NEVER DO IT ON FIRST NIGHT, ALLAH PROHIBITED
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- NEVER DO IT ON FIRST NIGHT ALLAH PROHIBITED
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When you know you are far away from marriage but still listen to this….. Allahu Akbar😂
same here, its still good to know yk
Yep me too imagining his every word😁😁Insha Allah brother we will get marry soon😁Aameen
Me watching as a teenager 🤭
Hhh😂yeah
Bunch of simps. Divorce is knocking on the door
For those who are far away from Marriage and are listening to this.May Allah give us good spouses
Ameen ameen
Ameen
Ameen
In shaa Allah
And make you great husband !
As a Christian, this is message enough for me. God bless Islam
Assalamualaikum you don't know urdu
@@nazneenafroz5532 No I don't
i invite you to islam ❤️
❤
@@TATA-hc2un who are you
Oh Allah, forgive all of our past, present, and future sins, Ameen.
And the ones we do not know we're do.
Aameen
Ameen
🫡Alah hu akbar💣💥haana so many blasts forgive all😂
Ameen
InShaAllah I will follow these Sunnah in my wedding nigjt. Please keep me in your prayer, I am expecting to get married in this new year InShaAllah🕋🕋🕋
A blessed marriage inshaAllah q
Where is the reference of this BIDAH of Hanifi Sect, the Anti Sunnah and biggest enemy of Propet PBUH. Where are your references for 1 to 5? From which hadees this dua is coming from especially 5?
Pray for me too
Aamiin
May Allah give you a loving and righteous spouse Ameen
This is extremely important. We didn't consummate until maybe a month after marriage. Don't make it a rape astaghfirullah, learn to communicate and be on the same page before you proceed because chances are she'll be EXTREMELY nervous. Especially if she is used to covering herself it will be a burden to only show herself to you. Please boys, treat her with respect during the first time and she will respect you for the rest of your time. And expect reasonable outcome, a lot of brothers out there struggling with watching haram and expect too much, reality is much different, pious women will try to make you happy but never force anything haram on her. Wish all of the newlyweds happiness.
Thank u for saying this, most Muslim men thinks that the moment they marry a woman, they think they own them. That's why most marital rape happens (in which the victim never realizes it's rape and thinks that now that they're married they always have to say yes. Needless to say it applies to both genders.) Consent and communication is extremely important. Those things are different for everyone else, especially if you lived covered and sheltered, suddenly doing it on the first night without any discussions is too much. I personally think those things should be done after you've learned well enough about each other, you respect and trust your partner, then you can get excited when sharing the first night as you've come to cherish your partner.
a women is obligated to do intercourse if the husband demands or else Allah curses her
@@coffe2270 I'm sure Allah has cursed you already
@@AkiaK5 everything is considered as r*pe nowadays. You cant be that soft. So even when it's halal, it isnt good? It's never good with you emotional, fragile people
Insyallah, alhamdulillah and thank you for the advice dear brother/sister. Wish you the best in life too sir / ma'am.
“Whoever recites the entire chapter, ‘He is Allah, the One’ {Qul Huwo Allohu Ahad} (112:1 surah Ikhlas) ten times, Allah will build a palace for him in Paradise.” Musnad Ahmad
Also reciting the same surah is equivalent of 1/3 of Quran recitation
What if its 11 times?
@@danalelrey even better
@@danalelrey another hadith says that sura iklas is equivalent of 1/3 of quran, so the more you read the greater is the reward, so if it's 11 time you've 1 house in jannah + a reward of completing the 1/3 of quran, subhanAllohi wabihamdi subhanAllohil azeem, may Allah accept from all of us, guide us and reward us, ameen
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☪️May Allah forgive us for our sins🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲
Amin
@@leonkennedy8224☪️ Mashallah🤲🤲🤲🤲🤲
ameen
🫡Alah hu akbar💣💥haana kitna sin kiya hai😂
@@duckduckgoose8776 🫡Alah hu akbar💣💥
4 those waiting this moment eagerly may Allah S.W hasten it for us
waiting eagerly for what?
