My Girlfriend is Pregnant and We are Freaking OUT!
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- My Girlfriend is Pregnant and We are Freaking OUT!
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Gotta love when someone makes a baby and then acts like they dont know how it happened
I know how my son happened, my ex wife intentionally got pregnant by poking holes in my condom and lied that she took birth control.
Her then college roommate did the same thing, apparently it was a pact. My ex and I had a son, her roommate had triplets. We're all divorced and miserable.
As men we had no rights and could not press charges and were forced to pay for children we never wanted by two women who wanted to trap us into their lives. Nobody won in that stupid plot. Nobody.
@@DHFlip18 well that's an extreme most people that say they don't know how it happened don't go through that, BTW that's some soap opera stuff, how did she get access to the condom? Never trust these chicks put it on right out of the pack and then flush after each use bro, but I'm sure u learned ur lesson by now 😅
And after 3 years!
@@DHFlip18 Sorry but that girl is not a full schilling. Something is off with her. It's your responsibility too, whether you ever have kids together or not, to pick a sane female. "She is crazy" is not a compliment. It excites men too much. This is what crazy women do.
Crazy means no clear mind , no integrity, no maturity.
@@Shaara1 I don't date crazy women and generally stay away from drama. My ex and I were dating for 8 months before she and her roommate got pregnant. Both were Filipino nursing students, I was a business law student. We had a great relationship and both came from good families. She gave me no red flags other than some mood swings.
Now you could make the argument that I should have not had sex if I didn't want kids, but we both understood that neither wanted kids, especially not while in college. Then again, we both used protection until then.
As a man, I should have had the option to force the abortion since it was forced upon me without consent, but I didn't have that option. I also didn't have the option to walk away without paying child support. Neither did the other guy, with triplets. I'm the luckier of the two victims. And we are victims.
It is sickening how people talk of disposing of a baby like it’s a litter of kittens they didn’t want. Even that is maddening
This call is so frustrating. Take responsibility for your actions. It’s time to be a man.
Abortion IS an option
@@mikenelson8377 yep it sure is. All actions have consequences though and I have a feeling they will regret it if they go through with it.
That's stupid, men grow up slower than women...
@@mikenelson8377 abortion is a cop out and an excuse. Grow a pair and raise the child you created, not dispose of it.
The kid is 23 years old. Calm down. He has every right to be worried.
We were married, ended up having abortion. Pressure from hubby - he didn't want baby yet.I will always regret that decision. Years later I struggled with infertility, suffered two miscarriages and many surgeries. We finally had a baby. a year later husband divorced me. My son is the greatest blessing in my life! We've had a great life and he is in his thirties now.
Children should be wanted by both parents
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The primary purpose of marriage is children
@@isay207😂 yea sure, but when man wants a baby and woman dont she still can do legally abortions wihich is insane! If woman doesn't want to give birth and have baby man should be allowed to care and raise his child, its his daughter or son!
Don’t blame your husband you did it
There are no accidents,
Take responsibility
Yes there are. If you time it wrong and pull out at the wrong time... whoops :-)
@@millsathn well the couple should be using contraceptions if they don't want kids.
There are accidents but then you have to deal with the consequences
@kanajingly8957 then you could always abort or put out kid for adoption. The adoption process is usually very easy and rich parents line up to take kid away.
@kanajingly8957it's very rare though
His girlfriend’s reaction might be dependent on his own reaction because if he steps up & wants the baby it will help her be assured & plot her future too.
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I think she doesn't know what to do bc she is not confident in her choices and is waiting on him to make "the right" decision. She clearly doesn't have a mind of her own and thinks whatever his decision is will be the best one.
He'd rather give up his baby than have a hard conversation? Why are 20something year olds giving their parents explanations? Codependency!
You've been given a gift. Your way is clear. Your girlfriend is waiting for you to say that it's OK. You are now moving forward as a family of three. Embrace it.
