I gave up nicotine, drugs (mainly weed and mushrooms), zina, social media, bad talking out of anger and idle talk. I have done all of these before already, when I was distant to my deen, but doing all this now for the sake of Allah made me attain so much peace and most importantly ease in doing it. Alhamdulillah
When Allah has covered your sins, do not expose it by yourself. For if you tell your sins out publicly which Allah hid for you, you will be unforgiven. Be careful.
another thing that I love is what I read once, that the companions wore their deen as their crown, and had this world in their hand, whenever the crown moved/tilted, they would let go of the world in an instant, to immediately fix that crown and move it back right to it's place where it belongs.. so beautiful :'(
I really think we, non-muslims, can’t thank you enough for sharing those pieces of wisdom that we are often deprived and unaware of, farah!! Thank you!!
I'm sure many kpop fans can feel how I feel. Music and Kdramas took up A LOT of my time growing up, i still do like groups till this day but I avoid their music once in a while i'll watch their funny content, but I had a realization that I am acting like prophet ibrahim's father. It never crossed my mind that these people I fan over are literally called "idols" and i treated them as such, spent money on their items, cried when they cried, screamed their names. Even thinking about it now I feel so uneasy. Alhamdulillah I've cut out music from my life and it was NOT easy. I sometimes feel awkward when people ask me what type of music/genre do I like and I just tell them "i don't listen to music". Im sure many people can agree whether you were quitting music, coming closer to your deen, quitting smoking/drinking anything that is not normal in islam but is a norm for the people around you and your friends, theres that hidden awkward ostracization that kinda comes about. I know how it feels, it can feel lonely at times too but remember whatever you give up for allah, Allah will give you something 10x better than that. Even non-muslims can agree on this, anyone can, removing something that is taking up your time or is generally not beneficial to yourself, your health, mental health, etc and people around you do it and you choose to leave, they will treat YOU like YOU'RE the one thats weird, and not them. Hold yourselves, uplift yourselves, don't give up my brothers and sisters of islam and not in islam. Anything is possible, even if you relapse and you feel guilty. Remember that guilt was put into your heart because the al mighty knows you have good intentions, he knows you want to do better. Love you all Salam
My bestfrnd is a huge kpop and k drama fab as u mentioned she recently ordered like their album and stuff and it's really like I don't know how to tell her that this is haram because she's also Muslim and she knows this already but I feel the need to give her a wake up call let's hope I'm able to do it soom I'm juts scared it's gonna ruin our friendship
As a kpop stan myself, thank you! Thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone in this and letting me know that my worries are mutual. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I always convince myself that Kpop brings me joy and comforts me, but in reality every ounce of time I spend into kpop is a waste of time, just temporary distraction. I genuinely try to limit my time with kpop content and music, never have bought an album or went to a concert, but still the guilt is chewing on my soul. InshaaAllah someday I will be able to quit, without missing the comfort and distraction kpop is giving me. The association with Ibrahims father and „idols“ was really eye opening!
@@Khadijaa24 I know how is it feel and how hard it is but you need to advice her and help her to cut them off as soon as possible bcs no one knows when he or she will die so we need to go back to the right path since we're still alive May Allah helps u on that problem and remember to pray for her in your salat and I'm so is I had any mistakes in my message I'm still trying to improvey language more
@@itzaisha5145 but in the end, Allah and your deen is more important than anything else in your life. it doesn't matter if it's your happy place, you have to let it go eventually
"Trying to seek Pleasure is a presciption for depression", this is so true. Thanks for this video. I really want to become muslim Alhamdulillah. i hope allah makes it easier for me to walk the path of islam
I invite you to islam 🤍 ash hadu al la ilaha illa Allah wa ashadu an'na muhammadan abduhu wa rasuluhu 🤍 say bismillah (in the name of Allah) and I pray everything gets easy from here 🤍
farah, there are not enough words to describe how much this episode meant to me. i'm writing this as a non-muslim, young adult who has been drawn to Islam for some time now. listening to you talk about your struggles, i found myself resonating with so much of what you said. i am someone that derives pleasure from things you mentioned in your video, and in the same way it has only ever left me feeling empty and confused. i cried while i was listening to you talk, it is truly inspiring listening to another woman with so much wisdom. i just want you to know this video was beautiful and i truly wish one day i'll have the stength to revert to Islam InshAllah. thank you for this, may Allah grant you goodness and Jannah.
its hard to take the first and the biggest step of your life but after hardship comes ease and after reverting to islam you will find the beauty and peace in life and everythign that before seemed hard just dissapears with your love for god (allah) i hope you find this peace and reassurance in your life and i hope you revert to islam soon before your time is up and is too late 😖 pls let us know when u do revert to islm - and dont forget you have 2 billion muslims supporting you and above all allah supanawataalla (the most glorified the most high) - and best final piece of advice just have a look at the quran and some of the talks about the scientific proofs said in the quran and topics of islam ur curious about (i reccomend merciful servant for these videos) - i hope you become muslim soon u will see the benefits reep :) and also have a great day!
Masha’Allah sister, I’m proud of you. I gave up music a couple months ago for the sake of Allah. I am a singer myself, my dad is a musican and my mom loves music too. I started to come back to Islam a couple years ago and now I am practicing islam bit by bit. I stopped listening and making music and Subhan’Allah I don’t miss it. At all! Music made me listening to the words and emotions of other people. It did something with my own emotions. I loved piano music and I respect the art, but it really distracted my mind from my own thought and emotions > Running away from my own thoughts and traumas with music. When I stopped listening to music I felt more space to actually FEEL parts of myself on a deeper level. Things from my past and present that needed love and attention Subhan’Allah. I feel so different, light and more aware of my surroundings and Allah. If you want to “sing” recite Quran, if you want to listen to music: try it and you will feel it’s not the same feeling when you are more attached to Allah. Music is an addiction. Listen to the natural music like the sounds of the wind when you walk outside, the sound of the birds.
This is amazing to read. Thank you for posting this. I am struggling alot to give up on music. This post has really hit me and is very inspiring. I pray to Allah that he makes it easier for me! Can I ask what you do when you are surrounded by music for instance other family members Playing it or at the shopping stores? Thanks again.
@@letscookhealthy7047 Salaam aleykoum, I’m so gratefull that my post inspired you. May Allah make it easy for you. I live in Amsterdam, so I’m surrounded by music sometimes. I try to avoid places where they play music, but sometimes I will end up in a place where there is music. I just ask Allah to look at my heart so He can see that it was not my intention to end up at that place. I work at a college and I can’t forbid the school to play music for example because I’m muslim. I’m trying to be disciplined, but not to hard and mean for myself. If I’m in the supermarket and there is music I feel like it is not my choice or intention to play music. I just need my groceries. So I think Allah knows our intentions the best. I wish you all the best Insha’Allah. Practicing Islam is like a sea. Take small steps and keep educating yourself.
I want to add: my mum is born muslim, but she is not practicing Islam. I was not raised muslim. My dad was a Christian. I grew up around my muslim family, but I never felt that connection with them and my culture (Moroccan) As a kid I always believed in God, but I didn’t follow any religion. During my teenage years and 20’s (I’m almost 30) Allah gave me many signs Alhamdulilah, but my ego (nafs) was to big. I didn’t want to gave up on several bad/haram things. My eyes were closed, but my heart stayed open to Islam Alhamdulilah. Long story short: I’ve seen a different un-islamic side of life and this was my Qadr from Allah. I understand how hard it can be to be muslim nowadays. Stay strong! Be kind to yourself and to others around you. Be good to muslims and non-muslims. Talk with your heart. Forgive yourself for everything, forgive others and you will be content with a way of life that Allah wants us to live Insh’Allah I love the Ummah and I care for non-believers. I pray for peace in our hearts Insha’Allah.
I stopped listening to music about a year ago, but going through relapses lately. I don't know how people react to music, but to me it was everything, i had a constant soundtrack in my mind almost all the time, listening to it could transform my entire being for a while. It was such a huge part of my life. Novels too, especially being into fluffy romances that you just know are not ok. TV show and movies too. I tried stop them all and succeeded for a while, but lately i have gone back to my old habits and i feel so uneasy about it... pray for me to get back to my previous peaceful state.
Hi, Can i just ask if your life did change when you gave up tv shows, romance books and music etc because i've been thinking about giving them up as well but like theyre my hobbies and what i spent my times on so now i dont even know what to without them
@@reema811 THANKS for the reply ! I've refuse to charge my airpods making it physically impossible to listen to music in school/when walking outside like i usually do and I deleted tiktok so I think i've made a good start. Fr though i didn't realise music was as bad as drugs because without realising there's just music in my head when i literally have just woken up. not normal so I think Instagram reels and youtube shorts need to go for me to actually commit. Also im taking your advice and replacing music with quran. Inshallah my brain and soul change and i stay commited. thanks for the encouragement ;)
Salam:) I've been there and i just want to remind you that we need replacements for anything we lose. You can make yourself health, wealth, qur'an, family related small and big GOALS to keep you busy ! (eg: memorizing surahs, improving relationships, gift projects, small businesses, improving salah, learning new skills) As for hobbies, Islamic podcasts (following series), wildlife documentaries, qur'an reflection courses, journaling, art and embroidery, martial arts, gardening, cooking, skin-care, driving, volunteering, horse riding, language-learning, reading thought-provoking books about life... Trust me, there's SO MUCH in life what is halal to enjoy! I hope you are surrounded with a good company and may Allah give you the fruits of your struggle towards Him see u in jannah bizniAllah :)
Same struggles!!! You're not alone! Keep resisting the urges because if you act on that will make you feel so so guilty and it's never going to worth it. So it's best to put your energy in resisting than in feeling guilty. Praying it gets better for you! ❤
I’m and many Muslims are in the same boat but I tried memorising quran instead of listening to music and when I feel like I wanna listen to something else I listen to Maher zain or muad nasheeds or vocals only , but memorising quran is a great way to replace the desire of listening to music Also make dual to allah " oh allah remove loving music from my heart and replace it with loving the quran " "اللهم انزع من قلبي حب الاغاني و ازرع في قلبي حب القرآن"🤍🤍🤍
May Allah ease things for you and make you steadfast. There is this hadith i dont remember the wording but it means , whatever you leave for the sake of Alllah , allah will reward you with better things . This is 100%true, i advise you and myself to keep on the prayers
May Allah make it easier for you and for me also. Anything haram that is given up for the sake of Allah and replaced with something halal, Allah will wipe all of the sins from that haram in your past and turn them into good deeds. Subhan Allah, Allah is patient and Allah is the most merciful. A reminder to myself and you
I’m a revert and I’ve been trying to get as close to Allah as possible. It’s not been easy with hard times and being the only Muslim in my family. I know exactly what I have to give up and it’s like I’ve been avoiding it or thinking I can be fine with what I’m doing. My peace is not here but those things are, please pray for me family inshallah 🤲🏾 💕
You probably get this alot but you are wise beyond your years and speak so eloquently. Could listen to you for hours. Keep these reminders coming. And may Allah bless you and your mother for bringing up a girl like you in this day and age. You are a gem! Allahumma barik. Don’t forget your daily adhkaar to keep evil away my beautiful sis in islam.
I relate to this so hard. It’s not easy for me as well to quit listening to music. I hate the way I feel depressed after listening to them because I always make fake scenarios inside my head, I mean it’s all fun and games until you realize you start being delusional. Thank you so much sister for sharing this. I know this is Allah’s plan to make me come across this wonderful video!
