How to Speak up in Meetings - with Confidence
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- One of THE most common things I get asked is, “How can I be more confident and speak more meetings?”
While this is a challenge not limited to women, the question seems to mainly come from women who work in male-dominated industries.
If you feel that you struggle with being heard in meetings or that you want more confidence then this video will help. In it I share practical tips and strategies that I train my own clients, and that you can apply immediately at work.
The ability to to be a valuable participant in meetings is a MUST have skill that is vital to your career advancement. It can also strengthen your influence, and it will more likely get you noticed, promoted and recognised for your leadership potential.
You can't afford not to level up your meeting skills and confidence.
In the comments below let me know what you struggle most with in meetings - do you get cut off and interrupted all the time?
Do you find it hard to even interject and share your ideas?
Do you preface everything you’re about to say and apologise for taking up the space like “I’m sorry to interrupt the flow of conversation, but...”
Let me know what you do and let’s tackle this together.
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Watching this as a guy, cause why the hell not
True that
@@aap9167 True that...
Same here
Easy on the eyes and ears - with substance - what else can you ask for?
I can't help but appreciate the symmetry of ur position in between the two vases 😐
Haha, that was my husband's attention to detail!
@@ShadeZahrai He has a good sense of "wait, just a bit to the left, perfect, now go on" !!
😀
Its green screen i guess 🙂
Shadé Zahrai that husband thing isn’t gonna work. Simps will most likely unfollow
I just discovered your channel..and i just subscribed. And i can't help but let you know a few things:
1. Your content is amazing.
2. The way you're presenting your content has a lot of things one can learn from on its own. Its very elegant and gentle.
3. You're extraordinarily beautiful
Hi Agnes, thank you for the very kind and encouraging words! I'm happy that you see value in the content and welcome to the channel 😊
@@ShadeZahrai you're most welcome✨😊
Don’t get distracted by her looks, the content she is sharing is invaluable
Your Beauty dragged me in but your Brain is equally as astonishing as you are.
one might even say,
Beauty with Brain !
Good pick up line, Lol, :p
Thank you for your time. PATIENCE, and Listen.. Convey what is much need with a Smile... I am Aviation man.. Into Sale and Leasing... 🙏
sometimes it is a matter of self confidence. you are not sure enough that what you are going to say is really worth saying
Why am I even watching this? I'm in my school - well, because I love this woman's videos🤩🤩
The Light of Wisdom U r throwing at ur audience is only for Women or even Men can also apply those suggestions.? Cause I really liked ur videos
Thank you for valuable points to pick ourselves during meetings, i always hesitate to speak in a group settings!!!
TECHNIQUE: One way to make sure you get heard is to wait for a pause or silent moment. If someone starts talking at the same time, advise the room that when that person is done speaking, that you have something to say. Be ready to speak and jump right on in when that person is done. A second way, is to raise your hand to let it be known that you have something to say. You may have to raise it a few times.
Once the room knows that you have something to say, they will get on your side and make sure you have a chance to speak. At this point, they can't wait to hear what it is that you have to say which will be encouraging giving you more confidence to speak. You only have to say excuse me to get their attention never having to apologize. Speak, knowing that what you have to say is valuable and they will receive it as just that. Speak, not caring what anybody is going to think because if it matters to you, thats all that matters.
I think blokes could benefit from this as well. I myself am not an aggressive male in the workplace and often get spoken over.
English is my second language and I can use it in above average level. The biggest challenge for me is how to explain things specially technical ones to non technical members of the meeting. It takes some brain power to think for the technical solution(solved inside the head using native language) then translate them into English. In some occasions it could make me look as if I don't know enough answers because of stuttering and a lot of filler words (uhmm). Oh those bad memories! 😅🤢
Such a Marvelous Work Shade. I would be glad if you make more videos on the Professional Communication and Presentations😊
Although ma'am you have designed it for women, but as a man I can also extract some part from it, because it gives me insight to better understand women, as far as their working-professional behaviouralism is concerned.
And it *good to see you ma'am with longer videos.* 👌
Thank you! 🙏 And I’m so happy to hear that you’re also able to find value from it - whether giving you a better insight into some of the challenges women face, or even if the content is relevant for you (which I’m sure a lot of it might be- if not from this video, from future ones). 🙂
Thanks for the support! 🙏
@@ShadeZahrai Ma'am your all videos are worthy. 👍
Yes. I felt the same
Shaheer Ali hmmm.... I think being men, we all encourage the moral values of women without any discrimination, and that will definitely empower them. 👌👌
Thanks for sharing i am firm believer in effective communication and i am const antly learning your contridution is greatly appreciated. 💓💕👌
1. Don’t apologize for interrupting/ bothering before sharing your ideas.
2/ Tack back
3./ Value your ideas, thought
4 /create space for others
This seems to work for me...