That's stupid 😂
Not every kid is a blessing, especially when you're young, broke and stupid. I wss 22 when I had a kid and resent it every day. Then again, I never wanted a kid.
@@DHFlip18 dude you need therapy.
@@rachelgee7894 Really, why is that? If I was a woman, you'd call me a hero for speaking from the heart and talking about life's challenges. You'd patiently listen without criticizing or judging while we sip on our lattes. But heaven forbid a guy mentions his regrets or starts to open up and all we get is "you need therapy".
@@DHFlip18 then you shouldn’t have hopped in the sack. If you can’t feed ‘em then don’t breed ‘em.
I hope Dr. John just saved a life 🙏🏻
Ah, if you don’t want to have a baby, don’t do what makes your girlfriend pregnant. Next.
Bullseye
I like how John called him out for his word choices, this guy is immature
Yep he doesn't want to grow up
How is it in 2024 people haven't figured out how not getting pregnant yet??
Seriously....
And why don't people have a discussion about unplanned pregnancy when they are sexually active?
My partner and I did! He was 22 when we met and I was 20. I very clearly laid out that if I got pregnant, there was no way In hell I was getting an abortion! (I'm very pro choice by the way, other women can do whatever they please).
He warped it up while I wasn't on birth control and we abstained when we weren't sure if we weren't sure if it was safe.
And guess what? No pregnancy!
It's more like it's scary how many people lack self restraint. This in conjunction with insisting on progressing life in the wrong order (house and baby before ring, hook-up culture) and you get....this.
Welcome to adulthood guys...time to decide what you want and stop playing at it.
Unless I misunderstood, I’m saddened that abortion is even being considered.
That poor child. What sense does it make to get rid of a child and have children later. I hate how disposable everyone is treated. This call is messing with my anxiety.
Why are you so into strangers' life decisions? That's your problem if you get so much into it that you get anxious, it's not normal.
@@eg4514 We all are into strangers’ life decisions, which is why we watch this show 😂
@@kathyalex778 curious yes, but angry and obsessed no 😌 i observe and let go
@@eg4514 I didn't't read anger and obsession in original comment. However, all I read is gaslighting in your responses...
Hating the fact that someone can dispose (in other words, murder) a baby due to inconvenience, that affect others who believe abortion is murder...even strangers
@@lidiyam7950 but that’s just your problem too, isn’t is. ☺️ maybe work on it so stangers’ comment won’t upset you this easily
I am a chef... I work at Mcdonalds lol
😂😂😂
If you’re not willing to support and raise a child, don’t engage in things whose natural outcome can be children. Actions have consequences.
If they’re planning to have a future and family together, I feel like they would have so much regret if they went ahead with an abortion.
He mentioned adoption too…
Abortion, adoption, no offer of marriage, she will resent him forever!
Stop projecting.
@@anujpramanik1819 If one young woman feels regret there’s no point in YOU denying that possibility…
@@tugboat2 Without knowing anything about the person, how do you know they'll regret it?
This happened to my husband and I 33 years ago. We have a beautiful smart daughter with 2 master’s degrees. A happy marriage and are thinking about retiring this summer. Keeping that little girl was the best thing that ever happened to us. Blessings to your new family ❤️
@Delisha Pinto. 😊. We were married, ended up having abortion. Pressure from hubby - he didn't want baby yet.I will always regret that decision. Years later I struggled with infertility, suffered two miscarriages and many surgeries. We finally had a baby. a year later husband divorced me. My son is the greatest blessing in my life! We've had a great life and he is in his thirties now.
@@joane.3533 Oh sons are the best! I hope the Lord blesses you with lots of grandchildren.
@@ladysparkle6784 the lord already cursed her for committing the grave sin of abortion with miscarriages and divorce. Abide by the lord’s word and live great!
@@Cookieboy70 His commandments are because he loves us.
This happened with my girlfriend and I in our early 20's, adoption or an abortion were never on the table. I maned up and married her, that was 42 years ago, best decision I ever made. We now have 2 daughters and 5 grandchildren.