So true you know using too much social media could be very bad for us as well i had this phase where i used to think that being delusional is good (that made me proud of listening to music and feeling like I'm doing sth when i just listen to music and make up scenarios ) i heard that a lot and that's what a lot say but now I've realised that it's not good at all and one should be really careful when using social media and not listen to EVERYTHING that people say 😅 we have to filter things first you know take and see if it's good or bad before we actually apply it in our life
I love the way muslims speak about the hereafter, is such a warm feeling in such a cold world... I'm a revert but for some reason I'm finding it harder lately to come closer to Allah, it's really really hard to give up what my peers think of as the norm. Like music, dating, smoking, drinking, getting tattooes and dying my hair etc is like i know what I have to do and the reason behind it but the devil is whispering in my ear "well, life is just 2 days, better be happy now cause tomorrow isn't guaranteed"... I officially reverted this past Ramadan and I've had some instances where i told myself "nah, that was just a passing thought, i dont really believe in all of that". But listening to muslims like you really charge up my spiritual battery and make me take some steps back and reevaluate where i stand... I pray my faith grows, and im going to start working on it harder, studying more Islam!! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart ❤❤❤
I will make duaa for you from the bottom of my heart that Allah swt keeps you steadfast and on the straight path and keep your heart on the true belief. I will also make duaa that we meet in heaven one day, sister. Aameen. :)
Sounds like you need to change your friends, like the prophet peace be upon him said: "Man follows his friend's religion,(i.e. ways and manners) So, each of you should carefully consider whom he takes as his intimate friend" may allah make it easy on you
I would advise you to keep studying who Allah is, and the more you know who he is, the happiest you are, obeying whatever he commands, may Allah increase you in knowledge and righteousness and grants you closeness to him
I advice you to read a book called "because you are Allah , a journey to the seventh heaven" it's talks about the 99 names of Allah, its amazing and will help you a lot to strengthen your relationship with Allah... Plus reading Quran because there is nothing better than the words of Allah ♥️
Go strong sister! I gave up music past Ramadan and I also struggle from time to time but Qur’an definitely keeps me away. Qur’an and Music can not share a place in a believer’s heart. Back in college I started listening less and less music and this helped me to be able to give it up. Keep it up 💪🏽
I’m a Catholic but this really touched my heart. I don’t know about quitting music completely but I think I’ll take a break from music with lyrics since they “rob” my attention and get stuck in my head, which disturbs my thinking and concentration. Thank you so much for your videos, they really inspire me to be better and also this video helped me reflect about other haram things I should give up, too. ❤
WOW. I’ve never watched a 30 minutes video on Islam so easily. Everything you said was so relatable, especially the part about music and how big of a part it is for gym culture. As someone who struggles with listening to music especially at the gym, I am so so inspired by this and hope to someday soon give up music myself. Please keep up these podcasts❤
Same the way farah relay the message is just not heavy as other “pushing” islam to you, but farah’s way of talking makes me not so guilty and but be open to islam again. Idk its so hard to explain in words but long story short this is a light preach that makes me comfortable listening to it
as a dj, dancer now moderately practicing Muslim, I can confirm the harmful consequences of music. It's also the fitna it creates with our own self indulgence, the imaginations, subliminal manifestations which become planted deep withing our subconscious. It also comes with the joy and then imagination leads to action to our imaginations. That is the power of music especially when it hits our desires and fantasies when really if you think about WHY we make music it is mainly used to glorify certain forms of social political iddeologies. Mashallah this was a beautiful and insightful and reflective video
I had this experience 23yrs ago, I am 39yrs old now. When stopped at 16yrs old, going cold turkey. I had disfuctional family lets say, my dad particular, the fighting with my mum and drama as my dad was very liberal and drunk things he should not of so I used music and movies to escape mentally as physically I could not... But I read Quran, and becoming more practicing, I started getting peace in remember Allah swt, there were not religious muslims around and our family was generally isolated... Wakecall was when my little sister asked why I watched the Box (old music channel) 24/7, hogging the tv and I suddenly felt like a hypocrites, because the music had every sort of horrible messages opposite of my religious life style but I used to obsess over it. I gave it up, now again I would mildly fall back in but alhamdullah now it been decades and I do care for it anymore, I do prayers and dhikr at night after tajjud, seriously the emotions that come out and clarity you experience is beyond words...the feel of sakinah tranquility in my heart and soul is beyond words... Fortunately, by me becoming religious, it helped my family and even my dad who now stopped drinking and bakes lol alhamdullah, my mum started covering amd my sisters and brothers started praying, keeping beard, now we are fairly normal family alhamdullah because Islam gave me allot of littles or big wisdom to tackle practical issues, how to handle my parents and day to day issues alhamdullah Forever wearing my burka
Allahumabaarik laki music was also a struggle for me ALHAMDULILLAH I gave it up, and if you're reading this and you struggle with music honestly do it for the sake of Allah, inshallah you will gain so much focus and will be able to concentrate in your salah way more!
@memodiaries6043 most important is to make lots of dua asking Allah to make it easy for you to give up because you cannot achieve any success without the help of Allah remember the dua - La hawla wa la quwwata illa Billah, there is no power and no strength except with Allah spend more time reading and listening to quran and learning its meaning don't just delete music apps but also delete all playlists and your entire account research why music is haram and the negative effect it has on your iman as the more you learn about the harm music causes the less you will love it and it will be easier to give up bi'ithnillah
@memodiaries6043 what i did was switch music to nasheeds. it really helped! but of course most importantly, ask Allah SWT to make it easier for you. make lots of du'a and don't miss your prayers. understand why music won't be beneficial for you, and that there are lots of negative effects that comes with depending on music. when you feel more at ease without music, listening to it again might make you feel uncomfortable.
I don’t remember being this excited for a youtube vlog since I used to watch Adam Saleh almost 9 years ago!! I love you with all my heart girl!! You teach me so much! I wish I had as much determination as you do! I wake up everyday with the intention to be a better Muslimah but I don’t succeed at doing so! But I shall keep trying 👏🏻 thank you Farah!
Subhanallah this is such a miracle... the fact that i got suggested this video before but decided not to watch it but when i opened youtube again... i got this suggested again and same as you, a few months ago i quit music and right now actually for some reason it was a bit harder then usual... then saw this literally teared up augefiasfuawf and also some other stuff thats tough to give up. So thankyou! May Allah grant you goodness and Jannah, Ameen.
this exact same thing happened to me but the same day i decided to give up... i looked at the title of the video and didn't give it a second thought but my mouse still hovered over the video for a few seconds and then it hit me so hard that i cried a little Allah works in amazing ways
The way i was abt to put on my playlist right now and this showed up. Not to forget that ive been struggling to be more productive and get stuff done because like you said Farah, it acts like a drug for me. The "causing much more harm than good" i felt that. So watching this really was something i needed. May Allah guide all of us. JazakhAllah Khair ♥️. Going to study without music now.
Exactly the same for me subhanAllah. I went to put on my language immersion playlist that's become more of an escape than a form of studying for me recently, and something made me go back to my recommended and watch this video. I realize that I've been wasting my time on temporary pleasures rather than investing time into solving my problems and cleaning up my messes. May Allah SWT help us both to let go of these things that detract from our characters and add to the chaos in our lives.
26:18 Besides our "pile of good deeds," it's crucial to remember that it is through Allah's mercy and his love for our efforts is how we enter into His jannah❤🤲🏾 may Allah grant us success in this world and in the next, thank you for this video
this video came at the right moment, and i thanked Allah for not punishing me, for not giving me the consequences to my actions, but instead guide me slowly, instead give me the guilty feeling but at the same time still love me, its really beautiful how Allah SWT knows how i feel, be gentle with me although i’ve been trying to stop it but then relapse again, matter in fact, i even tried to say “oh i dont think its a sin, its just this, its just that, i’ll try to lessen it” but at the end of the day, deep down, i know i wont try to lessen it, it will just become more and more addicting i’ll always feel guilty about it, but today, for the first time, i didn’t feel guilty, and i know that it is a sign that my deen is dying, and i dont want to regress that way, but instead of Allah punishing me, Allah guided me to watch this video, and i know this is my sign to give it up, and when you said, leave the things that sucked out the peace in you, i was thinking, “ i don’t think it sucked out the peace” but i know, and i know that is just trying to halal the haram thing and i have to write this out to sort out my opinion and finally give up the thing for the sake of Allah it did suck out the peace in me, but i just wouldnt admit it, how every salah, i couldnt focus, how i wont be as passionate as before to pray to Allah how i was being reckless, how i refused to dua, because in my mind i feel like Allah won’t accept me, because i’m doing haram things over and over again, there is no point for me to ask things to Allah when i couldnt even give up things for the sake of Him and i felt the connection between me and Allah had worsen i used to talk to Allah about so many things during sujood, now i find it hard to even sujood long enough well thats another thing, maybe because i was contemplating how Allah is giving me the same trials, gave me the opportunity to meet people that i adore, and that suddenly it all went downhill, so what is hikmah behind it? and little by little, i learnt to trust in Allah, and its doing well, for now, because i have the tendency to relapse again and overthink, but since that problem, i assumed as solved, now came this problem, i won’t say its a struggle because i know i could just leave it, i know its haram, but i’m doing it, even trying to negotiate that its not a sin, but i know its a sin, i couldn’t focus, i couldn’t be as passionate as i was before especially during ramadhan, oh i miss the ramadhan version of me, and to regain back that old me is to keep on making dua, but how can i make dua, when i dont even have the gut to tell Allah, i’ve been avoiding talking to him ,acting as if i had so many things to do, but i know a talk with Allah, even just a little bit will bring back the ramadhan version of me, this video is a sign thati should give up now, because if i dont, every little deen things that im doing is going to waste, and i dont want that, it is true when u said, this dunya is for them, the akhira is for us i completely relate to that, and whenever im having those intrusive thought, i will always remembeber what u said thank you and may Allah bless all of you
This episode really resonated with me and made me feel heard and validated, especially as a young adult, not just even muslim, who depends on that temporary adrenaline rush from music and other media to distract me from my problems and fears, instead of actually facing them. It does not serve me, it has only crippled me and held me back from my growth. Alhamdulillah, I am grateful that I am able to at least acknowledge that I am unhealthily dependent on these things, and I pray that Allah makes it easy for those of us choosing to let it go for His sake. Replacing that void with positive, healthy and spiritual habits will not only make you a better muslim/muslimah, it will also grant you the inner peace and calm that we are looking for, as well as a higher quality of life. I wish that for everyone, and jazakillah Farah for this beautiful reminder.
The way this video had struck me for a long time & was always in the back of my head to finally convince me to delete accounts I thought I wouldn’t be able to. Thank you 🙏
This video popped up when I was reminding myself of the reasons why I have chosen certain things. Subhanallah you said everything a person needs to hear, Jihad Al Nafs is something everyone needs to be conscious of and actively work on to be able to allow themselves to be changed and purified. The best blessings come after the biggest sacrifices are made, we think what we have is best but the peace of Allahs pleasure is the best thing a person can attain. It centres you and invites an Abundance of Khair to seep into all aspects of your life. Jzk Khair for this reminder and please keep doing these videos
As a Christian who’s been binging your podcast (instead of listening to secular music), I want to thank you for bringing these things to light. Something I see a lot in my religion nowadays is the idea that you can do anything or have anything and it doesn’t matter-even though we are instructed to lay everything down, even our own family, for the sake of God. There’s a sense of discipline that I think I’ve been lacking my whole life and it’s refreshing to get almost a course in how to do it. Just know that your thoughts and the teachings you want to share are really reaching people who need it. God bless!
This felt like having a talk with my big sister that I never had. No one talked to me about this before and the way you spoke so fluently and rationally got me questioning myself as a muslim. I'm glad that I came across this video bc deep down I knew my addictions were severe yet I chose to ignore them. I know it must've been hard to collect all your thoughts thank you for taking your time to make this video you are a great muslim for addressing this issue.
Can I just say that I struggled with music too, but your podcasts have helped me quit, I realized I just really liked listening to something whilst doing tasks, having your podcasts on in the background have really helped me
Thank you so much for bringing up the topic of music, I feel like many people see it as something trivial but it's the things that we deem as “small” that is a problem in our lives because we do them more consistently thinking than they’re not that big of a deal and in the end it just piles up. I remember thinking to myself “yessse I made it I didn't listen to any songs these past few months” and then realizing that I was listening to music indirectly every day by just scrolling on social media, it's so normalized that we don't even notice sometimes because it's literally everywhere, even to the point where you'll find Islamic videos that have music in the background unfortunately. To anyone who's struggling with music (or any sin for that matter) I would suggest to keep persisting even if you feel like you keep falling back to your old habits, and make lots of dua and Allah will make things easy for you, search for halal alternatives like podcasts, and always remember progress over perfection.
