So many things that I believed were unique to me alone are not even close to being unique but are a part of my dyslexia. When I am bored I can tell myself a story complete with several different characters and an entire storyline which is okay when you have nothing else to do. Still, at night I wake up and do the same thing and find it hard to fall back asleep in the middle of a story. So weird.
Hmm interesting. I do relate to this. However, I will often thing in terms of positive or negative, or if/then statements in my head accompanied with a visualization of how it would happen. I will also imagine conversations or scenarios to the point that it feels like they happened, even though they didn't, so I no longer have as strong of a desire for them to occur. Thus, I'll just stay home or never talk to someone about something important.
I often had these visualizations on how things will go, what will be the talks about, or just the whole evening events. And I was always disappointed when it didn't happen. For a long time I just stopped planning everything, because my plans and visualization of how it will go, have proven to be totally different from the reality. And I was stuck and still stuck at home where I'm feeling comfortable.
I woke up this morning, thinking about I want to understand the behaviors of my dyslexia, which I was diagnosed in elementary school here in the US. Excited to explore your channel and learn more about some of the behaviors that most of us deal with. Don’t get me wrong I see my creativity, my visual aspect, and my openness, due to my dyslexia, however, in other aspects, it’s so difficult to be a human when you see the world so differently , so I’m looking forward to seeing your perspective, and learning more.
From the moment I was diagnosed with dyslexia, my life became easier and harder at the same time. I was always thinking that I'm stupid, and can't clearly express my thoughts, but I read a lot, I know a lot of things and I was very depressed that I can't do what others can. But now I know that this is a disorder, and I'm not stupid, but you still can't control it. And before I was just thinking that I'll go home and learn or do everything to become more like others, but that didn't bring any results. Or just for a short time. Now, I just don't see the point in doing it because it won't change the situation. I know that there are techniques to learn to live easier with dyslexia, but I guess we just need to find those people and that environment where doing it won't cause such pain and the people will understand why you are like this. I hope you find those people.
I don't think there is a method, I'm a dyslexic, and my girlfriend knows about it. And she is very understanding sometimes, but I often see now that she is tired about it. The things that I forget, the indecisiveness, sometimes apathy because I can't understand why the things are like this and not differently. I have the problem with the understanding of why things are like this and not differently, when it's clearly should be different. Language rules, the position of things, the fashion, and when we start talking about these things it's a bad evening. I'm sure that my point is the right one, she is sure about her, but the problem is that I do understand her point and why she thinks she is right. But she can't understand my point, and not because she is stupid or anything, she is actually 5 times smarter than me, but because she can't understand how my mind works at that time and why for me, those things are illogical. So I just wish you the best.
I can kinda relate. Close people would say I can be indecisive. But I feel I can certainly make a firm choice sometimes; but that’s knowing the outcomes and applying logic. Yet when I can’t see the outcome, visualise, then it’s much harder. I want feedback. It’ll apply to yin & yang situations too, or ones either unpleasant consequences also - each path doomed and the lesser of evil isn’t apparent. But… I also think I hate failure. People say I’m a perfectionist and only see in B&W. But I think I actually think through to step ten, at two extremes , only to wait and hear the ideas and compromises on the scale in between. I’m happy to acknowledge there’s options in between. And I hate letting others down, (and also hate to see things fail even for my self); that’s less about perfectionism; that’s me saying I should’ve known better. I’m far more comfortable when I have a plan B & C; and also if the consequences are dulled down to be regarded trivial. I have a high moral compass on not letting things slip or passing the buck. Imagine how that person must feel when I let them down; yikes.
I’m struggling so bad to even handle the tiniest decision that doesn’t even matter, like what color something should be that will only matter for a couple minutes. It’s crippling me. Can stress make our symptoms worse? I feel I’m stuck in a cercle because I feel the stress is making it worse, but then I’m becoming more stressed because every single decision is stressing me out.
This is fascinating. I never thought about it in this way but you're absolutely right, I do this also....I give the decision making away to other people because it just takes me sooooooo long to decide or make a plan of the steps to take to get me there. I generally don't plan any more actually. I just say yes when someone invites me to something because I find it too hard to coordinate my own plan.
I'm Dyslexic but have no issue what so ever making a decision. I do find it difficult to argue a point with someone when they put up a counter argument, as I have three or four alternatives retorts come in to my head at the same time, and by the time I chose one I've missed the continuity and have not been able to flush the idea out while still being attacked, but being able to bag down on the a right path to move forward whether in business or personal life no problem.
