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How Long Can Someone Be Alone? w/ Jae (DAY6) I HDIGH Ep. #19
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- Опубліковано 4 сер 2020
- How long can you be alone? Do you enjoy being alone? Jae talks about the Spotlight Effect and other phenomenons that happen when we're alone in our thoughts. Jae also opens up about his struggles with sleep and anxiety. If you can't sleep, you're not alone!
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What is his personal breakthrough?
HOW CAN WE LET THIS GUY A MESSAGE
Diane knows him so much better than he knows himself. Just need a friend like diane.
The worst kind of lonely is when you're surrounded by people but still feel alone. It sucks
That's basically my school life
Fucking true ahahhah :)(
@@adenzewdu3564 same with me 🥺
Never related to something so much🙌🏻
the people watching HDIGH for a long time can already recite jae's whole intro
not @ how we can all recite the transition into the questions too
i feel attacked
And yet still...none of them know what it means
tubapanda what does it mean ?
inTeResTinG
I can listen to him speaking for hours without gettin bored. His voice is just nice to listen to.
Yeah me too, his voice is so satisfying to listen
Yeaahh..its so soothing❤
And he can bring the topic sounds intereessstiiing I swear haha
tRueEeeEe *jae speaking
Introvert nation can relate this
Definitely this explains my whole life 💜
@@user-cn3gd7gf7v sameee
I feel like Diane says what I would have said to Jae every time he talks about a sad thing or a bad habit or something, and I have to thank Diane bc sometimes you don't even realise what you're doing wrong and you need someone to tell you, "hey be mindful, hey get some sleep, hey try meditating". It can make a world of a difference when you have this person and they make a positive impact on your life.
Diane is like a mentor/ mom to Jae.. This boy needs someone to constantly remind him to chill more & think less.
My first semester at college was the first time I was alone. I was hours away from my family and I had a dorm room to myself. I’ve always been introverted and I had the opportunity to have my own room so I took it. Little did I know being alone in my own room with my own thoughts got to me. Alone time was always important to me but being alone all in my room all the time made it harder to leave my room. This increased my anxiety whenever I had to leave my room for class and at night before bed. It eventually caused extreme insomnia, like so bad that I would try to sleep for 8-10 hours, tossing and turning, and then do the same the next night. I’d go weeks with an average of 1-4 hours a night. What got me through this moment was actually Jae and DAY6. Every morning, whether I slept or not, I would play their music and it helped me through the day. After a few months I finally got over most of it but I still have trouble staying asleep. What I’ve learned is that anxiety manifests in your mind and being alone with your mind can do two things: 1. More often, you will overthink and your anxiety will grow exponentially 2. This happens after months of the first, but you finally think out of your anxiety. I now know that the anxiety that affects me and even you will fade with time as you figure things out, but being alone will make it harder to figure it out. Try to talk to others for advice and THEN try figuring it out. Sorry for typing I just felt like this was the perfect place to type this because Jae helped me through this exact topic. :)
hello from 2023
jae: guys get some sleep
me (and i guess everyone) at 2 a.m watching this: I-
@figuring out my life you're right
Félix he do be going live on insta at 3am tho lol
@@walnut5203 yeah lol
Lol I always watch hdigh before going to sleep, now it's 6:30
same lol
Diane and Jae's friendship is so cool. I love the advice she gives, I need to apply this to my life as well. But as Jae has says "It's just so hard!!!"