I really cannot relate more cause I was taking that path of quitting music and lately I felt like retracting to scratch and I feel like god has put this video infront of me, I opened it causally not knowing that the topic will be about music as if it was a sign or reminder for me to get back to the right path I feel like I’ve discovered a new favorite youtuber, thank you for being strong enough to share these weaknesses and spread peacefulness💖
I resonate with this completely because my addiction was music for the most part of my teen years and well into my early 20s. I used music and readings novels as a form of escapism from my personal life. Like you said, my gym playlist was a huge motivation and gave me an adrenaline rush at the gym. Alhamdulillah now, several years later, im in my late 20s, mother of 2 and Alhamdulillah i can look back at my old life and appreciate where i am now and how far i have come, solely from the grace of Allah 'azzawajal. So my point is, if you have an addiction which you think it is impossible to get out of, or recover from or let go of, then my advice would be, keep talking to Allah about it in your mind and heart, Allah is the Listener of the Hearts and at some point, Allah will make it easy for you to free yourself from this addiction/habit. Alhamdulillah its been few years since i havent listened to my playlist and i dont miss it. If i can do it, so can you ❤
Your words are so true, SubhanAllah. It's been two years since I've stopped listening to Music and I have absolutely NO regrets whatsoever. Alhamdulillah (All praise is to Allah) for guiding me✨
i also recently gave up on music and i am truly struggling to not go back. I was basically raised by music and has been listening to it every single day since i was like 7, one day couldnt go by without me listening to the same songs on repeat for at least 3 hours. SubhanAllah it is like a drug.
"attaining peace in life, you can only do that by giving up a pleaser" Wow. that's the most truthful truth. Thank you Farah for sharing your story with us. I gave up music last year, and although it was so hard but the pleaser and the peace I felt afterward were so worth it. And it engorged me to give up so many other things I thought I can't live without. Giving up something for the sake of Allah is actually a step to win so many things instead. Allah will reward you with calmness and happiness and he'll replace that thing you gave up with something that makes you a lot more happy. So don't you ever hesitate.
I love this so much. Allahumma baarik laki, honestly just motivated me to rethink something I know doesn't bring me peace .May Allah reward you and help every muslim struggling with tests,May Allah strengthen us
I relate to this so much. Recently I decided i wasn't going to go to school Ball. And everyone acted like i was a barbaric for giving up THE event of the year. I didn't feel like i was missing out cause I wanted to dance and wear a pretty slip dress or anything, but i felt so lonely cause none of my friends could relate to the stuggles of being a muslimah. This video made me feel like I wasn't alone. Thank you Farah💜
I love you! You have reignited my fire to quit music.Seeing someone like me from the West and young but with this kind of heart and mind is beautiful. You made me cry honestly. Everything you said is the kind of stuff i tell myself cause i have no one to talk to about these things. Since everyone has a herd mentality, doing things that go against the Quran and the Sunnah. We need more people like you and i pray that Allah SWT increases you in knowledge and guidance.
I'm trying to fix myself, I woke up to pray Fadjre (4am) and it's now 6am and I'm about to workout, i like heaving time for myself in between these two activities, and i think i found the perfect podcast to watch, i felt so much peace listening and watching you speak so passionately about your views and struggles, i look forward to the next episode tomorrow, Inshaallah.
u dont understand how this motivates me. I barely am on YT and don't know about this channel but i found this and listened to every single word you have said. Thank you so much for this.
I went through the exact same journey a couple years back and I took the exact same decision ❤ I'm Christian and I did it for the sake of God too. It's truly liberating to give up on something that has grown to become harmful, addictive and displeasing to God and give all that up to Him and for Him. Using that time to do what's good for yourself both physically and spiritually is definitely a life changer. Thank you for this great message. For others it can be music or something else, I hope they seek the strength from God and their faith to overcome it 🙏 what we choose to give up in this life will be absolutely worth it in the time to come. God is worth everything.
your video made me not only take the decision to quit music but also other haram things. keep it up sis , you have a great influence and thank you for the inspiration ربنا يجعلوا فى ميزان حسناتك
I just realized that i was thinking how to quit coming back to music after i stopped listening to it for months and i just clicked on ur video randomly سبحان الله I feel like it's a sign ❤
I’ve never listened been addicted to music because I come from a religious family and music just wasn’t allowed. I remember listening to nasheeds instead. I can imagine how hard it would be to leave music as I know music affects the soul. Your body and mind reacts to it, which is the exact reason why it’s forbidden. Also, it takes us away from ibaadah. I’m so glad my parents didn’t allow us to listen to music as who knows what state I would be in now. Alhamdulillah, and great job sister I’m super proud of you x
our eyes literally teared up at the same time while you were telling Prophet pbuh's story. really didnt expect to get affected this much. Keep up the good work, preach the good word!!
As an avid islamic podcast and lecture listener, this was probably the most motivating video I’ve listened to. I am also letting go of something a d giving up something for the sake of Allah. Subhanallah just processing that feeling of difficulty feels very lonely but this felt like you sat right next to me and my emotions and just took care of them. Thank you 😊
@7:13 "you're dependent on something thats not willing to give back, give you peace, and the boost that you want" This is a deep concept right here. IMO we have to evaluate our lives and see what is holding us back, this dunya really doesn't care about us. making sure our relationship with Allah swt is strong should be the highest priority - easier said than done but its true nonetheless. no matter what Allah will always be there for us, for a long time I took this simple fact for granted and now I'm working on strengthening my connection to Allah. May Allah have mercy on all of us. thank you for doing these types of videos.
Thank you so much for sharing. I am a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and it is remarkable to me how many beliefs and values we share with Islam. I watched your whole video and resonated with everything. I love the distinction you made between peace and pleasures. Keep up the good work, God bless you 🤟
no joke im in the exact same position gave up music a few months ago. i 100% understand the struggles ur going thru becasue giving up smth ur addicted to for the sake of Allah swt will inshAllah have such great rewards and i hope Allah accepts it from us
I just gave up something for Allah this week. It has been really hard and the "Muslim struggle" is real. Because, especially if our hearts are in the right place, we want to find peace outside of this earth. No Muslim person is the same, however you are very wise. I didnt give up music completely but i have been giving up the music that promotes haram activities (drinking, sexual stuff, bad language, etc.) more and more since I have been embracing Islam.
I was debating deleting my playlist and then I was like nah I'll do it next time but subhanallah literally right after I thought that, this video popped up and wallah I'm still shocked. Indeed there are signs for people who believe
Masha’aAllah, I needed to listen to this because I grew up attached to music in ways I can’t describe. I also relate having a father that is big on music growing up. I did try before to stop and I kinda did some by listening to audio books and Islamic wisdom that seriously elevated me and during Ramadan. Insha’aAllah I will as I’m loving the tranquility and discipline that’s feels natural that makes me experience reality better.
I'll recommend your videos to my daughters. My eldest daughter left her music classes when she was around 12 because she heard that music is not allowed in Islam & because of her I stopped listening to music Alhamdulillah. Daughters are for sure blessings.
Jazaki Allah khair for this sister, it’s deep to think and reflect on the many pleasures that we seek on a daily, they don’t even have to be haram they could be just makrooh they’re indeed harmful for us if we truly reflect, everything you said reminds me of the verse in surah عمران (وَمَا الْحَيَاةُ الدُّنْيَا إِلَّا مَتَاعُ الْغُرُورِ)
The most amazing thing about Rasulullah is that he doesn't need to sacrifice his nafs for akhirah. He is already guaranteed to enter jannah. And yet he still chooses the pleasures in jannah.
This is your first video that wanted to watch and as soon as I heard hardstyle and hardcore stuff along with the struggle of quitting those that you're living, I clicked the like button and wanted to comment about it. I know how powerful is hardstyle and 5 or 6 years ago, when I was a newbie, yet a sportsman and knew a foreign language and a believer Muslim -have big confidence-, quoted myself "My music is my life energy, and my religion is my life purpose" said 17 years old me. Today 23, and realized how addicted I was. Yet, no matter how I tried, I couldn't stop listening especially while doing sports. PS: I do my daily prayers and try to be careful in my acts as a Muslim. So, Maasallah to you Farah, I know how hard to quit. Hopefully, you'll be consistent about it. Proud of you.
I just want to say, JazakiAllahu Kheir for making this video. Its the first video that has touched me that profoundly in a while, like making me think, what do I need to change for the sake of Allah? I have two young children, and living abroad, my husband is busy a lot... And honestly, an escape I use is giving my eldest child too much screentime to keep her busy and also myself scrolling UA-cam way too much in my free time when in my heart I know I should use that time to read Quran or draw closer to Allah in that time cos every other hour of the day I am busy with my kids. And although these things don't fall into the category of Haram, I feel it that it's not good for me or for my kid in the long term... When I keep myself away from mindless scrolling, after the initial discomfort, I can hear my thoughts opening up and speaking to me, and all of a sudden, im figuring out how to deal with issues or inconveniences going on in my life... I feel more connected to my prayers when I'm not craving the dopamine hits... And although giving my kid screentime gives me some space, I don't want to be ruining her life by getting her addicted to the cheap dopamine hits... She is an amanah from Allah, and instead of giving her the screen, for the sake of Allah and protecting her fitrah and brain and all the rest, I need to develop some hard and fast rules around it. And likewise for myself. Thank you for this video once again ❤️
@@mennaalragaby8498 @mennaalragaby8498 Ameen ya Rab. Since making this comment I've actually been quite more aware of it Alhamdulillah and been making an effort. I've always monitered the content my kid watches heavily. I download certain videos for her, every now and then I'll give her a few new ones, and if she wants to watch, that's all she gets. So it helps cos she gets bored and will go play. Its also helped me reduce her screentime cos if I take it away from her, she's not dying to keep watching. So if she tantrums it's 30 seconds lol.. as for useful content, honestly I'm a self improvement junkie so I could watch "useful" videos all day.. but for me, with an infant who I have to feed every few hours and get to sleep etc.. it's those times where I fall into the trap of scrolling cos I can't do much else... But yes, I definitely am gonna keep trying to do better InshaAllah ☺️
I am 51 years old. All my life I tried to live and practice Islam, but at some point in my life I became overwhelmed with sins and desires that caused me not to fulfill my obligations to God as I should. That was the beginning of my deep, deep, deep depression. I used medicine and self-therapy, so now I am quite well, but the consequences of sin are still there😢. What you said makes sense and is true. We humans so quickly and easily forget, or do not know at all, why we are here and where we are going at the end of our lives. If we do not surround ourselves with good and moral people in life, it is an even bigger problem. When we are with someone, we become either the same or similar to him or her without even noticing it. That's my experience. Thank you very much🌹💓.
Salam. I gave up music about 4 years ago. After a long while you will perceive it differently as Allah would reveal its hidden ugliness. Before I would get lost in the harmony of the rhythm, beat, lyrics, instruments, and vocals. Now (when I have to hear it at a store or gym) my mind hyper focuses on the lyrics. I can only pay attention to their words. And I can’t help but hyperfocus on the artist, who they are and what they’ve done. When you’re forced to actually pay attention to the words and singer you feel disgusted and irritated. Sin is enveloped by an attractive exterior. Leave the sin for a while and Allah will remove this illusionary exterior and show you the true ugliness. I appreciate this video because one of my issues is addiction to UA-cam and the internet. I try to leave UA-cam but keep falling back. I’ve been on a binge for a week now. I can’t help but feel that this is a sign. Several times while listening I would reflect, and you would say words that are in my head. I think Allah guided me to this video as a reminder. May Allah grant you an astounding success in Jihad Al Nafs, and may you and your family enter Jannatul Firdaus jAk.
