I can't believe it's been a year already. A year ago I moved to Sweden with my boyfriend. I remember waiting for him come back from work in our temporary apartment, browsing job listings for myself and cooking gingerbread ( it was December) I was lonely and far away from my home country, and then I discovered your channel. I baked all the Christmas cookies while watching your Vlogmas and all Harry Potter related videos. Then when we chose our final apartment I decorated it whole in the style inspired by your home
I loved hearing you talk about how much of a struggle being a perfectionist is because I can never do anything unless it’s 100% and if something doesn’t go the way I wanted it to, I feel awful and so disappointed in myself and I really wish it wasn’t like that so knowing you struggle with it too helps a lot💛
Same I feel as if I did terrible then make myself feel bad but a thing to remember is that we were not made perfect we can try but we never will be and that’s okay so take breath in and think it’s okay I can make it better.
You got this girl! I dont doubt you will get though this because you're are strong and independent. You always make me smile when I watch your videos and you are so sweet. You have my support and I know you can do this, and I will love you no matter what😺💛
Abigail, just be yourself! I love watching your videos because your sweet personality and positivity brings so much joy to my life. You always make beautiful content, don't put so much pressure that you take that away from yourself. We just want to see you having fun and being true to yourself. ❤❤
You can do it Abigail! I was recently listening to a business leader speak, and I always compare myself to others, and she said “would you be ok if you do it at 70% rather than not at all?” And that struck a chord with me. Anyway, my little one keep saying “pretty!” In her baby talk when she sees you 💛
Your kitties make me smile hehe! Oh girl, I struggle with perfectionism too. Mine often manifests in a different way. I want everything to be just right that I don't even start things, or finish them (finish them to share to the world). For example, I've talked about and wanted to open an Etsy print shop since 2017... this year I made the most progress on it ever, but because of my perfectionism and fear of failure I loose motivation easily on it. It's definitely related to my anxiety. I try not to be hard on myself for not finishing it/accomplishing it for SO long... and instead just keep praying about it and trusting God will provide me the motivation and help I need when it's time~
I love all of your videos! I can totally relate to being a perfectionist. I always try my best to make my day go perfectly or as planned, and if something goes wrong then I will be so mad at myself. I feel you girl! Hope you and Harold are settling well into your new home! Sending both of you love!
it's important to remember that there is no 'normal', everyone has different paths. it is difficult struggling with the idea of perfection and fulfilling the image of yourself you have, but i think on some level everyone struggles with perfectionism in one way or another. you are definitely not alone! watching your videos brings me so much joy and really helps motivate me, even when it's just a short little one- so know that even when your best feels like it is not enough, you are still bringing light into others' lives with your vlogmas videos
As someone who also struggles with perfectionism, I love the part about switching the way I speak about this to myself! Even just switching the wording to "I value practice over perfection." etc. makes a world of a difference! 🥰
i got so excited when i saw! i definitely struggle with perfectionism as well. i have noticed that i will beat myself up if there’s something that i felt that wasn’t perfect. i love you so much no matter what!
Hi Abigail it's NUZHAT you are so true this is something I LIKE about you and I advise you although I'm 16 but still feel that I can advise that don't think you are something which is awful just be yourself whatever it is. And yeah you are so sweet that I even convinced my sisters to watch your vlogs.they are too good . I'M WAITING FOR YOUR PUPPY .LOVE
Also, perfectionism is hard to overcome and I love how honest you are about your journey with it. I wouldn't call it being a perfectionist, you simply want to put your best put there because you know whay your best looks like!💛
I'm so proud of you Abigail. For the longest time I was a perfectionist. I told myself that everything that I did had to be perfect. Now, I see that everything I do doesn't have to be perfect. I just have to live my life and be happy❤
Abigail, I struggle with perfectionism so much, even as a young high school student, and it’s been so hard for me! You opening up about struggling with perfectionism yourself, has showed me I’m not alone, thank you! Your videos cheer me up so much on my good and bad days! You really are the best! I love you and Merry Christmas!💛💖🥰
I'd love to see you do your makeup routine maybe during vlogmas. I think your videos are practically perfect in every way!! Sending you lots of love this Christmas season.
Hi! Lovely video as always! Wow, I related to your perfectionist chat so much. I’ve been struggling with being a perfectionist since I was a kid too. I’m a designer and photographer so I’m not surprised that that trait has carried on in my professional work. I’m definitely going to work on that as well because it adds a lot of stress and anxiety to my life that I don’t need. Thanks for sharing!💕
Also, there’s a something I learned from one of my past managers. She knew I was a perfectionist. She always said, your 100% is higher than average. So try to work at a 90% or even 80% if you can.