She isn't indifferent... she doesn't want her little boy/man leaving her. So she is willing to do whatever he wants to keep him. Also she is probably scared as well and looking to her partner to support her, give her strength and confidence to go into this next chapter of motherhood
How can one even think about getting rid of their own kid?
I am TERRIFIED for this child.
I'm not
I had two kids before age twenty three. That was far younger than I had ever wanted it to happen, in less than ideal circumstances. But These kids helped me grow and be a better person faster than anything else in my Life. Abortion doesn't erase a pregnancy, but obliterates a child, one you can never get back. I sincerely hope and pray that they figured it out, got married, and had their little one.
Imagine killing your baby out of fear of a difficult conversation with a parent… I really hope this couple chose to keep their precious gift.
You people need to quit looking at it as a full term thing. It's just a bunch of cells at this point and if you compared to other species side by side they all look the same. Yes, it has the potential to become a baby, but right now it's not. Pro-life people actually are not pro-life, they're anti-abortion. Quit telling people what to do with their bodies. Of course the argument will be what about the rights of the child. There is no child, just some dividing cells dependent on the the oven to bake it until birth.
If he's that on the fence now, once the baby gets here I give him 6 months and he and baby mama will be split up, he's going to skate, and will.complain about all the child support he has to pay. A baby usually does not help bring two unmarried people closer together if there's problems in the first place.
BET on it!
Even married people.... Too many people think having a baby will solve marital issues. Sleep deprivation and having to come up with diaper money rarely solves anything 😂
Thinking of not having “it” because of timing...
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He sucks!
Had my daughter at 21 and wouldn’t change a single thing! My husband and I have found creative ways to make it work and she is our greatest joy 🌼✨
Dude, have the kid. It's fricking amazing. Seriously it's the best thing that will ever happen to you
Eh, debatable.
That is so clique, It could be horrible.
So far I have LOVED being a parent! It can be tough but it’s amazing and continual comedy.
It goes both ways but the fact that your own seed is born nothing beats that.
@@Sheild401 do you have children?
this baby is not disposable based on your preferred timing. This is a human life with a unique set of DNA that will never be recreated again. Read the Bible man. Open it up and God will show you what you need to see. Don’t worry about where to start, just open it somewhere in the middle and start reading. I will be praying that you do not kill this baby. Children are a blessing from God. My husband and I are 21 and about to have a baby. We are even younger than you and making it work great. We planned for this child. You three will be in my prayers.
I just realized this was a year ago.. I hope they made the right choice 😔
Don't encourage people to have children when they are hesitant and immature. The child(ren) suffer a lifetime when they have incompetent/ immature parents. And it's even worse with selfish parents. I've seen all scenarios play out and I wish people would consider the long term effects when people aren't able to change.... which is more often than we would like to admit. I write as one of the kids of a man who should never have children.
Exactly!
The girlfriend isn't the one...he feels stuck
He's immature. He wants to keep playing house and being a kid.
@@wiseowl2020 He's 23 years old... Has barely had any life experience. You people need to get a grip. The girlfriend shouldn't have been with someone who wasn't ready for a kid yet. Stop blaming the man. It sounds like it was an unplanned pregnancy. The kid has every right to feel the way he is feeling.
@@ryanj357 I didn't say he wasn't entitled to his feelings. Something tells me the girlfriend made a decision to get pregnant, because she wants to get married. They were living together. It's still a woman's desire to be married not just shacked up. I think the conversation he's been avoiding has been about that, not whether he's ready to be a Daddy. That ship has sailed whether they stay together or not. I hope they can have an honest conversation about their future.
@@wiseowl2020 Agreed. Also if he was so afraid of getting pregnant before marriage why didn't he protect himself? Condoms?
@@ryanj357 you’re not a “kid” at 23 years old.
"I'm afraid of hard conversations so I'm considering adoption or abortion, hahaha"
He's immature, won't make a good father and will likely bail on any future kid, if there is one. Sadder yet, there are *plenty* like him.