Everyone needs a friend like diane in their life
Alone time because being with other people doesn't help fill that void. Most people want to be listened to and it rare to find people who will listen...or at least people who have both ability to open up and to listen.
i live for diane's thoughts and opinions that was so 💯
Coming September, It'll be 6 months since I've been at home. Only talked (in person) to my family members. And honestly...I don't feel lonely at all. I think I could go another solid year without mingling with others in person. Maybe it's because I communicated through text anyway with friends and the fact that I'm very introverted. I guess it all depends on the person.
i'm not sure about you, but I think its also knowing that other people are in the same situation. Like bc theres no FOMO and you can still relate to everyone's situation that helps the loneliness subside for me at least
I honestly agree with that sentiment. I have friends i made from the internet and i have irl friends that i now have to talk to only virtually and it's kinda okay? I barely talk to people outside of my family recently, and sometimes i would vid call around once a month? and im set, i still get socially drained even if its virtually
Saaaaaaame i feel ya
i feel you so much! nobody would understand that i actually liked quarantine. now i miss it like crazy! i am constantly drained from being obligated to interact with people, my anxiety and social anxiety in particular has gotten a lot worse. Seeing people plan meetings and gatherings because they miss each other and i’m just there acting excited but in my head i’m thinking about the next excuse. quarantine for me felt like the spring in a lifelong winter. sorry for ranting here, but i seriously cannot do this anymore! everything feels so heavy!
I feel like Diane's breakthrough is understanding jae on a spiritual level
And this episode is one of my favorite hdigh thus far. And i really love this part;
“so basically today we learn that people can’t be alone. make genuine friends, good connections, equals great life”. BROOO THIS PART REALLY HITS ME SO HARD😭😭😭
Ngl the spotlight effect hits me when I’m lit with my friends. I over analyze myself because I had a friend point out something weird that I did so it really made me think people are watching me and makes me self conscious. I think it’s wild how what people do and say to you can really effect your self confidence
jae sings in cursive but speaks so clearly huh
I really really really Miss Jae's iNtErEsTiNg... With his satisfying voice
And omg thankgod tonight i can hear that think from his mouth
Every Sunday I am alone for 8 hours while my daughter goes to work and I freaking love it, blast my kpop, dance, exercise💕💕💕
Girl, yessss!! That’s me when I can get the hubs to take elderly FIL out of the house, which these days is not often. I wish it was for a whole weekend!! But for now, I’ll settle for just a couple of hours. 😉
I can totally understand you. When I'm getting home and there is nobody I feel so good that I can turn on my kpop at loud and just dance 😁
This episode left such a huge impact on me. I listened to it more than once and it made me think a lot. Thank you Jae and Diane.
“be a listener. be a good audience for each other”
I also talk to myself whenever I need to cheer up, remind not to overthink, remind on my to do list, need some discipline, or sometimes laugh/scold at my clumsiness etc. My inner voice is not just always in my head. As in I talk to myself out loud and address myself depends on my mood (ie. by my full name if i'm scolding or disciplining myself). It kinda helps me hear my thoughts sometimes so as not to overwhelm my brain.
Yeah i do exactly the same thing. Also it helps me go through problems as well. Like when i get overwhelmed i just try to remind myself to focus on present rather than stressing out about the future. Plan but don't waste time speculating future. Self talk is really my biggest mechanism to deal with problems
"Be a good audience to each other" :)
i think about this a lot
I use to have panic attacks along with anxiety and insomnia and i agree with diane, meditation is SUPER helpful, along with exercise, proper eating habits and self care. Im reluctant to bring astrology into this but its also very common amongst us virgos because we’re naturally very hard on ourselves. And i didnt know i had anxiety either until the panic attacks because overthinking has always been a state of mind. I really hope you listen to diane’s advice jay and try it because ive stopped having panic attacks since then and have been a lot more mentally stable. I do get anxious time to time but i know my thoughts/anxiety aren’t me and you can do it too 😊
i almost started crying when they started speaking about meditation for anxiety and insomnia. we love you Jae, we are rooting for you and your health!!!
I can listen jae’s podcast for all day long, cuz the tone of his voice just too calming
a lot of people doing quarantine🤔 so that's why all people must watch/listen to this podcasts^^
It is the most relevant topic 😙 thx you diane...
omg thank u dive for the serotonin
I've been listening to him for 3 days straight. I don't ever feel bored hearing his voice.