Ameen
@@Elizabeth-jk4yj you wouldn't understand
@@MrYounis26 ur a fool
Allahuma Ameen ya rab 🤲🏾
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I took,! A great reminder indeed
@@Medicolifeshorts
Share to earn reward
Calm down with the thumbnail pics. It is an Islamic channel. (I assume)
You are right absolutely
@@purepath829 Its just a clickbait channel at this point.
Yes ikr
@@purepath829 4⁶6nnk7in and
How do we know what it’s about if they put some bland thumbnail that interests no one?
i can only speak for myself but this night truly scares me and i hope anyone reading this really does do things 1 step at a time with their brand new spouse.
Why are you scared, if you don't want it don't do it, if your spouse is a better person he will respect your decision.
Assalaam alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh, fellow Muslims have spoken about this, Amirah Zaky, Muska Jahan, Jasmine and Dawud and also Nate and Sutton (The truth about saving yourself for marriage). I'm 27, been married thrice and even though I've been raped twice, it doesn't make me nervous nelly about the wedding night, just the fact that it's soon been 4 years since I was married. I've decided to make a list of fantasies and swapping the paper with the husband and obviously let him know that I'm nervous about wedding night and intimacy in general while getting to know him. I wholeheartedly recommend talking about intimacy in a general level while talking to a brother, once had a brother that wanted to be intimate 7 times a day and I told him I couldn't fulfill his rights.
@@mohdayyoob8497 some spouses are not "good person's"
@@aqqq9053 when you say brother. You mean husband right ?
@@RD-mp8bm yeah but atleast you can tell them that you're not in the mood. If they still ask give them a honeymoon handshake.
In the first night, We was so tired and we decide to consume the marriage in the morning.
And my wife wasn't ready me to mentally i wasn't because i never try that, so we was both new for doing the thing!
So never be in rush to do it at first night, take your time!
Assalamualaikum you don't know urdu
5:06 brother you literally just did what he said not to do
@@nazneenafroz5532 Wa alaikum Salam, Urdu the language of Indonesian, isn't it?
@@mantisgaming2995 He said litterally to not be in rush, bro, what you understand in my talk, i just said that me and my wife we didn't rush for it because mentally she was't ready me too, we consume the day after...
@a d lool no its the language of Pakistanis
May Allah forgive our sins Ameen ❤
Ameen brother
Ameen
Ameen
AAMEEN SUMMA AAMEEN.
Ameen
Jazak Allahu Khayran, it's a good reminder even for those already married.
Wa alaykum assalaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh wa anta faa jazaaka Allaahu khairan ❤️
Assalamualaikum you don't know urdu
With the will of ALLAH, My Creator, my Judge, my Maker, my Moulder, my Leader, My Guider ALLAH, only you do I trust. ALLAH thank you for my journey you chose for me, only to please you ALLAH! ALLAH, THANK YOU FOR JUST THE WAY YOU LEAD AND GUIDE Me & my Mrs.
It’s a beautiful message indeed!
can u plsase explain what he said in the video i dont understand whats haram
You don't know urdu
perfect message. May Allah give hadaya to everyone
Assalamualaikum you don't know urdu
Mashallah. May Allah protect everyone worked on delivering this video
Somebody had to say it, Alhamdulillah Islam is beautiful 🤩
Really love this to listen
Subhaan Allah ... Sir u explain so nicely this concept to us .. may Allah give u best n best ajer in life n theirafter
Even as a christian there are things to learn from videos like this.
Yes
Same here!! As a woman, I would have LOVED this approach on my wedding night.
Then your husband will be screwing your neighbor
Well noted
Beautiful piece 🙏🏿💯
Alhamdulillah ❤ thank you so much for this one.this will be a useful thing for me. ..my nikah is on jan 13 with my loved one alhamdulillah🥺🥺✨
Allah bless you sister 🌸
Ma shaa Allah you will fulfill the sunnah, good look with the Marriage, in shaa Allah your your going to have twins
So, how'd it go?
