reacting to Erica Mena and Safaree's extremely toxic marriage (deep dive)
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ALL THE RED FLAGS IN ERICA MENAS MARRIAGE TO SAFAREE
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We love you hunny, thank you for posting this! Nice one,
You should post clips on TikTok!
You’re only getting better and better! Every point was made accurately.
Fantastic video. More of this ♥️♥️♥️
This video is 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 AND SO ON POINT!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
The biggest red flag in a man is if he cannot empathise with you on the simplest valid points. Run sis.
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That part 😢
Ahhhhhhh! I wholeheartedly agree!!! Run and never look back!✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽
I blocked a man because i got laid off at work tried to hide it and when he found out his first reaction was to laugh excuse me,what is so funny about someone losing a job???That was it.
Tell me about it, run as fast as you can
Healthy relationships are not overly emotional or dramatic, real love feels like peace and comfort it feels familiar it’s not supposed to give you “butterflies”
THIS!!
I agree I feel like anxiety is butterflies
Yes. The “butterflies” is our body’s flight or fight system activating. Your brain or heart may not be able to see what’s wrong, but your gut is like girllllllll please can we go home?😭😭😭
You better preach
Yes girl! Anything overly done is not real
My heart breaks every time we women go through this foolishness with narcissists. Like dang can y’all demons leave ppl alone.
Like seriously!
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Or die off staring in the mirror, on the other side of the world? Preferably in Russia 🥴🤦🏽♀
We do this shit to ourselves!
Shes juste as bad people, give up on paying victime you're not kids
Narcissist only start pretending to care when they start losing you
Safaree ain't even do that... This ninja is heartless
It's the same thing we saw Erica do to Cyn.
As someone who just left an emotionally abusive relationship with an alcoholic narcissist, my heart goes out to her. It really makes you lose yourself. I thank God marriage and children were not involved.
I’m glad you broke this down !!! Ladies need to be more aware of men like this
Even "normal people" who don't "have much to lose" should consider a prenup because it is an agreement that in case things go south, you are still able to keep your share of what you need in order to feel financially protected. A lot of women get prenups (involving alimony/spousal support) bc they were housewives in the marriage and nowhere to go in the absence of a prenuptial agreement.
When you said COLORIST! I WAS LIKE OUCH; because it is true; a lot of Latin women (who have Erica’s color) do not understand the colorist ideology within the Afro community and confuse idealization with love.
I needed to hear this video.. I’m 20 and this video had ALOT of good gems I needed to hear! Thank you Breeny! I love your videos they’re always so informative and you speak in a way that makes so much sense! ❤❤❤❤
Great job Breeny! So happy to see somebody raising awareness on Narcissistic abuse, as someone who was born into a family of narcissists Thankyou!!❤❤❤
The preference is being treated the same as black women being called aggressive. I wonder why lol BM need to stop the 🧢!
You are literally perfect Breeny ❤
Thats narcissistic “love” right there‼️‼️
Agreed!!!I dated a guy who wanted to cook at our wedding coz he was a chef and he wanted to wear white as well ...I'm like" how we going to enjoy the wedding if your busy cooking for our guests"🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️he also wanted to wear white
Girl I’m watching and I’m listening BUT this Hair got me distracted 😩Beautiful 🥰
Lack of accountability is crazy BIG NARC ENERGY 😂 but BW this isn’t our problem..#NEEEEXXXTTTT😂
I feel her when she said she feels SCAMMED.
I’m thankful for the pain I’ve been through because it gave me clear vision to identify these bastards. I know with certainty that no narc will evade my radar.
You earned a new sub. This is my first recommendation to view you and this is literally amazing to watch. I’ve always liked Erica Mena and this situation seemed to really dim her light. (For now 😢) ❤ thanks for the great content.
Yall ignore a women's flaws because she's a women and blame men because it's easier than being accountable. Erica is NO VICTIM but okay
I’m sure she’s done her fair share but that’s not what this video is about. At the beginning of the vid I definitely acknowledged she had a part to play and seemingly moved way too fast. Nevertheless this is a female channel and I’m sure you can find a males point of view somewhere else.
I am a woman, I am also a fan of you, you've taught me ALOT. But I disagree with her being a victim. It's not about me looking for a males prospective or taking up for men, its about being fair. If you've watched the show from the beginning of their relationship or her on previous seasons im sure you would agree that she's no victim. I understand if you don't want to see any opinions that are different from yours on your channel, my apologies
Based on her history, they are both Narcissists unfortunately he's the most dominant.
To be completely honest with you, I wouldn’t expect her to have attracted a great guy. Totally don’t expect that someone like her will end up with Prince Charming. She married her match, her level.
The man is wicked, the poor woman is about to give birth and he is putting her through this stress. Disgusting.
