what no one is saying about motherhood
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- Опубліковано 24 лют 2024
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I'm a mother of 8 children. My husband supports us financially. I haven't had to work outside the home. We aren't wealthy by any means. We've made sacrifices because we have been committed to having me stay home. I love being a mother. It's so hard, priorities have to change, and adjustments need to be made. But i truly believe that there is no work that is more important and no success will ever compensate for failure at home. I love your content Hannah!!
Wise words. That is a big job!
I think you communicated perfectly! It took me many many months after having my daughter to realize I had not let go of the “old me” and embraced the “mom me” and it was causing me to be dissatisfied with where I was at as a mother. Once I embraced the motherhood season fully I really started to enjoy it. The new me is WAY better. She’s kinder, more patient & so full of love. I’m proud of her!
Hannah, you remind me so much of myself. I watch every single one of your videos, way before Cosmo. I am SO enjoying watching your evolution, from pre-kid Hannah to now with two babies, and I have enjoyed watching you through ALL of your seasons. I am enjoying watching your motherhood season a lot. I am still in that season of “I like being able to do what I want, when I want,” so no kids yet but I do trust I will phase out of this season eventually. The way you raise your kids reminds me so much of how I’d raise mine someday! Hearing this message is important. We sometimes put way too much pressure on ourselves!!
The secret is to live close to your parents and get the grandparents more present in your kids' lives.
I was so blessed to live in the same house with my parents and have both kids growing up in a 3 generation home. This is very common in Europe.
I agree my parents live 3mins from us and they are around my boys so much
I wish that was my case. We live 5 minutes away from my parents and pretty much seem them on a holiday basis. I remember always being with my grandparents (probably a little too much) but great memories.
I wish I could but we live four hours from my husband's parents and fourteen hours from my mother so we are completely alone. You're very fortunate.
Yes! I love keeping generations close by. My family is working on this now
I'm so with you on this! I am a first time mom to a 10-week old daughter and, while I love her more than anything, I miss my old life and productivity constantly. I started a crochet business during pregnancy after leaving tech and moving to a small town with my husband and I barely have even one hour a week to crochet now taking care of her. It's absolutely worth it but I am one who LOVES lists, getting things done, and packing as much as possible in my day. And the sleep deprivation makes me into a person I do noooot like sometimes. I have also found that I am becoming more and more on the side of "traditional" roles lately. I'm 34 and just can't relate to so many beliefs my old friends cling to anymore but maybe that's because most of them don't want kids & my priorities have changed. I'm struggling so much trying to find my identity after a traumatic homebirth turned cesarean without living near family in a new town, without my old job, in a body I don't like, and now in motherhood...I'm overwhelmingly thankful but I feel like no one warned me whatsoever about the drastic nature of the switch...
I have an almost two year old. I would say, focus on one day at a time. By the time they get closer to a year old things will start to get closer to normal. Also by 9 months it’s easier to get a better nights rest by night weaning and gently sleep training. The sooner your sleep is more normal the better you will feel. See if there are any moms groups in your area at the park for a meet up or anything like that. Getting out and talking and seeing other people with kids helps. Also you never know moving closer to family in the future can be tremendously helpful. Be kind to yourself, wishing you the best. The newborn phase is the hardest.
It would be presumptuous of me - even as a longtime viewer - to assume that I know you, simply because I’m aware that you exist, due to tiny glimpses of your life in video format. But can I just say that your trademark silly, whimsical, bold-but-vulnerable self that those of us who have been here for 4+ years have all grown to love, was present in this video in a way that I hadn’t seen since Cosmo was a baby (again, basing this on snapshots).
That’s the Hannah that helped me, and I’m sure many others, to accept that I may be weird, but that’s okay because “weird is good”. Also, that my odd ball self could find belonging and acceptance in a world where typical is rewarded. Missed that girl 💖💖💖
I’m glad to hear that you’re giving yourself space to be with your family and not pressuring yourself to constantly create for others. Hugs and love from California 👯♀️💖
Seconded!
When you said, “It’s kind of jarring how different your life is” when talking about how children change the dynamics of your entire world. It’s SO hard. I feel like this blindsided me because NO one talked to me about how hard it would be.
Thank you. ♥️
I remember family and friends saying how hard labor would be but nothing after that. I had never been around babies and it was a shock for sure!
I’m watching your video about life before motherhood . When my best friend became a mom, I had a hard time understanding why she couldn’t be on the phone and chat like we used to. When I became a mom, I understood that my time and money didn’t belong to me anymore 😁
Good morning Hannah ! Im also in Boise and saw all the Robbins Me and my son were amazed , spring is definitely here ! Yay for warmer weather! You are doing an amazing job your boys are so very lucky to have you as their mother ❤️!!! Blessings to you are your family ! Love a fellow Boise vegan mama.