F
Are you a revert?
Thanks brother for sharing this so so important Islamic points with us, May Allah guide us all on right path
Ameen
Asalamualikum sister I am unmarried but I am watching these kinds of videos am I allowed in Islam to watch such videos but my intention is. Not wrong as I want to rectify myself in these matters I am 20 and I think I need to know it
@@siratulmustaqeem7243 Assalamu Aleykum. I think there is nothing wrong with watching such videos
@@nurimankassymkhan3432 u think 🤔
@@siratulmustaqeem7243 these are guidenace videos and you can watch to learn about things as Islamic point of view
JAZAKALLAH KHAIR ❤
Very Beautiful Information MASHA ALLAH
Wallahi......there is no compulsion on anything in our religion.....Alhamdulillah Allahu Akbar.........
Silent reminder for those....who r impressed by movies n TV serials.......
May AllahSWT keep us steadfast in our religion Islam
Inshallah all Muslims across the world will understand this...
I'm 31 old and trying to find someone decent to get married. Please, please make dua for me!
Insha Allah
Thank you sir for making this video. May Allah guide us all and help making is enable to do the same
❤Good advice. Anything a person tells you don’t repeat. Especially the spouse.
Lord have Mercy on us and the ignorance that surrounds us ..
may allah grant our marriages and bless it , la illaha illa allah our beloved prophet is the messenger of allah
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Good deeds are not what save you or give you good deeds after death. Having faith in Jesus Christ and repenting of your sins is the ticket to heaven. Your deeds are not enough. Everyone will fall short of the glory of God that's why we have Jesus
@@abdulhadifarooq7072 jesus died for every sin. No sin is greater than another. The wages of sin is death and Jesus has given us a clean slate ONLY to those who belive and live our life following the law
@@abdulhadifarooq7072 you repent and turn away from your sin
@@abdulhadifarooq7072 where did he ask God why he needed to die?
@@abdulhadifarooq7072 yes God came down as a human to show his love and he had all the temptation as we do but not once did he fall in sin. Just because he uses the toilet makes him dirty? That doesnt make sense
Jazak Allahu Khayran. Thank you for your best advice.
Alaykum Assalam warahmatullah wabarakatuh
Assalaam alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh wa anta faa jazaaka Allaahu khairan ❤️
I wish I know this long time ago ❤ life is good with good husband and love and trust Alhamdudillah 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you so much, God bless you
Plz allah I wish my future spouse would be watching this vidio ameen.
Assalamualikum,
A sincere advice to the brothers preaching Islam. Islam is tge deen of Allah prohibiting all types of obscenity. U don't need to use such offended pictures to draw attention of the beleivers. Be conscious 0f Allah, don't use such shameful pictures that cause our gaze go down in the front page.
Fear Allah, Fear Allah.
ALHAMDULILLAH💙💚❤AMEEN♡☆AMEEN♡AMEEN
I prayed 34 years of my life for this night
Once I'm in the moment, I don't think I need to pray again stright to business God knows
Thanks for sharing so valuable information with us sheikh 😊
This is a nice message, getting comfortable is essential.
I have one question, in the thumbnail it was written that it's haram at first night, what does that mean?
@@cherryblossomfics7138 possibly clickbait if they haven't mentioned it in the video
how about getting comfortable with multiple wife's
how easy or hard man should go?
@@ulysses4989 yeah I think so too..
This isn’t the full video. It’s a short clip taken out of a different video. This is the original video and has everything explained. ua-cam.com/video/eG5i_K0olOE/v-deo.html
Nightmare when I got married, had lots of people in the morning after the marriage asking me whether I had consummated the marriage on the night. We consummated a month after... stress before the marriage, stress during the ceremony and stress afterwards... I really wanted a low key wedding but my wife wanted a big wedding occasion... total waste of money from my point of view, I would have rather given it to charity to feed the poor......and had a small family gathering
A month !!
And you spent the money and wasted it even though that you didn't want to !
