I totally agree as a fellow collector❤ dolls are my kids and are my therapy too in hard times.. but even the best medicine in overdose is potentially harmful. One period of my time I couldn't afford partial rent and food to buy only dolls and got time till find again my right line. I collect till today but more mindful now ;)
Dolls have brought me joy and happiness, but I find it's easy for me to cross the line where the hobby becomes stressful instead of fulfilling. I have to be conscious of that and step away when I need to. I seem to easily fall into buying a doll "because it's there" and not necessarily because I truly want it. Sometimes I feel dull and almost sick, as if I've eaten too many sweets.
@@marilynmcfall7637 doll lines closing, sales when dolls are cheaper but you have no money for them at this moment, needing more space to display, dust, plastic yellowing and on and on😃
I'm glad her attitude doesn't affect the joy you get in doll collecting! I never understand why some people get their backs up about others' hobbies/passions. It has nothing to do with them. 🤷🏻♀️
Hi, Julie. I am an old lady. I have always loved dolls. I agree with you on all points. I started collecting Barbie dolls about 45 years ago when my daughter was a little girl. I started for her. She never liked dolls so then I started collecting Barbie dolls for me. I am not adverse to being considered a big kid. I am a big kid!!! I try to limit myself to 150 Barbie and Ken dolls. Storage you know. My problem is I like to build Barbie doll houses. I limit myself to 15 houses. Storage you know. I also collect books. Yeah- storage you know. I enjoyed your video.
A collector can collect anything from art to dolls to match book holders. Collections or what we go to museums to admire there’s no such thing as a child versus adult collector. A collector is a collector, a person, put it together items and displays them. I am thankful to all the collectors of museums whose collections I’ve been able to admire over the years who are no longer with us at the times hold onto things they are treasure keepers from the past bits of history that have been preserved. May we all live our own life to our satisfaction?
Creating your own parameters is one of the fun parts of creating a collection. I feel like the more specific the parameters the better the collection. There are individual dolls I would love to buy but if they don’t fit in with what I want my collection to be, I don’t buy them. Helps save money too!
I really ramped up my doll collecting during the pandemic, and now I am dealing with the fallout from that. Fortunately it's mostly a space issue and not a financial one. After 10+ years of collecting, I have finally hit the point where I have more dolls than I would reasonably want to display, even if I did have the space to do it. I am in the process of editing my collection, which is a lot harder than just not buying the dolls in the first place ha ha.
The doll editing/culling process can be difficult for sure! I have a feeling an inventory check is coming up for me soon too. Thanks so much for stopping by!
I completely agree with you that we need to take the time to actually appreciate the dolls we have. I make sure I do just that before I add another. I'm 54 and still lack funds and space to acquire it all. I don't need it all. I just want to look at them and smile. Thank you for this.
This is such a good video! I had actually been planning a video something similar to this topic as well. I have learnt that I don’t need to get everything doll that exists and just get my favourites. Things I do to help me not spending too much is just enjoying my current collection like you and Veronica have said! I redress my current dolls and rearrange my shelves to just refresh them and it gives me a similar feeling to getting a new doll.
You are very articulate and I agree with your points. I am sometimes distressed about how much I spend on my dolls but I do listen to those feelings and dial back. This makes me feel I am not addicted. I also practice appreciation of the dolls I already have by watching reviews and giving them new outfits. We are quite alike in those habits.
I always wanted to find Barbies I had as a child. The husband would always talk me out of it. But when he got really sick which lasted a few years, I found comfort and joy in searching and bidding on eBay and attending a few barbie shows to find these Barbies and then some memories came back of Barbies I forgot I had like the Dawn and Darci dolls. Collecting vintage clothing from the 60's - 70's is also something I still try and find from time to time. But like you said, it became a little obsessive in the beginning but has definitely slowed down. But I love to change their clothing from time to time. I do have 2 display cases, and now my 3 year old granddaughter loves them and it does bring a smile to my face watching her enjoy them as much as I do.🥰
Your Barbie/clothing collection sounds awesome, and how wonderful that your granddaughter also enjoys your dolls! Dolls have definitely gotten me through hard times--they are magic and medicine ❤🩹
I am so happy to see another who dislikes the term “kidult” lol. I really liked the things you mentioned in this video, you were very articulated and sincere, which is such a rarity online nowadays. 💗
Loved this!! I always enjoy hearing your thoughts and commentary. You capture a lot of my sentiments and deliver them in ways much better than I could say it!