Don’t have sex if you’re not ready to face the consequences
This generation is so callous. Talking about the baby like they are not talking about murdering their child and having another one later. Brutal.
This kid doesn’t want a baby. Grow up and be a man. Seriously, too many want freedom from their actions
Just wants to get rid of the “problem”. Knowledge drives out fear, go hang out with a dad friend and get some advice.
Doesn't make it any less of a problem...
Nope, makes for a bigger, more expensive 21yr old problem. With all the added stress. Adds nothing but stress and resentment.
If they were a few months pregnant, stick it thru, but at 5 weeks... go get an abortion and learn from your mistakes.
@@DHFlip18 I wish people would also take into account the cost of healthcare too
@@DHFlip18
Killing an innocent human being is never the answer
@@cloudedcolour5329 Healthcare costs money, that's true
Similar situation when I was 27 (30 now). I almost had a panic attack when finding out. Telling my parents was the hardest thing I ever did. And they were happy, I was worried for nothing. I wish I had heard this call back then. You’ll be fine. You will adjust
P.S you can’t call a Ramsey personality and expect them to take abortion as an option
Why do people associate him with ramsay?
@@Jeremy-wp4yh Because he is a Ramsey personality
This is what happens when you call people in their 20s babies.
Actions have consequences....
At the end a decision will be made
I understand what you mean by that, but many parents abuse their children because they view them as “consequences” instead of “blessings”. Best case scenario, the baby is born and their fear instantly turns to love, but that doesn’t always happen. And in those cases, the kid suffers terribly.
I'm 24 and I'm this guy, I didn't finish college and had so much shame about it. My parents are wildly successful and have PHD's and as their only kid I never felt like I amounted to what they wanted.
What do you want?
He's gotta just grow up and adjust. We all do it! He will love that child once it's here. 🥰❤
unless they do what they want and get an abortion
Not necessarily
He'll probably abandon it and be off with some other girl.
@@emmasharrod3808 your bitterness is showing
John talks about Parenthood as if it's the greatest thing in the world, he just needs to understand that not everyone has the same experience not everyone wants to have kids
🙏🙏🙏
@@nadiabusiness23 Jenny, you are a gem Thank you.
Truth.
If the guy didn't want to have kids, there's this thing called contraception!
@@AlannahGardener You assume that everyone who has kids did not use contraception.
What do you think was going to happen by “playing” adult. People don’t want to take responsibilities for their actions.
3 minutes and 40 seconds into the conversation and Dr. John already is at the root cause of the issue. wow.. he is amazing!
I’m so confused by adults. You don’t want a child from these circumstances, yet you created the circumstances. I don’t want a cake, so I guess I better go in the kitchen and bake one.
What a stupid analogy obviously they were dancing horizontally not intending on a fetus.
@@KS-cl8br There's about 1,000 ways to do that and not have a kid. They obviously didn't care at all about avoiding a child.
@@swackhammer2139 Which sounds like they shouldn't raise a kid.
@@swackhammer2139 its more fun when you do it the way that makes a kid
Well-said, GiGi! I agree with you 👍🏻
He already is a dad. She already is a mom. Adoption is a viable option but "Not having it" is not. You already have it. Embrace it! I LOVE my girls! They're such a blessing. And I thought I wasn't ever going to have kids. I'm so glad we did. You ARE a dad bro.
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They have a choice
@@isay207 they did have a choice and they chose to create a baby
No, they're not yet.
A lot of people yearn for the position this guy is in. To be a parent and to hold a child. I hope he realizes what a blessing it is and doesn't throw it away.
It's a blessing when you are ready for it and when you have the finances to support a baby, they don't have that, this baby will be a blessing, but also a burden because they very likely don't have the finances to support a growing child! I wish people would start using their brains before they just make a baby, there is NO excuse for an oops baby, with few exceptions.
They both have jobs they have finances for a baby
@@szatanowska No, it doesn't mean they have enough money. John knows money is a number one stressor between couples. They'll never make it.