Love this cleaning vlog so much! It inspires me to clean too 😊 Can't believe how people can post every single day! This is my first year doing a 12 days of vlogmas and videos in general and it's CRAAAAZY!! Thank you so much for this video Abigail! ✨
Girl! You are gonna get me through finals! Thank you for yet another amazing video. Also thank you for being open about your struggles, I struggle with perfectionism as well and I guess in a way it nice to know I’m not alone❤️
One thing that helped me with my perfectionist mindset was to play through what is happening when I do something that isn't perfect. Like I've started with youtube in august and of course I am not able to produce videos with the same quality as someone who started 8 years ago. And I sometimes struggle with that and want to quit. But then I ask myself: So what is the actual problem? You should really digg deep into what is the underlying problem. Why do you want to be perfect? What is happening if you deliver something that is only 80% perfect or even less. What do you fear? I feel that has a lot to do with identity and vulnerability. When we create something (whether if it is a speech, a youtube video, a dinner, or anything else) and show it to the world, we are vulnerable for criticism. In my case I am afraid somebody will tell me that I do a shitty job, that my vlogmas is boring and that I shouldn't post anything. I am afraid that somebody refuses to let me have my own space in this world. But we all have our very own place in the world. We are worthy by birth. What we can create can be good or bad for someone, as long as we feel the desire to create it, it is perfect! Just perfect! Brene Brown said once: Vulnerability is not about winning, it is not about losing. It's having the courage to show when you can't control the outcome. And you are very brave by showing up and create this videos.
Two books I can recommend: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Fond (a life-changing book talking about how we try to hide our "dark" sides) and all books by Brene Brown. They are all about perfectionism, dearing, leadership, showing up and vulnerability.
@@abigailscupoftea So happy that it helped you! And don't get scared of the title of the first book. It kinda sounds like woo-woo, but it isn't at all. :D
Such a powerful video! I'm very proud of you. This is my junior year of high school, and I think this time in my life, coupled with the pandemic, has really helped me discover what I want to invest my time in. Happy Vlogmas, and I hope you're doing well
If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your occupation? It’s kind of nice to see someone on UA-cam that has a non-influencer job like her audience and would be interesting to hear you talk about what sort of things you do to help achieve a work life balance. 🤗
Have you read Brave Not Perfect by Reshma Saujani? I think it is a really good book that helped me to reflect on my perfectionism and mindsets to overcome it.
The perfectionism could likely caused by a formative moment in childhood, maybe when you were praised for being "perfect", or maybe one of your parents would tell people you were perfect a lot, or maybe you were scolded for not being perfect or doing something perfectly (by parents or teachers) and so that impacted you? I also know a lot of Christians (including myself) who have struggled with perfectionism in the past or still do, because of the stuff about being "not worthy" of and "not good enough" for God's mercy conversation. It's a subconscious thing about never measuring up. But I was able to release it through some personal coaching! Maybe therapy or a coach could help you? I know how much it sucks to struggle with perfectionism. I'm praying for you!
I can't believe it's been a year already. A year ago I moved to Sweden with my boyfriend. I remember waiting for him come back from work in our temporary apartment, browsing job listings for myself and cooking gingerbread ( it was December) I was lonely and far away from my home country, and then I discovered your channel. I baked all the Christmas cookies while watching your Vlogmas and all Harry Potter related videos. Then when we chose our final apartment I decorated it whole in the style inspired by your home
I loved hearing you talk about how much of a struggle being a perfectionist is because I can never do anything unless it’s 100% and if something doesn’t go the way I wanted it to, I feel awful and so disappointed in myself and I really wish it wasn’t like that so knowing you struggle with it too helps a lot💛
Same I feel as if I did terrible then make myself feel bad but a thing to remember is that we were not made perfect we can try but we never will be and that’s okay so take breath in and think it’s okay I can make it better.
the kitty at the end tucked in the blanket made my heart melt. i just looked over at my kitty sleeping on the bed..
You got this girl! I dont doubt you will get though this because you're are strong and independent. You always make me smile when I watch your videos and you are so sweet. You have my support and I know you can do this, and I will love you no matter what😺💛
Abigail, just be yourself! I love watching your videos because your sweet personality and positivity brings so much joy to my life. You always make beautiful content, don't put so much pressure that you take that away from yourself. We just want to see you having fun and being true to yourself. ❤❤
You can do it Abigail! I was recently listening to a business leader speak, and I always compare myself to others, and she said “would you be ok if you do it at 70% rather than not at all?” And that struck a chord with me.
Anyway, my little one keep saying “pretty!” In her baby talk when she sees you 💛
I have been working on “talking kinder” to myself as well.