I feel like I have collecting constipation. I constantly justify why NOT to buy dolls to the point I don’t buy them but really really want to. I’d love to collect without feeling guilty that the money could be spent in a “better” way. I have a bit of an addictive personality though, once I start then I find it very very difficult to stop. Then one day I did stop, I sold off most of my collection bar 3 dolls and yet I spend most days looking online at dolls and longing to expand my collection. Then beating myself up and telling myself what all else the money could go on instead of cluttering up the place with dolls. It’s really frustrating me that I can’t seem to give myself the permission to buy what would make me happy.
I can definitely relate to the mindset of feeling like I could be spending money on "something better/more useful." It took me a really long time to overcome it, and sometimes I still have to manage those feelings of guilt/retail remorse. I remind myself: What better way to spend my money than on something that brings me joy and that isn't hurting anyone else? After all, "tomorrow is never promised." Sending you all positive vibes as you navigate your collecting constipation. You'll get through it!
i do collect more than i am comfortable with. I agree that editing social media is really helpful. I try to fill my feed with customizers, sewists, photographers, etc. I have a lot more peace of mind and fun when I play with my dolls, as opposed to buying dolls
Love this! I also try to fill my social media feeds with different content that's not just doll hauls/unboxings (though I love those videos, too!). It not only helps curb my spending but inspires me to get creative. Thank you for sharing 💜
Wishing you all the luck on your dolly low-buy in 2024. And be gently on yourself if things don't always go as planned! Habits like this can take years of practice--I'm *still* practicing!
Thank you for your thoughts☺️ I think the biggest aspect in keeping your collecting hobby healthy is patience!! I started collecting again after the death of my father because he used to gift me dolls. I spent all my money and basically lost my mind. Only when I realized that this is not a healthy way of coping and distanced myself for a while, I could collect in a healthy way again. It‘s really important (as you said) to limit yourself. I do the same trick and just keep one space for all my dolls. I just wanna keep the ones that I find beautiful or that mean a lot to me. I only buy one doll a month or every two months. It keeps me grateful for the collection I already have. Sorry for rambling but I wanted to share this 🤍
Thank you so much for sharing your perspectives and experience! Others who are in a similar situation will undoubtedly find comfort and encouragement from your comment 🩷
Yes!!!! I’m 25 and I started collecting last year. When I first we started I went spend crazy for any 90’s Barbie’s. I just kept buying for months, until I randomly just switched to the 2000’s 😭 now I don’t even want to look at my 90’s. But I of course still love them very much but I overwhelmed myself with them
Commenting that i just rewatched this video. I appreciate your thoughts. My collecting has slowed down for sure (thank goodness!!). And yes rewatched videos of dolls I have makes me happy.
Thank you!! 🥰 I definitely hit peaks and valleys with my acquisitions! Speaking of, I had ordered RH Lilac Lane, but she never came!! So I canceled the order. MH Monster Ball Clawdeen is on her way 😅
My fashion doll ,collection has grown since Christmas. I want to buy 2 more dolls, then im happy just to watch doll and make doll clothes. I also have a doll journal ❤
I realized ive been buying too much recently! I definitely buy when im sad or depressed and i have barely been able to make rent recently! I feel like i have been getting too many dolls at once to even enjoy some of them!
My fantasy self loves the idea of 15-20 dolls--it's the sweet spot! But then I stop deluding myself 😅 Hope you acquire your dream-list dolls to complete your collection!
@@TheDollCoventhanks for your reply! I love your videos & seeing how many adults love doll collecting has made me so much more comfortable showing off my collection on my socials. You have great taste in dolls!