Forgive me but you don't sound like an assertive man how a leader of the family should be and consummation must be in the first 7 days if the wife is a virgin and if she is not then it should be in the first 3 days that's the Sunnah, and what you did looked like dating and waiting for the "spark" and the "love".
I know you're going to think that I'm rude but the brothers need to grow a pair.
@@Ya39oub_G Good luck dealing with western born Muslim women
@@goelnuma6527
Alhamdulillah that I'm not from the west and that I'm still holding to my masculinity and my Deen
Another way of saying she was not sexually attracted to you. Women are no angels. Women will drop hints, start touching, sexual eye contact with a man within 2 mins of seeing a man if they find a man attractive. Yes, even the average Muslimah.
@@awrjkf My parents generation got married without seeing each other until their wedding night. Wedding based on family agreements. Most were not attracted to each other.
Thank you, jazaaka Llah khayr
Mansha allah, may allah bless you 💖
Im gonna save this and come back after some 7 or 8 years😂
SubhanAllah! You should know all the ends and outs before you get married! You guys should talk about these things! intercourse is evenually gonna happen (or not)! "COMMUNICATION" is key before you get married to anyone, so that it can be smooth sailing on the first night together! May الله make it easy for all of us on our wedding nights! امين 🧕👳♂️
Ameen ya allah abyooy😭❤
Do all couples do intercouse at first night ? 🤔
@@Ronaldo-vk1vn no it‘s not fard
And expectations should be managed, don't go into it believing that sex has to happen in a certain timeframe or order. The best thing is to say "lets not have any expectations but to let nature take its course without force".
Waiting for marriage doesn't mean doing it immediately once married either- treat it like dating- people don't usually go all the way on a first date! (Some do, if they are confident and comfortable) and for women especially it is far more important to be comfortable and excited, rather than nervous and doing it in full on the wedding night because you want to make him happy, or because of expectations.
Husbands should treat each step as if it was the last- don't rush. Enjoy it without anticipating what comes later- if you only hold hands, how precious to hold your wife's hand!!! If you go straight to sleep (weddings are exhausting) How wondrous to be next to the woman you will spend the rest of your nights with. All the time in the world.
If you know to ask and be open and respect the need to take it slowly and be comfortable, then soon it will happen- you'll feel instinctively interested in taking the next steps together because that's how intimacy works
@@Ronaldo-vk1vn no, it's usually better to sleep and wait til rested.
Masha Allah ❤ mai v ye zarur follow karungi insha Allah
Ameen ❤
First! Thank you for this!
Sweetheart,mommy’s account is not for playing,now go tell mommy,if you don’t she will be angry at you,we don’t want that right??
@@imakeartz4615 Ok ik, ik but wtf you acting like a furry
Its tough but alhamdulillah I'm controlling my urges... I'm 21 nd wanna get married but I don't want to feed her on my father's money.... I'm working on creating my own empire
Get married asap with your fathers money. Repay him when you can.
@@NasifImtiaz that's a bad idea
@@user-ip7yx9ue7i I'm getting married with my father's money since I'm first child
JazakAllah khair💐
how is this not spreaded enough like these advices espesially taking it easy and doesn't have to be the first night and most important spreading details ... that is so fair for the girls and older people r doing exactly the opposite ....
As a Virgin with 27 years I learned my later wife to know. We already knew each other for 8 years and met again after almost 7 years. After 4 months my desire was high to touch her and at some point we hugged and I kissed her on the cheeks and forehead. Weeks before our nikah I made the mistake to kiss her on the lips and she also couldn't resist and kissed too. After we married it didn't last 3 months and she left. What I'm trying to say is, shaytan is doing a really great job to make you sin and letting you blindfolded follow your desires. Just be patient even if it takes a year or more. Take your litte brother or her little sister with you. Or let a girlfriend of her be nearby, so you feel uncomfortable to touch her or even kiss her.
Brother I’m sorry no one told you this but you kissing her on the lips had nothing to do with her leaving. She probably is just a sorry woman. Go get you another one.