He doesn’t like confrontation, doesn’t know How to have a genuine conversation, and very dismissive. I feel sad for Erica, he literally lured her like a predator, swept her off her feet, made a song about her and once he had her locked in with marriage and a kid, his skin started to shed.
Yes, I would’ve just thought maybe he was a dismissive avoidant attachment but the way he loves himself he has to be a narc
Perfectly explained 👏
Typical black man both rich and poor. They are preditors
@@nifapz9596 Cyn said that
@@nifapz9596 that was Cyn Santana🙄
I got out of a relationship with a guy like this a year and a half ago. This guy was my first real boyfriend, so I felt like I was on cloud 9 during the early stages of the relationship. Once my defenses came down, he switched like a light! The resemblance of Safaree’s narcissism and emotionally abusive behavior is so uncanny 😖 even the red flags such as the self-centered compliments, lack of empathy, and the idolization. Even with the red flags, I felt like he would be my one and only and it took me a while to leave him 😢
I have come to terms with the fact that none of it was my fault and have worked hard to unlearn codependency. I’m in a much better place than I was, but your video can help so many people 🙏🏾🤎
Glad you got out. Went through something similar
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Good for you! Self-awareness is a beautiful thing and it is also major 🔑!! No matter how hard it gets don't let your guard down.
That crazy part is a lot of us have gone through or going through the same story
Thank you so much for your content to bring these issues to light❤
I went through the same & it was also my first meaningful relationship. I kept holding on to false hope. 4 years wasted. I was so clueless on how to maneuver within a relationship since he was my first boyfriend and he ended up being a gaslighter. We didn’t know any better. I understand it was a lesson but I could’ve done without the trauma. He persistently pursued me for years although I wasn’t interested. That was my intuition. Finally gave that man a chance just for him to completely switch up. I’d never wish narcissistic abuse on anyone. It’s been 2 years and I’m still recovering. Those narcs have to destroy you before they let you leave but I thank God for His grace. I got to escape without kids. I would have been miserable to be stuck with someone like that.
I now realize that it is very important not to be chosen but to choose your partner and your worth as a woman is not intertwined with being a wife. Ladies donot let age and loneliness let you give a narcissist and manipulator a place in your life. You are dropping gems Bree. 💯
Words of wisdom! ❤❤❤❤
This is soooooo TRUE. THANK YOU!
YES!!!
Women stay delusional about marriage and men.
Look at married women around you. You'll be lucky to find 1 who is happy stressfree and secure in her marriage and isn't lying abt it to make her man look good. Marriage literally shortens a womans life
I'll never understand why today's more independent women still dedicate their short ass existence on this earth to finding and keeping some dude interested when 9 times out of 10 he makes her life worse not better lol just to say you have a man and are not single
Such self-hatred is a problem and we need to address it more
@@zahraakadhem9913 agree with everything you said
First off, your face card never declines. I believe Safaree intentionally sabotage his own marriage. He really believe life is like a music video.
Thank you!! And yes definitely self sabotaged!
First of all, Can we just take a second to appreciate how stunning breeny looks in this video my God you're so beautiful!
Secondly I hope every woman in the world gets to see this video and when you're done come back and watch it again and again it'll save you from alot. I've personally have learnt alot from it. Thank you breeny you're like a big sister to so many of us❤️
I feel so blessed to have seen this! I'm leaving my daughter's father and moving across country. Thus video has released me from any guilt whatsoever! Hallelujah 🙌
The idealization is real. It’s like a kid who gets his dream toy and it breaks in 3 days. When they see you have a weakness, or mistreat you and one day you finally have had enough, it’s like “why is it doing this??? I want my money back” This happened to me and it was bizarre how after I started standing up for myself, the person treated me like there was something wrong with me. Like I was malfunctioning and needed to be fixed.
This is a spot on way of describing the confusing process and devaluation narcissists use.
Yes! Great analogy. I saw this with my ex when he would get so angry at people and write off all the good that they’ve done when they made one mistake. I should have known that he would treat me the same one day.
Can you explain this further please?
This
You deserve better hun and he knows that. I am proud woman hearing from another proud woman and it is great that you are able to walk your walk and live your life how you should ❤
The timeline is so comical! Narcissists are SO predictable. HE lovebombed her and locked her down with a baby/marriage, the only time he showed “emotion” (the theatrical crying) was when he was trying to look good in front of a crowd at his marriage, and the minute he knew he had her, he starts neglecting/gaslighting her and deflecting all his negativity.
@Ms. Piggy Everything you mentioned in your comment I mean everything is what happened to me!
@@stark.edwards2068 I’m so sorry you experienced that, nobody deserves such treatment. I hope you’re healing more and more everyday.