To have 15-20 dolls sounds amazing to me. It would be fantastic but unfortunately impossible for me. I admire smaller collections. I can see the dolls have been carefully chosen. Videos showing walls of complete RH or MH collections don't appeal to me. I find these walls of dolls soulless.
"Happy with 20 dolls!!!" Who are these people that you speak of?? 🤔🤣... Disclaimers! Please 🤦🏻♀... it's our sole responsibility how we collect. Kiddult is ridiculous, & another unnecessary label. I love my dolls & collecting is really fun & satisfying to me. Good video 🌸💖
So happy to hear that you're loving your collection as it stands. I'm also trying to slow my roll and am intending to make more customs as a way of doing that, since they're take time and effort 🩷
Un gran video ! Cuanta razón tiene pues muchas veces se vuelve una adiccion algo compulsiva . Adoro las muñecas creo por que de niña nunca tuve una ,y hoy en día pues me suple ese vacío. Comencé mi colección hace poco pero tomé la decisión drástica de obtener solo muñecas de una que otra artista y de marcas conocidas( Paola reina,Nancy ,gotz,Maru friend y con mucho esfuerzo de Diana Effner,3 Barbie y 5 de porcelana) las tengo en una vitrina y siento que es suficiente y relajante algunas veces las contemplo les cambió de ropa ,tomo fotos,luego las dejo un tiempo.Maravilloso pasatiempo,gracias por compartir su opinión ,pues estoy completamente de acuerdo con usted👍🙏
I just bought a new RH. Husband, "Make sure you are playing these dolls with your daughter." What?! She plays with ALLLL my dolls. She's still not dextrous enough to change clothes...
I think collectioning is a consumerism hobby and people can fall prey to consumerism simply, and there is a line of moderation that needs to be maintained
Absolutely, and it's up to each individual to decide where to draw that line of moderation. It is our own responsibility and ours alone--no one else's. Thank you so much for watching!
My 23 year old child is upset that I spend so much on dolls when she needs dental work. I sent $2000. for her dental work, skipping getting my own done, and putting off other expenses as well, and I'm somewhat bitter about it as it's put me in debt (which I wouldn't have been without the heavy doll buying). I feel some friction between us now. I think there's some battle over who's the kid here, but I know I have unresolved issues from childhood and I'm desperately trying to work them out. I'll probably never finish doing that. I think buying Barbies though is better than buying liquor, and I noticed my focus shifted from one to the other last summer when I quit drinking. I also have been diagnosed obsessive compulsive personality (let's not call it a disorder), so if I go off Barbies, I'll switch again to something else to obsess over, in my endless drive to find the perfect "solution". There's also the topic of "object constancy". I talk about that in my psychology of doll collecting upload, 'cause I'm thinking about this too.
@@collectablechaos No, she's a student. But she has dental insurance now. For further explanation, I was given $2000. as an adult for dental work from my father, so I was passing the favour along. Poor kid had the same issue, root canal, and all the pain that that causes. I wanted to stop the pain, and do the same kind thing that my Dad had done for me. Just the once though.
I really enjoyed this video and wholeheartedly agree with you on all these points. Like you i collect dolls and decks. Both collections have gone through the "acquiring" stage and now reached a nice balance where i enjoy them without necessarily expanding the collection. Im by no means a completeist though, i cherry pick dolls i love and who fit in with my overall aesthetic. My collecting took off when i felt settled in my home after years of moving around and living out of suitcases. It makes me feel settled and grounded. I absolutely stand by the idea that we are adults so we can do as we please as long as it doesn't cause harm to ourselves or other people (my partner thought Blythes were weird at first but he got used to them and now he appreciates their 1970s vibes) 😊❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷 i went over to collecting vintage clothes for my dolls which us cheaper, takes up a fraction of the space and is in a way more fun as you get so many looks out of the same dolls ✨💕💖😻
It’s not a disease, it’s therapy. I am 74 years old and I still collect dolls. They bring me comfortable in an otherwise depressive world. 🤗🤗🤗
I've said it many times: Dolls are magic and medicine for me 🥰 So I completely agree with you!