Brother remember one thing also. Don't marry a zaniya. If she has a past she will always be unhappy in your marriage and compare you to the man she gave it up to for free. Find a v####n girl with traditional values and keep it halal.
@@smellypatel5272 if he needs a virgin girl he should also be a virgin. No virgin girl with good values and dignity wouldn't want a guy like him also.
@@smellypatel5272Everyone deserves a chance so long as the made sincere tawba to Allah.
@@MookaMG Tawbah from Allah is different than punishment for one's worldly sins. After all, we don't let murderers or thieves walk away simply if they repent to Allah right?
*Surat Al Hajj*
*Ayat,,,18*
Whoever Allah disgraces, none can honour. Surely Allah does what He wills.
Thank for sending this video allah bless you
Alhamdolillah subhanallah Allah hu akbar mashallah may Allah SWT guide all us as well🇺🇸🇷🇺 🇨🇳on the straight path always amen Rabbülalemin
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Good to know this because I always thought that it is a sin to not comply to the husband's request to get intimate on the first night after nikah. For me I'm afraid of the 'pain' for ladies on the first night. That's why I still feel I'm not ready to get married. This video explains the doubt I had for a long time. Thank you for sharing the info ❤️
There can be many reasons you, the man or both don't feel ready for intimacy. Many people don't even know each other when they are married, so it takes time to be comfortable and ready. This is something that people should be able to discuss honestly without being stigmatised or shamed. Intimacy on the first night is a cultural thing. It is not Islamic. Intimacy is mutual gratification. If you withhold intimacy for a long time without communication or solid reason then maybe marriage is not for you. But this problem can also happen with a man.. There are sisters, whose husband's neglect this duty, and sisters just get frustrated. Culturally only women's duty is emphasized but it applies to man too. Read he Quran and how Allah describes marriage, husband and wife's duties and rights. I wish you blessed married life when you reach that point.
There should not be pain if you are comfortable proceeding. The pain is when it is forced
@@saira_6151 what if you don’t want to get intimidate for a while? Like, you just aren’t ready? Does that mean you shouldn’t get married until then?
@@bobdarrick2628 then you need to communicate that to the guy/fiqnce/husband possibly before you agree to nikkah. I know this is hard fora female but on the their hand the alternative is to bring it up on your wedding night. Consummation on the wedding night/first night is NOT Islamic. It's culture. There can be so many reasons like not feeling ready especially when you don't know each other and an understanding husband should not mind that it or take it as a defeat or rejection. So of course you can't wait evgnn though you are married but obviously I can't say what kind of man he is. Some are understanding, whilst others make it an issue of their ego. Just talk bout it. Similarly if you don't want to have kids right away, then talk about it. Open and honest communication is my advice. Maybe you should try being engaged and use that time to talk to him about it and see how he feels. Face to face because face expressions reveal a lot.
@@saira_6151 i'm a guy so i would communicate that to the girl/woman but yeah. also i personally would want to be married for a few years before having kids, if i want to have them.
May Allah forgive Us. Ameen ❤
Jazakallah khair brother
I am light year far from this but I am waiting this with great enthusiasm.
What a feelings of my mind !! 😂
Just funny
I feel l so sad and bad or the elderly women who on the wedding night were
Forced to have intimacy ending up pregnant each and every time especially at the Inlaws houses.
No honeymoon no privacy no time to just be a wife for a little while no experience of receiving love of compassion
Just mounted on like an animal having to deal with endless pregnancies
If ur married its not forced. Stop acting loke a victim fool
@@jordanqueen5873 what? Ever heard is rape it’s happens within marriages too
Subhan Allah.
Thanks for that.
I fear getting children in this modern society. I'm afraid I might get the wrath of Allah for not being a good parent.