I needed to hear the message about productivity and comparing ❤ came at a great time in my life!
just saw the title can't wait to watch! I'm always appreciative of you sharing your opinions in the way that you do :)
I just love the honest mom content. It's nice to know that I'm not the only full-time mom that's not getting everything done. ❤
Love hearing your explanation of motherhood because i also feel like i cannot do as much as before baby and you have made me feel more at peace with the less productive (but a billion times more busy!l life
I just had my second baby on Wednesday the 21st, and this resonated deeply with me THANK YOU! I can always count on you to give me something relatable when it comes to motherhood. Thank you thank you. The simplicity, beauty, and power of raising children is not lost to me. We ARE doing amazing, and we will continue to do so, because it’s what we want!
You look so happy and beautiful :) Its so nice to see you in this special stage of life. I started watching you when you were writing, teaching, making a podcast (which was great btw), and just living life as a professional with your partner. You are doing amazing and should be very proud.
Your videos share my favorite online content!! So uplifting and real. Yes I understand you :) and it’s so nice to feel another mother understands! Becoming a mother has challenged my mindset but also my life as a mother is more rich and full than I ever imagined it would be. (I also feel like I’m doggie paddling haha ) thanks for your videos. I’m so glad you got into making UA-cam videos!
I loved seeing your family dinner 😍 one thing i really really appreciate about you and your sister's channels is that you don't pretend everything is perfect. Because that's how we all feel. You know what, society doesn't emphasise this enough but raising children is THE MOST IMPORTANT thing we can ever do. It is a lot too, you're right. Especially when we have to bring some money in too. I always remind myself that, in a flash, n'y children will be grown up and won't need me like this anymore. The house will feel quiet, there won't be toys everywhere, there won't be so much laundry to do or mouths to feed and i know i will miss these days. They are intense and I'm often overstimulated and exhausted and not even sure if I'm doing a good job 😂 but these days are somehow mundane but SO SPECIAL. masses of love to you hannah and all your gorgeous family ❤
Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest. I completely lost the sense of who I am after giving birth. My boy is almost 2 now and I am still struggling. I wouldn't change a thing but also I need to find myself again and take care of me which is very hard with a toddler. Much love to you, have been following you and your sister since the very beginning ❤️❤️
I get you Hannah. I'm watching/listening to this as I fix my 3 year old's torn book, the washing machine is finishing, there are still bits of paper and other stuff on the table from my attempt at doing some crafting (decorating a wall), thinking about meals for the week and every now and then looking at the washing up I still have to do 😅 Also making sure the monitor is still on for baby and pausing the video every now and then to reassure myself that my 3 year old isn't needing me and shouting from upstairs.
I get you. Thank you for making me feel less alone in this 🙂
Holy moly I can relate. I wish more mamas talked about this side. Literally crying ❤ you are not alone
Thank you for sharing this Hannah. I have two under 3, and I feel the same way about my pre-kid productivity. I feel like I've been doggy paddling too, for sure! It makes me feel less alone to know I'm not the only one feeling this way ❤️
I feel the same about not doing enough as a mom, but must admit that I am more happy as a mom than I was working on achieving other dreams of mine - maybe because those dreams require me to "put myself out there" a lot which just gives me stress and anxiety
Yes! I am always comparing myself to the me who wasn’t a parent. My body, my accomplishments daily etc. I definitely can try harder and make a few changes which I am. My kids are 27, 19, 18 and 14 and I’m still finding I fall into comparing myself to the person I was before kids. I didn’t even realize I was doing it. So it’s profound to me to realize that’s my issue.
COSMO DRESSED UPPP 😭😭😭♥
what a beautiful product of your wonderful mind this video is! love you hanna, you inspire many people with your creativity and how you choose to show it to us.
You are doing so amazing!! ❤
I just had my second child and I literally feel the same. Thank you for making this because it's like I was meant to see it. I worked so hard to make staying home with my children a reality and I don't want to look back a regret not being present.
I feel you ! I have the same struggles and the same lack of sleep😅 let's be to ourselves the mother we are for our children ❤
Thank you for sharing your raw and honest experience. I see you, hear you, I respect you. 🙌🏻
Sending peace, love and stillness 🙏🏻
Love your content, keep posting more ❤❤
love the realness of your content and how you portray motherhood and everyday life! this video was very calming to watch
I work part time, 12 hours and it takes me usually a day to recover from my job. I struggle because I don’t work the full time hours as other moms, but my job is demanding.
I always feel like i should be doing more because I don’t work full time, and feel like im always trying to justify my place in the home as a working mom..its also hard when you don’t feel supported by your partner.
I feel you about not being supported by your partner. I think I could move mountains if he was on my side. But he’s not. And it create tension at home and drains energy, that I’m already lacking being a mom of 2 young children…
Hello Hannah, I wanted to say, I am not a mum yet. But I have felt so much your words. I wanted to thank you for always being so real and honest with your words and your ways of doing things. Thank you for putting this out to the world. It doesn't only help moms.