I read the comments and I realized one thing. The best way for a dyslexic to remember, decide and do what the person wants, is to understand the meaning of it. For example, I need to decide which food to eat today, please kill me, I need to decide where to go, I'll stay at home. I need to remember to do those things, but i keep forgetting. And if i write it down, I forget to look down what i wrote. A hell, just a hell. But, if understanding the meaning of it, it become easier. I need to eat today, and I need to decide what to eat. The understanding that the heavy food at night is bad, you need to peak something small and more from vegetables. Which means salad, and I usually try 1-2 salads and just peak them every time. Because i don't wanna choose and what if i don't like the new one. But, the understanding that trying every peace of salad, write down why you liked it or not, will help separate the bad ones and for the future just go with each peace for different days by the number and on repeat. But this will help to leave the bad feeling that you didn't try it because you are indecisive and scary that you won't like it. Better to try and have this experience, than regretting that you didn't try and maybe it was worth trying. 😂😂😂 A good action plan for us with dyslexia, is a better life. Too bad that we can't make that plan. If someone is ready to make my daily activities plan or my life plan, I'm willing to cooperate😂
I noticed that my new dyslexic friend grasps a word out of a sentence that I say and changes the meaning of it….how do I manage this situation in a Skype chat OR I take a word out of what he says and he seems to get very upset…what is happening in this case study?
The more I dive down understanding myself the more normal people seem odd. My biggest problem is time, it's like it doesn't exist. So if I need to make a decision on what to do with the kids, I will do every options and then find out I completely messed up 😮 as it was impossible to do all that in one day.
Oh this is interesting. I’m an adult with dyslexia and didn’t realize this was something I do. I am also codependent and a codependency trait is not being able to make a decision and rely on someone else to make the decision. So interesting!
Interesting label - I would say that it is a lot more complicated than just being "codependent". Decision making is a particular area of struggle for people with ADHD and Dyslexia.
So many things that I believed were unique to me alone are not even close to being unique but are a part of my dyslexia. When I am bored I can tell myself a story complete with several different characters and an entire storyline which is okay when you have nothing else to do. Still, at night I wake up and do the same thing and find it hard to fall back asleep in the middle of a story. So weird.
But also an amazing talent!
Hmm interesting. I do relate to this. However, I will often thing in terms of positive or negative, or if/then statements in my head accompanied with a visualization of how it would happen. I will also imagine conversations or scenarios to the point that it feels like they happened, even though they didn't, so I no longer have as strong of a desire for them to occur. Thus, I'll just stay home or never talk to someone about something important.
I often had these visualizations on how things will go, what will be the talks about, or just the whole evening events. And I was always disappointed when it didn't happen. For a long time I just stopped planning everything, because my plans and visualization of how it will go, have proven to be totally different from the reality. And I was stuck and still stuck at home where I'm feeling comfortable.
This was so spot on, for me. And also, I see how it was my Mom as well.
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I woke up this morning, thinking about I want to understand the behaviors of my dyslexia, which I was diagnosed in elementary school here in the US.
Excited to explore your channel and learn more about some of the behaviors that most of us deal with. Don’t get me wrong I see my creativity, my visual aspect, and my openness, due to my dyslexia, however, in other aspects, it’s so difficult to be a human when you see the world so differently , so I’m looking forward to seeing your perspective, and learning more.
From the moment I was diagnosed with dyslexia, my life became easier and harder at the same time. I was always thinking that I'm stupid, and can't clearly express my thoughts, but I read a lot, I know a lot of things and I was very depressed that I can't do what others can. But now I know that this is a disorder, and I'm not stupid, but you still can't control it. And before I was just thinking that I'll go home and learn or do everything to become more like others, but that didn't bring any results. Or just for a short time. Now, I just don't see the point in doing it because it won't change the situation. I know that there are techniques to learn to live easier with dyslexia, but I guess we just need to find those people and that environment where doing it won't cause such pain and the people will understand why you are like this. I hope you find those people.
I just met someone for the first time ever who is dyslexic and need to know how to communicate with him..he loves me deeply
I don't think there is a method, I'm a dyslexic, and my girlfriend knows about it. And she is very understanding sometimes, but I often see now that she is tired about it. The things that I forget, the indecisiveness, sometimes apathy because I can't understand why the things are like this and not differently. I have the problem with the understanding of why things are like this and not differently, when it's clearly should be different. Language rules, the position of things, the fashion, and when we start talking about these things it's a bad evening. I'm sure that my point is the right one, she is sure about her, but the problem is that I do understand her point and why she thinks she is right. But she can't understand my point, and not because she is stupid or anything, she is actually 5 times smarter than me, but because she can't understand how my mind works at that time and why for me, those things are illogical. So I just wish you the best.