Your kitties make me smile hehe! Oh girl, I struggle with perfectionism too. Mine often manifests in a different way. I want everything to be just right that I don't even start things, or finish them (finish them to share to the world). For example, I've talked about and wanted to open an Etsy print shop since 2017... this year I made the most progress on it ever, but because of my perfectionism and fear of failure I loose motivation easily on it. It's definitely related to my anxiety. I try not to be hard on myself for not finishing it/accomplishing it for SO long... and instead just keep praying about it and trusting God will provide me the motivation and help I need when it's time~
You are my favorite person in UA-cam. You are light! You make me feel so happy, I can’t describe why but you do. God bless you beautiful ❤️
Ellie is very funny playing with pawing @ laundry ‘s window 😄!!!
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Great video!!! I really enjoyed watching!! Your sweet cat sleeping next to Harold was so precious!! 🙂💛💛
And Luna, Ellie and Margo are really angels🥺🥺🥺💛💛
Just came home from work and this saved my day❤️
Luna stills being under the tree! 🧡🧡 You are you and therefore you already are the best! 💖
I love all of your videos! I can totally relate to being a perfectionist. I always try my best to make my day go perfectly or as planned, and if something goes wrong then I will be so mad at myself. I feel you girl! Hope you and Harold are settling well into your new home! Sending both of you love!
Your cats are the cutest!!!
sweet boys podcast is my faaaaaavvvvvvv
I love your videos, especially the Harry Potter unboxing. You are just so so so cute.
it's important to remember that there is no 'normal', everyone has different paths. it is difficult struggling with the idea of perfection and fulfilling the image of yourself you have, but i think on some level everyone struggles with perfectionism in one way or another. you are definitely not alone!
watching your videos brings me so much joy and really helps motivate me, even when it's just a short little one- so know that even when your best feels like it is not enough, you are still bringing light into others' lives with your vlogmas videos
Finally catching up with your new vlogs
As someone who also struggles with perfectionism, I love the part about switching the way I speak about this to myself! Even just switching the wording to "I value practice over perfection." etc. makes a world of a difference! 🥰
I love this!!!
Loved it ❤️ dammmn !!! Videos 💗😍
The music is so satisfying
I love that you are doing 12 days of Vlogmas. I literally love all of your content
I enjoy Christmas through your videos ᵟຶᴖ ᵟຶ
i got so excited when i saw! i definitely struggle with perfectionism as well. i have noticed that i will beat myself up if there’s something that i felt that wasn’t perfect. i love you so much no matter what!
best friend is that you??? I came here as soon as you texted you were watching it😂😂
also I relate to this soooo much🥺
Hi Abigail it's NUZHAT you are so true this is something I LIKE about you and I advise you although I'm 16 but still feel that I can advise that don't think you are something which is awful just be yourself whatever it is. And yeah you are so sweet that I even convinced my sisters to watch your vlogs.they are too good . I'M WAITING FOR YOUR PUPPY .LOVE
I’m so proud of you🤗🥰
I love you, Mindy girl. 💛💛
I love your closet cleaning videos! It inspires me to organize my own and your closet always ends up organized to be so cute!
Also, perfectionism is hard to overcome and I love how honest you are about your journey with it. I wouldn't call it being a perfectionist, you simply want to put your best put there because you know whay your best looks like!💛
I didn’t know much I needed this/to hear this until I heard it 💕
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I'm so proud of you Abigail. For the longest time I was a perfectionist. I told myself that everything that I did had to be perfect. Now, I see that everything I do doesn't have to be perfect. I just have to live my life and be happy❤
Abigail your HAIR
It looks sooo goood 😍
I love your videos it gives me smile everyday
I totally agree with everything you were saying about perfectionism! love hearing you chat about stuff like this!🤍
It sounds like your goal is to just enjoy yourself more! A worthy endeavor if there ever was one. 🙂 Also, your kitties are so cute!
I love your videos so much they bring me so much joy💛💛
YAY I always enjoy your clean with me vlogs, Abigail! And thanks for the podcast recommendations!!!
Abigail, I struggle with perfectionism so much, even as a young high school student, and it’s been so hard for me! You opening up about struggling with perfectionism yourself, has showed me I’m not alone, thank you! Your videos cheer me up so much on my good and bad days! You really are the best! I love you and Merry Christmas!💛💖🥰
Really wait everyday for your vlogmas🎄🥺🥺.. Love your vlogs soooo much🥺🥺 💛.. They are sooo peaceful and cozy and sooo beautifully shot 🥺💛💛.. Love youu💛
I'd love to see you do your makeup routine maybe during vlogmas. I think your videos are practically perfect in every way!! Sending you lots of love this Christmas season.
