Pretty Privilege Is WORST Than Colorism & Here's Why!
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- Опубліковано 22 гру 2022
- Pretty Privilege Is WORST Than Colorism & Here's Why
Dark Skinned Women, Dark Skinned, Pretty Privilege, Pretty Women, Pretty Woman, Pretty Girls, Black Women, Colorism, Colorist, Darkism, Darkist, Black Beauty, Black Love, Black Marriage, Modern Women, Black Men, Preference, Red Bone, Light Skinned, Body Positive
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Men say they want natural women but be in ig models and bbls women DMs.
Serious relationships and lust are completely different worlds for men.
Pretty privilege is NOT worse than colorism. Colorism is something that affects far more people, amongst all races of people, is applied to both genders, and is in alignment with hundreds of years of white supremacy. You've even said in this video that pretty privilege is not a gatekeeper for finding a man/what men want (men want a natural woman who takes care of themselves and with a good personality). In this video, you've also denounced your thesis by saying colorism can be seen if you choose to move out of your race, and up financial hierarchies; you will see colorism more blatantly. Also, skin color plays a role in how pretty you are- ex: a woman made two dating profiles, one as her dark skin self, and then an altered photo where she lightened her skin-she got way more likes on her lighter picture BECAUSE skin tone plays a role in perceived beauty. Pretty privilege is not worse than colorism, and I think you know that. Sorry.
Right. This fool is delusional.
Wtf lmao! Pale skin has been preferred way before some races have seen white people. BFR!!! Light skin is desired everywhere before people knew yt ppl existed. open s book, dont get ur info on social media tf
Personally I’ve never had issues with online dating. If anything I don’t get enough play from black men and too much play from white men. I’m a dark skin black woman.
clock it!!!!
What she needs to understand is Colorism • Featurism • Texturism.
As a student of psychology and the history of good vs evil between black people and Europeans, I have to include that history to come to an objective understanding and solution to why we're so dysfunctional in our interactions with each other.
In short, our "choices" in so many components of our lives, has been altered by our traumas and the conditions we find ourselves living under.
Agreed
You right. You can be the lightest skin. But if youre features are off.....nah.
Many black men have done that because of complexions.
I'm glad someone said it
Mixed girls with type 4 hair don’t get as much men as the ones with type 3. It’s like people are upset that you’re mixed with 4c hair it’s weird. I’ve been saying it’s not about it’s about features and hair textures I’ve seen dark skin girls with 3c hair get put on a pedestal over mixed girls with 4c hair
Exactly!
EXACTLY
I get so sick of the shaming for preference. Body Shaming “Actually I like shapely” you hate dark skin women “actually I think Lupita is very beautiful” So you have featurism.
Like holy crap, if you don’t find every black woman attractive then you hate yourself? If you look like George Wallace 👀 then I’m not into that. Sorry not sorry.
LOL. Yeah. And then, /which/ George Wallace?
"featurism" is how ugly women cope.
@@rdkirk3834Either one!!😂
Every race an attractive women, it’s just the dark skin people are being blinded by.
😂😂 damn this is so true!!!!
PRETTY 😍 PRIVILEGE PERIOD! Don’t matter if your dark skin! I think unattractive Dark Skin women blame colorism as the PROBLEM. It has nothing to do with your color being DARK!
This is so right, feauturism and facial features that are seen as pretty is definitely more than being light skinned. A light skin girl could have bigger facial features and more African features and not look as “attractive” as a dark skinned women with a smaller nose and high cheekbones
Small nose and high cheekbones are African features though
This was articulated in a way that is exactly what I've been trying to say for years. The light skin dark skin thing doesn't matter to most of us, its how AGREEABLE she is and yeah if she's pretty.
Well said, I totally agree. I don't know any man of any substance that would not select an attractive black woman because she is darker. It is largely a baseless argument used by women who lack the beauty or qualities that men find desirable. Fit, Feminine, Friendly, Dark and Attractive.... sign me up!
Not true especially in the USA , in the black community here being light skin automatically makes you pretty , idk why y’all stay lying. Until bm are washed up pushing 40 that’s when they become woke and appreciate dark skin women . Typical pick me videos .
@@sandralawson4863 Just because you weren't picked doesn't mean you can discredit what we literally just said.
🙄
False.
Shades in women have mattered for black men.
@@ismarjovannypalaciosmena.1701 Not me
The problem is, too many black people both male and female think its a flex being with someone different than them
You know damn well most black men would choose the light skinned women. Lol
Can’t say I agree with this. I could do a poll might be interesting feedback
@ with all due respect, such a poll would be a waste of your time. You need to look at men’s ACTIONS not just what they say online.