Dig in. I was 23, 41 now. I dropped out of college, jumped on a local trade, did my trade as good or better than anyone else, now I own a small company in my trade. Took a minute, tho...
Nic pic
That doesn't mean other peoples' lives will turn out like yours. You weren't cut for college, which is fine. You were cut out for a trade, fine also. But you can't assume the same thing would work out for everyone else.
I haven’t had a baby, but I’ve heard no matter how much preparation you do beforehand, you’ll never be ready. It’s the unknown! A new beautiful experience that is a blessing even when we’re not in the best positions! Good luck to you and your girlfriend
Many parents regret having kids
"We're pregnant"...no she is. You're not at risk for gestational diabetes. You're not going to have morning sickness, fella.
I agree. I hate it when people say this.
Thank u....for clearing that up!! I'm so tired of hearing phrase from couples in the past 10 years....why people say...we're pregnant is so stupid! She is pregnant, I impregnated her, or we are going to be parents, etc etc...but WE...are not pregnant!!!
Chill you all
"We are pregnant" is just a phrase for saying the man is as much involved in the process as the woman. Even if it's more emotionally than physically.
As a woman yes the man isn't pregnant but he should be supporting her and helping take care of her. It's his baby. It's silly to me that woman want a man who is part of everything but complain when they try to be a part
It’s a celebratory statement of solidarity and Love … Heal yourself..
If they had that baby, just imagine telling the child when they grow up, our first thought was we were going to destroy you because it wasnt in our 5 year plan...so sad
This is just ridiculous...YOU'RE 23 YEARS OLD for goodness sake. No, you do not put your baby up for adoption, you MAN UP AND BECOME A FATHER. If the mom is on board and you can become a family together then great, thats the icing on the cake, but dude, come on, there is no question regarding what you as a MAN should do regarding your kid!!!
just because he doesnt want to be a parents not a bad thing, atleast he's saying it outloud now
Idk because if he really doesn’t want the child that bad, the poor baby will feel unloved by him their whole life.
@@emilymejia3656 Only an actual psychopath is incapable of loving their child - this guy is just looking for an excuse to wuss out of being an actual adult.
@@andrewawakened628 this is the dumbest comment ever and I am so tempted to report just for its stupidity
@@andrewawakened628 PLENTY of guys abandon their children, even children from a marriage. Sit in on family court some time. It's astonishing.
Some people simply don't want kids. Not everyone finds joy in that role of parenthood, and that's okay. The sad truth is that a lot of kids grow up in situations where they're not taken care of/loved/ect and sometimes I feel like people forget that and act like your "parental instincts" will fix things once you have a kid.
Exactly. Which is so dumb. Let every child be a wanted child.
So then they should’ve taken precautions.
@@claudiagirl3253 Oh definitely! I'm not saying they shouldn't have. It's just hard to know the full details from the call.
Amen Leanne!
@@claudiagirl3253 Like most people, you assume they didn't use protection. I used condoms EVERY TIME and my ex was on birth control and guess what... my son is now 13.
I never wanted a kid but she refused to get an abortion so here we are.
One correction Dr John, he’s not ‘about’ to be a dad, he’s IS a dad. An abortion doesn’t change that.
It certainly does.
so true. that is absolutely the truth. big mistake to buy into the about to be a dad. He is a dad. abortion will not change that there is a baby. weather they kill it or not there is a baby.
This call breaks my heart. If men only knew how destructive it is to the soul of a woman to go through with an abortion, they would never even opt it as an option.😔
This guy is so immature and selfish. And STOP calling it "The Kid"
Ah, everyone can shack up and play house but keeping your baby is an issue ?
having a baby is nothing like shacking up and playing house. it's a lifelong commitment that requires some self sacrifice to do a good job.
Um you missed the point. Playing house and shacking up is all fun a dandy but when the real responsibility and results come from playing around you don't want the responsibility of a baby.
@@whitneyw.7919 everything worth doing requires commitment and sacrifice.