Hi! Lovely video as always! Wow, I related to your perfectionist chat so much. I’ve been struggling with being a perfectionist since I was a kid too. I’m a designer and photographer so I’m not surprised that that trait has carried on in my professional work. I’m definitely going to work on that as well because it adds a lot of stress and anxiety to my life that I don’t need. Thanks for sharing!💕
Also, there’s a something I learned from one of my past managers. She knew I was a perfectionist. She always said, your 100% is higher than average. So try to work at a 90% or even 80% if you can.
Love this cleaning vlog so much! It inspires me to clean too 😊 Can't believe how people can post every single day! This is my first year doing a 12 days of vlogmas and videos in general and it's CRAAAAZY!! Thank you so much for this video Abigail! ✨
She is perfect
Girl! You are gonna get me through finals! Thank you for yet another amazing video. Also thank you for being open about your struggles, I struggle with perfectionism as well and I guess in a way it nice to know I’m not alone❤️
omg i loveddd the “very👏🏻productive👏🏻day👏🏻”😂😂
Hahah thank you! 😆
You're so amazing girl🥺❤️
This video was so inspiring 💫. Abigail, pls continue to inspire us just like today .
Love this kinda content from you
I really like your video. I’m obsessing about podcasts this year too.
You got this!! 💛
BurrowandBrews Aww thank you, Taylor!! 💛
Love this! 🤍
You have a good clothing sense please make a video on your cupboard tour.
You are soo beatiful🧡🧡🧡
I struggle with perfectionism too
Love the kitties! I have an all white fluffy cat too - her name is Cosette. Great video!
I have a problem with perfectionist too! Well get there!!!
This was so fun
One thing that helped me with my perfectionist mindset was to play through what is happening when I do something that isn't perfect. Like I've started with youtube in august and of course I am not able to produce videos with the same quality as someone who started 8 years ago. And I sometimes struggle with that and want to quit. But then I ask myself: So what is the actual problem? You should really digg deep into what is the underlying problem. Why do you want to be perfect? What is happening if you deliver something that is only 80% perfect or even less. What do you fear?
I feel that has a lot to do with identity and vulnerability. When we create something (whether if it is a speech, a youtube video, a dinner, or anything else) and show it to the world, we are vulnerable for criticism. In my case I am afraid somebody will tell me that I do a shitty job, that my vlogmas is boring and that I shouldn't post anything. I am afraid that somebody refuses to let me have my own space in this world. But we all have our very own place in the world. We are worthy by birth. What we can create can be good or bad for someone, as long as we feel the desire to create it, it is perfect! Just perfect! Brene Brown said once: Vulnerability is not about winning, it is not about losing. It's having the courage to show when you can't control the outcome. And you are very brave by showing up and create this videos.
Two books I can recommend: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Fond (a life-changing book talking about how we try to hide our "dark" sides) and all books by Brene Brown. They are all about perfectionism, dearing, leadership, showing up and vulnerability.
This was so helpful; thank you!!! 💛 I will definitely be checking out those books!
@@abigailscupoftea So happy that it helped you! And don't get scared of the title of the first book. It kinda sounds like woo-woo, but it isn't at all. :D
Who else loves Abi! 🥰
Loved this vlog 🤗 If you like What We Said you’ll probably also like The Sister Diary podcast too!
oh my gosh ellie at the washing machine 🥺
As long so you are having fun, you need not to be perfect dear 💕.. We love just how you are🥺💛💛⚡
Such a powerful video! I'm very proud of you. This is my junior year of high school, and I think this time in my life, coupled with the pandemic, has really helped me discover what I want to invest my time in. Happy Vlogmas, and I hope you're doing well
¡¡¡Love you!!! 💛✨
Well!!!!! Why u are amazing,???🌟🌟🤧🤧🤧
Great idea to show the houses decorated for Christmas:) I'm from Germany and compared to your city it looks very bleak here:(
You should listen to the Inspired Mind podcast by Ella Victoria!!
If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your occupation? It’s kind of nice to see someone on UA-cam that has a non-influencer job like her audience and would be interesting to hear you talk about what sort of things you do to help achieve a work life balance. 🤗
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Who are your favorite you tubers to watch?
Have you read Brave Not Perfect by Reshma Saujani? I think it is a really good book that helped me to reflect on my perfectionism and mindsets to overcome it.
The cats made me laugh
The perfectionism could likely caused by a formative moment in childhood, maybe when you were praised for being "perfect", or maybe one of your parents would tell people you were perfect a lot, or maybe you were scolded for not being perfect or doing something perfectly (by parents or teachers) and so that impacted you? I also know a lot of Christians (including myself) who have struggled with perfectionism in the past or still do, because of the stuff about being "not worthy" of and "not good enough" for God's mercy conversation. It's a subconscious thing about never measuring up. But I was able to release it through some personal coaching! Maybe therapy or a coach could help you? I know how much it sucks to struggle with perfectionism. I'm praying for you!