As an INFJ, I’m teaching those around me specially at work, that I’m always listening… I can be looking for an email, or doodling on a notes pad , but the fact that I’m not making eye contact, does not mean I am not listening and or processing every word thats been said Even if it is not directed at me.
It's the worst when they passing hints or hiding something in their words. You're not looking at them but you know somethings up even if it's not directed at you or anyone in specific. I over analyze everything and always think there is more to read between the lines and sometimes I just feel like somethings up like my own little spider sense.
Just don't let coworkers take advantage of your internal work commitment. Especially, as these times of people without even the concept of a work commitment.
Thinking is what we do, and I'm proud of it. Before knowing anything about personality types when I was 17yo, I was thinking about what I wanted my life to be like when I became 25, and then 35, every 10 years I thought about. Do you have any idea how many people go through life like dead wood floating down stream? Not me thank you very much.
@@blktester you too huh? So tell me, did any of your predictive thoughts become reality or even close to it or like myself, did life throw you a few unexpected curve balls only to send you back to the bench to wait out another inning? I don't know why I use sports analogies considering the fact that I could care less about professional sports(I hope their ball goes flat, lol). And as for the driftwood reference you made, I tend to laugh when people say they just go with the flow because one of my favorite sayings is "only dead fish go with the flow". Anyways, I'll quit rambling now. 😁✌️
1: Genuinely good people 2: Have inventive & positive ideas 3: Not into mainstream 4: Care about what others think 5: Always looking to improve 6: Can handle negativity & tragedy 7: Always thinking/contemplating 8: Don't need to be interested to be interested ***Traits of the INFJ type***
Let's add, others think we are liars. We are some of the most honest to a fault types you will ever meet. I suspect a dishonest person assumes you are also? Idk. 😶
Yes! It took me some time to be comfortable in my own skin & fully embrace my intuition. I reflect back to people their own idiosyncrasies..in other words their lies..their jealousies..any negative emotions geared towards me from them..& they see that in myself or they do not like being mirrored back with their BS. Hence unless someone is true blue we do not remain friends for too long...either they start moving away from me or as what's happened as of late I went complete no contact with 90% of the so called friends I had. It took a Lil courage on my part but so worth it...toxic people will eventually drag you down over time.
@@nicky9148 Yes it's best to avoid toxic people at all cost. I did the same thing, removed all toxics from my life and even some good people because it would require me to consort with toxics. Seems one of the problems is 90% of regular non toxic people buy into malicious schemes and slander. We are usually the targets. I think the main reason we are targeted is because we connect so well with others and are naturally loved to such an extend, that when we rightfully vent at a wrong, we hurt people far more than other possibly could. This is because hatred and love are connected. The more you love someone the greater the injury. Same with us, since we love deeper, we get hurt deeper.
I can handle bad news really well, and people are normally confused as to why I show so little emotion. But I don’t mind; it doesn’t bother me. However, I react the same to good news. So if my mom gives me good news, like surprise tickets to a string quartet I really wanted to go to, it’s hard for me to act excited. My happy reaction feels forced even though I’m extremely happy on the inside. I’m just and quiet with how I react to things, so when people expect an outburst of me smiling and saying “yayy” or something, they are always confused when I just smile and am quiet. The good thing is though, that my mom is also and INFJ, so when I don’t have big reactions like that, it’s like she can read my mind. She knows I’m happy and I just wish I could find it easier to explain to other people why I react the way I do.
What I find upsetting is that it's taken me so long to hear these - I've been misunderstand and criticised all my life. People have always considered me "weird". These podcasts have entered my life as a life raft and have made many things confirmed. Thank you.
they purposely treat you like bronze, and silver when you’re actually gold. its covert abuse and downplaying your very existence, skills, abilities, uniqueness they dont want you to know your true value. they are narrow minded jealous haters.
Pretty accurate with one exception, I've never cared very much what others (i.e the general public) thinks about me. But those in my inner circle are in my inner circle because they appreciate me for being me. Yes people watch me and try to draw conclusions and they're always wrong. I find it's better to be under estimated rather than over estimated.
I've denied, at least to myself that I don't worry about what other people think of me, but I know I have purposely played down my intelligence my whole life. Also, I've tried to be less analytical around most people and especially within a social setting. If you have done any of these things, you've adapted to the others around you - a form of concern about what people think of you.
@@gailnichols1284 I don't and never have. It's one reason most people keep their distance from me. I have a disdain for phony or pretentious people and I tend to stay away from them. But occassionally one such person will, for whatever reason, decide he/she wants to engage with me. Then they will say something and my response will shut them down. Then they tend to keep a distance from me. The very thing I wanted in the first place.
I've heard numerous times throughout my life "I've never met someone like you," and I didn't know what that really meant. But now in the context of personality types, it makes a lot of sense. ☺️
I've also heard many times that someone's pet has never been so comfortable as quickly as they have been with me. Like "Fifi doesn't like strangers," and then 15 minutes later, Fifi is asleep on my lap and they're shocked.
I can relate to all of these, especially number 6. I’ll have just experienced something heartbreaking or received shocking news, and rather than crying or showing anger or pain, I’ll just become more nurturing towards others and try to help others and comfort them. As for the source of distress or the person who hurt me, I act like they no longer exist while I’m dealing with the emotional fallout.
@@l0I0I0I0 yes I do pray for them. It took me a long time to get away from a narcissist in the distant past, but I’ll never get that close to one again.
I’m an INFJ and I have a massive habit to go into thought when I’m bored and I go so into thought my sight blurs and eve sound either increases or decreases to the point I can’t hear people talk but I am aware of where people are
@@elzanefeyt1223 You know how others imagine little stick men running beside them when in the car? Well we imagine entire lore and backstories for the character lmao
I realize that I definitely do not care what others think of me. As an INFJ it’s easy as you age. I find most people jealous, insecure, spineless, and evil. Don’t get me wrong, I help as everyone calls on me and then I run. You only hear from these people when they need something. You cannot fix them.
Lol. I’m I totally agree with your observations about the aging INFJ … We tend to become sigma INFJ’s which I love being at this time of my life. It’s pure freedom 😇🤣
I do too, we love you, I, as a short stature woman feel that others take advantage of me as I feel that they think because of my shorter size, I'm the "wall of least resistance" when it comes to some people's emotional and mental on slaught, I get that, everyone has a bad day but, it gets to a point of ridiculousness, and all want to do is run and escape to reboot to my level of balence, I get so oversaturated, then I feel like weakling for feeling this way- I hate no one- all I want is for everyone to be to be happy
@@ashleypihlcrantz9836 i relate to that, I am a short man and its soooo annoying like when ever i talk to people they treat me like a baby and i get bullied or made fun of it every day like 20 times in a row that’s okay but like 50-100 times it just gets annoying af
While I do care about what people think about me, I try not to dwell on it. It can be extremely painful and stressful when I do. So I must detach mentally as soon as I can. Putting up barriers to block energy. INFJ/5
Not long ago I accidentally showed my thoughts to a coworker. And on that particular subject it was kind of dark but deep at the same time. It really caught him off guard. Lol
Lol you can try and gauge how someone may react, but in the end, nobody expects the depth and darkness that the INFJ's mind can travel to.. Been there, done that 😅
Not to be an asshole best advise I received from a good boss, was don’t ever trust your coworkers, treat them as acquaintances not friends, his words have protected me from senseless drama.