Shacking up is a choice between adults. Aborting a baby is taking away a life and possibly an entire generation of people after that.
@@rebeccaoprea9917but not everything that requires sacrifice is worth the sacrifice
Man up & propose. That's what she wants. She isn't indifferent. She lacks confidence because he is noncomittal. She thinks he will leave her. This is a family, not a business plan.
Even if he married her, he'd likely leave her raising kids by herself. Has happened millions of times.
Sends chills down my spine when I hear parents say “yeah we will kill our kid out of convenience” like it’s no big deal and there aren’t consequences for decisions .
Hope they made the right decision.
Pull out game is weak!
😂 Pull out game weak indeed!
John Delony is the best friend you always needed. He is so relatable, so knowledgeable, so down to earth. Love his sense of humor, his wisdom and his sage advice.
😭💔.. Man up and take responsibility!!
I was married 6 years and when i found out i was pregnant i actualĺy jumped up and down i was so joyful and excited
Nice story, but it's not *their* story.
@@emmasharrod3808 Why are you commenting on every single persons post? You sound hurt and pathetic. Having a baby is a blessing and I know this because I am currently 7 months pregnant and I can’t wait to meet my daughter. You should feel ashamed about commenting under literally every post about why this guy should basically encourage his girlfriend to kill their baby when it’s clear that the guy in the video would probably regret that decision in the future. Just because you’re okay with killing babies doesn’t mean he should be
@@emmasharrod3808 why are you commenting under every single person’s post?! You sound very hurt and pathetic. Having kids is a blessing and I know this because I am currently 7 months pregnant and I’m so excited to meet my daughter. You should feel ashamed of yourself for encouraging a guy who clearly would regret getting rid of the baby in the future to go forward with it. Just because you are okay with murder doesn’t mean he should be.
I started listening to this and my one year old woke up. It will be a blast!
This caller is unbearable to listen to.
Keep this quiet if you are working for Ramsey Solutions.
My husband and I married young (very early 20s) and found out we were expecting in our first year of marriage. My husband was over the moon and I was scared out of my mind. When I dug deep, I realized the reason I was scared was bc my Mom had expectations for me to achieve before I had kids. It wasn't about me and what made me feel happy. Sure, I was terrified. But I wanted a gaggle of kids. I have 2. Turns out, my body isn't keen on harboring life for 9-10mo. I have had many miscarriages between my two kids. But our oldest changed the course of our lives in such a positive way (we weren't going down any bad paths) I couldn't imagine life being any different. I am so thankful God was/is in control on that! He is a teen now...and that is challenging some days, but the majority of the time there are these shared smiles between my husband and I on an unspoken thing (too many emotions to name it). I wouldn't trade it for a second! Take the adventure. I really hope he did.
I didn't hear any encouragement from John with the caller mentioned adoption. You have two uneducated young people each with barely above entry jobs, she's pregnant and this isn't their idea of "the right time." If adoption is a consideration for them, there are hundreds of prospective parents in their state who would be blessed to raise this child. In most states, the adoptive parents can cover all the costs related to the pregnancy and delivery....so no worries about that. I don't understand how people can consider killing it, but somehow feel that they can't give it away. I have little doubt that they will likely decide to raise the child themselves, but as a person who became a mom thru adoption, if it truly is not the right time for them, seriously consider adoption as a possibility.
If they're both on the same page about not having it then that's what they should go with regardless of what anyone has to say because they aren't in their relationship.
False. Abortion is not the answer.
@@LadyK007 In my comment I said if that's what they want to do then that is what they should stay with. Hence why I said it is their relationship. Do not impose your morals onto them. If you'd keep the baby then that would be your decision.
@@LadyK007 It is for some. Not your call.
I can't believe they want to put the kid up for adoption. He's 23. Both have good jobs.
just because they're x age and have 'good' jobs doesn't mean they want to be or would be decent parents
Both have “jobs.” I wouldn’t call retail manager and bank teller good jobs by any stretch.