Take it easy stop overthinking. Things will go smoothly otherwise it will create unnecessary anxiety to both side
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I don't know on what basis you claim that wives play hard to get are usual problems. Intimacy is a very special thing. Many girls at least in my culture are under pressure to perform on the first night. The option to withhold does not exist and isn't taught. He may take it forcefully through raepe. Many do. It will be regarded as his right, not raepe. Most weddings I know are arranged. So they don't know or met or tasted each other. Now for a girl it's difficult to just disrobe and let a man have her body when she doesn't know him and only just met him. On top of this in my culture, Islam comes second and culture and ignorance come first. Many husband's angrily tell their bride she has to consummate now because its his right, otherwise the walima (wedding reception) the following day won't be halal and how ever will they face their friends/family/elders and she is sinning etc. As you can see this is completely jahalat. It has zero to do with Islam. You are not allowed to discuss your and your wifes intimate life with other men or women including mothers or elders. Astaghfirrullah, what muslim man talks/boasts about this and is more preoccupied with what his friends or family, elders think. In worst case scenarios, which I have only heard of, not witnessed, some inlaws will lock the bedroom door from the outside so the bride, if she decides for whatever reason wants to leave or escape, she can't, and so the groom will raepe and abuse her. Unfortunately in my region girls are often expected to live with inlaws after marrying which again doesn't give the much privacy or even romantic setting. It also creates more direct pressure and expectations from elders/inlaws.
My point is most couples after a wedding are tired after festive days and traditions. They just want to relax, sleep or talk. So kindly treat your bride as a human. Scexual desire is not just a guy thing. Girls experience it too, have hormones too and get hot too. We have just been raised to never talk about it. But that doesn't mean we don't feel passionate or don't want that intimacy. That's why Allah created us as mates for each other and put love in our hearts. We complement each other. Otherwise intimacy would not be full filling if only one person has desire and other didn't.. So treat your bride kindly, with understanding and with love. Don't start demanding sex from the first night and start citing Islamic references making her feel guilty or sinful. That is not going to get you the intimacy. It's just a way of forcing her. You want her to give it to you voluntarily, because she wants you. .
Instead be considerate, relax, talk to each other, enjoy each other's company and get to know each other. With time when you are BOTH comfortable, it will come naturally and she won't hold back but it will be an enjoyable act for both of you and there is no match for that.
Also being shy or delaying intimacy can be from the guy too. People have these weird ignorant perceptions that guys are in the mood 24 hours and never have issues. Look, if the brain is not ready, then your private area won't be ready either. It's that simple. You both have to be in the mood. Similarly bedroom issues are not just a woman thing. Men can experience scexual or ereictile dysfunction similar to females. Similarly men can experience being impotenet which effects the ability to reproduce. Some men just don't like intimacy and go months or years without thus leaving rhe wife unfulfilled and frustrated.
Have faith, love and understanding. Respect your bride and her body. And kindly if you are among the guys who watch bad movies, then you must know, real life is not like that and don't disrespect a Muslim girl by making obscene demands or have her do things she isn't comfortable with. Also understand certain demands work both ways. So don't ask if you aren't willing to also do it for her. What may be common in western relationships may not be common in Eastern. Respect a NO for such specific requests. Don't force her. Some girls are truly repulsed by that stuff and are very conservative. Find something both enjoy.
Intimacy in marriage is Allah's blessing and gift to mankind. It's the beautiful connection of 2 souls. Treat it as such. Kindly know your wife wants you too and intimacy is just a bit more senstive issue for her because of how we re raised. You are the first and last man she knows. It's a very special honor.
Also when you get as far as being comfortable and trustful with each other, then dont be afraid to play with each other. Have fun with it. Within Islam's limits. Remember, the Sunnah tells husband's to approach wives with love and foreplay.
Finally, If one person is not ready for it for a long time, you are in your natural Islamic right to pursue divorce. This goes formen and women. But first talk, communicate honestly and find out what the issue is. Maybe you can find a solution, or seek professional help etc. Taking help is not a sign of weakness or shaeme.