@@aphrojitex8972 Yes I am healing. Thank you. I've been having my UA-cam family of narc survivors for the last 6 years. I'm on videos weekly for the last 6 years etc. I'm now helping others become aware of the insidious diabolical narcissist abuse. I have a book describing some of my experiences of this as well coming out on amazon later next month to help others, it's called "The Refined Being". This is all getting exposed, people are opening their eyes to this now.
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Yes I am healing. Thank you. I've been a part of narc survivor youtube support groups for the last 6 years and on the videos every week for the last 6 years. I've done so much healing work since then. I am now helping others become aware and heal from the insidious diabolical narc abuse. I also have a book coming out later next month on amazon called "The Refined Being" which speaks of my story and how God has helped me overcome. Thank you for what you do in bringing awareness here on your platform. :)
And people ask me why I don’t have a man..🔥
He was so blatantly disrespectful and nasty to her, I’m shocked she stayed as long as she did. I can’t believe he laughed at his baby girl on the floor crying, didn’t even pick her up and Erica is sitting there big & pregnant. He definitely won’t be seeing the gates of heaven
“They don’t deserve you, but they’ll act like you don’t deserve them.”
"Y'all know how much I love myself, so how can I not want to be with me, in a female version" ..... #1 RED FLAG🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Yes indeed
Exactly. She met her match with him and for some reason everyone is missing that.
I remember liking a guy for like 6 years without ever talking to him! I was just crushing on him hard. We finally started talking and I don’t think we even lasted a year. (He was never officially my boyf, it was more of a long distance situationship). My imaginary him was so much better & the real him could not live up to it. What a disappointment 😂😂 ..idk why we do this to ourselves. Some people are better in the abstract LITERALLY!!
Lol! Why do I have a similar story? We daydream up an entirely different person than who they really are.
Exactly lol
We guys do that to
Same shit happen to me 💯 He claimed he prayed for a woman like me but honestly he wasn’t ready for a woman like me🤷🏽♀️ I’m just happy I seen all the red flags before I invested too much of myself and time….. whew 😅
Well i had a similar situation dated him, the relationship ended 3 months later.. was only good on the first few weeks and i think its because i was idolizing him, he did not do much but the few things he did or say made feel butterflies.. i had a crush on this man for almost 10 yrs. Well those 3 months was not the best at all
11:15 Now I completely get it! I understand how she could fall for him! "She was so low and vulnerable." Her dad died and she wasn't on alert, she felt like he was her savior because she just wanted to be happy again.
She's always low and vulnerable. She never gives herself time to be alone and heal. She always has to have some man or woman there.
Erica Mena got her Karma for being a mean spirited person for years but what I will say is Safaree definitely is a narcissistic person and he has no empathy for Erica’s feelings to the point where he doesn’t even care for his kids. She’s goofy for having children with a man who blatantly stated he doesn’t want children TWICE and shouldn’t be surprised that he’s a deadbeat.
Erica Mena got with him to stay relevant...I knew their relationship wouldn’t last…
You forgot to add dj envy and engaging in cheating on his wife.
@@melcarmelle555 I forgot she did that trifling sh*t
That last part... when I say this to women who try 2 force men into fatherhood only see him be a deliberate dead beat they get mad at me....idky get mad at a person who is asking why did u get pregnant by someone who told u they don't want to be a father lol ija
I was wondering if I was the only one that's been watching her triflin butt for years doing crazy stuff. She gets no sympathy she is a professional reality star knowing how to pull the audience in.
The level of toxicity is sickening. For a man to sit in the presence of a breaking woman and feel nothing is the saddest thing ever. Especially when he is the root cause of her pain. Yet, I bet he would empathise with a man or woman with missing limbs begging for food. That woman went through so much especially with the son. I understand falling out of love, but I refuse to understand a man despicable behaviour towards a woman who bore his children. I guess they both are in a broken state. We need to normalise therapy and healing. Too many broken people, breaking people.
Erica is no saint.
That woman has a track record for breaking hearts. ... from her first baby daddy ... to violating bow wow trust.
Then she was two timing cheater with Rich and Cyn.
THEN SHE WAS SLEEPING WITH MARRIED DJ ENVY AND TAUNTED HIS WIFE!!!
Not to mention how she constantly talked down to single women and her cast members
We also need to normalize being single.
@@tabitaeguangs THIS!!!! I always tell my single friends there’s nothing wrong with being single….& if they desire to get married, they should wait for the RIGHT person who LOVES them, will do anything for them & shows them HEALTHY love.
@@tabitaeguangs Not with kids, they need a father figure. Being single is hard in many ways but we shouldn't be obsessed with havein a partner.
@@olivoliv2109 Well you can't encourage a woman to stay with a man who is abusive or toxic just because they have kids.This narrative needs to be revisited.