Light skin and light brown skin black men tend to prefer dark skin women. So your statement is false. Most blk men are light brown to brown in skin tone not including men from other countries. So most black men do prefer darkskin women over light skin women. But the blk men who we happen to see in the media tend to be darkskin who happen to date light or white.
Darkskin women tend to focus on dark skin men instead of light skin, and light brown men who prefer them over lighter skin women. And most blk men who prefer lightskin blk women tend to leave them for white or latinas. Just an observation. Dont shoot the messenger.
@@Nekole1 lol light skinned black men are just as coloist as dark skinned men.
@@Nekole1
Dark skin women have wanted to date men of their kind because they are found them attractive.
Having a preference or liking only for dark men does not constitute colorism as well.
Light skin men and brown skin men have been colorist against dark skin women too.
For me this illustrates just how mentally weak some women are….I’m “Short king” and yet we as a group don’t gripe and cry to the world about being short, we accept it and move on. Colorism for Bkack Women is just another excuse in the bag of excuses they use for for not wanting to compete for men. As short king If I want a woman in my life…I have to be sure I can offer more than the average man can. Women don’t understand Darwinism’s basic premise…Survival of the Fittest. If you as a woman don’t compete to survive (I.e. secure a man) you will not survive
Well said.
Beautiful b-roll footage of happy Black Folks... And, you nailed it in terms of what brothers want. Most of us have a wide range of what we are attracted to. My last serious girlfriend was an African girl with short hair and skin more chocolate than mine. We just want a pretty girl who is nice to us.
Right
The large majority of black men don't see their ideal girl as an African dark skin black woman with short hair. I think that's where the honesty needs to come in. If every time you see a black male athlete from track and field, basketball and football and soccer they have a mixed or white woman or mixed latina that already tells you that when they get the money they don't choose African women or majority african descent women ie african american or caribbean.
@@thewordsmith5440 You spoke about the majority of BlkMen then went straight to athletes [which I was too]... BlkWmn didn't compete for my attention, with the girl I mentioned as the sole exception. I wasn't complimented until I encountered other cultures at college.... I'd have to turn down advances of other women to be with BlkWmn. At this point, I quit... They clearly don't want us like that...
omg omg omg. ive been saying this for YEARS. this whole dating issue is NOT a skin tone issue as there are plenty of dark skinned unambiguous women with 4c hair who have pretty privilege. im not saying that colorism and racism dont exist but ive seen more colorism and racism from NON black men than actual black guys, and as a woman, when it comes to seduction and flirting with a guy etc, its moreso about your level of pretty privilege, how to attain more of it, and how to use seduction techniques or dark feminininty to get what you want (such as being flirty, smiling etc.)
Great breakdown sister keep up the good work.
Thank you 😊
How is pretty privilege verified? Word of mouth? Black people are socially, economically and politically at the bottom so what does that mean?
EXACTLY
If you are pretty you are pretty and black ppl are not at the bottom
Nuthing better than a pretty faced darkskinned woman.
A pretty dark woman face to you is a face that approximates the typical pretty white woman face.
🙄🤦🏾♂️
@@ismarjovannypalaciosmena.1701 It's not. I'm speaking with standard blk features.
@@shadowbanned777
The black woman who is in the cover image of this video has features close to features of white women.
@@ismarjovannypalaciosmena.1701 Blk people the are parents of all races... She does not have anyones features.
@@shadowbanned777
That black people are the parents of people of every race is false.
I don't say black woman does have features of the black women but close to them.
Preach!! Just cause you’re lightskin doesn’t mean you’re pretty … I’m calling out Ice Spice she ain’t pretty & she lightskin. Her body is nice tho so that’s an equalizer for her. Moral of the story is if you’re darkskin or lightskin and you know you’re not the prettiest girl, get your ass in the gym & fix your attitude. There’s hope after you do those things!
Ice Spice is very attractive to me, she reminds me of Ella Mai Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But I can agree with the last part the way you take care of yourself and your attitude makes a difference as well 😉
I’m sorry but saying Ice Spice isn’t pretty is insane. You sound like a hater, literally
I agree I don’t think ice spice is pretty facially. Latto is even prettier facially if you ask me
If ice spice was dark skinned with the same features everyone would be saying how stunning and overly gorgeous she is.