This! I wrote a prompt for an AI persona called the "Dark Comic Sage". It's instructions are to use dark humor to shed light on uncomfortable truths. I fed the AA Daily Reflection to my bot and showed the guy sitting next to me. His jaw dropped, he choked a little, then he just kept saying "Yep. Yep." Then he said "im gonna go sit over there". and left. I said "WHAT? YOU BASTARD!" He laughed, but i was only half kidding. I thought he was edgy enough to handle it, but i realized later in hindsight that he was only pretending to be edgy. I guess an INFJ in AA who's into AI, dark humor and truth is too unsettling for people. I sure would have liked to see his eyes behind the dark sunglasses he's always wearing. Even indoors! 😂❤
1. Although, I'm generally quiet, some people are shocked to know that I'm a total introvert that can burrow myself in the house for a shocking period of time. 2. That I can talk a lot sometimes/rarely 3. Also, any information about me since a lot of people find me quite mysterious, like they want to know my hobbies, my interests, what I do, what am I thinking, the simplest of stuff. 4. And yeah, that I'm funny and kind of crazy based on my views, opinions and actions like it doesn't match my looks or outward behavior because they see me as silent and serious.
I actually liked to talk as a child. It drove people away. So I shut myself off from it. As a healing adult in progress, I find myself wanting to talk more again, and it still drives people away. I guess an INFJ in AA who is into AI, metaphysics and juxtaposing seemingly unrelated things scares away the normies, and those who wish they were.
@@endocrinejunky I guess we just have to find our tribe, people who share the same interests. But it also means we have to go out there, look for like-minded people or people who are fascinated by what we say and do.
I am an INFJ-A I used to be an approval addict I use to change my self for others but now I still care how people see me but I don't let it dictate who I am and how I see myself.
I am old enough and secure enough not to give a shit about what people think of me.I gained confidence over the years and know how people really are.I let them deal with their own issues so i can get on with my own.Helping others dosnt always have a positive outcome.Sometimes you get screwed.
wow extremely spot on from start to finish, positives and negatives of each one. Great video, can't express how great this video made me feel throughout. Thank you!
I’m an INFJ, but I am definitely not a private person when it comes to sharing about my life experiences and struggles. If I feel comfortable in my environment, I can even share my whole life story with a stranger, if I feel like it can help them. This is a part of the INFJ profile that I don’t fit (along with the acting serious thing). This may be due to having ADHD, along with my faith, working with children, and other life experiences.
I am an INFJ and feel exactly the same 😊! It's really easy for me to talk to anyone, actually easier and sort of more pleasant to talk to random strangers (it's not like I do it a lot, just sometimes it happens), I would even share more with them than with people I know, but are not the closest people to me, with them I can be reserved. But if I see someone not feeling well, I wil share anything, if that information makes someone feel better - like you said. I also don't act serious, mostly I act kind of goofy and harmless, many times I act like I'm not as smart as I am (I guess to have others continue to feel good about themselves). I think most people would say I'm serious, just because I like staying by myself, don't group immediately and only laugh at smart jokes. I do try to act serious in professional environments and actively try to appear calm, composed and like I know exactly what I'm doing with no doubt in my mind - which is never true, but people don't see through. (I don't have ADHD, but have had many, also hard life experience)
Im an INFJ too though I did that in the past and now I rather stay reserved due to way too many people breaking this bound of trust and invading my boundaries
I have a bad habit of replaying things in my head that happened in the past, how to better approach a situation if I care about the person to an extent that it's overwhelmingly uncomfortable. How I watch movies and become so critical if the main protagonist does something completely immoral or over the top to make a point if it involves hurting innocent people to get to the "bad guy" same goes for video games.
This explains why people say to me. "You are actually a really nice guy." I am sometimes caught off guard by that. Other times I jokingly reply "That's because you haven't given me a reason not to be." I usually get a chuckle out them.
As an INFJ I have been characterized as both smart and mean. I don’t think of myself as mean but have been told that by a few people…is this the case for other INFJ’s?
Yes. I would say that the people calling you "mean" are only doing so in defense of their ego. I find as a self-aware person, I notice character flaws about others that they might not because of low self-awareness and so of course become offended if I call attention to it. This is unfortunate because I would only ever say something because I believe it would benefit the other and I deeply crave that kind of open honesty
remember - there is no insult like the truth !!! infj's have to pray 1st - when talking to others about ANY truth , on any subject.... or we will be pegged as mean life is tough, and infj's face it like no others
I have been called "stuck up" because I don't jump into the on-going social scrum that is the norm. Often there is nothing that I can think of to say or find any desire to participate in what seems all but incomprehensible. I wonder what it would be like to engage in a back-and-forth conversation with a whole group of INFJs.
Over time, people that actually that know us.. think that were sent from heaven 😂 It's quite funny, but we are that kind & compassionate beings. We tend to not hurt anyone on purpose & are very picky who we surround ourselves with ☺️ we are quite rare
😎👍😐🤫💯🤔😉🤐👀 As a mature INFJ (if you have it together) you'll finally come to the realization you cannot worry about what people think of you because? It's their issues, it's their problem, jealousy, intimidation, they think inside the box.. INFJs think outside the box👈..
It's not a question for me of whether people realize it or not; they actually have to realize another thing or it won't work. If we're truly the rarest type, then we don't send messages to people passive aggressively or intentionally give someone the silent treatment to punish them. You can't use the template that works for other people. If I haven't said it, don't assume it.
As an infj it's painful because the people in my family don't give a shit and I care to much so I just keep quiet no one wants to know how I feel anyway as long as I give and give, so that's what I do.
Ivaylo is calling you out. I’m gathering that he thinks your cat joke wasn’t original enough to come from the mind of an INFJ. I thought it was funny.I think he’s barking up the wrong tree….
I decided to hit the like button even though this video misleads the viewer at the beginning with a sprinkle of confusion when it says "10 Things Everyone Eventually Realizes About The INFJ". But of course the information is still good none the less, even though I was disappointed that there was not an extra 2 bonus realizations at the end of the video lol.
It's rare, but it happen sometimes. _They're genuinely good people. Honest, non judgemental._Because we are all differents and uniques, so we can't compare. Be negative and judge is a waste of time and energy, don't neglect this most valuables ressources. _They actually have some pretty good ideas, think outside the box._Always, be unique, be original, be different. Look for the most efficient things, which will take less time and energy as possible. _They don't get caught up in mainstream interests. Independance individuality._We are all different, most of people still didn't understand this. _They care what people think._Yes and nerver forget what people have done, or said. Whereas people easily forget me, forget that I am exist :( _They're always looking to better themselves. Continuous self improvement._There is always something to do, to learn, to improve, to think, never bored. _They can handle any truth._Because we know the truth, so tell it _They think a lot._Really a lot, think to all causes, consequences, futures possibles best & worst scenarios. Mind is constantly moving in the Space/Time, between past and future, and not often in the present. Oh you still think of it ? Yes I never forget what happenned 1, 5, 10,.. 30 years ago. _They don't need to seem interested to be interested._Because interest by all the things, there is always something to learn from anyone, or a knowledge. All little information is precious to feed my knowledge, add a new dot, to our Ni dominant system/brain. I think we are ideas and advices machines, because everything is connected. Because Ni dominant : We want only the positive/good, truth, usefull : things/people/words... Natural philosophers & psychologists.