I totally agree as a fellow collector❤ dolls are my kids and are my therapy too in hard times.. but even the best medicine in overdose is potentially harmful. One period of my time I couldn't afford partial rent and food to buy only dolls and got time till find again my right line. I collect till today but more mindful now ;)
@@paraskevitsoni6394 💗💙💜
Dolls have brought me joy and happiness, but I find it's easy for me to cross the line where the hobby becomes stressful instead of fulfilling. I have to be conscious of that and step away when I need to. I seem to easily fall into buying a doll "because it's there" and not necessarily because I truly want it. Sometimes I feel dull and almost sick, as if I've eaten too many sweets.
This is very relatable--you're definitely not alone in this! Thank you for watching and sharing your own experiences 💙💗💜
How does doll collecting become stressful?
@@marilynmcfall7637 doll lines closing, sales when dolls are cheaper but you have no money for them at this moment, needing more space to display, dust, plastic yellowing and on and on😃
I have had that exact feeling!
Yes. Sometimes.
My mom said that I'm being childish for collecting dolls but idrc since it makes me happy and I spend my own money anyway.
I'm glad her attitude doesn't affect the joy you get in doll collecting! I never understand why some people get their backs up about others' hobbies/passions. It has nothing to do with them. 🤷🏻♀️
@@TheDollCoven true. And we’ve never really had a good relationship anyway so i don’t really care about her opinions at this point.
Hi, Julie. I am an old lady. I have always loved dolls. I agree with you on all points. I started collecting Barbie dolls about 45 years ago when my daughter was a little girl. I started for her. She never liked dolls so then I started collecting Barbie dolls for me. I am not adverse to being considered a big kid. I am a big kid!!! I try to limit myself to 150 Barbie and Ken dolls. Storage you know. My problem is I like to build Barbie doll houses. I limit myself to 15 houses. Storage you know. I also collect books. Yeah- storage you know. I enjoyed your video.
Ugh, storage. YES. Thank you so much for being here and commenting! I loved getting your perspective 🩷
A collector can collect anything from art to dolls to match book holders. Collections or what we go to museums to admire there’s no such thing as a child versus adult collector. A collector is a collector, a person, put it together items and displays them. I am thankful to all the collectors of museums whose collections I’ve been able to admire over the years who are no longer with us at the times hold onto things they are treasure keepers from the past bits of history that have been preserved. May we all live our own life to our satisfaction?
🙌🏻 🎯💯
Creating your own parameters is one of the fun parts of creating a collection. I feel like the more specific the parameters the better the collection. There are individual dolls I would love to buy but if they don’t fit in with what I want my collection to be, I don’t buy them. Helps save money too!
Specific parameters definitely help to save money, for sure! Thank you for sharing! 💜
I really ramped up my doll collecting during the pandemic, and now I am dealing with the fallout from that. Fortunately it's mostly a space issue and not a financial one. After 10+ years of collecting, I have finally hit the point where I have more dolls than I would reasonably want to display, even if I did have the space to do it. I am in the process of editing my collection, which is a lot harder than just not buying the dolls in the first place ha ha.
The doll editing/culling process can be difficult for sure! I have a feeling an inventory check is coming up for me soon too. Thanks so much for stopping by!
I completely agree with you that we need to take the time to actually appreciate the dolls we have. I make sure I do just that before I add another. I'm 54 and still lack funds and space to acquire it all. I don't need it all. I just want to look at them and smile. Thank you for this.
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch and comment!
This is such a good video! I had actually been planning a video something similar to this topic as well. I have learnt that I don’t need to get everything doll that exists and just get my favourites. Things I do to help me not spending too much is just enjoying my current collection like you and Veronica have said! I redress my current dolls and rearrange my shelves to just refresh them and it gives me a similar feeling to getting a new doll.
Thank you so much! Oooh rearranging shelves just for a refresh--I hadn't thought of that. What a great idea!
I can’t help it. Whenever I find a poor neglected doll and I have to rescue it and fix it up. Then give some away.
I love that you save neglected dolls--they need love too!