His reaction to Erica being pregnant made me feel sooo bad for her. Wouldn’t wish that on nobody, it’s so peak
I completely understand that however I found it really weird that she was almost 6 months pregnant when she told him, I felt like Erica intentionally hide the pregnancy until she knew abortion was not an option, both of them are toxic.
@@resetmyzen1585 why should abortion have even been an option for them- a married couple. And how does not wanting that make her toxic (you implied this)???
@@itsnotmeitsyou717 As much as I feel bad for Erica @resetmyzen1585 does have a point though. By the time she was pregnant with baby #2 she already knew Safaree wasn’t shit so why bring another baby into that toxic environment? Not saying what she should or shouldn’t do with her pregnancy but I see what the other person is saying
@@draesynesofficial I def agree with what you're saying I just didn't think that that specifically (waiting late to tell him) made her also toxic. But even then Safaree was also doing baby making activities knowing he was the one who didn't want another baby and he put all the responsibility of not getting pregnant on the person who he knew (because she said so) did want another baby. Idt it's fair to put contraception solely on the woman. Though I certainly wouldn't get preggers for a man I knew didn't want no more kids with me, but then again not every woman would think this way. And that's fine.
This video was on point !! I’ve been narc free for two years now and boy what a crazy ride that was…Narcissistic men are the worst, ladies protect yourselves no man is worth losing yourself for. Once I realized he was a narcissist I ghosted my ex, stopped responding to his texts, sent his stuff through the mail and never looked back😅 best decision of my life!!
Do you mind sharing the signs? Like, what did he start acting like/doing? Cause I’m pretty sure I’ve run into another one..
@@AboveRubiesTV Sure, he did exactly what safaree did ! Narcissist are predictable. At the beginning he would idealize me, tell me how amazing, beautiful I am, praise me. Then once he got me hooked, the devaluating stage began. It starts slowly slight digs here and there, insults and then the discard which is the most painful part he would ignore me, disappear for days, send me straight to voicemail, yell at me… we would fight and then make up. Then the cycle repeats itself idealization… it was extremely detrimental my mental and physical health I started losing weight My anxiety level was at it’s peak. I thought I would die. It’s the most pain I have ever felt in my life.
@@olgakonzo606 wowwww…they seem to be so textbook. I’m so sorry you went through that, but honestly, I think it makes us stronger when we come out on the other side. I say that because I dealt with something similar a few years back, and I thought I was completely destroyed. I’ve met someone recently and starting noticing little things, so now I can get out much quicker and even laugh at some of the weird attempts. Anywho, God bless you and stay strong, Olga ✨💕
@@AboveRubiesTV Thank you so much, If it wasn’t for God and therapy I don’t know where I would be… I’m at a better place now but I totally get you. I’m super cautious with men now too. I no longer tolerate disrespect and I’m not eager to give them the benefit of the doubt either. Whenever one starts acting weird he’s out. Keep your eyes peeled with that new guy, you know better now. God bless you too Sis, wishing you the best 😉 !!
Well done!! ❤ same here! 👏🏻
Also. Can I just say. That I LOVE this play-by-play format?! So many people try to explain and use examples of this kind of thing. But actually watching it unfold and having you call it out for what it is is so fricken powerful. I wish more people explained toxic relationships this way. The tone of voice, micro expressions etc etc makes what you say make sense!
Glad you liked this style 🙏🏾
@@BreenyLee I totally agree...This is perfect
Hope many people see and share that video Can save lives
Chriesan rock and Blueface too
This video was so full of amazing gems I needed to her when it comes to how important it is to love yourself and not settle. Some men really don’t deserve women.
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I think a class in narcissistic abuse should be mandatory in elementary schools. Also, a class in ACE Adverse Childhood Experiences should be mandatory for everyone considering becoming a parent. The traumas experienced the first 7yrs. determines the child’s self esteem.
THIS!!!!
Agree this is a must!
This breakdown is so good, so many gems to keep in mind! Its also so heartbreaking to watch this woman go from being in love to being completely shattered.
Glad you enjoyed it! ❤
When I had my son I was really emotional, scared and depressed because my baby daddy wasn't supportive. Every time I tried to express my feelings to him, I couldn't stop myself from crying but that irritated him. He would degrade me saying I was very weak. If you could see the disgust on his face🙄it made me hate myself and actually believe I was a weak woman. I was scared of being a single mom so had to put up an act of a happy woman. I lost mind, self esteem, weight and self worth. Can't believe I left him and rebuilt myself. Now he tries to be friends with me, but I don't let him near me. I allow him be a father to our son, but that's how much he'll get close to me. I can't believe I let that man do me that. But hey we learn from our life experiences☺️
So glad you got out of the situation! You’re doing right let him be a father & let him watch your glow up from a distance. He’ll regret mistreating you but he will never admit it.. keep going hard for you and your baby!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I was with a covert narcissist for 5 months. Its taken more than 2 years to get over it with strict NC and a lot of work. But I still carry the scar of the situation, and I think one of the biggest things hurting the healing process is you do feel like you got scammed. So even if you heal from the trauma bond, you still carry the weight of being scammed.