I like when u said "They know what's good and they stay away from what feels good" May ALLAH bless you and help anyone that gave up something for the sake of allah ❤
man i wanna cry. its nice to know im not the only one struggling with music. i havent (WILLINGLY, do i make sense? )listened to music for a month because im busy with exams. my exam ends in 9 days , and at first i said to myself, as soon as exam ends, i can listen to music again. but now im having second thoughts. i’ve “survived” this song, i think i should just continue. but theres a part of me that’s not ready to let go of music yet. idk what decision i’ll make in 9 days - will i listen to music? or continue this journey? im scared i’ll give in into my desires… and im rlly into kpop which makes it even harder. pls pray for me :( (sorry if my eng bad)
it Is a good decision. a really good one (one of the best ones, actually) (music and songs were so OverRated without us even understanding and realizing how and Whyy, I mean: we hear them on Instagram(I also hate this app) ,films, tv, some UA-cam videos, facebook, people's cars, people humming them in the street and Videogames. no wonder why we choese to listen to it, because we were forced to them, and the bad thing Is That people made it look so fun to listen to them(some movies are all about how Greatt singing Is, ooooo!), and it's not. Music and even songs, but especially music(notes) Is actually creepy (to me), yes they reached a point were they started to horrify me (literally), beacuse I started to hummn them(أُلَحِّنهن) when I just woke up, and then after that when I eat, and then when I am trying to sleep and at the end in my studying times.. and that is when I deep down in the heart of my heart I understood that this is not ALL because of music, but these "music" is making me escape somethings and it is not Helping but rather makes it hidden, (this is when I said to myself that ghosts were not scary at all, they are not hunting me, but music Is, And no one ever said that music Hunts, or at least that what I thought so, I just didn't listen or search the people how speak about it. and then Farah were in my screen just staring at the photo with her amazing title, alhamdullah).
listen, you will not lose anything(and Allah will replace it with a better thing because you(we) left something for him). (this is it) but it might feel that u are losing EverythInggg and oooo, but it is just your brain and my brain and human brain as Usual trying to keep things familiar and Is scary of new things(as usual) . but like Farah said.. "I knew it is going to be a lonely journey(not lonely, but I mean: that this is my total decision and ofc people are not going to help me in it And don't know that I am even going throught it If I don't tell them that.. hey, I really want to listen to life and not to listen to any musical notey thing again. because why not?) (وَمَا لِيَ لَا أَعْبُدُ الَّذِي فَطَرَنِي وَإِلَيْهِ تُرْجَعُونَ) "And why should I not worship Him (Allah Alone) Who has created me and to Whom you shall be returned. [ يس: 22]
Masha Allah. I watched this when i needed it the most. Allah just used you to help me❤ I absolutely love you for being soooo real and May Allah keep multiplying your heaps of reward. Ameen. P.s I can't wait for the next one❤
i dont usually comment, but as a young muslim this is one of the best things i have ever heard! thank you so much farah!! 💗💗 "they have this dunya but we have the akirah" is so unexplainably beautiful, literally had me in tears!! 💗💗💗
As a muslim Struggling with these EXACT THINGS!!! I can thank you enough!!! may allah reward you so much! music is ADDICTIVE! and it should be spoken about more often.
I was able to relate to a lot of what Farah was saying, and personally I gave up at least 3 major hobbies of mine because I accepted the fact that they were haram (/unbeneficial). This happened a few months ago for me as well (about a month or two before Ramadan), and I know it's not helpful for me to say that I practically cut them out cold turkey and never really failed in restraining myself but what I will say is this. Months after giving up these hobbies I realized how little they mattered to me in the first place. I mean sure, I would pull up spotify after school and listen to songs for hours, but giving that up made me realize how little I truly loved music. I could definitely write an entire essay about this but what I want the reader to take away is that you need to understand that if you are truly doing this to please Allah and avoid that which he warned us of, then He, the Almighty will NEVER fail to aid you and provide you with what is necessary (I also advise that you replace these habits with halal alternatives to make up for the time you spent or even wasted with these things ). It's also important to look at these habits and deeds from an entirely islamic lense, don't think about your classmates, teachers, or neighbors. Society pressures affect us more than we realize, and you should know that you are stronger than just submitting to these ever-changing norms. As always I say الحمد لله for the guidance and strengh I was given to strive to be the best Muslim I can be. Salam.
Alhumdulillah Allah works in mysterious ways, yesterday my brother told me he quit music and i feel currently in a similar position as you 4 months ago, but have been contemplating it and then this video is reccomended. ALHUMDULILLAH
(00:01) 🎙 Introduction to the Podcast and Episode Topic. (00:31) 🪴 The Purpose of "Fruits of Friday" and Sharing Wisdom. (01:06) 💬 Importance of Sharing Wisdom with Non-Muslims. (01:40) 🕊 Strengthening Non-Muslims Through Content. (02:21) 🚫 Giving Up Something for the Sake of Allah. (02:58) 🎶 Struggling with Giving Up Music. (03:34) 🎵 Music as an Addiction and Escape. (04:17) 🏋♂ Music's Role in Bodybuilding and Training. (04:58) 💔 Feeling Dependent on Music and Difficulties in Giving It Up. (05:39) 🌍 The Harm of Not Sharing Islamic Wisdom with Non-Muslims. (06:11) 🔁 Looking Back After Giving Up Music. (06:46) 👥 Going Through the Journey Alone and Compromising. (07:21) 🌈 Seeking Happiness and Peace. (07:54) 💫 Attaining Peace by Giving Up Certain Pleasures. (08:36) 🗣 Encouraging Muslim Youth to Focus on Peace. (09:07) 🎭 Changing Expressions and Reactions Due to Pleasures. (09:46) 🌪 Escapism and Its Consequences on Peace. (10:16) 👚 Fashion and Impressionability Among Muslim Girls. (11:34) 🕌 The Story of the Prophet and His Focus on the Hereafter. (12:09) 🌍 Islam's Perspective on the Worldly Pleasures. (13:13) 💖 Differentiating Between Pleasure and Peace. (14:29) 🚫 Giving Up Pleasures to Find True Peace. (15:02) 🏃♀ Pursuing Pleasures Leads to Depression. (15:38) 🎭 Transferring from a Decent Muslim to Chasing Pleasure. (16:18) 💡 Seeking Peace and Identifying Escapism. (17:34) 🏜 Struggling with Identity After Removing Hijab. (18:09) 🤍 The Quest for Happiness and Authenticity. (18:48) 🕌 Balancing Pleasure with Peace in Life. (19:29) 🌟 Giving Up Pleasures for the Sake of Allah. (20:09) 🌄 The Importance of Focusing on the Hereafter. (21:37) 😇 Islam's Approach to Balancing Human Desires. (22:20) 💧 Suffering Depression After Giving Up Hijab. (23:04) 🌊 Losing Peace and Striving for Beauty. (23:38) 🏃♀ Seeking Pleasure vs. Seeking Goodness. (24:21) 🌟 Focusing on the Afterlife for True Peace. (25:04) 🔥 Overcoming Impressionability and Fashion Pressure. (25:44) 🌈 Struggling for Peace in the Modern World. (26:20) 🌍 Understanding the Temporary Nature of the World. (27:00) 🌿 Seeking Peace and the Beauty of Islam. (27:36) 🏆 Choosing What's Good Over What Feels Good. (28:11) 🤔 Infusing the Right Mentality in Muslim Youth. (29:00) 🕌 Focusing on the Hereafter and Inner Peace. (29:38) 🌱 Differentiating Between What's Good and Feels Good. (30:15) 💬 Reflecting on Personal Growth and Journey. (30:50) 💬 Ending the First Episode and Future Plans.
No one will understand how hard it is to give up music completely especially when it’s all around you is INSANELY DIFFICULT. I used music to get away from my problems as a distraction and it worked really well but it’s not the cure it was a temporary fix. Once I stopped all together it was such a big struggle and still is. Music is literally a drug it’s addictive on a whole other level. I still sometimes fail on days and listen to a little bit rare but it happens especially when I’m going through something. I still continue to try everyday it’s been a year going strong but you only realise why it wasn’t good for you when you leave it. Thank you Farah for speaking on this I relate so much.
i kid you not, thank you so much for sharing these knowledge videos to other people on the internet. The way you feel about your mom and how you just wanna share what you have learned from her, i feel the same way about your videos and i'm just very grateful alhamdulillah to be able to learn here and maybe even invite people to feel and experience the same way. Allahumma barik
You getting into hardstyle makes me smile haha, as a Muslim myself I still listen to music, but I just don't listen to lyrics or repeat bad lyrics. EG: lyrics about smoking, drinking, women, etc. ( when I was a Christian I still did this already, because it's more a moral thing in my head to not do those things. Anyway, an understandable perspective from you to not listen anymore, I do prefer to listen to the Qu'ran during a lot of things, not only to listen but also to do my best to memorize it. I am in the same boat as you though with something else, the discipline to not act on your pleasures... Salah does help with this, I do my best to do every Salah (sometimes I miss one, but will pray it later if I slept through it) I build my life around Salah and make sure my body is in an amazing condition like working out, eating well to get your vitamins, etc. In my opinion the 2 most important things in life. Without Salah I feel bad, without eating the right foods I feel bad. I do my best to follow what the Prophet (SAW) does. My problem is/was more that I was too obsessed with the fact that I HAD to find a wife the past 2 years, this is because I never even talked to any women, because I was always busy working and building myself. (I am 23 btw) But Allah (SWT) knows best, I can't be anti-social anymore sadly Allahuma Barik sister, may Allah (SWT) guide us all to the right path!
"you can't attain peace without giving something up" realest quote , may Allah help everyone ameen
@cowdians?
amen
Ameen ❤
امين يا رب العالمين
"They have the Dunya,
we will have the aakhira"
I needed that reminder ❤
What does this mean?
@@livc.6761 They have this world, while we will have the afterworld.
@@A.D-Cali Thank you 💜
what is this story from
I gave up nicotine, drugs (mainly weed and mushrooms), zina, social media, bad talking out of anger and idle talk. I have done all of these before already, when I was distant to my deen, but doing all this now for the sake of Allah made me attain so much peace and most importantly ease in doing it. Alhamdulillah
Proud of you
When Allah has covered your sins, do not expose it by yourself. For if you tell your sins out publicly which Allah hid for you, you will be unforgiven. Be careful.
I cut off my haram relationship for sake of Allah. Thank you Farah you're like a big sister to me ❤
another thing that I love is what I read once, that the companions wore their deen as their crown, and had this world in their hand, whenever the crown moved/tilted, they would let go of the world in an instant, to immediately fix that crown and move it back right to it's place where it belongs.. so beautiful :'(
Woah I love this analogy
thank you for sharing this with us. This is so beautiful
Mashallah, thank you for sharing this with us ❤
where she came from?
An enchanting impressive attractive heart stimulating and iman boosting narration
I really think we, non-muslims, can’t thank you enough for sharing those pieces of wisdom that we are often deprived and unaware of, farah!! Thank you!!
We Muslims invite you to ISLAM, the only religion accepted by almighty God.
@@letsknow1491 Are you saying that God is sectarian?
@@laurameszaros9547 God revealed many religions from himself through out history, but Islam is the final true revelation, nothing else.
@@bigguschungus4533 Nonsense. Who told you that, and why has it been so easy to brainwash you?
@@letsknow1491 No it’s not😂
I'm sure many kpop fans can feel how I feel. Music and Kdramas took up A LOT of my time growing up, i still do like groups till this day but I avoid their music once in a while i'll watch their funny content, but I had a realization that I am acting like prophet ibrahim's father. It never crossed my mind that these people I fan over are literally called "idols" and i treated them as such, spent money on their items, cried when they cried, screamed their names. Even thinking about it now I feel so uneasy. Alhamdulillah I've cut out music from my life and it was NOT easy. I sometimes feel awkward when people ask me what type of music/genre do I like and I just tell them "i don't listen to music".
Im sure many people can agree whether you were quitting music, coming closer to your deen, quitting smoking/drinking anything that is not normal in islam but is a norm for the people around you and your friends, theres that hidden awkward ostracization that kinda comes about. I know how it feels, it can feel lonely at times too but remember whatever you give up for allah, Allah will give you something 10x better than that.
Even non-muslims can agree on this, anyone can, removing something that is taking up your time or is generally not beneficial to yourself, your health, mental health, etc and people around you do it and you choose to leave, they will treat YOU like YOU'RE the one thats weird, and not them.