Ice Spice is gorgeous I think the few people that don't think she's pretty do so because she has black facial features
Why don't yall think other races are Colorist too? They are just as/ more colorist than Black community but are smart enough not to speak on it.
Look, act, speak, smell, dress feminine and you should be aight.
It's as simple as this lol
Pretty Privilege exists, but so does Beauty Burden - more info on my channel
Black men love the body. Especially the booty. If you have no booty you're at a disadvantage
Black men actually are turning down lupita nyongo.. she had to find a white husband..
Seriously doubt that. She’s probably always wanted a white man and is trying to breed her blackness away just like a lot of dark skin women try and do.
Men want pretty….the colorism crutch is used often by fat, aggressive women, combative women…sadly, black women of the past were far better looking than other women and better looking than black women of today because they were not burdened by a high obesity rate. Women are being combative over poor dating outcomes linked to being overweight women without noting overweight women in all groups have poorer dating outcomes
This is the truth tbh. All 3 of my very dark skinned sisters are happily married because they're good women, gentle, chill, and fit!
Greatest video
Nia Long Is Notttt Dark Skin
There are zero rich men in Hollywood or in sports that are with any woman that looks like Lupita LOL so yes, I'm a dark skinned woman that's attractive and I get a lot of play BUT I know that I would have more options if I were light skinned and that's not debatable.I have also noticed light skinned women and yt women on the same level as me or even that look average getting more attention from men in certain spaces. Yes, I date wealthy men exclusively and I date outside of my race. It's not easy for DSBW that are pretty. I have options definitely but most of the options are options that I don't want. I'm young, attractive, in shape and educated so I will not date down which makes things a lot harder because most BM on my level date out of their race because they hate themselves and yt men prefer their own which is normal so it leaves women like me in peculiar position when it comes to dating.
Who cares no one’s owes you attention or a relationship😂😂😂
@@harlemnights4381 Awwww you are cute, nobody owes anyone anything in life silly goose. have a good one😊 🥰
@@truthspeaker8863 exactly I agree
@@harlemnights4381 Great, Glad we are on the same page now Goodby Tryone, this post wasn't for you :)
@@truthspeaker8863 that’s why the men you’re interested in don’t want you it’s never y’all skin tone it’s y’all mouths. But merry Christmas auntie!😁
Nothing more beautiful than a chocolate brown skin woman that has her natural hair, in good shape, feminine, beautiful, submissive PYT....
Wordlife
Brown Skin Ladies
Simply DOPE
My issue with this comment is that why is it all these demands for dark skin women compared to lighter skin woman? I never hear blk men say that a lightskin woman nor a WW needs to be in shape, and feminine. Tf. There are so many DSBW out here with thos damn qualities. I believe you are a covert colorist. You may be attracted to DSBW but then list all these qualities on what they need to be. Ladies stay away from men like this.
And Im pretty sure your behind is very dark skin.
@@UnfriendlyMariah I am a🌐 international lover with standards and preferences...
You are a jealous feminist!
Angry that you will never be a ♂️ man...
OK, so we are ignoring the celebrities including musicians, actors, and athletes. How many of them are with dark skin pretty women? Lort. So, we are ignoring that you had a former NBA player that totally dragged Lupita for her dark skin color. Colorism is a serious problem when it comes to dating and marriage, specifically if women are trying to "marry up" and in particular circles. However, the reality is that there is truly somebody for everybody and everyone has the right life partner for them, so, there is no reason to feel like you are in competition or that it will not happen for you. It's more about being prepared for when you meet "your person", you have the emotional, mental, and physical balance to engage that person and make a life with that individual. Women need to stop decentering men and being worried about how they think about their value and worth. Your value and worth is not based on other people's opinions of you. Also, women need to stop basing their value solely on the physical including beauty.
of course it's not about color, it's about featurism and texturism ! That's also why Asian Women, even with darker skintones, are more loved by men than black women. But nobody is ready to talk about it !
But misogynoir is real. How can you explain that some asian women with the same facial features than black women can have more dating choices ? I mean let's be honest, it's about misogynoir ! People talk about being ugly or pretty. It's not about that. Like are you saying that there is more pretty girls who happen to be lightskin ? It's weird.
It's like saying there is more pretty girls in non-black communities. This is weird ! Just open your eyes, non-black women will have more choices than a black women (light or dark) or even than a mixed black woman.
Why do bw feel like everyone has to be interested in them romantically. But brag about turning guys down and not accepting engagements😂😂😂
@@harlemnights4381 I'm biracial but idk maybe you can ask the monoracial black women in your family to help you understand
@@justmebeinghonest they dated men that were interested in them they didn’t care who didn’t like them or their skin tone . It’s weird an entitlement.