Yes
Yes. Exactly how I feel 😫
Narcissists are “energy vampires” that thrive and strive to rob and drain your energy to fill the voids in their lives simply put. Well done in your delivery.
Period
I don’t feel bad for Erica or Safaree. He knew how she was and vice versa.
This Erica’s karma on top of her not healing from past relationships. Safaree been a narcissistic mess. A huge walking red flag 🚩
He told her how he felt and she didn’t listen.
My opinion, she fell in love with his peen. They did all this for television and then ish got real.
Big message!
Exactly! You hit the nail right on the head 👏🏾
exactly
I 1000% agree
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Girrrrrllll you are doing the Lord's work right now! Wish I saw this video before I dated my ex boyfriend who was a narcissist.
Honestly, this is so scary to me. I have been in multiple relationships with a narcissist and every time I think I know how to recognise them they show up in a different form. He looks like the stereotypical "nonchalant" funny guy that is so chill and laidback when in reality he is not a good person. It's so hard for a woman to have her emotions validated when you date a narcissist because they are so good at hiding it that you's always the crazy one.
It's even harder to protect yourself from narcissists because some of them are patient and will make themselves into becoming your ideal just so they can manipulate you.
Like one of my ex fully told me the only reason he pursued me was that he wanted to prove to himself that he could bag a girl like me. I was just there for his ego.
anyways stay safe out there ladies
The first paragraph was spot on 👌🏾
A lot of times when you are an empathetic person you attract narcs....they feed off of your energy. Sad thing is I think Erica also has narcissistic tendencies. I'm happy you have been able to recognize the signs and heal
My father is a narcissist. One thing I learned is boundaries. I am never afraid of dating someone who is controlling or a narc or anything negative because I am so strong in myself and my boundaries. Once you have boundaries there is nothing they can do to you. No one can ever control me or devalue me. Once you find value in yourself you will notice the red flags. You should look into attachment styles. It will be so easy to read the person you are dating and also to get to know yourself and improve yourself as well.
@@suras8984 but this process is not easy...i reached it after hitting rock bottom of being a people please that my crazy family made me into...well now I am a valued person on my own..being around me is just luxury
My child's donor did the same to me. He said he liked how ppl looked at him when we walked in a room together smh doesn't even see my kid
I just love your content!! Been learning a lot about myself. I myself was in a narcissistic marriage, I left him last year, and will be filing for divorce. I did everything to make him happy but like you said it wont last long. I however avoided getting pregnant (tracking cycle) because I refused to bring an innocent child into a toxic marriage. Thing is 3 days after I left he asked me if my period came when I told him no, he said he was praying to get me pregnant so I would stay in his life. He was extremely controlling.
Wow! So glad you are out, safe and sane!!
I stood up and clapped for you when I read your comment.The smartest woman is the one who didn't get pregnant for those people.They deserve nothing.
@@tabitaeguangs That part, and it’s crazy that some men think that means we’re less than… okay I’ll be that if it means I don’t have to deal 18+ years 😂
My ex husband told me he wanted me pregnant so he could trap me. They are so pathetic.
Erica lost her biggest protector.... Every man after that had to fill this image.... When they wouldn't, she started doing everything she thought she could to make them love her like her father... She was everything they needed... She compared the exchange of love between her and her father.... Problem is she forgot her needs and they treated her per the example she set with loving herself..... Her love is unmatched, I pray for this woman to heal..... A part of me is Erica and so is all of you ...
😪😪 So true..Healing my wounds as to not attract this kind if man ever again
This is why I don’t understand why so many women say it’s her karma when so many of us have been in Erica’s situation as well…..
"don't be so stuck on being chosen that you don't choose" SNAPS for Breeny!
This is exactly what my mother had to deal with my father back when I was little. He was never supportive of my mother and the part where you said narcs are not loyal I totally get that. I had to see the video to clearly understand what type of a man he really was not the imaginary father I pictured in mind, later I got affected by men who showed similar traits to my father's character it took me a long time to not feel hatred and have low self-acceptance towards myself but thank god that I am in a position where I am more aware, conscious and learn from my past trauma and mistakes. Now I am able to have strong boundaries and also be able to question and try to find out people's real motives in general. IT WAS A LONG TIME COMING BUT I STILL RISE
You are so powerful beyond your knowledge and I’m really proud of you for overcoming that hurdle as someone who has been through the same❤
The callousness of leaving the baby shower is beyond me!💥
This play by play really put everything in perspective. Erica saying that she felt “scammed” is really the long and short of it. It breaks my heart because she put so much HOPE in their union. Whether conscious of it or not-he set out to break her!