Generally speaking, INFJs are more likely to care about what people think of them on a moral and ethical level rsther than things like how we look or come across, or measurable accomplishments etc, which feel superficial to us. It probably applies mostly to the people closer to us, as paying too much attention to 'everyone and everything' is much too draining with our function stack. Which in part is why we have smaller social circles, and can seem (and actually be) very disinterested in most people or having a certain disconnect to society, despite our empathetic, social and curious nature. The same applies to having a very down to earth reaction to certain dramatic events in the news for example, that other types feel much stronger about and might make us seem cold and heartless at times. We care deeply or we don't care at all, anything in between takes up too much energy that's clearly not going anywhere good. Caring too much about what happened to hundreds of people during an earthquake for example simply isn't feasible for that reason. It's not the same for everyone, of course. But speaking for myself it's not so much actively caring about it or doing anything in particular to raise people's perception of me, as being extremely offended/hurt/whatever when people you consider close, that SHOULD know better in my opinion speak badly about me or treat me in a disrespectful manner that I feel goes against everything I stand for. But in the end, when that happens, it will probably result in sticking to my guns and letting go of whoever treats me that way. I do think there's some level of performance anxiety with many INFJs that's caused by our perfectionism, introversion and guardedness. We're used to figuring things out on our own by ourselves, and when we're forced to do it under prying eyes, I think we can get uncomfortable. Even though we tend to be not only quick learners, but also tend to have a knack for being able to intuitively 'do things right' pretty much straight away through only minor observation, for whatever reason we just feel we owe it to ourselves to do everything perfect from the get go with no room for mistakes.
As an INFJ... i can handle tragedy and negativiti... but... BUT... i live my whole life trying to avoid this things... so much so that this seems wrong to be placed here as an INFJ trait 🤣🤣 .... But really... when tragedy happn, and i had one (my house was on fire) i was the calm one and i handle my whole familiy through it... till this day they think it was heroic what i did back than...
everything here is always so true, especially found out no3 is not just me lol. But just seeing so many INFJs here, relating to the same stuff, its so relieving, comforting even. I hope I find an INFJ in real life too.hehe.
Why are we so complicated? Why do I only feel good when people around me is happy and when they are angry or arguing I feel out of my zone, it’s not even my fault but I feel angered and hurt by it too. like I was the one who was involved in that argument or feeling responsible because in most situations it’s very clear to see who’s wrong and right, but I just don’t have it in me to let the other know. Why is people’s feelings affecting me? But aside from that I think people notices the fact that I can put things into perspective, my advice is direct like I’m straightforward. I am very resilient.
It isn't easy being an empath, my friend.. without certain boundaries other people's feelings can take a serious toll, especially if you avoid speaking your mind. But yes, if it's to help another, it seems much easier 😓
It's because there is no off button you feel people's energy and feelings. We can't turn it off. It drains us. Guard your energy. Yes boundaries are important.
It has to do with 'neurons'. You're neurons are sensitive enough to detect external emotional energy, and it responds accordingly. It is not a curse. You have SHARP-SENSES! REFINE THEM and TRUST THEM! Know that your senses are more accurate than most! Lastly, study 'narcissitic personality disorder' (cluster-B), and 'codependents'; these are the source of all evil!!! Narcissits are demons-in-human clothing, learn about gaslighting, and how they destroy humanity (they are also the opposite of the concept of 'humanity', they embody evil)! And codependents are weak-minded, and EXTREMELY SELF-CENTERED! are potential Judas-Iscariot, spinless traitors to the Greater-good! Unless they grow out of it, they are infact evil, and will only enable narcissits and continue to empower them in society, e.g. E. musk, and other cult leaders!
@@Human_01 narcissists and codependents are flawed, yes, but it's important to realize that people are this way because they are in pain too. If they are genuinely trying to recover, they are every bit deserving as anyone else to receive some compassion.
Yes but most people only appreciate when it suits them, so I have learned too detach with Love for myself because off that. And that’s so so hard for a INFJ but I don’t want too die by the hand off there toxins 🤭and before anyone considers my opinion I am a stroke survivor . 😐
As an INFJ, I really do care about what other people think about me. But none of my friend seems to understand. Although I understand that they don't understand me, no one ever does.
My trailer home burned down 2 years ago. I didn’t cry, but my macho neighbor across the street did. He didn't understand how i could be so stoic about it. I on the other hand was relieved to be free if it and knew i would be alright. God was in my corner. 2 days later I had a new room with a couple of nice ladies that treat me like family, (not always a good thing 😅) at the same rent as before .
The "I have no idea what you're talkin' about" made me laugh so much ... above all for the "soccer" part, as I am Italian and I should be "supposed to know"! 😆 Everything on the video resonated with me. Re: to the last question is: people realized that if I am in a group, say a party with more than 4 people or a public event (above all if with interactions) I tend to turn myself off after 1h or so, and it is not because I don't like the event or the people... "I"s: you know what I'm talkin'g about... "E" types really find it real hard to understand it.
I remind myself it is okay to be selfish sometimes and make myself # 1 sometimes. You have to take care of yourself, if you want to take of someone else.
This is too good to be true... Aren't there any things about Infj's people get upset with? My colleage at work told me I talk a lot what's pretty draining to him sometimes, but at least I do my work. He often told me "you'll make it anyway" (good work) What is your experience about this as an Infj?
People think we have it all together, and we're just being cold, but we truly cannot tolerate external stimuli for very long especially people. They get upset with us when they find out too late that we're more than just cold and boring, as if we're trying to be fake at first and they can't trust us Edit: @Val, you're so right ^ people think I'm wayy too intense, boldface and somewhat controlling based on if our energy is so prominent in the room
Right, I carry a lockout kit in my truck just for that purpose, as well as a threaded eye bolt that's made to screw into car bumpers that accept them (threaded insert behind small removable tab in front and rear bumpers) to serve as a pulling point as to not have to tie off to a control arm or subframe which then deforms bumper cover when rope/cable/chain is taught. I guess what I'm getting at is the fact that we will treat your items with even better care than you show them yourselves. Something like that, anyways I'll quit rambling now. 😑✌️
I am an INFJ-A and my sister is an INFJ -T. Although we can relate to everything in this video. There is a different level of "affinity" if you go point for point...
Careful, that’s how the depression we’re prone to sets in. I find it’s helpful not a cure but helpful to look into possible reasons why the world is harsh.
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I can relate to that statement! It seems to me that most people are out for themselves and dont give a rats ass about anything or anyone else anymore.Why should i help a person who is going to stab me in the back and treat me as if i were just another piece of shit they stumbled upon?!I think i will do my own thing and try to live the best life i can without people giving me more trouble than i already have!
I tell people I have ADD as an excuse for "blanking out". Now I learn this is a characteristic of the INFJ! My failure to listen to everything my husband says breaks my heart. He is such a good husband. What can I do to stop doing this?
I actually am diagnosed with ADD and autism. Also an INFJ though perhaps avoid giving excuses of having this disability if you don’t have it because another infj or someone could sought out if it’s a lie or not. I have encountered someone who was faking having ADHD. I remember the way she was acting was nothing like any ADHD student that is actually diagnosed acts. Because in my youth I was surrounded by kids who were diagnosed with ADHD, ADD, Austism and Autistic Spectrum, etc. it’s never a good idea to fake a disability. Be ware to lose the trust of another lie detector person… I door slammed her.
I'm still trying to convince myself that I'm not an INFJ but so of these videos make for some compelling evidence. I feel like there's such a small population of that type that I'm probably not an INFJ.
As an INFJ its more like I care to a degree, when it comes to other people opinions, I typically don't care, because most of the time their thought process on how they reached their opinions are very different on how I think of things, so I wind up taking it as a different point of view, rather than take it personal. Constructive criticism is something I don't mind, mostly because I'm aware my thought process can be out the box, and it's good to have someone ground me to reality.
I would say that I only care to a degree as well. I often don't ask for someone's opinion regarding an idea of mine because I really don't care to know it. Opinions are all subjective anyways, so it's not like there's right or wrong.