You are 100% spot on ❤ nobody told me it was gonna be like this, but I've learned to trust my gut like no other! Keep it up Mama, you're rockin it!!!
Do you mind sharing wear you got those yellow boots? LOVE them!
Thank you for this very real video. You perfectly put into words how I have been feeling as well. I'm just not good at putting all these feelings into words. I feel not alone in my thoughts. You're completely yourself and it's amazing to watch. 🎉
You rock Hannah! 👏 to your zoning in on making the world be a better place by loving your family ❤
YES! Absolutely agree and I wish I had the realization to be kinder to myself when I was in the thick of it.
This was extremely comforting and validating... I sit here breastfeeding my 12 month old while she naps on me, usually she will nap by herself but today for some resson she wont. I can't help feeling trapped and annoyed because I was looking forward to a break from her and a chance to do other things. Your words felt like a hug, thanks for the encouragement that I'm doing a good job, the only job that matters today.
Hi Hannah, I feel like giving you a big hug. I hope you get some sleep soon, I know how much sleepless nights can make you feel so vulnerable. I really admire you doing what you do when you must be exhausted. I think you are an amazing mum, keep it up! You’ll get some sleep one day, good luck x
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Love it also!!!
I’m about to have my first baby! Thank you for this video! ❤
So beautifully validating, Thankyou for your message to the stay at home mummas ❤❤
I always love your way of communicating with us
I feel the baby not sleeping. My 6 month old still doesn’t sleep 😅. I just found your channel and it’s so nice to find someone who seems real! ❤
Thank you for being so real
Thank you Hannah ❤
Totally can relate to not being able to relax in clutter and not feeling sexy if im not relaxed
Funny and confident Hannah says: “Go to Town” in the comments section 🤣 Well, my comment is: I think you’re doing amazing Hannah! 😇
I totally feel you ❤ greetings from germany
Brought to tears.
Hi Hannah I have to know where are your jeans from?
Even though we don’t see Cosmo’s face, which I totally understand why, it is great to hear the little things he says! Skiing with cucumber juice on his feet! 😂
I totally get the mom overwhelm. I struggle with that a lot. I also struggle with comparing my now self with my pre-kid self. Blah.
❤ So true
Can I raise the topic of types of being productive?)😅
I guess I am a pre-kid Hannah right now but I would not consider myself extremely productive, ha-ha) So I am a bit concerned (a bit means actually pretty scared) about how raising a kid will affect how much I can do a day. But I also had a huge realization recently! I only consider myself not productive because my to-do tasks are usually computer work. Oftentimes I feel resistant to sit at the desk in front of a screen. I believe this is normal as our lives are packed with technologies. We get tired of them. But ... How about chores?! My God. I love chores. I wake up and start cleaning the kitchen and other rooms. I love mopping the floor and doing laundry with my hands. And those things rarely get a place on my to-do list. I take them for granted. I may believe they're not that important but actually I'm spending lots of energy on them and as long as I really enjoy them I should give myself more credit for that and realize that I AM productive in that aspect of life. So I feel like it's what we define as "being productive."
The life of a mom is the biggest project ever. If we tune out all social media noise and listen to our truth we will find that we're extremely capable and we're doing our best and we should let ourselves take pride in it. Hope it helps someone!
What does jarring mean ?
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I didn't even know chickpea cookies existed! I feel you, keeping up with work and maintaining a clean home can be so stressful.
I’ve often thought the same about chocolate chips in “sugar free” recipes…same with maple syrup, honey, agave…that’s not sugar free! Not that sugar is evil…sometimes a lil sugar is nice.
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What happened to your cats?
HAHAHA yes. People who add snaps to baby cloths don’t have children.
You choosse to raise your babies with u present u could of just put them on bottles and in daycare and some moms have no choice so be happy u have that choice
Some moms really don’t have choice. But some CHOOSE to get back to work sooner because it’s easier then being with children all day. Here in France most women make this choice as it’s something culturally settled. From me, coming from another culture it’s difficult to understand
@@CassyExploring i get that Plenty my girlfriends want to keep working and daycare is just school early anyways
@@leannecuster1490 It's not because plenty people are doing something that it's good. Why make children in first place if you can't take care of them, if you barely see them on week-ends, if you miss their first steps, their first words, everything... When you just dump them at the daycare for all day long, it's not great for them (they would really prefer be with their mom) and you're missing out at the greatest experience of your life too. Moms who choose to raise their children are heros. They are doing a hard hard job 24/7, they're not making money anymore and if their partner don't support them, it's very very tough. It's a great, rewording job, but it's super difficult. And they CAN complain sometimes. Why not?