Erica definitely ignored the red flags and shouldn’t have had another baby when she realized he was never there for the baby they already had but my heart still breaks for her imagine being pregnant about to get divorced and being in complete anguish telling someone how destroyed you feel and have them completely ignore you and dismiss your emotions like it’s nothing 😖 I been there and it sucks luckily got out before it was too late but I feel for her because it looked like she really genuinely loved him and he just used her to fulfill the fantasy in his head and bow out I hope she can find healing and realize that even tho no one is perfect she is not the problem she was completely manipulated
Sometimes women just want to get it over and done with Vs having 3 baby daddies.
Erica is NOT a narcissist, she is a complex and damaged person. Narcissism is a REAL CONDITION.
Erica is one as well and she just dated the same typr of person. She had the grandiose personality as well thinking she was better than other people. She did thr same thing to Cid like Safaree did to her.
Narcissists can be damaged people that could be the root trauma that caused their Narcissist personality
@@MzBonafyde they are damaged people and stuck at whatever age they got hurt and some not damage some just frel they are better because they be enable their whole lived
@@madeinvirginia3998 from the way she handle herself with him, no she isn’t
@@kaleenajean when 2 narcissist date , this is how the dynamic works. Thats why Safaree said she is a female version of him. She did Cind the same way Safaree did her.
The last clip of them was absolutely disgusting. He is a CLEAR narcissist. He's never hidden it. Thanks for this video. The scary thing is that they can change up on you after marriage.
Please keep doing these reaction videos Breeny! analyzing these red flags are gonna save A LOT of women.
Hi Breeny Im a 22 year old who got used and abused by a narcissist who is also the father of my child. I just wanted to thank you for making this video because I know it will help me tremendously once I decide to get into the dating scene again. But everything you mentioned here is creepingly spot on. You are the big sis I never had and I will without a doubt purchase your book❤
22 ur so young go and live ur life forget about that looser u got this ❤
@@LL-ip5mm thank you so much, & I will🥺🥺🥺🥺❤
Same girl same felt I was 27
You have saved me
Till 2 days ago i was dating this man, he got the full potential all women are dreaming about
I watched this and I totally understood the lesson
He is a narcissist and I didn’t know i saw so many red flags but didn’t know how to connect them but now i do
Thank you Breeny
I love this video
I remember back when she was pregnant with the first baby and he kept dressing her up and styling her like she was his doll. Then threw her a birthday party but HIS pictures were EVERYWHERE at her party! I knew he was a narcissist right there.
The fact that she had to throw that party to put him in a good mood to tell him the news of baby number two tells me she knew he wouldn't be on board... Women who date narcissist know deep inside that their partners are narc
This !!!!!!!
Only lasts seconds 😅
Unfortunately we live in a world that enables, normalises and entertains bad behaviours... hence why narcissists get away with so much of the crap they say and do. And in the end the victim of emotional and mental abuse is often painted as the bad guy. People need to start listening to their intuition from the get go, if something doesn't sit well address it and correct it, if it doesn't get corrected then we must gather the courage to Leave in Peace!
Brahahah 😂 you said Nicki minaj’s backup dancer 🥹 the shade
This video was epic! I feel like I just watched an award winning documentary on Narcisstic Abuse...
My heart truly goes out to Erica Mena 😥 she didn't deserve that. She can and she will come back stronger and go on to be more successful ✨️ 💪🏾 Saphari will get his because God don't sleep. You broke this down as well as articulated this so well Breeny! 🙌🏽
Narcissists love bomb!!! That's how they get you!!!!!!
Very sad. Honestly it’s the level of immaturity from him that I can’t take. There’s soooo many “men” I’ve met like this. Forever stuck in boyhood.
Narcs like Safaree will take and take and take and take from you until you are a shell of your former self.
nothing is wrong with him..he has said he dont want her....which part of deft and dump that women are refusing to listen. Actions is also more than words...she is pregnant the first time...he said he hates her body when with child and ran off to party while she in labour. What more should he do to make her leave.
Hey @Breeny Lee I wanted to ask you check out For Harriet UA-cam channel; Nicole has just put up a video about struggle love for black women and I’d love to get your take on it/the subject 😊💕
I wish everyone gets the love they deserve. Run away from red flags and never choose someone who doesn't value your feelings!!! We must learn to love ourselves more everyone!!!