I think Asian women get lots of play because they have the reputation of being more compliant and submissive. Men find those qualities attractive. American Black women have the Reputation of bad attitudes and I think that’s a bigger factor than texturism
@ The problem with any criticique of attraction is that it is not something a person can control. A person's sexuality is used with the term "orientation" because it governs how you see the world and what you inherently react to. What the issue is however is how attracted a man is to a woman or type of woman determines how much power she has and what type of resources she can extract from him.
They are mad because they want every option.
@Lynn Xo what do you mean by they should be separate? I’m sure I agree with you but want to understand better.
@Lynn Xo ahh I agree. I’m also mixed. Black and Puerto Rican. Black women have told me they don’t want black men because they don’t want dark kids and that I’m light enough to be attractive. Also over 6 foot and make good money so I think I can relate when it comes to being attractive. I think my handsome privilege trumps the colorism i face at least with women.
I have amazing luck with Caribbean black women.. Congrats on getting married. I hope yo Aldo get married hopefully sooner than later.
Y’all speak of us crazy because y’all are broke and miserable. We are more interesting to talk about than y’all for sure.
I agree, I’ve gotten more attention from my coworker who is damn near white in complexion and I’m like 20 shades darker than her. And in the black community I would say her complexion black men would see as ideal but between the both of us they would more so be quick to find me attractive even though Im light brown. So in my opinion I feel like it boils down to the way u look. BUT I do feel like if u are dark skin like very dark you would probably still face colorism even though ur pretty. But generally speaking I don’t think ur color matters.
Great breakdown, this was explained perfectly! I love me some Tika Sumpter that woman is drop dead gorgeous to me, i would choose her any day over someone like tiny from xscape! However you have a light skin woman like Brittany Renner, who are physically attractive, but how she carries herself and her personality make her a complete turnoff!
All Black women have some kind of beauty, regardless of skin color. We come in all different shades, that's the beauty of it. No one is better than the other. Less stop the comparisons ❤️
Ummm no let's stop that
I’m brown skin and my wife is dark skin
Black females have light brown
Wrong wrong wrong
I love my dark skin!
Dark skin & light skin & brown females
Whenever I go to the African clubs I get so much more play. It's unfortunate that the ladies 'preference' is my colonizer features. 🤔 lol
this one does hit at all
Grace Jones was Dark as Night! But she Had Every ACTOR, ENTERTAINER & BILLIONAIRE… Droolin Over Her (Black,White or Arab) 👀 But She Was Stunnin… Not Average At Best 😶🌫️ #ColorismAintReal
A fine woman is a fine woman
@@Eman14128 Skraight 🆙… unlikeable people always searchin for ah Halloween Mask to cover their Foul Personality
Not a good example. GJ was hideous.
Did she?
If colorism isn't real then so isn't racism.
*worse and ngl I disagree. Colorism is much worse, you're literally barred from certain things due to the shade of your skin, and even people who are not considered "pretty" can be affected by colorism. Also, black men will tell you themselves, they usually prefer lightskin/nonblack women (I have no opinions about that bc I'm not attracted to men, not a dig at black men but it's the truth) so let's not lie to ourselves here.
@Mozzarella stick LOL
No it’s not🤦🏾♀️
@@rukaahachi9843 ok
Cluster AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
4:47 wow shes gorgeous!!
Typical pickmeshas videos lol.
And you're a Skipmeisha
😂😂 we got a Bitter Betty y’all 👀😬😂😂😂😂
We possibly have a light skin woman who most likely doesn’t have pretty privilege
Worse? Please fix title.
NO MA’AM !
200 pound women
What does femcel mean?
Females who are loners.
Incels but females who
get no love
@@malarki5 thanks. can you help me understand the term and its origin? Even the term incel (or femcel) doesn't make sense that it means a loner/ out cast. It honest sounds similar to the word stem cell... I'm wondering which academic or sociologist did this mess.
@@iiNgONYaMa the origins of the
community began online about 15
years ago:
'Incel...
a member of an online community of
young men who consider themselves unable to attract women sexually, typically associated with views that are hostile towards women and men who are sexually active'.
@@malarki5 damn. It's a whole community. Wow that's interesting. That's even bigger than I thought. Thanks I'll look into it further. I'm not sure why I never heard about the incel group before.
Colorism is worst. Pretty has privileges and problems. 🌺🪮🪞
No it’s not