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  • @PocketChangeOfficial
    @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому +11

    Here's a quick glossary of relevant terms from the Monogamy vs Polyamory discussion.
    Monogamy: A relationship structure where one person has one romantic or sexual partner at a time.
    Polyamory: A consensual relationship structure where individuals have multiple romantic or sexual relationships at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of all parties.
    Ethical Non-Monogamy: An umbrella term for relationships where people engage with more than one partner in a way that is transparent and consensual.
    Polygamy: A marriage structure where one person has more than one spouse. It is an umbrella term and can refer to various types of non-monogamous marriage.
    Polygyny: A form of polygamy where one man is married to multiple women at the same time.
    Throuple: A relationship involving three people who are all romantically or sexually involved with each other.
    Primary Partner: In some polyamorous relationships, this is the partner with whom someone shares the most time, commitment, or responsibilities (but this structure can vary).
    Hierarchical Polyamory: A polyamorous structure where certain relationships (like the one with a primary partner) take precedence over others.
    Non-Hierarchical Polyamory: A relationship structure where no single relationship holds more importance than others.
    Closed Polyamory: A polyamorous relationship where a set group of people have agreed not to seek new partners.
    Open Relationship: A form of ethical non-monogamy where partners may pursue relationships outside their primary partnership but usually have agreed-upon boundaries.
    Hope this helps! Let us know if you'd like us to cover more terms or dive into a specific concept.

  • @15h4n
    @15h4n 2 місяці тому +23

    Extremely undercooked, superficial, reductive and illogical arguments by the monogamy side. Wish there were better interlocutors on that side to make this a more interesting dialogue who had done some research and deliberated before stepping into this with obscure reasonings that are only coming from bias than actual knowledge on behaviours and cultures.

    • @aditishrivastava3536
      @aditishrivastava3536 2 місяці тому +5

      This actually mirrors our society more though. Most people form opinions based on biases rather than research. Hopefully the discussions can help break the biases.

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      @@aditishrivastava3536 That's a really insightful observation! Conversations like these often reflect how people form opinions in real life-sometimes rooted in biases, sometimes informed by experience. We hope that through open discussions, we can start breaking down some of those biases and encourage more research-based thinking. Part 2 might dive even deeper, so stay tuned! 😊

  • @theblueheart199
    @theblueheart199 2 місяці тому +9

    imo the monogamy side could have argued their point better had they not been blinded by their biases. moreover, they were confusing 'polygamy' and 'polyamour' way too often. im waiting for part 2!

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      We hear you! We’ll make sure to dive deeper into Polyamory in Part 2. Thanks for your patience. ✌

  • @aditishrivastava3536
    @aditishrivastava3536 2 місяці тому +7

    Pocket change / Sangya - can we have a glossary of the relevant terms here? Will help educate us in the comments section!

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      That’s a great suggestion! We’ve created a glossary and pinned it in the comments for easy reference. Feel free to check it out and ask if anything still needs clarity!

  • @PocketChangeOfficial
    @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому +3

    Which side are you on, monogamy or polyamory?

  • @TheMesopo
    @TheMesopo 2 місяці тому +5

    Polyamory is for rich people. Relationship requires money to maintain it. In this economy, only one partner can be maintained. If you cannot satisfy your primary partner, then you should not venture out.

    • @kenofken9458
      @kenofken9458 2 місяці тому +2

      I don't have to "maintain" any of my partners. They have their own jobs.

    • @TheMesopo
      @TheMesopo 2 місяці тому

      Yeah, no. Relationship requires money to maintain it. You're going on dates, right? Who's spending it?

    • @kenofken9458
      @kenofken9458 2 місяці тому

      @@TheMesopo I've got several and yes it's some money, but once past the dating stage, we tend to share costs. My main expense is fuel: Two of them live two or more hours away.

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      Money can complicate any relationship, no doubt! But it’s always more about communication than bank balances. Relationships (monogamous or polyamorous) need trust, not just money. 💸💬

    • @TheMesopo
      @TheMesopo 2 місяці тому

      Money is as crucial in a relationship as communication. ​@@PocketChangeOfficial

  • @sleshashah7563
    @sleshashah7563 2 місяці тому +3

    omg we need A PART 2 PLSS POLYGAMY BACHPAN MAI SEEKHA HAI THESE TERMS WHAT FOR BRO??? DEVIKA IS SO RIGHT

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      Haha, looks like you’ve been ready for this discussion since day one! Part 2 is coming soon - buckle up for more! 🎢

  • @ojasvinath8048
    @ojasvinath8048 2 місяці тому +2

    Such dumb arguments given by the monogamy defending group. Wish there were better questions, curiosity, and discussions. It was all about putting polygamy down rather than defending monogamy!!
    I don’t support polyamory personally but the guy’s clarity was amazing!