I can kinda relate. Close people would say I can be indecisive.
But I feel I can certainly make a firm choice sometimes; but that’s knowing the outcomes and applying logic. Yet when I can’t see the outcome, visualise, then it’s much harder. I want feedback. It’ll apply to yin & yang situations too, or ones either unpleasant consequences also - each path doomed and the lesser of evil isn’t apparent.
But…
I also think I hate failure. People say I’m a perfectionist and only see in B&W. But I think I actually think through to step ten, at two extremes , only to wait and hear the ideas and compromises on the scale in between. I’m happy to acknowledge there’s options in between. And I hate letting others down, (and also hate to see things fail even for my self); that’s less about perfectionism; that’s me saying I should’ve known better.
I’m far more comfortable when I have a plan B & C; and also if the consequences are dulled down to be regarded trivial. I have a high moral compass on not letting things slip or passing the buck. Imagine how that person must feel when I let them down; yikes.
I’m struggling so bad to even handle the tiniest decision that doesn’t even matter, like what color something should be that will only matter for a couple minutes. It’s crippling me. Can stress make our symptoms worse? I feel I’m stuck in a cercle because I feel the stress is making it worse, but then I’m becoming more stressed because every single decision is stressing me out.
Very informative, I’m trying to learn more about my dyslexia so I can manage my life better . This is so accurate!
This is fascinating. I never thought about it in this way but you're absolutely right, I do this also....I give the decision making away to other people because it just takes me sooooooo long to decide or make a plan of the steps to take to get me there. I generally don't plan any more actually. I just say yes when someone invites me to something because I find it too hard to coordinate my own plan.
Great observation - thanks so much for sharing.
I'm Dyslexic but have no issue what so ever making a decision. I do find it difficult to argue a point with someone when they put up a counter argument, as I have three or four alternatives retorts come in to my head at the same time, and by the time I chose one I've missed the continuity and have not been able to flush the idea out while still being attacked, but being able to bag down on the a right path to move forward whether in business or personal life no problem.
Yes.. im constantly overwhelmed and paralyzed by decision making 😢
I am so sorry to hear that :(
I read the comments and I realized one thing. The best way for a dyslexic to remember, decide and do what the person wants, is to understand the meaning of it.
For example, I need to decide which food to eat today, please kill me,
I need to decide where to go, I'll stay at home.
I need to remember to do those things, but i keep forgetting. And if i write it down, I forget to look down what i wrote. A hell, just a hell.
But, if understanding the meaning of it, it become easier.
I need to eat today, and I need to decide what to eat. The understanding that the heavy food at night is bad, you need to peak something small and more from vegetables. Which means salad, and I usually try 1-2 salads and just peak them every time. Because i don't wanna choose and what if i don't like the new one. But, the understanding that trying every peace of salad, write down why you liked it or not, will help separate the bad ones and for the future just go with each peace for different days by the number and on repeat. But this will help to leave the bad feeling that you didn't try it because you are indecisive and scary that you won't like it. Better to try and have this experience, than regretting that you didn't try and maybe it was worth trying. 😂😂😂
A good action plan for us with dyslexia, is a better life. Too bad that we can't make that plan. If someone is ready to make my daily activities plan or my life plan, I'm willing to cooperate😂
For me
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2nd🍿🥤
,and probably never to 🍺🍷 because of Carbamazepine for my Epilepsy.
I noticed that my new dyslexic friend grasps a word out of a sentence that I say and changes the meaning of it….how do I manage this situation in a Skype chat OR I take a word out of what he says and he seems to get very upset…what is happening in this case study?
If ☕️🍵 is closed than 🍣🥠,or 🍦🍨 instead.
Yes that is me
That’s me all over
I really thought everyone think’s like this 😅
I know right?!
Do non dyslexic brains not do this? I’ve never had a bone dyslexic brain so I assume everyone has the same kinds of thoughts.
Non dyslexic brains operate very differently indeed!
The more I dive down understanding myself the more normal people seem odd. My biggest problem is time, it's like it doesn't exist. So if I need to make a decision on what to do with the kids, I will do every options and then find out I completely messed up 😮 as it was impossible to do all that in one day.
Oh this is interesting. I’m an adult with dyslexia and didn’t realize this was something I do.
I am also codependent and a codependency trait is not being able to make a decision and rely on someone else to make the decision.
So interesting!
Interesting label - I would say that it is a lot more complicated than just being "codependent". Decision making is a particular area of struggle for people with ADHD and Dyslexia.