I think they are just freaking out. I believe they will make the right decision.
@@laurenalmeyda6916 and adoption or abortion might be the right descision for them
Those are not good jobs
He doesn’t want to be with her they would be married already he was trying to wait and see if something better came along
You may have a point. Hard to generalize though without fully knowing the situation
He’s only 23 years old. They’ve only been together for 3 years, that’s not a lot at that age. He doesn’t even have a degree and probably not a house either. I don’t blame him for being scared, 23 is very young to be a parent.
I think you may be right.
I never understand men that react like this. Say hello you're having sex you're not using protection. Hello
My ex husband did this
except he ghosted me moved out while I was sleeping and started dating immediately with other women. Can you say narcissist will alway's pull some crazy stunt's. 🤣🤣🤣
That's so sad.
Wow, i hope this young man chooses for his future. It's okay to abort and come back another way when you are financially stable. A lot of people say keep it but then they will need to get WIC and SNAP. Really? No, do what is best for your future. It puts all kind of pressure on you and your partner. Yall want to be the most emotionally and financially fit parents to your child.
Your comment should be pinned to the top of these comments.
Funny thing about abortions: So many women who get them then have trouble, afterwards, either conceiving or carrying a child to term. That doesn’t seem to happen with adoption…
"We're leaning towards not having it". You already have it son, now your deciding whether to kill it or not
John, I love your honesty about yourself and your family.
Patrick is a friggin jerk. Dump him regardless of your decision. He's not a serious option and in the relationship until. If he doesn't know by now, he is not into her that much.
Get married. Have your baby. Make a family. This lack of responsibility makes me sick.
Step 1 : get her to start prenatal care
Step2: marry , civil ceremony
Step 3: move in together
Step4: watch Dave Ramsey on UA-cam to get financial guidance
You got this !
They already live together
@@olivias2836 More reasons for them to get married.
Don't forget step: divorce
@@DHFlip18 and you dont have to be married to raise a child, I wish more people would take that into account
@@cloudedcolour5329 Exactly
A significant percentage of fetuses are lost in the first trimester. That is why the custom used to be not to tell anyone about expecting until after the first trimester.
They don’t even know yet that there is going to be a baby…
Sex = Baby…😂 why is it so hard for some people to understand?
I find it remarkable that John didn’t ask any questions about what their relationship was like. He’s not only encouraging them to have the baby; he’s encouraging them to keep the baby. I think they should have the baby. I think anyone who gets pregnant should have the baby but that doesn’t mean they can’t give it to someone who’s ready.
Man, time to grow a pair and become an adult. Aborting the kid is a cop out and weak
He is Self- Sabotaging this Urgh
I wouldn’t know what to do if my wife got pregnant. The thought is horrifying and I’m 33. Couldn’t imagine it at 23 I was a literal child
Dude please wtf
@@madagirl2026 You’ve never met someone who didn’t feel comfortable with raising a kid? The responsibility of it seems completely overwhelming. Me and my wife have been dating since we were 15 years old and still don’t feel like we have our life together well enough to raise an entire other human being.
@@thorneto2742Sounds like your wife does have a child, hes just 33yr...
Why can't you get it together? Even if you didn't want a child. You are doing something wrong or making selfish decisions at this point. Get a mentor, hang out with people who have it together and figure out what you need to do. Poor wife!
@@lifeaccordingtotheo9643having your life together is different than having it together to the point where you can finance (monetarily, emotionally, and physically) another human being for the next 18+ years. Having children ruins a lot of relationships, adds a ton of financial stress, and causes people to lose their identities. Everyone I know who has children complains about them constantly. Knowing you're not ready to take a huge risk that many people often regret later is a sign of maturity.
@@lifeaccordingtotheo9643 I can assure you my wife wants a kid even less than I do
He’s not “about to be a dad” he is a dad. That’s the only thing that was bothering me.
A baby might die cause he's a little surprised? Grow up dude and take responsibility. We needed papa dave on this call.
