I think it’s a good change to get a different opinion from Kati’s, especially if it’s not from a therapist. I’m not gonna lie Kati is hella educated and experienced with the therapist side! But sometimes I like when I get her thoughts and another persons ideas!!
Hi Katie I want to thank you again for being a part of our lives. Your channels are a big help and most certainly a light of inner comfort and support. I really appreciate you in all that you do for us. P.s. I hope you don't let any of the negative comments get to you. We all have our critics now matter how perfect one may seem. We revolve in a world with many mixed emotions, ideologys and buried inner hurt that provokes anger bringing some unlikable comments that can make someone feel less to what they should. But just know deep down inside that your followers that respect and appreciate you for what you do for us by taking your time and effort to help us mend or see things more clearly see you in a colorful and bright light. Your loving, awesome, amazing and all of the above! So please just ignore them and continue to do you with confidence! -Peace and Love
I loooove when you’re as open and honest like you were in the beginning of this video. A reminder that therapists are humans with real lives too. And just like you said, also a reminder that everyone feels tired, down and out sometimes. It did indeed make me feel less lonely in my struggles. So thank you for that! ❤️
It is difficult to see yourself as a child and forgive yourself when the adult version judgement is that it was your fault, when you really didn't have the understanding of what or why something abusive was done to you. Especially if you were living in surroundings of narcissism where it seems nothing was ever the abusers fault.
If we are being honest most people only care so long as it doesn't greatly inconvenience them. Like when people say "if you need anything" or "how are you doing?" No one ever wants an honest answer, they just want the credit for checking in.
Thank you. That first one was the same situation I had - my sibling was the GC squeaky wheel and I was shoved to the side, also b/c they had a disease. But I had the neglect and the attacks both. I never knew which I would get; ignored, attacked, or dismissed.
I find it hard to categorise the trauma I experienced as a child. My parents were not emotionally neglectful nor emotionally abusive.... exactly. My mum was and remains my favourite person, and was always there for me. However up until the age of 12 I lived in a house full of anger and yelling, resentment and sadness, and fear. My dad was an alcaholic, he could be a mean drunk, but he wasn't a bad man. I find it hard to remember specific incidents, though some are etched into my mind, but mostly I remember the things that happened often. I would pull a pillow over my ears to block out them yelling and cry, I would be trying to sleep but if I heard the slightes noise, or voice I would freeze, and hold my breath, and strain my ears because I was afraid it was arguing. I would be afraid to use the toilet during the night or early morning incase my dad needed to be sick (by this time I had started suffering from emetephobia), I would hold in my urine for hours, and not be able to sleep. I remember trying to comfort my sobbing mother, but not knowing how, because I couldn't really understand the situation. I was terrified of my family breaking up, but the day that came I felt so happy, a weight lifted and I hate the idea that parents should stay together for the kids, because that is what damaged me. Of course after this point my father was not a care giver to me, I spent 12 years putting as much of myself into the relationship as I could, with minimal effort from him, until the day he died. I know loads of people have been through this.... maybe not all are as messed up as I am... But I still think I am resilient.
Thanks Kati. I have been overwhelmed and struggling with the last couple of days at work and judging myself for it. I'm burnt out and needing some downtime.
Kati, I really appreciate your time and energy that you put into each video/mental health issues. I also like your and Sean's OTDM's and Roxy's appearances too! You guys make an open warm forum for us in the OTDM community to listen to and discuss things we all can relate (and laugh) to; a great stress reliever for me for sure! I hope you and Sean get some much needed rest over this holiday.
Kati, I love that you have mentioned that we need 'REST'. This past couple of years living in an abusive platonic\housemate situation, (I've actually been stuck here for four years in total) I have needed to rest A LOT! The longest time I was resting was 40 hours which would have been longer but housemate wanted to make sure I was alive! 36 hours, and now I've kind of plateaued at 24-32 hours 'rest time'. Anyways, so grateful you have talked about rest because I received a lot emotional manipulation and gaslighting due to the fact I'd skip days!!! Thank-you kati much love and hugs Mumma, (aka Rochelle & Rocky ;->D.I.D).
I've been watching your videos for a long time kati and i just started watching your podcast. I really like the more personalized approach to questions, it feels more relatable! I'm thinking of going back to therapy after a long time of not going, just wanted to thank you for your positive influence
I can relate to the emotional abuse and trauma. My dad would yell a lot and shut down my feelings. I do not remember if he said I am proud of you. I was in a psych hospital when I was 12. When I told my sexual abuse to the psych he said I was watching to many soaps opera. Even the therapist there did not believe me. Once I was discharge my parents could have least let me see a therapist to explore it.