Hmm.. very interesting topic! Thank you for the suggestion, we'll try to do a little research on the topic and see if we can find enough to go ahead with it! 🙌😊
Do I care what what people think of me? Depends. First of all does person and idea stay within parameters of why I should care? Eg, do I respect the person or group? Do respect the idea or find it valid and in the realm of possibilities.... Etc. Does caring benefit me and my life, or the things or people I care about? I care to analyse whether or not to care... That is definitely an obsession and on overdrive. Lol.
It’s so true about our being able to accept anything someone confesses. No matter how bad something is that someone confesses to me, I am extremely open about understanding their point of view. New information good or bad challenges me to consider yet another point of view. Not that I will bend my beliefs system or values, but that I will consider their particular point of view, or situation with empathy.
Along the lines of #6 "Can handle any truth" - For starters, the truth is never hard to handle, it's lies that I can't wrap my head around, especially coming from an actual friend. That being said, even really big news, good or bad depending on your opinion of this one, like suddenly hearing your wife is pregnant while hanging with a couple friends who themselves are trying to get pregnant, unsuccessfully to this point. (They did end up having a baby less than 1 month after ours, but I digress) Just over having dinner with a couple of friends, who'd been trying to get pregnant for a little while. Randomly asked my wife if she wanted to take a pregnancy test... she did... they come out and tell me the news. At first I think they are joking and had basically no reaction... then they proved it too me and again had the same reaction, basically nothing. My friend's started freaking out and asking why I wasn't reacting, I responded with these exact word with an extremely calm demeanor, "What's there to get freaked out about? Our lives are going to be immensely different in the very near future." They didn't understand what I meant by that, my wife understood though, that's what mattered. In my mind, I wasn't going to freak out positive or negative because there was too much to going on in my head suddenly to consider being emotional at all. From that very instant, I was in my head constantly trying to figure out what we/I needed to do in order for things to work out. I know people always say, "things just seem to work out.", that's never been my life, if I'm not planning it or at very least planning or the unexpected, then things don't actually "work out" and things just go to literal shit. So, at that moment, I knew I had to step up my overall life game and having an emotional outburst in that moment wasn't going to help or change anything.
Oh my goodness Dizzy, you were making lists in you head about what was changing, how you were going to handle those changes, things you needed to buy, doctors appointments that needed to be made. Sorry, we are naturally list makers. Going with the flow without a plan is not in our nature.
@@charlesburbank8602 You basically got what I was doing in my head, except lucky for me, I knew I could let my wife worry about the doctors appointments and stuff that wise, while I focused on exactly what I needed to do to be sure we had the money and time moving forward to raise this kid. This was 3 years ago (kid is 2.5 now) with a 2nd on the way in 3 months. And I'm going through another career industry change right now (which I did at the beginning of my relationship with my wife). One that started in my head in that moment. To be fair, it was in the same general direction I had thought/planned on going in since I was 16 or so (now nearly 40). But in that moment I started actually detailing every little step to really see that path start forming in front of me. The Covid lock-downs set me back 2 years due to not being able to take my real estate license exam during that time. As I completed all classes needed to take the exam just in time for the lock-downs ("things just seem to work out" right?! lol). Have to say, Covid/lock-downs were something I did not foresee obviously.
I’M a INFJ who is a SA survivor. The (nine year old kid that did it) Sexual assault of ANY degree is so unforgivable we should not be so gracious as a society.
I would much like to have a friend or friends who would want to really get to know me and understand me, I've never known this kind of thing. I've never been close to another person
I kinda wish people weren’t so eager to share the disgusting things… and since it usually comes from a known narcissist, it leaves me feeling a bit violated.
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A brave contendant....lol. they'd definitely have to be brave and ready to contend. Lol.
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As an INFJ, I’m teaching those around me specially at work, that I’m always listening… I can be looking for an email, or doodling on a notes pad , but the fact that I’m not making eye contact, does not mean I am not listening and or processing every word thats been said Even if it is not directed at me.
It's the worst when they passing hints or hiding something in their words. You're not looking at them but you know somethings up even if it's not directed at you or anyone in specific. I over analyze everything and always think there is more to read between the lines and sometimes I just feel like somethings up like my own little spider sense.
YES! Great example.. in fact when I keep my hands busy sometimes I can tune in on a deeper level.
I'm an ENFP and my sister is an INFJ. I totally get what you mean by always listening.
Just don't let coworkers take advantage of your internal work commitment. Especially, as these times of people without even the concept of a work commitment.
I just tell people I listen with my ears not my eyes.
#7 is a massive understatement! Anyone else ever catch themselves thinking about how they think they think too much?
Lol touché my friend.. I can surely relate 😅
How DO thoughts THINK themselves...!!!?
Thinking is what we do, and I'm proud of it. Before knowing anything about personality types when I was 17yo, I was thinking about what I wanted my life to be like when I became 25, and then 35, every 10 years I thought about. Do you have any idea how many people go through life like dead wood floating down stream? Not me thank you very much.
So true! :)
@@blktester you too huh? So tell me, did any of your predictive thoughts become reality or even close to it or like myself, did life throw you a few unexpected curve balls only to send you back to the bench to wait out another inning? I don't know why I use sports analogies considering the fact that I could care less about professional sports(I hope their ball goes flat, lol). And as for the driftwood reference you made, I tend to laugh when people say they just go with the flow because one of my favorite sayings is "only dead fish go with the flow". Anyways, I'll quit rambling now. 😁✌️
1: Genuinely good people
2: Have inventive & positive ideas
3: Not into mainstream
4: Care about what others think
5: Always looking to improve
6: Can handle negativity & tragedy
7: Always thinking/contemplating
8: Don't need to be interested to be interested
***Traits of the INFJ type***
TY for the shortcut. Blessings to you.
🇧🇩Tq fr helping😇
😂😂100% so f in true!!!
Let's add, others think we are liars. We are some of the most honest to a fault types you will ever meet. I suspect a dishonest person assumes you are also? Idk. 😶
Yes! It took me some time to be comfortable in my own skin & fully embrace my intuition. I reflect back to people their own idiosyncrasies..in other words their lies..their jealousies..any negative emotions geared towards me from them..& they see that in myself or they do not like being mirrored back with their BS. Hence unless someone is true blue we do not remain friends for too long...either they start moving away from me or as what's happened as of late I went complete no contact with 90% of the so called friends I had. It took a Lil courage on my part but so worth it...toxic people will eventually drag you down over time.
Ye old projection theory, 🤣 but it’s true.
We actually get in trouble for telling the truth , throw acquarian in its a double wammy...😯...I don't think 'OUTSIDE' box...I got RID OF IT..🤪
Great point.. spot on. 👏
@@nicky9148 Yes it's best to avoid toxic people at all cost. I did the same thing, removed all toxics from my life and even some good people because it would require me to consort with toxics. Seems one of the problems is 90% of regular non toxic people buy into malicious schemes and slander. We are usually the targets. I think the main reason we are targeted is because we connect so well with others and are naturally loved to such an extend, that when we rightfully vent at a wrong, we hurt people far more than other possibly could. This is because hatred and love are connected. The more you love someone the greater the injury. Same with us, since we love deeper, we get hurt deeper.
I can handle bad news really well, and people are normally confused as to why I show so little emotion. But I don’t mind; it doesn’t bother me. However, I react the same to good news. So if my mom gives me good news, like surprise tickets to a string quartet I really wanted to go to, it’s hard for me to act excited. My happy reaction feels forced even though I’m extremely happy on the inside. I’m just and quiet with how I react to things, so when people expect an outburst of me smiling and saying “yayy” or something, they are always confused when I just smile and am quiet. The good thing is though, that my mom is also and INFJ, so when I don’t have big reactions like that, it’s like she can read my mind. She knows I’m happy and I just wish I could find it easier to explain to other people why I react the way I do.