You are very articulate and I agree with your points. I am sometimes distressed about how much I spend on my dolls but I do listen to those feelings and dial back. This makes me feel I am not addicted. I also practice appreciation of the dolls I already have by watching reviews and giving them new outfits. We are quite alike in those habits.
Thank you so much for watching! 🥰 Yes, I agree that addressing the feelings of stress is important in reassessing our purchasing desires/decisions!
I always wanted to find Barbies I had as a child. The husband would always talk me out of it. But when he got really sick which lasted a few years, I found comfort and joy in searching and bidding on eBay and attending a few barbie shows to find these Barbies and then some memories came back of Barbies I forgot I had like the Dawn and Darci dolls. Collecting vintage clothing from the 60's - 70's is also something I still try and find from time to time. But like you said, it became a little obsessive in the beginning but has definitely slowed down. But I love to change their clothing from time to time. I do have 2 display cases, and now my 3 year old granddaughter loves them and it does bring a smile to my face watching her enjoy them as much as I do.🥰
Your Barbie/clothing collection sounds awesome, and how wonderful that your granddaughter also enjoys your dolls! Dolls have definitely gotten me through hard times--they are magic and medicine ❤🩹
I am so happy to see another who dislikes the term “kidult” lol. I really liked the things you mentioned in this video, you were very articulated and sincere, which is such a rarity online nowadays. 💗
Aw, thank you so much for your kind words 🥰
💙💙💙 Heck yes! Cheering from the back row!!
Thank you, Theia! 🥰😘
Loved this!! I always enjoy hearing your thoughts and commentary. You capture a lot of my sentiments and deliver them in ways much better than I could say it!
Ah thank you so so much, Tina! 💗💚💜
I feel like I have collecting constipation. I constantly justify why NOT to buy dolls to the point I don’t buy them but really really want to. I’d love to collect without feeling guilty that the money could be spent in a “better” way. I have a bit of an addictive personality though, once I start then I find it very very difficult to stop. Then one day I did stop, I sold off most of my collection bar 3 dolls and yet I spend most days looking online at dolls and longing to expand my collection. Then beating myself up and telling myself what all else the money could go on instead of cluttering up the place with dolls. It’s really frustrating me that I can’t seem to give myself the permission to buy what would make me happy.
I can definitely relate to the mindset of feeling like I could be spending money on "something better/more useful." It took me a really long time to overcome it, and sometimes I still have to manage those feelings of guilt/retail remorse. I remind myself: What better way to spend my money than on something that brings me joy and that isn't hurting anyone else? After all, "tomorrow is never promised." Sending you all positive vibes as you navigate your collecting constipation. You'll get through it!
I have the opposite.
My advise is, don’t trust auction houses because I was badly ripped off by a very well known antique doll auction. Disgraceful and dishonest.
My advice is, don’t trust auction houses because I was badly ripped off by a very well known antique doll auction house. Disgraceful and dishonest.
Love this very well made and informative video.
Well said! Such perfect balance. Great timing for me to find this video. Thank you! - Kada 🤗
Many thanks, Kada, and wonderful to see you here. I've been a quiet lurker of your channel for a little while now--love it! 😊
i do collect more than i am comfortable with. I agree that editing social media is really helpful. I try to fill my feed with customizers, sewists, photographers, etc. I have a lot more peace of mind and fun when I play with my dolls, as opposed to buying dolls
Love this! I also try to fill my social media feeds with different content that's not just doll hauls/unboxings (though I love those videos, too!). It not only helps curb my spending but inspires me to get creative. Thank you for sharing 💜
I just started toy collecting. I am doing it slow and small at this time.
A smart approach that definitely helps to prevent any retail remorse or overwhelm!
I Wish I Could Stop Buying Dolls..I Needed To Hear This!!!! Thank You!!!!!
Going To Try To Buy Less In 2024...Need To Cut Down On Spending....
Wishing you all the luck on your dolly low-buy in 2024. And be gently on yourself if things don't always go as planned! Habits like this can take years of practice--I'm *still* practicing!