Hold yourselves, uplift yourselves, don't give up my brothers and sisters of islam and not in islam. Anything is possible, even if you relapse and you feel guilty. Remember that guilt was put into your heart because the al mighty knows you have good intentions, he knows you want to do better. Love you all Salam
My bestfrnd is a huge kpop and k drama fab as u mentioned she recently ordered like their album and stuff and it's really like I don't know how to tell her that this is haram because she's also Muslim and she knows this already but I feel the need to give her a wake up call let's hope I'm able to do it soom I'm juts scared it's gonna ruin our friendship
As a kpop stan myself, thank you! Thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone in this and letting me know that my worries are mutual. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I always convince myself that Kpop brings me joy and comforts me, but in reality every ounce of time I spend into kpop is a waste of time, just temporary distraction. I genuinely try to limit my time with kpop content and music, never have bought an album or went to a concert, but still the guilt is chewing on my soul. InshaaAllah someday I will be able to quit, without missing the comfort and distraction kpop is giving me. The association with Ibrahims father and „idols“ was really eye opening!
@@Khadijaa24 I know how is it feel and how hard it is but you need to advice her and help her to cut them off as soon as possible bcs no one knows when he or she will die so we need to go back to the right path since we're still alive
May Allah helps u on that problem and remember to pray for her in your salat and I'm so is I had any mistakes in my message I'm still trying to improvey language more
Kpop is my happy place I’m not ready to let go :/
@@itzaisha5145 but in the end, Allah and your deen is more important than anything else in your life. it doesn't matter if it's your happy place, you have to let it go eventually
"Trying to seek Pleasure is a presciption for depression", this is so true. Thanks for this video. I really want to become muslim Alhamdulillah. i hope allah makes it easier for me to walk the path of islam
I invite you to islam 🤍 ash hadu al la ilaha illa Allah wa ashadu an'na muhammadan abduhu wa rasuluhu 🤍 say bismillah (in the name of Allah) and I pray everything gets easy from here 🤍
How does it go?
farah, there are not enough words to describe how much this episode meant to me. i'm writing this as a non-muslim, young adult who has been drawn to Islam for some time now. listening to you talk about your struggles, i found myself resonating with so much of what you said. i am someone that derives pleasure from things you mentioned in your video, and in the same way it has only ever left me feeling empty and confused. i cried while i was listening to you talk, it is truly inspiring listening to another woman with so much wisdom. i just want you to know this video was beautiful and i truly wish one day i'll have the stength to revert to Islam InshAllah. thank you for this, may Allah grant you goodness and Jannah.
May Allah ease your journey sister! 🤍
MashaAllah sister🥹May Allah make reverting easy for you🩷
May Allah guide you to his way and containes you with the blessings of islam sister
MAY ALLAH GUIDE YOU TO THE STRAIGHT PATH AND MAY HE MAKE IT EASY FOR YOU SIS!! MAY ALLAH GUIDE US ALL TO THE STRAIGHT MATH AND GIVE US EASE!!!
its hard to take the first and the biggest step of your life but after hardship comes ease and after reverting to islam you will find the beauty and peace in life and everythign that before seemed hard just dissapears with your love for god (allah) i hope you find this peace and reassurance in your life and i hope you revert to islam soon before your time is up and is too late 😖 pls let us know when u do revert to islm - and dont forget you have 2 billion muslims supporting you and above all allah supanawataalla (the most glorified the most high) - and best final piece of advice just have a look at the quran and some of the talks about the scientific proofs said in the quran and topics of islam ur curious about (i reccomend merciful servant for these videos) - i hope you become muslim soon u will see the benefits reep :) and also have a great day!
One evidence of having your good deeds accepted is that doing more good becomes easier. SubhanAllah
SubhanAllah such a good reminder
I can vouch for it. Alhamdhulillah!!!
Grow up.
Masha’Allah sister, I’m proud of you.
I gave up music a couple months ago for the sake of Allah. I am a singer myself, my dad is a musican and my mom loves music too. I started to come back to Islam a couple years ago and now I am practicing islam bit by bit. I stopped listening and making music and Subhan’Allah I don’t miss it. At all!
Music made me listening to the words and emotions of other people. It did something with my own emotions. I loved piano music and I respect the art, but it really distracted my mind from my own thought and emotions > Running away from my own thoughts and traumas with music. When I stopped listening to music I felt more space to actually FEEL parts of myself on a deeper level. Things from my past and present that needed love and attention Subhan’Allah.
I feel so different, light and more aware of my surroundings and Allah.
If you want to “sing” recite Quran, if you want to listen to music: try it and you will feel it’s not the same feeling when you are more attached to Allah. Music is an addiction. Listen to the natural music like the sounds of the wind when you walk outside, the sound of the birds.
This is amazing to read.
Thank you for posting this. I am struggling alot to give up on music. This post has really hit me and is very inspiring. I pray to Allah that he makes it easier for me! Can I ask what you do when you are surrounded by music for instance other family members Playing it or at the shopping stores? Thanks again.
@@letscookhealthy7047 Salaam aleykoum, I’m so gratefull that my post inspired you. May Allah make it easy for you. I live in Amsterdam, so I’m surrounded by music sometimes. I try to avoid places where they play music, but sometimes I will end up in a place where there is music. I just ask Allah to look at my heart so He can see that it was not my intention to end up at that place. I work at a college and I can’t forbid the school to play music for example because I’m muslim. I’m trying to be disciplined, but not to hard and mean for myself.
If I’m in the supermarket and there is music I feel like it is not my choice or intention to play music. I just need my groceries. So I think Allah knows our intentions the best. I wish you all the best Insha’Allah. Practicing Islam is like a sea. Take small steps and keep educating yourself.
Nice,, great❤❤❤❤
@@Tarigvenus511 may Allah bless you
I want to add: my mum is born muslim, but she is not practicing Islam. I was not raised muslim. My dad was a Christian.
I grew up around my muslim family, but I never felt that connection with them and my culture (Moroccan) As a kid I always believed in God, but I didn’t follow any religion.
During my teenage years and 20’s (I’m almost 30) Allah gave me many signs Alhamdulilah, but my ego (nafs) was to big. I didn’t want to gave up on several bad/haram things. My eyes were closed, but my heart stayed open to Islam Alhamdulilah. Long story short: I’ve seen a different un-islamic side of life and this was my Qadr from Allah.
I understand how hard it can be to be muslim nowadays. Stay strong! Be kind to yourself and to others around you. Be good to muslims and non-muslims. Talk with your heart. Forgive yourself for everything, forgive others and you will be content with a way of life that Allah wants us to live Insh’Allah
I love the Ummah and I care for non-believers. I pray for peace in our hearts Insha’Allah.
I stopped listening to music about a year ago, but going through relapses lately. I don't know how people react to music, but to me it was everything, i had a constant soundtrack in my mind almost all the time, listening to it could transform my entire being for a while. It was such a huge part of my life. Novels too, especially being into fluffy romances that you just know are not ok. TV show and movies too. I tried stop them all and succeeded for a while, but lately i have gone back to my old habits and i feel so uneasy about it... pray for me to get back to my previous peaceful state.
Hi, Can i just ask if your life did change when you gave up tv shows, romance books and music etc because i've been thinking about giving them up as well but like theyre my hobbies and what i spent my times on so now i dont even know what to without them
@@reema811 THANKS for the reply ! I've refuse to charge my airpods making it physically impossible to listen to music in school/when walking outside like i usually do and I deleted tiktok so I think i've made a good start. Fr though i didn't realise music was as bad as drugs because without realising there's just music in my head when i literally have just woken up. not normal so I think Instagram reels and youtube shorts need to go for me to actually commit. Also im taking your advice and replacing music with quran. Inshallah my brain and soul change and i stay commited. thanks for the encouragement ;)
Salam:)
I've been there and i just want to remind you that we need replacements for anything we lose. You can make yourself health, wealth, qur'an, family related small and big GOALS to keep you busy ! (eg: memorizing surahs, improving relationships, gift projects, small businesses, improving salah, learning new skills)
As for hobbies,
Islamic podcasts (following series), wildlife documentaries, qur'an reflection courses, journaling, art and embroidery, martial arts, gardening, cooking, skin-care, driving, volunteering, horse riding, language-learning, reading thought-provoking books about life...
Trust me, there's SO MUCH in life what is halal to enjoy!
I hope you are surrounded with a good company and may Allah give you the fruits of your struggle towards Him
see u in jannah bizniAllah :)
Same struggles!!! You're not alone! Keep resisting the urges because if you act on that will make you feel so so guilty and it's never going to worth it. So it's best to put your energy in resisting than in feeling guilty. Praying it gets better for you! ❤
I’m and many Muslims are in the same boat but I tried memorising quran instead of listening to music and when I feel like I wanna listen to something else I listen to Maher zain or muad nasheeds or vocals only , but memorising quran is a great way to replace the desire of listening to music
Also make dual to allah " oh allah remove loving music from my heart and replace it with loving the quran "
"اللهم انزع من قلبي حب الاغاني و ازرع في قلبي حب القرآن"🤍🤍🤍
Listening to podcasts and islamic lectures are getting me way more gains than music ever has 😂
Such a timely message for me today 😢 i’m a new muslim and finding it really hard to give up some things
Aww! Congratulations and MashAllah!
Dont worry - you'll get there:)
Take it easy dear sister and many many many congratulations MashaAllah
May Allah ease things for you and make you steadfast.
There is this hadith i dont remember the wording but it means , whatever you leave for the sake of Alllah , allah will reward you with better things . This is 100%true, i advise you and myself to keep on the prayers
May Allah make it easier for you and for me also. Anything haram that is given up for the sake of Allah and replaced with something halal, Allah will wipe all of the sins from that haram in your past and turn them into good deeds. Subhan Allah, Allah is patient and Allah is the most merciful. A reminder to myself and you
you start slow. you dont have to give up your entire past and entire previous culture overnight. but make sure you are doing your best
I’m a revert and I’ve been trying to get as close to Allah as possible. It’s not been easy with hard times and being the only Muslim in my family. I know exactly what I have to give up and it’s like I’ve been avoiding it or thinking I can be fine with what I’m doing. My peace is not here but those things are, please pray for me family inshallah 🤲🏾 💕
You probably get this alot but you are wise beyond your years and speak so eloquently. Could listen to you for hours. Keep these reminders coming. And may Allah bless you and your mother for bringing up a girl like you in this day and age. You are a gem! Allahumma barik. Don’t forget your daily adhkaar to keep evil away my beautiful sis in islam.
I relate to this so hard. It’s not easy for me as well to quit listening to music. I hate the way I feel depressed after listening to them because I always make fake scenarios inside my head, I mean it’s all fun and games until you realize you start being delusional. Thank you so much sister for sharing this. I know this is Allah’s plan to make me come across this wonderful video!
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I rather live in real life lol
So true you know using too much social media could be very bad for us as well i had this phase where i used to think that being delusional is good (that made me proud of listening to music and feeling like I'm doing sth when i just listen to music and make up scenarios ) i heard that a lot and that's what a lot say but now I've realised that it's not good at all and one should be really careful when using social media and not listen to EVERYTHING that people say 😅 we have to filter things first you know take and see if it's good or bad before we actually apply it in our life
I love the way muslims speak about the hereafter, is such a warm feeling in such a cold world... I'm a revert but for some reason I'm finding it harder lately to come closer to Allah, it's really really hard to give up what my peers think of as the norm. Like music, dating, smoking, drinking, getting tattooes and dying my hair etc is like i know what I have to do and the reason behind it but the devil is whispering in my ear "well, life is just 2 days, better be happy now cause tomorrow isn't guaranteed"... I officially reverted this past Ramadan and I've had some instances where i told myself "nah, that was just a passing thought, i dont really believe in all of that". But listening to muslims like you really charge up my spiritual battery and make me take some steps back and reevaluate where i stand... I pray my faith grows, and im going to start working on it harder, studying more Islam!! Thank you, from the bottom of my heart ❤❤❤
I will make duaa for you from the bottom of my heart that Allah swt keeps you steadfast and on the straight path and keep your heart on the true belief. I will also make duaa that we meet in heaven one day, sister. Aameen. :)
Sounds like you need to change your friends, like the prophet peace be upon him said: "Man follows his friend's religion,(i.e. ways and manners) So, each of you should carefully consider whom he takes as his intimate friend" may allah make it easy on you
I would advise you to keep studying who Allah is, and the more you know who he is, the happiest you are, obeying whatever he commands, may Allah increase you in knowledge and righteousness and grants you closeness to him
I advice you to read a book called "because you are Allah , a journey to the seventh heaven" it's talks about the 99 names of Allah, its amazing and will help you a lot to strengthen your relationship with Allah... Plus reading Quran because there is nothing better than the words of Allah ♥️
Best of luck on your remarkable journey! indeed, every little effort made by you will be worth it❤ Keep going!