I thought that part of me was broken and am so glad to know that I am not the only person to do this.
What I find upsetting is that it's taken me so long to hear these - I've been misunderstand and criticised all my life. People have always considered me "weird". These podcasts have entered my life as a life raft and have made many things confirmed. Thank you.
they purposely treat you like bronze, and silver when you’re actually gold. its covert abuse and downplaying your very existence, skills, abilities, uniqueness they dont want you to know your true value. they are narrow minded jealous haters.
I wear "WEIRD" as a badge niw.
Pretty accurate with one exception, I've never cared very much what others (i.e the general public) thinks about me. But those in my inner circle are in my inner circle because they appreciate me for being me. Yes people watch me and try to draw conclusions and they're always wrong. I find it's better to be under estimated rather than over estimated.
I echo those sentiments
Same here, I dont agree with that point at all at least for sigma infj’s
I've denied, at least to myself that I don't worry about what other people think of me, but I know I have purposely played down my intelligence my whole life. Also, I've tried to be less analytical around most people and especially within a social setting. If you have done any of these things, you've adapted to the others around you - a form of concern about what people think of you.
@@gailnichols1284 I don't and never have. It's one reason most people keep their distance from me. I have a disdain for phony or pretentious people and I tend to stay away from them. But occassionally one such person will, for whatever reason, decide he/she wants to engage with me. Then they will say something and my response will shut them down. Then they tend to keep a distance from me. The very thing I wanted in the first place.
i can feel their shallow judgment’s lol
I've heard numerous times throughout my life "I've never met someone like you," and I didn't know what that really meant. But now in the context of personality types, it makes a lot of sense. ☺️
I've also heard many times that someone's pet has never been so comfortable as quickly as they have been with me. Like "Fifi doesn't like strangers," and then 15 minutes later, Fifi is asleep on my lap and they're shocked.
I've gotten that expression many times.
Ditto.@@js9430
I can relate to all of these, especially number 6. I’ll have just experienced something heartbreaking or received shocking news, and rather than crying or showing anger or pain, I’ll just become more nurturing towards others and try to help others and comfort them. As for the source of distress or the person who hurt me, I act like they no longer exist while I’m dealing with the emotional fallout.
Yes those raging narcissist. I just pray for them, but at a great distance. I hope you do the same.
@@l0I0I0I0 yes I do pray for them. It took me a long time to get away from a narcissist in the distant past, but I’ll never get that close to one again.
@@Ms_StoryDragon You don't have to get close. They will chase you down. Lol
@@l0I0I0I0 that’s a scary thought lol I guess I better prepare myself.
@@Ms_StoryDragon Yes I avoid them like the plague but they still find me. There's a vid that may help. I'll see if I can find it.
I’m an INFJ and I have a massive habit to go into thought when I’m bored and I go so into thought my sight blurs and eve sound either increases or decreases to the point I can’t hear people talk but I am aware of where people are
Yup.. INFJ disconnection is real. 😅
When people call me a day dreamer, they have no idea. I don’t just dream, I live out entire lifetimes in my head lol
@@HazaHyperion me to!!! Its so much fun!
@@elzanefeyt1223 You know how others imagine little stick men running beside them when in the car? Well we imagine entire lore and backstories for the character lmao
@@HazaHyperion YOU HAVE NO IDEA..... oh wait...... you have 😁
Other people opinions about me does not affect the way I percieve myself. It affects what I think about how others see me.
I realize that I definitely do not care what others think of me. As an INFJ it’s easy as you age. I find most people jealous, insecure, spineless, and evil. Don’t get me wrong, I help as everyone calls on me and then I run. You only hear from these people when they need something. You cannot fix them.
Lol.
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I totally agree with your observations about the aging INFJ … We tend to become sigma INFJ’s which I love being at this time of my life. It’s pure freedom 😇🤣
Yes. Jealous, insecure, spineless and evil. Totally agree.
yep. my whole life is a war with these idiots
As an INFJ-T Its hard admitting things and I am really sensitive by my self and act serious around others, but when by my self I do cry…
Don’t worry bro, I get that too (also INFJ-T), sometimes it’s best to let it out tho so don’t fight it or worry about it
Same here 🙋🏼♀️
I do too, we love you, I, as a short stature woman feel that others take advantage of me as I feel that they think because of my shorter size, I'm the "wall of least resistance" when it comes to some people's emotional and mental on slaught, I get that, everyone has a bad day but, it gets to a point of ridiculousness, and all want to do is run and escape to reboot to my level of balence, I get so oversaturated, then I feel like weakling for feeling this way- I hate no one- all I want is for everyone to be to be happy
@@ashleypihlcrantz9836 i relate to that, I am a short man and its soooo annoying like when ever i talk to people they treat me like a baby and i get bullied or made fun of it every day like 20 times in a row that’s okay but like 50-100 times it just gets annoying af
INFJ turbulent here. I cry, like a LOT. Sad songs, deaths in books, anime, you name it. It all makes me cry probably more than the average person.
While I do care about what people think about me, I try not to dwell on it. It can be extremely painful and stressful when I do. So I must detach mentally as soon as I can. Putting up barriers to block energy. INFJ/5
Yes.. sometimes I think that's all we can do. 😅
Not long ago I accidentally showed my thoughts to a coworker. And on that particular subject it was kind of dark but deep at the same time. It really caught him off guard. Lol
Lol you can try and gauge how someone may react, but in the end, nobody expects the depth and darkness that the INFJ's mind can travel to.. Been there, done that 😅
Not to be an asshole best advise I received from a good boss, was don’t ever trust your coworkers, treat them as acquaintances not friends, his words have protected me from senseless drama.
Unfortunately they don't understand.
This! I wrote a prompt for an AI persona called the "Dark Comic Sage". It's instructions are to use dark humor to shed light on uncomfortable truths. I fed the AA Daily Reflection to my bot and showed the guy sitting next to me. His jaw dropped, he choked a little, then he just kept saying "Yep. Yep." Then he said "im gonna go sit over there". and left. I said "WHAT? YOU BASTARD!" He laughed, but i was only half kidding. I thought he was edgy enough to handle it, but i realized later in hindsight that he was only pretending to be edgy. I guess an INFJ in AA who's into AI, dark humor and truth is too unsettling for people. I sure would have liked to see his eyes behind the dark sunglasses he's always wearing. Even indoors! 😂❤
We're outside the box thinkers because we think that in the box thoughts are already taken as read, so we see what alternatives there are.
1. Although, I'm generally quiet, some people are shocked to know that I'm a total introvert that can burrow myself in the house for a shocking period of time. 2. That I can talk a lot sometimes/rarely 3. Also, any information about me since a lot of people find me quite mysterious, like they want to know my hobbies, my interests, what I do, what am I thinking, the simplest of stuff. 4. And yeah, that I'm funny and kind of crazy based on my views, opinions and actions like it doesn't match my looks or outward behavior because they see me as silent and serious.
I actually liked to talk as a child. It drove people away. So I shut myself off from it. As a healing adult in progress, I find myself wanting to talk more again, and it still drives people away. I guess an INFJ in AA who is into AI, metaphysics and juxtaposing seemingly unrelated things scares away the normies, and those who wish they were.
@@endocrinejunky I guess we just have to find our tribe, people who share the same interests. But it also means we have to go out there, look for like-minded people or people who are fascinated by what we say and do.
We are honest people... too honest ... we will bend over to help any person ...
Out of the box for sure ....so accurate ... thank you so much ..