I can 100% relate. This topic is soo interesting. When Diane talk about sleeping and anxiety, Jae nods and so do I
i feel like being alone doesn't feel like a waste of time for me and i think i overdo it to a place that i'm too comfortable with being alone and i feel like being with friends is a waste of time.
Jae’s voice is so soothing. Probably the only reason why I listen to the podcast 🥰
The way he asked diane," have you been lonely recently?" I'm gonna cry now
14:53 "we sound so old"
I'm like 17 and can totally relate to what you guys are saying, TOTALLY. Just sayin
Same for me and I'm 16 !
sameee and i'm 18
this is like crash course psychology but like deep vibes and feels
20:51 Awwwwww!!!
it’s chills me out! i like it Jea
add to my list song❤️🩹
Diane is a type of friend that everyone should have. 🥺🤍
FIRST. jae i love you and i miss u thats all
I think some celebrities enjoy being alone because they can get away from the media and people judgements. But at the same time they feel lonely. The dilemma tho...
Never clicked on a notification so fast
"Let's be happy" Diane ya genius ❤️ Trying super hard to live in the moment.
This was a really interesting a relative topic to the current situation! Even though this is the more extreme or serious side of the question, there's actually been studies done on the effect of solitary confinement on prisoners and how it can actually drive them insane (due to not have social interaction or a concept of time). Similarly, people admitted to hospitals for long periods of time are prone to delirium if they can't go out, so it's recommended to have windows or a TV in the room so that they are able to see night/day or have an idea of what's happening to the world outside. I think those examples and the current quarantine situation really shows how important it is to stay connected to others and how sometimes we take it for granted
I love Diane's rule of three! It's a really great way of giving people enough chances, while making sure you give your time, energy and care to people that will give it back to you!
I ALSO LOVE 50 PROOF A LOT AND PAC MAN IS AMAZING AS WELL
soo grateful that I've been learning in this podcast
p.s I can relate with this two (but more on Diane even though I'm not brainy~)
I wish these dive studios podcasts return again. I've had much fun watching them. Returning to the busy life now that the excessive quarantine is no more is just so stressful. Wish we could enjoy other episode of the special gatherings you made (Eric/JAE/amber/ BM/Alexa/ ....)
I'm so thankful to be one of his fans
Didn't expect to get tears running down my cheeks while watching this. The topic reminds me of the 2 weeks period where I isolated myself due to a problem. Thank you Jae, thank you Diane, thank you Dive, for the reassurance and encouragement you give through this podcast.
After watching this I've come to conclusion that we should stream Day6's
Zombie 😌✌🏾 What they're talking about and what the song says fits so well
I love Jae and Diane's back and forthing
You guuuuuuys, having the realization that many of the things I’ve been struggling with in patterns is stemming from anxiety and the inability to allow my mind to be in the moment-a lack of mindfulness-has hit me really hard recently. Thank you guys always for the valuable conversation💛
I can also relate to that moment where I didn't know or remember what date is it like all the time LOL
Jae always delivers always does a great job🤩🤩
Excuse me Mr. Jae?? but I think Wonpil would be a good actor too! In the series of videos that they did back in 2017 where he had to act like he was secretly in love with his friend he didn't say a SINGLE WORD but his eyes and general facial expressions told the story that he needed so beautifully; it was incredible. I can't believe he wasn't mentioned. Justice for Wonpil ✊
They all did great actually, but don't mind me just hyping up Wonpil bc I love him lmao
Is it in youtube? Where i can watch it?
@@syahrulsyazwanimddesa4962 yes! It was part of their Every DAY6 project where they released singles every month, I was actually talking about the music videos from that project! What Can I do + I Loved You + When You Love Someone, in that order. Wonpil stood out to me in all of them 💓
so you can also get to listen to jae's song in the middle of the podcast?? this podcast is life. 🤩🤟🏻
MIND BLOWN!! I have so much difficulty sleeping sometimes falling asleep at 5am or not at all and I never linked it to my anxiety!! I'm right there with you had, know exactly how you feel 😑
I love that he puts his songs in here! I'm obsessed with like all his songs that have come out so far. Sometimes I play them on repeat
one of my fav episodes. enjoyed the topic :) thanks dive studios we appreciate your works
Didn't know I needed this! Haha. Finally more content!
