Funerals are never easy, and it's very difficult to find the right words--just being there for someone, a hug, a smile, a hand hold, can speak volumes and be very comforting. Thank you for your comment!
I was pleasantly surprised by what you had to say on the subject, because my early views of funerals in the USA were coloured by Evelyn Waugh's little gem of a book, The Loved One. Funerals in Britain have changed beyond recognition during my lifetime, but people's emotions remain much the same through time and across cultures. Gone are days when all curtains were closed along the street of the deceased on the day of the funeral, and men no longer stand and remove their hats when a funeral procession passes, and recently bright clothing rather than black has often been requested by the family. We still retain our traditional funeral togs, but may not need them again, unless we choose to be buried in them. I had attended more than a dozen funerals before my father's in 1970, when I was responsible for all the arrangements. My mother's funeral, 27 years later was a completely a different occasion and was more of a celebration of her life than mourning her passing, and the service ended with the playing of Vivaldi's Gloria to lift people's spirits, and I know she would have approved. Funerals for colleagues or friends who had taken their own lives have been remarkable in that the deceased would probably have been the most surprised by people's reactions and sense of loss at their passing. Of the funerals I've attended during the last 10 years, about half have been outdoors at woodland burial sites, followed by memorial celebrations elsewhere and at a later date.
Hello! Thank you so much for watching, and I’m sorry for your loss, if that was the reason for watching. Yes, I’m here for you, I’d like to answer any questions you may have, I can certainly offer my opinion. Thank you and best wishes for a peaceful day.💕💕💕
Sometimes you are EXPECTED to go to the funeral of a family member who lived far away, and maybe you never knew them that well in adulthood. Maybe you only knew them years ago when they were young. Maybe, even, you never really liked him or her in adulthood. Yet, you go just for the children, your cousins or for your nieces and nephews. Or maybe you go to the funeral just for the spouse of your deceased relative, who you never really liked much either. What do you say then?
Hello Kelly! Thank you for watching and this is just a really important comment! Going to a funeral, regardless, how you felt about the deceased, it’s all about respect. You respect the life is lived, and it is now lost. Perhaps a deceased person was a friend or relative, or somehow related to someone you’re close to, But regardless, if you feel you need to be there, perhaps not for the deceased person, but for other people in the deceased persons circle, then please go with your heart full of respect that a life has been lost. You would say the same things, you’re sorry for this loss, because this person will leave a void in someone’s life. The best advice, is to be honest, stay true to your authentic self, however, be respectful that a life has been lost, and you are there to support others and do so, with your head held high, love in your heart, and discretion. I am very sorry, heart, your loss, and I hope this helps, please let me know if I can be of more help. Sending your very best wishes for a terrific day, and I’d be so grateful if you can kindly subscribe to the channel, and watch some other videos, and let me know your thoughts. I’ve made several videos about funerals, and regrettably, and most. unfortunately, I’ve been to more than my share. I hope you’re having a good day. Warm regards, Heidi 💕🙏
What gets me are people ahead of you in line at visitations. Many who spend probably 3-5 minutes talking to the family while 150 of us are standing in line behind them. That's really rude.
Thank ou for this. It helps me understand what to expect, since my uncle passed away recently and his funeral is coming up.
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m very glad the information can help. My sympathies to you and your family.🙏🙏
Funeral issues discussed and how to act - intentions be there- great information!
Funerals are never easy, and it's very difficult to find the right words--just being there for someone, a hug, a smile, a hand hold, can speak volumes and be very comforting. Thank you for your comment!
I was pleasantly surprised by what you had to say on the subject, because my early views of funerals in the USA were coloured by Evelyn Waugh's little gem of a book, The Loved One. Funerals in Britain have changed beyond recognition during my lifetime, but people's emotions remain much the same through time and across cultures.
Gone are days when all curtains were closed along the street of the deceased on the day of the funeral, and men no longer stand and remove their hats when a funeral procession passes, and recently bright clothing rather than black has often been requested by the family. We still retain our traditional funeral togs, but may not need them again, unless we choose to be buried in them.
I had attended more than a dozen funerals before my father's in 1970, when I was responsible for all the arrangements. My mother's funeral, 27 years later was a completely a different occasion and was more of a celebration of her life than mourning her passing, and the service ended with the playing of Vivaldi's Gloria to lift people's spirits, and I know she would have approved.
Funerals for colleagues or friends who had taken their own lives have been remarkable in that the deceased would probably have been the most surprised by people's reactions and sense of loss at their passing.
Of the funerals I've attended during the last 10 years, about half have been outdoors at woodland burial sites, followed by memorial celebrations elsewhere and at a later date.
Some of this was not obvious to me and I will continue to watch more presentations like this one. I do have questions.
Hello! Thank you so much for watching, and I’m sorry for your loss, if that was the reason for watching.
Yes, I’m here for you, I’d like to answer any questions you may have, I can certainly offer my opinion.
Thank you and best wishes for a peaceful day.💕💕💕
Thank you for posting this.
Hello!
I’m here for you, anything you need reach out.
Warm regards,
Heidi.💕
Sometimes you are EXPECTED to go to the funeral of a family member who lived far away, and maybe you never knew them that well in adulthood. Maybe you only knew them years ago when they were young. Maybe, even, you never really liked him or her in adulthood. Yet, you go just for the children, your cousins or for your nieces and nephews. Or maybe you go to the funeral just for the spouse of your deceased relative, who you never really liked much either. What do you say then?
Hello Kelly!
Thank you for watching and this is just a really important comment! Going to a funeral, regardless, how you felt about the deceased, it’s all about respect. You respect the life is lived, and it is now lost. Perhaps a deceased person was a friend or relative, or somehow related to someone you’re close to, But regardless, if you feel you need to be there, perhaps not for the deceased person, but for other people in the deceased persons circle, then please go with your heart full of respect that a life has been lost. You would say the same things, you’re sorry for this loss, because this person will leave a void in someone’s life.
The best advice, is to be honest, stay true to your authentic self, however, be respectful that a life has been lost, and you are there to support others and do so, with your head held high, love in your heart, and discretion.
I am very sorry, heart, your loss, and I hope this helps, please let me know if I can be of more help.
Sending your very best wishes for a terrific day, and I’d be so grateful if you can kindly subscribe to the channel, and watch some other videos, and let me know your thoughts. I’ve made several videos about funerals, and regrettably, and most. unfortunately, I’ve been to more than my share.
I hope you’re having a good day.
Warm regards,
Heidi 💕🙏
Thank you for your advice it was so good ❤
What gets me are people ahead of you in line at visitations. Many who spend probably 3-5 minutes talking to the family while 150 of us are standing in line behind them. That's really rude.
Hailing and farewell
Thank you!