive and then absent. My mother didn’t cope well. So I had to be strong. I don’t know how to rest in the feminine. I’ve had moments. I feel that regarding men I am never enough. Now outside of the realm of men I’m accomplished and quite proud of who I am. I know I have deep rooted trust issues when it comes to men so I’m very guarded with them.
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My man has pointed out countless times that I run on this high masculine energy and it would upset me because I couldn’t see it. I couldn’t accept it and the worst part is that I know exactly where it stems from. I don’t want to be that way anymore… I want to just rest in my feminine energy and let go. I’m tired of being hyper vigilant or hiding my fears/insecurities with aggression especially towards my man. He’s been so patient with me but I can’t help but feel like he’s getting tired. I’m glad I found this channel right now.
As a teenager I am so happy that I can embrance my feminine energy. I admit that I used to be masculine but this was really toxic energy. I was rebelious but in bad way. I was mean. I was close to others. I regret that. It was immature and stupid. I am happy that I started to watch videos about feminine energy and this really helped me. I was able to embrance surrender and I did change a lot. I started to wear dresses. I started to take care of myself. I wear feminine shoes and I changed my personality. I am nice when I can be nice. I am nice. I am kind. I am supportive. I learned to be patience and lovely. The only thing I regret is the fact that I din't become like that before. I am 17 years old and this transformation really makes me happy. I am willing to embrance my feminine energy even more and I would like to be like a princess❤.
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This is really superb content. I'm a psychotherapist and have struggled with my masculine energy man for a long time. I've done a lot of my own personal therapy, but it is very difficult when that has been engrained in you as a survival mechanism. I finally attracted a man and pulled him towards me. With feminine energy, that I was practicing to the point where we were on the path to marriage. He had wanted me for years as we were friends in a social circle. But then my anxiety got to me and I started pushing and inviting myself and making trips and doing way too much. And the attraction that he felt to me, which caused him to want to step app and commit degraded. 2 weeks ago. He broke up with me comma he says i'm the soul source of his emotional support and needs comma but my sense is the attraction is not there anymore. The spark. Because I had to please. My father over and over and over again to get his love and approval, I've often perpetuated that behavior with men. This comes off as trying too hard, being too nice doing too much and putting the man on the pedestal. That's the mistakes I made in this current relationship. The man was under tremendous stress, moving across country, starting a new business, had no income and I kept pushing for more and more and could not wait for him to step up in time to make the arrangements that he had promised and committed to. I had a father who rejected me emotionally after a while of his abuse and I was forever trying to get in his love and Grace is again by doing doing doing doing doing. Did the same thing in this relationship with the man now? And this translates into pushing too hard, trying to hard, seeing 2 nice, not letting them Chase, and in the end, he said he was totally dependent on me for his emotional needs. And that he wanted a relationship that was more fulfilling than just a motional needs being fulfilled. What that means to me is he got scared and overwhelmed. But also that his attraction and spark to me had degraded.
Hi Chengi, I have always been more of a tom boy and even like “one of the boys” in my relationships. I now realise why I’ve had so much trouble attracting a high value masculine man. Can you do a video about girls who identity as more of a tom boy and how we can embody more femininity without losing our personality? Thank you and love your videos xx
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Thanks for your help.
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Thanks
Sandhya
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