Go strong sister! I gave up music past Ramadan and I also struggle from time to time but Qur’an definitely keeps me away. Qur’an and Music can not share a place in a believer’s heart. Back in college I started listening less and less music and this helped me to be able to give it up. Keep it up 💪🏽
I’m a Catholic but this really touched my heart. I don’t know about quitting music completely but I think I’ll take a break from music with lyrics since they “rob” my attention and get stuck in my head, which disturbs my thinking and concentration. Thank you so much for your videos, they really inspire me to be better and also this video helped me reflect about other haram things I should give up, too. ❤
WOW. I’ve never watched a 30 minutes video on Islam so easily. Everything you said was so relatable, especially the part about music and how big of a part it is for gym culture. As someone who struggles with listening to music especially at the gym, I am so so inspired by this and hope to someday soon give up music myself. Please keep up these podcasts❤
Same the way farah relay the message is just not heavy as other “pushing” islam to you, but farah’s way of talking makes me not so guilty and but be open to islam again. Idk its so hard to explain in words but long story short this is a light preach that makes me comfortable listening to it
It's time 🤍
as a dj, dancer now moderately practicing Muslim, I can confirm the harmful consequences of music. It's also the fitna it creates with our own self indulgence, the imaginations, subliminal manifestations which become planted deep withing our subconscious. It also comes with the joy and then imagination leads to action to our imaginations. That is the power of music especially when it hits our desires and fantasies when really if you think about WHY we make music it is mainly used to glorify certain forms of social political iddeologies. Mashallah this was a beautiful and insightful and reflective video
I had this experience 23yrs ago, I am 39yrs old now. When stopped at 16yrs old, going cold turkey.
I had disfuctional family lets say, my dad particular, the fighting with my mum and drama as my dad was very liberal and drunk things he should not of so I used music and movies to escape mentally as physically I could not...
But I read Quran, and becoming more practicing, I started getting peace in remember Allah swt, there were not religious muslims around and our family was generally isolated...
Wakecall was when my little sister asked why I watched the Box (old music channel) 24/7, hogging the tv and I suddenly felt like a hypocrites, because the music had every sort of horrible messages opposite of my religious life style but I used to obsess over it.
I gave it up, now again I would mildly fall back in but alhamdullah now it been decades and I do care for it anymore, I do prayers and dhikr at night after tajjud, seriously the emotions that come out and clarity you experience is beyond words...the feel of sakinah tranquility in my heart and soul is beyond words...
Fortunately, by me becoming religious, it helped my family and even my dad who now stopped drinking and bakes lol alhamdullah, my mum started covering amd my sisters and brothers started praying, keeping beard, now we are fairly normal family alhamdullah because Islam gave me allot of littles or big wisdom to tackle practical issues, how to handle my parents and day to day issues alhamdullah
Forever wearing my burka
@Salampakistan ❤️
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@@texenna those are just different names..
@@zainabtanweer2910 A burqa is a full body veil and a hijab is a head covering scarf. Two different names with two different purposes.
Allahumabaarik laki music was also a struggle for me ALHAMDULILLAH I gave it up, and if you're reading this and you struggle with music honestly do it for the sake of Allah, inshallah you will gain so much focus and will be able to concentrate in your salah way more!
Trust me it will be the best decision especially because you won’t have the music buzzzing around in your mind when you pray.
Yes! And it gave me sooo much peace!!
@memodiaries6043
most important is to make lots of dua asking Allah to make it easy for you to give up because you cannot achieve any success without the help of Allah
remember the dua - La hawla wa la quwwata illa Billah, there is no power and no strength except with Allah
spend more time reading and listening to quran and learning its meaning
don't just delete music apps but also delete all playlists and your entire account
research why music is haram and the negative effect it has on your iman as the more you learn about the harm music causes the less you will love it and it will be easier to give up bi'ithnillah
is she pakistani?
@memodiaries6043 what i did was switch music to nasheeds. it really helped! but of course most importantly, ask Allah SWT to make it easier for you. make lots of du'a and don't miss your prayers. understand why music won't be beneficial for you, and that there are lots of negative effects that comes with depending on music. when you feel more at ease without music, listening to it again might make you feel uncomfortable.
I don’t remember being this excited for a youtube vlog since I used to watch Adam Saleh almost 9 years ago!! I love you with all my heart girl!! You teach me so much! I wish I had as much determination as you do! I wake up everyday with the intention to be a better Muslimah but I don’t succeed at doing so! But I shall keep trying 👏🏻 thank you Farah!
the trying and struggling means a lot sis, don't despair. I pray that Allah SWT makes it easier for you
Aameen Ya Allah
Subhanallah this is such a miracle... the fact that i got suggested this video before but decided not to watch it but when i opened youtube again... i got this suggested again and same as you, a few months ago i quit music and right now actually for some reason it was a bit harder then usual... then saw this literally teared up augefiasfuawf and also some other stuff thats tough to give up. So thankyou! May Allah grant you goodness and Jannah, Ameen.
this exact same thing happened to me but the same day i decided to give up...
i looked at the title of the video and didn't give it a second thought but my mouse still hovered over the video for a few seconds and then it hit me so hard that i cried a little
Allah works in amazing ways
Miracles only happen to Prophet Muhammad SAW, don’t refer to other experiences as a miracle!!
May Allah reward you
The way i was abt to put on my playlist right now and this showed up. Not to forget that ive been struggling to be more productive and get stuff done because like you said Farah, it acts like a drug for me. The "causing much more harm than good" i felt that. So watching this really was something i needed. May Allah guide all of us. JazakhAllah Khair ♥️. Going to study without music now.
Exactly the same for me subhanAllah. I went to put on my language immersion playlist that's become more of an escape than a form of studying for me recently, and something made me go back to my recommended and watch this video. I realize that I've been wasting my time on temporary pleasures rather than investing time into solving my problems and cleaning up my messes. May Allah SWT help us both to let go of these things that detract from our characters and add to the chaos in our lives.
26:18 Besides our "pile of good deeds," it's crucial to remember that it is through Allah's mercy and his love for our efforts is how we enter into His jannah❤🤲🏾 may Allah grant us success in this world and in the next, thank you for this video
this video came at the right moment, and i thanked Allah for not punishing me, for not giving me the consequences to my actions, but instead guide me slowly, instead give me the guilty feeling but at the same time still love me,
its really beautiful how Allah SWT knows how i feel, be gentle with me although i’ve been trying to stop it but then relapse again,
matter in fact, i even tried to say “oh i dont think its a sin, its just this, its just that, i’ll try to lessen it”
but at the end of the day, deep down, i know i wont try to lessen it, it will just become more and more addicting
i’ll always feel guilty about it, but today, for the first time, i didn’t feel guilty,
and i know that it is a sign that my deen is dying, and i dont want to regress that way,
but instead of Allah punishing me, Allah guided me to watch this video,
and i know this is my sign to give it up,
and when you said, leave the things that sucked out the peace in you,
i was thinking, “ i don’t think it sucked out the peace”
but i know, and i know that is just trying to halal the haram thing
and i have to write this out to sort out my opinion and finally give up the thing for the sake of Allah
it did suck out the peace in me, but i just wouldnt admit it,
how every salah, i couldnt focus, how i wont be as passionate as before to pray to Allah
how i was being reckless, how i refused to dua, because in my mind i feel like Allah won’t accept me,
because i’m doing haram things over and over again, there is no point for me to ask things to Allah when i couldnt even give up things for the sake of Him
and i felt the connection between me and Allah had worsen
i used to talk to Allah about so many things during sujood, now i find it hard to even sujood long enough
well thats another thing, maybe because i was contemplating how Allah is giving me the same trials, gave me the opportunity to meet people that i adore, and that suddenly it all went downhill, so what is hikmah behind it?
and little by little, i learnt to trust in Allah, and its doing well, for now, because i have the tendency to relapse again and overthink,
but since that problem, i assumed as solved, now came this problem,
i won’t say its a struggle because i know i could just leave it, i know its haram, but i’m doing it, even trying to negotiate that its not a sin,
but i know its a sin, i couldn’t focus, i couldn’t be as passionate as i was before especially during ramadhan, oh i miss the ramadhan version of me, and to regain back that old me is to keep on making dua, but how can i make dua, when i dont even have the gut to tell Allah, i’ve been avoiding talking to him ,acting as if i had so many things to do, but i know a talk with Allah, even just a little bit will bring back the ramadhan version of me,
this video is a sign thati should give up now, because if i dont, every little deen things that im doing is going to waste,
and i dont want that,
it is true when u said, this dunya is for them, the akhira is for us
i completely relate to that, and whenever im having those intrusive thought, i will always remembeber what u said
thank you and may Allah bless all of you
This episode really resonated with me and made me feel heard and validated, especially as a young adult, not just even muslim, who depends on that temporary adrenaline rush from music and other media to distract me from my problems and fears, instead of actually facing them. It does not serve me, it has only crippled me and held me back from my growth. Alhamdulillah, I am grateful that I am able to at least acknowledge that I am unhealthily dependent on these things, and I pray that Allah makes it easy for those of us choosing to let it go for His sake. Replacing that void with positive, healthy and spiritual habits will not only make you a better muslim/muslimah, it will also grant you the inner peace and calm that we are looking for, as well as a higher quality of life. I wish that for everyone, and jazakillah Farah for this beautiful reminder.
your words heal something in me. may Allah bless your beautiful soul.
The way this video had struck me for a long time & was always in the back of my head to finally convince me to delete accounts I thought I wouldn’t be able to. Thank you 🙏
I could listen to you all day long. I really needed this. May Allah reward you❤
This video popped up when I was reminding myself of the reasons why I have chosen certain things. Subhanallah you said everything a person needs to hear, Jihad Al Nafs is something everyone needs to be conscious of and actively work on to be able to allow themselves to be changed and purified. The best blessings come after the biggest sacrifices are made, we think what we have is best but the peace of Allahs pleasure is the best thing a person can attain. It centres you and invites an Abundance of Khair to seep into all aspects of your life.
Jzk Khair for this reminder and please keep doing these videos
you dont know how much of an amazing impact this had on me. 😭 May Allah reward you for all your efforts. Ameen.
As a Christian who’s been binging your podcast (instead of listening to secular music), I want to thank you for bringing these things to light. Something I see a lot in my religion nowadays is the idea that you can do anything or have anything and it doesn’t matter-even though we are instructed to lay everything down, even our own family, for the sake of God. There’s a sense of discipline that I think I’ve been lacking my whole life and it’s refreshing to get almost a course in how to do it. Just know that your thoughts and the teachings you want to share are really reaching people who need it. God bless!
This felt like having a talk with my big sister that I never had. No one talked to me about this before and the way you spoke so fluently and rationally got me questioning myself as a muslim. I'm glad that I came across this video bc deep down I knew my addictions were severe yet I chose to ignore them. I know it must've been hard to collect all your thoughts thank you for taking your time to make this video you are a great muslim for addressing this issue.