Thank you for your thoughts☺️ I think the biggest aspect in keeping your collecting hobby healthy is patience!! I started collecting again after the death of my father because he used to gift me dolls. I spent all my money and basically lost my mind. Only when I realized that this is not a healthy way of coping and distanced myself for a while, I could collect in a healthy way again. It‘s really important (as you said) to limit yourself. I do the same trick and just keep one space for all my dolls. I just wanna keep the ones that I find beautiful or that mean a lot to me. I only buy one doll a month or every two months. It keeps me grateful for the collection I already have. Sorry for rambling but I wanted to share this 🤍
Thank you so much for sharing your perspectives and experience! Others who are in a similar situation will undoubtedly find comfort and encouragement from your comment 🩷
Kidult < Adollting. 😁
Adollting, I can totally get on board with! 😌😁🩷
I love that you said “no tea, no shade” 😍🤗 Also completely agree! Love this! 🤗
🫖🍵😄Thank yeeeew! 🥰
Collecting is wonderful!
Yes!!!! I’m 25 and I started collecting last year. When I first we started I went spend crazy for any 90’s Barbie’s. I just kept buying for months, until I randomly just switched to the 2000’s 😭 now I don’t even want to look at my 90’s. But I of course still love them very much but I overwhelmed myself with them
It happens to the best of us--many doll collectors can relate! Thank you for sharing 🩷
I'm new here and I love your content!! I am a doll collector and it has helped me my whole life.
Thank you so much! That's so lovely that doll collecting has brought you such joy and support throughout your life. Dolls are magic and medicine 🩷
good points all around. nice vid
Appreciate it!
Commenting that i just rewatched this video. I appreciate your thoughts. My collecting has slowed down for sure (thank goodness!!). And yes rewatched videos of dolls I have makes me happy.
Thank you!! 🥰 I definitely hit peaks and valleys with my acquisitions! Speaking of, I had ordered RH Lilac Lane, but she never came!! So I canceled the order. MH Monster Ball Clawdeen is on her way 😅
@@TheDollCoven😂😂😂 to still getting a new doll regardless (RH to MH)
My fashion doll ,collection has grown since Christmas.
I want to buy 2 more dolls, then im happy just to watch doll and make doll clothes.
I also have a doll journal ❤
Hi B! I also have a doll journal 💜 I really wish I could make doll clothes. Looking forward to seeing the outfits you design for yours! 🩷
I realized ive been buying too much recently! I definitely buy when im sad or depressed and i have barely been able to make rent recently! I feel like i have been getting too many dolls at once to even enjoy some of them!
Totally common/natural feelings to have! You're not alone 🩷
I think I’ll be happy with about 15-20 dolls, I have about 6 now and have a few on my dream list
My fantasy self loves the idea of 15-20 dolls--it's the sweet spot! But then I stop deluding myself 😅 Hope you acquire your dream-list dolls to complete your collection!
@@TheDollCoventhanks for your reply! I love your videos & seeing how many adults love doll collecting has made me so much more comfortable showing off my collection on my socials. You have great taste in dolls!
To have 15-20 dolls sounds amazing to me. It would be fantastic but unfortunately impossible for me. I admire smaller collections. I can see the dolls have been carefully chosen. Videos showing walls of complete RH or MH collections don't appeal to me. I find these walls of dolls soulless.
"Happy with 20 dolls!!!" Who are these people that you speak of?? 🤔🤣... Disclaimers! Please 🤦🏻♀... it's our sole responsibility how we collect. Kiddult is ridiculous, & another unnecessary label. I love my dolls & collecting is really fun & satisfying to me. Good video 🌸💖
20 dolls does seem a bit lean, doesn't it 🤣j/k Nice to meet another Julz! Thank you for watching💜💗💚
I have 25 dolls and im content with my collection im trying to take a step back till summer
So happy to hear that you're loving your collection as it stands. I'm also trying to slow my roll and am intending to make more customs as a way of doing that, since they're take time and effort 🩷
Brilliant video
Thank you, Stephanie!🥰
great video juli ❤
Thank you, Candy!!