Still surprised they even got together in the first place. From Bow Wow to Safaree. From Nicki Minaj to Erica Mena. Seems like this relationship is like so many that get into rebound relationships and stuck in it even if they get married and divorce. Once they have children there are different levels of toxic behaviour that unfortunately happens and it is the children that negatively impacted
No seriously. Can't lie I've been through something similar. They say and do everything you like in the beginning and have you feeling like you can finally breathe. Then as the relationship progresses things start to change and you start seeing the exact opposite of everything they showed you. It's so sad because the more you see the more detrimental it is to the relationship. And slowly but surely you become fed up and that person goes from the one to the lesson in due time.
Girl Ive been through the same..
It took a year of therapy and I'm just now getting back to myself..
I was a shell, and ate myself through depression...
But God is faithful..it gets better
Breeney your hair is giving.And your chocolate skin is popping.
A lot of women in this situation don’t answer back or argue because they don’t wanna upset these men and make excuses for him just to say they have a happy family know a women whose man cheated through all her pregnancies but married her after the 3rd and she think last she won and she had a 4th child
I used to be co dependent so I definitely can relate to the mistake of rushing into relationships. I was in 2 long term, back to back toxic relationships. Now that I've taken the time to heal the past couple years, I'm so much more aware of people in general. I've noticed I can pick up on red flags easier now which in the past I ignored or rationalized past the red flags.
This is a phenomenal breakdown and also very triggering for me. I had no idea how much my son's father is like Safari. It's sad and scary but I thank God I've moved on from that. God bless Erica and those kids.
How is this man deserving of all this after he treated her that way. This is mad. Very sad to see a beautiful woman like that go this length for that. Loving yourself is so important and knowing your worth
I can’t wait for the Ray J Princess Love breakdown! All of this is helping us learn. Thanks Breeny. Good idea! I didn’t know that Érica went through this. When the baby fell it was so loud and omg. That was not easy to watch. I have to Google her divorce settlement. I always knew her as a firecracker but she was very rational and calm dealing with him. I really feel bad that she had 2 kids with him and I hope he pays enough for her to have a nanny. I raised 2 children on my own and it was not easy at all. Praying for us women.
She stay begging for his love. If you see that man does not express love you have to dump him. And be single and open to meet a really loving man.
Girl this video hit me hard, it reminded me how I felt with my ex and I never realized how toxic the relationship was until after we broke up. He used to invalidate my feelings saying I was exaggerating, I was always the problem, I was constantly doubting myself and thinking that maybe I was the crazy one, and I was stuck in the cycle of ups and downs, where the ups were wonderful but the downs were devastating. He was not like Safaree though, I can't even imagine how tired Erica must have felt..
Breenyyyyy 🗣 u look like a real life Barbie, dfck 🥺😍😍😍 perfect,perfect,perfect 10278/10
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Now I see why nick hated him so much 😭 even during the relationship
This reminds me of why my marriage ended after only four months lol. Thank goodness we didn’t have kids in the mix. I actually don’t want kids anymore, even if I get married again (to a great guy) because I don’t want to take the risk that the guy will change. I don’t want me or my kids to deal with that bs. Id rather not risk it at all.
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Nk
Did you fill for annulment?
WE NEED MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS. how can he be so bad human in front of cameras like.. If he is a $hit character in front of them imagine how worst he is behind them
I just started watching this BUT BREENY YOU LOOK AMAZING 🥰🥰🥰
Thank you queen ❤
This video definitely triggered me. My ex husband was a covert narc, and all of the things Erica went through I went through and then some. I was a shell of myself and my pregnancy was a mixture of excitement and sadness. I felt like a single mother and roommate. The divorce was the best thing and it took all four years post divorce to recover my sense of self and self worth/love. I’m extra careful who I choose this time.
When two wounded people get in a relationship , they bring out the worst in each other , which is the opposite of what a healthy relationship should do. I don’t think he’s a narcissist, he clearly has some issues that are still unresolved from his past. He looks miserable and is making Erica miserable too.