  • @MihirPathare
    @MihirPathare 2 місяці тому +2

    Nicely put.. looking forward to the next one.

  • @priyalwork4391
    @priyalwork4391 2 місяці тому +12

    Nobody has a concrete stance…everyone just got schooled by Aashish 😂 #Sangyaforthewin

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      Looks like Aashish brought his A-game! 🏆 But hey, there’s always room for more in Part 2. #StayTuned

  • @TheVeganlibrarian
    @TheVeganlibrarian 2 місяці тому +3

    Ashish and his patience.. amazing

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      Aashish is all about that zen mode! 🧘‍♂ Glad you appreciated his approach!

  • @thandamentalist
    @thandamentalist Місяць тому +1

    This whole conversation is SO SUPERFICIAL. The monogamy side just sounds kind of butthurt. The polygamy side just takes advantage of the anecdotal arguments that the other side made. Overall, a very surface level discussion with a suboptimal level of intellect considering the topic being discussed.
    I guess the only point where I was impressed was someone bringing up polygamy vs polygyny.

    • @thandamentalist
      @thandamentalist Місяць тому

      Also Mujhe yaad nai kisne but kisi ne toh pair bonding chemicals ki baat uthayi thi. They mentioned oxytocin and dopamine but either conveniently(if it was the polygamy side) or maybe out of ignorance (if it was monogamy side) omitted vasopressin which probably has the biggest systemic role out of all three where 'relationship structures' are concerned. And NOBODY went to the ROOTS of this. Yall went to Krishna and Gopi before you went to vasopressin and AVPR1 gene?
      And very interesting that the polygamy side was mostly just repped by the man? The lovely women hardly contributed. And once where the blue dress woman spoke she said "polygamy mostly consent ke saath hota hai". Mostly? Acha. Then the other lady brought up Krishna and Gopis. Why are they here?
      Overall, a really really low quality conversation. Please spend more time researching the topics rather than organising it. This is vain. Banal. You're trying to educate the young and provide thinking frameworks for everyone. Please prep better.

    • @thandamentalist
      @thandamentalist Місяць тому

      Also the dumbest thing the guy said was "toh mai usko 10 answer ka list deke bhej dunga". Wow. Does he understand a child's mental health? Does he understand social dynamics in CHILDREN? You can sell anything to me but this. You really think you're being educated and not absolutely selfish to put a child through this? That was really dumb to be honest. I am not saying monogamy is the correct answer to that but come on. That's such a stupid thing to say. Again, very banal. Surface level.

  • @TheCainak
    @TheCainak 2 місяці тому +3

    Lord Krishna, Draupadi and even in Ramayana Dashrat’s had two wives.. polygamy was okay for kings in even Middle Ages. .

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      Polygamy has existed in many cultures, past and present. But the rules and acceptance of these structures vary across societies today. Great historical perspective though!

    • @AnkitNikunj-v2l
      @AnkitNikunj-v2l Місяць тому

      When I got reincarnated into 21st century. Typical isekai harem.Wow

  • @div7409
    @div7409 2 місяці тому +3

    Looks like Dragana and Amiya will finally speak in Part 2

  • @Redhotstar14
    @Redhotstar14 2 місяці тому +2

    Waiting for part 2

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      Part 2 is cooking! 🧑‍🍳 Stay tuned, you won’t be disappointed 😉

  • @AKASHROY-i9f
    @AKASHROY-i9f 2 місяці тому +4

    Indian society aligns with monogamy polygamy can't work in our society 😢😢

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      It’s true that monogamy is the norm in many places, but polyamory is becoming more visible in some communities. It’s an interesting conversation to see how these dynamics shift! 💬

  • @ashu281000
    @ashu281000 28 днів тому

    How to get in to polygamy relationship. My wife didn't believe in poly but i am interested

  • @shubhankardube4478
    @shubhankardube4478 2 місяці тому +3

    As a polyamorous person I totally agree with Aashish's points on how polyamory is demonised by society especially in terms of justifying immoral actions by using the term as a defence by bad actors.
    I've been in a polyamorous relationship for 3 years now and all I can say is that with proper communication everyone involved has felt loved and that love is not a finite thing that one can run out of with just one person. It is a beautiful journey and all emotions, good or bad are a part of it💜

    • @ppwithaweewee9403
      @ppwithaweewee9403 2 місяці тому +4

      "My girl's boyfriend needed me to type this"

    • @shubhankardube4478
      @shubhankardube4478 2 місяці тому

      Very mature of you to comment that.