1: Find out what the "Milk" of the meeting is.
2: Find out who are the key players this "Milk" matters too most.
3: Research that "Milk" like your life depends on it
4: *Compress* and *Simplify* that "Milk" into away the key players will understand
5: Every word you use needs to be important, direct with no fluff
6: Be short and sweet when giving your opinion.
After 3 or so meetings you wont need to fight anymore for your opinion
because the key players will ask you directory for it... 🍼
When had you made a decision to be a motivational speaker and almost how much time did it take to get there? Please make the video on this topic ...a humble request.
Hi there, Thank you for the questions. Although I do professional speaking, I wouldn't classify myself as a motivational speaker. Most of my work is for organisations and my journey started when I volunteered to speak at school, university and at work. Gradually I developed my skills and combined it with my interest in psychology with my business experience. And yes, in future my husband and I plan to create videos on the subject of presentation skills.
Clicked for the beauty, stayed for the insights
How to tackle fear of audience, regardless of the percentage of men or women.
Often one ends up speaking more confidently in one on one conversations but when it comes to public speaking then speaking the some words becomes challenging.. would appreciate your advice on this
Did you get advise from this?
Thank uuuuu
God is GOOD 💖😊
And if a daughter's what my future holds, I'll get her to subscribe to your channel, I hope she'll look up to you like I do, yeah. Thanks for equipping women to make a difference in the world, now that I know women are usually cut off in meetings, I'll be protective of them concerning this matter. My subscriptions are private, so you can't tell that I have subscribed to your channel! I'll see you in your next video! :) 🤍
I really like your simplicity and the way of speaking.
I usually don’t say much in meetings. I just listen. I’m the kind of person that takes backstage. I make things happen by doing it and showing how it will be efficient. I’m more of a doer than talker. ❤
Beware of posers who take credit for your effort.😅
@@rico1648 been there, not concerned my dear. God is with me. 🙏
Hey @ShadeZahrai, you are doing a great job. Can you post more videos as this related to workplace
I like that this didn’t turn into a male bashing session.
Women get cut off by women as they are by men.
Women should speak up when they are interrupted, without anger, BUT even if the anger is there, they should not hold back because of it and speak up anyway; they’ll get better at it with time.
- A male listener
Thanks for sharing these constructive ideas and agreed - never respond in anger. I recently posted an abridged version of this video on LinkedIn. It was interesting to see both men and women writing comments about them experiencing this problem - even ones in senior leadership positions.
Yes Shade madam I was feeling same way I always talk before I learned this thanks
I'm waiting for your video it very helpful ❤😊
Modest back ground, good dress sense , congrats to you and your Husband 💯
Timestamps:
2:07 1. Don't apologise
2:55 2. Take back space
4:43 3. Create space for others
Very nice and useful video!! 👍. It's true that when you start with calling out the name of the person first, they take a pause. And this is a strategy I learn somewhere and use in heated discussions with clients. Keep up the good work 👏👏👏
You're articulate. I love how you break down the video to small sectors. Thank you. I'm a man who has all the confidence in meetings and I will implement this to further enhance my presence in meetings and others around me.
Something I have noticed is that people listen more if you speak less and act more ...
People favor concise speech and I am doing my best to practice concise brief speeches ...
Shade...you should also address the notable fact that discriminatory animus is also a heavy barrier for females and minorities (including males) in the Corporate America world (I assume Australia too!). Sometimes regardless of how loud a female, or even male minority might "speak up" in meetings, they are still minimized as much as possible due to clear discriminatory pretext. In this video it appears you wanted to go to that topic, but you just did not. Thoughts??
Yes, unfortunately discrimination against women and minorities still exists in workplaces. And the research backs this up. One of my core beliefs is that "every differentiation of class, creed, or color must automatically be obliterated, and never be allowed, under any pretext, and however great the pressure of events or of public opinion, to reassert itself. If any discrimination is at all to be tolerated, it should be a discrimination not against, but rather in favor of the minority, be it racial or otherwise." I choose to contribute to the narrative by empowering people to develop the mindset and tools to help overcome such obstacles, and the encouragement to promote collaboration.
@@ShadeZahrai I respectfully disagree Shade. If you were fully "empowering" people to develop tools to overcome the heavy burden of discrimination, then part of that process is to directly acknowledge the root of the problem. You made no mention of discrimination, however if you are empowering a mindset to overcome it, you need to bring it into the forefront of the discussion. That's the problem here in America (..and again probably Down Under too). Discrimination is always that "scary" or "taboo" background topic that no one wants to face head on, yet it is often the 800-pound gorilla variable in the room that in many instances caused the problem in the first place for the woman and/or minority sitting in the meeting being minimized. You should have injected it into the conversation, as it would not have negatively impacted your empowerment approach one bit. Plus, as an attorney, I trust that you see the perspective I represent here for many of your You Tube viewers. Thank you.