Communication, understanding, respect and love are key words
I am horrified to know that in your place where you live such bad cultural practices take place. I'm from small town in Pakistan and none of that happened. Sure families think the couple consumate first night but in reality only the couple know what happened. I guess some men can be abuser like you described and they probably been waiting for the moment to finally get a wife to do it eith so cannot wait. They need education and I feel parents especially mothers or other elder females should have a talk with them. I remember I was very afraid and my auntie who was with me at my in laws took my husband aside and told him I was scared and not to push me too much. He was a perfect gentleman. I think problems arise when the topic is taboo in our society and people just pretend not to notice these things. May Allah swt keep the ummah on the right path.
@@nazz5556 I agree to everything you said. Same country but a large city Its genuinely a lottery. Despite education the social construct of virginity is always passed on as a burden on girls and manhood is interpreted as getting it the first time or else "haram walima". As you know girls are restricted and not entirely free but guys enjoy unbridled freedom without supervision or accountability. This inequality in upbringing paired with lack of education and dominance of patriarchy, ignorance and a culture that adheres more to myths than facts and where purity and chastity is only for girls, creates all sorts of issues and no way to ask these important questions and match your expectations when you are bering arranged to be married off. It's important to break these taboos and to dispel myths and to allow for an honest and open communication between the boy and girl. In Pakistan we dont even alow girls to read their nikkahnama let alone change by adding clauses. Education is still not afforded by all and our education system and curriculum are largely outdated. Education and true Islamic guidance for BOTH is urgently needed. Just look at some of he comments here.
Your already wrong because you said Islam comes 2nd you absolute fool, Islam always comes 1ST no matter what, the moment I read that I stopped reading cos your a lost cause
You just summarized an entire relationship and sexual counselling sessions cases and solutions. Are you a student of psychology?
MashaAllah.
It was a good read. I'm a Man, come from the culture you describe, and can't relate to it - nor can I think of any of friends or anyone else that I know of, holds such views.
FYI, we men don't discuss about our partners in general...most certainly not about intimacy etc.
So true, so accurate ALLAH is sure the only one worthy of worship and he want good for us. Assalamualaikum
Wa Alaikum Asalam☺️
Walaikumsalam
Nah Brahma is also worthy of worship
@@plty3931 you have your belief and I have mine. 🙂
@@dotinous1 Well my belief is to accept every religion that promotes justice and peace
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After learning islam deeply i can say that my wife is gonna be so lucky & will stay happy to have a husband like me 👀
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@@ashnickick you too
can u plsase explain what he said in the video i dont understand whats haram
@@lollbhha4219husband or wife revealing things about the private duties between them to other people.
So sweet! 😢
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You only want a boyfriend. Shameless!
Thank you
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I am just 19 and i don't now why i am smiling and imagining ☺️ very word🥰😃
When do u wanna get married?
Kiddo, go and study first and make a life for yourself
@@raizahasmath5580 Not really
How many times do you tuch urslv
@@jordanqueen5873 100 times a day .
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so you do not believe in the messsenger peace be upon him ?
Thanks so much sir
Very good advices.
this is basically saying foreplay is important, here i said it 😉
You have to, you are sinning if u skip it
*My dear little sister ehen she got married after her PhD to an Egyptian engineer she was immediately uncomfortable after the marriage. She told this after EIGHT years!! When the divorce came. My heart breaks & burns everytime I hear what she went through & she was shy to discuss with us. He watched porno & she said that she disliked it & made her feel unhappy. What was the gut thinking? She bought up the 3 children alone. Never wanted to marry so called Am Azhar and 'muslim'. She said "THEY ARE TWO FACED". One for the Masjid men & different for wife. She said "You must come to bed when I call & he wanted daily". I am a family therapist now & remembered that depressed men watch porno & wants sex daily. It is NOT NORMAL for men or women to want sex daily unless they are very unhappy and DEPRESSED. Do not torture your wife! I can beat him up. Wallahi! Even his father died early sad not knowing how this decent family had a such a bad son*
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Solid advice 👍
i had my nikkah but my pakistani culture dictates that i can only spend the night after rukhsati which is in couple months, so frustrating… feels so silly that have no consummated the marriage to my wife because of culture, im just about permitted by both of our families to shake her hand
If the agreement was made before marriage that you would spend the night together only after rukhsati then that has to be honoured. There is a hadith that the conditions that most deserve to be fulfilled are those made before marriage. This is not culture, this is Islam. A Muslim honour his wife, his in laws and the makes good his promises to them.