Absolutely correct.. thank you for the kind feedback, my friend! 🙏
I am an INFJ-A I used to be an approval addict I use to change my self for others but now I still care how people see me but I don't let it dictate who I am and how I see myself.
I am old enough and secure enough not to give a shit about what people think of me.I gained confidence over the years and know how people really are.I let them deal with their own issues so i can get on with my own.Helping others dosnt always have a positive outcome.Sometimes you get screwed.
I'm often surounded by Me Me Me's to self centered to notice much about anyone and communicate mostly when they want something.
wow extremely spot on from start to finish, positives and negatives of each one. Great video, can't express how great this video made me feel throughout. Thank you!
I’m an INFJ, but I am definitely not a private person when it comes to sharing about my life experiences and struggles. If I feel comfortable in my environment, I can even share my whole life story with a stranger, if I feel like it can help them. This is a part of the INFJ profile that I don’t fit (along with the acting serious thing). This may be due to having ADHD, along with my faith, working with children, and other life experiences.
I am an INFJ and feel exactly the same 😊! It's really easy for me to talk to anyone, actually easier and sort of more pleasant to talk to random strangers (it's not like I do it a lot, just sometimes it happens), I would even share more with them than with people I know, but are not the closest people to me, with them I can be reserved. But if I see someone not feeling well, I wil share anything, if that information makes someone feel better - like you said. I also don't act serious, mostly I act kind of goofy and harmless, many times I act like I'm not as smart as I am (I guess to have others continue to feel good about themselves). I think most people would say I'm serious, just because I like staying by myself, don't group immediately and only laugh at smart jokes. I do try to act serious in professional environments and actively try to appear calm, composed and like I know exactly what I'm doing with no doubt in my mind - which is never true, but people don't see through.
(I don't have ADHD, but have had many, also hard life experience)
Im an INFJ too though I did that in the past and now I rather stay reserved due to way too many people breaking this bound of trust and invading my boundaries
I have ADD and Autism I feel you
Yep. Especially faith, which can get in the way.
I have a bad habit of replaying things in my head that happened in the past, how to better approach a situation if I care about the person to an extent that it's overwhelmingly uncomfortable. How I watch movies and become so critical if the main protagonist does something completely immoral or over the top to make a point if it involves hurting innocent people to get to the "bad guy" same goes for video games.
Oof same here as a Gamer i could dwell on if it was confrontational
This explains why people say to me. "You are actually a really nice guy." I am sometimes caught off guard by that. Other times I jokingly reply "That's because you haven't given me a reason not to be." I usually get a chuckle out them.
I love hearing 'welcome back psycho.' I feel super intimidating now 😂😂😂
As an INFJ I have been characterized as both smart and mean. I don’t think of myself as mean but have been told that by a few people…is this the case for other INFJ’s?
Yes. I would say that the people calling you "mean" are only doing so in defense of their ego. I find as a self-aware person, I notice character flaws about others that they might not because of low self-awareness and so of course become offended if I call attention to it. This is unfortunate because I would only ever say something because I believe it would benefit the other and I deeply crave that kind of open honesty
The truth sometimes sounds mean. In my country people are not very good at sugarcoating things, so I usually am seen like "brutaly honest" not "mean".
remember - there is no insult like the truth !!!
infj's have to pray 1st - when talking to others about ANY truth , on any subject.... or we will be pegged as mean
life is tough, and infj's face it like no others
I have been called "stuck up" because I don't jump into the on-going social scrum that is the norm. Often there is nothing that I can think of to say or find any desire to participate in what seems all but incomprehensible. I wonder what it would be like to engage in a back-and-forth conversation with a whole group of INFJs.
Only my husband has called me mean , lol
I wonder what turns my life may have taken had I learned this in adolescence.
Number 8 is definitely very accurate. I often multi task while completely taking in the information someone is giving to me
You're off the beam with this one, Psych-O.
Over time, people that actually that know us.. think that were sent from heaven 😂 It's quite funny, but we are that kind & compassionate beings. We tend to not hurt anyone on purpose & are very picky who we surround ourselves with ☺️ we are quite rare
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As a mature INFJ (if you have it together) you'll finally come to the realization you cannot worry about what people think of you because? It's their issues, it's their problem, jealousy, intimidation, they think inside the box..
INFJs think outside the box👈..
I'm not quite there yet
these idiots really make this reality harder than it needs to be. i pity these fools for the most part
On point, INFJ from Oregon
Awesome - thank you for watching!!
Hello fellow INFJ Oregonian 👋
@@stacyelaine5799 why hello there
Super accurate.
Thank you for the feedback, my friend! 🙏
On spot. Thank you 😊
You’re welcome, thank YOU for watching 😊
It's not a question for me of whether people realize it or not; they actually have to realize another thing or it won't work.
If we're truly the rarest type, then we don't send messages to people passive aggressively or intentionally give someone the silent treatment to punish them. You can't use the template that works for other people. If I haven't said it, don't assume it.
Exactly
If someone ever publishes a book called "The Collective Wisdom of the INFJs" then "If I haven't said it, don't assume it," will feature prominently.
AWESOME TAKE ON THE SUBJECT !
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING ❤
As an infj it's painful because the people in my family don't give a shit and I care to much so I just keep quiet no one wants to know how I feel anyway as long as I give and give, so that's what I do.
So, we're mostly cats. Got it.
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I saw that comment sssoooo many times that i am in doubt you are or you even know an INFJ.
😹 Best comment ever! Is this why I (turbulent INFJ) love cats like they're my children? In fact, I get along better with cats than people.
Ivaylo is calling you out. I’m gathering that he thinks your cat joke wasn’t original enough to come from the mind of an INFJ. I thought it was funny.I think he’s barking up the wrong tree….
@@ivaylotsankov7292 even if CougarW is or isn’t it’s not up to us to be gatekeepers
I decided to hit the like button even though this video misleads the viewer at the beginning with a sprinkle of confusion when it says "10 Things Everyone Eventually Realizes About The INFJ". But of course the information is still good none the less, even though I was disappointed that there was not an extra 2 bonus realizations at the end of the video lol.
Lol we apologize, slight script-writing error 😅
It's rare, but it happen sometimes.
_They're genuinely good people. Honest, non judgemental._Because we are all differents and uniques, so we can't compare. Be negative and judge is a waste of time and energy, don't neglect this most valuables ressources.
_They actually have some pretty good ideas, think outside the box._Always, be unique, be original, be different. Look for the most efficient things, which will take less time and energy as possible.
_They don't get caught up in mainstream interests. Independance individuality._We are all different, most of people still didn't understand this.
_They care what people think._Yes and nerver forget what people have done, or said. Whereas people easily forget me, forget that I am exist :(
_They're always looking to better themselves. Continuous self improvement._There is always something to do, to learn, to improve, to think, never bored.
_They can handle any truth._Because we know the truth, so tell it
_They think a lot._Really a lot, think to all causes, consequences, futures possibles best & worst scenarios. Mind is constantly moving in the Space/Time, between past and future, and not often in the present. Oh you still think of it ? Yes I never forget what happenned 1, 5, 10,.. 30 years ago.
_They don't need to seem interested to be interested._Because interest by all the things, there is always something to learn from anyone, or a knowledge. All little information is precious to feed my knowledge, add a new dot, to our Ni dominant system/brain.
I think we are ideas and advices machines, because everything is connected.
Because Ni dominant : We want only the positive/good, truth, usefull : things/people/words...
Natural philosophers & psychologists.
🙌👏 Thank you for this! We love the honest feedback
Generally speaking, INFJs are more likely to care about what people think of them on a moral and ethical level rsther than things like how we look or come across, or measurable accomplishments etc, which feel superficial to us.
