Bad advice 13:37 DO not talk to HR. HR's role is to protect the company, not the employees. HR will flag an employee that reports harassment or abuse as a trouble-maker. H.R. will often pressure employees to sign an NDA about the incident or incidents. Don't sign any NDAs. Physical or sexual assault is illegal behaviour, H.R often pressures employees to sign an NDA so the employee does not disclose assault to the police.
I was being harassed at my work place for 6 months. I told a supervisor multiple times and they never told my boss. My boss had no clue. The days where you see someone being harassed and do nothing about it should be over.
I've had some sexual harassment from several people and working with them and I get really uncomfortable thinking about these people, they remind me of sexual offenders or predators and they still don't change their behaviours, very persistent kinds of harassment
I said the words “I’m coming” to my co worker and he said, “coming? Oh wow I didn’t mean to think that way and he laughed and so did I not thinking anything about it. Now I feel dumb about laughing about it because the next time I saw him he bugged me and said, “”hey hey are you watching porn?” I gave him a weird look and of course I laughed. I’m so sick and tired of this shit and feeling like a victim. I was very assertive to my co worker but I just didn’t feel safe being around my co workers so I let my boss know that and he said I could go home for the day. I don’t want to go back though im feeling depressed and tomorrow I have to talk to my boss. Another man asked me if I play volleyball because I have a nice or strong build. I don’t want some old man commenting on my body im just done at this point.
Wow! That's no okay! Do tell your boss about these inappropriate comments. This should not happen in the workplace. Definitely be assertive. That's really important. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable being at work or being around your coworkers.
Kara, these are what I have been facing for my 23 years working for a social services agency. I was helpless and didn't know what to do. Glad God took me out of there. I wish I have watched your video during that time. Thanks for your valuable video, I will pass it to friends.
YES YES YES - it absolutely needs to be addressed and having a strategy that you feel aligns with you and your style of conflict engagement will give you more confidence to actually do it .... the only thing I would add is that in Alberta, the definition of harassment, which includes bullying, is a single or repeated episode - and what I love about this definition is that the old definition implies that people need to be continually exposed to inappropriate behaviors to create a case - which is totally unnecessary
Well, I'm not experiencing "sexual harassment" by the definition, but my boss talks about my looks CONSTANTLY. He's always telling me how pretty i am (he's married btw), how nice my figure is, how he likes how i walk, my posture, my hair, my makeup, and what colors i look good in. It just seems like compliments, but it makes me uncomfortable. It's not enough to go to hr over, and i don't know if I say something if he'll become salty with me and have a bad attitude afterwards.
I know! It's a surprising statistic. It's a shame when professionals have to deal with this but I hope this video gives some clarity on the issue. Thanks for watching and your continued support Ryan 😊👍
Hey Ryan, your point on only 37% of workers being bullied may be insight into the type of work you do - in healthcare it is 85% have witnessed or been directly subjected to it, so it can swing a lot, what have you seen?
@@tammydunnettleadership wow! 85% in healthcare! That's a lot. The statistic Ryan is referring to is what I mentioned in the video. I don't think it was based on a specific industry so it's a general figure in American workplaces.
Document everything. Keep a daily journal of your encounters with the problematic person and if you decide to go to someone else document their reaction as well as their continued treatment of you after you talked to them. Option #6 isn’t YOUR choice if someone is running you out of a job, depending on your circumstances it might be the best choice but by no means is it YOUR choice unless you want to leave your job anyway. I work in a machine shop and I was told when I started working there that my area is primarily men, which could lead to “uncomfortable” situations especially in the summer when it’s hot. I decided it wasn’t an issue because I would be respected, which is truly how it is.
I have customers asking intrusive question about my relationship status that involves a coworker which is inappropriate that I should never discuss at Work because customers are actually strangers and I should never form connections with them at all because it applies to all Walmart associates.
I left my job after being harassed by three men at work my boss let me leave and I didn’t even tell anyone and now I’m not speaking anymore I don’t even want to say hi to any of the men there I’m done.
Thank you so much. I can actually relate with all points shared in this video. My question is, in the situation where the HR who is supposed to be helping, is part of those with inappropriate behavoiur gossiping, bullying with words, intimidating with position and causing aggression what then a concerned individual do?