Just get married and have the kid, not that hard
And be miserable like everyone else.
This is my second time hearing Dr. John. I found his neutral to topic does not provide the guidance the caller needed. Not all people find life fulfillment in parenthood. Yes it is possible they change their mind when I have it but it also possible they won’t. And the caller and his girlfriend are young and does not have their career together. I would freak out too if i were in their shoes. This is a personal choice that they have to make decisions for themselves. Dr. John should help them a little by navigating their situation by asking hard questions so they know their feeling and chose for themselves.
ABORTION IS NOT AN EASIER CHOICE DUDE!!! EVERY CHOICE HAS IT'S RAMIFICATIONS, PERIOD!!! 🙄🙄🙄🙄
You can't know which is the better choice for them.
There is no such thing as being truly ready for a baby. But it's really an amazing experience.
For SOME people. A lot of people divorce or become seriously depressed after having a child. You need to be careful about promoting your opinions as facts.
The fact that he’s 23 and afraid to tell mommy and daddy... that’s pathetic. Why should a pregnancy become a question mark just because someone is an overgrown child?
Because someone is an overgrown child.
I think he is at a crossroad and that is what is freaking him out- not the baby specifically. " Do you want to go to college or not?" "Do you want to marry this person or not?" I think he is forced to make big decisions and that is the issue.
Right.. that's life and he needs to grow up
I’m sick of hearing people guilted into being parents before they’re ready.. & then we’re all surprised when they raise monsters or are awful parents.
Guilted into? He is already a dad. A baby exists. It has its own DNA and it grows. If he's not ready he should have kept it in his pants and none of this would have happened
So sad to see that when he talks about the reasons they might decide to abort their baby the reason "because we would be killing our child" doesn't even seem to be a consideration...all he is concerned about is how it might affect him and the gf...so sad.
A decision for abortion can haunt them for the rest of their lives. It would be incredibly sad as a couple. When a second (planned) child is born, do you ever, ever stop wondering about the first?
@@sandrab.3538 nope i didnt, never have since it wasnt what either me or my ex wanted
Lying to yourself is so convincing and convenient.. Wait till you will be in your 70' lonely and unwanted by anyone, same as those poor babies in your womb, mourdered in mom's womb what a horror! Undeserving womb... Baby is such miracle everyday of development of the fetus in the womb is miraculous
@@szatanowskaEveryone is destined to die. So all biological parents are technically murderers. Whether it was planned or not.
@@szatanowska HAHA. "Wait until you're 70!" :)
Play stupid games win stupid prizes.
This dude was playing house, now is his time to man up.
He can't. He's not emotionally a man yet.
Good on him for being honest but as a new dad to hear another father say they are ok with “not having” their baby makes me so sad and angry. Dr J was right, when that little baby grabs your finger or stares right into you eyes… there’s nothing like it. Future fathers- STEP UP! Lead your family in love and ALWAYS choose your baby and your wife!
Neither he nor GF sounds ready to. and Oklahoma is a no abortion state, what, past six weeks?
Is that why so many men leave the mother of their child after the child is born?
This same dude gon be calling back saying his wife has checked out in a few years 😂 can y’all tell?!? Or is it just me?!
I’m not sure she’ll ever be his wife. He doesn’t seem to have much drive.
I don’t have kids but I couldn’t deny my child. Got to man up. Hes got to accept that his life will forever be different. Cant go back and change it
I’m glad that John described what becoming a father and being a father is like for him. It’s most definitely not like that for everyone said the woman whose husband decided he didn’t want to be a husband or father and opted out. I’m not sure this guy is ready to have a kid. I don’t think it’s a good idea to try to convince him…
I am absolutely NOT advocating for abortion but I hope they consider adoption.
Who knows? Maybe the girlfriend is sick of waiting to be proposed to and purposely got pregnant.
I was 23 when we had our first and we’re still going strong together.
Good for you. Truly. But that's not most stories. It's just YOUR story.