It probably applies mostly to the people closer to us, as paying too much attention to 'everyone and everything' is much too draining with our function stack. Which in part is why we have smaller social circles, and can seem (and actually be) very disinterested in most people or having a certain disconnect to society, despite our empathetic, social and curious nature.
The same applies to having a very down to earth reaction to certain dramatic events in the news for example, that other types feel much stronger about and might make us seem cold and heartless at times.
We care deeply or we don't care at all, anything in between takes up too much energy that's clearly not going anywhere good. Caring too much about what happened to hundreds of people during an earthquake for example simply isn't feasible for that reason.
It's not the same for everyone, of course. But speaking for myself it's not so much actively caring about it or doing anything in particular to raise people's perception of me, as being extremely offended/hurt/whatever when people you consider close, that SHOULD know better in my opinion speak badly about me or treat me in a disrespectful manner that I feel goes against everything I stand for.
But in the end, when that happens, it will probably result in sticking to my guns and letting go of whoever treats me that way.
I do think there's some level of performance anxiety with many INFJs that's caused by our perfectionism, introversion and guardedness. We're used to figuring things out on our own by ourselves, and when we're forced to do it under prying eyes, I think we can get uncomfortable.
Even though we tend to be not only quick learners, but also tend to have a knack for being able to intuitively 'do things right' pretty much straight away through only minor observation, for whatever reason we just feel we owe it to ourselves to do everything perfect from the get go with no room for mistakes.
As an INFJ... i can handle tragedy and negativiti... but... BUT... i live my whole life trying to avoid this things... so much so that this seems wrong to be placed here as an INFJ trait 🤣🤣 ....
But really... when tragedy happn, and i had one (my house was on fire) i was the calm one and i handle my whole familiy through it... till this day they think it was heroic what i did back than...
everything here is always so true, especially found out no3 is not just me lol. But just seeing so many INFJs here, relating to the same stuff, its so relieving, comforting even. I hope I find an INFJ in real life too.hehe.
I feel the same way!
What people eventually realise about me as a INFJ is that I'm always busy something new, and it never stops.
Why are we so complicated? Why do I only feel good when people around me is happy and when they are angry or arguing I feel out of my zone, it’s not even my fault but I feel angered and hurt by it too. like I was the one who was involved in that argument or feeling responsible because in most situations it’s very clear to see who’s wrong and right, but I just don’t have it in me to let the other know. Why is people’s feelings affecting me?
But aside from that I think people notices the fact that I can put things into perspective, my advice is direct like I’m straightforward. I am very resilient.
It isn't easy being an empath, my friend.. without certain boundaries other people's feelings can take a serious toll, especially if you avoid speaking your mind. But yes, if it's to help another, it seems much easier 😓
It's because there is no off button you feel people's energy and feelings. We can't turn it off. It drains us. Guard your energy. Yes boundaries are important.
It has to do with 'neurons'.
You're neurons are sensitive enough to detect external emotional energy, and it responds accordingly.
It is not a curse. You have SHARP-SENSES! REFINE THEM and TRUST THEM! Know that your senses are more accurate than most!
Lastly, study 'narcissitic personality disorder' (cluster-B), and 'codependents'; these are the source of all evil!!!
Narcissits are demons-in-human clothing, learn about gaslighting, and how they destroy humanity (they are also the opposite of the concept of 'humanity', they embody evil)!
And codependents are weak-minded, and EXTREMELY SELF-CENTERED! are potential Judas-Iscariot, spinless traitors to the Greater-good! Unless they grow out of it, they are infact evil, and will only enable narcissits and continue to empower them in society, e.g. E. musk, and other cult leaders!
@@Human_01 narcissists and codependents are flawed, yes, but it's important to realize that people are this way because they are in pain too. If they are genuinely trying to recover, they are every bit deserving as anyone else to receive some compassion.
Yes but most people only appreciate when it suits them, so I have learned too detach with Love for myself because off that. And that’s so so hard for a INFJ but I don’t want too die by the hand off there toxins 🤭and before anyone considers my opinion I am a stroke survivor . 😐
As an INFJ, I really do care about what other people think about me. But none of my friend seems to understand. Although I understand that they don't understand me, no one ever does.
My trailer home burned down 2 years ago. I didn’t cry, but my macho neighbor across the street did. He didn't understand how i could be so stoic about it. I on the other hand was relieved to be free if it and knew i would be alright. God was in my corner. 2 days later I had a new room with a couple of nice ladies that treat me like family, (not always a good thing 😅) at the same rent as before .
I'm trying to teach people what an INFJ is so that future INFJs dont have to struggle with being misunderstood
The "I have no idea what you're talkin' about" made me laugh so much ... above all for the "soccer" part, as I am Italian and I should be "supposed to know"! 😆 Everything on the video resonated with me. Re: to the last question is: people realized that if I am in a group, say a party with more than 4 people or a public event (above all if with interactions) I tend to turn myself off after 1h or so, and it is not because I don't like the event or the people... "I"s: you know what I'm talkin'g about... "E" types really find it real hard to understand it.
I remind myself it is okay to be selfish sometimes and make myself # 1 sometimes. You have to take care of yourself, if you want to take of someone else.
As an INFJa others have mixed feelings some for lack of understanding,I'm perceived as a savior as well as a threat as people fear the unknown
Someone told me one time that i think about myself when im CSR all i do is come in and work and talk to people.
Thank you.
Thank you for the visit 🙌
Others always underestimate INFJ’s power of number 6 😝
This is too good to be true...
Aren't there any things about Infj's people get upset with?
My colleage at work told me I talk a lot what's pretty draining to him sometimes, but at least I do my work. He often told me "you'll make it anyway" (good work)
What is your experience about this as an Infj?
People just see me as too much like hard work (which I wouldn't deny). They don't realise that if they put the work in they'd be amply rewarded!
People think we have it all together, and we're just being cold, but we truly cannot tolerate external stimuli for very long especially people. They get upset with us when they find out too late that we're more than just cold and boring, as if we're trying to be fake at first and they can't trust us
Edit: @Val, you're so right ^ people think I'm wayy too intense, boldface and somewhat controlling based on if our energy is so prominent in the room
I'm quite dull. Then I'll throw in a surprise. 😉😊
Haha yup! Always expect the unexpected from the cool and calm INFJ 😌
locked the keys in the car this morning ? I can get them for you 🙂 . so true .
thankyou
Haha yes! Thank you for stopping by, my friend! 😊
Right, I carry a lockout kit in my truck just for that purpose, as well as a threaded eye bolt that's made to screw into car bumpers that accept them (threaded insert behind small removable tab in front and rear bumpers) to serve as a pulling point as to not have to tie off to a control arm or subframe which then deforms bumper cover when rope/cable/chain is taught. I guess what I'm getting at is the fact that we will treat your items with even better care than you show them yourselves. Something like that, anyways I'll quit rambling now. 😑✌️
@@bobhadababy6970 always ready to help but never ready to receive it
Hahahahahahaha You forgot the most important one. Actually two. We are a complete powder keg of emotions, and we can become very self destructive.
Lol touché.. but usually you have to be pretty important to an INFJ to expose those 2 aspects 😅
I am an INFJ-A and my sister is an INFJ -T. Although we can relate to everything in this video. There is a different level of "affinity" if you go point for point...
Great video..keep up the great content..thanks
Thank you for the words of encouragement, my friend - we're so glad you enjoy 🙏
I cant tell if im a good person or not. I want to do the right thing always, but this harsh world is starting to make me feel cold.
Careful, that’s how the depression we’re prone to sets in. I find it’s helpful not a cure but helpful to look into possible reasons why the world is harsh.