Hey Kati, I've been in therapy for 15 years. It's starting to feel like all this picking apart and analyzing isn't helping. Like, everyone has stuff. Everyone has childhood BS. Parents that argued, a mom that was overbearing but loving, a moment they didn't feel safe, etc. I'm wondering if you took any random person and dug deep enough, if they'd qualify for a diagnosis. I'm not sure if I'm minimizing my "trauma" or if I'm just sort of over it or if I'm feeling fatigued. I have taken breaks in therapy from time to time but always wind up coming back because I'm not exactly functioning. But all this just leaves me wondering, is anyone really ever "healthy"?
Hey Kati could you talk about the difference between social anxiety and shyness and how to tell what I have? Done a bunch of research but I still can’t tell what I have could you give a definition for shyness and how a shy people would feel and act? Maybe knowing what shyness is a bit more I’ll be able to tell what I have.
Hello! Shyness is when you feel uncomfortable or nervous being around people but it is only social anxiety when you face significant impairment and distress in social situations. So shyness is uncomfortable but it can still be manageable. If it's social anxiety you might find yourself avoiding social situations altogether and experiencing great distress over it. Hope this explanation helps!
@@rachelc4998 Thank you. I’m not sure if I have low social anxiety because I get more nervous in social situations than many other shy people but I still go to them cause I love them I just don’t take to anyone there. But if I were shy I feel like I would already feel not as nervous with my friends especially the one I known for 11 years and yet I still get nervous with her so idk do I just have higher shyness or low social anxiety
2 things, thanks i was pretty sure my mom was narcissistic but you pretty much confirmed it 3 why just compliment them in ur head, y not actually compliment them outside your head where they can hear it, couldnt it be possibly good for them too? I. Imagine it could possibly be the only nice thing they hear wll day lor even long😊
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Yay! I really don’t like the AKA with guests and am so happy to have a just-Katy ep!!
I think it’s a good change to get a different opinion from Kati’s, especially if it’s not from a therapist. I’m not gonna lie Kati is hella educated and experienced with the therapist side! But sometimes I like when I get her thoughts and another persons ideas!!
Hi Katie I want to thank you again for being a part of our lives. Your channels are a big help and most certainly a light of inner comfort and support. I really appreciate you in all that you do for us.
P.s. I hope you don't let any of the negative comments get to you. We all have our critics now matter how perfect one may seem. We revolve in a world with many mixed emotions, ideologys and buried inner hurt that provokes anger bringing some unlikable comments that can make someone feel less to what they should. But just know deep down inside that your followers that respect and appreciate you for what you do for us by taking your time and effort to help us mend or see things more clearly see you in a colorful and bright light. Your loving, awesome, amazing and all of the above! So please just ignore them and continue to do you with confidence!
-Peace and Love
I loooove when you’re as open and honest like you were in the beginning of this video. A reminder that therapists are humans with real lives too. And just like you said, also a reminder that everyone feels tired, down and out sometimes. It did indeed make me feel less lonely in my struggles. So thank you for that! ❤️
It is difficult to see yourself as a child and forgive yourself when the adult version judgement is that it was your fault, when you really didn't have the understanding of what or why something abusive was done to you. Especially if you were living in surroundings of narcissism where it seems nothing was ever the abusers fault.
If we are being honest most people only care so long as it doesn't greatly inconvenience them. Like when people say "if you need anything" or "how are you doing?" No one ever wants an honest answer, they just want the credit for checking in.
Thank you. That first one was the same situation I had - my sibling was the GC squeaky wheel and I was shoved to the side, also b/c they had a disease. But I had the neglect and the attacks both. I never knew which I would get; ignored, attacked, or dismissed.
I find it hard to categorise the trauma I experienced as a child. My parents were not emotionally neglectful nor emotionally abusive.... exactly. My mum was and remains my favourite person, and was always there for me. However up until the age of 12 I lived in a house full of anger and yelling, resentment and sadness, and fear. My dad was an alcaholic, he could be a mean drunk, but he wasn't a bad man. I find it hard to remember specific incidents, though some are etched into my mind, but mostly I remember the things that happened often. I would pull a pillow over my ears to block out them yelling and cry, I would be trying to sleep but if I heard the slightes noise, or voice I would freeze, and hold my breath, and strain my ears because I was afraid it was arguing. I would be afraid to use the toilet during the night or early morning incase my dad needed to be sick (by this time I had started suffering from emetephobia), I would hold in my urine for hours, and not be able to sleep. I remember trying to comfort my sobbing mother, but not knowing how, because I couldn't really understand the situation. I was terrified of my family breaking up, but the day that came I felt so happy, a weight lifted and I hate the idea that parents should stay together for the kids, because that is what damaged me. Of course after this point my father was not a care giver to me, I spent 12 years putting as much of myself into the relationship as I could, with minimal effort from him, until the day he died. I know loads of people have been through this.... maybe not all are as messed up as I am... But I still think I am resilient.