Erica has her demons to deal with too. It’s a painful situation especially with children involved but there is a lesson for them to learn and grow
Hurt people, hurt people
Agree, both of them need to do some work
Yes but remember narcissist are wounded people that’s why they are narcissist. & the way he loves himself & put himself before his children & needs everything to be about him is narcissistic behavior. Narcissist aren’t demons they are deeply wounded people who lack empathy due to trauma
@@destinyalanna There shouldn’t be any excuses to lack empathy Narcs are spoiled by parents most of the time and are used of getting what they want and use of being center of attention its a personality disorder a mental illness as well and that have nothing to do with having trauma. A lot of people have trauma and show more empathy now then when they had no trauma whatsoever
Men like safaree will fake build you up just to tear you down and make you forget who you are … to get complete emotional control and that’s when they got you… all the love that we need or searching for is within … no one can love you more than you and treat you well more than yourself… a partner is to add (learn this on my journey of life)
I’ve been through a few of these codependent moments, mainly when I’m making a financial change like moving, adding another job, or dating someone that lacks their own car/place… I’ve learned to keep boundaries, but another thing I’ve learned is that once a narcissist see’s they can’t verbally insult you due to you being self aware, they’ll literally make shit up. For example the last guy told me I needed to get in the gym, little did he know I was in the gym heavy, and that didn’t stop with him… I’m not overweight actually closer to the under for my height so at the time I had abs. Yet he had bigger boobs than me. Always tried to degrade me on the levels he couldn’t meet, another time he said my teeth were black, yet I’ve always had perfect teeth that I’ve prided myself with (one cavity, no gaps in a family of braces 😁 type of Pride) Yet his were very crooked and he needed an emergency root canal due to him not cleaning properly and getting an infection in multiple places. The way I dressed, he tried to shame me for waiting to spend $200 on work pants, yet only owned 3 pair of pants before his random shopping spree. 😅🥴
Men being jealous of women is a real thing
It''s sad asf to watch Erica look crazy loving on this insecure, immature ass narcissistic man. Safaree loves himself, point blank (period) there's not enough room for anyone else Sis. Take those divorce papers, your children and call it good.
You were on point with everything!! As you were talking, I kept having flashbacks of my own situation so would pause the video. This whole Erica & Safari thing is triggering. Especially after I saw how skinny Erica got because I lost so much weight from my own narcissistic relationship. It looked so unhealthy.
I loved when you said “Narcs don’t deserve you but will act like you don’t deserve them” that is so true! Before this video I thought the ex was a covert narc but after watching this, he act so much like Safari, he was definitely an overt narc.
The women in his family were more covert narcs & toxic codependents. In the end I felt tag teamed by all of them because narcs stick together like a clan. I have done the inner work to heal from any codependency issues, people pleasing ways, and have gotten rid of the savior complex.
I stuck by that man all because I felt sorry for him and wanted to try to save or heal him. I learned the importance of placing boundaries. I never put up with bs before my narc ex but it’s like you’re under a spell once involved with them.
I feel for Erica and any women who’s dealt with this. For awhile I was mad at myself, mad at the world, mad at God but God didn’t do this and I can’t blame myself for not knowing better but I can take accountability for my part such as overstaying in an unhealthy situation with a person who genuinely treated me like sh*t.
I had no business being with him and deep in my intuition I knew that because I kept turning him down but he was so persistent just as Safari was with Erica. Then he pulled the bait and switch once he had me. I didn’t know who he turned into. Their masks eventually slips.
Narcs will leave you completely destroyed if you let it get there so save yourself! Break the trauma bond. Theres no limit to how low they will go. I just want to hug Erica. God grant her Your peace 🙏🏽
Can you make a video on covert narcissism, Breeny? The type that is hard to identify? Sometimes I feel like Im talking to someone who is sane, even empathetic, and don't see the signs until much later. Thanks!
OMG THISSSSSSS
I dated a man like this. Extremely dangerous . He comes across as sincere caring and warm but was an absolute monster once his mask slipped.
Super late comment but this is my mom 😢 I realized after 27 years. Idk how I was so blind.
Please do not apologize for dissecting anyone. The very comment you omit is the very comment that a young lady needs to hear to get her breakthrough. You are doing God's work in your own way, and I respect your pure attention and personal delivery. Thank you so much for all you do🥰
I definitely believe most people you grow to love. When the Lust and infatuation periods begin to fade, love can be discovered. Thanks for the video.
An apology without changed behaviour is manipulation...thats a powerful truth
Those tears at the wedding weren’t even real. His face was dry af and his eyes weren’t even red. He is a narcissist 100% !
I love when you break down couples Breeny!
This can be an entire series with numerous couples.
Yes. My stank booty ex pretended TO BE SOMEONE ELSE FOR THREEEEEEE YEARRRSSSSS…. Yes there were some smaller red flags in the beginning that he immediately stoped bc I wasn’t having it. Immediately after and I mean IMMEDIATELY after we got married… he turned into a evil disgusting monster aka his true self. Used religious abuse and gaslightinging, my vulnerability to the death of my sibling, my upbringing and childhood abuse, youuuu nammmmee it lol even JOINEE FORCES WITH MY DAD to try and get me institutionalized.
Long story short, there are spiritual demons that attach to peoples bloodlines. To continue the cycle. I never realized I was SURROUNDED BY THEM for sooooooooo long. God IS real. ❤
This video is GOLD!!! Incredible work as always, Breeny!!! You are truly doing God’s work, THANK YOU 💋❣️
You truly look so amazing, beautiful and classy!!
Thank you so much!❤