The Daily Stoic is an amazing book and one I’ve reflected on often. It’s rad that you shared and it’s OK to be a bit on the spectrum, most brilliant and creative people are. It’s a good thing
You’re the same person you just gave yourself a label that to us your no one different hear you and your beautiful and wonderful! Why would a label make someone decide not to want to follow you that would makes no sense at all. God bless you and life is wonderful, especially without pouring poison down our throats! ❌❌🙏
Mikaela sending you so much love! I was diagnosed last year at 34, and I msged you previously to say I thought I could see traits in you ❤ I'm a fellow sober autistic gal! Xx
Oh Lizz! 🫶🏼 🌼 Yes, you have been in my thoughts.. I’ve looked back at your comment a few times and it’s one of the main reasons I even explored the idea! Tea would be wonderful - feel free to pop your number over to my email if you like! Equally I love the sea! Speak soon! Xx
Happens to the best of us. We don’t come to this planet to be perfect. We are all so far from perfect and we’re all going through something. You are totally fine in my books!
Very honest video. Don’t feel down for too long. In low situations I try and look at what I do have, instead of what I haven’t. Life is your journey. Everyone has bad days and good and you will feel more yourself again. Don’t feel like you need to gain acceptance of others. Be yourself and you’ll attract the right people into your life. Chin up. You’ve got this 👊🏻
Thank you that’s really great advice 😊 It’s definitely led to a deeper sense of self acceptance already - emotions come and go but I definitely wouldn’t change it. Thanks again for listening in 🙏🏼🌸
@@tomaszruszczyk6384 Yoyo!! It's a good starting point on stoicism - always grounds me at the start of my day, when my brain sometimes otherwise tries to tell me negative stories. I'm guessing most of us relate to that at some point! 😁I am! I'm just waiting on hearing back from someone on Facebook Marketplace to sell me their tripod and I'll be able to finish this video - or maybe I'll just do it anyway and DIY it (but its amazing how hard it is without one) 😂Pretty much how I've gotten through life anyway haha. Have a wicked day - Summer has returned to London & I am so happy about it!! 💫☀
Damn Kayla, you’re so honest with yourself and brave to share this. So glad to hear your connecting with your mum about your experiences. Routin for ya
Oh damn! Howdy Chris! Haha, I didn't see this coming but I really appreciate such a kind message from someone who knew me so many years ago (during a really weird time). There was a lot I hid back then & definitely didn't know how to be myself. But hey!! If you "Gotta be somebody" it's best to be ourselves.. amiiriiiiight 🤣 (i had to get at least one reference in there) I'm so happy to see the life you've created ya feckin badass! Sending my best to you & your gorgeous fam 😁
@@recoverywithme hahahah you had to squeeze one in - nicely done lol. We were all trying to find ourselves back then, always good to reflect back and see how far we've come but always is good to put more energy into manifesting whats to come. and thank you! little man's growing like a weed!!!
Thank you for sharing your video. Everyone has imperfections but we are all unique, given certain talents and skills to make this world a better place. I am now curious about Autism as I share similar traits.
Thank you for listening in! Very well said and yes, UA-cam seems to be the place where so many people find answers to so many things! I am so grateful that we live in a time of self publishing in a sense.. it’s such a gift! Curiosity is one of my favourite traits overall! 💛
What's All This Then? So the plot thickens, eh? Well shit the bed! Sounds like your journey just got a bit more interesting! That took guts girl, and you gave me a sadz, but I refuse to be worried, because you are strong & intelligent, and have come too far to get derailed by some ubiquitous underlying neuropsychological deficit! I am confident that the universe will allow you to embrace this as just another part of you, and keep moving in a positive direction, you did say this was a 'clean slate' right, make it work for you! Very Best Wishes
The sadz make way for the.. happs?! Haha! I'm feeling good about it - a lot less anxious! You remind me however that I do need to scrub up on my vocabulary. Brilliant comment, thank you so much - hope all is well on your end also! 🤗
Same deal here, official diagnosis and yet so many that still think even the diagnosis isn't real either - but honestly a societal lack of embracing and respecting mental health, human nature, etc in America I would argue. Focused on grind and production, many unaware of how much they might be neglecting their own health for sure - sleep for one, diet, fitness - but even the mental health exploration and integration/embracing of a more authentic self. Feel like I've heard it all when it comes to social criticisms "get with it" - "open up" - "weird" - "strangest most unusual human I've ever met in my life" - and yet I'm not aware of doing anything unusual or anxious or holding back but rather constantly trying to mask and pretend to be neurotypical. Alcohol or other substance abuse certainly can have a chapter in the life of someone dealing with neurodivergent conditions and a much deeper risk of accumulative stress compared to just social anxiety or phobia due to perhaps neglect or poor socialization, etc. The stress with autism is inherent disconnect from socialization neurotypical brains inherently pick up on and take for granted. Further understanding. masking strategies (a good thing in my opinion, a survival skill), and acceptance is key for sure - an integration with the authentic self within, regardless.