Un gran video ! Cuanta razón tiene pues muchas veces se vuelve una adiccion algo compulsiva . Adoro las muñecas creo por que de niña nunca tuve una ,y hoy en día pues me suple ese vacío. Comencé mi colección hace poco pero tomé la decisión drástica de obtener solo muñecas de una que otra artista y de marcas conocidas( Paola reina,Nancy ,gotz,Maru friend y con mucho esfuerzo de Diana Effner,3 Barbie y 5 de porcelana) las tengo en una vitrina y siento que es suficiente y relajante algunas veces las contemplo les cambió de ropa ,tomo fotos,luego las dejo un tiempo.Maravilloso pasatiempo,gracias por compartir su opinión ,pues estoy completamente de acuerdo con usted👍🙏
Thank you so much for your comment! Doll collecting really is a wonderful hobby that I'm so grateful for 🩷
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I just bought a new RH. Husband, "Make sure you are playing these dolls with your daughter." What?! She plays with ALLLL my dolls. She's still not dextrous enough to change clothes...
I, too, bought a new RH 👏🏼🤣
Great video! U made many valid points about collecting.
Thank you so much for watching, Marilyn!
My sister told me to stop buying dolls. And watch TV. I said to her point out one show that would keep my interest. And I would stop buying dolls.🤔
Great response! 😆🙌🏻
I think collectioning is a consumerism hobby and people can fall prey to consumerism simply, and there is a line of moderation that needs to be maintained
Absolutely, and it's up to each individual to decide where to draw that line of moderation. It is our own responsibility and ours alone--no one else's. Thank you so much for watching!
like my husband collets hats lol
Yes, exactly! 😆
My 23 year old child is upset that I spend so much on dolls when she needs dental work. I sent $2000. for her dental work, skipping getting my own done, and putting off other expenses as well, and I'm somewhat bitter about it as it's put me in debt (which I wouldn't have been without the heavy doll buying). I feel some friction between us now. I think there's some battle over who's the kid here, but I know I have unresolved issues from childhood and I'm desperately trying to work them out. I'll probably never finish doing that. I think buying Barbies though is better than buying liquor, and I noticed my focus shifted from one to the other last summer when I quit drinking. I also have been diagnosed obsessive compulsive personality (let's not call it a disorder), so if I go off Barbies, I'll switch again to something else to obsess over, in my endless drive to find the perfect "solution". There's also the topic of "object constancy". I talk about that in my psychology of doll collecting upload, 'cause I'm thinking about this too.
Thank you for sharing--family dynamics can be so hard! 🫂 I look forward to checking out your psychology on collecting video 💜
Your child is an adult... She should find her own job and pay for her expenses. Did she offer to pay it back over time, at least?
@@collectablechaos No, she's a student. But she has dental insurance now. For further explanation, I was given $2000. as an adult for dental work from my father, so I was passing the favour along. Poor kid had the same issue, root canal, and all the pain that that causes. I wanted to stop the pain, and do the same kind thing that my Dad had done for me. Just the once though.
Can you please please make a video showing the barbie dolls you have on your thumbnail?
Ah, sorry for the false advertising--that's just a public domain thumbnail, so they're not my dolls! 🫠
I love the points you made and the way you delivered them. There is such a candor in your voice. 🤍
Aww, thank you so very much! 🥰
I really enjoyed this video and wholeheartedly agree with you on all these points. Like you i collect dolls and decks. Both collections have gone through the "acquiring" stage and now reached a nice balance where i enjoy them without necessarily expanding the collection. Im by no means a completeist though, i cherry pick dolls i love and who fit in with my overall aesthetic. My collecting took off when i felt settled in my home after years of moving around and living out of suitcases. It makes me feel settled and grounded. I absolutely stand by the idea that we are adults so we can do as we please as long as it doesn't cause harm to ourselves or other people (my partner thought Blythes were weird at first but he got used to them and now he appreciates their 1970s vibes) 😊❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💜🩷 i went over to collecting vintage clothes for my dolls which us cheaper, takes up a fraction of the space and is in a way more fun as you get so many looks out of the same dolls ✨💕💖😻
Hello, fellow decks-and-dolls collector! Thank you for watching and sharing your perspectives! Totes agree 🙌🏻🩷