@@lucyaklar6345 thank you for sharing your perspective. I really appreciate you taking the time to write it and your passion for unity. The work that my husband and I do through our training programs with big corporate, and my online programs, my TEDx talk etc. directly address issues of discrimination and encourage elimination of prejudice in an empowering way. Wishing you all the best Lucy!
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@@Bhunesh27 uska ek ghante ka video kaun dekhega bhai😁
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THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS GREAT AND USEFUL INFORMATION🙏✝️❤
I love ur ideas tanks
The best way to speak confidently in meetings is to be competent and have some idea about that thing. The more competent you are the more confident you become.
TECHNIQUE: My husband said that before his manager moves on to the next subject, he ask if anybody has something to say. Everyone feels heard.
Whats the best way to start expressing an idea instead of saying “I am sorry or This may be a silly idea”.
Your first video was posted a year ago and there are just 6-7 videos till now.why? Just being curious
I just discovered your channel , Just love it., The content , topics are so helpful and informative..
Love from india miss :)
B E A U T Y with B R A I N S..
And you carry both elegantly!!! 👍🙂
This woman is so amazing in how she relates to her viewership. She is very likeable and talks very sweetly. Brad (Maine)
I am getting more confident after seen her video.
Your videos are very exciting and I love them🥰
Awww thank you so much! 🙏 I’m so happy you enjoy them. This is the first of our long-form videos - one coming each week! It’s targeted to women, but of course applies to everyone 🙂
These tips are quite applicable, even in
general.
I bless you ... you will reach 1 million subs soon .... keep going brave lady 🙌🙌🙌
خانم زهرایی ازتون ممنونم بابت ویدیو های خوبتون و انرژی مثبتی که بهمون میدین
من به عنوان یه جوان ایرانی سعی میکنم با نکاتی که میگین زندگی کنم
ازتون ممنونم
Hi! How do you stop yourself from smiling too much and talking too softly/sweetly?
Women generally are not considered smart enough to contribute their ideas and opinions in a male dominated meeting. But with your confidence you can ensure you are heard. Very valuable tips, great content n you are a beauty with brains. I am a new subscriber n love both your content n the delivery style which is so elegant n classy
I wanna improve my communication skills like you.. Could you tell me some tips to get improve.?... I want to be speak like you with more confident..
Just listen up
It's okay to be different in accent and style
Repeatative kind of boring
Just keep simple words and be slow while talking further time works for you
Only thing is you have to initiate things to happen.
@@SaiKiran-en2zm Thanks for your tips.
You have a very good fluency
I'm a big fan of urs... Love from Bangladesh ❤️❤️
1:54-Reality:It is usually the people who speak the most and the loudest who get heard, recognised and then promoted. Your Thoughts are just as valuable as other people's thoughts in this room
Your audio has significantly improved over the years. I was comparing one of your old videos taken 4 years ago and this one. The audio quality is miles apart. What changes did you make to your audio setup?
Thank you and well observed! Yes, last year we invested in professional equipment for our business.
@@ShadeZahrai congrats on the content and excellent quality audio and video. What audio setup (mic, in specific) do you use? The sound is so crystal clear!
Thank you for your precious advices
Awesome tips❤
Where were you all these days….Do you suggest any books to help communicate better?
When will you publish your book 📚?
It's not important to speak much at meetings , rather try to resolve the issue by the help of assignment you were given before the meeting ....
Which means that you were already in meeting and have answered all the questions through your imagination , then listening will add up and you will shoot like a proffestional sniper . And all the so called leaders will start hitting you back with questions and answer them by controlling the control of your speech so the ball is always in your court 💪.....
But if I saw you (#shade #zahrai) in meeting I will let you speak because the beauty you have landing a sentence , want to be your student .
I love you ❤️
It's always best to show up prepared for a meeting wherever possible. Thank you for the kind words! 🙏🏼
@@ShadeZahrai you are more than welcome, honor that you replied .
But this is true I love you❤️
I'd say you're lovely, your presentation style is perfect, I subscribed your channel yesterday, and almost in two days I watched all of your videos, which I found very interesting and helpful. Thanks, you're appreciable
This is very valuable. Not only in a meeting or a discussion. We can apply this in our daily life with family and friends. Thanks Shade.
I believe working out having a good physique along with the proper attire.. fragrance.. accesories body leads to confidence skyrocketing even before entering the meeting room ready to take anyone and everyone.
Hey..! i appreciate all the effort you are putting out there to make us feel more confident and positive, it helps a lot.
but i want to ask you one thing..