Can I just say that I struggled with music too, but your podcasts have helped me quit, I realized I just really liked listening to something whilst doing tasks, having your podcasts on in the background have really helped me
Thank you so much for bringing up the topic of music, I feel like many people see it as something trivial but it's the things that we deem as “small” that is a problem in our lives because we do them more consistently thinking than they’re not that big of a deal and in the end it just piles up. I remember thinking to myself “yessse I made it I didn't listen to any songs these past few months” and then realizing that I was listening to music indirectly every day by just scrolling on social media, it's so normalized that we don't even notice sometimes because it's literally everywhere, even to the point where you'll find Islamic videos that have music in the background unfortunately. To anyone who's struggling with music (or any sin for that matter) I would suggest to keep persisting even if you feel like you keep falling back to your old habits, and make lots of dua and Allah will make things easy for you, search for halal alternatives like podcasts, and always remember progress over perfection.
I really cannot relate more cause I was taking that path of quitting music and lately I felt like retracting to scratch and I feel like god has put this video infront of me, I opened it causally not knowing that the topic will be about music as if it was a sign or reminder for me to get back to the right path
I feel like I’ve discovered a new favorite youtuber, thank you for being strong enough to share these weaknesses and spread peacefulness💖
I resonate with this completely because my addiction was music for the most part of my teen years and well into my early 20s. I used music and readings novels as a form of escapism from my personal life. Like you said, my gym playlist was a huge motivation and gave me an adrenaline rush at the gym. Alhamdulillah now, several years later, im in my late 20s, mother of 2 and Alhamdulillah i can look back at my old life and appreciate where i am now and how far i have come, solely from the grace of Allah 'azzawajal.
So my point is, if you have an addiction which you think it is impossible to get out of, or recover from or let go of, then my advice would be, keep talking to Allah about it in your mind and heart, Allah is the Listener of the Hearts and at some point, Allah will make it easy for you to free yourself from this addiction/habit. Alhamdulillah its been few years since i havent listened to my playlist and i dont miss it.
If i can do it, so can you ❤
Your words are so true, SubhanAllah.
It's been two years since I've stopped listening to Music and I have absolutely NO regrets whatsoever. Alhamdulillah (All praise is to Allah) for guiding me✨
i also recently gave up on music and i am truly struggling to not go back. I was basically raised by music and has been listening to it every single day since i was like 7, one day couldnt go by without me listening to the same songs on repeat for at least 3 hours. SubhanAllah it is like a drug.
"attaining peace in life, you can only do that by giving up a pleaser"
Wow. that's the most truthful truth.
Thank you Farah for sharing your story with us. I gave up music last year, and although it was so hard but the pleaser and the peace I felt afterward were so worth it. And it engorged me to give up so many other things I thought I can't live without.
Giving up something for the sake of Allah is actually a step to win so many things instead.
Allah will reward you with calmness and happiness and he'll replace that thing you gave up with something that makes you a lot more happy. So don't you ever hesitate.
I love this so much. Allahumma baarik laki, honestly just motivated me to rethink something I know doesn't bring me peace .May Allah reward you and help every muslim struggling with tests,May Allah strengthen us
I relate to this so much. Recently I decided i wasn't going to go to school Ball. And everyone acted like i was a barbaric for giving up THE event of the year. I didn't feel like i was missing out cause I wanted to dance and wear a pretty slip dress or anything, but i felt so lonely cause none of my friends could relate to the stuggles of being a muslimah. This video made me feel like I wasn't alone. Thank you Farah💜
I love you! You have reignited my fire to quit music.Seeing someone like me from the West and young but with this kind of heart and mind is beautiful. You made me cry honestly. Everything you said is the kind of stuff i tell myself cause i have no one to talk to about these things. Since everyone has a herd mentality, doing things that go against the Quran and the Sunnah. We need more people like you and i pray that Allah SWT increases you in knowledge and guidance.
Aameen Ya Allah
I'm trying to fix myself, I woke up to pray Fadjre (4am) and it's now 6am and I'm about to workout, i like heaving time for myself in between these two activities, and i think i found the perfect podcast to watch, i felt so much peace listening and watching you speak so passionately about your views and struggles, i look forward to the next episode tomorrow, Inshaallah.
It s not just the words...it s watching you saying these words. Thanks a lot Farah❤
u dont understand how this motivates me. I barely am on YT and don't know about this channel but i found this and listened to every single word you have said. Thank you so much for this.
Mashallah, your dedication to giving up something for the sake of Allah is truly inspiring.
I went through the exact same journey a couple years back and I took the exact same decision ❤ I'm Christian and I did it for the sake of God too. It's truly liberating to give up on something that has grown to become harmful, addictive and displeasing to God and give all that up to Him and for Him. Using that time to do what's good for yourself both physically and spiritually is definitely a life changer. Thank you for this great message. For others it can be music or something else, I hope they seek the strength from God and their faith to overcome it 🙏 what we choose to give up in this life will be absolutely worth it in the time to come. God is worth everything.
your video made me not only take the decision to quit music but also other haram things. keep it up sis , you have a great influence and thank you for the inspiration
ربنا يجعلوا فى ميزان حسناتك
“Are you chasing pleasure or are you chasing Peace” THAT PART
I just realized that i was thinking how to quit coming back to music after i stopped listening to it for months and i just clicked on ur video randomly
سبحان الله
I feel like it's a sign ❤
I’ve never listened been addicted to music because I come from a religious family and music just wasn’t allowed. I remember listening to nasheeds instead. I can imagine how hard it would be to leave music as I know music affects the soul. Your body and mind reacts to it, which is the exact reason why it’s forbidden. Also, it takes us away from ibaadah. I’m so glad my parents didn’t allow us to listen to music as who knows what state I would be in now. Alhamdulillah, and great job sister I’m super proud of you x
MashaAllah your mom is amazing ♥️...
You keep me motivated girl! I completely relate to you that this dunya is not for us , we are the people of hereafter!! Love you girl
our eyes literally teared up at the same time while you were telling Prophet pbuh's story. really didnt expect to get affected this much. Keep up the good work, preach the good word!!
As an avid islamic podcast and lecture listener, this was probably the most motivating video I’ve listened to. I am also letting go of something a d giving up something for the sake of Allah. Subhanallah just processing that feeling of difficulty feels very lonely but this felt like you sat right next to me and my emotions and just took care of them. Thank you 😊
@7:13 "you're dependent on something thats not willing to give back, give you peace, and the boost that you want" This is a deep concept right here. IMO we have to evaluate our lives and see what is holding us back, this dunya really doesn't care about us. making sure our relationship with Allah swt is strong should be the highest priority - easier said than done but its true nonetheless. no matter what Allah will always be there for us, for a long time I took this simple fact for granted and now I'm working on strengthening my connection to Allah. May Allah have mercy on all of us. thank you for doing these types of videos.
I relate to this so much. I gave up a lot of things and I miss somethings so I needed to hear this.
Thank you so much for sharing. I am a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and it is remarkable to me how many beliefs and values we share with Islam. I watched your whole video and resonated with everything. I love the distinction you made between peace and pleasures. Keep up the good work, God bless you 🤟
@L Nur wait really? If that's true I'm really sorry for my mistake. To my knowledge, that emoji is "love you" in sign language.
You look so beautiful when you smile,Farah!MashaAllah,don't ever try to hide the kindness that your smile shines with
no joke im in the exact same position gave up music a few months ago. i 100% understand the struggles ur going thru becasue giving up smth ur addicted to for the sake of Allah swt will inshAllah have such great rewards and i hope Allah accepts it from us
I just gave up something for Allah this week. It has been really hard and the "Muslim struggle" is real. Because, especially if our hearts are in the right place, we want to find peace outside of this earth.
No Muslim person is the same, however you are very wise.
I didnt give up music completely but i have been giving up the music that promotes haram activities (drinking, sexual stuff, bad language, etc.) more and more since I have been embracing Islam.
I was debating deleting my playlist and then I was like nah I'll do it next time but subhanallah literally right after I thought that, this video popped up and wallah I'm still shocked. Indeed there are signs for people who believe
Masha’aAllah, I needed to listen to this because I grew up attached to music in ways I can’t describe. I also relate having a father that is big on music growing up. I did try before to stop and I kinda did some by listening to audio books and Islamic wisdom that seriously elevated me and during Ramadan. Insha’aAllah I will as I’m loving the tranquility and discipline that’s feels natural that makes me experience reality better.
'This worldly life is no more than play and amusement. But the Hereafter is indeed the real life, if only they knew.'
Quran 29:64
I'll recommend your videos to my daughters. My eldest daughter left her music classes when she was around 12 because she heard that music is not allowed in Islam & because of her I stopped listening to music Alhamdulillah. Daughters are for sure blessings.
Jazaki Allah khair for this sister, it’s deep to think and reflect on the many pleasures that we seek on a daily, they don’t even have to be haram they could be just makrooh they’re indeed harmful for us if we truly reflect, everything you said reminds me of the verse in surah عمران (وَمَا الْحَيَاةُ الدُّنْيَا إِلَّا مَتَاعُ الْغُرُورِ)
MY FAV HUMAN BEING
You should love the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ more
@Binge In Great. ♥️
The most amazing thing about Rasulullah is that he doesn't need to sacrifice his nafs for akhirah. He is already guaranteed to enter jannah. And yet he still chooses the pleasures in jannah.
You became powerful to me the minute you told me you struggled too. With music, hijab.. it made me look up to you. Thank you.
This is your first video that wanted to watch and as soon as I heard hardstyle and hardcore stuff along with the struggle of quitting those that you're living, I clicked the like button and wanted to comment about it. I know how powerful is hardstyle and 5 or 6 years ago, when I was a newbie, yet a sportsman and knew a foreign language and a believer Muslim -have big confidence-, quoted myself "My music is my life energy, and my religion is my life purpose" said 17 years old me. Today 23, and realized how addicted I was. Yet, no matter how I tried, I couldn't stop listening especially while doing sports. PS: I do my daily prayers and try to be careful in my acts as a Muslim.
So, Maasallah to you Farah, I know how hard to quit. Hopefully, you'll be consistent about it. Proud of you.
I just want to say, JazakiAllahu Kheir for making this video. Its the first video that has touched me that profoundly in a while, like making me think, what do I need to change for the sake of Allah? I have two young children, and living abroad, my husband is busy a lot... And honestly, an escape I use is giving my eldest child too much screentime to keep her busy and also myself scrolling UA-cam way too much in my free time when in my heart I know I should use that time to read Quran or draw closer to Allah in that time cos every other hour of the day I am busy with my kids. And although these things don't fall into the category of Haram, I feel it that it's not good for me or for my kid in the long term... When I keep myself away from mindless scrolling, after the initial discomfort, I can hear my thoughts opening up and speaking to me, and all of a sudden, im figuring out how to deal with issues or inconveniences going on in my life... I feel more connected to my prayers when I'm not craving the dopamine hits... And although giving my kid screentime gives me some space, I don't want to be ruining her life by getting her addicted to the cheap dopamine hits... She is an amanah from Allah, and instead of giving her the screen, for the sake of Allah and protecting her fitrah and brain and all the rest, I need to develop some hard and fast rules around it. And likewise for myself. Thank you for this video once again ❤️
@@mennaalragaby8498 @mennaalragaby8498 Ameen ya Rab. Since making this comment I've actually been quite more aware of it Alhamdulillah and been making an effort. I've always monitered the content my kid watches heavily. I download certain videos for her, every now and then I'll give her a few new ones, and if she wants to watch, that's all she gets. So it helps cos she gets bored and will go play. Its also helped me reduce her screentime cos if I take it away from her, she's not dying to keep watching. So if she tantrums it's 30 seconds lol.. as for useful content, honestly I'm a self improvement junkie so I could watch "useful" videos all day.. but for me, with an infant who I have to feed every few hours and get to sleep etc.. it's those times where I fall into the trap of scrolling cos I can't do much else... But yes, I definitely am gonna keep trying to do better InshaAllah ☺️
Person whos been struggling badly with Maladaptive daydreaming.. this is keeping me going. Thankyou farah.
I am 51 years old. All my life I tried to live and practice Islam, but at some point in my life I became overwhelmed with sins and desires that caused me not to fulfill my obligations to God as I should. That was the beginning of my deep, deep, deep depression. I used medicine and self-therapy, so now I am quite well, but the consequences of sin are still there😢. What you said makes sense and is true. We humans so quickly and easily forget, or do not know at all, why we are here and where we are going at the end of our lives. If we do not surround ourselves with good and moral people in life, it is an even bigger problem. When we are with someone, we become either the same or similar to him or her without even noticing it. That's my experience. Thank you very much🌹💓.