I grew up in a similar situation. Have you read Running on Empty by Jonice Webb? Could book on emotional neglect and abuse.
Thanks Kati. I have been overwhelmed and struggling with the last couple of days at work and judging myself for it. I'm burnt out and needing some downtime.
Kati, I really appreciate your time and energy that you put into each video/mental health issues. I also like your and Sean's OTDM's and Roxy's appearances too! You guys make an open warm forum for us in the OTDM community to listen to and discuss things we all can relate (and laugh) to; a great stress reliever for me for sure! I hope you and Sean get some much needed rest over this holiday.
Kati,
I love that you have mentioned that we need 'REST'. This past couple of years living in an abusive platonic\housemate situation, (I've actually been stuck here for four years in total) I have needed to rest A LOT! The longest time I was resting was 40 hours which would have been longer but housemate wanted to make sure I was alive! 36 hours, and now I've kind of plateaued at 24-32 hours 'rest time'.
Anyways, so grateful you have talked about rest because I received a lot emotional manipulation and gaslighting due to the fact I'd skip days!!!
Thank-you kati much love and hugs Mumma, (aka Rochelle & Rocky ;->D.I.D).
Thanks Kati. I hope you and yours have a merry Christmas and a Happy 2022. Blessings and love from me to you 🎄☃️😀
Your look like an adorable SNL sprockets character. You are so right about rest. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and your growing 🐶family 🐾.
Now is the time on Schhprokets when we dance!
@@askkatianything I'll do my best Mike Myers imitation!
I've been watching your videos for a long time kati and i just started watching your podcast. I really like the more personalized approach to questions, it feels more relatable! I'm thinking of going back to therapy after a long time of not going, just wanted to thank you for your positive influence
Thank you, Katie. Hope you and yours have a wonderful holiday. 🤗❤🎄🎁🎅🤶🕊👍
I can relate to the emotional abuse and trauma. My dad would yell a lot and shut down my feelings. I do not remember if he said I am proud of you. I was in a psych hospital when I was 12. When I told my sexual abuse to the psych he said I was watching to many soaps opera. Even the therapist there did not believe me. Once I was discharge my parents could have least let me see a therapist to explore it.
Oh and BTW I hope you and your Husband have Merry Christmas and a Hapyy New Year! =)
Hey Kati, I've been in therapy for 15 years. It's starting to feel like all this picking apart and analyzing isn't helping. Like, everyone has stuff. Everyone has childhood BS. Parents that argued, a mom that was overbearing but loving, a moment they didn't feel safe, etc. I'm wondering if you took any random person and dug deep enough, if they'd qualify for a diagnosis. I'm not sure if I'm minimizing my "trauma" or if I'm just sort of over it or if I'm feeling fatigued. I have taken breaks in therapy from time to time but always wind up coming back because I'm not exactly functioning. But all this just leaves me wondering, is anyone really ever "healthy"?
Great question, really interested in hearing what Katie has to say to it
! Maybe ask it in the community tab if Katie collects questions again. 🤗
have you done any episodes on cat therapy as ive just started ,as im diagnosed with eupd and Gad thanks for the work you do x
Hey Kati could you talk about the difference between social anxiety and shyness and how to tell what I have? Done a bunch of research but I still can’t tell what I have could you give a definition for shyness and how a shy people would feel and act? Maybe knowing what shyness is a bit more I’ll be able to tell what I have.
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Hello! Shyness is when you feel uncomfortable or nervous being around people but it is only social anxiety when you face significant impairment and distress in social situations. So shyness is uncomfortable but it can still be manageable. If it's social anxiety you might find yourself avoiding social situations altogether and experiencing great distress over it. Hope this explanation helps!
@@rachelc4998 Thank you. I’m not sure if I have low social anxiety because I get more nervous in social situations than many other shy people but I still go to them cause I love them I just don’t take to anyone there. But if I were shy I feel like I would already feel not as nervous with my friends especially the one I known for 11 years and yet I still get nervous with her so idk do I just have higher shyness or low social anxiety
I missed just Katie 💜
I've never felt so hopeless. Life is worthless and pointless.
2 things, thanks i was pretty sure my mom was narcissistic but you pretty much confirmed it
3 why just compliment them in ur head, y not actually compliment them outside your head where they can hear it, couldnt it be possibly good for them too? I. Imagine it could possibly be the only nice thing they hear wll day lor even long😊
I like you alone too.. i don’t even like when you’re with Sean. No ill intended! Lol!
Nice
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So you just do UA-cam.?