When i start conversation with someone i like to speak a lot( although i am an introvert person) but you know sometimes you end in an awkward situation and you want to end the conversation but you don't know how to do it (may be not always Awkward but generally too).. so please can you suggest me a way that i can work on that issue because i can't close the conversation.
I find it very important to a start conversation as well as to engage in a conversation and end it properly, it puts a lot more good impression.
Thanks for sharing these tips. The issue with me is whenever I have to speak I tend to get nervous and thereafter fumble. The flow doesn't come.
Perhaps start starting with asking more questions such as asking the person to clarify or elaborate. Once you're comfortable with this then start to contribute by sharing your own thoughts. It might even help to jot down some dot points before you speak out. Good luck! 💪🏽
@@ShadeZahrai thanks!
One day this channel is going to boom.
Btw nice accent :)
Oh my god.. You are gorgeous and i hope you find success in all your endeavour
Congratulations. I'm so glad this channel is growing so well, great to see a channel get the recognition they deserve. Can't wait to see where this channel goes from here.
I love psychology as well as watching ur videos🥰
*This applies to men too haha*
She is soooo pretty
Fabulous tips to shineout, Kudos
Your videos have really good content 😃!!!!! Thanks a lot 😊 You are a really inspiring woman!!!!😊😃 I enjoy your videos a lot 😊😊😃😃👍🏻👍🏻
Use top space::
Groin muscles
-not tense but ready*
- take more space
- open up negative space:
Breath:
Smile 😁
Preciate you
Good topic
Seems like A perfect and gorgeous lady....
I am not gonna lie...her beauty dragged me here ....but when i reached here, she is a motivational speaker which is rare combination for a beauty ,plus her voice & Accent is also very very good. Clear words..... This is called the beauty with brain
I liked the idea that we need to value our on thoughts and ideas before anyone would and well that's the most difficult thing for me. I gather courage and speek up an the moment I see others are not welcoming it I start feeling less valued and stupid.
My most difficult thing is whenever I have an idea related to my work that I feel is useful i get so much carried away that lose the inability to look through the bigger picture.So whenever I present the idea, my teammates bombard me with what is said won't work because of so and so reason and I feel stupid and valueless
I hope you make some audio books one day ❤️
Usefull ..
👍👍👍
I have subscribed today on 3rd of April 2024 ...
Infinte love and peace from Lebanon to the world...🌍🌎🌏♾🇱🇧♾🇱🇧🌏🌎🌍🇱🇧♾🇱🇧
Am not just bold to speak
I have noticed that people listen more when you speak less and act more...Speaking the necassary and meaningful conversations but briefly and concisely ...
Beautiful minded, Shade .
All my respect 👌
i have been working for 10 years and I am a man but still this is very helpful
Looking for a life partener as well as looking for an admission in one of the universities in holy city of Madina ✌😎 .
am I on a right way in my career ?😉
Soon you reached 1M👍
Waching in June-2021
Thank you! What if you are interrupted by a senior while asking a question and they cut you off before even listening to whole idea. This give hit to credibility and also make you feel irrelevant.
Hello Ma'am.. You're so pretty, which was kind of distracting for me😅... I was looking at you the whole time and I didn't understand anything 😂... I mean, how can someone look so pretty even in 144p video quality 😂...
I can watch you talk whole day... ❤
Haha, my husband loves to hear me talk but after a whole day, even he would need a break! 😂
@@ShadeZahrai haha i doubt that... Your accent, expressions and beauty melts my heart 😛 Above all that you're doing a great job... May you be successful in both worlds...
I can’t because I have a soft quiet voice my throat doesn’t work normally
2:05 Don't Apologise
2:54 Take back space
4:44 Create space for Others
Watched this long time ago. Never thought a time would come for me to dig this up and saver every bit of it for my next meeting! So very helpful!! Recently I've been quite frustrated with one of our meetings where I was constantly cut off by one of my colleagues. After a while, I found myself feeling dreadful to even go to the meeting anymore. Now examing it, it's really like what you said - a male dominated (I'm the only female of us 4), and it seems ok among the three of them. I will try your technique in our next meeting. Thank you so much for providing so so much values in your videos!
How is your experience now ? Plz share
Your videos are quite useful, thank you for sharing! The trouble I face often times is either I second guess myself about what I want to communicate in a meeting or my thoughts are way ahead of what I am actually communicating. Because of the mismatch I sometimes find it difficult to speak coherently.
Slaaaaaaay Queen
Thanks 😊
English subtitle
Thanks for this video. I am also a type of person who is very introvert and dont talk whenever there is a meeting. And I really found it awkward when the presenter calls my name then says that I am not speaking. Can you please help me on how to handle this kind of situation? Thank you
Your content is high quality, shade. This channel is destined to hit a 100,000 and then a million subscribers soon.