I did a research paper for my AP Lang class a few months ago as a final about how it’s actually beneficial to spend time by yourself, and not just for introverts. I actually used the first 1 article Jay talked about. A big part of solitude depends on how you’re spending it, you need to enjoy it whatever activity you’re doing whether it’s meditation or yoga, or something like reading, listening to music, and jogging. If you’re forcing yourself to be secluded, or genuinely don’t want to, that’s when it could be harmful. Also, if you’re new to trying to spend time by yourself, then take it slow. I personally know someone who has been meditating everyday for the past 5 years, but when she first started couldn’t even last for a few minutes. So don’t put yourself in the deep end so quickly. It’s about patience and actually wanting to spend time by yourself. So yeah, you can go crazy or feel more anxious after a certain amount of time depending on what you’re doing and how much “experience” I guess you have, but you’re able to improve it.
Finally we got the eaJ music in the video too!! Yayyy 💖 And my fave song from him too omg 🤧
this year is just so hard for me, for everybody. I used to be alone but this kind of situation drove me crazy. Thank you so much for this episode. dealing with my report while listening to this podcast make me feel less lonely.
Thank you and please be happy
Love LOVE LOVE this!😍😍 I can relate so much to all of them😂😩 this's my first eps of hdigh btw 😚 keep going guys! Good job ✨🎉
Omg im early, just because i woke up earlier for school
I miss this podcast❤
I haven't hung out with someone since November since I moved for college and I relate to everything Jae said :')
I really enjoy Jae's episodes. People of all ages can relate to many of his questions and topics.
"not YOU listening you JAE..."
me watching this at 4am waiting for my anxiety to go to bed: *still feels attacked*
24:57 Me at job interviews like
My introverted ass could relate to every word they were saying more than anything else.
This episode so relate with me 😣😣😣 Thank u Jae 😢💕
i worked a job where i would be completely by myself for like 8 or 9 hours a day for 6 days a week for like 3 months. there was no internet at all and i couldnt have my phone and i had basically nothing to do for the majority of the day. it screwed my (already poor) mental health up so bad. people arent meant to be isolated like that and its so important to have friends to check in with. internet friends are a lifesaver especially if youre disabled and housebound or just cant hangout irl.
Ugh. Your voice really is so soothing even if you're just talking 😭 The topic is very interesting but as for me, an introvert, being alone doesn't bother me, i enjoyed it, but I also doesn't mind the attention from the people I care about like my family.
Ive been listening to this podcast since the first episode and I am so grateful for everything I have learned. LOVE LOVE LOVE THESE TALKS!!
If you want to,you can train yourself to go to sleep right away and leave the random thoughts for another time.It only takes a few days of practice to teach yourself to breathe calmly and ignore or dismiss random thoughts.You practice meditating with a timer in the daytime and focus on your breath.It will become a wonderful tool that can be used anywhere. If only I learned how when I was younger!!!
Since Bojack Horseman's ended, I'm glad there's another therapeutic Diane.
I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS COMMENT OMG ILY
you’re so cool for this comment
@@mahamfarhan8131 I'm sensing some snark, but I appreciate the virtual validation, thank you.
@@nichecorner7504 haha omg nooo this was 100% genuine
i think i also saw you mention john mulaney somewhere here. you indeed are cool, my fren
I listened to this while folding clothes for a family of 9 people, I'm a daughter by the way but I enjoy cleaning, this podcast made this 9x easier!
i got so immersed with this talk that I forgot to do my homework while listening. i mean, im thinking, it'd be really cool to be talking with someone like this, sharing each your opinions and talking abt it. but I have no one so I'll just appreciate being an editorial and feature writer at school, it's still sharing my opinion ig.