I felt the same at the beginning of finding this out too! I can safely say that it starts to settle quite quickly. The more I learned about adult Autism in women, the more at home and accepting I felt about myself. When you know, you know but as with everything, imposter syndrome will usually kick in and ask annoyong questions like "but am I Autistic enough". When we're used to feeling like a bit of an alien in society, we will always question if we really fit. I am doing a lot of work on self acceptance as we speak, learning that I do belong, I have a right to take space in my own life.. The sensetive parts of me, the ones I rejected for so long, are in fact the best parts of me?! Who knew? Self acceptance and forgiveness are the keys to JOY! This is the start of a very beautiful new world for us, let's take our time exploring it 💛
@@recoverywithme Thank you for sharing that an being so vulnerable. 💚 I am right here with you, learning to accept and honor the way I am and unlearning all of those toxic messages and expectations that are out there. Btw. I am also sober for a year. This is when it really started to show how sensitive I am to a lot of stimuli and how much I struggle with social stuff.
You're clearly on the high functioning spectrum of Autism. A lot of people haven't heard of Asperger's syndrome but it's complicated and misunderstood.
Hi Mikaela I started watching your videos to help me stay sober and your story is so alike to mine. Now this video is making me question if I am also autistic as I also see my traits in yours. Just wondering how you got diagnosed what was the process ? As I have no idea where to start
Hey! Thanks for your comment! It can be really overwhelming at first but whatever the outcome, getting to know ourselves better is always a good thing! So there are a few options (depending on your country). Here in the UK there are options to 1. Self refer through your local council autism service. Just google the name of your council (for example Hackney Adult Autism Service). You can self refer directly - or 2. contact your GP and say you would like an autism referral. It’s quicker to just self refer as it ends up with the same service but you can take the longer route through your GP if you want to. They will go through a number of standard questions (and are often not well trained on adult autism so don’t be put off if they’re dismissive). Go prepared with a list of what you want to discuss and don’t worry if you get imposter syndrome - it’s common to feel uncertain about most things at this stage. 3. you can pay privately but I recommend you find an established service with the right qualified people. Many scams out there diagnosing adhd and autism. You can also go through insurance if you have it. The NHS waiting list is around 9 months to a year. Once your referral is accepted by your local autism service (there are a few forms involved and they will ask your caregivers to answer questions on your childhood). They will contact you once they’re ready for your in-person assessments. Again, there is a real lack of training on adult autism, especially in women. Stay strong in your reasons for wanting to explore this and know you have an absolute right to do so ❤️
I was wondering where you’ve been. I already knew You’re a very brave person and this just adds more pages to an already great book. I’m sure whatever comes next will just as wonderful and exciting. I’ll be watching you take care and I’ll see you in the next video🫶
Awh, I felt this comment ♥️ What an intense journey but I’m so grateful that I finally understand why life has been such an overwhelming experience! I wouldn’t change it and I hope you feel some similar self love & acceptance hehe. Thank you so much for sharing 😊 🥄
Thank you so much for taking the time to listen to my story. Love always, Mikaela x
The Daily Stoic is an amazing book and one I’ve reflected on often. It’s rad that you shared and it’s OK to be a bit on the spectrum, most brilliant and creative people are. It’s a good thing
It's a great way to start the day! Thank you so much for your encouraging words of support! Means the world 😁 RAD!
You’re the same person you just gave yourself a label that to us your no one different hear you and your beautiful and wonderful! Why would a label make someone decide not to want to follow you that would makes no sense at all. God bless you and life is wonderful, especially without pouring poison down our throats! ❌❌🙏
Mikaela sending you so much love! I was diagnosed last year at 34, and I msged you previously to say I thought I could see traits in you ❤ I'm a fellow sober autistic gal! Xx
I live in Brighton, if you ever fancy a chat, I'm happy to pop to London for a tea! Xx
Oh Lizz! 🫶🏼 🌼 Yes, you have been in my thoughts.. I’ve looked back at your comment a few times and it’s one of the main reasons I even explored the idea! Tea would be wonderful - feel free to pop your number over to my email if you like! Equally I love the sea! Speak soon! Xx
I will pop you an email this week 🥰
Im in shock to find your channel. Our history are so much alike. Thank you very much for sharing. hugs from 🇦🇷
Oh wow! It makes me so happy to share when I see comments like yours! Thank you for sharing back to me & sending so much love 💛✨
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You got this sis 👊. Your bravery is really inspiring 🙏.