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I can relate to that statement! It seems to me that most people are out for themselves and dont give a rats ass about anything or anyone else anymore.Why should i help a person who is going to stab me in the back and treat me as if i were just another piece of shit they stumbled upon?!I think i will do my own thing and try to live the best life i can without people giving me more trouble than i already have!
helpful video.!!! thx.!!!
Highly accurate
I tell people I have ADD as an excuse for "blanking out". Now I learn this is a characteristic of the INFJ! My failure to listen to everything my husband says breaks my heart. He is such a good husband. What can I do to stop doing this?
schedule a structured block of time each week to have your discussions
I actually am diagnosed with ADD and autism. Also an INFJ though perhaps avoid giving excuses of having this disability if you don’t have it because another infj or someone could sought out if it’s a lie or not. I have encountered someone who was faking having ADHD. I remember the way she was acting was nothing like any ADHD student that is actually diagnosed acts. Because in my youth I was surrounded by kids who were diagnosed with ADHD, ADD, Austism and Autistic Spectrum, etc. it’s never a good idea to fake a disability. Be ware to lose the trust of another lie detector person… I door slammed her.
I'm still trying to convince myself that I'm not an INFJ but so of these videos make for some compelling evidence. I feel like there's such a small population of that type that I'm probably not an INFJ.
I have taken this test hundreds of time, I even tried to answer differently. Nothing works.
Get over it John but don’t tell anyone that you are a INFJ and you’ll be grand 😂
I just overthink I guess. It takes me forever to make a decision and then I research it to death. Lol
Read and study about cognitive functions, figure out your stack and you'll get your one and only type.
I'm currently doing this too.
Took the tests twice..different sites and still came out INFJ-T
This was REALLY good 👍
Thank you so much! 🙌
#2 I'm going to be honest. I didn't really know that people think of us a "dull" initially.
As an INFJ its more like I care to a degree, when it comes to other people opinions, I typically don't care, because most of the time their thought process on how they reached their opinions are very different on how I think of things, so I wind up taking it as a different point of view, rather than take it personal. Constructive criticism is something I don't mind, mostly because I'm aware my thought process can be out the box, and it's good to have someone ground me to reality.
I would say that I only care to a degree as well. I often don't ask for someone's opinion regarding an idea of mine because I really don't care to know it. Opinions are all subjective anyways, so it's not like there's right or wrong.
It depends on who it is as to how much I care what they think
As an infj I'm more introverted but can be extroverted
people usually think that I don't react but when they get to know me they realize that one of the most dramatic person ;)
this is me ,totally
Our willpower and ability to see low moral and ways of boosting it. Reminding others of their strengths.
I wish you would do a video about INFJ's with Asbergers or something like it.
Hmm.. very interesting topic! Thank you for the suggestion, we'll try to do a little research on the topic and see if we can find enough to go ahead with it! 🙌😊
I never knew my poker face was a trait!
As an INFJ… this is just “smart people” astrology
The way those I love view me is VERY important to me❤!
Great video. I love this rrear personally.This is 90% me and lI love me. Thanks for letting me know more about me.
Right on! You're very welcome, thank you for stopping by! 🙏
The handling any truth one is so true.
Well, being an INFJ is a double edged sword.
Do I care what what people think of me?
Depends.
First of all does person and idea stay within parameters of why I should care?
Eg, do I respect the person or group? Do respect the idea or find it valid and in the realm of possibilities.... Etc.
Does caring benefit me and my life, or the things or people I care about?
I care to analyse whether or not to care... That is definitely an obsession and on overdrive. Lol.
We teach people not to judge others
... wow, Ty
It’s so true about our being able to accept anything someone confesses. No matter how bad something is that someone confesses to me, I am extremely open about understanding their point of view. New information good or bad challenges me to consider yet another point of view. Not that I will bend my beliefs system or values, but that I will consider their particular point of view, or situation with empathy.
That last one is usually accompanied by a small laugh and then asking whether they still need help getting them out.
Huh this video pretty much summed me up🙃
Along the lines of #6 "Can handle any truth" - For starters, the truth is never hard to handle, it's lies that I can't wrap my head around, especially coming from an actual friend. That being said, even really big news, good or bad depending on your opinion of this one, like suddenly hearing your wife is pregnant while hanging with a couple friends who themselves are trying to get pregnant, unsuccessfully to this point. (They did end up having a baby less than 1 month after ours, but I digress)
Just over having dinner with a couple of friends, who'd been trying to get pregnant for a little while. Randomly asked my wife if she wanted to take a pregnancy test... she did... they come out and tell me the news. At first I think they are joking and had basically no reaction... then they proved it too me and again had the same reaction, basically nothing. My friend's started freaking out and asking why I wasn't reacting, I responded with these exact word with an extremely calm demeanor, "What's there to get freaked out about? Our lives are going to be immensely different in the very near future." They didn't understand what I meant by that, my wife understood though, that's what mattered.
In my mind, I wasn't going to freak out positive or negative because there was too much to going on in my head suddenly to consider being emotional at all. From that very instant, I was in my head constantly trying to figure out what we/I needed to do in order for things to work out. I know people always say, "things just seem to work out.", that's never been my life, if I'm not planning it or at very least planning or the unexpected, then things don't actually "work out" and things just go to literal shit. So, at that moment, I knew I had to step up my overall life game and having an emotional outburst in that moment wasn't going to help or change anything.
Oh my goodness Dizzy, you were making lists in you head about what was changing, how you were going to handle those changes, things you needed to buy, doctors appointments that needed to be made. Sorry, we are naturally list makers. Going with the flow without a plan is not in our nature.
@@charlesburbank8602 You basically got what I was doing in my head, except lucky for me, I knew I could let my wife worry about the doctors appointments and stuff that wise, while I focused on exactly what I needed to do to be sure we had the money and time moving forward to raise this kid.
This was 3 years ago (kid is 2.5 now) with a 2nd on the way in 3 months. And I'm going through another career industry change right now (which I did at the beginning of my relationship with my wife). One that started in my head in that moment. To be fair, it was in the same general direction I had thought/planned on going in since I was 16 or so (now nearly 40). But in that moment I started actually detailing every little step to really see that path start forming in front of me.
The Covid lock-downs set me back 2 years due to not being able to take my real estate license exam during that time. As I completed all classes needed to take the exam just in time for the lock-downs ("things just seem to work out" right?! lol). Have to say, Covid/lock-downs were something I did not foresee obviously.
Omg this is so true. 😳
I’M a INFJ who is a SA survivor. The (nine year old kid that did it) Sexual assault of ANY degree is so unforgivable we should not be so gracious as a society.
Seek Christ my friend! Our Shepherd is calling us!
It’s impossible to lie to me without me knowing it.
number 3! I have no idea what your talking about....lol!
"8 things..", starts the video saying "10 things...", ended the video with 8. Will not loose sleep over it, but still, anyone noticed? :)
Haha we were waiting for this comment.. oops, script-writing error 😆
Hehehe!
@@tysimon not no hehehe here. That was a very disrespectful setup scene. I wanted 10 things and got 8! the betrayal! I'm unsubscribing...
@@derealratos6332 lol yeah
Where are you getting all these stock video footage?
I would much like to have a friend or friends who would want to really get to know me and understand me, I've never known this kind of thing. I've never been close to another person
Very accurate
Thank you! 🙌
Now I know why Drs feel intimidated by me. So I stay away as much as possible. They're humans also and some forgot why they wanted to be a doctor.
Because INFJ does not force themselves onto others or situations, orher people may see them as cold and or stupid.
I kinda wish people weren’t so eager to share the disgusting things… and since it usually comes from a known narcissist, it leaves me feeling a bit violated.