Don’t be discouraged by the consequences of sin, it’s purifying you ^^ May Allah replace your sins with good deeds.
May Allah provide us with environments and people that help us grow as faithful and practising muslims.
Salam. I gave up music about 4 years ago. After a long while you will perceive it differently as Allah would reveal its hidden ugliness. Before I would get lost in the harmony of the rhythm, beat, lyrics, instruments, and vocals. Now (when I have to hear it at a store or gym) my mind hyper focuses on the lyrics. I can only pay attention to their words. And I can’t help but hyperfocus on the artist, who they are and what they’ve done. When you’re forced to actually pay attention to the words and singer you feel disgusted and irritated. Sin is enveloped by an attractive exterior. Leave the sin for a while and Allah will remove this illusionary exterior and show you the true ugliness.
I appreciate this video because one of my issues is addiction to UA-cam and the internet. I try to leave UA-cam but keep falling back. I’ve been on a binge for a week now. I can’t help but feel that this is a sign. Several times while listening I would reflect, and you would say words that are in my head. I think Allah guided me to this video as a reminder. May Allah grant you an astounding success in Jihad Al Nafs, and may you and your family enter Jannatul Firdaus jAk.
I needed to hear this May Allah bless you for sharing 🤗
I like when u said "They know what's good and they stay away from what feels good" May ALLAH bless you and help anyone that gave up something for the sake of allah ❤
From a music addict, I've now started my journey to quitting it. Pray for me❤
May Allah help u
May Allah grant you the Tawfeeq to quit for good
man i wanna cry. its nice to know im not the only one struggling with music. i havent (WILLINGLY, do i make sense? )listened to music for a month because im busy with exams. my exam ends in 9 days , and at first i said to myself, as soon as exam ends, i can listen to music again. but now im having second thoughts. i’ve “survived” this song, i think i should just continue. but theres a part of me that’s not ready to let go of music yet. idk what decision i’ll make in 9 days - will i listen to music? or continue this journey? im scared i’ll give in into my desires… and im rlly into kpop which makes it even harder. pls pray for me :( (sorry if my eng bad)
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it Is a good decision.
a really good one (one of the best ones, actually)
(music and songs were so OverRated without us even understanding and realizing how and Whyy, I mean:
we hear them on Instagram(I also hate this app)
,films, tv, some UA-cam videos, facebook, people's cars, people humming them in the street and Videogames.
no wonder why we choese to listen to it, because we were forced to them,
and the bad thing Is That people made it look so fun to listen to them(some movies are all about how Greatt singing Is, ooooo!), and it's not.
Music and even songs, but especially music(notes) Is actually creepy (to me), yes they reached a point were they started to horrify me (literally), beacuse I started to hummn them(أُلَحِّنهن) when I just woke up, and then after that when I eat, and then when I am trying to sleep and at the end in my studying times.. and that is when I deep down in the heart of my heart I understood that this is not ALL because of music, but these "music" is making me escape somethings and it is not Helping but rather makes it hidden,
(this is when I said to myself that ghosts were not scary at all, they are not hunting me, but music Is, And no one ever said that music Hunts, or at least that what I thought so, I just didn't listen or search the people how speak about it. and then Farah were in my screen just staring at the photo with her amazing title, alhamdullah).
listen,
you will not lose anything(and Allah will replace it with a better thing because you(we) left something for him).
(this is it)
but it might feel that u are losing EverythInggg and oooo, but it is just your brain and my brain and human brain as Usual trying to keep things familiar and Is scary of new things(as usual) .
but like Farah said.. "I knew it is going to be a lonely journey(not lonely, but I mean: that this is my total decision and ofc people are not going to help me in it And don't know that I am even going throught it If I don't tell them that.. hey, I really want to listen to life and not to listen to any musical notey thing again. because why not?)
(وَمَا لِيَ لَا أَعْبُدُ الَّذِي فَطَرَنِي وَإِلَيْهِ تُرْجَعُونَ)
"And why should I not worship Him (Allah Alone) Who has created me and to Whom you shall be returned.
[ يس: 22]
thank you for reading.
(it is a good choice, and I've quit listening to them alhandullah)
Masha Allah.
I watched this when i needed it the most.
Allah just used you to help me❤
I absolutely love you for being soooo real and May Allah keep multiplying your heaps of reward.
Ameen.
P.s
I can't wait for the next one❤
i dont usually comment, but as a young muslim this is one of the best things i have ever heard! thank you so much farah!! 💗💗
"they have this dunya but we have the akirah" is so unexplainably beautiful, literally had me in tears!! 💗💗💗
I loved this, thank you. Ive been having the same problem and everything you said was so relatable, may Allah bless you
As a muslim Struggling with these EXACT THINGS!!! I can thank you enough!!!
may allah reward you so much! music is ADDICTIVE! and it should be spoken about more often.
this was sooo beautiful and soothing subhanAllah your words❤
I was able to relate to a lot of what Farah was saying, and personally I gave up at least 3 major hobbies of mine because I accepted the fact that they were haram (/unbeneficial). This happened a few months ago for me as well (about a month or two before Ramadan), and I know it's not helpful for me to say that I practically cut them out cold turkey and never really failed in restraining myself but what I will say is this. Months after giving up these hobbies I realized how little they mattered to me in the first place. I mean sure, I would pull up spotify after school and listen to songs for hours, but giving that up made me realize how little I truly loved music. I could definitely write an entire essay about this but what I want the reader to take away is that you need to understand that if you are truly doing this to please Allah and avoid that which he warned us of, then He, the Almighty will NEVER fail to aid you and provide you with what is necessary (I also advise that you replace these habits with halal alternatives to make up for the time you spent or even wasted with these things ). It's also important to look at these habits and deeds from an entirely islamic lense, don't think about your classmates, teachers, or neighbors. Society pressures affect us more than we realize, and you should know that you are stronger than just submitting to these ever-changing norms. As always I say الحمد لله for the guidance and strengh I was given to strive to be the best Muslim I can be. Salam.
Alhumdulillah Allah works in mysterious ways, yesterday my brother told me he quit music and i feel currently in a similar position as you 4 months ago, but have been contemplating it and then this video is reccomended. ALHUMDULILLAH
Hearing you indeed made my day lovelier. We love you farah 🌷💌
Thank you for being such an inspiration. This is really what I need❤️
Wow this is amazing. I’m so glad I found your channel. jazak Allah
(00:01) 🎙 Introduction to the Podcast and Episode Topic.
(00:31) 🪴 The Purpose of "Fruits of Friday" and Sharing Wisdom.
(01:06) 💬 Importance of Sharing Wisdom with Non-Muslims.
(01:40) 🕊 Strengthening Non-Muslims Through Content.
(02:21) 🚫 Giving Up Something for the Sake of Allah.
(02:58) 🎶 Struggling with Giving Up Music.
(03:34) 🎵 Music as an Addiction and Escape.
(04:17) 🏋♂ Music's Role in Bodybuilding and Training.
(04:58) 💔 Feeling Dependent on Music and Difficulties in Giving It Up.
(05:39) 🌍 The Harm of Not Sharing Islamic Wisdom with Non-Muslims.
(06:11) 🔁 Looking Back After Giving Up Music.
(06:46) 👥 Going Through the Journey Alone and Compromising.
(07:21) 🌈 Seeking Happiness and Peace.
(07:54) 💫 Attaining Peace by Giving Up Certain Pleasures.
(08:36) 🗣 Encouraging Muslim Youth to Focus on Peace.
(09:07) 🎭 Changing Expressions and Reactions Due to Pleasures.
(09:46) 🌪 Escapism and Its Consequences on Peace.
(10:16) 👚 Fashion and Impressionability Among Muslim Girls.
(11:34) 🕌 The Story of the Prophet and His Focus on the Hereafter.
(12:09) 🌍 Islam's Perspective on the Worldly Pleasures.
(13:13) 💖 Differentiating Between Pleasure and Peace.
(14:29) 🚫 Giving Up Pleasures to Find True Peace.
(15:02) 🏃♀ Pursuing Pleasures Leads to Depression.
(15:38) 🎭 Transferring from a Decent Muslim to Chasing Pleasure.
(16:18) 💡 Seeking Peace and Identifying Escapism.
(17:34) 🏜 Struggling with Identity After Removing Hijab.
(18:09) 🤍 The Quest for Happiness and Authenticity.
(18:48) 🕌 Balancing Pleasure with Peace in Life.
(19:29) 🌟 Giving Up Pleasures for the Sake of Allah.
(20:09) 🌄 The Importance of Focusing on the Hereafter.
(21:37) 😇 Islam's Approach to Balancing Human Desires.
(22:20) 💧 Suffering Depression After Giving Up Hijab.
(23:04) 🌊 Losing Peace and Striving for Beauty.
(23:38) 🏃♀ Seeking Pleasure vs. Seeking Goodness.
(24:21) 🌟 Focusing on the Afterlife for True Peace.
(25:04) 🔥 Overcoming Impressionability and Fashion Pressure.
(25:44) 🌈 Struggling for Peace in the Modern World.
(26:20) 🌍 Understanding the Temporary Nature of the World.
(27:00) 🌿 Seeking Peace and the Beauty of Islam.
(27:36) 🏆 Choosing What's Good Over What Feels Good.
(28:11) 🤔 Infusing the Right Mentality in Muslim Youth.
(29:00) 🕌 Focusing on the Hereafter and Inner Peace.
(29:38) 🌱 Differentiating Between What's Good and Feels Good.
(30:15) 💬 Reflecting on Personal Growth and Journey.
(30:50) 💬 Ending the First Episode and Future Plans.
May Allah reward you for your efforts! 🤲
@@mennaalragaby8498 Amin ya rabbal alamin
No one will understand how hard it is to give up music completely especially when it’s all around you is INSANELY DIFFICULT. I used music to get away from my problems as a distraction and it worked really well but it’s not the cure it was a temporary fix. Once I stopped all together it was such a big struggle and still is. Music is literally a drug it’s addictive on a whole other level. I still sometimes fail on days and listen to a little bit rare but it happens especially when I’m going through something. I still continue to try everyday it’s been a year going strong but you only realise why it wasn’t good for you when you leave it. Thank you Farah for speaking on this I relate so much.
i've watched and i cried bc im currently facing the same situation right now :") thank you for the insights!!
i kid you not, thank you so much for sharing these knowledge videos to other people on the internet. The way you feel about your mom and how you just wanna share what you have learned from her, i feel the same way about your videos and i'm just very grateful alhamdulillah to be able to learn here and maybe even invite people to feel and experience the same way. Allahumma barik
SubhanAllah May Allah SWT preserve you
Thx farah i needed this video ; seeing someone overcome a struggle i've been dealing with is inspiring 🤲🏿
You getting into hardstyle makes me smile haha, as a Muslim myself I still listen to music, but I just don't listen to lyrics or repeat bad lyrics. EG: lyrics about smoking, drinking, women, etc. ( when I was a Christian I still did this already, because it's more a moral thing in my head to not do those things. Anyway, an understandable perspective from you to not listen anymore, I do prefer to listen to the Qu'ran during a lot of things, not only to listen but also to do my best to memorize it.
I am in the same boat as you though with something else, the discipline to not act on your pleasures... Salah does help with this, I do my best to do every Salah (sometimes I miss one, but will pray it later if I slept through it) I build my life around Salah and make sure my body is in an amazing condition like working out, eating well to get your vitamins, etc. In my opinion the 2 most important things in life. Without Salah I feel bad, without eating the right foods I feel bad. I do my best to follow what the Prophet (SAW) does.
My problem is/was more that I was too obsessed with the fact that I HAD to find a wife the past 2 years, this is because I never even talked to any women, because I was always busy working and building myself. (I am 23 btw) But Allah (SWT) knows best, I can't be anti-social anymore sadly
Allahuma Barik sister, may Allah (SWT) guide us all to the right path!