Thank you 😊 Means so much to read this, your message is inspiring this side!! 💛
Happens to the best of us. We don’t come to this planet to be perfect. We are all so far from perfect and we’re all going through something. You are totally fine in my books!
Thanks Shawn - we most definitely all face our challenges & I am grateful for the life I wake up to each day ☺
Very honest video. Don’t feel down for too long. In low situations I try and look at what I do have, instead of what I haven’t. Life is your journey. Everyone has bad days and good and you will feel more yourself again. Don’t feel like you need to gain acceptance of others. Be yourself and you’ll attract the right people into your life. Chin up. You’ve got this 👊🏻
Thank you that’s really great advice 😊 It’s definitely led to a deeper sense of self acceptance already - emotions come and go but I definitely wouldn’t change it. Thanks again for listening in 🙏🏼🌸
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Thanks so much for the support T! 🥹🤘🏼
@@recoverywithme Thanks for the book recomendation 😁 It's good to know you're doing pretty fine 😀 Take care luv x x x x x x
@@tomaszruszczyk6384 Yoyo!! It's a good starting point on stoicism - always grounds me at the start of my day, when my brain sometimes otherwise tries to tell me negative stories. I'm guessing most of us relate to that at some point! 😁I am! I'm just waiting on hearing back from someone on Facebook Marketplace to sell me their tripod and I'll be able to finish this video - or maybe I'll just do it anyway and DIY it (but its amazing how hard it is without one) 😂Pretty much how I've gotten through life anyway haha. Have a wicked day - Summer has returned to London & I am so happy about it!! 💫☀
Damn Kayla, you’re so honest with yourself and brave to share this.
So glad to hear your connecting with your mum about your experiences. Routin for ya
Oh damn! Howdy Chris! Haha, I didn't see this coming but I really appreciate such a kind message from someone who knew me so many years ago (during a really weird time). There was a lot I hid back then & definitely didn't know how to be myself. But hey!! If you "Gotta be somebody" it's best to be ourselves.. amiiriiiiight 🤣 (i had to get at least one reference in there) I'm so happy to see the life you've created ya feckin badass! Sending my best to you & your gorgeous fam 😁
@@recoverywithme hahahah you had to squeeze one in - nicely done lol.
We were all trying to find ourselves back then, always good to reflect back and see how far we've come but always is good to put more energy into manifesting whats to come.
and thank you! little man's growing like a weed!!!
It's so lovely to see you back. You are so brave and I'm so glad I found your channel. Sending love and support x
Thank you, it really means the world 💛
Im so proud of you💛. Love to take part of your wisdom and honesty💛🌿
This comment made me so emotional! 🥹Tack 🤗🫶🏼 I appreciate this more than I can say & I feel much the same 💛🌸
Sending love to you Mikaela, no one is perfect ! Enjoy what you love doing 🥰
Letiii! Thank you so much, I hope Denmark is bringing you so much joy!! Such a wonderful move! 🧡
Thank you for sharing your video. Everyone has imperfections but we are all unique, given certain talents and skills to make this world a better place. I am now curious about Autism as I share similar traits.
Thank you for listening in! Very well said and yes, UA-cam seems to be the place where so many people find answers to so many things! I am so grateful that we live in a time of self publishing in a sense.. it’s such a gift! Curiosity is one of my favourite traits overall! 💛
Wishing you the best 🤗
Thank you so much Erik! Same to you! ☺
What's All This Then? So the plot thickens, eh?
Well shit the bed!
Sounds like your journey just got a bit more interesting! That took guts girl, and you gave me a sadz, but I refuse to be worried, because you are strong & intelligent, and have come too far to get derailed by some ubiquitous underlying neuropsychological deficit! I am confident that the universe will allow you to embrace this as just another part of you, and keep moving in a positive direction, you did say this was a 'clean slate' right, make it work for you!
Very Best Wishes
The sadz make way for the.. happs?! Haha! I'm feeling good about it - a lot less anxious! You remind me however that I do need to scrub up on my vocabulary. Brilliant comment, thank you so much - hope all is well on your end also! 🤗
Same deal here, official diagnosis and yet so many that still think even the diagnosis isn't real either - but honestly a societal lack of embracing and respecting mental health, human nature, etc in America I would argue. Focused on grind and production, many unaware of how much they might be neglecting their own health for sure - sleep for one, diet, fitness - but even the mental health exploration and integration/embracing of a more authentic self.