The last straw was when my co worker told me that they was going to be a birthday party for my co worker and and to bring $5 and how their was going to be a bbq. The next day I had my money and it turns out that when I talked to my co workers about the bbq they laughed and said the guy who told me is full of shit. I didn’t even bring my lunch that day I didn’t realize joking like that was harassment. I reported the these other two men along with this guy who constantly lies and causes drama. Im just done
Most the time whenever I address how I feel it is never taken seriously and they don't stop through behaviours. Some are family members, extreme mental breakdowns from these people, and they never change or care how I feel. What do I do?
I recently reported a male co-worker who would comment at whatever I wore even though I dress modestly. He would even compare me to other women's appearances. Management and HR even found his behavior strange. My mistake was I allowed it to go on too long. I though t he would stop after I confronted him. In fact, I even changed positions so I would see less of him, but nope. He eventually stopped after HR confronted him. I found that this is an example of gender harassment. Does that exist? Do you think it was more aggression or sexual harassment?
It's good you reported this to HR because it is strange behaviour. As to whether it's aggression or sexual harassment depends on "what" that person said about your outfit. The main thing is though, he has stopped since you reported this. I hope your work life gets better now.
I do not think HR is a good place to go , best to bypass them and go up as high as possible i:e, to the union ,then to the area manager , otherwise they will try to screw you , may do anyway , companies are very cunning .
Before you change job, are there any legal action you can take to ensure this type of behavior doesn't happen to another employee in the future workplace? The aggressor usually in the `Good Old Boys Network` to engage this type of behavior to other employee who is not in their circle.
All the information here is solid except the HR advice. HR are not there to help employees. They are there to protect the company. You'll have a mark on your name as a difficult employee and you'll lose any bargaining power you had previously. Speaking from experience. Try and document the date, time, place and any witnesses until you have enough evidence to bring to management.
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Bad advice 13:37 DO not talk to HR. HR's role is to protect the company, not the employees. HR will flag an employee that reports harassment or abuse as a trouble-maker. H.R. will often pressure employees to sign an NDA about the incident or incidents. Don't sign any NDAs. Physical or sexual assault is illegal behaviour, H.R often pressures employees to sign an NDA so the employee does not disclose assault to the police.
I was being harassed at my work place for 6 months. I told a supervisor multiple times and they never told my boss. My boss had no clue. The days where you see someone being harassed and do nothing about it should be over.
I've had some sexual harassment from several people and working with them and I get really uncomfortable thinking about these people, they remind me of sexual offenders or predators and they still don't change their behaviours, very persistent kinds of harassment
I said the words “I’m coming” to my co worker and he said, “coming? Oh wow I didn’t mean to think that way and he laughed and so did I not thinking anything about it. Now I feel dumb about laughing about it because the next time I saw him he bugged me and said, “”hey hey are you watching porn?” I gave him a weird look and of course I laughed. I’m so sick and tired of this shit and feeling like a victim. I was very assertive to my co worker but I just didn’t feel safe being around my co workers so I let my boss know that and he said I could go home for the day. I don’t want to go back though im feeling depressed and tomorrow I have to talk to my boss. Another man asked me if I play volleyball because I have a nice or strong build. I don’t want some old man commenting on my body im just done at this point.
Wow! That's no okay! Do tell your boss about these inappropriate comments. This should not happen in the workplace. Definitely be assertive. That's really important. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable being at work or being around your coworkers.
His response tells you where his sick head is at.
When management is the narcissistic bully, there is no possibility of ever coming to a resolution.
Kara, these are what I have been facing for my 23 years working for a social services agency. I was helpless and didn't know what to do. Glad God took me out of there. I wish I have watched your video during that time. Thanks for your valuable video, I will pass it to friends.
It depends on the integrity of the management. It is much more challenging if the manager themselves is the harasser.
Exactly what I'm experiencing amd Ive founf out numerous other former employees experienced at my workplace.
YES YES YES - it absolutely needs to be addressed and having a strategy that you feel aligns with you and your style of conflict engagement will give you more confidence to actually do it .... the only thing I would add is that in Alberta, the definition of harassment, which includes bullying, is a single or repeated episode - and what I love about this definition is that the old definition implies that people need to be continually exposed to inappropriate behaviors to create a case - which is totally unnecessary
Definitely! A one-off incident can be quite harmful in and of itself. Interesting comparison on definitions Tammy. Thanks for sharing!
Well, I'm not experiencing "sexual harassment" by the definition, but my boss talks about my looks CONSTANTLY. He's always telling me how pretty i am (he's married btw), how nice my figure is, how he likes how i walk, my posture, my hair, my makeup, and what colors i look good in. It just seems like compliments, but it makes me uncomfortable. It's not enough to go to hr over, and i don't know if I say something if he'll become salty with me and have a bad attitude afterwards.