    • @ppwithaweewee9403
      @ppwithaweewee9403 2 місяці тому +2

      @@shubhankardube4478 Something you will never be with those opinions...you are THE, perfect example of "☝️um actually"

    • @shubhankardube4478
      @shubhankardube4478 2 місяці тому

      ​@@ppwithaweewee9403imagine shit talking on a random video's comment section without bringing up any valid points, get a life kid.

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому

      @shubhankardube4478 Thanks for sharing your perspective! It’s always insightful to hear from people with real experience in polyamory. Communication and love-those are the real MVPs, no matter the relationship type! 💖

  • @ayushsoni9195
    @ayushsoni9195 15 днів тому

    What if somebody's mom is polyamrous....usko pata hi nhi hai ki uska baap kon hai ? ...😂😂😂

  • @sarveshagrawal2022
    @sarveshagrawal2022 2 місяці тому +5

    The guy on with the blue t-shirt was the best

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому +2

      Blue T-shirt guy is getting all the love! 💙 Guess Aashish has got more fans than he knows!

  • @UditKhannaKShorts
    @UditKhannaKShorts 2 місяці тому +2

    Mein monogamy ki side hu 😊😊😊😊😊😊.

    • @PocketChangeOfficial
      @PocketChangeOfficial  2 місяці тому +1

      Monogamy team represent! 🙌😊 Every relationship structure has its own charm!

  • @utkarshagupta8501
    @utkarshagupta8501 2 місяці тому

    Worst and most senseless conversation I ever heard😂

  • @TheMesopo
    @TheMesopo 2 місяці тому

    Achaa?? Is it ethical for a poly married couple like Aashish and Shweta to welcome in a much much younger girl like Tanisha in their triad who was in her early 20s when she met Aashish who was almost 35 at the time? How come is this ethical? Obviously they're going to ignore this predatory approach on young women simply because the man is a liberal and is bashing traditional approach to relationship.

    • @tarunlohar7576
      @tarunlohar7576 2 місяці тому

      How is this unethical? If it was, then monogamous relationships with age differences must be unethical right? But they aren’t. A woman in her early 20s is surely capable of deciding what’s good for her, so no one is taking advantage of anyone here. That’s just your limited mindset that cannot fathom the fact that they have what most people can’t, love and understanding. Everyone’s an adult, grow up!

    • @TheMesopo
      @TheMesopo 2 місяці тому

      ​​@@tarunlohar7576It is unethical even in monogamous relationship also. Poly people or queer people will not get a free pass to get involved in age-gap relationship.
      Predatory cis-het married couple like Shweta and Aashish in their mid thirties are courting and involving Tanya, a woman in her early twenties when the prefrontal cortex takes atleast 25 years to develop. Why can't Aashish and Shweta find an older woman to get involved with? Maybe because a fully grown up woman won't entertain them?
      It is wrong, you know it. You just want a desi poster boy for polyamory.

    • @tarunlohar7576
      @tarunlohar7576 2 місяці тому

      @@TheMesopo I understand your concerns, but it's important to remember that consenting adults, regardless of age, have the autonomy to make decisions about their relationships. Claiming that all age-gap relationships are unethical, even between adults, assumes that people in their early twenties are incapable of consent, which is simply not true. Adults in their twenties may be younger, but they still have the right to choose their partners without being infantilized. While the prefrontal cortex isn’t fully developed until 25, that doesn’t mean adults under 25 can’t make informed and responsible choices.
      Labeling Aashish and Shweta as predatory based purely on an age gap is an unfair generalization. Power imbalances can occur in any relationship-age-gap or not-but these dynamics should be evaluated based on mutual respect, consent, and communication, not just the numbers.
      Additionally, imposing different standards on polyamorous, queer, or age-gap relationships is not helpful. Consent, respect, and healthy boundaries are what matter, regardless of the relationship structure. Suggesting that older women won’t “entertain” the couple assumes bad intentions and overlooks the diverse reasons people form relationships.
      Ultimately, the ethics of any relationship depend on the individuals involved and their ability to respect each other’s autonomy-not the age difference alone.

  • @mintusaren895
    @mintusaren895 2 місяці тому

    Shkun vs shial achhi tarah ,shakun 80 sal banche. Phir mixture.

  • @TheCainak
    @TheCainak 2 місяці тому +2

    Draupadi says hi ..

  • @nadahbatliwala4048
    @nadahbatliwala4048 2 місяці тому +1

    Disgusting 🤮

  • @theunconventionaltalks3580
    @theunconventionaltalks3580 2 місяці тому +1

    All Ra nd