From the book Ikegai, togetherness makes human live longer and happier
im really like your podcast jae, your voice like a cure if i can't sleep.
fighting 🔥🔥
Ever since the pandemic, I have been cooped up at home, so I have been alone with my thoughts. Since my plans have been put on a halt, I realized how much I took for granted all the work and activities I do. I have been so tired from work and school before that I wanted to just relax and get away from everything, but now that I don't have anything to do, I just feel bad and empty. Guess I thought I was an introvert, but now I realize that I'm the type to always be needing to do something or else I feel bummed out.
thank you dive!! thank you jae!! ❤️
7:04
jea: yaaahhhhh
lol, she knows him more he knows himself
I wasn't listening a lot to podcasts but now i can't live without hearing hdigh
Im energized everytime i listen to jae's podcasts😊🤗
Love this podcast, I leave learning something new
i feel so lonely but i seriously cannot reach out i try so so hard to make myself but i physically cannot and it’s hurting me so bad.
most of the time I tend to be alone since I don't find many people that really listen to me when I talk...unlike what I do for other people. I also don't want to seem like a burden at the same time though so I like to keep to myself. honestly it may also just be me but I like to just listen to people talk, I can't really express my thoughts and ideas through talking bc I tend to ramble or stutter so yea :/
another side note: I feel like I'm missing out in a way bc my siblings are out hanging out with their friends most of the time but I'm home all the time
With the social media thing and how we get more distant with our friends, I also believe that with social media and having friends on social media- you get to see more and more of who that person actually is.. For example what they enjoy or dislike things like that can make you view them differently than if you speak to them irl . It can be because of the negativity and being anonymous online or it can be that they feel more comfortable expressing their true feeling because of the fact that they're anonymous.
*I'm saying this because I recently found out that my close friend is homophobic and racist, made me realise how much I actually didn't know abt them.* and how I need to know the person and connect with them instead of calling them my friend to hide the fact that it's hard to make good and accepting one's. :)
whenever my life got sick i want to watch Jea’s
I’m glad Jae and Diane decided to talk about this topic
I’m an “extrovert” according to my mbti but my anxiety has gotten to the point where I give up pretty often and I don’t want to live with that mindset anymore. I get happy but either someone or something makes me feel insecure and I don’t talk about how I feel because I don’t want to be seen as a rude teenage girl but I really wanna calm myself down because it makes me feel really bad. For example, I used to be really good with not getting scared from loud sounds but now I’m getting worse and it makes me feel so defeated which is crazy for me cause I’m such a “it’s kinda scary” person and it makes me feel so bad and I start to lose motivation because I just end up feeling like a loser because I wasn’t like that.
I'm in the exact same situation as you right now. That's pretty bad
Find someone who looks at you the way Jae looks at Diane
No we definitely need Jae to be our boyfriend but we can't :(((
i keep sending these videos to my friends
they ain't complaining 👍
Everytime Jae worries or mentioned about being 30 I was like UGH yeah me too dude, I feel ya. 😂
Damn im so early to watching this😂
Me too😭😭
OMG I'm literally looking at the subtitles, Jae's pronunciation is good AF! It's user-generated but damn, it hits the spot! (98%) Lol!
I could listen to him talk all day , everyday man
I relate to the struggle of trying to hangout with friends; sometimes i cant help but take it personally tho i understand life is busy. But the Rule of 3 is a good suggestion; thanks Diane!!
I've been basically alone since March 13th because of #pandemic
so yeah... it's been a couple of months filled with bliss
man I looove your topics and uestions. reminds me of shower thoughts on twt. for someone who's eager to know things but is somewhat lazy to do research, I love it here lol.
Diane's '3x and you're out' rule. SAME. That rule helps me move past people who aren't actually worth my time.