That is harassment.
I have had women- much younger, same age, and way older- do the same things. It’s sexual harassment
Great point that you can't always ignore behavior. It's amazing that 37% of workers have been bullied.
I know! It's a surprising statistic. It's a shame when professionals have to deal with this but I hope this video gives some clarity on the issue. Thanks for watching and your continued support Ryan 😊👍
Hey Ryan, your point on only 37% of workers being bullied may be insight into the type of work you do - in healthcare it is 85% have witnessed or been directly subjected to it, so it can swing a lot, what have you seen?
@@tammydunnettleadership wow! 85% in healthcare! That's a lot. The statistic Ryan is referring to is what I mentioned in the video. I don't think it was based on a specific industry so it's a general figure in American workplaces.
Document everything. Keep a daily journal of your encounters with the problematic person and if you decide to go to someone else document their reaction as well as their continued treatment of you after you talked to them. Option #6 isn’t YOUR choice if someone is running you out of a job, depending on your circumstances it might be the best choice but by no means is it YOUR choice unless you want to leave your job anyway. I work in a machine shop and I was told when I started working there that my area is primarily men, which could lead to “uncomfortable” situations especially in the summer when it’s hot. I decided it wasn’t an issue because I would be respected, which is truly how it is.
I have customers asking intrusive question about my relationship status that involves a coworker which is inappropriate that I should never discuss at Work because customers are actually strangers and I should never form connections with them at all because it applies to all Walmart associates.
I left my job after being harassed by three men at work my boss let me leave and I didn’t even tell anyone and now I’m not speaking anymore I don’t even want to say hi to any of the men there I’m done.
I'm sorry you had to experience a work environment like this, Ann.
Me 2 it was not only coworkers it was also customers several of them harassing me I had enough
Thank you so much. I can actually relate with all points shared in this video. My question is, in the situation where the HR who is supposed to be helping, is part of those with inappropriate behavoiur gossiping, bullying with words, intimidating with position and causing aggression what then a concerned individual do?
The last straw was when my co worker told me that they was going to be a birthday party for my co worker and and to bring $5 and how their was going to be a bbq. The next day I had my money and it turns out that when I talked to my co workers about the bbq they laughed and said the guy who told me is full of shit. I didn’t even bring my lunch that day I didn’t realize joking like that was harassment. I reported the these other two men along with this guy who constantly lies and causes drama. Im just done
That's not a nice situation to be in. Lying like this, can be considered harassment. I'm glad you reported them to your boss.
Most the time whenever I address how I feel it is never taken seriously and they don't stop through behaviours. Some are family members, extreme mental breakdowns from these people, and they never change or care how I feel. What do I do?
Great explanation 👍 you Divide each categories and explain very well step by step clearly with simple English . I appreciate you so much ! ❤️
I recently reported a male co-worker who would comment at whatever I wore even though I dress modestly. He would even compare me to other women's appearances. Management and HR even found his behavior strange. My mistake was I allowed it to go on too long. I though t he would stop after I confronted him. In fact, I even changed positions so I would see less of him, but nope. He eventually stopped after HR confronted him.
I found that this is an example of gender harassment. Does that exist? Do you think it was more aggression or sexual harassment?
It's good you reported this to HR because it is strange behaviour. As to whether it's aggression or sexual harassment depends on "what" that person said about your outfit. The main thing is though, he has stopped since you reported this. I hope your work life gets better now.
Thanks, it’s very helpful
What if you dont have a manager and you’re a contractor and its your boss?
I do not think HR is a good place to go , best to bypass them and go up as high as possible i:e, to the union ,then to the area manager , otherwise they will try to screw you , may do anyway , companies are very cunning .
Before you change job, are there any legal action you can take to ensure this type of behavior doesn't happen to another employee in the future workplace? The aggressor usually in the `Good Old Boys Network` to engage this type of behavior to other employee who is not in their circle.
What if your workplace is only four people and it affected all of them?
All the information here is solid except the HR advice. HR are not there to help employees. They are there to protect the company. You'll have a mark on your name as a difficult employee and you'll lose any bargaining power you had previously. Speaking from experience. Try and document the date, time, place and any witnesses until you have enough evidence to bring to management.
Thank you!
Great topic. WHAT IF it is the manager is bullied by his subosrdinates ?