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You shouldn’t have agreed to such a thing to begin with. Why wasn’t this spoken about beforehand. This whole wait for rukhsati has some standing, becus the dad of the girl needs to give his responsibility to the man. However this should be done on the nikkah . Otherwise what’s the damn point? Frkn Pakistani culture all it does is play with fire etc and when / if something Haram were to happen they’d all be so surprised about it. Like wtf did you expect; you’re making the halal so damn hard for no viable reason
@@shakirabeguum8801 And what if this agreement was made unbeknownst to this man who got married? How does it have a leg to stand on and how can it be honoured if both parties didn't agree to it? You only spoke about one side.
If it was me, I would just take the first night and just sleep together (literally, nothing else) with my wife because knowing how HECTIC marriage ceremonies are, we BOTH need a time just get the NECESSARY 8 hours of sleep.
THAT uh... "ACTIVITY" can ALWAYS be done during the Honeymoon.
But to do that, I need my wife to EXIST IN REAL LIFE first though...
MashaAllah very useful this is what people should put on their UA-cam channels . Ain’t get married yet but inshaAllah in the future i will follow such steps .thank you nourish tv ❤
A lot of things we should know before marriage
Amiin
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You only live once make as much love as you can while you can
And you will get std
@@nickdallas4663 thats what doctors are for
@@catalickconverta6823 lol i’m the doc , im giving you advice
@@nickdallas4663 most of the women ive slept with are nurses or care staff anyway
@@catalickconverta6823 nurse are human too anyone can have std
Inshallah waiting for my NIKAH NEXT YEAR I THINK EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE
What if the prayer and Dua after marriage doesn't happen, is it acceptable to make it up? I'm a revert and so I'm not very familiar with Halal marriage
Yes I think u can make it up since u didn't know earlier u can make it up now
Whatever you miss you can make up. Ask Allah for forgiveness for forgetting and He will forgive, inshallah
i understand the importance of doing a salah together, but reciting a surah before getting intimate kind of bothers me. please don't take it as a negative way. the reason it bothers me is because I don't think I will get turned on afterwards after reciting a surah or dua, same goes for salah as well. or least it will be very difficult to show those intimate affections after special dua, I mean saying bismillah before going intimate kinda feels like a sin to me. may Allah forgive me if I'm wrong in saying so, but in a generation we live in, intimacy is broadly stated as haram, so very little to no information was actually stated out in depth about this matter.
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I can totally understand your feelings but first, you need to understand after nikah this is not a sin or wrong.
i kinda understand that. maybe we should highlight that intimacy 'outside of marriage' is haram. we're often just being told that intimacy is haram without the latter part. imo it's because we're educated when we're young and can't consider marriage as an option. in a lot of country that will be until 18yo. community nowadays also put a lot of importance on financial ability before marriage causing a lot of young people to hold their marriage until they consider themselves financially stable which for a lot of people would be around 30yo. no wonder we just consider the act of intimation as a whole as just haram and thus a bad thing. there's a reason why the act is forbidden, and when you're married the reason is gone so it's not a bad thing anymore. there are a lot of things that are haram but they'll become halal when done the right way
you kinda make a valid point but once you've followed the sunnah and obeyed the command of Allah , there literally shouldn't be any guilt or awkwardness because your now then officially married in the eyes of Allah . The whole point is you made it halal and now enjoy the blessings Allah bestows upon you with being married. So don't have that mindset cause shaytan will ALWAYS find a way to play tricks on you which could ultimately cause disruption in your marriage . All in all Allah knows best so just be positive.
Idk where ppl got that we have to make dua before havinh intercourse with a spouse this ummah has left quran and what allah says and just add stuff rn