Feel like I've heard it all when it comes to social criticisms "get with it" - "open up" - "weird" - "strangest most unusual human I've ever met in my life" - and yet I'm not aware of doing anything unusual or anxious or holding back but rather constantly trying to mask and pretend to be neurotypical. Alcohol or other substance abuse certainly can have a chapter in the life of someone dealing with neurodivergent conditions and a much deeper risk of accumulative stress compared to just social anxiety or phobia due to perhaps neglect or poor socialization, etc. The stress with autism is inherent disconnect from socialization neurotypical brains inherently pick up on and take for granted. Further understanding. masking strategies (a good thing in my opinion, a survival skill), and acceptance is key for sure - an integration with the authentic self within, regardless.
Very well put - thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts and for listening in 💛
@@recoverywithme Happy to share and likewise! 😎
I am shocked how similar we feel 😮❤
I felt the same at the beginning of finding this out too! I can safely say that it starts to settle quite quickly. The more I learned about adult Autism in women, the more at home and accepting I felt about myself. When you know, you know but as with everything, imposter syndrome will usually kick in and ask annoyong questions like "but am I Autistic enough". When we're used to feeling like a bit of an alien in society, we will always question if we really fit. I am doing a lot of work on self acceptance as we speak, learning that I do belong, I have a right to take space in my own life.. The sensetive parts of me, the ones I rejected for so long, are in fact the best parts of me?! Who knew? Self acceptance and forgiveness are the keys to JOY! This is the start of a very beautiful new world for us, let's take our time exploring it 💛
@@recoverywithme Thank you for sharing that an being so vulnerable. 💚
I am right here with you, learning to accept and honor the way I am and unlearning all of those toxic messages and expectations that are out there.
Btw. I am also sober for a year. This is when it really started to show how sensitive I am to a lot of stimuli and how much I struggle with social stuff.
You're clearly on the high functioning spectrum of Autism. A lot of people haven't heard of Asperger's syndrome but it's complicated and misunderstood.
I agree, there is much work to be done across this area :)
Hi Mikaela I started watching your videos to help me stay sober and your story is so alike to mine. Now this video is making me question if I am also autistic as I also see my traits in yours. Just wondering how you got diagnosed what was the process ? As I have no idea where to start
Hey! Thanks for your comment! It can be really overwhelming at first but whatever the outcome, getting to know ourselves better is always a good thing! So there are a few options (depending on your country). Here in the UK there are options to 1. Self refer through your local council autism service. Just google the name of your council (for example Hackney Adult Autism Service). You can self refer directly - or 2. contact your GP and say you would like an autism referral. It’s quicker to just self refer as it ends up with the same service but you can take the longer route through your GP if you want to. They will go through a number of standard questions (and are often not well trained on adult autism so don’t be put off if they’re dismissive). Go prepared with a list of what you want to discuss and don’t worry if you get imposter syndrome - it’s common to feel uncertain about most things at this stage. 3. you can pay privately but I recommend you find an established service with the right qualified people. Many scams out there diagnosing adhd and autism. You can also go through insurance if you have it. The NHS waiting list is around 9 months to a year. Once your referral is accepted by your local autism service (there are a few forms involved and they will ask your caregivers to answer questions on your childhood). They will contact you once they’re ready for your in-person assessments. Again, there is a real lack of training on adult autism, especially in women. Stay strong in your reasons for wanting to explore this and know you have an absolute right to do so ❤️
I was wondering where you’ve been. I already knew You’re a very brave person and this just adds more pages to an already great book. I’m sure whatever comes next will just as wonderful and exciting. I’ll be watching you take care and I’ll see you in the next video🫶
What a kind message - really, really special Thank you so much 💛☺
Forgot to tell you that,”you’re fuckin awesome!”😉
@@stephenmaher2265 Haha that's such a wicked P.S!! 🤗Back at YOU 😄
@@recoverywithme I put a like heart but this is the only way I know how to❤️😂have a beautiful evening 🌟
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I know these "i know i am autistic" tears, after 16 months i remember them as yesterday. I am sending you spoons 🥄🥄🥄 .. at least
Awh, I felt this comment ♥️ What an intense journey but I’m so grateful that I finally understand why life has been such an overwhelming experience! I wouldn’t change it and I hope you feel some similar self love & acceptance hehe. Thank you so much for sharing 😊 🥄
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Appreciate you ☺